My goodness, this is the freedom I have been praying for. Anna I can not thank you enough for pouring into us! I see that I have healed more than I thought, I also see where I can do more healing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!🥹
I think the phrase you were looking for is “Don’t shit where you eat”. It’s good advice. I’ve been binge watching your videos for a week now and I’ve gained an immense amount of clarity from them. You are invaluable- thank you so much!
I'm at the age and stage of life , and need to move away from family members to save what's left of my life. Enough is enough. Used and abused through life. I am not the person who they are trying to make me out to be. You r videos have made is so clear to move on from them..
Well this really stops my pity party. I have my problems, but this just makes me thankful when I hear these horror stories. I hope the best for all of them.
Thank you Anna I am taking a train back to where the "relgious abuse: began in Vallejo, CA. I am 65 this year and it has taken a lifetime to get to this point. I put "honesty" at the top for me to be okay with being more honest. Getting to the root of why I feel a need to exagerate what I have done or doing. I was called lazy all of my life because I enjoy wrting and reading and am very active but not a 9-5 person.
Ugh. You hate when you work on yourself a bunch and then you find yet ANOTHER thing you need to stop making excuses about and get to work on and you're like "but I'm tired and I don't wanna!" but you can see it's holding you back and you have to do it anyway? Yeah. It sucks. But it has to stop and you're the only one who can stop it. Nobody else can do it for you. Ugh. Welp, time to buy a new journal, label it with "neglecting myself" and get to work. Whatever your method is, I wish you luck. It's going to be hard sometimes, and it's worth it. You're going to face set backs, fail, cry, fall apart, and then try again. And your worth the effort. I'm writing this to myself and to whoever needs to hear this. We are worth it. We always were. I love you.
When I complained to my ex about his behavior (serial cheater and alcoholic), he said, what about YOUR behavior. I thought I was okay. According to this video, I am not! What an eye opener!
A feeling of emptiness is one of my biggest triggers and inspires some really self-sabotaging behaviours, particularly shopping and comfort food, or seeking distractions like gaming or tv. I need to fill that void with stuff.
This is so timely . Ive been messed up for three days . Thanks for this . So glad I'm going to a therapy appointment soon with a really good therapist.
Love watching all of your videos i binge watch them all and ever since i found your videos I feel like i have better control over my triggers and learnt how to handle them in a better way. Thank you Anna, Your amazing! :D
You are my therapy "supplement" between in person visits to my ptad therapy, and I'll be starting Cathlics in Recovery (I like the faith-based version) soon. You really are a blessing to us all. Thank you for using your past pain for present purpose for us, and your own self-edification. You are in my prayers as you have us in yours.
Thank you so much for sharing all your wisdom and experiences. You create this huge community making me feel understood and less "alone on earth" with my difficult childhood. I m on my recovery path, it is not an easy one, but when I hear you, I know it is possible. THANKS!
This made so much sense. When a trigger would happen my internal reaction was so intensely and bizarrely sky-high it was crazy! I have expressive face, so could never hide it, and it was always something silly like someone giggling or laughing and me assuming it was about me. Always getting higher and higher, definately disregulated! I feel like now, if I recognize that happening as it occurs, I have a better chance of calming those emotions down and back to somewhat normal. It still happens, BUT not nearly as frequently. Every day is a single step, keep trying and you'll get to calm.
You're doing a great job! If you're interested you may also like Daily Practice. It is a good tool to help with getting regulated. You can learn it for free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy This comment reply meant so much, Thank you from the ♥️. I'll check it out, and definately looking to continue this journey towards regulation. One moment at a time as it were. 🙏 Thank you for all you do! ♥️
Glad it was helpful! If you're interested, here'a a link to the CCF membership: courses.crappychildhoodfairy.com/membership It provides access to all of Anna's courses, webinars, group coaching calls and many more! Nika@TeamFairy
~♡~This was a really good one!!!~♡~Often these compilations dont help me much, cuz ive already seen each seperate video, tho it was still familiar, it seemed really packed with so much helpful stuff!!!~♡~
Maybe not the right video for me to ask this. I would like to understand why I have difficulty learning how to just “sit still.” Any advice? I’m on cusp feeling good-yet still old traumas invade me. Thank you 🙏
Question regarding eating disorders- how many older people who are finally realizing their cptsd , and dealing with older age (there’s no hope for me now) begin having eating disorders??
Lol I always feel overwhelmed, alone, and, scared. I'm starting to get used to it but people don't like me and we need people to survive. I'm broke and alone. No help. A man is supposed to do all this alone anyway before society would even accept him.
Hi Crappy CH Fairy, how do you do it? Anything can be a trigger. Here I’m in recovery for the outside bandages, and the true healing you reveal be removing those same confines I put myself in. Gosh I would love to talk to you! New grateful fan Thanks, Anna 🙏
Yes,,,,YES. I can totally tell when a guy uses porn. They don't make eye contact, they are usually very cold, distant, awkward, not romantic, boring energy, really obvious. Not deep, apathetic, depressed. I, as a nurse used to "help" them to recovery. NO MORE. here is a link to help, you have my pryers, and goodbye.
My husband's use of porn damaged our marriage. Desire was for him to control. He had CPTSD and didn't know it. His was more pronounced than mine. He couldn't handle any intimacy and had trouble with trust. He became more insensitive and crass with porn use -- all print media. His behaviors in business and sense of professionalism was good. Structure and rules held him in place. It was like Dr Jekyl and Mr Hide. As I began to change and get healing, he looked at himself and our relationship differently. He really didn't like what he was doing to himself but needed professional help to understand a better way of living. This is additionally tough to overcome in today's culture. Morals are all but gone and accessibility of porn is rampant. Ads are explicit and prolific featuring sexual attitudes. One must exercise choices and pass on certain stuff.
@-sidjfd Who are you addressing? Is this a diagnosis? For whom? There is obsessive compulsive behavior that leads to greater issues of unhealth. Mood altering can be done through self- medication or sexual activity that only adds to the problem. Intimacy is built on trust with a sustained level of caring. When this bonding process is disrupted, only understanding, modeling, and respectful boundary lines over time begin to change behavior. This indicates the need for a trained professional. It's a positive and truthful human interaction that validates a person's life. Cognitive issues born of bi-bolarism, for example, have specific remedies beyond issues of behavior. We are complicated humans.
Hello Anna, I just wanted to ask if you would be okay if i sent an ask the fairy letter about a same sex relationship? It's just that every video I've seen all the cases are from straight couples, most likely because well most humans are straight I guess 😂 but I'm a lesbian and I could really use your help. But i don't want to bother you so i hope I get your confirmation before sending it. I hope you see this comment
I have 4 kids, 3 boys and a baby girl. Im 1 year post domicile separation of 17 years marriage. My number 1 goal has been to heal me, but i keep lashing out, and yell immediately. I already blame myself for screwing up all of my children. I want to be a different person i want to stop being this way. Im looking for videos that may help me to help them, i just dont know what to search, like key word. Can anyone help?
You may want to watch "How to Parent Calmly and Effectively When You Have Childhood PTSD": ua-cam.com/video/lORzoCzbp_w/v-deo.html, and "If You've Lash Out or Betrayed People, Here's What to Do": ua-cam.com/video/xKAzssBCxaU/v-deo.html (The key words I used were: "parent" and "lash out"). Nika@TeamFairy
Currently struggling seeing my family member doing something I disagree with. I feel horribly misunderstood with friends I opened up about it. How do I regulate myself, currently struggling so hard 🥺
One good tool to help with getting regulated is the Daily Practice. You can try it in the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice. If you want to go deeper, Anna has a whole course on Healing Childhood PTSD: bit.ly/CCF_HCPTSD Nika@TeamFairy
My goodness, this is the freedom I have been praying for. Anna I can not thank you enough for pouring into us! I see that I have healed more than I thought, I also see where I can do more healing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!🥹
You are so welcome! Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment!
Nika@TeamFairy
Iv been watching a lot of your videos they are so helpful ❤
Wow this was my time to find you. Thank you, I need help. 😄
I think the phrase you were looking for is “Don’t shit where you eat”. It’s good advice. I’ve been binge watching your videos for a week now and I’ve gained an immense amount of clarity from them. You are invaluable- thank you so much!
Your videos have done more for me in 6 weeks than the last 20+ years of seeking clarity. Thank you for your “magic wand”
Wonderful! Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment!
Nika@TeamFairy
I'm at the age and stage of life , and need to move away from family members to save what's left of my life. Enough is enough. Used and abused through life. I am not the person who they are trying to make me out to be. You r videos have made is so clear to move on from them..
We're all here to support you :) -Calista@TeamFairy
6:00 emotional disregulation
8:40 self defeating behaviors
19:40 try one thing
34:19 self defeating behavior
Well this really stops my pity party. I have my problems, but this just makes me thankful when I hear these horror stories. I hope the best for all of them.
Thank you Anna I am taking a train back to where the "relgious abuse: began in Vallejo, CA. I am 65 this year and it has taken a lifetime to get to this point. I put "honesty" at the top for me to be okay with being more honest. Getting to the root of why I feel a need to exagerate what I have done or doing. I was called lazy all of my life because I enjoy wrting and reading and am very active but not a 9-5 person.
Thanks for sharing everything Anna, you really make a difference in my life.
I'm so glad the channel has been helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy 🥰 aww
Its also been hard work
Flaking out on people. Avoiding responsibilities is my safety zone.
I feel so fucked up.. I do what I need to do to survive, hope for the best, but just waiting till my time comes... uh.. just tired of this...
One good tool to help with getting regulated is the Daily Practice. You can learn it for free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
I feel this . Reply if you need to talk to someone. I’ll listen
I've been accused of being ever this and that, even lost my wife to it. This is clearly what it is.. wish I'd found this 20 years ago.
Still have time...
I'm so glad you're here now. We're all rooting for you! -Calista@TeamFairy
WOW! I didn’t know you just posted this. This is phenomenal information- you are seriously the best
I'm so glad the video was helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy
Slowly watching this and digesting, and realizing I'm not doing so bad.
Ugh. You hate when you work on yourself a bunch and then you find yet ANOTHER thing you need to stop making excuses about and get to work on and you're like "but I'm tired and I don't wanna!" but you can see it's holding you back and you have to do it anyway?
Yeah. It sucks. But it has to stop and you're the only one who can stop it. Nobody else can do it for you. Ugh. Welp, time to buy a new journal, label it with "neglecting myself" and get to work.
Whatever your method is, I wish you luck. It's going to be hard sometimes, and it's worth it. You're going to face set backs, fail, cry, fall apart, and then try again. And your worth the effort. I'm writing this to myself and to whoever needs to hear this. We are worth it. We always were. I love you.
I haven’t watched you for a few weeks and I’d forgotten how great you are! This one had some real bits of gold in it xx
Hope you enjoyed it!
Nika@TeamFairy
When I complained to my ex about his behavior (serial cheater and alcoholic), he said, what about YOUR behavior. I thought I was okay. According to this video, I am not! What an eye opener!
A feeling of emptiness is one of my biggest triggers and inspires some really self-sabotaging behaviours, particularly shopping and comfort food, or seeking distractions like gaming or tv. I need to fill that void with stuff.
This is so timely . Ive been messed up for three days . Thanks for this .
So glad I'm going to a therapy appointment soon with a really good therapist.
All this really helps and it's what I need to hear 😊
I'm so happy to hear that :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Love watching all of your videos i binge watch them all and ever since i found your videos I feel like i have better control over my triggers and learnt how to handle them in a better way.
Thank you Anna,
Your amazing! :D
Yay! Thank you for sharing. You're doing a great work!
Nika@TeamFairy
You are my therapy "supplement" between in person visits to my ptad therapy, and I'll be starting Cathlics in Recovery (I like the faith-based version) soon. You really are a blessing to us all. Thank you for using your past pain for present purpose for us, and your own self-edification. You are in my prayers as you have us in yours.
Thank you for being here. Good luck on your healing journey!
Nika@TeamFairy
me too I got complexx P T S D.
Thank you so much for sharing all your wisdom and experiences. You create this huge community making me feel understood and less "alone on earth" with my difficult childhood. I m on my recovery path, it is not an easy one, but when I hear you, I know it is possible. THANKS!
We're so happy to have you in our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
This made so much sense. When a trigger would happen my internal reaction was so intensely and bizarrely sky-high it was crazy! I have expressive face, so could never hide it, and it was always something silly like someone giggling or laughing and me assuming it was about me. Always getting higher and higher, definately disregulated! I feel like now, if I recognize that happening as it occurs, I have a better chance of calming those emotions down and back to somewhat normal. It still happens, BUT not nearly as frequently. Every day is a single step, keep trying and you'll get to calm.
You're doing a great job! If you're interested you may also like Daily Practice. It is a good tool to help with getting regulated. You can learn it for free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy This comment reply meant so much, Thank you from the ♥️. I'll check it out, and definately looking to continue this journey towards regulation. One moment at a time as it were. 🙏 Thank you for all you do! ♥️
I have issues with having a victim mentality too... Sad😢...
Wow, this is an amazing channel. Thank you!
Wow ALOT makes sense to me now. Anna where have you been all my life 😢❤
If you get a chance,can you share your own shift in thinking, and what pulled you to the place you’re enjoying today. Thank you 🙏
Wow! You just explained everything that is wrong with my life!!! I would very much like to start your program!
Glad it was helpful! If you're interested, here'a a link to the CCF membership: courses.crappychildhoodfairy.com/membership It provides access to all of Anna's courses, webinars, group coaching calls and many more!
Nika@TeamFairy
Hearing these stories SETS ME BACK. How to heal from all of this?
~♡~This was a really good one!!!~♡~Often these compilations dont help me much, cuz ive already seen each seperate video, tho it was still familiar, it seemed really packed with so much helpful stuff!!!~♡~
30 years of therapy...USELESS!
I loooooove your style, and while doing the pc thing, also admitting and not being ashamed of your higher power being God
I'm so glad the daily practice has been helpful! Thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Oh boy yes I am definitely putting so much pressure on myself. Thank you 😀
Thanks lovely beautiful it’s very mindful
thanks you for the vidoe. some of the things you said is powerful. have a great day😊
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you Anna!
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
Maybe not the right video for me to ask this. I would like to understand why I have difficulty learning how to just “sit still.” Any advice?
I’m on cusp feeling good-yet still old traumas invade me. Thank you 🙏
You are amazing
Thank you
Thanks for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you!
I really appreciate you.
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Question regarding eating disorders- how many older people who are finally realizing their cptsd , and dealing with older age (there’s no hope for me now) begin having eating disorders??
Unfortunately I am a master at Black And White thinking... Sad😢...
You're in the right place! -Calista@TeamFairy
Me too!
Excellent. Thank you
Lol I always feel overwhelmed, alone, and, scared. I'm starting to get used to it but people don't like me and we need people to survive. I'm broke and alone. No help. A man is supposed to do all this alone anyway before society would even accept him.
Hi Crappy CH Fairy, how do you do it? Anything can be a trigger. Here I’m in recovery for the outside bandages, and the true healing you reveal be removing those same confines I put myself in. Gosh I would love to talk to you!
New grateful fan
Thanks, Anna 🙏
Yes,,,,YES. I can totally tell when a guy uses porn. They don't make eye contact, they are usually very cold, distant, awkward, not romantic, boring energy, really obvious. Not deep, apathetic, depressed. I, as a nurse used to "help" them to recovery. NO MORE. here is a link to help, you have my pryers, and goodbye.
My husband's use of porn damaged our marriage. Desire was for him to control. He had CPTSD and didn't know it. His was more pronounced than mine. He couldn't handle any intimacy and had trouble with trust. He became more insensitive and crass with porn use -- all print media. His behaviors in business and sense of professionalism was good. Structure and rules held him in place. It was like Dr Jekyl and Mr Hide. As I began to change and get healing, he looked at himself and our relationship differently. He really didn't like what he was doing to himself but needed professional help to understand a better way of living. This is additionally tough to overcome in today's culture. Morals are all but gone and accessibility of porn is rampant. Ads are explicit and prolific featuring sexual attitudes. One must exercise choices and pass on certain stuff.
@-sidjfd Who are you addressing? Is this a diagnosis? For whom? There is obsessive compulsive behavior that leads to greater issues of unhealth. Mood altering can be done through self- medication or sexual activity that only adds to the problem. Intimacy is built on trust with a sustained level of caring. When this bonding process is disrupted, only understanding, modeling, and respectful boundary lines over time begin to change behavior. This indicates the need for a trained professional. It's a positive and truthful human interaction that validates a person's life. Cognitive issues born of bi-bolarism, for example, have specific remedies beyond issues of behavior. We are complicated humans.
I can SO relate. This is SO me.
Thank you for watching! Hope you will find help here.
Nika@TeamFairy
Hello Anna, I just wanted to ask if you would be okay if i sent an ask the fairy letter about a same sex relationship? It's just that every video I've seen all the cases are from straight couples, most likely because well most humans are straight I guess 😂 but I'm a lesbian and I could really use your help. But i don't want to bother you so i hope I get your confirmation before sending it. I hope you see this comment
Absolutely :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Is 12 steps only for alcoholism? Or it can help with CPTSD ?
The 12 Step approach helps addicts and people in PTSD recovery too.
Nika@TeamFairy
I have 4 kids, 3 boys and a baby girl. Im 1 year post domicile separation of 17 years marriage. My number 1 goal has been to heal me, but i keep lashing out, and yell immediately. I already blame myself for screwing up all of my children. I want to be a different person i want to stop being this way. Im looking for videos that may help me to help them, i just dont know what to search, like key word. Can anyone help?
You may want to watch "How to Parent Calmly and Effectively When You Have Childhood PTSD": ua-cam.com/video/lORzoCzbp_w/v-deo.html, and "If You've Lash Out or Betrayed People, Here's What to Do": ua-cam.com/video/xKAzssBCxaU/v-deo.html (The key words I used were: "parent" and "lash out").
Nika@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thanks so much!
Currently struggling seeing my family member doing something I disagree with. I feel horribly misunderstood with friends I opened up about it. How do I regulate myself, currently struggling so hard 🥺
One good tool to help with getting regulated is the Daily Practice. You can try it in the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice. If you want to go deeper, Anna has a whole course on Healing Childhood PTSD: bit.ly/CCF_HCPTSD
Nika@TeamFairy
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Geez im a 10 outta 10
You are in the right place then!
Nika@TeamFairy
Great to see we have some male representation in this channel. Would you have some book recommendations for us to read on our own?
Glad you are here! Here are Anna's books recommendations (great for all genders): crappychildhoodfairy.com/resources/
Nika@TeamFairy
Where can I read what you read to prepare for this video?
Have you ever heard of Psychology being manipulated to gain an end by a racial group?
Are you a doctor or have a degree in something?
Thank you, I appreciate every single!! Keep on going!!!
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
such a helpful video, thank you! I am working on these behaviours and making progress 🫶
Great! Good luck on your healing journey!
Nika@TeamFairy