👸ur s/o is lucky bc tony is a unicorn 🦄esp. a bm, its so rare to meet, let alone marry a decent one, not p-orn addicted, colorist, anti-marriage to bw yet put other race wm on a🧐 pedestal & think its funny to lie, use, abuse, cheat, beat & make a fool of & ghost👻 bw, then call her used 💔broken & ran thru although his actions or lack thereof are the root 🤥of said broken homes 🏡. i've given up on meeting a marriage 💑minded bm w/honor, integrity, good intentions & faith. but its so wonderful that ur😌 open to becoming a better man. congratulations👏!
@@user-nv5wi8op8k exactly but these fools think a few selfies for likes or attentions means “healing” 😣similar story with Black Chyna and all the fake male preda*ory and down low toxic “relationship coaches” . If people show you who they are once - believe them!!!
It’s mind blowing to hear you talk about praying for discernment. I literally several months ago began praying daily for stronger discernment. I would rather have stronger discernment than money because with discernment, you can make wiser decisions in every aspect of life!!! Thank you Tony ❤
We need to pray for discernment and clarity. I forgot my morning prayer today. I will pray for that tonight. Pray for Danaia too because she's been through a lot.
I prayed so often for discernment for years. God finally allowed me to have it but it's to me a blessing and not a blessing bc I can't unsee things and I get a uneasy feel in my spirit I can read people without trying and that can come off very judgemental to people who lack discernment
I prayed for wisdom and discernment and y'all it's crazy scary how wise I am and I just know about life 💗 God shows me Soo much 💕 folk think I'm crazy how I be calling stuff then they later come back and ask how do I know this stuff cause I be right! It's one of the best blessings I think I was fasting and I asked for wisdom but I didn't know it was gone unlock like this......omg!! What a gift just to know and understand what's going on
Every morning prayer: Lord double my discernment, Lord double my wisdom, Lord double my knowledge, Lord double my understanding, Lord double my faith, Lord double my courage , Lord help me to run my race that you done gave me to run instead of applauding and pushing somebody else into a race that I don't know what the reward is! In Jesus name Amen! 20:37
Co-parenting with a narcissistic person is next-level tomfoolery. Tony is correct; she should be quiet until the divorce is finalized. I'm speaking from learned experience. The children need one emotionally intelligent parent, who must be her.
There are UA-cam crime shows every day showing the danger and deadly results that black women are experiencing and many of the women are showing things about their and someone in their lives' personal lives online. We show too much, we tell too much and we're not thinking of the consequences of opening ourselves and others up like that. The devil is having a field day with social media. We do need to show discernment in what we share and show. Being hungry for attention and likes (and money) can cause many problems in people's lives.
I know some won’t catch it but as soon asTony spoke on danger 3:56 he sees an accident. Social media has damaged so many I try to teach this to my little sister everyday. It’s as if they don’t see the wrong in a situation and to leave it alone. They have to get hurt to know this isn’t what I want. Prayer is real. I prayed for discernment and out of nowhere I saw things completely different. It has caused me to not even have many ppl around.
I agree with him. I felt the same way when I saw the interview. There is a motivation behind it!! Co-parenting is hard!! I had to walk away and raise my kids alone because I was dealing with a dynamic spirit!!. I had so much to say so much to tell. It's been years and I am still quiet!! because god told me 3 years ago to be still and when it's time to speak he will guide me. How did I know it was God everywhere I went I saw the sign that reads be STILL!!
I've long realized that Tony speaks from what he knows...if you "get" this message you "got" it... when you are renewed, with ANY message, you chew the meat and spit out the bones as you study so that clarity, confirmation & motivation gets easier...real recognize real & real recognize fake, I appreciate the few real ones still in this battle whew!
I do think that discernment/ discretion is important. While watching this these were the scriptures that came to my mind to make sure I’m aware of. Hope this helps someone else. 🙏🏾 “A beautiful woman who lacks discretion is like a gold ring in a pig’s snout.” Proverbs 11:22 NLT “You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.” 1 Peter 3:4 NLT
Real Talk Tony. YES. Everything she went thru; cyclical relationship of deliberate emotional abuse takes YEARS of Healing. Her jokingly sharing may be a Cover Up. They share children....she's entangled. 🙏🏽
The Jaxn's are not even divorced yet and she has the audacity to sell a course for thousands of dollars to capitalize on her own mess. Targeting women who are most likely financially abused and would be better off leaving and getting real therapy rather than doing what she did by calling out her abuser WHILE STILL MARRIED TO HIM. She's just as much of a narc grifter as he is. She knowingly kept getting pregnant by him and knew of his infidelity while participating in his grift the whole time?! Nope. I'm not buying any more of what the Jacksons try to sell.
I questioned it too. Glad to see what I was feeling wasn’t so far fetched. You definitely heal behind closed doors-similar to when a butterfly is in their cocoon going through it’s transformation. You appreciate your solitude and need that time to yourself to discover yourself. U allow God time to do his spiritual surgery.
The Jaxn's are not even divorced yet and she has the audacity to sell a course for thousands of dollars to capitalize on her own mess. Targeting women who are most likely financially abused and would be better off leaving and getting real therapy rather than doing what she did by calling out her abuser WHILE STILL MARRIED TO HIM. She's just as much of a narc grifter as he is. She knowingly kept getting pregnant by him and knew of his infidelity while participating in his grift the whole time?! Nope. I'm not buying any more of what the Jacksons try to sell.
This is the most sincere and true message! Spiritual warfare is real! Your are 💯 that healing happens in the dark. Healing is also usually quiet or silent. Noise should be a warning for us to be quiet, listen and discern. Then TRUST what we discern.
Preach! Spirits know spirits and when there is a conflict of spirits they recognize that. Therefore, the Holy Spirit in you is not welcome on many of these people's platforms.
From her interview, it was as if a little hurt girl was speaking. As a woman that has been through similar trauma, I could tell she is still in a very immature, naïve, & fragile state of mind. There was a lot of joking and ke-ke-ing going on that was not amusing or funny at all. I pray that she continues to surrender her wounds and hurt to God. I know her testimony will help deliver thousands of women once God renews her mind, mends her heart, and develops her spiritual and emotional well-being. God will use her mightly if she fully submits to the process!!
The Jaxn's are not even divorced yet and she has the audacity to sell a course for thousands of dollars to capitalize on her own mess. Targeting women who are most likely financially abused and would be better off leaving and getting real therapy rather than doing what she did by calling out her abuser WHILE STILL MARRIED TO HIM. She's just as much of a narc grifter as he is. She knowingly kept getting pregnant by him and knew of his infidelity while participating in his grift the whole time?! Nope. I'm not buying any more of what the Jacksons try to sell.
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. Psalm 9:10 Without Him there is no wisdom or discernment.
Gotcha, you nailed it within the first few minutes 🎯🎯🎯 When I didn’t lean into my intuition & discernment when I was younger, being naive, it caused me so much heartache & trouble 💔😔 But ever since I listened to my inner voice and followed the HS these past several years, I became isolated - yet my life took off! 🚀💨🔥
That’s great and that’s the point of us sharing our experience with others but you probably missed Tony’s message a bit. Especially the end of the video.
@@KKk-lz7utt’s frightful when people make comments about another’s comment and in a narrative of their own making. As you can see by the badge next to my name I am a member as well as a member of the growth club. I didn’t miss anything and chose to comment based on what I wanted to comment about. I have several teachers and TG is one of them. Notice I said confront my own story not share. I’m still healing ma’am. ❤
Serious question, it took her sharing her story about all the trauma and abuse for you to finally confront your situation? I’m just wondering if this was the breakthrough you needed hearing about another woman being cheated on….
Yes!!! I didn’t realize true healing after 4 years of being single! I literally went through a spiritual awakening after a major traumatic event. I’m in my 5th year of being single/abstinent and I’m so grateful for choosing to evolve and have self control. Discernment is a must!
Tony, people have different ministries. I’m glad she got a platform to show another side of her. But you’re also right about her safety and being discerning. I’m literally over everyone at this point.
The Jaxn's are not even divorced yet and she has the audacity to sell a course for thousands of dollars to capitalize on her own mess. Targeting women who are most likely financially abused and would be better off leaving and getting real therapy rather than doing what she did by calling out her abuser WHILE STILL MARRIED TO HIM. She's just as much of a narc grifter as he is. She knowingly kept getting pregnant by him and knew of his infidelity while participating in his grift the whole time?! Nope. I'm not buying any more of what they try to sell.
@@jessitabonita lol I actually didn’t watch to the end so I didn’t even know about this course shenanigan. I agree with you: I would personally not buy a course from her due to the long standing history of poor decision-making. Am I still glad she got to tell her side of the story? Yep.
I’m glad you spoke on this. It’s a time and place for everything. Over explaining details of what just happened to you and not giving yourself time to heal is not helping her healing process. In actuality it invites people in who don’t have good intentions to further destroy you.
The Jaxn's are not even divorced yet and she has the audacity to sell a course for thousands of dollars to capitalize on her own mess. Targeting women who are most likely financially abused and would be better off leaving and getting real therapy rather than doing what she did by calling out her abuser WHILE STILL MARRIED TO HIM. She's just as much of a narc grifter as he is. She knowingly kept getting pregnant by him and knew of his infidelity while participating in his grift the whole time?! Nope. I'm not buying any more of what the Jacksons try to sell.
Composed and methodical..🗣️🗣️🗣️🎯 Discernment is absolutely needed. I just had a conversation about the spirit of discernment with my child. This is deep. 💯🙏🏽
It's so crazy that you are saying this Tony because I was thinking about this very same thing when I saw his ex wife doing that interview. Believe none of what you hear and half of what you see, is what my grandmother used to say. However, nowadays you can't believe anything that you see or hear because people have so many negative hidden agendas.
So so true Tony. Why was the guy laughing all through that woman’s pain. I mean?? What was funny? Making this interview wasn’t the wisest thing. They do have kids that should be priority besides we didn’t need more info about the relationship because the ex hubby already showed us everything.
!!! Omg this. I’m 5 days away from the one year mark of my life changing testimony. & I’m no where near ready to actually tell me story. I always give thanks to God for life && let those know I can’t wait to share my lesson’s with others. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
You’re speaking the whole truth! After I was delivered from a few things last year, I instantly was shown different things about the platform you’re speaking on. The Holy Spirit showed me soooo much about the man that I had to instantly unfollow. People need to stop discrediting you and go directly to the Source, God will confirm this message!
@@lynne4948 Unfortunately they will the hard way. Watching spirits like that are damaging to your own spirit over time. It’s luring you in and before you know it you’re delusional and disconnected from reality. I understand why there’s a saying, “Believe none of what you see and half of what you hear!”
@@ShawneeP yes, my great aunt told me a few years ago about social media and it always stayed with me “everything that you see ain’t everything you see.”
This is so true! So many people applaud another person's "transparency" but those same people would never share the dirty deets of their own life. And those who WOULD share their private business mistake their lack of discretion for authenticity. I don't say that to undermine her because I am rooting for her, however, it's the timing of it as Tony says. When you care about someone's well-being and have wisdom, you know how sharing certain details brings shame to an individual. It was a red flag to me how the interviewer kept pressing for the juicy information. Honestly, the interviewer comes off as kind of slimy to me. He strikes me as another male who's trying to draw a lot of women to him through a female-oriented podcast with the goal of landing his "dream wife" from it. It doesn't impress me that he is "Christian" because he still seems carnal to me. Also, the fact that "bishop" gave the young lady an OK to go on the podcast was surprising to me. He should have told her she needs to heal more or at least counsel her not to expose too much.
@ Jan Beatrice Your comment is spot on. I watched the interview and turned the volume down. It is super clear when reading the interviewer's body language that he was not that interested in her story, but just going through the motions. Its more to him than meets the eye.
@@iamunstoppable205 I agree. One of the things that was a red flag was the excessive laughing. I understand laughing at the ridiculousness of a scenario to empathize with someone's pain, but his laughter was so forced and came at inappropriate times. I believe he did that to pretend he was more interested in her story than he was. Also to cause her to let her guard down (to signal they are buddies). It was nice of him to hire a makeup artist on her behalf, but if you get someone to spill ALL the tea on themselves, people will still mock them. She, being a recovering people pleaser, trusted him instead of setting boundaries and saying she won't discuss certain things. He wanted to push the envelope. Creepy spirit.
The Jaxn's are not even divorced yet and she has the audacity to sell a course for thousands of dollars to capitalize on her own mess. Targeting women who are most likely financially abused and would be better off leaving and getting real therapy rather than doing what she did by calling out her abuser WHILE STILL MARRIED TO HIM. She's just as much of a narc grifter as he is. She knowingly kept getting pregnant by him and knew of his infidelity while participating in his grift the whole time?! Nope. I'm not buying any more of what the Jacksons try to sell.
@@jessitabonita I didn't know what you were talking about at first but Googled and am horrified. I think it is okay to offer coaching sessions and courses to help others where you are at. For instance, if she wants to sell a $35 course about infidelity recovery, that is not totally unreasonable. But charging $5,000 for 1:1 coaching when you are still in the process of healing... what in the world?! I am not scarcity-minded at all, however, her heart is obviously not in the right place. It's kind of like broke financial gurus who are trying to get rich off of teaching you about abundance. Yes, she has been through a ton of trauma and narcissistic abuse. However, that is no excuse for this type of behavior. I agree her target would be vulnerable and naive women. I pray she realizes this is not the right code of conduct. Right now, she is revealing herself to be a grifter, as you said.
This is true even when you have NOT been intimate with someone. Spending quality time with someone in public those spirits still affect you and it hurts you going through the process of healing from them. So it's 7X as hurtful when you have been intimate with someone 💔 !!!
When you are living right, and focused on GOD, in your word, your discernment will increase drastically. I met a guy that turned out to be a abuser, the first conversation I had with him I was able to discern a controlling spirit on him. I went on his Facebook page and he made a status about controlling the next woman that he met, the girl that he ended up with, he went on live threatening to take her life if she cheated on him.
@@wonderfullyrenee wow… seems like another dishonor and discredit to her. And I could see her ex being very upset with her for essentially making it clear that he was pretty much NEVER faithful. Not a good look 👀
@@DawnOfKelly That was no secret shared. That was titled to get woman to watch. No man is just gone to all of sudden start cheating in the middle of a marriage.
Thank you God for using Mr. Tony Gaskins Jr. to deliver this powerful🔋message to me and others, who have ears👂🏽 to hear it, about the importance of using wisdom and discernment to observe wicked and negative behavior patterns to avoid getting connected to a toxic person in an intimate relationship.
Tony Gaskins you are 1000% correct. Many women fail to be discerning. It's why so many of them follow cult leaders, join cults and sit up under false teachers as well as becoming involved in the wrong relationships. May God help women to be discerning.🙏🏾 God Almighty will help ladies. Seek Him.
I sense it also; I think she hasn’t healed yet; During the interview they were laughing Fake to me . because all those trouble things, that happened to her I didn’t hear her voice crack nor did she cry. Her spirit it’s not right yet…Praying for Her 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I know healing takes time, but I didn't realize how short of a time the lady did the interview. That's crazy! I didn't even think about it. Also, we should actively do the work so that we can actually heal. Lots of people don't actively do the work. I think that's the most important thing.
Brother Tony 🗣️ I completely agree. I seen the interview on my feed and didn’t even click on it. I feel it was too soon to speak on it publicly and forgive me but seem like a clout for views , not necessarily on her end but on that platform (and don’t get me wrong because I have watched a few of that platform podcast, and I’ve discerned something in the person so I haven’t watched the podcast in a min) and I understand people are going to live their lives how they want and some may say “who are we to speak on someone else’s journey and sharing their story” but for people that understand healing, knows this was too soon and that platform wanted to be the first one to put the story out for clout.
My heart was between my feet listening to the sister. Like how are you taking so much of a big risk so soon? Ain't no way you're talking from a fully healed space. Sis still looked sad to me. May God continue to be with her. Be blessed.
Really? She looked like she had heaven backing her to me.. it’s so sad to see so many still judging this woman. Her healing comes from God.. not a human being’s standard time frame.
@@feliceoliviablack go back and re watch. Watch her eyes ,watch how she looked down at times. Sis, I'm not judging the woman. Who am I to judge? We saw what we saw. I felt scared for her. Personally, with that level of shame, and how he degraded her, I just find she came out too soon. That wasn't just a regular breakup. Did you hear the interviewer's little laugh when he asked her the question about when she was out there wishing bad on people? You saw that look? Be blessed sis.
@@feliceoliviablack he just filed for divorce from her less than a year ago….they are still married NOT even divorced yet…are you serious?! They may not even actually divorce, who is to say, but I wouldn’t say you’re fully healed over a man you never desired to leave in the first place….he came to her with wanting the breakup…they may be separated right now, but I definitely don’t think full healing has occurred…
I tried to watch that interview, but I only made it through about 10 minutes. She wanted to stick by her man and got clowned for it. And she was online putting curses on other women. First thing I noticed was her speaking voice and presentation was very different…as if she was possessed in those other videos. But I would imagine that she has undiagnosed mental health issues because of what she’s been through. I think in most cases, people who share too much, too soon are looking for support from anywhere they can get it. Sometimes you just need to be alone with God for an extended period of time. I agree 💯
I do think you bring up great points about timing and discernment, so even though I am happy for her, I pray she remains safe. With ol boy having covert narc tendencies, I could see why you would advise someone to proceed with caution. I think most of us were just glad to see an underdog stand up for themself, that was why our reaction was to say “you go gurl”. Maybe a better strategy would have been a tell all book or her telling her story on her own platform. But I hope the outpouring of support and well wishes gives her the strength to navigate coparenting with him from this point forward. I hope she has a solid team of counselors and advisors helping her navigate all this.
This is why you keep your mouth SHUT after a break up or something like this goes down to those who are not close to you…. because some things may not work to your benefit.
You are absolutely right!!! "They understand it but want to see calamity happen." 🙌🏾 You are EXCELLENT at communicating your thoughts on the spiritual. Thank you for your words!
Tony, how is it that you admit that you almost lost your gf who is your now wife due to your ways, but you bounced back and changed. So another man who did wrong to a woman, ppl should judge him forever? The reason we even know what he did is because he told it and created a series to help others heal. Also, you were into the streets and changed. Should we also hold that against you? Thats that man's past not present and sooo many are receiving healing from his show's transparency. Some of yall are from the era of "we know uncle touched you but dont say anything". We like to show only the perfect. This lady is living out her testimony so others can see they can go through it and heal as well.
@@la6136 It's tough for online business owners, but I guess I'll just create my content in my office (decorated, but you can't see cars/clothes, size of home, etc.). That way, you have no basis to go off of!
I agree with the discernment part. Although I don’t see anything wrong with her sharing her story, I didn’t gather what the majority of people gathered from her. I feel that she married a man and she knew that he did not want her. She was just as manipulative as Derrick if you ask me which I believe that she was taking some accountability for. She was not just a victim but a willing participant. As soon as she started talking about the baby being picked up in her room I knew immediately it was witchcraft. The only reason she is no longer with him is because he divorced her. That woman is not afraid of Derrick if anything he should be afraid of her. He blocked all communication and she decides to go public. No it is not normal for a woman to do an interview like that before the divorce unless it is a scorned woman.
Bingo 🎯 He actually didn't sound all that "manipulative" from what she described. He showed her who he was, and she continued to pursue him, to the point of manipulating *his* mother into him marrying her 😐
Thank you Tony! Because I had the same thoughts about that interview and wondered if I was tripping behind how my spirit felt about the reasoning behind having her do that interview Lol and I been peeped how you haven’t made it on certain platforms and I already knew why.. Keep doing the good work Tony!! We see you!
Oh this was good!! He sees something in the spirit with all of this. I have followed you long enough to know your track record in God is spot on 🙏🏾. Thank you for message and God bless you!
Good morning Tony! I love what you’re doing and that’s God work and purpose to serve him and teach us who has the discernment t to hear your messages. I completely agree with this entire video. For me People, but especially women need to do lots of healing. And you’re correct when you also point out that healing is done alone in the dark and not all over the internet. And it takes years for true and complete healing, so for me I operate from a spiritual place and can truly relate to your wisdom. God bless you and your service to serve other🙏🏾💕🙏🏾
If you notice the interview wasn't formatted the way most others are. It wasn't a teachable lesson interview. It was a "I got the exclusive first story" interview.
I see what you are saying Tony. I never seen that platform until the interview and he kept laughing like her experience was funny. Im really over social media it’s so fake and so many wanting our attention. I also know from my own experience I was not going to expose for fear of my own safety so I should know better. I really hope she is safe because desperate people have no bounds. Thank you for your perspective and I will pray for more discernment because what I experienced, it took years of intentional healing, it’s like peeling back layers.
I just had a convo with a good friend abiut my love interest. We were trying to upack what's going on with him. The number of times I watched this video and I'm like 'right on the money' are too many to put here. This had to be the holy spirit leading me to listen... Thank you for your obedience sir, you help a lot of lives because of it
This is wisdom you are speaking from. Keep it coming. Wisdom is the principle thing. Get it and get understanding. Everyone doesn’t have it, don’t get it, and likely will not understand.
Amen!!! I said the same thing. Too soon. She is wounded and has to go away to heal. I wondered why she was on this talk show. Just sending prayers and protection🙏🏽💜 Mental and emotional abuse run deep.
For those who haven't watched Tony Gaskins Jr. , he has shown us he has discernment, he warned us about the message being pushed by " the sitting in the dark" person.
Mr. Gaskins you're absolutely right! I told my sister the same thing about that situation. Not saying that it is but you never know. Just a different perspective especially considering how she say their situation was.
I think people feel better about themselves when other people air their dirty laundry, so when someone says it's not a good idea, they get defensive because it highlights them wanting to feel superior hearing someone's misfortunes (projection).
Tony, I’m a 54 yr old single black man. I follow you because I’m always willing to learn something new or a better way. ✊🏽✌🏽🙏🏽
👸ur s/o is lucky bc tony is a unicorn 🦄esp. a bm, its so rare to meet, let alone marry a decent one, not p-orn addicted, colorist, anti-marriage to bw yet put other race wm on a🧐 pedestal & think its funny to lie, use, abuse, cheat, beat & make a fool of & ghost👻 bw, then call her used 💔broken & ran thru although his actions or lack thereof are the root 🤥of said broken homes 🏡. i've given up on meeting a marriage 💑minded bm w/honor, integrity, good intentions & faith. but its so wonderful that ur😌 open to becoming a better man. congratulations👏!
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@@user-nv5wi8op8k exactly but these fools think a few selfies for likes or attentions means “healing” 😣similar story with Black Chyna and all the fake male preda*ory and down low toxic “relationship coaches” . If people show you who they are once - believe them!!!
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And please share with other males of all ages. God is calling all of us to come higher in righteous
"Healing is a process. You heal behind closed doors!" Amen!
Suffer in private - nobody can restore like GOD
I felt the exact same way, the Holy Spirit literally TOLD me as I was watching the video, this woman is not healed it’s too soon. Tony is spot on
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"People will pay to watch you set yourself on fire!" Absolutely!!
That was good.
Omg whew this!!!! 😔🔥
Your wife is a wise woman. She keeps her business to herself. 👏
Ain’t she!!!!
Completely agree.
Exactly you can’t show everybody everything she’s protecting her family! Proverbs woman!
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Very wise!
It’s mind blowing to hear you talk about praying for discernment. I literally several months ago began praying daily for stronger discernment. I would rather have stronger discernment than money because with discernment, you can make wiser decisions in every aspect of life!!! Thank you Tony ❤
We need to pray for discernment and clarity. I forgot my morning prayer today. I will pray for that tonight. Pray for Danaia too because she's been through a lot.
I prayed so often for discernment for years. God finally allowed me to have it but it's to me a blessing and not a blessing bc I can't unsee things and I get a uneasy feel in my spirit I can read people without trying and that can come off very judgemental to people who lack discernment
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I prayed for wisdom and discernment and y'all it's crazy scary how wise I am and I just know about life 💗 God shows me Soo much 💕 folk think I'm crazy how I be calling stuff then they later come back and ask how do I know this stuff cause I be right! It's one of the best blessings I think I was fasting and I asked for wisdom but I didn't know it was gone unlock like this......omg!! What a gift just to know and understand what's going on
@@kendrawilliams9598 wow that’s incredible! Let me start praying
Every morning prayer: Lord double my discernment, Lord double my wisdom, Lord double my knowledge, Lord double my understanding, Lord double my faith, Lord double my courage , Lord help me to run my race that you done gave me to run instead of applauding and pushing somebody else into a race that I don't know what the reward is! In Jesus name Amen! 20:37
Amen!❤
Amen!!
Co-parenting with a narcissistic person is next-level tomfoolery. Tony is correct; she should be quiet until the divorce is finalized. I'm speaking from learned experience. The children need one emotionally intelligent parent, who must be her.
Tony , when are you going to bring back “Talks with Tony” ?
The Queen is classy and has nothing to prove. ❤
There are UA-cam crime shows every day showing the danger and deadly results that black women are experiencing and many of the women are showing things about their and someone in their lives' personal lives online. We show too much, we tell too much and we're not thinking of the consequences of opening ourselves and others up like that. The devil is having a field day with social media. We do need to show discernment in what we share and show. Being hungry for attention and likes (and money) can cause many problems in people's lives.
I know some won’t catch it but as soon asTony spoke on danger 3:56 he sees an accident. Social media has damaged so many I try to teach this to my little sister everyday. It’s as if they don’t see the wrong in a situation and to leave it alone. They have to get hurt to know this isn’t what I want. Prayer is real. I prayed for discernment and out of nowhere I saw things completely different. It has caused me to not even have many ppl around.
I agree with him. I felt the same way when I saw the interview. There is a motivation behind it!! Co-parenting is hard!! I had to walk away and raise my kids alone because I was dealing with a dynamic spirit!!. I had so much to say so much to tell.
It's been years and I am still quiet!! because god told me 3 years ago to be still and when it's time to speak he will guide me. How did I know it was God everywhere I went I saw the sign that reads be STILL!!
I've long realized that Tony speaks from what he knows...if you "get" this message you "got" it... when you are renewed, with ANY message, you chew the meat and spit out the bones as you study so that clarity, confirmation & motivation gets easier...real recognize real & real recognize fake, I appreciate the few real ones still in this battle whew!
❤Amen Exactly
I do think that discernment/ discretion is important. While watching this these were the scriptures that came to my mind to make sure I’m aware of. Hope this helps someone else. 🙏🏾
“A beautiful woman who lacks discretion is like a gold ring in a pig’s snout.”
Proverbs 11:22 NLT
“You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.”
1 Peter 3:4 NLT
Real Talk Tony. YES. Everything she went thru; cyclical relationship of deliberate emotional abuse takes YEARS of Healing. Her jokingly sharing may be a Cover Up. They share children....she's entangled. 🙏🏽
The Jaxn's are not even divorced yet and she has the audacity to sell a course for thousands of dollars to capitalize on her own mess. Targeting women who are most likely financially abused and would be better off leaving and getting real therapy rather than doing what she did by calling out her abuser WHILE STILL MARRIED TO HIM.
She's just as much of a narc grifter as he is.
She knowingly kept getting pregnant by him and knew of his infidelity while participating in his grift the whole time?! Nope. I'm not buying any more of what the Jacksons try to sell.
@@jessitabonita Yes to continue health risks & having additional children is Highly questionable. Time Reveals All.
I questioned it too. Glad to see what I was feeling wasn’t so far fetched. You definitely heal behind closed doors-similar to when a butterfly is in their cocoon going through it’s transformation. You appreciate your solitude and need that time to yourself to discover yourself. U allow God time to do his spiritual surgery.
The Jaxn's are not even divorced yet and she has the audacity to sell a course for thousands of dollars to capitalize on her own mess. Targeting women who are most likely financially abused and would be better off leaving and getting real therapy rather than doing what she did by calling out her abuser WHILE STILL MARRIED TO HIM.
She's just as much of a narc grifter as he is.
She knowingly kept getting pregnant by him and knew of his infidelity while participating in his grift the whole time?! Nope. I'm not buying any more of what the Jacksons try to sell.
This is the most sincere and true message! Spiritual warfare is real! Your are 💯 that healing happens in the dark. Healing is also usually quiet or silent. Noise should be a warning for us to be quiet, listen and discern. Then TRUST what we discern.
Preach! Spirits know spirits and when there is a conflict of spirits they recognize that. Therefore, the Holy Spirit in you is not welcome on many of these people's platforms.
From her interview, it was as if a little hurt girl was speaking. As a woman that has been through similar trauma, I could tell she is still in a very immature, naïve, & fragile state of mind. There was a lot of joking and ke-ke-ing going on that was not amusing or funny at all. I pray that she continues to surrender her wounds and hurt to God. I know her testimony will help deliver thousands of women once God renews her mind, mends her heart, and develops her spiritual and emotional well-being. God will use her mightly if she fully submits to the process!!
Is he talking about Derrick Jaxn wife?
Yes he is
The Jaxn's are not even divorced yet and she has the audacity to sell a course for thousands of dollars to capitalize on her own mess. Targeting women who are most likely financially abused and would be better off leaving and getting real therapy rather than doing what she did by calling out her abuser WHILE STILL MARRIED TO HIM.
She's just as much of a narc grifter as he is.
She knowingly kept getting pregnant by him and knew of his infidelity while participating in his grift the whole time?! Nope. I'm not buying any more of what the Jacksons try to sell.
Yeah I felt like she was trying to laugh and make light of her pain…..it only amplified it to me
13:36 speak!!!
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. Psalm 9:10
Without Him there is no wisdom or discernment.
Amen
You preaching right now! Single relationship coaches! Cray.
Gotcha, you nailed it within the first few minutes 🎯🎯🎯 When I didn’t lean into my intuition & discernment when I was younger, being naive, it caused me so much heartache & trouble 💔😔 But ever since I listened to my inner voice and followed the HS these past several years, I became isolated - yet my life took off! 🚀💨🔥
THIS IS WHY I ROCK WITH YOU TONY!!!!!!!!!!!
Someone sharing their story gave me the courage and affirmation I need to confront my own.
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That’s great and that’s the point of us sharing our experience with others but you probably missed Tony’s message a bit. Especially the end of the video.
@@KKk-lz7utt’s frightful when people make comments about another’s comment and in a narrative of their own making.
As you can see by the badge next to my name I am a member as well as a member of the growth club.
I didn’t miss anything and chose to comment based on what I wanted to comment about.
I have several teachers and TG is one of them.
Notice I said confront my own story not share. I’m still healing ma’am.
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Serious question, it took her sharing her story about all the trauma and abuse for you to finally confront your situation? I’m just wondering if this was the breakthrough you needed hearing about another woman being cheated on….
Yes!!! I didn’t realize true healing after 4 years of being single! I literally went through a spiritual awakening after a major traumatic event. I’m in my 5th year of being single/abstinent and I’m so grateful for choosing to evolve and have self control. Discernment is a must!
Amen!! Discernment is sooo important. It's saved me from several bad situations. Always look for people's motives.
Tony, people have different ministries. I’m glad she got a platform to show another side of her. But you’re also right about her safety and being discerning. I’m literally over everyone at this point.
The Jaxn's are not even divorced yet and she has the audacity to sell a course for thousands of dollars to capitalize on her own mess. Targeting women who are most likely financially abused and would be better off leaving and getting real therapy rather than doing what she did by calling out her abuser WHILE STILL MARRIED TO HIM.
She's just as much of a narc grifter as he is.
She knowingly kept getting pregnant by him and knew of his infidelity while participating in his grift the whole time?! Nope. I'm not buying any more of what they try to sell.
@@jessitabonita lol I actually didn’t watch to the end so I didn’t even know about this course shenanigan. I agree with you: I would personally not buy a course from her due to the long standing history of poor decision-making. Am I still glad she got to tell her side of the story? Yep.
MRS. SHEREE IS A SMART COOKIE. HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY SIS !!!
I’m glad you spoke on this. It’s a time and place for everything. Over explaining details of what just happened to you and not giving yourself time to heal is not helping her healing process. In actuality it invites people in who don’t have good intentions to further destroy you.
The Jaxn's are not even divorced yet and she has the audacity to sell a course for thousands of dollars to capitalize on her own mess. Targeting women who are most likely financially abused and would be better off leaving and getting real therapy rather than doing what she did by calling out her abuser WHILE STILL MARRIED TO HIM.
She's just as much of a narc grifter as he is.
She knowingly kept getting pregnant by him and knew of his infidelity while participating in his grift the whole time?! Nope. I'm not buying any more of what the Jacksons try to sell.
Because, when women speak up on what they intuit,
and they’re not wrong,
They’re usually met with a truck load of gaslighting!
Composed and methodical..🗣️🗣️🗣️🎯 Discernment is absolutely needed. I just had a conversation about the spirit of discernment with my child. This is deep. 💯🙏🏽
It's so crazy that you are saying this Tony because I was thinking about this very same thing when I saw his ex wife doing that interview.
Believe none of what you hear and half of what you see, is what my grandmother used to say.
However, nowadays you can't believe anything that you see or hear because people have so many negative hidden agendas.
So so true Tony. Why was the guy laughing all through that woman’s pain. I mean?? What was funny? Making this interview wasn’t the wisest thing. They do have kids that should be priority besides we didn’t need more info about the relationship because the ex hubby already showed us everything.
!!! Omg this. I’m 5 days away from the one year mark of my life changing testimony. & I’m no where near ready to actually tell me story. I always give thanks to God for life && let those know I can’t wait to share my lesson’s with others. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I agree with you. There was uneasiness as I watch the video of the young lady. Discernment is AWESOME. JESUS
I don’t like to show anything as well and my husband is doing very well financially. Great message Tony!!
You’re speaking the whole truth! After I was delivered from a few things last year, I instantly was shown different things about the platform you’re speaking on. The Holy Spirit showed me soooo much about the man that I had to instantly unfollow. People need to stop discrediting you and go directly to the Source, God will confirm this message!
They are gone learn!!
@@lynne4948 Unfortunately they will the hard way. Watching spirits like that are damaging to your own spirit over time. It’s luring you in and before you know it you’re delusional and disconnected from reality. I understand why there’s a saying, “Believe none of what you see and half of what you hear!”
@@ShawneeP yes, my great aunt told me a few years ago about social media and it always stayed with me “everything that you see ain’t everything you see.”
God definitely confirmed his message
@@lynne4948 Amen 🎯💯
This is so true! So many people applaud another person's "transparency" but those same people would never share the dirty deets of their own life. And those who WOULD share their private business mistake their lack of discretion for authenticity.
I don't say that to undermine her because I am rooting for her, however, it's the timing of it as Tony says. When you care about someone's well-being and have wisdom, you know how sharing certain details brings shame to an individual. It was a red flag to me how the interviewer kept pressing for the juicy information.
Honestly, the interviewer comes off as kind of slimy to me. He strikes me as another male who's trying to draw a lot of women to him through a female-oriented podcast with the goal of landing his "dream wife" from it. It doesn't impress me that he is "Christian" because he still seems carnal to me.
Also, the fact that "bishop" gave the young lady an OK to go on the podcast was surprising to me. He should have told her she needs to heal more or at least counsel her not to expose too much.
@ Jan Beatrice Your comment is spot on. I watched the interview and turned the volume down. It is super clear when reading the interviewer's body language that he was not that interested in her story, but just going through the motions. Its more to him than meets the eye.
@@iamunstoppable205 I agree. One of the things that was a red flag was the excessive laughing. I understand laughing at the ridiculousness of a scenario to empathize with someone's pain, but his laughter was so forced and came at inappropriate times.
I believe he did that to pretend he was more interested in her story than he was. Also to cause her to let her guard down (to signal they are buddies).
It was nice of him to hire a makeup artist on her behalf, but if you get someone to spill ALL the tea on themselves, people will still mock them. She, being a recovering people pleaser, trusted him instead of setting boundaries and saying she won't discuss certain things. He wanted to push the envelope. Creepy spirit.
The Jaxn's are not even divorced yet and she has the audacity to sell a course for thousands of dollars to capitalize on her own mess. Targeting women who are most likely financially abused and would be better off leaving and getting real therapy rather than doing what she did by calling out her abuser WHILE STILL MARRIED TO HIM.
She's just as much of a narc grifter as he is.
She knowingly kept getting pregnant by him and knew of his infidelity while participating in his grift the whole time?! Nope. I'm not buying any more of what the Jacksons try to sell.
@@jessitabonita I didn't know what you were talking about at first but Googled and am horrified. I think it is okay to offer coaching sessions and courses to help others where you are at. For instance, if she wants to sell a $35 course about infidelity recovery, that is not totally unreasonable.
But charging $5,000 for 1:1 coaching when you are still in the process of healing... what in the world?!
I am not scarcity-minded at all, however, her heart is obviously not in the right place. It's kind of like broke financial gurus who are trying to get rich off of teaching you about abundance.
Yes, she has been through a ton of trauma and narcissistic abuse. However, that is no excuse for this type of behavior. I agree her target would be vulnerable and naive women.
I pray she realizes this is not the right code of conduct. Right now, she is revealing herself to be a grifter, as you said.
This is true even when you have NOT been intimate with someone. Spending quality time with someone in public those spirits still affect you and it hurts you going through the process of healing from them. So it's 7X as hurtful when you have been intimate with someone 💔 !!!
When you are living right, and focused on GOD, in your word, your discernment will increase drastically. I met a guy that turned out to be a abuser, the first conversation I had with him I was able to discern a controlling spirit on him. I went on his Facebook page and he made a status about controlling the next woman that he met, the girl that he ended up with, he went on live threatening to take her life if she cheated on him.
Thank God you dodged a bullet. Amen
And… that man laughed at her the entire time. It felt like mocking to me because she ain’t that dang gone funny. 🤦🏽♀️
@@wonderfullyrenee wow… seems like another dishonor and discredit to her. And I could see her ex being very upset with her for essentially making it clear that he was pretty much NEVER faithful. Not a good look 👀
@@DawnOfKelly That was no secret shared. That was titled to get woman to watch. No man is just gone to all of sudden start cheating in the middle of a marriage.
I've watched DFW a long time and Laterras laughs a lot period. It's nothing to be offended about.
And yes Spirits know Spirits!!!
Mr Gaskins, God Bless YOU! I've been married 26 years and my parents have been married for 67 years! You are wise beyond your years.
So true Tony! Healing is a process. It doesn’t happen overnight.
Preach Tony! Healing is private between you and God and a good therapist !
Thank you God for using Mr. Tony Gaskins Jr. to deliver this powerful🔋message to me and others, who have ears👂🏽 to hear it, about the importance of using wisdom and discernment to observe wicked and negative behavior patterns to avoid getting connected to a toxic person in an intimate relationship.
I’m telling, people are not discerning!
Tony Gaskins you are 1000% correct.
Many women fail to be discerning.
It's why so many of them follow cult leaders, join cults and sit up under false teachers as well as becoming involved in the wrong relationships.
May God help women to be discerning.🙏🏾 God Almighty will help ladies. Seek Him.
I sense it also; I think she hasn’t healed yet; During the interview they were laughing Fake to me . because all those trouble things, that happened to her I didn’t hear her voice crack nor did she cry. Her spirit it’s not right yet…Praying for Her 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
And this is why I'm still single. I'm too smart for my own good. It's annoying.
Tony it didn’t go over my head!!! Thank you! I’m praying for double discernment!!
I know healing takes time, but I didn't realize how short of a time the lady did the interview. That's crazy! I didn't even think about it. Also, we should actively do the work so that we can actually heal. Lots of people don't actively do the work. I think that's the most important thing.
Another thing is that she admitted to being a rape victim so I can only imagine how the broken trust affected her. Wow!
Brother Tony 🗣️ I completely agree. I seen the interview on my feed and didn’t even click on it. I feel it was too soon to speak on it publicly and forgive me but seem like a clout for views , not necessarily on her end but on that platform (and don’t get me wrong because I have watched a few of that platform podcast, and I’ve discerned something in the person so I haven’t watched the podcast in a min) and I understand people are going to live their lives how they want and some may say “who are we to speak on someone else’s journey and sharing their story” but for people that understand healing, knows this was too soon and that platform wanted to be the first one to put the story out for clout.
The way you ended this video asking The Creator of All Things to give double portions was brilliant! ❤
I hear you loud and clear brother! 💯🙏🏽
My heart was between my feet listening to the sister. Like how are you taking so much of a big risk so soon? Ain't no way you're talking from a fully healed space. Sis still looked sad to me. May God continue to be with her. Be blessed.
Really? She looked like she had heaven backing her to me.. it’s so sad to see so many still judging this woman. Her healing comes from God.. not a human being’s standard time frame.
@@feliceoliviablack go back and re watch. Watch her eyes ,watch how she looked down at times. Sis, I'm not judging the woman. Who am I to judge? We saw what we saw. I felt scared for her. Personally, with that level of shame, and how he degraded her, I just find she came out too soon. That wasn't just a regular breakup. Did you hear the interviewer's little laugh when he asked her the question about when she was out there wishing bad on people? You saw that look? Be blessed sis.
@@feliceoliviablack he just filed for divorce from her less than a year ago….they are still married NOT even divorced yet…are you serious?! They may not even actually divorce, who is to say, but I wouldn’t say you’re fully healed over a man you never desired to leave in the first place….he came to her with wanting the breakup…they may be separated right now, but I definitely don’t think full healing has occurred…
I tried to watch that interview, but I only made it through about 10 minutes. She wanted to stick by her man and got clowned for it. And she was online putting curses on other women.
First thing I noticed was her speaking voice and presentation was very different…as if she was possessed in those other videos. But I would imagine that she has undiagnosed mental health issues because of what she’s been through.
I think in most cases, people who share too much, too soon are looking for support from anywhere they can get it. Sometimes you just need to be alone with God for an extended period of time. I agree 💯
I do think you bring up great points about timing and discernment, so even though I am happy for her, I pray she remains safe. With ol boy having covert narc tendencies, I could see why you would advise someone to proceed with caution. I think most of us were just glad to see an underdog stand up for themself, that was why our reaction was to say “you go gurl”. Maybe a better strategy would have been a tell all book or her telling her story on her own platform. But I hope the outpouring of support and well wishes gives her the strength to navigate coparenting with him from this point forward. I hope she has a solid team of counselors and advisors helping her navigate all this.
This is why you keep your mouth SHUT after a break up or something like this goes down to those who are not close to you…. because some things may not work to your benefit.
You are absolutely right!!! "They understand it but want to see calamity happen." 🙌🏾 You are EXCELLENT at communicating your thoughts on the spiritual. Thank you for your words!
Tony, how is it that you admit that you almost lost your gf who is your now wife due to your ways, but you bounced back and changed. So another man who did wrong to a woman, ppl should judge him forever? The reason we even know what he did is because he told it and created a series to help others heal. Also, you were into the streets and changed. Should we also hold that against you?
Thats that man's past not present and sooo many are receiving healing from his show's transparency. Some of yall are from the era of "we know uncle touched you but dont say anything". We like to show only the perfect. This lady is living out her testimony so others can see they can go through it and heal as well.
Tony you just did my Wednesday Night Bible Study!! But on the real, this was truly a great Word!!🙌🏽🙏🏽
I understand everything you just said. It spoke volumes! Thank you for the message!
We’re listening Tony🙌🏼 Your wife is wise! My best moments are never posted on social media ❤
I'm about to be on my Sheri. Not showing my things online 🤷🏾♀️
It's not smart to show off money or material things online. There could be someone watching you on social media plotting to rob you or scam you.
@@la6136 It's tough for online business owners, but I guess I'll just create my content in my office (decorated, but you can't see cars/clothes, size of home, etc.). That way, you have no basis to go off of!
I agree with the discernment part. Although I don’t see anything wrong with her sharing her story, I didn’t gather what the majority of people gathered from her. I feel that she married a man and she knew that he did not want her. She was just as manipulative as Derrick if you ask me which I believe that she was taking some accountability for. She was not just a victim but a willing participant. As soon as she started talking about the baby being picked up in her room I knew immediately it was witchcraft. The only reason she is no longer with him is because he divorced her. That woman is not afraid of Derrick if anything he should be afraid of her. He blocked all communication and she decides to go public. No it is not normal for a woman to do an interview like that before the divorce unless it is a scorned woman.
Bingo 🎯 He actually didn't sound all that "manipulative" from what she described. He showed her who he was, and she continued to pursue him, to the point of manipulating *his* mother into him marrying her 😐
This is the message ❤❤❤❤ my mind is blown! Keep inspiring and impacting others brother!
Thank you Tony! Because I had the same thoughts about that interview and wondered if I was tripping behind how my spirit felt about the reasoning behind having her do that interview
Lol and I been peeped how you haven’t made it on certain platforms and I already knew why.. Keep doing the good work Tony!! We see you!
Healing is the Beast and the Beauty. Healing is ugly journey with a Beautiful ending. When done correctly
I definitely hear you. I am a 50 year old God Fearing Woman. You are speaking today🙏🏾
Hear you loud and clear Tony. Thank you for confirmation.
Oh this was good!! He sees something in the spirit with all of this. I have followed you long enough to know your track record in God is spot on 🙏🏾. Thank you for message and God bless you!
One thing Tony will do is call it everytime, whether it’s the popular opinion or not. I respect and appreciate that.
Amen! Catching it before getting duped.
Good morning Tony! I love what you’re doing and that’s God work and purpose to serve him and teach us who has the discernment t to hear your messages. I completely agree with this entire video. For me People, but especially women need to do lots of healing. And you’re correct when you also point out that healing is done alone in the dark and not all over the internet. And it takes years for true and complete healing, so for me I operate from a spiritual place and can truly relate to your wisdom. God bless you and your service to serve other🙏🏾💕🙏🏾
If you notice the interview wasn't formatted the way most others are. It wasn't a teachable lesson interview. It was a "I got the exclusive first story" interview.
And the interviewer was crackling the whole time listening to the cheating and games played
I peeped that out also.
Tony, God bless you and your ministry!
I see what you are saying Tony. I never seen that platform until the interview and he kept laughing like her experience was funny. Im really over social media it’s so fake and so many wanting our attention. I also know from my own experience I was not going to expose for fear of my own safety so I should know better. I really hope she is safe because desperate people have no bounds. Thank you for your perspective and I will pray for more discernment because what I experienced, it took years of intentional healing, it’s like peeling back layers.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾…this video & the last video was definitely for me. Thank you, Tony!
I feel it Pastor T!!!!
Exactly! Healing is personal!❤
I just had a convo with a good friend abiut my love interest. We were trying to upack what's going on with him. The number of times I watched this video and I'm like 'right on the money' are too many to put here. This had to be the holy spirit leading me to listen... Thank you for your obedience sir, you help a lot of lives because of it
Amen 🙌 to healing is done in the dark, it privately not openly. Thanks brother. God bless you and your family.
You're my favorite preacher. Everything you say is a sword of truth piercing my spirit. Praise God
This is wisdom you are speaking from. Keep it coming.
Wisdom is the principle thing. Get it and get understanding.
Everyone doesn’t have it, don’t get it, and likely will not understand.
I wrote down the prayer Tony just voiced! Amazing and thank you.
Thank you tio Tony for this message!! 🔥
Yes Tony! Excellent commentary!
Preach!!! Holy Spirit open the eyes of those who are blinded by deception 🔥🔥🔥
Wow this is soo true great video Tony and may God continue to bless your ministry and success ❤🙏🙏
Amen!!! I said the same thing. Too soon. She is wounded and has to go away to heal. I wondered why she was on this talk show. Just sending prayers and protection🙏🏽💜 Mental and emotional abuse run deep.
How do you know her state of being? If you believe in God and Jesus Christ, you must know that he can do a quick work.
You talking and telling the truth brother!
For those who haven't watched Tony Gaskins Jr. , he has shown us he has discernment, he warned us about the message being pushed by " the sitting in the dark" person.
Listen!! I won’t ever forget that! Tony sees something in the spirit and I am positive of this!!!
Mr. Gaskins you're absolutely right! I told my sister the same thing about that situation. Not saying that it is but you never know. Just a different perspective especially considering how she say their situation was.
I really appreciate your videos it's one of the lights we have in the darkness.
Great knowledge Tony
My brother yes you are so anointed! Thank you I need more discernment yes
I think people feel better about themselves when other people air their dirty laundry, so when someone says it's not a good idea, they get defensive because it highlights them wanting to feel superior hearing someone's misfortunes (projection).
Spot on 💯
Dropping gem's brotha 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Tony everything you said lines up with the Truth!!
We thank God for you Tony🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙌🏾🙌🏾