I was also forced to start over when I was about 30 years old. Divorced, moved to a new city, started a new job, and went back to school to advance my career into a new position. I am so grateful for and proud of that 30-year-old me. Proud of you too! It’s hard, but worth it!
You're a Rockstar That old job was holding u bk in life They do that You're young n vibrant ur not some old maid....u still got ur whole life ahead of u
Thank you for sharing this! And calligraphy, writing, and design! So lovely. I did it many many years ago. Find myself at another crossroads, and have been forced into this place repeatedly over the past 14 years. First from illness, then abusive relationships, and now literally everything gone for my life once again. Holding on for dear life!
As another 38 year old, I laughed too. I still feel the same, do most of the same things, & honestly pretty much look the same as I did at 25. 15 years from now, I probably won’t be able to say the same thing😂
I started over at 35. I’m 40 now and it’s the best decision I ever made. You can always start over, 40,50,60. Society is going to have their own ideas on how you should live, but it’s your life.
You’re right. think I started over a couple of times in my 30s.. and when I got 40. Almost 42 now and I’m ok! For now lol . But it’s ok to not be ok. Thinking starting over at 30 is stressful only shows how society tells us how we should live and we believe it. Now I see starting over isn’t bad at all. I embrace it now. Once I see something no longer serves me i will start completely over. I’ll even move, sell everything and start over. It’s life so live it. We don’t have to be in the same career for 20 yrs. We are allowed to switch.
What kind of start over are we talking about? I'm 33 and my career has been extremely disappointing and lackluster. I don't feel like I'm growing at all as a person either. Not sure what it means because going back to college to do something else seems backwards to me...
I saw this comment just in time. I’m 34 now, will be 35 in October (2024) and starting over. I have started over many times but it’s so much scarier the older I get even though I have more and more information/experience and confidence when I do. Glad to know things are going great for you ❤
Exactly! You’re not starting over! You are reinventing and discovering who you really are! I’m 48 and have “started over” a few times. Each time I have discovered something truly unique about myself and what I am capable of! Best of luck! ❤
Starting over in my 30's is the BEST thing that ever happened to me. It's never too late to start over. Believe in you and everything else will slowly fall in place. Just remember to keep on believing and self motivating you through the journey. It's not easy, it will be hard, stay motivated.
I just had to start over last year. I got strung out pretty bad on some hard drugs.. Almost died from it & decided that was enough to desist. Facing that fear makes us so much stronger after we conquer it!! Been rebuilding my life for the 3rd time at 32 ever since (my OD was about a month before my 32nd b-day) Went from unemployed addict and Criminal, to full-time manager of a restaurant about 6mo from that. I pay my bills, & take care of my family. I'm glad I got out alive ❤️ and just thankful for the lessons I learned
I’m glad you’re doing much better and that you’re still here on this earth to enjoy your life ❤ you’ve probably conquered one of the hardest things anyone can go through. And I’m glad you had the courage to make the change.
@@umarie909 & @arioctober Thank you all 🥹 it's been a really rough road, but I wouldn't be who I am now if I didn't live thru it. It's great to have the support, even from strangers on the net! Mad props to all of you as well 🎉
23-27 I was an inventory manager. 27-30 I bought and ran a restaurant until Covid hit. 30-32 I went back to school and got my HVAC degree and worked doing that for a year. At 33, I decided to follow my true passion and become a pilot. Almost done with all my certificates, and I'll be hired by an airline by the time I'm 36 in 1-2 years. Go for it!
I saw a post on Twitter that said that when you turn 30, you’ve only been and adult for 12 years. You’re only a preteen in adult years! 30 is still young!
I need this audio to be on constant replay in my head and to come on louder when I find myself missing the past. This is the attitude. Thank you for this!
I am 28 going on 29 and currently at a crossroads. Your short made me cry cause I connected with it so much… wish me luck on my journey, not to start over, but to start. 🍀
Your comment almost made me cry 😢 whatever it is you’re going through at this time? I hope you overcome it and flourish to your best abilities!!!🎉 good luck. I’m also 28 turning 29 in just a couple of months. and have been doing so much thinking and worrying. I guess more now so because I feel like time is just going too fast and I’m getting older and older each year and feel so lost and anxious.
@@umarie909 thank you 💜 and whatever you are going through too, I hope you find some clarity and peace with what your inner self is trying to tell you! I am working through my own thoughts about inching closer to 30 and dealing with anxiety as well! We still have time though! I think the way society is, it puts so much pressure on having everything together by 30. But we are not past generations and we are all really just trying to figure things out as we go I think. Cheers to us finding our path and just figuring things out ✨
Amen. Life is about learning. My mom started to learn French when she was over 40, I started Korean at 38. To whoever says you can't just tell them: Watch me.
This reminded me I should go back to studying languages. I was learning 5 back in July, it was my joy. (Korean, Indonesian, French, Esperanto, Italian). Life has bogged me down since then…I miss that time so much ;-; If you (or anyone here learning the languages I listed) have Duolingo I’d love to follow you on your journey!
@@rm.makes.me.smile_ 5 languages wow that's surely a challenge! I don't have Duolingo as it's not the most practical for Korean but would love to see you continue your journey! PS: RM makes me smile too. Borahae 💜
I really needed to see this 😌 I’m turning 30 this year and lost my job in a career that I was very passionate about, but is very niche and I can’t afford to move to get a job in the same industry. Which means I have to find something else I can do where I am. I just started some certification courses and I’m hoping to find something more stable and with a better work-life balance than my old career.
It’s so funny as a woman in her 40s. Looking at women talking about “starting over” at 30 and 25. When you get into your 40’s you’re gonna realize you didn’t start over. Because you never started yet!!! 30 is just the beginning of life. You think you know everything. You DO feel smarter. And you definitely are smarter than you were in your 20s. But when you hit your 40’s you realize you didn’t know anything in your 30s either. And I’m sure I’ll feel the same way when I hit my 50s about my 40s.😂😂😂
this actually made me feel so much better… i’m 21 and i feel like i’m behind on figuring out my health, mind, friendships, who i am, my life path, just generally everything about life. but you saying “30 is just the beginning of life” really helped me put things in perspective! i’m not even at the start yet!❤❤❤
I laughed so loud because I’m 37 and just getting started! I met the traditional mile markers and realized I spent too much focus on the “achievements” I thought mattered but in reality you never know until you try. The beauty of life is trying til something sticks and then realizing hey that can change too
I was just thinking the same thing. I barely remember when I was 30. I’m almost 42 now and I see whatever I thought mattered didn’t. Couldn’t have bc I don’t even remember 30.. lol. And starting over isn’t even bad. Now I look at it like ok I don’t like this… next! And that’s all. I do like ho this is reminding me of my growth. And you’re right bc my mother 70 tells me things like oh I remember being like that when I was your age 😂
Love! At 29, I finished a UX design course. Turn 30 this month. I too have felt stuck and questioning why I feel unfulfilled. I no longer want to blame myself for it. I've learned that it's okay to start over. You're only getting closer to a better wiser experienced YOU.
“I think too late is what someone decides” is the best thing I’ve ever heard. Quite relatable. I used to work for a job and dedicated my life to it(felt like it but it was only a year and a half). Got fired for no reason actually despite meeting all quotas and going even above with overtime. Fast forward a year from that and now I am self employed. As you say, it’s only up from here. Couldn’t agree more.
I started over at 30 too. Divorced, broke, moved to another state, no job, no hope or wish for a new relationship. It was pretty bleak. Now I’m happier than I’ve ever been, running my own business, happily remarried, and planning on having another child in the next year. Life is crazy because when I started over I never thought I would be happy again let alone be so blessed as I am now. Keep your chin up! Things will get easier every day you continue to focus on yourself and move forward.
Really appreciated reading your story. I'm 32, going through a divorce and bankruptcy (because of my ex), feeling such sadness. Always encouraging to read others stories and seeing them coming out the other side with life being better than they could have imagined. Thank you for sharing ❤
thank you for this. Currently in an AirBNB with my 6,3, and 1 year old . I’m pregnant and looking to start over with a new career, hopefully a home and car soon. Sending prayers up for our future❤
Soon to be 68 here … having Cancer for 40 months has taught me As Long as your Healthy you can start over… Push your brain into positivity.. age is just a Number.. why not live whatever years I have Left Joyfully ❤
Me too at 25, just been recovering from my childhood till now..This year I've been able to start volunteering, and I'm hoping to go to University next year
My mum was scared to go to uni as a 52 year old. She unskilled and now works in education helping children with disabilities. It’s never too late and you’re never too old. I believe in you!!!
I love this!!! This is the first video of yours I’ve come across, and wow what a beautiful message. I’ll remember your point about each of us being that person who decides if we’re too old for things. What a powerful and thoughtful message. Thank you!
I love this I'm 25, been divorced twice because the men were unfaithful, have two babies one with each of the men, just recently got fired, and it's great ! At first I went through a dark night of the soul for a few months especially after my ex and I split up and I got fired from a remote job. But it feels good letting those things go! And letting that version of myself die off. Like an ego death. It fed my ego a lot being with that recent hot guy and working from home bc of the field I was in. But it didn't feed my spirit ! They were both toxic both the man and the environment he wanted me to live in and his family and also his friends weren't good people and were also cheaters and the job wasn't good for me bc I was sitting all the time and wasn't active as much as I am now. It's wonderful how changes help us grow into better people and better our lives , those are blessings in disguise letting things and people and jobs like that go that aren't good for our mental or emotional well being overall
30 is so young!! It’s not late to start over even at 40, 50, 60!! Never too late! Life goes on, seasons change. A new opportunity at every corner!! That’s the beauty of it ✨🙌🏼
As someone who is pushing 60, trust me, 30 is NOT old. At all. Look at it this way. In a traditional career after college, you’ve only worked about 8 years and would still have 30+ to go before you retired. That is plenty of time to start over!! Don’t let the idea that you’re too old stop you from doing what you really want.
Thank you! I turned 30 last weekend. I want to go back to school to study Engineering (I was taking some of the math pre-reqs for it as electives for my first degree I settled for). I think I was insecure and not confident the first time around. I also think I started to believe some of the sexist things about women in STEM- that we can’t do it, and weren’t capable of it. I think I thought I wasn’t smart enough to persevere (I passed college algebra, statistics, and trigonometry with As or Bs, to my surprise). I was scared for calculus, because the higher you go in intellectual rigor, the less and less sense it makes. I don’t think it is super natural to learn. I feel like I can do it now though, for some reason. I feel like I have to, and I have to act quick to challenge myself in this new way. Truth is, I am so scared about it. I did pretty well for myself post college, and it is such a gamble to throw it all away to start over.
@@sageduff4747 Are you happy with your career in engineering? My dad was an engineer, but only got an associates degree. He said he thinks it (especially aerospace) is a young person’s field, because you eventually lose the motivation to stay on top of emerging technologies, teaching yourself new tech, etc. He said it is also harder and harder to learn new things as you age, you are less of a sponge unlike early career people. He feels that college graduates already come out of school by default on top of the latest technologies and tech stacks, and that they typically will provide new ideas and solutions to problems. He felt that at a certain point, there should be an “out” for “older” and experienced engineers to partner with the new, most technically capable engineers to give them industry knowledge, pitfalls, etc. as some kind of engineering mentor, then let the capable early career engineers do the execution work. My dad is only 61, and since you said you are pushing 60, would you agree with this sentiment? I worry about starting over at 30 and the longevity of it.
I love this message and reading everyone's comments. Life feels overwhelming and scary sometimes. Feels like society's expectations are so high, it's constantly aging you before your time, it tells you to have it all figured out before x age.. Regret is also a monster of its own. I know I struggle with all of it. I turned 30 last year and felt like I was going to have a panic attack. Like I was so old already, like I should've had it all figured out by now, had x amount of savings and accomplishments, like it was too late for certain things.. but here I am closing in on 31 and I'm realizing I think my 30s will be the best years yet. I'm still young. I still have the ability to take my life wherever I want it o go. I have accomplished a lot. Things haven't always gone to plan and I still have a lot of struggles, but I'm happy with who I am and what I'm doing. I accept the mistakes I've made. Everything in my life has led me to where I am now. It's all a constant battle, but this is what I tell myself and like to believe.
Hi. Just wanted to say I also felt stuck at 25. I had so many things ahead of me that I was building but nothing was working out and I was experiencing major burn out. I’m almost 30 and am so happy and content with things that it blows my mind to think that at 25 I had no idea what was ahead of me. All the new people I’d meet, friendships I’d build, the new job I have that I had no background in and it wasn’t what I was going to school for, but I enjoy it. You feel stuck now but if you’re patient, it will pass. There’s so much ahead!
25 have been depressing to me as well because you are finally an adult, but at the beginning. You feel the pressure, you are afraid. You think now it's the time to make the decisions that will build the rest of your life, but I tell you a secret: it's not. Live as you please. You can change whenever you want. I'm almost 31, at 28 I came back to school (I quit as a girl because of my health issues), and next year I'll get my diploma. Then? Who can say!
I had the same issue in my early/mid 20s but trust me you have all the time in the world to figure it out. There are no rules, people change up their careers, move to different countries, start a business, get married etc at all ages. There are so many examples of famous authors and artists who didn’t make it until 30s, 40s and beyond. The world is your oyster, just try and enjoy every day as best you can and be open to new experiences! ❤
Yeeesssss I'm 29 and had to start over 2 years ago. Everything I'd worked for to that point seemed to dissolve through my fingers but I also wasn't happy. I'm still not exactly happy, but I am closer to my goals and a lot further ahead mentally than I was before. I'm still growing and getting better, with life, with myself, with my relationships and career. Starting over is terrifying and I was horrifically depressed at the time feeling like I'd worked for nothing, but sometimes it is refreshing and exciting for the new start. Starting fresh enabled me to remove toxic people from my life, I met my life partner and adopted another cat. I have a larger apartment than before I started anew, I travel more and I am currently in the next phase of change applying to new work in graphic design again (after a 2 year break in a different field because of the burn out and trauma from a prior toxic workplace), I'm focusing on my health more after recently having pneumonia and I have a cute new car (even if it's been stressful being without work for 3 weeks from being in hospital). I am a firm believer in that things happen for a reason, and I believe that this change is more of an opportunity for you to expand on things that bring you joy and a healthier and happier path. 😇
Starting over again from zero at 46...after a health issue and left alone,i feel like life is starting again zero, beautiful feeling to be able to look forward again
I’m 29, I’m excited for 30. It’s the prime age of knowing that parties are for losers, WW2 history is relevant, furniture and woodcraft is awesome and making disgruntled noises as a way of feeling disappointed for today’s society. 30!!!
You’ve given me hope, and I’m 26. My father passed away in January, I was supposed to start university in January and I deferred so I could spend time with my dad. But I had to pull out before I even started uni. I don’t feel ready anymore. I want to grovel and idle till I feel comfortable. But society is cruel, I feel old. I feel like I’m starting over too late at 26. After seeing so many comments of people starting over, who are much older than I am, and they’re happy and content, that gives me a sense of peace and relief. This is my story and it will be at my pace. 💜
Lovely video 🖤 I completely changed my life last year and it’s been totally for the best. I was running my own business, extremely stressed and overwhelmed. Then I got diagnosed with autism and realised that my job wasn’t suitable for me but working from home would be. I retrained for a year and now I am a full time product designer, working from home and living a happier, more relaxed life.
Still struggling mentally for 4yrs, tried to get up multiple times but can’t still function well so I let myself rest till now. I now have goals to start over this year and I’m still preparing, hopefully I don’t force myself again like what I did so I don’t disappoint myself again. I’m tired of doing nothing but 4yrs is a big help and hope to heal sooner.
im 31, and my current job will end this month too. this is such a lovely reminder that, i dont have to cling to old crutches and beliefs to lead a fulfilled life ❤✨
Honey... Wait till you are starting over at 48! Breaking up (he gets the house), unemployed, completing a new certification, kid is grown... I'm defining free agent over here! We will be fine!
@@YoungSantasGroupiegood god. Its never enough to just say somethings difficult on the internet, there always has to be someone who says “well you’ve got it easy! What about these poor people??” Let a struggle be a struggle its not a competition
Aw bless, 30 is barely adult. It's a testament to our crazy cult of youth that we feel over before we've even hit 25. Good positive post. Who you are is not dependent upon job title or the roles we play in this world. I'm nearer 50 btw, to give a little context, never had the opportunities mentioned above, only now building a life for myself. Never too late!
I'm starting over from nothing at 40, after leaving a 14 year relationship that was abusive. It's scary, yes, but so rewarding. I just bought my first car brand new, paid in full, and didn't need anyone to help me with it. The sense of pride I have in that accomplishment has inspired me to keep pushing forward and to be full of.love, hope, and more dreams than I could accomplish in this life. But I've never been happier sitting with myself and now trusting my own instincts. We all have the power of resilience in us. We can be inspired at any age and there's still so much more to look forward to.
Kudos to you and your strength and resilience! It’s never too late to be your own best friend and advocate especially after trauma and abuse it doesn’t break us.. it makes you stronger 💜
Your story gives me hope. Been in covertly narcissistic marriage for 19 years. I have no money nowhere to go but i refuse to stay till i die. I WILL FIND A WAY
Wow. Thank you so much for this. I’m also about to soon be 40 and feel like I’ve done nothing with my life. In very similar situation as you. The difference with me is I felt no hope because of how old I feel already. Thank you 😊
Ooof.. I'm 30 and I've finally made up my mind to leave my job of 10 years and wanting to do something that I never dared myself to do so. I wanted to explore art and design too but I didn't have the guts to. Now that i've seen your short, I think it really gives me alot of strength that may be, I can pursue what I want too and it's not too late :)
I started over at 49. I was married 23 years. I spent 22 of it focusing on my military career and when finally retired and stayed home I realized we had NOTHING in common anymore and we were not on the same page. I left him everything. I walked away with my daughter (17 then) and my clothes. I’ll be 54 this year. Deciding to start over was terrifying BUT I’m so much better off now. I’m happy, healthy and my daughter is too. Don’t be afraid of change. Be afraid of not changing. Be kind to yourself. ❤
i find this revolting tbh. MAKE things in common, if you can both put the effort in you can rebuild things from the start. When did the notion that you had to be alike to have a fruitful relationship even begin? Honestly sounds like cowadace and a complete lack of effort from your pov. call him & apologise for ruining the mans life what a joke
@@spaceinvader4565 Not that it’s any of your business, but how revolted do you think I felt when I found out my husband was stealing my pain medication to get high, switched to heroin when I stopped getting it, pawned my valuables and tried to sell my combat medals? Huh? Be revolted by that and quit being a judgmental ass. And do you think I didn’t try? Simplification of a story doesn’t work for simple people I see.
Clearly you left out the single word of "abusive" before the 'ex husband'. I'll retract my judgement but as someone who married young I always see couples around me falling apart due to "differences, compatibility, excitement, bordem" etc when ALL THOSE THINGS can be built upon when both parties show effort. Again, apologies@@SnowWhite717_
When I was 29, I was also laid off. Now at 30, I've gone back to university to pursue my childhood dreams. If you have the privilege to choose a new direction you're called to, please go for it. It's terrifying to start over but I've never felt so excited about my future.
Serious question, did you go to college for the first career? Everyone is talking about starting over but no one is mentioning money.. especially in this economy. But if it’s free, by all means
What did you start with? What are you studying now? I turned 30 last weekend. I want to go back to school to study Engineering (I was taking some of the math pre-reqs for it as electives for my first degree I settled for). I think I was insecure and not confident the first time around. I also think I started to believe some of the sexist things about women in STEM- that we can’t do it, and weren’t capable of it. I think I thought I wasn’t smart enough to persevere (I passed college algebra, statistics, and trigonometry with As or Bs, to my surprise). I was scared for calculus, because the higher you go in intellectual rigor, the less and less sense it makes contextually. I don’t think it is super natural to learn, or we weren’t taught it well as kids. I feel like I can do it now though, for some reason. I feel like I have to, and I have to act quick to challenge myself in this new way. Truth is, I am so scared about it. I did pretty well for myself post college, and it is such a gamble to throw it away to start over.
This really resonated with me. I’m turning 30 soon, quit my job, moving to another country with my bf, but I never felt more free in my life. I feel like I’m just starting to live and can’t wait to see how it’s going from here
My dad lost his job at 45. Started college (again) at 50, and started his second career at 54. Starting over for him was tough, but it gave him the opportunity to do something he enjoyed a lot more.
I started over at 35 - and it was an abysmal failure. So I re-started over at 37. I fell l flat on my face. I stewed in that low point until I was 41 (42 now). I learned from all of the mistakes I made, and hopefully, the third times the charm.
Currently me and also 30. Needed this. Thank you for sharing and giving some hope. 🥹 You’re right about being at a crossroads and choosing our own adventure! Amazing what our mindset can do. Wishing you a great new beginning 💓🫶🏻
Love it! You go girl! Experience and try out what best suits you and warms your soul! 🎉💐 Everything happens for a reason and absolutely everything is figureoutable ( Marie Forleo) so as she says “Don’t seek passion, bring it!” 🤗
I’m 45 and terrified, because my health is forcing me to start over. But I’m also grateful that I get to have such an exciting professional journey in this stage of life. Coming into your truth is warrior work, and requires bravery.
i am also going to start, im 29 and going 30 this june... my life in my 20's are a mess. lack of motivation, no passion, a lot of pressure. but now, I know what path i love to take. thank you for letting me feel that I'm not the only one going to start my life at 30.
20-30 struggling for something great, a lot of misfortune that triggered low feeling, demonisation combined with savings deleted after long unemployment and fewer prospects. Hard to be hopefull
I'm 27 and have had nightmares about the future disappearing out from under me, and wasting my time in careers that wear me out and don't return what I hope for. Thank you for sharing this and reminding me that is NOT true! ❤
you are never too old for change. I decided to finish a BA I started in my early 20s, when I already hit 30. I continued, and will start writing my master thesis this year. why not 😉
Love this. I barely finished my BA at 26 and am starting my master’s program tomorrow. I felt so behind but now I look back and most people don’t even get a master’s… so maybe I’m not so behind after all. The world would be a better place if we weren’t so hard on ourselves, don’t you think? 😋
I’m curious.. how do you guys afford the education at 30+? I could only get funding for 3-4 years of uni, dropped out after the 2nd year.. wrong course for me.. I maybe could get funding for one more year on a different course but after that..? Scholarships? They’re few and far between.. £10k per year of full time study, and money for rent and to survive, where does that come from? Most people I know who work full time live pay-check to pay-check as is, no savings. Who has an extra £100k at 30? ..how do I quit work and go back to uni? (And by funding I mean a student loan)
I lost my job for my 48th birthday, after 28+ years. I had everything planned out and had a plan for the next part but it wasn’t to happen for almost two years. So I had to start all over, and it was a whole new world and it was…and still is scary. But I keep moving forward.
I'm turning 38 this year. This is the year of starting over for me. I'm happy I'm starting a new path before it's impossible to turn around. 14 years seems like a waste.. but 14 years from now.. will I be thankful? Or regretful? If I asked myself that 14 years ago, I'd have the same answer I have right now..🤷. BUT the difference? I have learned so much in these wasted 14 years, that I know how to not eff up the next 14. I REALLY hope, when I'm 52, I will be : alive, thriving, and full of joy!
You know a lot of these reminders are slowly very useful to hear I'm not 30 yet but I'm slowly getting to that point in my life and I feel like having this Head start is very good for me to hear cuz perhaps it may take me a little longer than others to get to that point but I think that I can do it so I thank you for this footage whether you read this overly long message or not if anyone reads this I hope it's a reminder to do your best and keep going
I started undergrad in my 30s and law school immediately after. I honestly loved the change. I felt more in tune with who I really was and what I actually wanted in life.
“And since I’m deciding it’s not too late to start” I like this mindset a lot. I feel like we place too much pressure on our selfs from society and we need to remember that we are going at our own pace
started over at 29~ moved from New York city away from friends and extended family. chose myself and live in LA. I am happy here. Started chiropractic school and will be a doc by 32
Your short came in a moment of life that I am going to start over again and believe it or not, it gave hope and a moment to realize that something good can come
I’m in your same boat. Spend my 20’s and 30’s climbing the healthcare executive ladder. I was at a peak, as a senior executive reporting only to the board and the CEO. Then, within last year, my life changed at 36. My youngest daughter had severe medical issues and I had to drop everything. So today, I’m a stay at home mom, and supporting my husband through his medical career. I don’t know where I go from here but I’m happy to have the privilege to spend more time with my children. We shall see what the future holds because I know I want to do something new with my life.
I also underwent a career pivot when I was exactly 30. Now that I'm 35, another life shift occurred, and I resonate with you in that I also feel like I've lost everything and have to rebuild life from the ashes. But hey - it's the only way to grow! Exciting times.
34 at the same point of having everything I built taken from me and having to start over. I’m not sure what I want or how to do it but I’m glad this video popped up
Same here. At 30 i changed careers and moved to a different country for the first time ever. I've been wanting to do this for years but always thought it was too late to change. Until I realized I will never be younger than what I am right now. This gave me the courage to do it, and so glad I did!
I love to research other countries that have more of a reformative and holistic approach to prison versus more of a strictly punishment approach. I have to admit I have not given them much thought. But it is our responsibility as a society to care for the hurting. So thank you for explaining this law.
Girl you just made me cry. We’re the same age and I’m going through a break up with my job. I just realized yesterday how toxic my job was and I was questioning if I was crazy to feel relieved. I really needed to hear this ❤
Tyvm I needed this more than you know 😢 just had a full mental explosive break down and cried to God "please help me I love my family,animals,friends,and myself but I want to be happy actually happy and enjoying life.I want to find my soul purpose and be excited to wake up everyday" I'm 30 and I still don't exactly know what I want to do but I want it to be purposeful and make me truly happy.
I love how calm you are. Im also 30 and I'm scared that I'll never find my ikigai. We get so stuck in our responsibilities that it becomes frightening to take a plunge into new waters. But I also relate when you say that you can be someone else. I feel like that every day, like i don't belong where i am. And its still driving me to keep aiming for change, even failure after failire. Its never too late!
I'm still stuck on the "losing everything I've built" part. I lost my home, my money, my university, my health, hope, structure, all of it. I have no money, degree, job, friends, and live way out in the woods. I'm trying really hard to start out again but I feel truly broken inside and out. My mindset is so skewed to the negative that I even got angry and jealous when you said you had lost everything but live in that beautiful place, while I've lost everything and live in a small structure built from tin and don't even have clean running water anymore. If anybody reads this and has any advice, please do respond because I'm lost here and struggling to stop crying myself to sleep.
I’m really sorry to hear you are experiencing that. :( I know how hard it feels, but your emotions are okay to have with what you have gone through and please don’t beat yourself up over them. I have been what seemed like it was the depths of hell and made it to the other side; it’s not perfect, but progress is all that matters. It will all pass in time. Is there any kind of support you can lean on for help?
If it was possible wish you could start a UA-cam channel to share your journey and I will definitely subscribe to your channel and watch the ads . I mean you can never know we all broken out here but sometimes seeing someone's journey in survival mode encourages you to stop crying over spilt milk. All the best ❤
I'm 48 and gosh I wish I can start all over in my 30s now. I'd do everything different. Make every moment count.dare to be different and dream big. Don't take life too serious. Otherwise, you would be like me, afraid of everything then, regret everything now.
48 is not too late! I am 44, my husband 50 and we are starting our own thing! You have 20 more years to go until pension or death, so how do you want to spend them?
I'm 22 and afraid of everything after college especially applying for work. Imposter syndrome, career path, dreams, sustainability all everything mix up 😢🥲
This is the real answer. She could fail to do literally anything significant for the rest of her life and be fine. She has a significant other who didnt get laid off and who no doubt makes over 6 figures per year. She's clearly very smart so probably has quite a bit of money saved from her 6 figure salary job she got laid off from. The video is just out of touch with the reality that most people face that they cant afford to "start over".
@@katierasburn9571 you dont seem to understand. I wasnt speaking generally. Obviously you sometimes need to gamble and try to do something else and take that risk. My point is that while her message in the video was perfect, her own situation is wildly different to most people. She didnt get fired from some dead end minimum wage job, she isnt on her last dollar desperate to find another job so she can put food on the table and not get evicted. She is not like the majority of people. She was working at a tech company probably getting overpaid (which is probably why they laid her off). She has a husband who does have a job and probably makes at least as much as she was making. She doesnt come from poverty. She does not have any dependents. She could literally fail upward for the rest of her life and be fine. Her financial security is what is allowing her to try to do something she loves. The majority of people who get laid off from their jobs, dont have the kind of luxury she has of being able to choose to do anything they want, make little to no money along the way and be totally fine. Not to mention she obviously has a monetized YT channel and tiktok.
Needed this. Its frightening for me at every age. Some of us have very volatile lives growing up and the unknown really is TERRIFYING.... In your head. Also dwelling on fear makes it seem so much bigger than it is.
Same here! Closed up my business, got divorced, got into med school and moved to another city! It's going great!! Challenging for sure, but I could never go back
I've experienced this last year. I resigned with my toxic job, took 3 months break and started over again with my current job. Best decision ever. I am lucky because my current job is really so different from my previous one and I got a very good compensation. 😊❤
Hope yall liked this new little short film! Also 100k!?!? WHAT??? SO SUDDEN OMG!!! 🥹🥹🥹
I was also forced to start over when I was about 30 years old. Divorced, moved to a new city, started a new job, and went back to school to advance my career into a new position. I am so grateful for and proud of that 30-year-old me. Proud of you too! It’s hard, but worth it!
Keep going! You got this 🙌🏾
You're a Rockstar
That old job was holding u bk in life
They do that
You're young n vibrant ur not some old maid....u still got ur whole life ahead of u
Thank you for sharing this! And calligraphy, writing, and design! So lovely. I did it many many years ago. Find myself at another crossroads, and have been forced into this place repeatedly over the past 14 years. First from illness, then abusive relationships, and now literally everything gone for my life once again. Holding on for dear life!
EMBRACE THIS PUSH FROM THE UNIVERSE!! 🥲
I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!! 🌻
YAY!! 🤸🏻♀️
YOU CAN DO IT!! 🌱
I just giggled when you said you’re not young at 30 😂 39 here, still young and full of dreams and plans 😊
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As another 38 year old, I laughed too. I still feel the same, do most of the same things, & honestly pretty much look the same as I did at 25. 15 years from now, I probably won’t be able to say the same thing😂
46 with MS and starting again over here. I’ll let you know if it’s too late, I’ve only just begun 😅
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39 here, career transition into tech now.
I started over at 35. I’m 40 now and it’s the best decision I ever made. You can always start over, 40,50,60. Society is going to have their own ideas on how you should live, but it’s your life.
You’re right. think I started over a couple of times in my 30s.. and when I got 40. Almost 42 now and I’m ok! For now lol . But it’s ok to not be ok. Thinking starting over at 30 is stressful only shows how society tells us how we should live and we believe it. Now I see starting over isn’t bad at all. I embrace it now. Once I see something no longer serves me i will start completely over. I’ll even move, sell everything and start over. It’s life so live it. We don’t have to be in the same career for 20 yrs. We are allowed to switch.
What kind of start over are we talking about? I'm 33 and my career has been extremely disappointing and lackluster. I don't feel like I'm growing at all as a person either. Not sure what it means because going back to college to do something else seems backwards to me...
I saw this comment just in time. I’m 34 now, will be 35 in October (2024) and starting over. I have started over many times but it’s so much scarier the older I get even though I have more and more information/experience and confidence when I do. Glad to know things are going great for you ❤
Exactly! You’re not starting over! You are reinventing and discovering who you really are! I’m 48 and have “started over” a few times. Each time I have discovered something truly unique about myself and what I am capable of! Best of luck! ❤
Age is a number, and it's silly to limit yourself based on it
Starting over in my 30's is the BEST thing that ever happened to me. It's never too late to start over. Believe in you and everything else will slowly fall in place. Just remember to keep on believing and self motivating you through the journey. It's not easy, it will be hard, stay motivated.
I just had to start over last year. I got strung out pretty bad on some hard drugs.. Almost died from it & decided that was enough to desist. Facing that fear makes us so much stronger after we conquer it!!
Been rebuilding my life for the 3rd time at 32 ever since (my OD was about a month before my 32nd b-day)
Went from unemployed addict and Criminal, to full-time manager of a restaurant about 6mo from that. I pay my bills, & take care of my family. I'm glad I got out alive ❤️ and just thankful for the lessons I learned
I’m glad you’re doing much better and that you’re still here on this earth to enjoy your life ❤ you’ve probably conquered one of the hardest things anyone can go through. And I’m glad you had the courage to make the change.
Fellow woman in recovery and I am so proud of you 🥹🎉
@@umarie909 & @arioctober Thank you all 🥹 it's been a really rough road, but I wouldn't be who I am now if I didn't live thru it. It's great to have the support, even from strangers on the net! Mad props to all of you as well 🎉
23-27 I was an inventory manager. 27-30 I bought and ran a restaurant until Covid hit. 30-32 I went back to school and got my HVAC degree and worked doing that for a year. At 33, I decided to follow my true passion and become a pilot. Almost done with all my certificates, and I'll be hired by an airline by the time I'm 36 in 1-2 years. Go for it!
Wow it sounds like you’ve lived multiple lives, and how awesome is that?! Congratulations on following your true passion 🎉 It sounds exciting!
I’m proud of you! 🥹
@@jessicavazquez8299It's been a lot of downs but wont give up! Thank you!
@@snowymuffinThank you!!
DUDE you are amazing!!❤❤❤
I saw a post on Twitter that said that when you turn 30, you’ve only been and adult for 12 years. You’re only a preteen in adult years! 30 is still young!
And when you're 70, you only been a pre-teen in pre-teen in pre-teen in pre-teen in adult years
Love your pfp and name 😍
I'm only 13 in adult years I feel young again thank you ❤
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stop deceiving yourselves, 30 is too old
I need this audio to be on constant replay in my head and to come on louder when I find myself missing the past. This is the attitude. Thank you for this!
I am 28 going on 29 and currently at a crossroads. Your short made me cry cause I connected with it so much… wish me luck on my journey, not to start over, but to start. 🍀
Your comment almost made me cry 😢 whatever it is you’re going through at this time? I hope you overcome it and flourish to your best abilities!!!🎉 good luck. I’m also 28 turning 29 in just a couple of months. and have been doing so much thinking and worrying. I guess more now so because I feel like time is just going too fast and I’m getting older and older each year and feel so lost and anxious.
You can do it Ritz. It’s scary, but you got this 🤍
@@umarie909 thank you 💜 and whatever you are going through too, I hope you find some clarity and peace with what your inner self is trying to tell you! I am working through my own thoughts about inching closer to 30 and dealing with anxiety as well! We still have time though! I think the way society is, it puts so much pressure on having everything together by 30. But we are not past generations and we are all really just trying to figure things out as we go I think. Cheers to us finding our path and just figuring things out ✨
@@sandra.mirage you are so sweet 🥹 thank you for your words of encouragement 💜
Same gurl.
"How rare is it to find yourself at a crossroads and have the priviledge to choose your own adventure?"
That was DEEP.
Amen. Life is about learning. My mom started to learn French when she was over 40, I started Korean at 38. To whoever says you can't just tell them: Watch me.
Amen 🙏🏽 See you at the finish line.🥰
Learning Italian right now. 47
Never too late to learn
This reminded me I should go back to studying languages. I was learning 5 back in July, it was my joy. (Korean, Indonesian, French, Esperanto, Italian). Life has bogged me down since then…I miss that time so much ;-;
If you (or anyone here learning the languages I listed) have Duolingo I’d love to follow you on your journey!
@@rm.makes.me.smile_ 5 languages wow that's surely a challenge! I don't have Duolingo as it's not the most practical for Korean but would love to see you continue your journey!
PS: RM makes me smile too. Borahae 💜
Merci beaucoup ✌️
I really needed to see this 😌 I’m turning 30 this year and lost my job in a career that I was very passionate about, but is very niche and I can’t afford to move to get a job in the same industry. Which means I have to find something else I can do where I am. I just started some certification courses and I’m hoping to find something more stable and with a better work-life balance than my old career.
This is exactly what I needed to see right now. I turned 29 yesterday and I am about to change my life in a big way. Thank you.
I’m 40, leaving a career in education to study Art History…hoping to become a Curator one day❤
Hey same. I love this. Thank you. I just turned 30.
Oooh...😃 GOOD LUCK on your new journey 🎉✨️
Yesssss I love art history like omg
Yay so excited for you.
Yeeessss! 42 leaving education also!
It’s so funny as a woman in her 40s. Looking at women talking about “starting over” at 30 and 25. When you get into your 40’s you’re gonna realize you didn’t start over. Because you never started yet!!!
30 is just the beginning of life. You think you know everything. You DO feel smarter. And you definitely are smarter than you were in your 20s. But when you hit your 40’s you realize you didn’t know anything in your 30s either. And I’m sure I’ll feel the same way when I hit my 50s about my 40s.😂😂😂
this actually made me feel so much better… i’m 21 and i feel like i’m behind on figuring out my health, mind, friendships, who i am, my life path, just generally everything about life. but you saying “30 is just the beginning of life” really helped me put things in perspective! i’m not even at the start yet!❤❤❤
I laughed so loud because I’m 37 and just getting started! I met the traditional mile markers and realized I spent too much focus on the “achievements” I thought mattered but in reality you never know until you try. The beauty of life is trying til something sticks and then realizing hey that can change too
💯💯💯💯agree with you. I am 54
I was just thinking the same thing. I barely remember when I was 30. I’m almost 42 now and I see whatever I thought mattered didn’t. Couldn’t have bc I don’t even remember 30.. lol. And starting over isn’t even bad. Now I look at it like ok I don’t like this… next! And that’s all. I do like ho this is reminding me of my growth. And you’re right bc my mother 70 tells me things like oh I remember being like that when I was your age 😂
@@eden5695 Enjoy life baby! In the words of the beloved, Miss Frizzle (from the magic school bus),
“Make mistakes, get messy!”
Love! At 29, I finished a UX design course. Turn 30 this month. I too have felt stuck and questioning why I feel unfulfilled. I no longer want to blame myself for it. I've learned that it's okay to start over. You're only getting closer to a better wiser experienced YOU.
Was taking the UX design course a career transition for you? How has it been going? :)
“I think too late is what someone decides” is the best thing I’ve ever heard. Quite relatable. I used to work for a job and dedicated my life to it(felt like it but it was only a year and a half). Got fired for no reason actually despite meeting all quotas and going even above with overtime. Fast forward a year from that and now I am self employed. As you say, it’s only up from here. Couldn’t agree more.
I started over at 30 too. Divorced, broke, moved to another state, no job, no hope or wish for a new relationship. It was pretty bleak. Now I’m happier than I’ve ever been, running my own business, happily remarried, and planning on having another child in the next year. Life is crazy because when I started over I never thought I would be happy again let alone be so blessed as I am now. Keep your chin up! Things will get easier every day you continue to focus on yourself and move forward.
Awww❤
Really appreciated reading your story. I'm 32, going through a divorce and bankruptcy (because of my ex), feeling such sadness. Always encouraging to read others stories and seeing them coming out the other side with life being better than they could have imagined. Thank you for sharing ❤
tks u just made me cry haha same position here, but before the life makeover
thank you for this. Currently in an AirBNB with my 6,3, and 1 year old . I’m pregnant and looking to start over with a new career, hopefully a home and car soon. Sending prayers up for our future❤
your comment gives me so much hope
Soon to be 68 here … having Cancer for 40 months has taught me As Long as your Healthy you can start over… Push your brain into positivity.. age is just a Number.. why not live whatever years I have Left Joyfully ❤
wish you as much health and strength as possible, my dear❤️
Hoping for you to get better ❤
Look into soursop fruit and leaves for tea as well as durian, jackfruit and turkey tail mushroom all these can help fight cancer
I hope you’re healing ❤️
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Same girl, I started grad school at 33 for an entire career shift. Gotta stay on our toes.
"too late is just what someone decides" worthy to note 👌🏾
I mean look at where she's living not like she's exactly in a tight spot like most people would be losing there career at 30
Its what the AI decides.
I’m 29 and actually starting. Not starting over. It’s very scary and discouraging at times but I have decided to look ahead and not dwell on my past
Me too at 25, just been recovering from my childhood till now..This year I've been able to start volunteering, and I'm hoping to go to University next year
@@marcelusdarcy great job. I wish you the best of luck.
Turning 29 this year. I’m just starting too. The comparison game sucks. But I tell myself everyday that I’m still really really young. We got this.
@@sandra.mirage you got this.
Me too, starting to live at 35
“And since I’m deciding, I guess it’s not too late to start.” Thank you. I needed this today.
My mum was scared to go to uni as a 52 year old. She unskilled and now works in education helping children with disabilities. It’s never too late and you’re never too old. I believe in you!!!
Love this! So inspiring and I think it’s wonderful that she is helping children. Thanks for this. You have no idea how much better I feel.
I love this!!! This is the first video of yours I’ve come across, and wow what a beautiful message. I’ll remember your point about each of us being that person who decides if we’re too old for things. What a powerful and thoughtful message. Thank you!
I love this I'm 25, been divorced twice because the men were unfaithful, have two babies one with each of the men, just recently got fired, and it's great ! At first I went through a dark night of the soul for a few months especially after my ex and I split up and I got fired from a remote job. But it feels good letting those things go! And letting that version of myself die off. Like an ego death. It fed my ego a lot being with that recent hot guy and working from home bc of the field I was in. But it didn't feed my spirit ! They were both toxic both the man and the environment he wanted me to live in and his family and also his friends weren't good people and were also cheaters and the job wasn't good for me bc I was sitting all the time and wasn't active as much as I am now. It's wonderful how changes help us grow into better people and better our lives , those are blessings in disguise letting things and people and jobs like that go that aren't good for our mental or emotional well being overall
30 is so young!! It’s not late to start over even at 40, 50, 60!! Never too late! Life goes on, seasons change. A new opportunity at every corner!! That’s the beauty of it ✨🙌🏼
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Just turned the big 4-0 and having a mini midlife crisis… thinking if I live til 80, this is it! Wtf thinks like this?! -- meee! 😂
As someone who is pushing 60, trust me, 30 is NOT old. At all. Look at it this way. In a traditional career after college, you’ve only worked about 8 years and would still have 30+ to go before you retired. That is plenty of time to start over!! Don’t let the idea that you’re too old stop you from doing what you really want.
Thank you. ❤️
Thank you! I turned 30 last weekend. I want to go back to school to study Engineering (I was taking some of the math pre-reqs for it as electives for my first degree I settled for). I think I was insecure and not confident the first time around. I also think I started to believe some of the sexist things about women in STEM- that we can’t do it, and weren’t capable of it. I think I thought I wasn’t smart enough to persevere (I passed college algebra, statistics, and trigonometry with As or Bs, to my surprise). I was scared for calculus, because the higher you go in intellectual rigor, the less and less sense it makes. I don’t think it is super natural to learn. I feel like I can do it now though, for some reason. I feel like I have to, and I have to act quick to challenge myself in this new way. Truth is, I am so scared about it. I did pretty well for myself post college, and it is such a gamble to throw it all away to start over.
@@sageduff4747 Are you happy with your career in engineering? My dad was an engineer, but only got an associates degree. He said he thinks it (especially aerospace) is a young person’s field, because you eventually lose the motivation to stay on top of emerging technologies, teaching yourself new tech, etc. He said it is also harder and harder to learn new things as you age, you are less of a sponge unlike early career people. He feels that college graduates already come out of school by default on top of the latest technologies and tech stacks, and that they typically will provide new ideas and solutions to problems. He felt that at a certain point, there should be an “out” for “older” and experienced engineers to partner with the new, most technically capable engineers to give them industry knowledge, pitfalls, etc. as some kind of engineering mentor, then let the capable early career engineers do the execution work. My dad is only 61, and since you said you are pushing 60, would you agree with this sentiment? I worry about starting over at 30 and the longevity of it.
Starting over is scary! I’m glad this video popped up - reminds me that we’re not alone in this. Keep moving forward!
I love this message and reading everyone's comments. Life feels overwhelming and scary sometimes. Feels like society's expectations are so high, it's constantly aging you before your time, it tells you to have it all figured out before x age.. Regret is also a monster of its own. I know I struggle with all of it. I turned 30 last year and felt like I was going to have a panic attack. Like I was so old already, like I should've had it all figured out by now, had x amount of savings and accomplishments, like it was too late for certain things.. but here I am closing in on 31 and I'm realizing I think my 30s will be the best years yet. I'm still young. I still have the ability to take my life wherever I want it o go. I have accomplished a lot. Things haven't always gone to plan and I still have a lot of struggles, but I'm happy with who I am and what I'm doing. I accept the mistakes I've made. Everything in my life has led me to where I am now. It's all a constant battle, but this is what I tell myself and like to believe.
Needed this. Currently 25 and feeling like I'm stuck in life. When I could live for another 5 years and still start over again, that's relieving
Hi. Just wanted to say I also felt stuck at 25. I had so many things ahead of me that I was building but nothing was working out and I was experiencing major burn out. I’m almost 30 and am so happy and content with things that it blows my mind to think that at 25 I had no idea what was ahead of me. All the new people I’d meet, friendships I’d build, the new job I have that I had no background in and it wasn’t what I was going to school for, but I enjoy it. You feel stuck now but if you’re patient, it will pass. There’s so much ahead!
Thank you !! @@skeevynicks
Something is off here, it seems like she just got married at 30
25 have been depressing to me as well because you are finally an adult, but at the beginning. You feel the pressure, you are afraid. You think now it's the time to make the decisions that will build the rest of your life, but I tell you a secret: it's not. Live as you please. You can change whenever you want. I'm almost 31, at 28 I came back to school (I quit as a girl because of my health issues), and next year I'll get my diploma. Then? Who can say!
I had the same issue in my early/mid 20s but trust me you have all the time in the world to figure it out. There are no rules, people change up their careers, move to different countries, start a business, get married etc at all ages. There are so many examples of famous authors and artists who didn’t make it until 30s, 40s and beyond. The world is your oyster, just try and enjoy every day as best you can and be open to new experiences! ❤
I’m making a major change this year as well and I’m 33. This was very comforting.
wooo im 33 as well and gonna be doing INSANE changesto my life this year, lets goooo!:D
@@Monoiru wishing you well this year!
33 here 😊
U just a baby
I love you guys
Yeeesssss I'm 29 and had to start over 2 years ago. Everything I'd worked for to that point seemed to dissolve through my fingers but I also wasn't happy. I'm still not exactly happy, but I am closer to my goals and a lot further ahead mentally than I was before. I'm still growing and getting better, with life, with myself, with my relationships and career. Starting over is terrifying and I was horrifically depressed at the time feeling like I'd worked for nothing, but sometimes it is refreshing and exciting for the new start. Starting fresh enabled me to remove toxic people from my life, I met my life partner and adopted another cat. I have a larger apartment than before I started anew, I travel more and I am currently in the next phase of change applying to new work in graphic design again (after a 2 year break in a different field because of the burn out and trauma from a prior toxic workplace), I'm focusing on my health more after recently having pneumonia and I have a cute new car (even if it's been stressful being without work for 3 weeks from being in hospital). I am a firm believer in that things happen for a reason, and I believe that this change is more of an opportunity for you to expand on things that bring you joy and a healthier and happier path. 😇
Starting over again from zero at 46...after a health issue and left alone,i feel like life is starting again zero, beautiful feeling to be able to look forward again
i'm 30 and i'm making major life changes right now too. it's so scary but it's so refreshing to see someone my age doing the same, keep it up girl!!
I’m 29, I’m excited for 30. It’s the prime age of knowing that parties are for losers, WW2 history is relevant, furniture and woodcraft is awesome and making disgruntled noises as a way of feeling disappointed for today’s society. 30!!!
Nows the time to do it you're still very young n just starting off in life
You’ve given me hope, and I’m 26.
My father passed away in January, I was supposed to start university in January and I deferred so I could spend time with my dad.
But I had to pull out before I even started uni. I don’t feel ready anymore. I want to grovel and idle till I feel comfortable.
But society is cruel, I feel old. I feel like I’m starting over too late at 26.
After seeing so many comments of people starting over, who are much older than I am, and they’re happy and content, that gives me a sense of peace and relief.
This is my story and it will be at my pace. 💜
26F here too !! I too feel the same . Glad to come across this video and ur comment. Lets start over together
27 here too,and I feel the same..
25 and feel the same
I'm so sorry to hear about your father. Sending you all my strength! Hang in there and do it at your pace!
I thought 30 was just starting
Lovely video 🖤 I completely changed my life last year and it’s been totally for the best. I was running my own business, extremely stressed and overwhelmed. Then I got diagnosed with autism and realised that my job wasn’t suitable for me but working from home would be. I retrained for a year and now I am a full time product designer, working from home and living a happier, more relaxed life.
Still struggling mentally for 4yrs, tried to get up multiple times but can’t still function well so I let myself rest till now. I now have goals to start over this year and I’m still preparing, hopefully I don’t force myself again like what I did so I don’t disappoint myself again. I’m tired of doing nothing but 4yrs is a big help and hope to heal sooner.
im 31, and my current job will end this month too. this is such a lovely reminder that, i dont have to cling to old crutches and beliefs to lead a fulfilled life ❤✨
me too. let's pray to us to be better later, hopefully ...
Honey... Wait till you are starting over at 48! Breaking up (he gets the house), unemployed, completing a new certification, kid is grown... I'm defining free agent over here!
We will be fine!
Im so proud of you. Yove been through a lot but youre still standing. May your higher power source of strength and energy be with you always. ❤❤❤
@@meditationandrelaxationmot6121
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Exactly. Life's short, do what your heart says. after all it's all about gaining experience right 😊
@@YoungSantasGroupiegood god. Its never enough to just say somethings difficult on the internet, there always has to be someone who says “well you’ve got it easy! What about these poor people??” Let a struggle be a struggle its not a competition
I hope you are doing well.❤
Aw bless, 30 is barely adult. It's a testament to our crazy cult of youth that we feel over before we've even hit 25. Good positive post. Who you are is not dependent upon job title or the roles we play in this world. I'm nearer 50 btw, to give a little context, never had the opportunities mentioned above, only now building a life for myself. Never too late!
I'm starting over from nothing at 40, after leaving a 14 year relationship that was abusive. It's scary, yes, but so rewarding. I just bought my first car brand new, paid in full, and didn't need anyone to help me with it. The sense of pride I have in that accomplishment has inspired me to keep pushing forward and to be full of.love, hope, and more dreams than I could accomplish in this life. But I've never been happier sitting with myself and now trusting my own instincts. We all have the power of resilience in us. We can be inspired at any age and there's still so much more to look forward to.
Kudos to you and your strength and resilience! It’s never too late to be your own best friend and advocate especially after trauma and abuse it doesn’t break us.. it makes you stronger 💜
This is beautiful! You're so so so brave! Proud of you ❤
Your story gives me hope. Been in covertly narcissistic marriage for 19 years. I have no money nowhere to go but i refuse to stay till i die. I WILL FIND A WAY
Wow. Thank you so much for this. I’m also about to soon be 40 and feel like I’ve done nothing with my life. In very similar situation as you. The difference with me is I felt no hope because of how old I feel already. Thank you 😊
Congratulations!!
I'm 35, and I always think of Grandma Moses when I'm having a moment of doubt about where I'm at in life.
IT'S NEVER TOO LATE❤
I am 23 and still kind of figuring what to do. It's so so inspiring reading all of your stories ❤
Literally was me! I’m 29, turning 30 this year. I moved cities, changed jobs, and am starting a new relationship. So much change!
“How rare is it to find yourself at a crossroads and have the privilege to choose your own adventure?”
Love that!
Your storytelling is amazing! Thank you!❤
Ooof.. I'm 30 and I've finally made up my mind to leave my job of 10 years and wanting to do something that I never dared myself to do so. I wanted to explore art and design too but I didn't have the guts to. Now that i've seen your short, I think it really gives me alot of strength that may be, I can pursue what I want too and it's not too late :)
I started over at 49. I was married 23 years. I spent 22 of it focusing on my military career and when finally retired and stayed home I realized we had NOTHING in common anymore and we were not on the same page. I left him everything. I walked away with my daughter (17 then) and my clothes. I’ll be 54 this year. Deciding to start over was terrifying BUT I’m so much better off now. I’m happy, healthy and my daughter is too. Don’t be afraid of change. Be afraid of not changing.
Be kind to yourself. ❤
Your comment is so encouraging to me!
“Dont be afraid of change. Be afraid of not changing” love that 👏
i find this revolting tbh. MAKE things in common, if you can both put the effort in you can rebuild things from the start. When did the notion that you had to be alike to have a fruitful relationship even begin? Honestly sounds like cowadace and a complete lack of effort from your pov. call him & apologise for ruining the mans life what a joke
@@spaceinvader4565 Not that it’s any of your business, but how revolted do you think I felt when I found out my husband was stealing my pain medication to get high, switched to heroin when I stopped getting it, pawned my valuables and tried to sell my combat medals? Huh? Be revolted by that and quit being a judgmental ass.
And do you think I didn’t try? Simplification of a story doesn’t work for simple people I see.
Clearly you left out the single word of "abusive" before the 'ex husband'. I'll retract my judgement but as someone who married young I always see couples around me falling apart due to "differences, compatibility, excitement, bordem" etc when ALL THOSE THINGS can be built upon when both parties show effort.
Again, apologies@@SnowWhite717_
When I was 29, I was also laid off. Now at 30, I've gone back to university to pursue my childhood dreams. If you have the privilege to choose a new direction you're called to, please go for it. It's terrifying to start over but I've never felt so excited about my future.
Serious question, did you go to college for the first career? Everyone is talking about starting over but no one is mentioning money.. especially in this economy. But if it’s free, by all means
What if i dont know what to do ?
@@ambersaura9988 Daddy
What did you start with? What are you studying now? I turned 30 last weekend. I want to go back to school to study Engineering (I was taking some of the math pre-reqs for it as electives for my first degree I settled for). I think I was insecure and not confident the first time around. I also think I started to believe some of the sexist things about women in STEM- that we can’t do it, and weren’t capable of it. I think I thought I wasn’t smart enough to persevere (I passed college algebra, statistics, and trigonometry with As or Bs, to my surprise). I was scared for calculus, because the higher you go in intellectual rigor, the less and less sense it makes contextually. I don’t think it is super natural to learn, or we weren’t taught it well as kids. I feel like I can do it now though, for some reason. I feel like I have to, and I have to act quick to challenge myself in this new way. Truth is, I am so scared about it. I did pretty well for myself post college, and it is such a gamble to throw it away to start over.
I'm glad you're finding your way and turning challenges into a moment to reflect and ask yourself good questions. Best wishes.
This really resonated with me. I’m turning 30 soon, quit my job, moving to another country with my bf, but I never felt more free in my life. I feel like I’m just starting to live and can’t wait to see how it’s going from here
My dad lost his job at 45. Started college (again) at 50, and started his second career at 54. Starting over for him was tough, but it gave him the opportunity to do something he enjoyed a lot more.
I started over at 35 - and it was an abysmal failure. So I re-started over at 37. I fell l flat on my face. I stewed in that low point until I was 41 (42 now). I learned from all of the mistakes I made, and hopefully, the third times the charm.
You're awesome and your comment gives me hope thank you ❤
This video encapsulates a lot of my feelings regarding my 20s. Thank you!
Currently me and also 30. Needed this. Thank you for sharing and giving some hope. 🥹 You’re right about being at a crossroads and choosing our own adventure! Amazing what our mindset can do. Wishing you a great new beginning 💓🫶🏻
Love it! You go girl! Experience and try out what best suits you and warms your soul! 🎉💐 Everything happens for a reason and absolutely everything is figureoutable ( Marie Forleo) so as she says “Don’t seek passion, bring it!” 🤗
I went back to college at 30 and everything turned out great!!!
Work hard and you will be amazing!!!!
I’m 45 and terrified, because my health is forcing me to start over. But I’m also grateful that I get to have such an exciting professional journey in this stage of life. Coming into your truth is warrior work, and requires bravery.
I'm glad to hear that you are doing something that you are inspired to do and I hope you accomplish everything that you put your soul in
i am also going to start, im 29 and going 30 this june... my life in my 20's are a mess. lack of motivation, no passion, a lot of pressure. but now, I know what path i love to take. thank you for letting me feel that I'm not the only one going to start my life at 30.
Just turned 30 a week ago and I feel the same ❤way
I hope it ends. I feel passionless, nothing is happy.
I am turning 30 in June as well and I feel EXACTLY the same as you... so scary. So happy that you found your path.
20-30 struggling for something great, a lot of misfortune that triggered low feeling, demonisation combined with savings deleted after long unemployment and fewer prospects. Hard to be hopefull
I'm 27 and have had nightmares about the future disappearing out from under me, and wasting my time in careers that wear me out and don't return what I hope for. Thank you for sharing this and reminding me that is NOT true! ❤
Thank you for this! Cheers to this next chapter being the best one yet ✨
I needed to see this today ❤️ thank you
Feel this! 37! And Starting nursing school in 4 weeks but I’ve had this itch at being a creator for awhile now.
40 in 1 month. Self studying to get back to IT. Last time I had a position in IT was 10 years ago..
“too late is just what someone decides” 💯
Yes thank you. I am at a cross roads. Needed this push to keep going.
you are never too old for change. I decided to finish a BA I started in my early 20s, when I already hit 30. I continued, and will start writing my master thesis this year. why not 😉
“Why not?” Exactly the mindset we should have
Love this. I barely finished my BA at 26 and am starting my master’s program tomorrow. I felt so behind but now I look back and most people don’t even get a master’s… so maybe I’m not so behind after all.
The world would be a better place if we weren’t so hard on ourselves, don’t you think? 😋
Congratulations 🎉
Exactly 💯 @@ariellev9185
I’m curious.. how do you guys afford the education at 30+?
I could only get funding for 3-4 years of uni, dropped out after the 2nd year.. wrong course for me.. I maybe could get funding for one more year on a different course but after that..? Scholarships? They’re few and far between..
£10k per year of full time study, and money for rent and to survive, where does that come from? Most people I know who work full time live pay-check to pay-check as is, no savings. Who has an extra £100k at 30? ..how do I quit work and go back to uni?
(And by funding I mean a student loan)
I lost my job for my 48th birthday, after 28+ years. I had everything planned out and had a plan for the next part but it wasn’t to happen for almost two years. So I had to start all over, and it was a whole new world and it was…and still is scary. But I keep moving forward.
So inspiring😊
That’s so beautiful: Your words, the make out and the idea behind it! Thank you 🥰
I love your voice 🥺 it feels so calm and peaceful
I'm turning 38 this year. This is the year of starting over for me. I'm happy I'm starting a new path before it's impossible to turn around. 14 years seems like a waste.. but 14 years from now.. will I be thankful? Or regretful? If I asked myself that 14 years ago, I'd have the same answer I have right now..🤷. BUT the difference? I have learned so much in these wasted 14 years, that I know how to not eff up the next 14. I REALLY hope, when I'm 52, I will be : alive, thriving, and full of joy!
This. Yes! ❤
Needed this! I am 30 and am forging a new path. God bless you, Chloe 💛
You know a lot of these reminders are slowly very useful to hear I'm not 30 yet but I'm slowly getting to that point in my life and I feel like having this Head start is very good for me to hear cuz perhaps it may take me a little longer than others to get to that point but I think that I can do it so I thank you for this footage whether you read this overly long message or not if anyone reads this I hope it's a reminder to do your best and keep going
Thank you for making me feel a little better today!
I started undergrad in my 30s and law school immediately after. I honestly loved the change. I felt more in tune with who I really was and what I actually wanted in life.
“And since I’m deciding it’s not too late to start” I like this mindset a lot. I feel like we place too much pressure on our selfs from society and we need to remember that we are going at our own pace
started over at 29~ moved from New York city away from friends and extended family. chose myself and live in LA. I am happy here. Started chiropractic school and will be a doc by 32
Your short came in a moment of life that I am going to start over again and believe it or not, it gave hope and a moment to realize that something good can come
I’m in your same boat. Spend my 20’s and 30’s climbing the healthcare executive ladder. I was at a peak, as a senior executive reporting only to the board and the CEO. Then, within last year, my life changed at 36. My youngest daughter had severe medical issues and I had to drop everything. So today, I’m a stay at home mom, and supporting my husband through his medical career. I don’t know where I go from here but I’m happy to have the privilege to spend more time with my children. We shall see what the future holds because I know I want to do something new with my life.
I also underwent a career pivot when I was exactly 30. Now that I'm 35, another life shift occurred, and I resonate with you in that I also feel like I've lost everything and have to rebuild life from the ashes. But hey - it's the only way to grow! Exciting times.
34 at the same point of having everything I built taken from me and having to start over. I’m not sure what I want or how to do it but I’m glad this video popped up
Same here. At 30 i changed careers and moved to a different country for the first time ever. I've been wanting to do this for years but always thought it was too late to change. Until I realized I will never be younger than what I am right now. This gave me the courage to do it, and so glad I did!
I love to research other countries that have more of a reformative and holistic approach to prison versus more of a strictly punishment approach. I have to admit I have not given them much thought. But it is our responsibility as a society to care for the hurting. So thank you for explaining this law.
Girl you just made me cry. We’re the same age and I’m going through a break up with my job. I just realized yesterday how toxic my job was and I was questioning if I was crazy to feel relieved. I really needed to hear this ❤
No, you are not crazy.
I'm 43 & had to evolve from my 18 year history doing the same thing. It's scary stepping into a new phase. But it's pretty exciting!
Thank you so much for your beautiful film. It really comforted and inspired me today. Let's keep going! Good luck to all of us here!
words can't describe how much I LOVE this & I can't wait to see all the amazing things you have on the horizon!!! :)
Tyvm I needed this more than you know 😢 just had a full mental explosive break down and cried to God "please help me I love my family,animals,friends,and myself but I want to be happy actually happy and enjoying life.I want to find my soul purpose and be excited to wake up everyday" I'm 30 and I still don't exactly know what I want to do but I want it to be purposeful and make me truly happy.
I love how calm you are. Im also 30 and I'm scared that I'll never find my ikigai. We get so stuck in our responsibilities that it becomes frightening to take a plunge into new waters. But I also relate when you say that you can be someone else. I feel like that every day, like i don't belong where i am. And its still driving me to keep aiming for change, even failure after failire. Its never too late!
Periodt! I like the last part you said about it not being too late to start. Thank you👏🏾👏🏾
You have no idea how much I love this little video of yours!!! ❤
I'm still stuck on the "losing everything I've built" part. I lost my home, my money, my university, my health, hope, structure, all of it. I have no money, degree, job, friends, and live way out in the woods. I'm trying really hard to start out again but I feel truly broken inside and out. My mindset is so skewed to the negative that I even got angry and jealous when you said you had lost everything but live in that beautiful place, while I've lost everything and live in a small structure built from tin and don't even have clean running water anymore. If anybody reads this and has any advice, please do respond because I'm lost here and struggling to stop crying myself to sleep.
Hey. Hang in there. It gets better. It's the darkest just before dawn! You will get there! Just hang in there!
I’m really sorry to hear you are experiencing that. :( I know how hard it feels, but your emotions are okay to have with what you have gone through and please don’t beat yourself up over them. I have been what seemed like it was the depths of hell and made it to the other side; it’s not perfect, but progress is all that matters. It will all pass in time. Is there any kind of support you can lean on for help?
Hey... Hang in there.... You will overcome all that is breaking you... you will be happy and smile again... Do not be so hard on urself....
If it was possible wish you could start a UA-cam channel to share your journey and I will definitely subscribe to your channel and watch the ads . I mean you can never know we all broken out here but sometimes seeing someone's journey in survival mode encourages you to stop crying over spilt milk. All the best ❤
I see you commented three weeks ago. What's your status? Are you doing better?
I'm 48 and gosh I wish I can start all over in my 30s now. I'd do everything different. Make every moment count.dare to be different and dream big. Don't take life too serious. Otherwise, you would be like me, afraid of everything then, regret everything now.
48 is not too late! I am 44, my husband 50 and we are starting our own thing! You have 20 more years to go until pension or death, so how do you want to spend them?
I'm 22 and afraid of everything after college especially applying for work. Imposter syndrome, career path, dreams, sustainability all everything mix up 😢🥲
This was exactly what I needed to hear. Same exact situation. Thank you for sharing vibes!
Thank you. Really needed this at my current season.
Started medschool at 31 and now 33 an incoming 3rd yr with a baby on the way. I am so glad I chose this side of the road. Good luck to you ❤
An almost unfathomable amount of financial security went into this video
This is the real answer. She could fail to do literally anything significant for the rest of her life and be fine. She has a significant other who didnt get laid off and who no doubt makes over 6 figures per year. She's clearly very smart so probably has quite a bit of money saved from her 6 figure salary job she got laid off from. The video is just out of touch with the reality that most people face that they cant afford to "start over".
@@freakindarkogirl so what you’re gonna stay in the same low paid shitty job for the rest of your life? Sometimes you gotta take the gamble
So what now? What did you gain from commenting this? Where do we do from here?
@@katierasburn9571 you dont seem to understand. I wasnt speaking generally. Obviously you sometimes need to gamble and try to do something else and take that risk. My point is that while her message in the video was perfect, her own situation is wildly different to most people. She didnt get fired from some dead end minimum wage job, she isnt on her last dollar desperate to find another job so she can put food on the table and not get evicted. She is not like the majority of people. She was working at a tech company probably getting overpaid (which is probably why they laid her off). She has a husband who does have a job and probably makes at least as much as she was making. She doesnt come from poverty. She does not have any dependents. She could literally fail upward for the rest of her life and be fine. Her financial security is what is allowing her to try to do something she loves. The majority of people who get laid off from their jobs, dont have the kind of luxury she has of being able to choose to do anything they want, make little to no money along the way and be totally fine. Not to mention she obviously has a monetized YT channel and tiktok.
@freakinda excellent point and my thoughts exactly!
Needed this. Its frightening for me at every age. Some of us have very volatile lives growing up and the unknown really is TERRIFYING.... In your head.
Also dwelling on fear makes it seem so much bigger than it is.
Same here! Closed up my business, got divorced, got into med school and moved to another city! It's going great!! Challenging for sure, but I could never go back
I've experienced this last year. I resigned with my toxic job, took 3 months break and started over again with my current job. Best decision ever. I am lucky because my current job is really so different from my previous one and I got a very good compensation. 😊❤