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I never forget I seen Beyonce do an interview when she was in her early twenties. The interviewer asked her I'm sure you get courted a lot by many men. And Beyonce said no not at all. No one talks to me. Beyonce said she went to a gas station to pump gas and a guy tried to talk to her and she said WOW. She was shocked because no one normally talks to her. She's a beautiful woman in her 20s at the time and gets the same treatment. I think God hides people for the one he has for them at the pointed time as well.
Sometimes its worse for attractive beautiful people because they are seen as movie stars- an unattainable fantasy that brings up the insecurities of both sexes
This is universal too. I've known about very attractive young women getting ignored by both men and women because they were intimidated by their beauty. If you know to to dress well, educated and confident it gets worst and worst and usually attracts toxic types that see you as a challenge.
@@user-rx7uh9mg4f facts! Because you have self love and confidence you are seen as high maintenance and too much work- men are not threatened by slovenly women going out to walmart in their pjs still half asleep from the night before
I did this once with a man that wasn't very attractive but treated me good...then...because he got me...he started getting arrogant and treating me like I was the ugly one 😂😂😂
I'm here to say "I tried that, Tony, and still got cheated on" 😩😂🤣 I married little ugly and he cheated. He blamed it on me and I divorced him. It was the move of God, because the week before I found out, I asked God to remove anything standing in the way of me aligning with His will and the first to go was him. It devasted me, but I can tell you how faithful God is 🙌🏽
Right 😂 settling doesn’t always work. As a man, HE needs to settle. Women cannot settle for anything less than total attraction bc otherwise we will never be satisfied lol
I've always wondered about guys who pull the unpullable. And whether or not when he gets someone that he never thought he would get it might give him a big head. "Well if I can get her then surely let me try to see if I can get that one too", and then his sowing oats begins and he gets real cocky. 🙄
But he can be ugly and not have good character. That’s still focusing on his looks. Does he have good character, integrity, how does he treat people etc.
What I think is ugly, beautiful, pretty, homely or sexy again varies from person to person… Screw Societal Standards. I am going to go after who I want & like who I want. Anyone of us can get or attain most anything in life.
I remember a family friend of ours telling me when I was a teenager to go for the good guy. It’ll be okay if he cant dress etc. Basically she told me to pay attention to character. This was so good. ❤ 29:20
Right! Fellas speak, waive, smile, nod, start a conversation, compliment us, SHOW UP to events. At a minimum explain why we never seem to be in the same rooms together?
@@gapeach7814 he basically said go get someone no one else wants ...so basically someone unattractive - is that what he did with his wife??? he's talking a whole lot of codswallop - he's running out of things to say.
@@sarabelli 😂 he may be running out of things to say. Lol I was thinking the same thing re: his wife. I'm sure her looks had a lot to do with why he chose her.
Perfect message!! Learned a long time ago, character and morals over looks. Sadly a lot of people don't have good character, best thing to do is work on yourself.
TG, you're on your job. My father, born in the 1950s has been telling my brothers and I this for life. "Don't get one too pretty that you gotta fight over".
All facts Tony. You dropped gems on this one. No one has everything. Everyone is making concessions somewhere. Valid points. God help us all to see with our inner eyes.
Alright now Tony!!! You are saying that the who’re woman saw his heart??? How big was this white woman. The black woman most likely wanted him to take care of himself and he refused!!! He made her wait… he wasn’t attracted to her she just needed some to accept her!!! Her white men didn’t want her. She was going to do the most!!!
Humility is always in order no matter how beautiful or handsome you are. Today, with wigs, weaves, eye lashes. Plastic surgery, liposuction, fillers, etc. anyone can look better. The real value is the heart and mind. Are you a safe person? Ask God.
Nothing but truth. I always focused on brain and brand but not body. So this year I've started a skincare routine, and working on weighloss and a maintenance routine. My hair as always been long but 9/10 it's in a librarian bun😂😂😂😂so getting my hair professionally done is on the task. Really bringing out my natural beauty and I think all people have something that is very beautiful about them. Really I can say I demonstrated laziness when it came to myself I take care of everybody but put my selfcare to the back. It's a mental adjustment to put me on the schedule or spend an hr or 2 in the bathroom doing my facials and body care routine. It's a hard truth
I’ve ALWAYS been into the background guy. The one doing his own thing and not worried about chasing the “baddest” woman and getting all this vapid attention.
And what is wrong with wanting what you want ? I am generally curious of your response/reasons !!?? Just because someone wants me doesn’t mean I find them attractive or want them back & that is OK.
@@Iam1random1 I guess it's just human nature to really want something you can't have. It's like the forbidden fruit and what you can have is just not really desirable to you. I guess it kind of boils down to liking a challenge and the chase. Something that comes easy you really don't appreciate and what comes hard to you that's what you appreciate more. It just human nature.
Gems 💎 I love black men. I now date men of all races due to my experience and my past. I want a man that loves Jesus and my current prospective marriage partner has a beautiful heart and he respects my boundaries, and even though he’s not black he has been consistent. This is an answer to prayer and if one day I meet a black man that desires what I am bringing to the table. Amen
its true, my friend said this guy on campus was good looking. he was interested in me, so i gave him a chance. ended up marrying him. i honestly didnt notice him before that
I LOVE when Tony says laying his eyes on a set of hams 🤣🤣🤣. Keep on preaching on brother. Many people walking around vain as if their stuff don’t stink. Judge not unless you be judged
So true.... this is why alot of the time fix ups don't work... when others choose your mate they choose what they like..... it's like they don't bother to figure out who you're attracted to
Thank you Mr. Gaskins🎉 You helped me to break out in a praise! After stating all the altercations that people are doing to their body, reminded me that God is so gracious and merciful!!! I have not done anything (nothing) to mine. Nor have I desired. I worked on me and still have plenty to do! God bless you and your family!!!
Lol I love Tony! From I saw the picture he used and the subject I knew it be would be funny and informative, as per usual. But the photo was whimsical so I knew he was about to shift our perspective.
That social experiment would be some good entertainment! And you're absolutely right that our society is too vain. That's why most of these relationships don't work out bc they focus on looks instead of inner beauty.
Hey Tony and blessed tribe! Tony, your friend sounds amazing. I love men like him with a great heart and attitude. I have always been in relationships with men that society finds unattractive. I’m glad your friend got the love he deserves.😍🙏🏻🙌
Thank you. I thank God for this message. So timely. I'm going to continue to be obedient to the Holy Spirit even though some people get angry at me and insult me for spreading truth that steps on their toes. It is most unpleasant, but I must keep going.🙏🏾
I am looking your way big bro Tony even though I do not believe in god anymore but, you are the big brother i needed in my life and you speak life into my soul . Thank you for all your videos helping people.
Tomy Gaskin's you're real and hilarious without trying at times. But that line "No such thing as a ugly billionaire, I'll be dog gone ....Oh yes it issssss .. 😂😂 LOL. Informative great video as always. Thank you 😊😊
Hey Brother, hope all is well. I know your really serious, when having conversations with us. Nonetheless, you be cracking me up in a good way. Lol! Thanks for being real. As-well-As having a sense of humor.😂
Facts! Sidenote- i would love hair care tips, a hair care line, jamaican remedies, or regimens from your lovely wife one day. I have thick caribbean type hair but when flat ironed or relaxed its similar to her texture.
IT'S THE CHILE.....I AIN'T GOT THE TIME FOR ME😂🤣😂🤣😂 TELL...IT TONY! PEOPLE GIVE UP ON YOU BECAUSE THEY DON'T THINK ABOUT THE TIME IT TAKES TO GET THINGS STARTED BUT THEY MOVE ON WITH OTHERS, NOT KNOWING THAT IT'S ALL IN THE WAITING SOMETIMES! MOVE ON... BE HAPPY, JUST LET GO AND STOP HOLDING ON TO SOMETHING YOU NEVER WANTED, FINISH YOUR PLAN! BLESSINGS TONY!
@Tony some of us like Long talks. Communication is one of the LIVE LANGUAGES. It's healthy and without that I will not bond however I get what you mean if it's draining...shalom
People like what other people like… FR. The blind and lost are leading the blind and lost especially when it comes to relationships, dating and building. Say it again brother 🗣️💯
I had a good laugh, then ooouh, it hit home. Dated the tall guys, short guys, very lean guys, chubby guys and thick guys. I look at your heart, how you treat me & do you respect me.
A lot of times when people grew up the under dog they don’t even know how to love because they were never shown love. The people who grew up in love, love the best.
You’re one in a million, Tony Gaskins! These men in today’s Society want the FLAWLESS Instagram Models ONLY!!…I’m definitely NOT in that category, not ashamed to say.
A very good video..touched on a lot..and to add my 2 cents lol..jay z is not ugly. He is notbaomeone you'd look at and be stuck. I think people just say this because its been said so much.
I remember I declined a date because the person wasn’t my type on picture. They asked again, we Met in person and I was smitten from day one 🥰. Their eyes were melty brown, laugh infectious, smart, inviting, successful… welp months later they dumped me 😂😂 because I didn’t fit the life they wanted 😂😩 moral of the story is. Take a chance, it might go bad 😂. So be able to dish what you put out, 😌
Thank you Tony, this helps me take a good look at myself in the mirror and get real. Indeed the truth will set you free! (God specifically made us for the different purposes he intended us for, we’ve each got to know his purpose for us, and it’s all good)❤
I never forget I seen Beyonce do an interview when she was in her early twenties. The interviewer asked her I'm sure you get courted a lot by many men. And Beyonce said no not at all. No one talks to me. Beyonce said she went to a gas station to pump gas and a guy tried to talk to her and she said WOW. She was shocked because no one normally talks to her. She's a beautiful woman in her 20s at the time and gets the same treatment. I think God hides people for the one he has for them at the pointed time as well.
Sometimes its worse for attractive beautiful people because they are seen as movie stars- an unattainable fantasy that brings up the insecurities of both sexes
@@overcomerbtbojesus So true 😐
@@overcomerbtbojesus agree
This is universal too. I've known about very attractive young women getting ignored by both men and women because they were intimidated by their beauty. If you know to to dress well, educated and confident it gets worst and worst and usually attracts toxic types that see you as a challenge.
@@user-rx7uh9mg4f facts! Because you have self love and confidence you are seen as high maintenance and too much work- men are not threatened by slovenly women going out to walmart in their pjs still half asleep from the night before
I did this once with a man that wasn't very attractive but treated me good...then...because he got me...he started getting arrogant and treating me like I was the ugly one 😂😂😂
I did the same 😅 treated me bad as well. My family clowns me till this day for dating him. Especially my dad.
Oh shooooot, thats funny 😂
Girl yes. They will turn on you now. 😂
Because when you get with them they become attractive to other women as well.
😂😂😂😂
I'm here to say "I tried that, Tony, and still got cheated on" 😩😂🤣 I married little ugly and he cheated. He blamed it on me and I divorced him. It was the move of God, because the week before I found out, I asked God to remove anything standing in the way of me aligning with His will and the first to go was him. It devasted me, but I can tell you how faithful God is 🙌🏽
😂😂😂
Right 😂 settling doesn’t always work. As a man, HE needs to settle. Women cannot settle for anything less than total attraction bc otherwise we will never be satisfied lol
I've always wondered about guys who pull the unpullable. And whether or not when he gets someone that he never thought he would get it might give him a big head. "Well if I can get her then surely let me try to see if I can get that one too", and then his sowing oats begins and he gets real cocky. 🙄
But he can be ugly and not have good character. That’s still focusing on his looks. Does he have good character, integrity, how does he treat people etc.
@@bloomwithgrace300 absolutely correct!
Nothing but facts! “ people like what other people like” that’s a whole sermon
What I think is ugly, beautiful, pretty, homely or sexy again varies from person to person… Screw Societal Standards. I am going to go after who I want & like who I want. Anyone of us can get or attain most anything in life.
Completely agree
I remember a family friend of ours telling me when I was a teenager to go for the good guy. It’ll be okay if he cant dress etc. Basically she told me to pay attention to character. This was so good. ❤ 29:20
Very good advice. The world is out of wack right now with the standards.
The single and available men need to be more VISIBLE. It's as if they're hiding, hibernating, or sleeping smh.
All they do is go home and go to work and hide behind their phone screen.
Yup they won't speak up or make themselves available
Right! Fellas speak, waive, smile, nod, start a conversation, compliment us, SHOW UP to events. At a minimum explain why we never seem to be in the same rooms together?
Oh please. You know damn well you wouldn’t seriously date or marry someone you aren’t attracted to
He didn't say not attracted to. He said not in line with society's standards.
@@gapeach7814 he basically said go get someone no one else wants ...so basically someone unattractive - is that what he did with his wife??? he's talking a whole lot of codswallop - he's running out of things to say.
@@sarabelli 😂 he may be running out of things to say. Lol I was thinking the same thing re: his wife. I'm sure her looks had a lot to do with why he chose her.
@@gapeach7814 especially since she doesn’t wear weave because he hates weave
Y’all just missed the whole message 😭🤦🏽♀️ I can’t
Perfect message!! Learned a long time ago, character and morals over looks. Sadly a lot of people don't have good character, best thing to do is work on yourself.
Agreed 💯
Good character is the hardest thing to find. Then looking for good character & some chemistry, whew may take a lifetime.
True. I just said this the other day. Ppl only like you when other ppl like you
TG, you're on your job. My father, born in the 1950s has been telling my brothers and I this for life. "Don't get one too pretty that you gotta fight over".
Lol interesting 🤔
@@PeaceBeStill- 😆 my Dad off the chain ⛓️. He says all kinds of funny stuff that actually makes sense.
Your dad is hilarious 😂 but I see the truth in that
All facts Tony. You dropped gems on this one. No one has everything. Everyone is making concessions somewhere. Valid points. God help us all to see with our inner eyes.
Amen! This is the problem with the dating pool right now...
Bro only is going to be 💯
Alright now Tony!!! You are saying that the who’re woman saw his heart??? How big was this white woman. The black woman most likely wanted him to take care of himself and he refused!!! He made her wait… he wasn’t attracted to her she just needed some to accept her!!! Her white men didn’t want her. She was going to do the most!!!
Humility is always in order no matter how beautiful or handsome you are. Today, with wigs, weaves, eye lashes. Plastic surgery, liposuction, fillers, etc. anyone can look better.
The real value is the heart and mind. Are you a safe person? Ask God.
Nothing but truth. I always focused on brain and brand but not body. So this year I've started a skincare routine, and working on weighloss and a maintenance routine. My hair as always been long but 9/10 it's in a librarian bun😂😂😂😂so getting my hair professionally done is on the task. Really bringing out my natural beauty and I think all people have something that is very beautiful about them. Really I can say I demonstrated laziness when it came to myself I take care of everybody but put my selfcare to the back. It's a mental adjustment to put me on the schedule or spend an hr or 2 in the bathroom doing my facials and body care routine. It's a hard truth
So true Tony. Common sense. Go for the Diamond in the rough instead of the flashy person that everybody notices.
🎯
I’ve ALWAYS been into the background guy. The one doing his own thing and not worried about chasing the “baddest” woman and getting all this vapid attention.
Most people want what they can't have and what they can have they don't want. Go figure 🤔
And what is wrong with wanting what you want ? I am generally curious of your response/reasons !!?? Just because someone wants me doesn’t mean I find them attractive or want them back & that is OK.
@@Iam1random1 I guess it's just human nature to really want something you can't have. It's like the forbidden fruit and what you can have is just not really desirable to you. I guess it kind of boils down to liking a challenge and the chase. Something that comes easy you really don't appreciate and what comes hard to you that's what you appreciate more. It just human nature.
Confirmation... Many are picking who others like over whose best for them.Say this a lot.
Gems 💎
I love black men. I now date men of all races due to my experience and my past. I want a man that loves Jesus and my current prospective marriage partner has a beautiful heart and he respects my boundaries, and even though he’s not black he has been consistent. This is an answer to prayer and if one day I meet a black man that desires what I am bringing to the table. Amen
its true, my friend said this guy on campus was good looking. he was interested in me, so i gave him a chance. ended up marrying him. i honestly didnt notice him before that
I would love to be in a healthy relationship but I Don’t TRUST anyone with my heart anymore….in other words…I have TRUST ISSUES !!!😮
I LOVE when Tony says laying his eyes on a set of hams 🤣🤣🤣. Keep on preaching on brother. Many people walking around vain as if their stuff don’t stink. Judge not unless you be judged
I think more men do that than women, they are quick to go for what's popular or trendy then show it off like they joined the club lol
We need the honesty! 🙌🏾🙏🏾
Good evening Tony! Here listening and learning. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Tony, thank you so much for this video. You're talking straight facts!!!👏🏽👏🏽
Thank you for giving us one more time the game real and raw we really appreciate it
This message was so spot on, Thank you Bro Tony ❤️🙏🏾
Truth and wisdom!💯
So true.... this is why alot of the time fix ups don't work... when others choose your mate they choose what they like..... it's like they don't bother to figure out who you're attracted to
Very well said and I really enjoy your videos thank you for this message ❤
I always loved the movie Shallow Hal. Superficial of a man who hypnotize to see the inner beauty.
Congratulations 🎉🎊🎈on being part of Couple Retreat Show.
Societal Beauty Standards vary from individual to individual or race to race or ethnicity to ethnicity… I don’t live by “Societal Standards”
Very true & nither do I.
“We need to make sure we are a looker now” TG 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Mr. Gaskins! I just saw the preview for the ext episode of couples retreat and saw you. Can’t wait to tune in!
Makes sense..good message 💪🏾
Always dropping 💎💎💎💎 Thank You
Love this message.
Thank you Mr. Gaskins🎉 You helped me to break out in a praise! After stating all the altercations that people are doing to their body, reminded me that God is so gracious and merciful!!! I have not done anything (nothing) to mine. Nor have I desired. I worked on me and still have plenty to do! God bless you and your family!!!
Lol I love Tony!
From I saw the picture he used and the subject I knew it be would be funny and informative, as per usual. But the photo was whimsical so I knew he was about to shift our perspective.
Another one. Another great and informative video.💯👍🏽👍🏽. Thanks again brother. Be blessed.
Loved the message, love the love you always exude toward your boys and wife!! btw GOD Bless you have a lovely looking RV?!
Yassssssss Im seeing my brother on tv nahhh. Love to see it!!!! ❤️❤️❤️ Tell the Queen I said “hey” ❤️
That social experiment would be some good entertainment! And you're absolutely right that our society is too vain. That's why most of these relationships don't work out bc they focus on looks instead of inner beauty.
I knew you was a real one ! With a Jamaican Queen we love to see it!
Great message thanks 😊
Good message Tony. Humans judge by the outer appearance, but God looks at the heart.
The friend example is your average brotha! See the heart...total package. 🙏🏾🙋🏾♂️👍🏾
This is beautiful, thank you sir
Facts , I laugh so hard, man tony is funny naturally😂😂😂. He's spitting facts
Dropping gems
You are so right. As usual.
Great info you always speak the truth 😊
Hey Tony and blessed tribe! Tony, your friend sounds amazing. I love men like him with a great heart and attitude. I have always been in relationships with men that society finds unattractive. I’m glad your friend got the love he deserves.😍🙏🏻🙌
Go ahead Tony speak those facts
Bad hygiene = DEALBREAKER!👀
Thank you. I thank God for this message. So timely. I'm going to continue to be obedient to the Holy Spirit even though some people get angry at me and insult me for spreading truth that steps on their toes. It is most unpleasant, but I must keep going.🙏🏾
I am looking your way big bro Tony even though I do not believe in god anymore but, you are the big brother i needed in my life and you speak life into my soul . Thank you for all your videos helping people.
When you are watching VH1 Couples Retreat and see Tony Gaskins on it! 👏🏾✊🏾
I'd love to see that experiment Mr Gaskins 😄💯
ON POINT!
Tomy Gaskin's you're real and hilarious without trying at times. But that line "No such thing as a ugly billionaire, I'll be dog gone ....Oh yes it issssss .. 😂😂 LOL. Informative great video as always. Thank you 😊😊
So happy to see Tony gastus on couple's retreat Check it out Tuesdays at 9
The heart and core matters. Amen.
Yesssss let’s do it
Hey Brother, hope all is well. I know your really serious, when having conversations with us. Nonetheless, you be cracking me up in a good way. Lol! Thanks for being real. As-well-As having a sense of humor.😂
Prepare yourself to Receive and Wait on Diving Timing. ✅💯💜🥰
Facts! Sidenote- i would love hair care tips, a hair care line, jamaican remedies, or regimens from your lovely wife one day. I have thick caribbean type hair but when flat ironed or relaxed its similar to her texture.
Good word!! Thanks
I thought will and jada was happily married and attractive now that the entanglement scandel came out I dnt look to no couple I look for myself
IT'S THE CHILE.....I AIN'T GOT THE TIME FOR ME😂🤣😂🤣😂 TELL...IT TONY! PEOPLE GIVE UP ON YOU BECAUSE THEY DON'T THINK ABOUT THE TIME IT TAKES TO GET THINGS STARTED BUT THEY MOVE ON WITH OTHERS, NOT KNOWING THAT IT'S ALL IN THE WAITING SOMETIMES! MOVE ON... BE HAPPY, JUST LET GO AND STOP HOLDING ON TO SOMETHING YOU NEVER WANTED, FINISH YOUR PLAN! BLESSINGS TONY!
That part!!!!! That's my strategy.
I would love to be a part of the experiment Tony if you do that... Sounds very interesting and a good idea
@Tony some of us like Long talks. Communication is one of the LIVE LANGUAGES. It's healthy and without that I will not bond however I get what you mean if it's draining...shalom
Holy Spirit spoke through you boss
People like what other people like… FR. The blind and lost are leading the blind and lost especially when it comes to relationships, dating and building. Say it again brother 🗣️💯
Tell them T!! So true, because am Jamaican!! We are golden one of a kind!!!
Built like a Big Mac 😂😂😂😂....Tony strikes again
I had a good laugh, then ooouh, it hit home. Dated the tall guys, short guys, very lean guys, chubby guys and thick guys. I look at your heart, how you treat me & do you respect me.
“I’d be doggone‼️”😆🤣 👏🏾👏🏾💯💯
Mane when I made it to this point and could understand the reference of your comment 😂
I mean I was chuckling 🤭
Geesh you put out so many videos
I think God for your videos, God bless your channel/business🙂🤩🙏
I agree with you from the beginning.
A lot of times when people grew up the under dog they don’t even know how to love because they were never shown love. The people who grew up in love, love the best.
You’re one in a million, Tony Gaskins! These men in today’s Society want the FLAWLESS Instagram Models ONLY!!…I’m definitely NOT in that category, not ashamed to say.
“Jiggalo Fabio” 😂
Good Video
Your right 💯
Lol 😂I plan on getting lipo and I think the boost in self confidence will help me tremendously in my dating experience!
A very good video..touched on a lot..and to add my 2 cents lol..jay z is not ugly. He is notbaomeone you'd look at and be stuck. I think people just say this because its been said so much.
The beginning don't apply to me 😄 but I'mma stick around because Tony start dropping gems!
This is really a message for men. They tend to like women that a bunch of other men like.
I did arm lipo and it’s very painful and not that successful
I remember I declined a date because the person wasn’t my type on picture. They asked again, we Met in person and I was smitten from day one 🥰. Their eyes were melty brown, laugh infectious, smart, inviting, successful… welp months later they dumped me 😂😂 because I didn’t fit the life they wanted 😂😩 moral of the story is. Take a chance, it might go bad 😂. So be able to dish what you put out, 😌
Hilarious i have a blind date this Sunday 🤣 😂 😆
Thank you Mr. Gaskin
Thank you Tony, this helps me take a good look at myself in the mirror and get real. Indeed the truth will set you free! (God specifically made us for the different purposes he intended us for, we’ve each got to know his purpose for us, and it’s all good)❤
😂😂The social experiment idea But that’s a great idea.
Sign me up for the experiment Tony! Now if I’m delusional just let me know and imma take that L 😅
Great Video but its still too many clowns 🤡 & I don’t do the circus 🎪 😂