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  • @laurenelloise
    @laurenelloise  2 роки тому +134

    Who pays the bill anyway? WRONG answers only. P.S. HAPPY PRIDE MONTH 🌈 whether you’re out of the closet or not, unlabeled, or still questioning, always remember that you are valid. You deserve love. I am proud of you for being who you are. I can't wait for the rest of pride month, I'll be uploading every week with a lgbtq+ themed video!!!

    • @Chanelleopperman
      @Chanelleopperman 2 роки тому +61

      No one you just walk out. It's free

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому +78

      gays eat free

    • @Chanelleopperman
      @Chanelleopperman 2 роки тому

      @@laurenelloise yes gays eat free sounds good to me

    • @tcort
      @tcort 2 роки тому +32

      if you sit at separate tables, you'll get separate bills. problem solved.

    • @Numb_starboy.org11
      @Numb_starboy.org11 2 роки тому +23

      The table pays

  • @LavenderMoon8467
    @LavenderMoon8467 2 роки тому +429

    Today is the first pride month with me fully accepting who I am!!! I am so excited! Happy pride month y’all 🏳️‍🌈🌈🌈🏳️‍🌈!!!!!!!!

  • @CB-lg1pk
    @CB-lg1pk 2 роки тому +154

    When they said "There is no straight answer" I laughed 🤣

    • @Oliver389
      @Oliver389 2 роки тому +7

      Yes I’ve been looking for this comment 😂

  • @serendipity955
    @serendipity955 2 роки тому +195

    So today i finally decided to confess to my best friend that I love her I was so scared that I'll lose my only bestfriend but she actually accepted me this feels like a dream 😭💕

    • @todeepinthefandomd1453
      @todeepinthefandomd1453 7 місяців тому +3

      The wangxian pfp just elevates this. XD
      Hope you worked out!

    • @serendipity955
      @serendipity955 7 місяців тому +3

      @@todeepinthefandomd1453 Her parents ain't cooperative 🥲 seems like even I got myself a Lan qiren 🙂 womp womp

    • @todeepinthefandomd1453
      @todeepinthefandomd1453 7 місяців тому +4

      @@serendipity955 at least she likes you back! ✨

    • @Pizzachan2
      @Pizzachan2 5 місяців тому +1

      ME TOO TZUZZFJGJZUTZZSTUJG

  • @TheSnaqShaq
    @TheSnaqShaq 7 місяців тому +34

    consent is not sexy, it's mandatory. Saying it's sexy kinda makes it seem like it's a plus rather than a requirement.

  • @amityblight6122
    @amityblight6122 2 роки тому +148

    I am a closeted lesbian and these videos are awesome. The make me feel like i am not alone and makes this feel a lot less scary. Happy pride month!🌈

  • @starlit_ivy
    @starlit_ivy 2 роки тому +64

    I remember when I was first figuring my sexuality out in 2020, I looked for a lot of videos on how to tell it your a lesbian, and one of them was yours, I remember watching it and seeing how it all applied to me. You helped me discover myself, and now two years later I’m out and a proud lesbian. Thank you 🏳️‍🌈

  • @TorcjDRAWZ4961
    @TorcjDRAWZ4961 2 роки тому +62

    This is my first Pride month- cause no one has told me about it until last year-
    HAPPY PRIDE MONTH PEEPS 🏳️‍🌈

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому +8

      awww i am so excited for you!! HAPPY FIRST PRIDE 🌈

  • @Thephoenix13
    @Thephoenix13 2 роки тому +20

    One year ago today I found my true self. I’m bisexual. Today June 2nd is my Bi-niversary

  • @eloise481
    @eloise481 2 роки тому +19

    I don't know if you realise how helpful your videos are ! As a question super-baby newborn lesbian, this is just so cool to know some people are here to support and advise you, we need some education and it barely exists so thanks 😇🥰

  • @GentM2015
    @GentM2015 2 роки тому +7

    Been watching for a while now and I am so impressed how incredibly professional you've gotten. You almost seem like the mayor of gayness now lmao.

  • @StabWvndz
    @StabWvndz 2 роки тому +70

    Happy pride month, Lauren!! I hope you enjoy the month and express yourself!! I’m a teenage Pansexual Trans man, and I’ll be attending my first pride parade soon! Thanks for always being there! Have a good day!! 💕🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️⚧

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому +12

      Thank you! and happy pride month to you to! also im so excited for you! you'll love it, there's nothing else that compares to the atmosphere 🏳️‍🌈

  • @valentinawagondeep4955
    @valentinawagondeep4955 8 місяців тому +3

    2:00 i think this should apply to anyone, regardless of sexuality. Even though I've never dated/been in a relationship (i am still a baby gay + young), I never understood how that was a good idea for a first date. As you said, you want to get to know the person and see wether it works out or not. If I were to go on a date i would love to talk and get to know the other person...

  • @i.like.clouds.7591
    @i.like.clouds.7591 2 роки тому +27

    This is my first pride month every and I am very excited!! I do kind of need ideas on what LGBTQ activities I should do (I am still in the closet). But for the first day of pride month the first thing I do is "YES Lauren has another video!" And watch it immediately. Great video and I will definitely use these tips!

    • @carlatabet6884
      @carlatabet6884 2 роки тому +1

      This is my first too!!!!

    • @mushypeas6811
      @mushypeas6811 2 роки тому +2

      Lauren made a video on that a while back about how to celebrate pride in the closet!

  • @briannamay5459
    @briannamay5459 2 роки тому +77

    I'm not gay, I'm a straight transgender girl! Also PRIDE MONTH!!!! LOVEEEEE

  • @Hidadifyouseethis
    @Hidadifyouseethis 8 місяців тому +3

    I am around 15 years old and i have been watching your videos for a year or two before i even found out i was bi. This video was great because i really wanna ask someone on a date. your advice was just the thing i needed tysm i hope to see more videos like this.

  • @maggieo1683
    @maggieo1683 9 місяців тому +4

    This video was helpful for me as I was getting into dating girls a couple years ago! I came back to rewatch it in case there were any tips I forgot, but I don't think there were actually. I'm excited because I matched with a girl on a dating app, and we've been talking nonstop for two days, and I was about to ask her out but she beat me to it! So now it sounds like we're going on a coffee date and I'm looking forward to it!

  • @pricefield6434
    @pricefield6434 2 роки тому +10

    Happy pride month to Lauren and everyone!!🏳️‍🌈So happy to have you back lauren🥺🌈🤍

  • @lovinglife9445
    @lovinglife9445 2 роки тому +16

    My first pride out of the closet, I’ve never felt so proud 🙂🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈

  • @Mayathebeebizz
    @Mayathebeebizz 2 роки тому +14

    My ex's mom is homofobic and we broke up bc I like girls and now she calls me sick and she things I'm not normal and when she sees me she looks at me like I'm a big mistake she brokes my heart... also I'm gonna come out to my crush next Monday and HAPPY PRIDGE MONTH!!!!!

  • @mysterioushoodie8210
    @mysterioushoodie8210 2 роки тому +10

    Yayyy!!! Happy Pride month Lauren! I am a young teen lesbian girl! Have an awesome pride month! Love your videos!

  • @emilybainbridge3533
    @emilybainbridge3533 2 роки тому +5

    I just want to say thank you so much for these videos. I’m a newbie (literally just discovered and subscribed today❤). I don’t have a label as of yet as I’m very new to the journey. I’m 20 and at drama school and there’s a girl on my course I really really like and I’m debating whether to tell her before Christmas break (2 weeks time) ❤
    Your videos are so helpful and valuable and I feel like I’ve found a community xx

  • @benzillamusic
    @benzillamusic 2 роки тому +24

    Happy Pride Month my friend, Incredible video and much love ❤️🙏🌈

  • @SpockRock1701
    @SpockRock1701 Рік тому +1

    oh in the middle of wrath month and overthinking a first date this was really helpful!

  • @arty_527
    @arty_527 2 роки тому +4

    1.20 "there's No straight answer" got me

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому

      ahahahah I’m so glad you noticed that 😂 I noticed when I was editing

  • @Crainiate.
    @Crainiate. 2 роки тому +4

    Happy pride month!!! have been a trans non-binary bi sexual for a while and love the content just went to my first pride parade this year, and LOVED IT!! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 love the education 4 the gays, keep it up

  • @Chanelleopperman
    @Chanelleopperman 2 роки тому +12

    Happy pride month Lauren🏳️‍🌈. So glad you posted. You look stunning have a great day. Always stay you💜

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому +5

      Thank you! You too! 🌈 and look how early you are!!

    • @Chanelleopperman
      @Chanelleopperman 2 роки тому +2

      @@laurenelloise yay for once I am early 😁😁

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому +4

      i almost was going to go to bed and upload in the morning haha glad i didnt!

    • @Chanelleopperman
      @Chanelleopperman 2 роки тому +2

      @@laurenelloise so glad you uploaded now and did not wait till tomorrow 😁

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому +4

      🤗 me too! i didnt think anyone would be awake, i was wrong

  • @somecuber7001
    @somecuber7001 2 роки тому +15

    This is my first relationship and I’m so insecure 😞 thank u for helping me 👌

  • @JayofallTrades
    @JayofallTrades 9 місяців тому +1

    Definitely needed this video. I have lesbian friends but I haven't really dated a lesbian or bi woman myself. I am attracted to any gender as a pansexual but I also haven't been out for very long to really know what is expected or what to discuss. It'll be a group setting which takes some anxiety away but i also don't want to be my awkward anti social self either when first impressions count.

  • @mj8876
    @mj8876 2 роки тому +1

    i´m so happy, this is the second prode month i celebrate, still in the closet beacuse family and acceptance in society but so happy with myself

  • @j0sie.b3an
    @j0sie.b3an 2 роки тому +1

    I literally just told her that I’ve liked girls before and she said me too

  • @angelaheart253
    @angelaheart253 2 роки тому +2

    Happy Pride Month to everyone in this community 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈. You deserved to be loved 🌈🌈💕💕

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому

      What a lovely Pride message 💜🌈 happy Pride month !!

  • @tillycritch8324
    @tillycritch8324 2 роки тому +3

    This is my first pride of knowing I’m a lesbian, maybe I’ll come out! 🏳️‍🌈

    • @tillycritch8324
      @tillycritch8324 2 роки тому

      And happy pride ❤❤!!!!

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому

      Eeeee happy first pride!!! 🌈 if you feel ready, go for it!

  • @Crazyplantlady-p8l
    @Crazyplantlady-p8l Рік тому +2

    @laurenelloise
    Could you do a video on tips for dating your best friend, when you already know literally everything about this person

  • @moonshine2752
    @moonshine2752 10 місяців тому +5

    I’ve accepted I was lesbian for a little over 2 months now. I’m not new in knowing I like women but I’m new with the lesbian experience lol

  • @sloth_crew
    @sloth_crew 2 роки тому +5

    Happy Pride Month Lauren, I honestly love you so much. You and Gal Pal are the cutest couple ever, all your videos are very creative and just amazing.

  • @tcort
    @tcort 2 роки тому +2

    Thanks!

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому

      i just realised you used the thanks on multiple videos and im sitting here liek :') this is SUPER KIND OF YOU thank you!!

  • @FALLEN_ANGEL871
    @FALLEN_ANGEL871 2 роки тому +4

    Happy pride month Lauren 🥰💙💜💖
    Btw you should see the owl house in your free time it is an animated LGBTQ+ series and just before some day's season two ended , and now I'm gonna rewatch it.

  • @gd_sup
    @gd_sup 2 роки тому +3

    HAPPY PRIDE MONTHHHHH💜💜💜💜 (btw ur so pretty Lauren) e

  • @amalel-sheikh4454
    @amalel-sheikh4454 2 роки тому +2

    HAPPYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY PRIDE MONTH,1 MIN AGOOOOO

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому +1

      oh heck you're fast! congrats on being super early and happy pride month!!!

  • @girlypopgeek
    @girlypopgeek Рік тому +1

    This video wasnt the best advice for me, but it's still really well written!! Great job!

  • @luckynumbersev
    @luckynumbersev 2 роки тому +1

    Happy Pride, Lauren!

  • @CrowleysCruelSummer
    @CrowleysCruelSummer 2 роки тому +6

    I found this video super helpful. 🙂 (I’m a closeted lesbian)

  • @SimplyTheProblem
    @SimplyTheProblem Рік тому +3

    Just asked her on a date (movies) but we hang out before like we know each others very well flirt and everything but never were alone and am I nervous wish me luck yall

  • @lassam333
    @lassam333 2 роки тому +2

    Great tipy! Happy Pride Month!

  • @landdlifexx8455
    @landdlifexx8455 2 роки тому +1

    Happy pride month Lauren!

  • @ferncowsnake
    @ferncowsnake 2 роки тому +3

    You are beautiful Lauren
    Have a great day
    Happy Pride ❤️

  • @iamthewalrus526
    @iamthewalrus526 2 роки тому +1

    WOO glad ur back!! Very useful video 😊

  • @thatoneweirdgirl8714
    @thatoneweirdgirl8714 2 роки тому +2

    I AM FIRST AND HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!!🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🦆✨

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому +3

      aw yaaass ur super fast! congrats on being first and HAPPY PRIDE 🌈

    • @thatoneweirdgirl8714
      @thatoneweirdgirl8714 2 роки тому +2

      @@laurenelloise your videos helped me figure out what I am and I will always thank you for that!❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤

  • @Starry_Skies90
    @Starry_Skies90 Рік тому +3

    U are like the older sister I never had best gay sister ❤❤❤🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

  • @totallynotlauren4674
    @totallynotlauren4674 2 роки тому +2

    can you please do a a video on how to find a gf as a teen? like I’m 17 and have 8 months to go before I can go clubbing or go on proper dating apps. I’m always in the talking stage with people I’ve found on teen “dating apps” (they’re friendship apps but lots of people use them for dating) but it never goes any further 😭 how do you suggest to find someone irl? would going to a pride event be a good idea to find a gf? x

  • @racerxtreme
    @racerxtreme Рік тому +1

    Thanks for mentioning about the awkward moments 😆 and tips on topics of conversation

  • @bluecheshirecat13109
    @bluecheshirecat13109 2 роки тому +1

    Yayyyy I missed you 💝 happy pride!!

  • @beokatzz
    @beokatzz 2 роки тому +3

    Happy pride month 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ I hope you have a wonderful day 💕🌈

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому +4

      Same to you 🏳️‍🌈 hope you have a lovely day too!

  • @carlatabet6884
    @carlatabet6884 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks so much for this video you hair looks so good btw😍

  • @marcywolover197
    @marcywolover197 2 роки тому +1

    HAPPY PRIDE MONTHHHH

  • @loupelizzo2399
    @loupelizzo2399 2 роки тому +2

    Wishing you Happy Pride Month and this is a great informative video and you gave great advice and tips. This was a great video and thank you so much for sharing this advice video

  • @CramosReacts
    @CramosReacts 10 місяців тому +2

    Noooo I didn’t even think of the lgbtq+ friendly venue part 😭. I’m going to the same place where tons of ppl from my mosque go for coffee/chai. We set the day much in advance and it’s next week. Is it weird to change locations if I suggested that place?

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  10 місяців тому

      If you’d like to change places, and give enough notice, I don’t see a problem with that :)

  • @Feifei.0226
    @Feifei.0226 2 роки тому +1

    🌈happy pride month!🌈

  • @LiveLaughLaux
    @LiveLaughLaux 5 місяців тому

    I think the exception to not talking about your ex is if the other person asks something about how their last relationship ended..? Or is that not really a good question to ask?

  • @amie4090
    @amie4090 2 роки тому

    Happy pride month! 🌈

  • @haileygrzanka8235
    @haileygrzanka8235 2 роки тому

    Happy pride month Lauren thank you for uploding

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому

      Happy Pride to you too! And ur welcome 🌈

  • @mikeyhamato2012
    @mikeyhamato2012 3 місяці тому +2

    I have never met any potential lover, because I do not go out at night and am always fully sober.
    It feels like I am being punished for simply living a quiet life.
    Which is hurtful, because part of my dream is having a wife and settling down. :(

  • @moubiswasEdits
    @moubiswasEdits 2 роки тому +3

    Happy Pride month Lauren 🏳‍🌈🌈❤
    I've been known from your channel maybe almost for 3 yrs now and I've known a lot of things about myself and You're contents still are helping me a lot but unfortunately in our its still illegal to even like other same sex ppl and I'm still a bit confused that I'm bisexual or a gay but yeah surly I'm planning to go out and study abroad to find my future wife and family there though I'm society is still not as opened as women that's why my parents didn't allow me to go out as without my clg classes so im on my carrier for now and trying my best as I can as a human to bit my family members and surrounding , Btw wish me good luck Love from my bottom of my heart 😊💝

  • @Sippie16
    @Sippie16 2 роки тому +1

    This is my first pride month(i didn't know i was a lesbian last year)
    But anyway Happy pride month everyone🏳️‍🌈🎉🏳️‍🌈🎉

  • @yomzu6081
    @yomzu6081 2 роки тому +2

    Just "came out" as a lesbian to my group of friends by using a lesbian icon in a game we played together and none of my friends cared and that was great but I still felt so stressed. And a friend of mine made a joke - tasteful, not misogynistic or prejudiced - that brought up me being a lesbian and I felt MAD UNCOMFORTABLE??? Is this my own internalised homophobia, just fear of being seen as a stereotype or... I don't know. Anyone have any advice?

  • @Heyyy630
    @Heyyy630 Рік тому

    So i am new to the whole relationship thing(I have had relationships but they were not very serious.) I told this girl I liked her(btw I'm closeted to my parents but a few ppl know). I told her I liked her that's all and I'm how I could"go on a date" without raising any suspicion. Idk what to do but I really like her so 🙈👀

  • @GachaC.E.J
    @GachaC.E.J 2 роки тому +5

    HAPPY PRIDE MONTH EVERYONE 💐!!

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому +4

      happy pride month!!! 💕🌈🌈🌈

    • @GachaC.E.J
      @GachaC.E.J 2 роки тому +2

      @@laurenelloise Happy Pride Month to you too queen!

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому +3

      :'))) tysm!

  • @juanpabloxdxd1234
    @juanpabloxdxd1234 2 роки тому +1

    Happy pride month:D

  • @esmeschmidt1513
    @esmeschmidt1513 2 роки тому

    This is my first pride month!!!!! (As an official gay lol) so excited 🌈 🏳️‍🌈 🌈 🏳️‍🌈 🌈 🏳️‍🌈 🌈 🏳️‍🌈 🌈

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому

      Aw I am so excited for you happy Pride month! 🌈🏳️‍🌈

  • @bluecheshirecat13109
    @bluecheshirecat13109 2 роки тому +1

    My girlfriend and I are happily together!!!!

  • @nataliessoul3375
    @nataliessoul3375 2 роки тому

    Where are your earrings from? Theyre awesome ❤🌈

  • @IShowSpeedDailyAndFunny
    @IShowSpeedDailyAndFunny 2 роки тому

    Happy pride month Everyone ❤🏳️‍🌈 Thank You For Your Vedio Very Helpful 😊 People Really Appreciate These Content 👏👏 .... Keep Shunning Lauren 🎀 And Congratulations For The 50k Sub Hope 100k Soon And Make Your Community Bigger And Bigger 🔥❤

  • @Ohsnapitzann
    @Ohsnapitzann Рік тому

    This is some good advice. 🌟

  • @Your_LocalBaconyt
    @Your_LocalBaconyt Рік тому +1

    Ty for the advicee

  • @Ieatrocks4fun614
    @Ieatrocks4fun614 6 місяців тому +1

    Hi, I'm 12 years old, and I'm questioning myself rn. I just want advice because I don't know what to do

  • @lottiehodgson2230
    @lottiehodgson2230 2 роки тому

    I need that totoro Teddy in the back haha

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 роки тому

      Aw heheheh I remember getting him at the markets with my grandmother when she took me on a lil trip to the city (back during the last year of high school bc I was struggling )

    • @lottiehodgson2230
      @lottiehodgson2230 2 роки тому

      @@laurenelloise awww, I have a bag of totoro, hope you are well

  • @PreciousDike-xn4lt
    @PreciousDike-xn4lt 2 роки тому

    Your vids are coooooool!

  • @averyboredhumanoid8418
    @averyboredhumanoid8418 6 місяців тому +3

    I hope working for a hardware store soon will help me meet some butches lol

  • @zooouf_isa_potato5105
    @zooouf_isa_potato5105 2 роки тому

    🌈🌈🌈 I am binge watching these bc I am so scared to come out 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

  • @RoselleGrimmist
    @RoselleGrimmist 2 роки тому +1

    It's a shame me and my girlfriend are just teenagers and we can't go where ever we want all the time. Or we just don't live close. Is there a few advice for those situations?

  • @Why_Knott_Me
    @Why_Knott_Me 8 місяців тому +1

    "There's no straight answer"
    😂😂😂 no there's not! She's right!

  • @tcort
    @tcort 2 роки тому +5

    How to tell if a girl likes you? She leaves paper airplanes for you to find.

  • @syzukap6
    @syzukap6 Рік тому

    Am single and patiently waiting

  • @Lightheart-m9y
    @Lightheart-m9y 5 місяців тому +2

    I’m just accepting I’m a lesbian looking forward to stating dating ❤

    • @Lightheart-m9y
      @Lightheart-m9y 5 місяців тому +1

      @Max-d-s9e Always known but preferred to live a lie to fit in with society and it goes against my catholic upbringing

    • @Lightheart-m9y
      @Lightheart-m9y 5 місяців тому +1

      @Max-d-s9e Don’t have them beliefs anymore was conditioning don’t think I mentioned marrying anyone 😆

    • @Lightheart-m9y
      @Lightheart-m9y 5 місяців тому +1

      @Max-d-s9e 😆😆😆 take it your bored 🥱

    • @Lightheart-m9y
      @Lightheart-m9y 5 місяців тому

      @Max-d-s9e Thank you for your message I don’t find men attractive appreciate your opinion but know my sexual preferences thanks again 🙏

    • @Lightheart-m9y
      @Lightheart-m9y 5 місяців тому

      @Max-d-s9e ps no longer care what society thinks and it feels amazing 🤩

  • @cro0ked_cr0ww
    @cro0ked_cr0ww 2 роки тому

    HAAPPY PRIDE MONTH! 🏳️‍🌈❤️🧡🤍💗❤️

  • @imjustasconfusedasyou
    @imjustasconfusedasyou 2 роки тому +1

    okay so, i’m farliy young and i think a girl may like me. the thing is we’re friends, we’re very young, we go to a christian school, my whole family is christian, and i don’t know if i’m ready to date yet. i think i may be willing to try it but i don’t want to ruin the freindship, i don’t know what dating would even look like, and because of being brought up christian i have a fair amount of internal homophobia i recently realized i had. i’m really scared and nervous and i don’t know what to do. also becuase we are so young should we even be dating?? is it weird if we do?? she’s been with a lot of girls and one guy before me, never for a long amount of months either. although she did stay freinds with her exes

  • @rezzzasmr
    @rezzzasmr 2 роки тому

    Love you girl, you seem fun and have a wild side 😘😏

  • @laurawe9055
    @laurawe9055 2 роки тому

    Ok, I‘m just gonna use this comment section to get my current dating anxiety off my chest.
    2 weeks ago I realized that I was open to try out more than friendship with one of my friends. That really overwhelmed me because I‘m over 20 years old and I had never had a thought like that ever in my life. And the thought of not knowing where she stands in all of that made it even worse, I felt nauseous, couldn‘t get my mind off of that thought, had trouble sleeping etc.
    So, we met up a week later and I had to let her know, even though it was scary af. To my surprise, after I had told her, she told me that she too has been confused about her feelings for me and that she realized that she felt more for me than a platonic friendship. Which was an option I had talked myself out of happening, in order to not get hurt too much by the denial I was expecting. So 2 weeks ago I learned that I have the capability to develop more feelings than friendship and a week later the girl I was having those feelings towards told me she has feelings for me as well.
    Now, I would love to just be happy and let things happen but as I‘m learning, that‘s not how emotions work. I‘m absolutely overwhelmed and tired. I can‘t think about anything else than how I‘m currently feeling, no matter how hard I try to distract myself, and what makes it difficult is that I feel like my emotions are tossing me around, into every possible feeling. First, there‘s happiness and calmness, then a bit later it shifts into anxiety and fear until I feel absolutely drained and then it tosses me into missing her or into feeling like all of this is too fast and that maybe I was wrong about my feelings.
    I am going to talk to her about it but currently I‘m just feeling miserable and since I have no prior dating/relationship experience I have no clue what my takeaway from all those changing emotions should be. One thing I did actually realize is that I feel pressure, because she has had feelings for me for months. Whereas I am right at the bloody start. It feels like I have to catch up with a lot of feelings fast, however, that doesn‘t feel natural at all and I do know that it‘s not right. Still, I can feel the pressure of having to live up to her feelings. And then, no matter where this goes, there‘s generally a wonderful connection at stake. We have been friends for a few months and I‘m very glad to have met her because it has been unlike any other friendship I‘ve had. So, that also makes dating more scary because I don‘t wanna lose her.
    Lastly, everyone I‘ve talked to tells me about their experiences from the perspective of being deeply in love with the s/o right away. That‘s not what I‘m feeling right now so it feels like something isn‘t going right. Would be nice if someone could confirm that not every relationship starts out with only positive feelings and that anxiety in the early stages can be normal :/ Anyways, it was good to just write it out. And Lauren, thank you for your advice! ❤

    • @racerxtreme
      @racerxtreme Рік тому +1

      There is no rush, take things slow. If she cares about you she’ll understand.

    • @laurawe9055
      @laurawe9055 Рік тому

      @@racerxtreme Thank you! 🙏 Unfortunately my fears really wore me down to a point where I realized that I am not ready yet for a relationship 🙃 It was really embarrassing being the person that initiated everything and then having to backpaddle two weeks later and asking her if we could take it back to a friendship 😬 But she reacted really sweet and understanding so now we're friends again and both working through the "aftermath" of that situation 🙆‍♀️ At least now I know exactly what I have to work on to be ready for my next experience 🙇‍♀️

    • @racerxtreme
      @racerxtreme Рік тому +1

      @@laurawe9055 That's amazing! happy to know you two are still friends :)

    • @laurawe9055
      @laurawe9055 Рік тому +1

      @@racerxtreme thanks a lot 🙏☺️

  • @ashleymonegro2907
    @ashleymonegro2907 2 роки тому

    I’m late to this video, I really want to buy one for your shirts, But I haven’t come out yet 😭😭😭😭😭

  • @MithuDebnath-ec9hv
    @MithuDebnath-ec9hv 7 місяців тому +2

    I am real Original like Lesbian in my real most lovely that it's you so happy lesbian girl 🏳️‍🌈🌈

  • @kanon_natsuki
    @kanon_natsuki 2 роки тому +3

    And i'm still single- TwT

  • @angelxu7808
    @angelxu7808 Рік тому

    hi my friends, I have a really important questions, how do you make dates go from friendly to romantic?? cuz I ask a lot of questions, interested in learning about this other person's life, but the dates always get stuck on a friend level?? like there's no chemistry spark feeling during. need help -- baby gay

  • @sophieporter532
    @sophieporter532 2 роки тому

    I just started dating my friend but I feel like we’re still young and this is the first time I’ve dated someone so i feel like it probably won’t be the only Time but I’m scared that If we do decide to break up one day we might not be friends anymore :(

  • @alisonbliss2556
    @alisonbliss2556 Рік тому +1

    I’m into straight guys 😢😢 I need good advice. They’re just good looking I can’t handle it

  • @givinguponlifecry
    @givinguponlifecry 11 місяців тому +1

    I will be forever single 😔

  • @sophie0918
    @sophie0918 2 роки тому

    What I need to ask is how am I going to tell my friend likes me if we are online( she is also a lesbian btw )

  • @SIRDUCK-yx4xv
    @SIRDUCK-yx4xv Рік тому +1

    So there’s this SUPER cute Alt girl(she’s bi) and I’ve been crushing on her for months now…I don’t know if she likes me but she keeps smacking my butt and ?flirting? I don’t know how to flirt and she’s asked me multiple times to marry her? Is this friendship…???? I’ve never been flirted with??? I don’t think???

    • @Iwantamiracle
      @Iwantamiracle 7 місяців тому

      May i ask for an update? 😭

  • @tylerqqclayton5024
    @tylerqqclayton5024 2 роки тому

    I am fully gay now 2022 🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈

  • @GelatoSnipes
    @GelatoSnipes 2 роки тому

    my pfp is me when i forgor 💀to set my intentions with my now gf sinse yesterday… I want long term but wait what if she just wants to be casual this is so scary now