Change These Habits to Heal Damaging CPTSD Symptoms (4-Video Compilation)

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  • Опубліковано 27 кві 2024
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    Everyone knows that abuse and neglect in childhood can have negative effects on us as adults. But there's a taboo around admitting the damage we do to ourselves with our own trauma-driven behaviors. it's not your fault you were abused or neglected, and it's not your fault it left you prone to these common problems in life. But today, the only person who can change this pattern is you. In this 4-video compilation I teach about common self-defeating behaviors for people with CPTSD -- what they look like, how they drag you down and re-trigger old wounds -- and what to do to begin healing.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 85

  • @ashleywilliams7380
    @ashleywilliams7380 Місяць тому +13

    My goodness, this is the freedom I have been praying for. Anna I can not thank you enough for pouring into us! I see that I have healed more than I thought, I also see where I can do more healing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!🥹

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  Місяць тому +1

      You are so welcome! Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment!
      Nika@TeamFairy

    • @corinnebrooks6949
      @corinnebrooks6949 9 днів тому

      Iv been watching a lot of your videos they are so helpful ❤

  • @tedankhamenbonnah4848
    @tedankhamenbonnah4848 Місяць тому +5

    Slowly watching this and digesting, and realizing I'm not doing so bad.

  • @pamelacaballero6111
    @pamelacaballero6111 Місяць тому +8

    6:00 emotional disregulation
    8:40 self defeating behaviors
    19:40 try one thing
    34:19 self defeating behavior

  • @rudabegasschriner3653
    @rudabegasschriner3653 Місяць тому +16

    I think the phrase you were looking for is “Don’t shit where you eat”. It’s good advice. I’ve been binge watching your videos for a week now and I’ve gained an immense amount of clarity from them. You are invaluable- thank you so much!

  • @JohnKeaney-su3iz
    @JohnKeaney-su3iz Місяць тому +7

    I'm at the age and stage of life , and need to move away from family members to save what's left of my life. Enough is enough. Used and abused through life. I am not the person who they are trying to make me out to be. You r videos have made is so clear to move on from them..

  • @carolynhannaford7382
    @carolynhannaford7382 Місяць тому +16

    Your videos have done more for me in 6 weeks than the last 20+ years of seeking clarity. Thank you for your “magic wand”

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  Місяць тому +2

      Wonderful! Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment!
      Nika@TeamFairy

  • @robertap8467
    @robertap8467 Місяць тому +11

    I feel so fucked up.. I do what I need to do to survive, hope for the best, but just waiting till my time comes... uh.. just tired of this...

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  Місяць тому +2

      One good tool to help with getting regulated is the Daily Practice. You can learn it for free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
      Nika@TeamFairy

    • @heatherc760
      @heatherc760 20 днів тому +1

      I feel this . Reply if you need to talk to someone. I’ll listen

  • @akbar8477
    @akbar8477 Місяць тому +15

    Thank you Anna I am taking a train back to where the "relgious abuse: began in Vallejo, CA. I am 65 this year and it has taken a lifetime to get to this point. I put "honesty" at the top for me to be okay with being more honest. Getting to the root of why I feel a need to exagerate what I have done or doing. I was called lazy all of my life because I enjoy wrting and reading and am very active but not a 9-5 person.

  • @anshitasharma9426
    @anshitasharma9426 Місяць тому +19

    Flaking out on people. Avoiding responsibilities is my safety zone.

  • @pg618
    @pg618 Місяць тому +25

    Well this really stops my pity party. I have my problems, but this just makes me thankful when I hear these horror stories. I hope the best for all of them.

  • @AKSnowbat907
    @AKSnowbat907 Місяць тому +42

    I've been accused of being ever this and that, even lost my wife to it. This is clearly what it is.. wish I'd found this 20 years ago.

    • @Bee46727
      @Bee46727 Місяць тому +5

      Still have time...

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  Місяць тому +7

      I'm so glad you're here now. We're all rooting for you! -Calista@TeamFairy

  • @craigculford4963
    @craigculford4963 Місяць тому +38

    Thanks for sharing everything Anna, you really make a difference in my life.

  • @BrightchildY
    @BrightchildY Місяць тому +16

    WOW! I didn’t know you just posted this. This is phenomenal information- you are seriously the best

  • @elainehiggins713
    @elainehiggins713 3 дні тому

    When I complained to my ex about his behavior (serial cheater and alcoholic), he said, what about YOUR behavior. I thought I was okay. According to this video, I am not! What an eye opener!

  • @ejusup
    @ejusup Місяць тому +4

    I haven’t watched you for a few weeks and I’d forgotten how great you are! This one had some real bits of gold in it xx

  • @helenburke9999
    @helenburke9999 Місяць тому +13

    All this really helps and it's what I need to hear 😊

  • @guitarsz
    @guitarsz Місяць тому +2

    Wow, this is an amazing channel. Thank you!

  • @edeloleary2093
    @edeloleary2093 Місяць тому +3

    Love watching all of your videos i binge watch them all and ever since i found your videos I feel like i have better control over my triggers and learnt how to handle them in a better way.
    Thank you Anna,
    Your amazing! :D

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  Місяць тому

      Yay! Thank you for sharing. You're doing a great work!
      Nika@TeamFairy

  • @tomtbi
    @tomtbi Місяць тому +6

    I have issues with having a victim mentality too... Sad😢...

  • @blackthornsloe8049
    @blackthornsloe8049 Місяць тому +2

    This is so timely . Ive been messed up for three days . Thanks for this .
    So glad I'm going to a therapy appointment soon with a really good therapist.

  • @jac1161
    @jac1161 Місяць тому +4

    You are my therapy "supplement" between in person visits to my ptad therapy, and I'll be starting Cathlics in Recovery (I like the faith-based version) soon. You really are a blessing to us all. Thank you for using your past pain for present purpose for us, and your own self-edification. You are in my prayers as you have us in yours.

  • @Jim-rh2nh
    @Jim-rh2nh Місяць тому +3

    This made so much sense. When a trigger would happen my internal reaction was so intensely and bizarrely sky-high it was crazy! I have expressive face, so could never hide it, and it was always something silly like someone giggling or laughing and me assuming it was about me. Always getting higher and higher, definately disregulated! I feel like now, if I recognize that happening as it occurs, I have a better chance of calming those emotions down and back to somewhat normal. It still happens, BUT not nearly as frequently. Every day is a single step, keep trying and you'll get to calm.

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  Місяць тому +1

      You're doing a great job! If you're interested you may also like Daily Practice. It is a good tool to help with getting regulated. You can learn it for free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
      Nika@TeamFairy

    • @Jim-rh2nh
      @Jim-rh2nh Місяць тому

      @@CrappyChildhoodFairy This comment reply meant so much, Thank you from the ♥️. I'll check it out, and definately looking to continue this journey towards regulation. One moment at a time as it were. 🙏 Thank you for all you do! ♥️

  • @artkisses1
    @artkisses1 13 днів тому

    Wow! You just explained everything that is wrong with my life!!! I would very much like to start your program!

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  12 днів тому

      Glad it was helpful! If you're interested, here'a a link to the CCF membership: courses.crappychildhoodfairy.com/membership It provides access to all of Anna's courses, webinars, group coaching calls and many more!
      Nika@TeamFairy

  • @roorooadventures4771
    @roorooadventures4771 Місяць тому +2

    thanks you for the vidoe. some of the things you said is powerful. have a great day😊

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  Місяць тому

      Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy

  • @kathyingram3061
    @kathyingram3061 Місяць тому +3

    ~♡~This was a really good one!!!~♡~Often these compilations dont help me much, cuz ive already seen each seperate video, tho it was still familiar, it seemed really packed with so much helpful stuff!!!~♡~

  • @jac1161
    @jac1161 Місяць тому

    Excellent. Thank you

  • @totallychillgirl8072
    @totallychillgirl8072 Місяць тому +3

    Thank you Anna!

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  Місяць тому

      Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy

  • @jonathanbarone4708
    @jonathanbarone4708 17 днів тому +1

    Thanks lovely beautiful it’s very mindful

  • @kwatty
    @kwatty Місяць тому

    Thank you!
    I really appreciate you.

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  Місяць тому

      Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy

  • @llamarama111
    @llamarama111 Місяць тому

    Oh boy yes I am definitely putting so much pressure on myself. Thank you 😀

  • @otorishingen8600
    @otorishingen8600 Місяць тому +1

    You are amazing
    Thank you

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  Місяць тому +1

      Thanks for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy

  • @carolynhannaford7382
    @carolynhannaford7382 Місяць тому +4

    If you get a chance,can you share your own shift in thinking, and what pulled you to the place you’re enjoying today. Thank you 🙏

  • @jac1161
    @jac1161 Місяць тому

    I loooooove your style, and while doing the pc thing, also admitting and not being ashamed of your higher power being God

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  Місяць тому

      I'm so glad the daily practice has been helpful! Thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy

  • @tomtbi
    @tomtbi Місяць тому +7

    Unfortunately I am a master at Black And White thinking... Sad😢...

  • @carolynhannaford7382
    @carolynhannaford7382 Місяць тому +1

    Maybe not the right video for me to ask this. I would like to understand why I have difficulty learning how to just “sit still.” Any advice?
    I’m on cusp feeling good-yet still old traumas invade me. Thank you 🙏

  • @lorrainericciardi7479
    @lorrainericciardi7479 Місяць тому

    I can SO relate. This is SO me.

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  Місяць тому

      Thank you for watching! Hope you will find help here.
      Nika@TeamFairy

  • @rhinoskin7550
    @rhinoskin7550 5 днів тому

    Lol I always feel overwhelmed, alone, and, scared. I'm starting to get used to it but people don't like me and we need people to survive. I'm broke and alone. No help. A man is supposed to do all this alone anyway before society would even accept him.

  • @carolynhannaford7382
    @carolynhannaford7382 Місяць тому

    Hi Crappy CH Fairy, how do you do it? Anything can be a trigger. Here I’m in recovery for the outside bandages, and the true healing you reveal be removing those same confines I put myself in. Gosh I would love to talk to you!
    New grateful fan
    Thanks, Anna 🙏

  • @heatherc760
    @heatherc760 20 днів тому

    Question regarding eating disorders- how many older people who are finally realizing their cptsd , and dealing with older age (there’s no hope for me now) begin having eating disorders??

  • @jonathanbarone4708
    @jonathanbarone4708 17 днів тому

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @everybodysayparty
    @everybodysayparty Місяць тому

    Currently struggling seeing my family member doing something I disagree with. I feel horribly misunderstood with friends I opened up about it. How do I regulate myself, currently struggling so hard 🥺

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  Місяць тому

      One good tool to help with getting regulated is the Daily Practice. You can try it in the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice. If you want to go deeper, Anna has a whole course on Healing Childhood PTSD: bit.ly/CCF_HCPTSD
      Nika@TeamFairy

  • @ChiChi-kz8bw
    @ChiChi-kz8bw 8 днів тому

    Is 12 steps only for alcoholism? Or it can help with CPTSD ?

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  7 днів тому

      The 12 Step approach helps addicts and people in PTSD recovery too.
      Nika@TeamFairy

  • @monalletinie143
    @monalletinie143 Місяць тому +2

    Hello Anna, I just wanted to ask if you would be okay if i sent an ask the fairy letter about a same sex relationship? It's just that every video I've seen all the cases are from straight couples, most likely because well most humans are straight I guess 😂 but I'm a lesbian and I could really use your help. But i don't want to bother you so i hope I get your confirmation before sending it. I hope you see this comment

  • @jac1161
    @jac1161 Місяць тому +3

    Yes,,,,YES. I can totally tell when a guy uses porn. They don't make eye contact, they are usually very cold, distant, awkward, not romantic, boring energy, really obvious. Not deep, apathetic, depressed. I, as a nurse used to "help" them to recovery. NO MORE. here is a link to help, you have my pryers, and goodbye.

    • @Marlena5227
      @Marlena5227 Місяць тому +2

      My husband's use of porn damaged our marriage. Desire was for him to control. He had CPTSD and didn't know it. His was more pronounced than mine. He couldn't handle any intimacy and had trouble with trust. He became more insensitive and crass with porn use -- all print media. His behaviors in business and sense of professionalism was good. Structure and rules held him in place. It was like Dr Jekyl and Mr Hide. As I began to change and get healing, he looked at himself and our relationship differently. He really didn't like what he was doing to himself but needed professional help to understand a better way of living. This is additionally tough to overcome in today's culture. Morals are all but gone and accessibility of porn is rampant. Ads are explicit and prolific featuring sexual attitudes. One must exercise choices and pass on certain stuff.

    • @-sidjfd
      @-sidjfd Місяць тому

      Some of these are just traits of being autistic and not inherent to porn use
      I don’t support porn use in any way but don’t judge autistic people for struggling to outwardly express their emotions, being awkward or making poor eye contact
      Not an easy life

    • @Marlena5227
      @Marlena5227 Місяць тому +1

      @-sidjfd Who are you addressing? Is this a diagnosis? For whom? There is obsessive compulsive behavior that leads to greater issues of unhealth. Mood altering can be done through self- medication or sexual activity that only adds to the problem. Intimacy is built on trust with a sustained level of caring. When this bonding process is disrupted, only understanding, modeling, and respectful boundary lines over time begin to change behavior. This indicates the need for a trained professional. It's a positive and truthful human interaction that validates a person's life. Cognitive issues born of bi-bolarism, for example, have specific remedies beyond issues of behavior. We are complicated humans.

  • @zachwang7153
    @zachwang7153 Місяць тому +2

    Great to see we have some male representation in this channel. Would you have some book recommendations for us to read on our own?

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  Місяць тому +2

      Glad you are here! Here are Anna's books recommendations (great for all genders): crappychildhoodfairy.com/resources/
      Nika@TeamFairy

  • @lindao7887
    @lindao7887 29 днів тому

    Are you a doctor or have a degree in something?

  • @NotMePlease1
    @NotMePlease1 Місяць тому

    Where can I read what you read to prepare for this video?
    Have you ever heard of Psychology being manipulated to gain an end by a racial group?

  • @MendelFarkas-yc7gk
    @MendelFarkas-yc7gk Місяць тому

    Thank you, I appreciate every single!! Keep on going!!!

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  Місяць тому

      Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy

  • @ameliamorningstar
    @ameliamorningstar Місяць тому +1

    such a helpful video, thank you! I am working on these behaviours and making progress 🫶