😂😂😂I know right it's weird when people think we are not visual. We are super visual we just don't speak on it too much or we do so with only people we trust... But oh yessss we are more visual than men.
We're out here. I've raised my daughters to do the same. Save themselves for marriage. Go to school, build thier credit, save, work, and develop yourselves Spiritually in The Word of God, having a relationship with THEE. Already carrying themselves as wives if thats what they choose. 🙏🏽 So far, so good. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
That's beautiful, I intend to do the same but also ensure they develop healthy friendships with men who respect them to balance their lives. The men they marry will prove themselves a friend over time.
Unfortunately carrying yourself as a wife causes men to believe YOU'RE ALREADY MARRIED 😑 and they don't approach you. The ones that do approach you are approaching BECAUSE they think you're already married and are being predatory and devious cuz odds are they're taken themselves and they just looking for some playtime smdh
What you’re teaching is true story!!! 🙌🏽 After my divorce I decided to focus on me… spiritually, physically, mentally, emotionally and financially. I have been celibate for 11 yrs and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with me. With God all things are possible.
I am a virgin and so is my boyfriend we are waiting till marriage and dating right now. When you take care of your outside and inside people notice. 😊 God has the right person for you or god wants you single. But no one is perfect.
Plan to get married within the next 6 months ( a year MAX). No need in waiting any longer. Get married soon so as not to fall into sexual sin. Or separate until you both are ready to go all the way. Blessings to you, 🙂
I’m going to make a statement that is 100% truth, ladies you do NOT need a public page to get mens attention. My page is private and I have had nba and 2 other NFL athletes request me. Just from seeing my default picture. One of the NFL players that requested me, I went through his follow list, and he was ONLY following lowkey women with private pages. If they’re curious enough, they will follow. Some men like private women, mystery and women that don’t seem to be seeking attention. People are creeps nowadays and stalkers, and I have my family on my page so it’s staying private. Everything else tho , he is correct
Yes mam I'm 5'4" and my dude is 5'8" or 5'7" 😉 I told him I'm glad he not tall because when we get old I need someone I can help not somebody I gotta leave on the floor because he too damn big 🤣
I think it stems from hunter gatherer era when women needed tall built men to protect them but now with public security it is less important how physically in shape they are cause money is power now since they can hire guards and camera.
I understand what's being said here and I agree with a lot but at some point we have to stop grooming women to be wives for men that don't want to be married. men need to teach men to value women and marriage.
We’re not grooming women to be wives to men that don’t want marriage. We’re grooming women to be wives to attract men that want marriage. We have no control over a man. We only have control over ourselves.
I receive this message to Save myself for marriage. I was tried by this man that's interested in me he wanted to lean in to kiss me I quickly Turned my face he was totally shock but he immediately told me that it's different for him what I did but the next day told me he truly Respect me. So am taken in these videos it's not in vain what you teaching and sacrificing your time away from your family Bro Tony. Am just praying I continue to stay strong I've been abstaining for 3 years now. It's real out here when we hear these messages and we will be put to the test.
Thank you so much Tony Gaskins for teaching Queens in the world. We need more men like you in their purpose. I'm happily single at 46 & I've been abstinent since 2017. I never felt so whole, free, loved, respected & worthy. I'm not focusing on meeting a man, but I am open to it. I'm focusing on me & enjoying life in my singleness, until God blesses with my husband. God bless you, your family & everyone on here.
Man TONY!! You speaking straight facts. My mouth is on the floor. 😂 I been so focused working on me and my brand while getting my degrees not even worried about a man and BOOM… The Good Lord done sent me a GOOD ONE!!! Ayyyy ♥️🙏🏾
I know I need to lose weight. That's what holding me back. I like to look good I know I'm pretty but a bit hefty. I love God,not Into hookups and waiting until marriage. Its just I like to eat. But I've been seeking God to help me with this problem and taking the steps to make some changes
You've taken the first, big step, which is acknowledging what YOU want to change. Not for a man, but better health. Also note that the right man will love you just as you are!
I'm glad your self aware. Join a gym or if not go walking. I lost a great deal of weight just walking. Pray about what your eating. Drink plenty water.
The Biggest Problem is: People imitate what everybody else is doing; regardless if it’s Wrong and they make it a Trend! No wonder, doom is everywhere! Don’t be followers, be Leaders instead!
Wealthy people have a budget. It just may be higher than others, but they still have one. Therefore, they stay rich. Wealthy people have temperance and limits on what they do. They have self-control.
With all the fleshly desires you described. The MOST IMPORTANT is the HEART. So while Man is looking at the abs, the teeth, the face, etc. God will ALWAYS look at the HEART.
I agree that women should stay woke but have standards, boundaries, and expectations, because most men are on a new level with lying and sending their fake representatives daily. Most men are looking for a preference so let's be honest about that, because how are the men you describe meeting a loose woman if they didn't put themselves in the company of that. #1 good women aren't always in the club. Good black women are doing the work, the truth is most black men are not looking for black women. Most men don't think they have to do anything to improve!! Black women should be broadening their love quest but, Vet with none regret. Its easy to talk both ways but its only one rule to honesty, loyalty, trust, and true love to follow.
😂 I rewinded that part because I thought thats what he said. As for me, i take collagen that includes hyaluronic acid and vitamin C. Im 45 and I refuse to look 95.
If you’re a woman who has been sexually active in the past, please know that you can still choose to stop what you’ve been doing and change course. You won’t die from lack of sex. And any man who doesn’t want your company, time or attention without you putting out isn’t someone you want in your life anyway I’ve been abstaining for almost 3 years and it has been amazing for my mind, body and soul. There is absolutely no downside to it other than missing the pleasure of sex. However, that’s not even a big deal to me, because sex is temporary anyway. It may feel good in the moment, but afterwards, not so much. Especially if you’re having casual sex. Give yourself time to get to know yourself. Develop yourself. Your likes/dislikes. Your standards. Strengthen your faith. Develop a relationship with GOD. The ultimate source of unconditional love Trust me, you aren’t missing out on anything when you abstain. If anything, you stand out. And off the rip, guys know they can’t play with you. I’ve been watching Tony Gaskins for years and one thing I love is that he’s gonna give you the real deal Holyfield, from a Christian perspective. He’s relatable, and has a passion for helping women. God bless you.
As a young woman who didn’t grow up with a father figure in her life, I really admire these videos I’m not a part of your coaching, but watching your videos are enough for me. You’ve really opened my eyes and showed me how I really should operate , not only as a young woman, but a human being I watch all your videos back to back. They fulfill different parts of my life and answers that I’ve always wanted to know. It doesn’t matter what you talk about. I understand everything, you speaking nothing but the truth and I admire you for that! Thank you tony ! And god bless you and your family ❤
Thanks for your consistent obedience to The Lord! We grow when the truth is raw and real! All facts Tony, phew! A little token of my appreciation for all you do🙌🏾🙏🏾
All the unqualified dating coaches has ruined dating seriously Dating is really simple I don't understand why everybody is making it so hard today just be the best u you can be and when you find someone u like and that truly likes u date them if it ends in marriage great if not keep dating.
@@ginmaria117 nothing works outside the bibles morals. And I'm not saying be religious. But I never seem success for women approaching men or pursuing men when it's supposed t9 be the other way around. I haven't much success in dating someone unequally yoked. A spiritual man needs a Godly spiritual woman who has the same beliefs
@@ginmaria117 incorrect. Read the book of Timothy. The bible calls that a silly woman. Never once in any biblical information did women approach their husbands. Not even Ruth. Boaz saw Ruth as a worker in his fields and he found that she had favor with God. It's absolute foolishness to me women today believe they can approach or initiate marriage. That is not a feminine roll that's a masculine roll. Men being leaders is not a form of slavery or anything. It's supposed to Be God first, husband 2nd, Wife 3rd then children or whole family. And Jesus is in between Husband and his Father. The problem today is people forgot God and they go after their own lust or will.
@christian henry you do know the Bible was used for oppression and you do know it is man made and has been revised so many times things taken out things put in. We have the 10 commandments and lobe thy neighbor should be enough you think?
I am abstaining and focusing on myself. Yet, I have met men that say my standards are too high because I don’t do “friends with benefits” or “situationships” 🤷🏽♀️
They are trying to manipulate you out of your standards and boundaries by saying that so you settle for them. If they cant meet it, then they shouldn't be giving you advice lol
I truly agree. I'm 58 soon to be 59 in July and I've been single and celibate for over 5 plus years now and refuse to settle . I'm enjoying my life regardless of being single and I'm a chef so I stay busy and want to start a channel for older women who are single and this world tried to tell you that you need to be desperate. Hell naw.. wait wait until you meet the right guy. At my age we've been married, grown children and have had enough sexto last us .
Does anyone ever tell men to keep their legs closed ??? Women are always told that but men have free range to do whatever they want and then go after the women who have been celibate 🤔🤔. And I appreciate the examples of the 3 men that Tony gave however I’m a therapist with a lot of Black female clients and things are different.
Like I tell my elementary students, you can only worry about yourself… sure society is skewed a certain way but if YOU decide not to give up the goods then it doesn’t matter what a man decides to do or not do 🤷🏽♀️
@@lovelyone2508 Agreed. I follow both of them. People need to stop following pages that don't preach the truth. Those of us practicing abstinence are in the minority. Everybody isn't about Jesus. Pray for them but your focus should be on the ones that are actually walking in the word.
Love this - A couple months ago, I decided to just focus/ work on myself and start stepping out more; I wfh and am mainly in the house, trying out coworking spaces and cafes just for a change of scenery. I’ve done the reflection/ healing and just have a fresh zeal for life; the world is at my feet. If he finds me, he finds me and I’ll welcome him with open arms. But if not, I’ll just keep enjoying what I’ve been doing til the next chapter comes❤
I still think it's important to have physical attraction. Just because someone's heart is right doesn't mean he's the right fit for me. Aesthetics is part of personality and I don't want to have to push him to work out and eat right, groom properly, and dress nice... I want him to want that on his own.
People so quick to say it’s what’s on the inside that counts as if looks are not important. You only see the outside first. If they are not attractive to you how will you know what is inside? And just because they may be attractive doesn’t mean they have good qualities. What you see is what you get. If they’re fat or sloppy when you meet them you accept them as they are. What reason would they change? So I wholeheartedly agree with you!!!
AMEN AMEN AMEN! Legs closed for 1.5 yrs praise God🙌! HIT THE GYM LADIES (arms, back, core, legs, cardio) 3-5 days a week 30-60 mins. Eat healthy. Choose classy/ modest but form fitting and flattering to your shape, cute/subtle sexy outfits; jewelry, a nice fragrance, and you don't need over the top makeup and nails (put effort into your skin), put effort into your natural hair/protective styles. My church is multicultural and more casual attire but I KNOW I looked good this morning fully covered. Dress how you want to be perceived. You don't know who is looking (i.e. possible future husband).
The women that Tony is talking about that these men cannot so call find are plentiful. They are just going after the wrong women just like they accuse us of doing. He is talking about the guys maybe 5’10 like women don’t want. Well…..maybe the woman won’t have a big butt on her either like men want . However, there are plenty of women with all of the features you want along with the spiritual just like I believe it’s some good looking God filled men out here.
That’s why reality is all women will not have the perfect body … so some of the good men will have to be flexible unless they want to spend on cosmetic surgery! Our hormones are impacting this generation of women in ways we never seen before! Al women need to strive for the best healthy version!
As long as I have two legs, two eyes and etc, I’m not worried about nothing. I’m happy and everything is functional. So what if I not the beauty standards of male creatures. Things could always be worse.
I appreciate this conversation Tony! Being a virtuous woman is the goal 🙌🏾 currently getting this body together for myself and for my king & putting myself out there more. I know I’m a good woman and I will have my good man!
10:24 Lol you’re not alone TG I was driving on E too Driving on fumes 💨😂 I filled up today. On a more serious note, Women NEED to hear more of the truth from men! It would be nice if you could interview young men who are working on themselves and saving themselves for marriage because they believe in doing things God’s way. I trust and truly believe that God sees their faith coupled with their works and He knows who and what these young men NEED to help them work and build together for His glory. Ladies….. You can’t dress like a hooker and expect to be a wife. You can’t cuss 🤬like a pirate and expect to speak into a man’s life in a godly way to build him up and not tear him down. You can’t be ok being the size of a linebacker and think a man will not question if you’ll care about his health and the health of his children. God does ALL things decent and in order not filled with confusion. You gotta do the necessary work 🙏🏽
Amen, a whole word!! Thank you for speaking the truth, no one is the full package because no one is perfect. Their heart for God is most important because if they love God, they can love you like Christ loved the church.
We definitely need more christian Women & Men that are Prosperous and they need to be more visible!! Your message is On point and it is a message for those with a Progressive Mindset!!💯💯
This man paid for my food last night. Afterwards I said thank you and got ready to leave. He didn't ask me for my phone number and I didn't offer it. He said you gonna leave without giving me your number? I said if you don't ask me for my number I am not gonna offer it. I told him I am traditional and in my world a man ask for a number if He wants it. So many men don't even know how to treat a women that is traditional and I blame women. For accepting the bare minimum.
Tony I just want to say thank you for telling us the biz & keeping us on point. Another thing that crossed my mind… you and your wife should be guests on the Dear Future Wifey podcast! That would be great!!!!❤️
Tony, I just got out of a 9 year marriage that ended last year due to my husbands long time infidelity and adultery. A man from my job asked me out, he has been pursuing me for 4 years and I gave him a chance now that I'm in the process of a divorce. But, I realized he wants to sleep with me and I ended it. I am 40 years old and never got to have kids because my ex husband would deny me sex. He was into pornography. I know God has a GOOD MAN out here for me. I am putting God first because He knows my ❤️ and how I want to PLEASE HIM first. Even though I have seen my share of no good men, I still believe there are good men out there...and my heart is willing to cultivate something special. Meanwhile, working on myself and loving it.
I'd advise you not to date until divorce is final. I applaud you for your stance for chastity. That's great. It's going to take time to heal. I pray you find peace & fulfillment in Christ Jesus.
My prayer is that the Lord will lead you in his perfect will. But pleaee do not make the mistake of getting into a second marriage that will be adultery in the sight of God. I will leave the scriptures here so thst you can prayerfully consider before making a decission. (Romans 7:2-4),(Mark 10:10-12),(1 Corinthians 7:10-11),(1 Corinthians 7:39). Take care.
@@CalledUntoHoliness well what about the scripture that says god hate a divorce except because of adultery or death? You should know that one. It’s Matthew 19:1-9. God hates a divorce between those he put together 1st off, but if they do divorce it can be because of sexual immorality. By the scriptures a woman is not allowed to remarry unless he committed adultery or dies.
I agree with 98% of everything you’re saying , except every woman should have a business . I have job that I’m very content with , I’m looking for a man to build a life together .
I'm so excited to know this! I'm being led by faith I know the things that I need to work on. I'm learning to love myself and invest in myself. In the past year I became serious about dating and wanting to be married. I know that I am in process. Thank you so much Tony for being a vessel. I'm going to keep listening to your videos. We need more leaders like you. You and your family are in my prayers! We need examples 🙂❤
Big bruh wasgood! I just wanted to say you helped me change n become a real man. Been watching your vids back when the 19 first started. I love what you doing. I encourage all men to tap in with bro but, also tap in with yourself and the LORD. Not everything on this UA-cam is 100% accurate. Walk with the LORD, men! Dont sleep around, be faithful n accountable. Make decisions you feel are best n charge the rest to the game. John 8:7 (nobody’s perfect). You gonna make mistakes bruh, but, make sure you doing it on your own conviction. Not on what you seen on the internet my brother. I love the man im becoming big bruh played Tony played a significant part in it tho💯 I aint lying. Signing off, HB
Focus on yourself ladies! The man that God has will see you. Don’t let the devil make you feel like virtue and all the “ old” school values are no longer important , when in fact most of those qualities make you shine amongst the dust.side note: let the cartoon lashes go!
I think a lot of times as women we forget how visual men are. The same way we don’t want to date a godly broke man is the same way men don’t want to date a godly out of shape woman.
@@adarateranroldan as a woman I understand but in the dating phase we have to present our best self. The same way a man’s finance will fluctuate during marriage but when he’s your husband there’s commitment and love (hopefully) holding you two together so you don’t leave him but if he was super broke from day one you wouldn’t pick him if you have any type of healthy self esteem. I know a lot of times it’s hard for us to hear these truths as women but that’s just how the world is.
@@adarateranroldan Of course it will fluctuate but if you are in shape (with lifting weights and cardio) and eat healthy before pregnancy, stay active during, and don't give in to every single craving, the weight should come off in 6 months to 1 year postpartum. Unless you are on medical bed rest during your pregrancy, you should still be exercising...just not as hardcore (yoga, lighter weights, and cardio). I have PCOS and weight loss is a lot harder but not impossible. Lost 30 lbs last year before I was even diagnosed. But I had to fight for them 30 lbs man😓. This year I'm going even harder and being more consistent. The part where Tony said you'll notice you're getting alot more attention is so true. I get my most approaches at the gym and I'm still trying to lose another 30 lbs this year. Nothing is easy, but if it's important to you, you will sacrifice the unhealthy habits to get to your goals. Discipline.
1 Corinthians 7:34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
I’m 27, I’ve been celibate for 2 years, I started my own business last year, I Workout 4X a week, eat a balanced diet, have great aesthetic upkeep, god fearing, I have investments plans and I feel greatttt lol but I don’t have plans on seriously dating until I’m 30. So we shall see lol
Ummm...sis unless you're in therapy (which I recommend to everyone) and recovering from something (healing traumas, heart break, mourning, etc) please don't wait til 30😓. Think about it from the male's perspective. I'm 27 too with similar circumstances. THIS is our time. I say if you are getting respectfully approached, don't shut it down because you're waiting til 30. You might just pass up on your husband.
You don’t have to wait though… there are men looking for a woman just like you. Praying for a woman just like you. You’re young and beautiful, share your beauty with a good man.
Some of that what you are saying I disagree with because a lot of the things you are saying it does not matter, The way you are talkin you are describing a perfect person and nobody perfect that walks this Earth you are making some of these women feel uncomfortable with themselves, The Bible says if a man finds a wife he finds a good thing, then the Bible says marriage is Honorable to all.
Fan base he did say most of the women don’t listen. It’s just the way he still talk to them like they don’t get it as if they would have listen to him you would have been married by now. The delusional tactics can’t work on desperate pick me. 2023 women should be woke and unstoppable.
The real problem is virtuous women have trouble meeting age appropriate men bc alot of these men are looking for younger women.... you can look amazing and still be passed over bc of ageism.... Ironically alot of younger men are now looking at older women... so the dating dynamic really is complicated
Thank you for this video ! Everything you said is correct ✅ I always said that when I get married I would never ask my husband to take me shopping or buy me jewelry and give me a huge house. I would rather live comfortably and simple and let him save his money ! As long as we’re not struggling and our children are safe and healthy that’s all that matters
Thank you brother in Christ!!! You are greatly appreciated!!! You are speaking what I was recently thinking! I recently reposted a video that I made from last year and didn't realize how rough I was looking (was going through a rough patch).😆😂 I've spruced up since then but know I need to spruce up some more!!! Because if I want to date and want someone that looks upkept and fit I should be upkept and on point too. Will get it together!!!😆☺️😊 Thank you for the reminder, confirmation and encouragement...cuz I was also thinking "are there still good, godly men out there?!?" Yes, thank you Lord. God bless you Sir!🙏🏽💯✊🏽 Also, your female impersonations are hilarious!!!😆😂
Hairstyles have nothing to do about your character. I'm focused on what someone's character is, not outward appearance. As long as the hygiene is up to par that's what's important.
Yep everybody wants to give it up so bad. All they have to do is talk dirty or give a false sense of importance, approval. They fall in quick. Stop being with people of the opposite sex. Late at night. Temptation is stronger then you can handle.
Tony Everything you just said in this video resonated with my spirit I feel like everything you said is all the things God has been convicting me of in my spirit - my physical presentation Physical presentation is a total game changer You are right about everything you are saying That’s why I’m up right now & it’s past midnight where I live & I’m trying to figure out what gym outfit I’m wearing today I have a 24 hour gym membership so there’s no excuses I’ll be at the gym bright & early this morning Me personally I do feel God conviction regarding how I present 🎁 on the outside as well as how my inner man /spirit shows up I’m doing the work Tony You’re not wrong You are on point & you are in alignment with what God is saying I gotta do better as woman - PERIODT (Speaking for myself)
Helpful Message Tony may God bless us all to take it to heart and connect with the right person that God has ordained! I am one that loves God, educates, just started my business it's doing well and I'm and a retired athlete. It takes a love relationship with God and with self to make the commitments to become and maintain having the whole package! Bless you Sir 🙏.
Tony, I will tell you something, I am a single woman for some time now (why, because I exactly know what type of man I want), and I cannot tell you how much times I have been approached by married men, who obviously think I cannot get a man, that as a single woman I am desparate. I politely refuse them, cold shower style, and never talked to these men again, I am so dissapointed that such sexually hungry men are so frustrared to even take such approach, especially because I know them and their wives. I don't even provoke them; if I needed to meet these guys (business etc) i wore less make up and baggy clothes, because I know how men thinks. And still anyway...
My friend was experiencing the same thing and her therapist told her she attracted unavailable men because she herself was emotionally unavailable. My friend said she didn’t realize it until that moment. Just something to consider.
I listened to your entire video. I heard you say nothing about their personality, or how they treat a woman, which is more important than their looks. I have found that many man and women public person is far different than their private person. As a matter of fact the last person that I dated was all that and some. He has a good career (state/nationally known), in shape, house, helps others, and a pillar of the community. What drew me to him was that he appeared to be loving, kind and had an excellent relationship with his family. Well all of this was/is true; however once he thought that he had me, he showed the true his true self. This was really scary. He was like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. He never gave an explanation for his actions. He would ask me if I forgave him, because God said that I had to forgive him no matter how many times he messed up. He was very well aware of his actions. He would also ask me to work with him to help him. I know now, and subconsciously knew then, that he didn’t really want help. He never thought that he did anything wrong, and he would always find a way to May his actions my fault. On paper, and to the world, he looks and sounds great; however in reality, he’s a nightmare. We broke up two years ago, and to this day he’s trying to get me back. I don’t understand why, because whenever I went back to him in the past, he would only treat me worse than before. Again, if I told anyone, no one would believe me, because he presents himself as this over the top great guy to men and women. The one person that I did tell doesn’t believe me, because he he has brain them to believe that he’s perfect. It takes more than the outward appearance that a person has it together. The inward man or woman is more important to me. Who wants to live in hell just to be with someone who acts like a crazy person whenever it hits them, then when it’s over, they act as if nothing ever happened or blame you for what did happen. Also they never ever want to have a conversation about it, if I am not going to accept responsibility for it. No thanks. I would rather be by myself.
Sounds like a covert narcissist or at least possess qualities of one. I agree with everything you are saying. People are so focused on the outer appearance that they fail to realize that the outer does not always reflect the inner. We are living in the age of social media/DECEPTION. I see a lot of people that pose the argument of "well you should hold yourself accountable for missing the red flags" but there are many people, both men and woman that are master manipulators. They know exactly how to act and what to say in order to get someone to fall in love. They are even able to maintain that image long enough to where some don't even see the switch coming. This is both in and outside of the church too and with it without discernment. Some people manipulation tactics are so on point and they will even "justifiably" use scripture or their "love" of the word and God to justify their actions
Thank you for sharing this very REAL perspective and filling in the gaps. Truth breaks down lies about how we view things that cause us to miss our blessings. 💜
Amen brother Tony I receive this Blessed message/Word in Jesus name. I'm new to your Blessed Ministry and you really speaking truth about everything. And congratulations to you and all your Blessed brothers in Christ for their accomplishments, TGBTG
My husband and I waited until we were married. Best decision I ever made. If he’s a godly man he will wait! 💗
Thanks for sharing! 🙌🙌
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Love this!!! How long have you been married?
He needs to be saving himself as well. Women don’t want ran thru men either
And men always try to say"men can't be ran through, they do the running through".... It's disgusting
Why do people think that women aren't visual?🤷🤔😒
😂😂😂I know right it's weird when people think we are not visual. We are super visual we just don't speak on it too much or we do so with only people we trust... But oh yessss we are more visual than men.
We're out here. I've raised my daughters to do the same. Save themselves for marriage. Go to school, build thier credit, save, work, and develop yourselves Spiritually in The Word of God, having a relationship with THEE. Already carrying themselves as wives if thats what they choose. 🙏🏽 So far, so good. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
That's beautiful, I intend to do the same but also ensure they develop healthy friendships with men who respect them to balance their lives. The men they marry will prove themselves a friend over time.
Unfortunately carrying yourself as a wife causes men to believe YOU'RE ALREADY MARRIED 😑 and they don't approach you. The ones that do approach you are approaching BECAUSE they think you're already married and are being predatory and devious cuz odds are they're taken themselves and they just looking for some playtime smdh
@@MelenaSoleil Not true. I'm speaking of evolved men, not predators.
@DOZ Amen. They will already be best friends before marriage.
Talk about dedication. I’m so ecstatic that he’s shooting a video while pumping gas only Tony gaskets can do that. 🙏👍🏾
What you’re teaching is true story!!! 🙌🏽 After my divorce I decided to focus on me… spiritually, physically, mentally, emotionally and financially. I have been celibate for 11 yrs and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with me. With God all things are possible.
11 years.. that's impressive.
I've been abstaining for 4 years and focusing on myself as well.
Much love n success to you sistar
Amen sister!
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Yesss good job sis!
Great job sis! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I am a virgin and so is my boyfriend we are waiting till marriage and dating right now. When you take care of your outside and inside people notice. 😊 God has the right person for you or god wants you single. But no one is perfect.
This is lovely!!! Stay steadfast, yall!
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What a blessing ❤
Do u think he's going to propose? What's he waiting for? I am so glad your both abstinent but I think he should propose.
Plan to get married within the next 6 months ( a year MAX). No need in waiting any longer. Get married soon so as not to fall into sexual sin. Or separate until you both are ready to go all the way.
Blessings to you, 🙂
I’m going to make a statement that is 100% truth, ladies you do NOT need a public page to get mens attention. My page is private and I have had nba and 2 other NFL athletes request me. Just from seeing my default picture. One of the NFL players that requested me, I went through his follow list, and he was ONLY following lowkey women with private pages. If they’re curious enough, they will follow. Some men like private women, mystery and women that don’t seem to be seeking attention.
People are creeps nowadays and stalkers, and I have my family on my page so it’s staying private.
Everything else tho , he is correct
Does your default pic show face only?
@@tracychromes7155 it’s always face only
But you just name dropped. Can’t respect it. You could have been discrete.
@@quathetruth8314 saying they followed needs to be discrete? I didn’t say they flew me out but ok.
@@UnpredictableAri nice! And if its the same face as your profile poc, I can see why. Curious of how many followers/followings and activity/posting?
Tony is speaking 1000% truth!
I also tell friends...you can make beauty modifications, but you can't change the core of anyone's character. 👏🏾
FACTS! The inner beauty shows on the exterior of a person.
Not all women want 6' tall men. I am 5' 6" and just wanted someone taller than myself. Kissable height is what I call it.
Yes mam I'm 5'4" and my dude is 5'8" or 5'7" 😉 I told him I'm glad he not tall because when we get old I need someone I can help not somebody I gotta leave on the floor because he too damn big 🤣
@@kiaracouch9315 lmaooo so true
Same sis!
Right. We all are not height exclusive 🤣
I think it stems from hunter gatherer era when women needed tall built men to protect them but now with public security it is less important how physically in shape they are cause money is power now since they can hire guards and camera.
I understand what's being said here and I agree with a lot but at some point we have to stop grooming women to be wives for men that don't want to be married. men need to teach men to value women and marriage.
We’re not grooming women to be wives to men that don’t want marriage. We’re grooming women to be wives to attract men that want marriage. We have no control over a man. We only have control over ourselves.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world. Be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Romans 12:2 🙏🏾
I receive this message to Save myself for marriage. I was tried by this man that's interested in me he wanted to lean in to kiss me I quickly Turned my face he was totally shock but he immediately told me that it's different for him what I did but the next day told me he truly Respect me. So am taken in these videos it's not in vain what you teaching and sacrificing your time away from your family Bro Tony. Am just praying I continue to stay strong I've been abstaining for 3 years now. It's real out here when we hear these messages and we will be put to the test.
Thank you so much Tony Gaskins for teaching Queens in the world. We need more men like you in their purpose. I'm happily single at 46 & I've been abstinent since 2017. I never felt so whole, free, loved, respected & worthy. I'm not focusing on meeting a man, but I am open to it. I'm focusing on me & enjoying life in my singleness, until God blesses with my husband. God bless you, your family & everyone on here.
Bless you as well sis...keep loving your self
I know that’s right! I love myself too much!
Man TONY!! You speaking straight facts. My mouth is on the floor. 😂
I been so focused working on me and my brand while getting my degrees not even worried about a man and BOOM… The Good Lord done sent me a GOOD ONE!!! Ayyyy ♥️🙏🏾
I know I need to lose weight. That's what holding me back. I like to look good
I know I'm pretty but a bit hefty. I love God,not Into hookups and waiting until marriage. Its just I like to eat. But I've been seeking God to help me with this problem and taking the steps to make some changes
You've taken the first, big step, which is acknowledging what YOU want to change. Not for a man, but better health. Also note that the right man will love you just as you are!
I'm glad your self aware. Join a gym or if not go walking. I lost a great deal of weight just walking. Pray about what your eating. Drink plenty water.
The Biggest Problem is: People imitate what everybody else is doing; regardless if it’s Wrong and they make it a Trend! No wonder, doom is everywhere!
Don’t be followers, be Leaders instead!
Wealthy people have a budget. It just may be higher than others, but they still have one. Therefore, they stay rich. Wealthy people have temperance and limits on what they do. They have self-control.
With all the fleshly desires you described. The MOST IMPORTANT is the HEART. So while Man is looking at the abs, the teeth, the face, etc. God will ALWAYS look at the HEART.
I agree that women should stay woke but have standards, boundaries, and expectations, because most men are on a new level with lying and sending their fake representatives daily. Most men are looking for a preference so let's be honest about that, because how are the men you describe meeting a loose woman if they didn't put themselves in the company of that. #1 good women aren't always in the club. Good black women are doing the work, the truth is most black men are not looking for black women. Most men don't think they have to do anything to improve!! Black women should be broadening their love quest but, Vet with none regret. Its easy to talk both ways but its only one rule to honesty, loyalty, trust, and true love to follow.
Thank you,very well stated
No matter who's delivering the message, it's ALWAYS a double standard for BLACK WOMEN
Tony said do I have an hyaluronic acid. I can't 🤣
He's so funny 🤣😂
😂😂
😂 I rewinded that part because I thought thats what he said. As for me, i take collagen that includes hyaluronic acid and vitamin C. Im 45 and I refuse to look 95.
If you’re a woman who has been sexually active in the past, please know that you can still choose to stop what you’ve been doing and change course. You won’t die from lack of sex. And any man who doesn’t want your company, time or attention without you putting out isn’t someone you want in your life anyway
I’ve been abstaining for almost 3 years and it has been amazing for my mind, body and soul. There is absolutely no downside to it other than missing the pleasure of sex. However, that’s not even a big deal to me, because sex is temporary anyway. It may feel good in the moment, but afterwards, not so much. Especially if you’re having casual sex.
Give yourself time to get to know yourself. Develop yourself. Your likes/dislikes. Your standards. Strengthen your faith. Develop a relationship with GOD. The ultimate source of unconditional love
Trust me, you aren’t missing out on anything when you abstain. If anything, you stand out. And off the rip, guys know they can’t play with you.
I’ve been watching Tony Gaskins for years and one thing I love is that he’s gonna give you the real deal Holyfield, from a Christian perspective. He’s relatable, and has a passion for helping women. God bless you.
I’d really like to hear from more men respecting their bodies by abstaining. It seems rare.
As a young woman who didn’t grow up with a father figure in her life, I really admire these videos I’m not a part of your coaching, but watching your videos are enough for me. You’ve really opened my eyes and showed me how I really should operate , not only as a young woman, but a human being I watch all your videos back to back. They fulfill different parts of my life and answers that I’ve always wanted to know. It doesn’t matter what you talk about. I understand everything, you speaking nothing but the truth and I admire you for that! Thank you tony ! And god bless you and your family ❤
Thanks for your consistent obedience to The Lord! We grow when the truth is raw and real! All facts Tony, phew! A little token of my appreciation for all you do🙌🏾🙏🏾
All the unqualified dating coaches has ruined dating seriously Dating is really simple I don't understand why everybody is making it so hard today just be the best u you can be and when you find someone u like and that truly likes u date them if it ends in marriage great if not keep dating.
@Gina Maria absolutely it's really very simple
@@ginmaria117 nothing works outside the bibles morals. And I'm not saying be religious. But I never seem success for women approaching men or pursuing men when it's supposed t9 be the other way around. I haven't much success in dating someone unequally yoked. A spiritual man needs a Godly spiritual woman who has the same beliefs
@@ginmaria117 incorrect. Read the book of Timothy. The bible calls that a silly woman. Never once in any biblical information did women approach their husbands. Not even Ruth. Boaz saw Ruth as a worker in his fields and he found that she had favor with God. It's absolute foolishness to me women today believe they can approach or initiate marriage. That is not a feminine roll that's a masculine roll. Men being leaders is not a form of slavery or anything. It's supposed to Be God first, husband 2nd, Wife 3rd then children or whole family. And Jesus is in between Husband and his Father. The problem today is people forgot God and they go after their own lust or will.
@@ginmaria117 exactly 💯
@christian henry you do know the Bible was used for oppression and you do know it is man made and has been revised so many times things taken out things put in. We have the 10 commandments and lobe thy neighbor should be enough you think?
“When you close your legs, you gotta ask yourself; Is this the hairstyle for me?” 😂😂 don’t stop with the honesty cause we need it.
I am abstaining and focusing on myself. Yet, I have met men that say my standards are too high because I don’t do “friends with benefits” or “situationships” 🤷🏽♀️
They are trying to manipulate you out of your standards and boundaries by saying that so you settle for them. If they cant meet it, then they shouldn't be giving you advice lol
Thank you Tony! Leveling up physically, mentally, spiritually and financially!!!! Putting myself out there to be found by a Godly Man.
Yes I agree with you about leveling up in those areas, but also about putting myself out there.
I truly agree. I'm 58 soon to be 59 in July and I've been single and celibate for over 5 plus years now and refuse to settle . I'm enjoying my life regardless of being single and I'm a chef so I stay busy and want to start a channel for older women who are single and this world tried to tell you that you need to be desperate. Hell naw.. wait wait until you meet the right guy. At my age we've been married, grown children and have had enough sexto last us .
Does anyone ever tell men to keep their legs closed ??? Women are always told that but men have free range to do whatever they want and then go after the women who have been celibate 🤔🤔. And I appreciate the examples of the 3 men that Tony gave however I’m a therapist with a lot of Black female clients and things are different.
Yes, he does as well. Check out his other videos 😊 I get what you mean though. Marc The Messenger on here does too.
@Square Peg Same thing is starting to happen with Muslim men. They go after belly dancers and good practicing Muslim women are left standing behind.
@Square Peg That has been my #1 experience. I met & married twice. Both of whom I had met in church & they cheated. Ugh!
Like I tell my elementary students, you can only worry about yourself… sure society is skewed a certain way but if YOU decide not to give up the goods then it doesn’t matter what a man decides to do or not do 🤷🏽♀️
@@lovelyone2508 Agreed. I follow both of them. People need to stop following pages that don't preach the truth. Those of us practicing abstinence are in the minority. Everybody isn't about Jesus. Pray for them but your focus should be on the ones that are actually walking in the word.
😂”Do I trim my nose hairers?” 🤣🤣
Tony is hilarious but tells the truth as he delivers his message.
Love this - A couple months ago, I decided to just focus/ work on myself and start stepping out more; I wfh and am mainly in the house, trying out coworking spaces and cafes just for a change of scenery. I’ve done the reflection/ healing and just have a fresh zeal for life; the world is at my feet.
If he finds me, he finds me and I’ll welcome him with open arms. But if not, I’ll just keep enjoying what I’ve been doing til the next chapter comes❤
❤ same here
You can have BRAIN 🧠 BRAND AND BODY AND DUSTY MEN WILL STILL FLOCK TO YOU 😂
Why do you men always get on us about how we look!!!! No wonder society is so messed up!!!
Men!!!! Stop with that!
Thank you Bro Tony for this Timely message for us women waiting on a Godly Man 🙏🏾♥️🎯
Hiyalana acid I seriously LOLd. Hyaluronic it's Hyaluronic. But you are speaking truth, sir.
I still think it's important to have physical attraction. Just because someone's heart is right doesn't mean he's the right fit for me. Aesthetics is part of personality and I don't want to have to push him to work out and eat right, groom properly, and dress nice... I want him to want that on his own.
Exactlyyyyyy
People so quick to say it’s what’s on the inside that counts as if looks are not important. You only see the outside first. If they are not attractive to you how will you know what is inside? And just because they may be attractive doesn’t mean they have good qualities. What you see is what you get. If they’re fat or sloppy when you meet them you accept them as they are. What reason would they change? So I wholeheartedly agree with you!!!
Facts
AMEN AMEN AMEN! Legs closed for 1.5 yrs praise God🙌! HIT THE GYM LADIES (arms, back, core, legs, cardio) 3-5 days a week 30-60 mins. Eat healthy. Choose classy/ modest but form fitting and flattering to your shape, cute/subtle sexy outfits; jewelry, a nice fragrance, and you don't need over the top makeup and nails (put effort into your skin), put effort into your natural hair/protective styles. My church is multicultural and more casual attire but I KNOW I looked good this morning fully covered. Dress how you want to be perceived. You don't know who is looking (i.e. possible future husband).
Guys actually like women who dress look simple
Yes thank you, these tips are great. I really need to work on looking after my skin
The women that Tony is talking about that these men cannot so call find are plentiful. They are just going after the wrong women just like they accuse us of doing. He is talking about the guys maybe 5’10 like women don’t want. Well…..maybe the woman won’t have a big butt on her either like men want . However, there are plenty of women with all of the features you want along with the spiritual just like I believe it’s some good looking God filled men out here.
That’s why reality is all women will not have the perfect body … so some of the good men will have to be flexible unless they want to spend on cosmetic surgery! Our hormones are impacting this generation of women in ways we never seen before! Al women need to strive for the best healthy version!
As long as I have two legs, two eyes and etc, I’m not worried about nothing. I’m happy and everything is functional. So what if I not the beauty standards of male creatures. Things could always be worse.
😆😆 don't no body know who you areee, ruh!! He makes me laugh but true words.
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I appreciate this conversation Tony! Being a virtuous woman is the goal 🙌🏾 currently getting this body together for myself and for my king & putting myself out there more. I know I’m a good woman and I will have my good man!
“You can’t hide God’s blessings” You can’t hide the Favor Of God ✨🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾✨💕❤️
10:24
Lol you’re not alone TG I was driving on E too
Driving on fumes 💨😂 I filled up today.
On a more serious note,
Women NEED to hear more of the truth from men! It would be nice if you could interview young men who are working on themselves and saving themselves for marriage because they believe in doing things God’s way. I trust and truly believe that God sees their faith coupled with their works and He knows who and what these young men NEED to help them work and build together for His glory.
Ladies…..
You can’t dress like a hooker and expect to be a wife.
You can’t cuss 🤬like a pirate and expect to speak into a man’s life in a godly way to build him up and not tear him down.
You can’t be ok being the size of a linebacker and think a man will not question if you’ll care about his health and the health of his children.
God does ALL things decent and in order not filled with confusion.
You gotta do the necessary work 🙏🏽
Amen, a whole word!! Thank you for speaking the truth, no one is the full package because no one is perfect. Their heart for God is most important because if they love God, they can love you like Christ loved the church.
Thank you for supporting my coffee shop habit and affirming my decision to make my IG public. I’m making it easier for my husband to find me 😂
You are the real. Thanks always for doing the lord's work 💐
Yes sir 16 years 🔒
Preach and teach 🎉
Ok. Men need to do the same!!! Not just women, it goes both ways! No exceptions!
We definitely need more christian Women & Men that are Prosperous and they need to be more visible!! Your message is On point and it is a message for those with a Progressive Mindset!!💯💯
This man paid for my food last night. Afterwards I said thank you and got ready to leave. He didn't ask me for my phone number and I didn't offer it. He said you gonna leave without giving me your number? I said if you don't ask me for my number I am not gonna offer it. I told him I am traditional and in my world a man ask for a number if He wants it. So many men don't even know how to treat a women that is traditional and I blame women. For accepting the bare minimum.
Tony I just want to say thank you for telling us the biz & keeping us on point. Another thing that crossed my mind… you and your wife should be guests on the Dear Future Wifey podcast! That would be great!!!!❤️
Amen! Women saving themselves until marriage exists too! We out here! Focusing, building and in God! SAVING OURSELVES! 🔥🔥
Tony, I just got out of a 9 year marriage that ended last year due to my husbands long time infidelity and adultery. A man from my job asked me out, he has been pursuing me for 4 years and I gave him a chance now that I'm in the process of a divorce. But, I realized he wants to sleep with me and I ended it. I am 40 years old and never got to have kids because my ex husband would deny me sex. He was into pornography. I know God has a GOOD MAN out here for me. I am putting God first because He knows my ❤️ and how I want to PLEASE HIM first. Even though I have seen my share of no good men, I still believe there are good men out there...and my heart is willing to cultivate something special. Meanwhile, working on myself and loving it.
I'd advise you not to date until divorce is final. I applaud you for your stance for chastity. That's great. It's going to take time to heal. I pray you find peace & fulfillment in Christ Jesus.
My prayer is that the Lord will lead you in his perfect will. But pleaee do not make the mistake of getting into a second marriage that will be adultery in the sight of God. I will leave the scriptures here so thst you can prayerfully consider before making a decission. (Romans 7:2-4),(Mark 10:10-12),(1 Corinthians 7:10-11),(1 Corinthians 7:39). Take care.
@@CalledUntoHoliness she is free to remarry. Her husband broke the covenant when he cheated. She is not bound to that marriage.
@@karahill5739 The scripture does not say that (Romans 7:2-4),(1 Corinthians 7:39),(Mark 10:10-11).
@@CalledUntoHoliness well what about the scripture that says god hate a divorce except because of adultery or death? You should know that one. It’s Matthew 19:1-9. God hates a divorce between those he put together 1st off, but if they do divorce it can be because of sexual immorality. By the scriptures a woman is not allowed to remarry unless he committed adultery or dies.
Love these sobering messages. Always reinforcing the right mindset!
My son is five and he said “that’s God” I said who…he said him(pointing at you Tony on my tablet) …I just had to tell you 😊
I agree with 98% of everything you’re saying , except every woman should have a business . I have job that I’m very content with , I’m looking for a man to build a life together .
I'm so excited to know this! I'm being led by faith I know the things that I need to work on. I'm learning to love myself and invest in myself. In the past year I became serious about dating and wanting to be married. I know that I am in process. Thank you so much Tony for being a vessel. I'm going to keep listening to your videos. We need more leaders like you. You and your family are in my prayers! We need examples 🙂❤
Instagram has become like a dating app. It’s disgusting
We love you Mr. Tony blessings to you and your beautiful family. 😍 💙🙏🏼
When he said you got to get out your house 👀👀
Big bruh wasgood! I just wanted to say you helped me change n become a real man. Been watching your vids back when the 19 first started. I love what you doing. I encourage all men to tap in with bro but, also tap in with yourself and the LORD. Not everything on this UA-cam is 100% accurate. Walk with the LORD, men! Dont sleep around, be faithful n accountable. Make decisions you feel are best n charge the rest to the game. John 8:7 (nobody’s perfect). You gonna make mistakes bruh, but, make sure you doing it on your own conviction. Not on what you seen on the internet my brother. I love the man im becoming big bruh played Tony played a significant part in it tho💯 I aint lying.
Signing off,
HB
Big Ups to you, Prince 🤴🏾 💜
Tony gaskins: CLOSE YO LEGS!! 🗣️🗣️🗣️ true ish 😂😂😂
Focus on yourself ladies! The man that God has will see you. Don’t let the devil make you feel like virtue and all the “ old” school values are no longer important , when in fact most of those qualities make you shine amongst the dust.side note: let the cartoon lashes go!
I agree! Pleeeeeease let them lashes go!!! 😂🦋
Not the cartoon lashes 😂
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You need to tell men this too
I am 29yr old and a
virgin still waiting until marriage
Thats wonderful!
Tony!! An entire gem filled treasure trove! Amen!🙏🏽
Thank you & God bless you abundantly!!! 💕👑
I think a lot of times as women we forget how visual men are. The same way we don’t want to date a godly broke man is the same way men don’t want to date a godly out of shape woman.
That’s fine, but women’s weight is going to fluctuate throughout a relationship, especially if they’re having kids.
@@adarateranroldan as a woman I understand but in the dating phase we have to present our best self. The same way a man’s finance will fluctuate during marriage but when he’s your husband there’s commitment and love (hopefully) holding you two together so you don’t leave him but if he was super broke from day one you wouldn’t pick him if you have any type of healthy self esteem. I know a lot of times it’s hard for us to hear these truths as women but that’s just how the world is.
True 🙌 Can't be mad at the truth.
@@adarateranroldan Of course it will fluctuate but if you are in shape (with lifting weights and cardio) and eat healthy before pregnancy, stay active during, and don't give in to every single craving, the weight should come off in 6 months to 1 year postpartum. Unless you are on medical bed rest during your pregrancy, you should still be exercising...just not as hardcore (yoga, lighter weights, and cardio).
I have PCOS and weight loss is a lot harder but not impossible. Lost 30 lbs last year before I was even diagnosed. But I had to fight for them 30 lbs man😓. This year I'm going even harder and being more consistent. The part where Tony said you'll notice you're getting alot more attention is so true. I get my most approaches at the gym and I'm still trying to lose another 30 lbs this year. Nothing is easy, but if it's important to you, you will sacrifice the unhealthy habits to get to your goals. Discipline.
Bbl’s are not the answer just hit that gym ladies
1 Corinthians 7:34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
What?
I’m 27, I’ve been celibate for 2 years, I started my own business last year, I Workout 4X a week, eat a balanced diet, have great aesthetic upkeep, god fearing, I have investments plans and I feel greatttt lol but I don’t have plans on seriously dating until I’m 30. So we shall see lol
Ummm...sis unless you're in therapy (which I recommend to everyone) and recovering from something (healing traumas, heart break, mourning, etc) please don't wait til 30😓. Think about it from the male's perspective. I'm 27 too with similar circumstances. THIS is our time. I say if you are getting respectfully approached, don't shut it down because you're waiting til 30. You might just pass up on your husband.
@@amaragrace94 hey! I hear you! when I get approached I’m open but I don’t put any pressure on myself as I’m currently focused on doing inner work :)
@@Jalisialuxe Ok. I hear you. I respect that. That's how I am as well. I wish you all the best.
@@amaragrace94 Thanks love! Same to you ✨
You don’t have to wait though… there are men looking for a woman just like you. Praying for a woman just like you. You’re young and beautiful, share your beauty with a good man.
Drive safe,my brother.
Some of that what you are saying I disagree with because a lot of the things you are saying it does not matter, The way you are talkin you are describing a perfect person and nobody perfect that walks this Earth you are making some of these women feel uncomfortable with themselves, The Bible says if a man finds a wife he finds a good thing, then the Bible says marriage is Honorable to all.
Fan base he did say most of the women don’t listen. It’s just the way he still talk to them like they don’t get it as if they would have listen to him you would have been married by now. The delusional tactics can’t work on desperate pick me. 2023 women should be woke and unstoppable.
The real problem is virtuous women have trouble meeting age appropriate men bc alot of these men are looking for younger women.... you can look amazing and still be passed over bc of ageism.... Ironically alot of younger men are now looking at older women... so the dating dynamic really is complicated
Tony said he's tired of y'all foolishness 😩
Thank you for this video ! Everything you said is correct ✅ I always said that when I get married I would never ask my husband to take me shopping or buy me jewelry and give me a huge house. I would rather live comfortably and simple and let him save his money ! As long as we’re not struggling and our children are safe and healthy that’s all that matters
Tony you should create an app for ppl to meet each other
Thank you brother in Christ!!! You are greatly appreciated!!! You are speaking what I was recently thinking! I recently reposted a video that I made from last year and didn't realize how rough I was looking (was going through a rough patch).😆😂 I've spruced up since then but know I need to spruce up some more!!! Because if I want to date and want someone that looks upkept and fit I should be upkept and on point too. Will get it together!!!😆☺️😊
Thank you for the reminder, confirmation and encouragement...cuz I was also thinking "are there still good, godly men out there?!?" Yes, thank you Lord. God bless you Sir!🙏🏽💯✊🏽
Also, your female impersonations are hilarious!!!😆😂
Hairstyles have nothing to do about your character. I'm focused on what someone's character is, not outward appearance. As long as the hygiene is up to par that's what's important.
Yep everybody wants to give it up so bad. All they have to do is talk dirty or give a false sense of importance, approval. They fall in quick. Stop being with people of the opposite sex. Late at night. Temptation is stronger then you can handle.
So it's 3 men who luv God but cnt find a virtuous women......? They do know they can find them at church right?
Exactly…or do they even attend church? 🤔
Right it's definitely more to those young men than is said. But I digress
Because they looking fir their preferences is what he's not saying.
Cash is the way to go 😊
Save yourself but don’t look like Mother Teresa…but also dress modestly.
Tony
Everything you just said in this video resonated with my spirit
I feel like everything you said is all the things God has been convicting me of in my spirit - my physical presentation
Physical presentation is a total game changer
You are right about everything you are saying
That’s why I’m up right now & it’s past midnight where I live & I’m trying to figure out what gym outfit I’m wearing today
I have a 24 hour gym membership so there’s no excuses
I’ll be at the gym bright & early this morning
Me personally I do feel God conviction regarding how I present 🎁 on the outside as well as how my inner man /spirit shows up
I’m doing the work Tony
You’re not wrong
You are on point & you are in alignment with what God is saying
I gotta do better as woman - PERIODT
(Speaking for myself)
😅 HE IS TIRED OF US 😅
Mr. G
We need your help, don't leave us ! Please 😅
Helpful Message Tony may God bless us all to take it to heart and connect with the right person that God has ordained! I am one that loves God, educates, just started my business it's doing well and I'm and a retired athlete. It takes a love relationship with God and with self to make the commitments to become and maintain having the whole package! Bless you Sir 🙏.
Tony, I will tell you something, I am a single woman for some time now (why, because I exactly know what type of man I want), and I cannot tell you how much times I have been approached by married men, who obviously think I cannot get a man, that as a single woman I am desparate. I politely refuse them, cold shower style, and never talked to these men again, I am so dissapointed that such sexually hungry men are so frustrared to even take such approach, especially because I know them and their wives.
I don't even provoke them; if I needed to meet these guys (business etc) i wore less make up and baggy clothes, because I know how men thinks. And still anyway...
My friend was experiencing the same thing and her therapist told her she attracted unavailable men because she herself was emotionally unavailable. My friend said she didn’t realize it until that moment. Just something to consider.
I listened to your entire video. I heard you say nothing about their personality, or how they treat a woman, which is more important than their looks. I have found that many man and women public person is far different than their private person. As a matter of fact the last person that I dated was all that and some. He has a good career (state/nationally known), in shape, house, helps others, and a pillar of the community. What drew me to him was that he appeared to be loving, kind and had an excellent relationship with his family.
Well all of this was/is true; however once he thought that he had me, he showed the true his true self. This was really scary. He was like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. He never gave an explanation for his actions. He would ask me if I forgave him, because God said that I had to forgive him no matter how many times he messed up. He was very well aware of his actions. He would also ask me to work with him to help him. I know now, and subconsciously knew then, that he didn’t really want help. He never thought that he did anything wrong, and he would always find a way to May his actions my fault.
On paper, and to the world, he looks and sounds great; however in reality, he’s a nightmare.
We broke up two years ago, and to this day he’s trying to get me back. I don’t understand why, because whenever I went back to him in the past, he would only treat me worse than before. Again, if I told anyone, no one would believe me, because he presents himself as this over the top great guy to men and women. The one person that I did tell doesn’t believe me, because he he has brain them to believe that he’s perfect.
It takes more than the outward appearance that a person has it together. The inward man or woman is more important to me. Who wants to live in hell just to be with someone who acts like a crazy person whenever it hits them, then when it’s over, they act as if nothing ever happened or blame you for what did happen. Also they never ever want to have a conversation about it, if I am not going to accept responsibility for it. No thanks. I would rather be by myself.
Sounds like a covert narcissist or at least possess qualities of one. I agree with everything you are saying. People are so focused on the outer appearance that they fail to realize that the outer does not always reflect the inner. We are living in the age of social media/DECEPTION.
I see a lot of people that pose the argument of "well you should hold yourself accountable for missing the red flags" but there are many people, both men and woman that are master manipulators. They know exactly how to act and what to say in order to get someone to fall in love. They are even able to maintain that image long enough to where some don't even see the switch coming.
This is both in and outside of the church too and with it without discernment. Some people manipulation tactics are so on point and they will even "justifiably" use scripture or their "love" of the word and God to justify their actions
Textbook Narcissists...
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@@Dezdamoonbear You obviously didn’t read the book, if you think what I said was a textbook narcissist.
😂 I only listen cos you speak the truth and you’re so funny. Not single btw.
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Thank you for sharing this very REAL perspective and filling in the gaps. Truth breaks down lies about how we view things that cause us to miss our blessings. 💜
When Tony said he’s tired..😂😂it hard to be friends with a lot of females I sense the jezebel spirit and I can’t relate .
What the hell is a “Jezebel spirit”?
@@sergiovela9961 Queen Jezebel was an evil queen in the Bible. It is believed that her spirit is still alive.
When people say jezebel spirit they mean her attitude or conduct not the literal spirit of a dead woman.
@@CalledUntoHoliness And what “conduct” was that?
@@sergiovela9961 the conduct of a seductress,controlling,manipulative and vain woman who controls her husband.
Can’t wait for your podcast Tony you’re about to kill it! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
some trash..... being different is what make the world go around... find someone on your level and grow together
I really didn’t believe men like what you’re describing still exist.
Lol I love you Tony 😂😂😂😂 I’m a 31 yr old virgin and I’m still making myself better day by day
Amen brother Tony I receive this Blessed message/Word in Jesus name. I'm new to your Blessed Ministry and you really speaking truth about everything. And congratulations to you and all your Blessed brothers in Christ for their accomplishments, TGBTG
You called me out because all my social media is private 😂
Thanks! You are always so on point. Love your spirit. God bless you are your family. Be blessed!!
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That stood out for me too sis😮