EMOTIONAL EFFIE/LIFE UPDATE (VLOGTOBERISH) | Estée Lalonde
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Take care of yourself ❤️
Its ok Effie, I feel like I too need a coat that says nervous.
ME TOO
Same here
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Girl same
I always use a Life Grid - get a piece of paper and divide it into 9. Write in the centre what the most important ascept of your life is, for me it's spirituality. Then fill the others in with things like Alone Time, Work, Friends and Family, Romatic Relationships, Exercise, Creativity etc etc anything that is important to you, then bullet point under each one things to do to fill that Cup. For example under friends and family I'll write 'ring mum', 'have dinner with a friend'. I pin it somewhere I'll see it and when I'm having a wobble I'll look at the grid and see what cup I've let get too low and do some of the bullet points. I hope this helps someone! ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing. I am going to create one for myself. Sending gratitude and love.
I’m honestly happy that Effie was blessed to be adopted by you. You recognize the nervousness/anxiety you feel as a human and how hard it is to navigate through it all. A vulnerable, sweet dog like Effie has you to patiently guide her through her nervousness/anxiety. You understand her and love her and she understands and loves you. I think that’s why it’s hard for you to see her struggle. You understand what it feels like at times.
Another awful owner would give the dog away if they aren’t coming around quick enough. Effie is so lucky to have you!
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Same! Every time I see Effie I feel good and grateful that she has a loving home and the most amazing mom who showers her with so much love and care.
Just so you know Estée, every time you said “I’m sure you guys don’t care about this”, I thought to myself “I totally care about this” 💖 you’re a gorgeous person and we love hearing what you have to say (even about parking! 😂) xx
lol aww thank you
I've been watching you for YEARS now, have always been a 'silent watcher' in that i've never commented etc but have never missed a video. Since way before essie's bookshelf, the original empties videos and the rest. Just felt the need to comment and say that even if you're just talking about car spaces in London, we still want to know and love watching regardless. You're a light in this weird internet world!
That’s how I feel! I could listen to her talk about anything and everything ☺️💕
I so agree ❤️❤️❤️
I fourth this comment! 🥰
I would so much rather spend time watching a vlog about a real person’s experience than with the chirpy ones who always tell me to have an amazing day, organize refrigerators and pantries and closets, and always seem happy. I can’t relate. Most days are tough to get through, not amazing. I appreciate hearing about your real life. Thank you. I can relate.
You’re the best mum getting a car to take her to the countryside. She will be so happy!
Also thank you so much for being so vulnerable. I can relate so much and I know so many others will as well ❤️❤️❤️ Sending love back to you xxx
Yea Effie lucked out with her adoptive mom for sure!
This was such a raw and classic Essie vid. When you started talking about the man and his son and his dog and feeling what they felt, I felt that so much. When you lose your first dog it is just the biggest fracture in your heart. I thought I could never get another one, but I hardly made it a month before my love was bursting out and needing an outlet. I appreciated how honest you were here and thought you should know that years and years after stumbling onto you and watching religiously for at least 5 years, and then kind of pulling back because I felt like you were living in a way that was inaccessible to me (no shade, I just didn’t find myself connecting with your content for a bit. Like a friendship, a little ebb and flow), it’s nice to know that I still feel that connection with the more grown up version of you. That being said, I can still not afford the skincare, clothing, and products you buy, haha.
omg girl i really feel u, i stopped watching estee because simplu i cannot afford her style of living in ldn
Its actually nice to see how many of us are starting to reconnect with her, once again. I too stopped watching a few years back, and this week I rediscovered her vlogs and it felt like the good ol days. I no longer can afford the products, but yet it remind me of the vlogs of the beginning. ♥️
The best advice I've ever had on negative self talk is to talk to yourself like you were talking to your friend. Part of being a good friend is compassionate and constructive honesty.
I can so feel you on everything you said, it could have been me saying it. You did make me cry into my porridge this morning but it’s so reassuring, so thank you for sharing as I know it’s hard to do online. Sending love and hugs ❤️
Currently crying into my coffee!!!
Before you even mentioned reconnecting to your YT audience I was thinking that this is the most connected I’ve felt to you in a long time. You had me in tears about your experiences today, both about the pets and bullying yourself. It hit home so hard, and I truly appreciate you being so open about your experiences with these things. At the end of the day, we’re just all just humans trying to live happy lives with our dogs, right? Sending love and strength, girl!
I also just turned 30. And I’m also feeling it.
I felt the same. I actually commented on her last vlog saying that it looked like she was no longer excited about vlogging but this one's been so emotional and raw ❤️ I guess being on the internet for 10+ years you have your ups and downs.
We adopted Vincent (Effie’s pal from a vlog earlier this year) and it has been a struggle. He was extremely anxious in the beginning (just moderately anxious now...🤣) but I can’t count the amount of times I’ve sat and broken down because I’ve felt I’m not good enough to help him. But, even though there’s a lot to work on we’re getting there and we do what we can in the moment because that’s all you can ask of yourself. These doggos are a work in progress, just like us. Remember how amazing you feel when she does make progress, because she has. You’re an amazing dog mum 🥰
I’m in the same situation now, adopted a doggie in April and she is so afraid of everything. It’s good to know that there is hope for us ❤️
sending you a big huge huggggg! your doing great sweetie, awareness is growth. also so appreciate the realness in the vlogs x
Would someone mind explaining this trend of typing all in lowercase? I don't get it. Cheers
Zainab Kauroo who cares?
“Oh.. Estee”.. This was all relatable in so many ways. So many emotions, and I felt every one of them! Effie is lucky to have you, the same way, I know you feel just as lucky to have her. Dogs are such a comfort when we need them most. It broke my heart to see you cry, all the while, tears were rolling down my cheeks. I wanted to give you a hug and tell you everything will be ok. You’re so beautiful (even when you cry) and have such a warm and caring heart. Much love to you and your Effie ♥️
I’m 64 and have been in therapy for the same issue for 10 years and still continuing to work on myself. Hang in there! It’s good you’re taking care of yourself now. ❤️🥰
Isn't it crazy how bad some therapie works? People doing that for 10/15/20 years and still hanging in that. In any other case, you would not do that. Never, ever. Try to find help is a very good thing, but that is not effective.
wow that is a long time. i've been for around 3 years in therapy and it confused me more than it helped. i feel like it is better to trust my own sense. i hope you will get better and do not give up on yourself!
@@hundredeight sometimes i think, to talk to a person that you don't know is a better thing than talk to a friend, but when you can't see any progress in such a crazy long time, you should even think about change the person. Maybe. It's very Personal. I know. Have a great day ✌️
“It is both a blessing and a curse to feel everything so very deeply”.
You will find your way back. Sending love 🧡✨
Estée, I had a difficult dog for 17 years. Eventually, things get into a routine where you already know how it "works" and everything will be easier.
Effie will be fine, she is fine. She just needs love and patience.
And that, I know you have plenty of it.
You are very lucky to have each other.
Much love to you.
Thanks a lot for doing vlogtober-ish, it helps a lot is this gloomy context !
Hélène ❤ et merci à toi pour ta story sur le couvre-feu! Merci pour ta chaîne, pour tous ce que tu fais.
Caretaker for an extremely nervous, shy, upset dog here. Adopted her 10 years ago in January. It does get better. For us, it took years, but it gets better.
I think Effie was put into your life for a reason and I think you’re both so lucky to have each other. You’ll both get through this. Sending love to you guys.
This is me, sitting in my apartment in Canada, asking you to accept the love and positive vibes I’m sending your way 🤍 Even though we only see a few minutes of your day, you are not alone and have people in your corner all over the world. This too shall pass and I feel like what you and Effie are growing through together is part of why your souls met. It wouldn’t surprise me if Reggie sent her your way because he knew that of all the people in the universe, you were capable of helping Effie heal. Lots of love xx
I have my ex husband's dog and he used to be the THE MOST NERVOUS dog in the world. Scared of everything and everyone. He is still shy and afraid of certain things - loud noises, umbrellas, paper towels, hats...just lots! But over the last 6 years, he has improved SO MUCH. It's only been in the last month that he will roll onto his back and let me scratch his belly. He actually slept on his back the other night with his feet in the air! What a sign of comfort and trust. It takes time and patience, but you're doing a wonderful thing! These babies need us!
Hello Estée. I just wanted to say that you are an incredible dog mama to both Reggie and Effie. With Reggie it’s was so easy to see how much you adored him and gave him the best life with unconditional pure love. With Effie you understand and empathy with her past and doing an amazing job trying to find the supports that are needed for her emotional well being going forward. As proud dog mama myself paws up to you lol.
Lots of love from London Ontario Canada.
Appreciate it so much
My therapist told me something that helped a lot with self talk. “How do you treat your friends?” “Would you tell your best friend the mean things you tell yourself?” You are so empowering to your friends and you lift them up. Think of those questions next time you start negative self talk.
My dog is just like Effie. She’s almost 9 and we have seen so many specialists. It’s been super stressful and heartbreaking. She hates to walk, is terrifies of new things and people. Getting her out of the car is a struggle and she’s an American bulldog mix...super strong. She is who she is and we try our best to support her as we go day to day. Glad you are loving her and understanding her needs. That’s the most importing thing.
I was kind of teary eyed during the whole video, but at a certain moment I completely lost it. Yesterday I had to say goodbye to my dog of 12 years and I honestly am at a loss. I didn't really know what to do with myself, so I decided to watch your vlog, because I've watched you for years and remembered your videos about losing Reggie and I thought "if I watch something today, it's gonna be by somebody who knows what I'm going through" and then you mentioned pet loss...if this isn't a cosmic coincidence, I don't know what it is then. Thank you for your words Estée, they didn't stop the tears I have been shedding for days, but at least they felt like a warm hug. All my love to you and your wonderfully sweet Effie. xx
MsJu92 big hug to you! Your dog was blessed to have you 💛
@@melimevivzla thank you
hugs for you 💜💜💜
So sorry for your loss. Lost my sweet girl 2 years ago and it still feels like it just happened. You never get over it but it gets better. Sending hugs and prayers your way. 💕
I have been there too and understand your loss. Practice selfceare and self love and allow yourself to feel your emotions. Grief takes time to heal, but you will. Knowing others have gone through it allows you not to feel so alone and you find comfort. xo
Overwhelm is the abundance we asked for. I heard this from a podcast recently and it has been so beneficial to approach my anxiety around being overwhelmed this way. Take care of yourself and take it easy, Estee! ❤
What’s the podcast! Sounds lovely ✨
Which podcast has been helping you? X
Wow that's actually such a great way to put ti! Would also love to know in which podcast you heard that.
podcast?
@@jasminetombs2599 It was the Jasmine Star Podcast, ladies!
I think getting Effie into the country will definitely help! We just got an 8 month old dog 2 months ago, he's very similar to Effie, high anxiety and terrified of everything and everyone. We found that he really enjoys hikes, he walks with his tail up and wagging. Hikes are perfect because we would pass dogs and people infrequently, the interactions would be brief, and once they passed he would have the whole woods to himself again to calm down and compose himself. We gradually took him to more popular hiking spots to get more used to it. Now that he's good on hikes, he's getting better at walking on the sidewalk too, with fewer incidents. I think it's important to give them an environment where they feel comfortable and confident walking, and gradually that will help them walk in more crowded and noisy places. I wish you and Effie luck!!!!
Estee, We are the same age and you are a huge inspiration to me. To me, I see you as such a beautiful woman, who embraces her womanhood with such honor and grace. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable and know that you are a shining light. ♥️🤗 I think you are a superstar but it’s comforting in a loving way that you too are on a journey because girl me too!! You are not alone, but keep believing in yourself because you are truly a beautiful treasure and have such a special voice in this world:)
We had to say goodbye to our doggie yesterday and your talk about how hard it is to lose a furry family member is exactly what I needed to hear. It made me feel less alone so thank you for that ♥️
I always wonder if nervousness was genetic or your "early" environment. I wonder how scared poor little Effie was until she was lucky enough to fall into your loving hands. You are the best mom she could have possibly ever gotten. Someone who loves and truly cares for her. So happy you decided to adopt and not shop
Yes! My dog is incredibly nervous and deals with sever anxiety and I think a huge factor is being removed from her mother too early. We found her abandoned alone.
Hannah Lawrence my cat is the same way - was found all alone at just 4 weeks old and he’s very curious but also his own shadow gives him anxiety ❤️.
I have finally come to realize, that I have anxiety and that I have had anxiety my entire life. I just moved to a new home and this has really shaken me. It doesn’t feel like home yet, it’s messy and there is a lot of renovation, that needs to be done. At the same time my cat has an ear problem going on month 4 and I feel like everything is too much right now. Some days I hardly eat anything and other days I eat crap food. I live on my own and sometimes I really wish I had a partner to lean on and share my worries with. This video really resonated with me and I immediately knew, that I had to say thank you. Thank you for being so open and honest and allowing us to see the hard times and for you to show us the vulnerability, that most of us prefer to hide. Thank you, Estée, for being you. Effie may have a lot of issues, but she is so lucky, that you are her mum, and please know that you are doing everything you can to help her. Sending you lots of love and positive thoughts.
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I just think out of all the mom's Effie could be with, you're the best for her. She came into your life for a reason. A lesson for her, you and the world. Sending lots of love your way. xo
I believe dogs are here to teach us what we need to learn at that moment in our life. Effie just needs a lot of love and patience and you deserve the same amount of love from yourself.
I just lost my dog 3 months ago and I think I would have never went to a doctor and adressed my anxiety if it wasn't for her. ❤️
As someone who has literally just adopted a dog, I felt this on such a strong level. When you said "I don't know who needs to hear this today..." It was me. I absolutely needed to hear this. I have been so insensitive to myself. I haven't been working out lately because my gym is closed and I have a small apartment and man, I have been so cruel to myself about body changes. I'm going to work on it.
But even with my new puppy I needed to hear it. It's SO hard to raise a dog! In NYC, I'm unable to take my dog outside for three more weeks until she is 16 weeks old because she needs her shots. And it's so hard to exist in such a small place, as well as learning the entire routine of another being. It's hard, but it's so worth it, and I know we're giving her a good life.
Chin up, tits out. Thanks, Estée!
I’m very much in the same boat! I’ve had my nervous pup for about six months, and I feel pretty stuck in my small Philly apartment because of her separation anxiety. Thank you for your comment!
Hang in there este ! Lots of love from the west coast❤❤❤
@@daniellea1044 Yes! It can be so hard at times. Our pup doesn't have separation anxiety too badly, but she's a puppy biter, and WOW does it test your emotions at times! I've felt like a failure so many times... But then we will have a small win, where she does her training well, and listens, and it's all worth it. Best of luck to you and your pupper, friend!
Do they make coats that say nervous for people? Asking for a friend 😂
lol i think we have the same friend ;)
If you think about this frase: " I did what I could on that moment" It helps a lot, because you did what you could with the tools and energy that you had on that moment. Next day may be better, or not but if you keep trying there comes the gold ;)
Bea AR I will try to remember this when I’m struggling! I’m going through quite a health battle and I’m SO hard on myself some days. Thank you friend ❤️
thank you for this ❤️
@@thread_witch Sending you love ❤
@@MsNovier Sending love on your direction❤
All I could think when I was watching this is how Lucky Effie is to have you as her mama. I don't want to imagine how badly it could have been for her if she ended up in different hands with all of her unique needs. You are a very special woman, and you are enough. Your best is enough, and YOU are enough, Estée 🤗
You are a true empath Estee. I hurt deeply also. I would have been sobbing with you at the vets seeing that father and son. A lot of us feel this way. Never apologize for having this overwhelming gift of compassion and empathy. People cannot learn this, it is ingrained in you and its a blessing for those of use who feel so much. Even though it hurts like hell. Love to you and Effie. I personally am so grateful to those of you creators who grow with this platform and choose to share such intimate snippets into your life and real struggles. We are all there with you. xo❤🧡💛💚💙💜
What helps me a lot to accept that we eventually lose our loved pets, is that thankfully, because they live shorter than us, we can take care of them well. They rely on us so much. Sending lots of love ❤️
I adopted my dog Stanley one year ago tomorrow, so I've been watching your videos and Instagram really feeling like we were on this journey together. He is also an incredibly nervous dog, it took me months and a whoooole lot of chicken to get him to even walk down the street, and he still walks exactly like Effie does. He's extremely reactive to other people and other dogs and it has honestly been so difficult, so much harder than I ever imagined, so I'm sending you love and hope both Effie & Stanley are more confident little dogs soon! ❤️
I adopted a dog end of June 2020 and I had EXACTLY the same thoughts and feelings about going through this alone like you do ... All the burdens are for you, no one there to take over for a moment ... It confronted me with my loneliness A LOT.
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I so appreciated hearing this, Estee! I'm single, live alone, and adopted my sweet pup around the same time you got Effie. He has serious separation anxiety that we have yet to curb. I love him endlessly, and he has changed my life in so many ways, but it is a STRUGGLE. Followed you for years and this is my first time commenting because this resonated so hard. You've got this!
same here. single, living alone and raising a puppy while in a apartment. I knew it was going to be hard, i did not know just how hard it would be to not have anyone to lean on (especially with covid going on). what i wouldn't give to have someone walk him in the late evening when i've had a shit day and just want to stay inside in my pjs?!
we have issues around seperation anxiety too. He cant be home alone. I am currently unemployed, so i do stay home with him. But wow the guilt of "he's 6 months now, he should be able to be home alone. you didnt do enough or you did the wrong thing" (all internal monologue..) and the guilt of not feeling like i have trained him well or even enough times during the day.
oh, and he just had to go on allergy food too, cause he is apparently allergic to poultry.. all the fun
but i also love him to bits
You are the perfect mom for Effie, even on the days you don't feel like it. She needs you and you are loving her so well by having the patience to pursue the resources she needs to feel less anxious in this world! She lucked out to find someone so dedicated. Thank you for being raw and open in this video. Really excited to watch your vlogs coming up and to reconnect with you. Hope you find so much healing and peace in your life coming up ❤️
Oh girl you literally just said everything I’m feeling right now, I cried along with you😭 you were absolutely spreading love with this video and not “just crying”. This is so relatable and I already feel more connected to you, vlogtoberish is awesome so far❤️ LY
PS my home check is approved and I’m on the waitlist to adopt a greyhound, inspired by the beautiful Reggie ❤️
Your introspection about being a bully to your own self is what I have come to realize recently also. For me, it was triggered by this guided meditation that I was doing. The teacher simply said repeat after me, " [your name], I love you." And that did it for me and the flood gate opened. That experience left me in tears cause I realized how mean I was to myself and that I am my biggest bully. Estee, you are NOT alone.
“The world needs more love” I couldn’t agree more! Keep going Estee, like you said the feeling of being overwhelmed is universal and you are not the only one. This video will helps lots of people! Can wait for the rent of the month and more bids to come!
what you said about the inner-critic hit me hard. feel you girl. we'd never say to others the things we say to ourselves. sending love
Soft hearted dog lovers and their doggo friends are my people. ❤️❤️❤️ I lost my Max in February after months of struggle with his old age dementia. Crying with you that those strangers had to say goodbye to their baby.
estee this is probably my favourite vlog you've made to date and i've been here with you since the beginning. thank you for sharing your experience. i've no pity for you, just empathy and a deep appreciation for your courageousness to share this in the way you have. you said you're sharing it for the people it will resonate with, well it resonates here. i feel seen by you and i see you too, girl. thank you. big love to you. and on the days you feel that you're not being enough for effie, remember you have nothing but love for her and gave her a home and love which is what she needed most - and that in itself is enough. lots of love estee. x
Hey estee.. just wanna let you know you’re not alone. I’ve been living with a nervous, anti social dog for 12 years now, and at certain points i somehow just accepted the fact that he won’t ever be completely ‘nervous free’ and be that model perfect dog i see online. Don’t let those behavioral issues get to you too deep. As long as effie feels safe, happy, and comfortable with you, you can work it out. ❤️❤️ and maybe she doesn’t need total fixing at all. She just needs you to accept her for who she is.
I used to be like this when I went through a break up and then I realised one day - why am I being so harsh when I’m upset? I started talking to myself as if I was a friend of mine and it helped so much. You are doing your best, and you’re doing great xxx
This one touched my soul. The world has been so heavy lately 😩 You are such a light in these hard times. Thank you for opening up. Thinking of you and little miss Effie! You got this, Estée! ♥️
Effie is so so lucky to have such a loving and supportive mom. I truly hope things look up for you and that you’re able to show yourself the kindness you deserve (because you DO deserve it!)
Omg why am I crying too 😭 we love you Estée, there’s no one like you and your videos. I am so happy you shared these feelings with your audience, I know so many of us can relate 💕
Hi! Just wanted to share my experience with nervous dogs to give you some hope and tell you that she will get there!! I used to volunteer at a shelter and found the perfect dog for my in laws, although this dog was very nervous. He had endured horrible things in the past and just couldn’t go outside because he was terrified of every noise. He was scared of new people too trembling when someone other than me or my in-laws got close to him. It was not an easy journey, it took two years but he finally got there and now can even be off the leash in the park with people around! I got my dog in Cambodia, she was a street dog with no sense of being an inside dog, she was terrified of people especially men (god knows what happened to her). She would bark and growl at anyone coming in the apartment, just out of pure fear. When we moved back to France a few months later, it took her a few extra months to understand that people weren’t actually bad and could give her a lot of love! She is still nervous in certain situations (when something unusual is on street etc.) but improved so much. The key word is time. I know it can be frustrating but some dogs just take longer than others and all you can give them is time to adjust even if it means a couple of years ! You can see that she is happy with you in the apartment and loves you very much, and eventually I’m sure she will be less nervous outside! Anyway, sending you and Effie lots of love ❤️
I have a Formosan mountain dog rescued from Taiwan, we’ve had her for 2 years. She is exactly like Effie! We kept our car for a long time specifically for taking our dog out to these huge off leash places, completely understand your struggles. We’re also considering Prozac for our pup and a “nervous” jacket. We’ve also worked with so many trainers and gotten so much advice but it’s hard.
It’s difficult being a dog mom of a nervous dog because a lot of people don’t understand all of their quirks and I’ve found some people can be quite judgmental if they’ve only ever had a “normal” dog.
Hang in there! You’re doing an amazing job with her!
Estee I 100% understand you when you say you understand what you need to be doing to maintain good mental hygiene, but for whatever reason cannot be consistent. It's so hard. Working out and staying physically active is one of those things for me but my anxiety lately has kept me from feeling well rested enough to go to the gym in the morning, and in the evening by the time work is over all I want to do is veg rather than go on a walk or a bike ride. It's funny how we get stuck in these unhealthy cycles. You're not alone!
We have a very nervous wee dog, he is now 11 years old, it gets better honestly. We made adjustments for his nervousness. He is now more manageable and even more lovable. Just remember she is still very young, and definitely with time she will improve.xxxx
So happy to have found your channel so many years ago. Your authenticity and honesty has always been something I admire and relate to. Keep on being such a bright human in this world, girl. You are needed.
My city in norway has rental cars you can rent from your neighbours, maybe not as easy now with covid. But could be worth looking into as you wouldn't have to pay for insurance and everything else.
Or regular station-based or free-floating carsharing :) I use that to drive outside of the city to destinations that I can’t reach with my bike or public transportation easily! :)
Show yourself the same compassion and patience and nurturing you show to beautiful Effie. That inner critic even though annoying is trying to protect you, even she needs to be shown some love and just to hear I hear you but I’m doing the best I can. Thank you for being so vulnerable!
When you said 'i don't know who needs to hear this today but stop' , talking about being mean to yourself, I had a cry. I have been so hard on myself this year (gained weight during the pandemic, not feeling like I'm making enough progress in my job, etc) and I can't stop being tougher on myself than I literally ever have before. It's such a journey to getting self esteem back when it's just completely disappeared :(
This was so relatable. My dog is also a rescue who came from an unconventional background in rural Australia. He has so much love to give us but is so afraid of other people, cars and roads. It is one of the most emotionally challenging things we have had to deal with, please don't feel alone in this experience. Thank you for your words on being kind to ourselves it is what I needed in so many aspects of my life. Sending love from lockdown in Melbourne. x
Omg Effie having to wear a jacket that says ‘nervous’ 🥺🥺🥺 she’s already transformed so much, can’t wait to keep watching the sweet girl’s progress
I will deffo cry when I put it on her for the first time haha
Awe Estée. Being a single dog mom of a “difficult” dog is tough. She’s so lucky you’re her mom. There is actually a great community of reactive dog owners on tik tok that talk a lot about their experiences. A lot of people can relate ❤️
When you opened up about your struggles i started crying because i m going through tough times too. Lots of love for you! Thank you for being an amazing person! ❤
Girl I feel ya on this blog in every way. I've been pushing myself with school, work, an elderly parent and a boyfriend with cancer. My dog also has some social issues but we muddle through it. At the end of the day I feel like there isnt anyone anything left for me. Like I'm empty. The last 2 days I've spent in bed just depressed. I dont want to do anything but sleep. I know ive got to shake this off. I hope we can both get through this little time period in our lives and be happier. 🙏
This one hit different! I too adopted a dog and she’s very nervous in the city! She freaks at any loud noises which are basically constant- she’ll freeze and cower in any door frame she can find. I’ve learned to just be patient with her. I also live alone so I get that there’s no one else that can take the doggie out! I suffer from anxiety+depression and the “inner critic” as well - it always helps when others share their experiences so thank you 💖
Just knowing that I’m not alone with anxiety and depression is so comforting. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us 😊 not medicated or medicated - as long as you are happy and well in your mind, that is all that matters! X
Estee is one of the realest people on the internet, thanks for keeping it real with us
Such a relief to hear someone talk about their own self-critic. Hope you feel better soon Estée! You’re such an inspiration
Effie is the cutest and so brave! She’s progressed so much ⭐️
You’re a great pupper mama, thank you for saving her and thank you for the vlogs 💖
Really felt you in this, specially when you talked about the son with his dad and dog. I lost my horse in May, after having her for 16 years, and I still cry about her, I still have her daughter, and it is so good and hard at the same time because I Get reminded of the soulmate I lost and the heartbreak never goes away. Thank you for sharing with us, you are soo incredible, and I always Get so happy watching ur videos❤️
Thanks for sharing all the ups and downs with us. It definitely helps viewers who are also going through that (eg. the hard parts that come with adopting a pup, anxiety, depression, losing a pet) not only feel less alone but also be educated (for a lack of a better word) on new ways to try and overcome it. So thanks Estée. You’re a good egg.
You being so transparent is helping hundreds so thank you for being willing to pull back the veil and share. 💕
Estée I love when you get real with us. I’ve been feeling so down and overwhelmed lately and hearing you talk about how you feel made me feel less alone. Thank you! Thank you for being you!! I love you and your videos!!
Your not alone! I totally understand how you feel! We adopted a rescue who is shy and reactive, and I struggle with anxiety! My trainer told me that he can sense how I’m feeling, and that my anxiety can effect him. It’s important to realize that you prioritizing your mental health can actually help in Effies progress! Side note, good luck on your training, it’s hard sometimes because it’s easy to get jealous of the people with social outgoing dogs, but I’ve learned I have to advocate for my dog, make space for him, and continue to challenge him, he’s definitely making me a stronger person!
I’ve been watching you for years Estée and just wanted to say what an inspiration you have always been 💛 I’ve been really struggling with my mental health//being extra critical to myself and hearing you talk so openly about MH/anxiety is so inspiring.. sending lotsa love and light ✨
This resonated with me. When you said it was just you, like there's no one here to pick up the slack. Felt. That. And when you talked about being mean to yourself... my therapy homework for this past week was literally to write down my negative self talk and. Man. This chick (me) is So Mean.
It is hard and it is a process. But we are doing the work!
We talk to ourselves in ways that we would never talk to a friend. And I hear you....I’m mean to myself!
@@kelson63100 when I write it down it becomes so much more clear, how viscous it is. You're right. I'd never speak to someone I cared about that same way.
😭😭😭so many feels coming from someone with a dog that has aggression issues. Thank you for sharing the struggle!
Also, your description of being critical and then being sad because you are being mean to yourself is so spot on! It’s so tiring!
You are the best dog owner I have ever encountered in life, thanks to you and Reggie I learned to love my little chihuahua the way she deserves and that has brought so much joy to my life. Also I am so happy you are doing terapy! I had struggled with self criticism, anxiety, sadness, fear, etc. for long, terapy has made a huge difference and helped so so much! We’ll get through all and love and be kind to ourselves cuz we are working on it and we deserve to be happy aswell ♥️♥️
Gosh that's so nice xxx
Oh MAN, Estee. I have so been there, and it's SO HARD to be kind to oneself!!! My expectations for myself are so high and I will NEVER reach that bar I've set for myself. Doing the work to re-adjust my perspective is an every day challenge, and it NEVER goes away!!
Watching these a month later but Estee your videos bring me so much peace and grounding. Your vulnerability reminds me that we’re all human. I’m so thankful for you
Sending loads of love darling xxxx
I have a dog with aggression/behavioural issues and it has been a long journey. It can feel really lonely and stressful because it's something most people aren't really experienced in, although many think they are. So much unsolicited advice! This stressful adapting time is the hardest, and the challenges may never pass (not every dog is going to be a friendly, happy, easy dog) but how you feel about them will shift! You'll become intuitive about what Effie needs, you'll develop systems for coping with it, and in the end it builds a thick skin and a specific competence that probably wouldn't have existed otherwise. You're doing great, Effie seems happy with you, and luckily you have access to many resources. I'm so thankful for my challenging pupper, and even though I am often jealous of the easy relationships other people have with their dogs, I also can't deny the bond I've built with mine BECAUSE he required so much focus and dedication. Sending you good vibes and a bunch of support!
I would LOVE to hear more about your experience with Effie and raising a rescue pup. I am in the process of researching dogs, and it's so good hear real life perspectives on some of the challenges that rescue dogs can bring. It's clear that you love Effie so much but that doesn't mean that it's not still hard everyday!
My puppy gets very nervous when going outside, sometimes she will freeze and not walk at all. She's also afraid of other dogs so, going to the park can be very difficult for her. I feel you so much. As dog mom's we just want our babies to be happy and enjoy themselves. It's hard seeing them struggling. I send you my best wishes, Effie's a sweetheart and I'm sure she will overcome everything, she has a great mom. Hang in there. We are all in this together.
Been feeling this too at the moment. I’ve felt myself getting close to the “edge” at times recently... trying to stay kind to myself. Sending love 💕
I appreciate how real you are as a UA-camr despite your success and also sharing about your inner critic. This is something everyone deals with. Something I've learned is that the inner critic voice usually means well... It's trying to take care of you using the best methods it can to convince you. There's a lot to that, for sure. ❤️
Girl, this vlog hit home for me. I'm 5 years into having a rescue dog with severe separation anxiety, have worked with several behaviorists and tried all kinds of meds and training protocols. She's made some progress but it's still a daily struggle. I always say this dog has ruined my (social) life, but I wouldn't have it any other way because the love is deep.
You work so hard to make Effies life better and you deserve so much recognition for that!!!! You’re doing amazing!
I have two dogs and I dread the day, dread it I can’t even comprehend it in my head. Your video about reggie made me and my mum cry so much. Dogs are too good for people ❤️
Gosh I'm such a mess when it comes to dogs
Don't even think about it would be my advice. Enjoy every single second
M Nastri truly are, I’ll sometimes look at mine and burst into tears I feel so blessed to have them ❤️
the year 2020 just need to be over. sending you positive vibes and a big hug. you are a great person and effie couldn't be happier to have you.
Hey Estée, I'm not sure you're going to read this, but in case you do: a couple of years ago I met a dog behavior coach called Marco Adda. He told me about his work and anyway, I don't have a dog myself, but he seemed to have a really interesting approach. He worked a lot with street dogs in Bali and he also told me that he helps autistic children socialize by having them interact with certain dogs. I thought that was amazing. Anyway, in case you're interested, I think he has a website and even a podcast. Good luck on your quest to helping Effie feel less anxious!! You're awesome!
Dear Estée. Hello from the Czech Republic. Thanks to you I´ve been learning English....I love your videos. I´ve been watching your videos for many years. I´m very sensitive person and suffer from anxiety. Last year I didn´t manage it and broke down mainly because I was too hard on myself (I hope my English is understandable). I admire you. Inspite of your feelings and anxiety you live your life. You have your own flat, job, interesting life....you are a hero for me. I turned 34 this September. I lost my job, live back with my parents, have no boyfriend and I need to/want to get back on my feet. I feel so lonely and lost. I would love to be your friend and take your dog for walks....that´s what I love to. I have to sort out what to do with my life and where to start. Walking, fresh air and people like you makes me happy. Send you Love
I understand the struggles of having and loving a very nervous dog. I have never heard anyone really speak about it. This really resonated with me. Wishing you and Effie all the best x you are a good pup mum 🐶 ❤
My dog had behavioral issues & he improved so much.. while I lost him unexpectedly today, I want you to know it’s an amazing feeling when their behavior improves. Even if it’s baby steps. His was more aggressive towards strangers but that was due to nervousness.
It took a while but he was doing so well. Keep keeping on. There are good days & bad days. &’that’s ok. There are even online support groups to just vent to people that go through similar things. It helps a lot. This video helped me a lot since I’m in a pretty dark place.
I have another dog & I’m holding her tight &’we are rooting for you 2! Thank you for being a lovely distraction. Keeps me sane💜
Been following you for a while. It's refreshing to see you more human, real, honest and vulnerable. Thank you for sharing more with us in a way to remind us all that we are all human and that we all have our personal, cultural, physical, mental struggles no matter what job we have, age, race, sex etc. Love the fact you had such an honest open chat with us with a sticky face mask! Like it's so sweet and cool at the same time. #beyou . Also as a yoga teacher I totally understand why you cried and got in touch with yourself. It's so much more than acrobatics and instagram photos. It's a pratice of true awarness and connectivity. With yourselves and the world. Sending you lot's of love from Portugal. You got this xxx and yes keeping going to yoga
I think it is a great that you open up about the challenges and reality of having a very anxious dog. I also have a 1 year old anxious rescue dog from Mexico, and altough he is making some progress, it is definitely not easy to deal with ! And there are these days where I feel like he is regressing and it can be super frustrating. Effie is lucky to have such a devoted mom !