i feel like i just finished dating someone like this. she was actually very insecure about her immaturity too so hid it pretty well for months before things suddenly imploded
@swedenarmy4692 Me too. When they ask you about XYZ having to deal with relationships and I try my best to answer (which is never good enough btw) he tells me that asking him the same question is childish. Why didn't I ask it first, he'll say and since I didn't "ask him first" he feels asking the same thing of him is not worthy of him.considering, much dress answer it. I feel that since there are two of us in this relationship, each of us can snd likely will have different perceptions and feelings about a situation we're experiencing simultaneously. So why isn't knowing where they stand on thr issue they've asked me, why is that childish or immature? Needless to say we get nowhere, for 20+ years. No accountability whatsoever from him..
i just got yelled at by an emotionally immature person as a response to me calmly stating my feelings. this video was recommended to me as soon as i came home, and this video just came out hours ago. i really needed to hear this today.
This happened to me in an online argument about a month ago.. I asked a question about someone’s drawing. They bullied my sister on 2 alts because she commented on the drawing as well.. It was a whole thing.
Not all impulsive people are spoiled brats, you will definitely find a kind person with impulsive qualities due to ADHD and/or other reasons, just putting it out there
Yeah, well, my sister has ADHD and even if I tell her to stop and I address why she shouldn't do what she is doing she will deliberately tell me that she isn't going to stop. I understand that they sometimes don't realize that they are doing wrong; but I know there're also people like my sister, who even if sometimes don't realize that they are doing wrong, other you will tell them, they'll realize they are doing wrong and and they'll continue doing it on purpose. Even if she has ADHD, she's taking an active decision there; a decision that she knows is not the right one (because someone has explained her previously). 😔
@ @luziaguerralatelevision2670 1 I’m autistic and have ADHD. You have a fair point. Usually, once someone asks me to stop doing something, I try to stop. However, sometimes it’s just hard to control although I do try my best.
It can be *hard* to tell, then, so you either 1) avoid most or all interaction; 2) blunder along until you get in trouble; or 3) go through life paranoid, in seeming social phobia.
@@luziaguerralatelevision2670 ADHD actually isn’t really in our control I’m not diagnosed but I think I might have It because I have all sighns any ways ADHD impulsivity is kinda uncontrollable I’m truly sorry but our brains just get easily triggered or overwhelmed it doesn’t mean we aren’t mature or understanding enough it’s just a phase especially in childhood and teen years adhd is extreme so please bear patient with kids with adhd it will change slowly if they want too 🌺
@@Mochi-re8cv I know that people with ADHD can't control every decision they take but that anecdote I was describing literally was my sister not leaving my father alone, me telling her to please stop and she smiling creepily at me and saying "no, I don't want to". That's an active decision she took there. Despite that, I understand your point and I hope that you are right and that she starts to change slowly. :")
Absolutely my mother. Me as a toddler who still remembers how my dad and mom divorced decided: “Oh, let’s see if mom lies!” She told me: “You can know when you’re older”
Timestamps 1). Impulsivity 0:43 2). Less self-reflection 1:49 3). Emotional regulation 2:08 4). Bullying 2:38 5). Selective caring 3:21 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. I missed hearing your voice Drew Baillie. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I know the title says 4, but I feel like it is actually 5 signs. 1. Impulsivity 2. Lack Self Reflection 3. Emotional Regulation 2:13 4. Bullying 5. Selective Caring
Reflection is an extremely difficult technique to master. At least you've recognized the issue, which is more than what most people can do. Well done! 🙂 Seriously, you're rarer than you're giving yourself credit; most narcissists (malignant or not) simply *cannot* correct their toxic courses. Trust me, I've experienced 30+ years of them, and despite my patience with humanity, I've decided that "testing is over", and I no longer put up with any disrespect. Especially given my background, accomplishments, and ethical standards. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
Time stamps: 0:00 intro 0:44 1. IMPULSIVITY 1:49 2. Less Self-Reflection 2:38 3. BULLYING 3:22 4. SELECTIVE CARING 4:05 outro? Look like I’m late from being on top
Giving the example of Veruca was awesome. Never realised it till this video talked about it. I wana see more videos on psychoanalysis of characters such as Veruca in Charlie and the chocolate factory
I really needed this, I was feeling sad about a situation I just had with a mate and this gave some relief, I shouldn't blame myself for the actions of others.
action of others are (willingly?) decided by others, not you. _That's_ the "freedom" we, as humans, are declaring to have (similarly, we are free to decide our own actions) their decisions = their faults
I'd like to add a few more: not answering questions or being aggressively defensive when faced with evidence. Having the emotional spotlight at all times. Eg. A: You did that thing B(sarcastically): Oh yeah right, sure. A: I have evidence of you doing this thing repeatedly B: I'm honestly done talking to you, I don't have to respond to you, i don't have the energy, you always stir up problems, etc. B: you left this thing in a dirty spot, that's why I threw it with the garbage. A: what dirty spot? B(sarcastically): idk. A: hey, you dropped your coffe on my floor. I slipped on my way in, you should've cleaned it. B: I didn't, stop accusing me. A: you're the only one who drinks coffe in this household, you said you were going to take something from my room, I saw you walking in with the mug. B: you're right. I'm also the one who dropped your juice last week and walked in the room with dirty boots (all things A did and took responsibility of) I just always dirty up your room and poor you has to clean after me all the time. A: I can't help you cook today, I have a headache. B: yeah? Well I had a headache yesterday too buy I got up and did some chores. A. I already did some work today and my headache is not going away even after medication. B: oh poor you. So you're human and I'm not? You get to rest while having a headache and I don't? A: I'm sorry I didn't respond to your messages, I lost my pet and was in a bad place. B: well I lost a dear person last year too, I had it worse. It was a person not an animal. A: I'm honestly depressed, I need to check with a therapists. B: why would you be depressed? If anyone os allowed to be depressed then it should be me, I've had this and that happen. (Most of the time, A had far worse things happen but B would always exaggerate to seem like the strong survivor while A is just being whiney and irresponsible)
Basically, what you're describing in these scenarios is 1. not taking responsibility for one's actions and 2. treating other's problems like it's a competition in the 'who had a worse day/time/situation' stakes rather than empathising and/or comforting/helping. Yep, I know people like this unfortunately.
Sounds a lot like the GOP debate from last night...lol but these sorts of things can take place just about anywhere depending where 'our' minds are at - and that's exactly my whole point: a lot of stuff we believe to be 'meaningful', isn't always as meaningful as it seems - but a lot of it is subconscious. And as somebody who's introverted, socially awkward, and nerdy; I can say that it's normal to think these things especially when we're in 'overdrive'... these thought processes and mechanisms are intended to help us with our survival in order to make smarter and beneficial decisions.
All I can say is that youtube's algorithm keeps showing me the Psych2Go videos about sex and relationships; to the point where I became worried that was all you were posting. My fiancée and I broke up and I decided to move on and be single. I am happy to see that most of your most recent videos weren't the ones youtube recommended, but I am also sad they aren't recommending your other content. Thank you for all that you do!
I spent my whole childhood trying to be mature and was often praised on my maturity. But I learned when i got older i wasnt as mature as I thought i was. Its something im working on but it also surprised me the amount of grown adults who acted like children over the stupidest shit like parking spots. I often find myself trying to avoid acting like certain people instead of having role models to follow. However I also have ADHD which might be where the impulsivity and emotional disregulation comes in but im handling that pretty well. I was able to keep myself from having a meltdown when i was feeling super overwhelmed the other day
I think another reason one may be self-absorbed is insecurity. I do this a lot as of late, to be honest. I’m so worried about what people think of me and what I hate about myself that I miss a number of times where I can tune in to others’ needs and what they’re saying. Not to say everyone who is insecure is self-absorbed, but rather that I personally need to learn how to handle my insecurities better.
I think the fact that you're very self-aware will make it a lot easier for you to detach yourself from your insecurities and handle them better! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
Same here. I know that I'm very insecure and have days where i myself don't love myself enough. Sometimes I hate myself to the point where I sometimes don't believe my friends when they say they like hanging out with me; and they don't even do anything! When you don't like yourself it makes it harder to believe someone else could like you, because sometimes we humans don't always believe we deserve love or happiness.
@@PokidotGamer898I've been in that sort of phase, and recently I tend to second guess myself quite a bit - but we're still human and allowed to be okay with being imperfect every now and then. But never lose faith and never stop trying to be the best version of yourself.
Honestly I feel the same way. I'm so self absorbed because of my insecurities, I'm always dissecting myself, questioning and analyzing myself from others perspective all because I want people to like me... I hardly listen to the problems my friends want to confide in me about. I'm trying to change but honestly is it bad that it feels more of like a transaction? I hear you out then you hear me out? Is it bad that I don't put my feelings into the talk, I'm just doing it as some kind of duty? Does that count as mature or immature?
I would love to see a video discussing how to handle being in a relationship with an immature person, and more to the point a relationship that can't just be ended on a whim.
How about giving advice that could get a person fired or arrested. See it all the time online and off. "I would punch someone who talked to me like that"
Incredibly immature. Shows they rather resort to violence than handling it like an adult and confronting the person on how theyre treating you or reporting them to HR if its a co-worker or boss for example
Technically, this one is probably related to one of the listed items like “less self-reflection or bullying”, but I feel like projecting is a big one. I’d describe projecting as someone that always blames other people for most misfortunes they encounter, even though at the end of the day, it’s them in the wrong in a lot of these said situations because they always seem to rub people the wrong way and have that “my world view is 100% correct, how can I be the bad guy here?!”-mentality.
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@@Psych2go I dont know my friend is having sings of emotiolally immature person but im still not sure and the worst part is that i dont like her cuz shes mean but she is calling me her BeSț FRenD its just awful
@@Psych2go like personally I like to be cold and I'm interested in this topic and want to explore more about that . Personally I find these type of people attractive . Sorry for late reply . Waiting for the video
This is a very big thing with people with ADHD and other neurodivergent problems. I have ADHD and I have my immature moments a lot but I try to make up for it by understanding when something is serious and someone needs my help.
I had always known my ex was, perhaps, a little bit on the immature side…but, during the huge fight we had that led to our breakup, his emotional immaturity REALLY came out. I wanted so much to talk things out and get to a place of understanding, but all he could focus on was stating his argument and telling me how wrong I was. He lost his temper and started yelling at me, then refused to speak to me for weeks. I had never seen him so angry before. We had a disagreement on something really important, and I felt like he was really trying to badger me into thinking and feeling exactly what he thought and felt, and it almost felt like I was being punished for not bending to his will. Although he refused to answer my calls or texts, he occasionally left little jabs or cruel insults in my DM’s…very personal ones that he knew would hurt me deeply. I knew he was unable to handle the change in our dynamic (I went along with what he wanted most of the time, because I’m a people pleaser) and he just didn’t know how to handle his frustration. I had never realized just much rage he had kept underneath the surface.
You can' t communicate, you run away, don' t take accountability and won' t sincerly apologize especially after wronging someone and it' s even worse when they know how you felt and still didn' t seem to give a s@#t.
A video about substance abuse would be great, especially alcohol. Not necessarily for 'addicted' people but if you are a normal person that doesn't binge drink and doesn't drink daily, you still might have a problem with alcohol. We don't have enough awareness about that.
I can listen to problems and let people confide in me but one can do so much. If your problems don't get better, we're always complaining about the same things, you don't even consider taking my ideas or solutions I'm sorry I will look straight in your eye and nod while paying no attention
There’s a good point but being immature is part of life, and there’s no shame or hiding that someone can love someone being that way, such as a child and a parent, but since this also refers to people older too, I feel like people are special in their own minds so it’s hard to change for others sometimes. People expect things to work so if you’re realizing your status of emotional capability as a human than you’re on the right track. Nothing is wrong with being a kid, or feeling like one because life nowadays can be rather boring and tough with how much fun it is just being yourself with or without people you enjoy being around.
I want to call your attention to the fact that nothing is to good for YOU, no matter how great the thing may be, no matter how undeserving you may seem to be. You are entitled to the best there is, for it is your direct inheritance. So don't be afraid to ask, demand and take. The good things of the world are not the portion of any favored sons. They belong to all, but they come only to those who are wise enough to recognize that the good things are theirs by right, and who are sufficiently courageous to reach out for them.
Yes I am dealing with one my boyfriend because of his past,he developed these but I can handle him as I am emotionally mature, he has an avoidant attachment style as well.
What about dealing with emotionally immature teenagers? Genuinely, is there a way to tell a self-absorbed person why it's selfish and jealous if they don't understand that they are being jealous?
I just did a search on this yest, as ive parents who act like that. This week being my bday i didn wanto deal with the BS, but old man was still atten seeking. in fact your channel has often posted abt this topic. Kids like this not so bad but if seniors are like that so shit
After dealing with 30+ years of insecure, toxic, emotionally immature humans, I now realize that it's just the way 90% of them are "trained" (or have learned by default). The core issue is systemic, and it begins with parenting, environment, financial beginnings, early schooling, and so forth. Unfortunately, once an individual is 16+ years old, if they've learned a *throng* of terrible habits, trust me, they'll never change. That's why narcissists aren't able to be "repaired"; they're incorrigible, and will continue to cause collateral damage to everyone and everything until they die. Acceptance is key.
Knowing the struggles of emotional regulation and having a brain injury and ADHD can make people believe that I am emotionally immature, but in reality I am dealing with the negative effects that come from my disabilities.
He’s 55 and will never progress past 16 in mature years. It’s pathetic to watch. You can’t convince him otherwise. I ended the friendship today. I’m happier than I’ve been in years.
this question is for Drew Baillie: Drew, I noticed several different accents when you were speaking. Do you mind if I ask where your your combination comes from? I ask this as I have a combo English, Kiwi, Aussie accent :)
Me, I get upset with dealing with immature guy. And ended up we separated. I wanted the relationship to work but however he just run away emotionally , is unrequited
Fun fact: in the original book, _Charlie and the Chocolate Factory_, Veruca Salt wants one of the squirrels (trained to remove walnuts from their shells without breaking the nut). The squirrels were changed to geese laying golden eggs in the first film version, because it was impossible in the days before CGI to have squirrels carry out their actions as described in the book -- and all the geese had to do was sit in place. The second film version restored the squirrels to the story, and thanks to CGI they carried out their role in a manner quite faithful to the book -- one of the very few things in that second film version that was faithful to the book!
Hey psych, may you make a video that is quite the opposite of the depression series? To be exact, the "Signs you aren't depressed, but sad" or something like that
I'm sorry to hear that you were called hurtful names by your mom. It's important to remember that words can have a powerful impact, especially when they come from loved ones. If you feel comfortable sharing, have you tried discussing your feelings with her and finding a way to address this issue?
Do you think you could make a video about knowing if you're mind is tricking you into being sad when you're actually fine? It's a daily struggle for me and i really don't know sometimes
Thank you for sharing the idea with us. Though we think this could be an interesting idea, we're more concerned about your mental well being. Are you doing okay? Have you spoken to a mental health professional about your condition?
@Psych2go if I'm being honest no, I'm really not ok. And I can't go see anyone because the last time I asked my mom she just asked me "You just want something to be wrong with you, don't you?" I have no help right now
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. Despite what your parents might say about your condition, I think it's best to speak to someone who will not be dismissive about your current situation. I think speaking with a counselor or a mental health professional can be very helpful for you. And while our videos are aimed at helping people, because your situation is so specific, I highly encourage you to speak with someone so that they can get you the help you need. I hope this helps.
@@Psych2go thank you so much for reaching back out. I'll try my best. Does anyone on the team know a way I can reach out online besides my school counselor?
Currently I'm in the midst of furthering my education I think ppl say its immature to try to aim towards completing it over prioritizing getting a job I know that's important and tough as well but furthing my education can lead to possible success maybe loneliness maybe I might be proud of myself for pulling thru it either way its a very ptessureful topic for any female por someone to carry I think ppl think it may be immature to think of myself so much may be partially right but I'm doing the best I can..
My ex called me this in the past ngl. And I think thats true. And Ik where it stems from- my schizophrenic mom who sometimes acts like a literal child. It's tiresome being around an emotionally immature adult who robbed you of your childhood.
Hey, I have a question. If somebody was emotionally immature, would you have any tips or advice for them, or do you feel like it probably wouldn’t sink in and it would just go over their heads?
What should i have to do ....if am became so attached to her and she doesn't give even half an hour ...and if she doesn't talk my emotions get obsessed on me and i feel too much sad and thousands of thoughts come ....why she doesn't talk to me... blaaa blaaa.... I need to understand why it's happening to me because in this situation i can't focus focus on my study's...... only thinking of her i know what to do what to study bt i am hopeless......give me some point to come out from this situation....
Me watching this to figure out if I’m the immature person
Same
Yep, me too.
Suresuresame😅
I'm definitely imature can you tell💃
Same here
We need a video on people who are emotionally imnature, but very smart, they can manipulate you, but never emotionally reflect and get better.
Those are your Dark Triad/Tetrads.
i feel like i just finished dating someone like this. she was actually very insecure about her immaturity too so hid it pretty well for months before things suddenly imploded
I know a person just like that
@swedenarmy4692 Me too. When they ask you about XYZ having to deal with relationships and I try my best to answer (which is never good enough btw) he tells me that asking him the same question is childish. Why didn't I ask it first, he'll say and since I didn't "ask him first" he feels asking the same thing of him is not worthy of him.considering, much dress answer it. I feel that since there are two of us in this relationship, each of us can snd likely will have different perceptions and feelings about a situation we're experiencing simultaneously. So why isn't knowing where they stand on thr issue they've asked me, why is that childish or immature? Needless to say we get nowhere, for 20+ years. No accountability whatsoever from him..
That's actually a pretty grim but interesting idea. This sounds very close to a person with narcissistic personality disorder.
i just got yelled at by an emotionally immature person as a response to me calmly stating my feelings. this video was recommended to me as soon as i came home, and this video just came out hours ago. i really needed to hear this today.
Yo same!
My sister whenever I try to have a conversation with her.
Omg, same! What is wrong with people?
I'm astounded by how often this happens...You're not alone.
This happened to me in an online argument about a month ago.. I asked a question about someone’s drawing. They bullied my sister on 2 alts because she commented on the drawing as well.. It was a whole thing.
Not all impulsive people are spoiled brats, you will definitely find a kind person with impulsive qualities due to ADHD and/or other reasons, just putting it out there
Yeah, well, my sister has ADHD and even if I tell her to stop and I address why she shouldn't do what she is doing she will deliberately tell me that she isn't going to stop. I understand that they sometimes don't realize that they are doing wrong; but I know there're also people like my sister, who even if sometimes don't realize that they are doing wrong, other you will tell them, they'll realize they are doing wrong and and they'll continue doing it on purpose. Even if she has ADHD, she's taking an active decision there; a decision that she knows is not the right one (because someone has explained her previously). 😔
@ @luziaguerralatelevision2670
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I’m autistic and have ADHD. You have a fair point. Usually, once someone asks me to stop doing something, I try to stop. However, sometimes it’s just hard to control although I do try my best.
It can be *hard* to tell, then, so you either 1) avoid most or all interaction; 2) blunder along until you get in trouble; or 3) go through life paranoid, in seeming social phobia.
@@luziaguerralatelevision2670 ADHD actually isn’t really in our control I’m not diagnosed but I think I might have It because I have all sighns any ways ADHD impulsivity is kinda uncontrollable I’m truly sorry but our brains just get easily triggered or overwhelmed it doesn’t mean we aren’t mature or understanding enough it’s just a phase especially in childhood and teen years adhd is extreme so please bear patient with kids with adhd it will change slowly if they want too 🌺
@@Mochi-re8cv I know that people with ADHD can't control every decision they take but that anecdote I was describing literally was my sister not leaving my father alone, me telling her to please stop and she smiling creepily at me and saying "no, I don't want to". That's an active decision she took there. Despite that, I understand your point and I hope that you are right and that she starts to change slowly. :")
Absolutely my mother.
Me as a toddler who still remembers how my dad and mom divorced decided: “Oh, let’s see if mom lies!”
She told me: “You can know when you’re older”
Timestamps
1). Impulsivity 0:43
2). Less self-reflection 1:49
3). Emotional regulation 2:08
4). Bullying 2:38
5). Selective caring 3:21
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. I missed hearing your voice Drew Baillie. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
@@dhamilton463 no they have two voice actors
I know the title says 4, but I feel like it is actually 5 signs.
1. Impulsivity
2. Lack Self Reflection
3. Emotional Regulation 2:13
4. Bullying
5. Selective Caring
@@tavarshia3122thanks for telling me about this. I was sleeping well making this timestamps
Thanks for the time stamps! And yes, it's always great to have Drew do our voiceovers :)
@@A55a551n bro you are hella nice ! thank you for all the timestamps you are putting here . have a great day !
My emotionally immature parents made me the same. Took till i was 28 to see it and learning to grow up this late is rough
Reflection is an extremely difficult technique to master. At least you've recognized the issue, which is more than what most people can do. Well done! 🙂
Seriously, you're rarer than you're giving yourself credit; most narcissists (malignant or not) simply *cannot* correct their toxic courses. Trust me, I've experienced 30+ years of them, and despite my patience with humanity, I've decided that "testing is over", and I no longer put up with any disrespect. Especially given my background, accomplishments, and ethical standards.
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@@Novastar.SaberCombat i worry that I won't be able to. That I'll try and try and not change. Probably stuck in my own head at this point
Sounds like you're talking about my mom. The sad part is that she's 73.
Woah... That sucks, I hope your mother become mature, sending praying for that to happend!
Time stamps:
0:00 intro
0:44 1. IMPULSIVITY
1:49 2. Less Self-Reflection
2:38 3. BULLYING
3:22 4. SELECTIVE CARING
4:05 outro?
Look like I’m late from being on top
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No need to say 'Space so easier to click'. Just leave a line blank.
Thanks, just the same.
Thank you for the time stamps!
The outro is more like 4:12... ;-)
1:58 I simply love the references in your videos 😂
Giving the example of Veruca was awesome. Never realised it till this video talked about it.
I wana see more videos on psychoanalysis of characters such as Veruca in Charlie and the chocolate factory
I really needed this, I was feeling sad about a situation I just had with a mate and this gave some relief, I shouldn't blame myself for the actions of others.
action of others are (willingly?) decided by others, not you.
_That's_ the "freedom" we, as humans, are declaring to have
(similarly, we are free to decide our own actions)
their decisions = their faults
Fantastic animation
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I'd like to add a few more: not answering questions or being aggressively defensive when faced with evidence.
Having the emotional spotlight at all times.
Eg. A: You did that thing
B(sarcastically): Oh yeah right, sure.
A: I have evidence of you doing this thing repeatedly
B: I'm honestly done talking to you, I don't have to respond to you, i don't have the energy, you always stir up problems, etc.
B: you left this thing in a dirty spot, that's why I threw it with the garbage.
A: what dirty spot?
B(sarcastically): idk.
A: hey, you dropped your coffe on my floor. I slipped on my way in, you should've cleaned it.
B: I didn't, stop accusing me.
A: you're the only one who drinks coffe in this household, you said you were going to take something from my room, I saw you walking in with the mug.
B: you're right. I'm also the one who dropped your juice last week and walked in the room with dirty boots (all things A did and took responsibility of) I just always dirty up your room and poor you has to clean after me all the time.
A: I can't help you cook today, I have a headache.
B: yeah? Well I had a headache yesterday too buy I got up and did some chores.
A. I already did some work today and my headache is not going away even after medication.
B: oh poor you. So you're human and I'm not? You get to rest while having a headache and I don't?
A: I'm sorry I didn't respond to your messages, I lost my pet and was in a bad place.
B: well I lost a dear person last year too, I had it worse. It was a person not an animal.
A: I'm honestly depressed, I need to check with a therapists.
B: why would you be depressed? If anyone os allowed to be depressed then it should be me, I've had this and that happen. (Most of the time, A had far worse things happen but B would always exaggerate to seem like the strong survivor while A is just being whiney and irresponsible)
why does this sound like one of my most infuriating coworkers.....and my mom growing up, at the same time??
Now why does this sound like my mum so much...
Basically, what you're describing in these scenarios is 1. not taking responsibility for one's actions and 2. treating other's problems like it's a competition in the 'who had a worse day/time/situation' stakes rather than empathising and/or comforting/helping. Yep, I know people like this unfortunately.
Sounds a lot like the GOP debate from last night...lol but these sorts of things can take place just about anywhere depending where 'our' minds are at - and that's exactly my whole point: a lot of stuff we believe to be 'meaningful', isn't always as meaningful as it seems - but a lot of it is subconscious. And as somebody who's introverted, socially awkward, and nerdy; I can say that it's normal to think these things especially when we're in 'overdrive'... these thought processes and mechanisms are intended to help us with our survival in order to make smarter and beneficial decisions.
@@IamDaBlitz64 that's because I learned all of this by talking to my mom 💔🤣
In some cases, because of my ADD, I am emotionally immature, and I'm trying to tell my brain, "Develop, f******* please!"
I've dealt with adults like this also, I love the way you incorporated Wily Wonka reference
Literally my mom
My dad is the same and he’s 43 😅
Yes, so is my mother, who is 75
All I can say is that youtube's algorithm keeps showing me the Psych2Go videos about sex and relationships; to the point where I became worried that was all you were posting. My fiancée and I broke up and I decided to move on and be single. I am happy to see that most of your most recent videos weren't the ones youtube recommended, but I am also sad they aren't recommending your other content.
Thank you for all that you do!
I spent my whole childhood trying to be mature and was often praised on my maturity. But I learned when i got older i wasnt as mature as I thought i was. Its something im working on but it also surprised me the amount of grown adults who acted like children over the stupidest shit like parking spots. I often find myself trying to avoid acting like certain people instead of having role models to follow.
However I also have ADHD which might be where the impulsivity and emotional disregulation comes in but im handling that pretty well. I was able to keep myself from having a meltdown when i was feeling super overwhelmed the other day
Omg, Spiderman meme!
I think another reason one may be self-absorbed is insecurity. I do this a lot as of late, to be honest.
I’m so worried about what people think of me and what I hate about myself that I miss a number of times where I can tune in to others’ needs and what they’re saying.
Not to say everyone who is insecure is self-absorbed, but rather that I personally need to learn how to handle my insecurities better.
I think the fact that you're very self-aware will make it a lot easier for you to detach yourself from your insecurities and handle them better! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
Same here. I know that I'm very insecure and have days where i myself don't love myself enough. Sometimes I hate myself to the point where I sometimes don't believe my friends when they say they like hanging out with me; and they don't even do anything! When you don't like yourself it makes it harder to believe someone else could like you, because sometimes we humans don't always believe we deserve love or happiness.
@@PokidotGamer898I've been in that sort of phase, and recently I tend to second guess myself quite a bit - but we're still human and allowed to be okay with being imperfect every now and then. But never lose faith and never stop trying to be the best version of yourself.
@@EmbraceTheStruggle24 same, second guessing myself is what i do a lot. But I won't let that stop me from trying to be the best version of myself.
Honestly I feel the same way. I'm so self absorbed because of my insecurities, I'm always dissecting myself, questioning and analyzing myself from others perspective all because I want people to like me... I hardly listen to the problems my friends want to confide in me about.
I'm trying to change but honestly is it bad that it feels more of like a transaction? I hear you out then you hear me out? Is it bad that I don't put my feelings into the talk, I'm just doing it as some kind of duty? Does that count as mature or immature?
I would love to see a video discussing how to handle being in a relationship with an immature person, and more to the point a relationship that can't just be ended on a whim.
How about giving advice that could get a person fired or arrested. See it all the time online and off. "I would punch someone who talked to me like that"
Incredibly immature. Shows they rather resort to violence than handling it like an adult and confronting the person on how theyre treating you or reporting them to HR if its a co-worker or boss for example
Technically, this one is probably related to one of the listed items like “less self-reflection or bullying”, but I feel like projecting is a big one. I’d describe projecting as someone that always blames other people for most misfortunes they encounter, even though at the end of the day, it’s them in the wrong in a lot of these said situations because they always seem to rub people the wrong way and have that “my world view is 100% correct, how can I be the bad guy here?!”-mentality.
How do to go about life when the person who is supposed to take care of you is actually more immature than you ? My mum ticks all the boxes...
always very good videos ! the audio was a bit weird on this one tho much luv and keep up the awesome advice
Thank you for your kind words and support! We're glad you enjoy our videos. We apologize for the audio issue in the recent one. We're continuously working to improve our content and provide you with valuable advice. Much love to you as well! If you have any suggestions or topics you'd like us to cover, feel free to share. Keep watching and take care!
Thank you for sharing many informations your doing great job❤
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@@Psych2go I dont know my friend is having sings of emotiolally immature person but im still not sure and the worst part is that i dont like her cuz shes mean but she is calling me her BeSț FRenD its just awful
I'm glad this video exists! Let's protect ourselves from immature people and learn to grow up.
EARLYY! I love this channel!!
I love your voice so much. Usually I can't sit thru any psych to go video because I'm picky about the voice. But yours is lovely ❤
Thank you! 😊 Did you relate to the video?
@@Psych2go I think all psych to go videos are very informative 👌
Can you make a video on cold hearted person
Interesting idea. If we were to make a video on this topic, what would you have in mind?
@@Psych2go like personally I like to be cold and I'm interested in this topic and want to explore more about that . Personally I find these type of people attractive . Sorry for late reply . Waiting for the video
This is a very big thing with people with ADHD and other neurodivergent problems. I have ADHD and I have my immature moments a lot but I try to make up for it by understanding when something is serious and someone needs my help.
We call emotionally immature women Karens.
And the men?
@@charlottetaylor4471 Either Male Karens or Kens.
I had always known my ex was, perhaps, a little bit on the immature side…but, during the huge fight we had that led to our breakup, his emotional immaturity REALLY came out.
I wanted so much to talk things out and get to a place of understanding, but all he could focus on was stating his argument and telling me how wrong I was. He lost his temper and started yelling at me, then refused to speak to me for weeks. I had never seen him so angry before. We had a disagreement on something really important, and I felt like he was really trying to badger me into thinking and feeling exactly what he thought and felt, and it almost felt like I was being punished for not bending to his will. Although he refused to answer my calls or texts, he occasionally left little jabs or cruel insults in my DM’s…very personal ones that he knew would hurt me deeply. I knew he was unable to handle the change in our dynamic (I went along with what he wanted most of the time, because I’m a people pleaser) and he just didn’t know how to handle his frustration. I had never realized just much rage he had kept underneath the surface.
Is it possible to be… overly emotionally mature? For instance, if you had to develop emotional maturity super quickly and now you overcompensate?
Nice video
Yay first comment again ...... I love your videos...... They help people a lot..... ❤❤❤
Nope, not even close.
I'm emotionally mature, just not in the best situation for me to seem very mature 😅
You can' t communicate, you run away, don' t take accountability and won' t sincerly apologize especially after wronging someone and it' s even worse when they know how you felt and still didn' t seem to give a s@#t.
Okay… I’m not emotionally immature, I’m just innocent and oblivious 😭
Hurt people, hurt people
A video about substance abuse would be great, especially alcohol. Not necessarily for 'addicted' people but if you are a normal person that doesn't binge drink and doesn't drink daily, you still might have a problem with alcohol. We don't have enough awareness about that.
I can listen to problems and let people confide in me but one can do so much. If your problems don't get better, we're always complaining about the same things, you don't even consider taking my ideas or solutions I'm sorry I will look straight in your eye and nod while paying no attention
There’s a good point but being immature is part of life, and there’s no shame or hiding that someone can love someone being that way, such as a child and a parent, but since this also refers to people older too, I feel like people are special in their own minds so it’s hard to change for others sometimes. People expect things to work so if you’re realizing your status of emotional capability as a human than you’re on the right track. Nothing is wrong with being a kid, or feeling like one because life nowadays can be rather boring and tough with how much fun it is just being yourself with or without people you enjoy being around.
For me it was "why are you yelling at me?" when i wasn't yelling.
Another sign of emotional immaturity is when someone is possessive of you in either a romantic relationship or friendship.😫
I have a same friend and she literally is so possessive it’s draining!!
Love your videos ❤❤❤❤
thank you! does this video remind you of anyone?
Yessss...
And guess what...they liked your video 😊😊
I want to call your attention to the fact that nothing is to good for YOU, no matter how great the thing may be, no matter how undeserving you may seem to be. You are entitled to the best there is, for it is your direct inheritance. So don't be afraid to ask, demand and take. The good things of the world are not the portion of any favored sons. They belong to all, but they come only to those who are wise enough to recognize that the good things are theirs by right, and who are sufficiently courageous to reach out for them.
Well for me it's not even about greatness as much as it is about gratitude and realizing that your perspective matters just as much as anyone else's.
I love your videos they always teach me things I never thought I had when I was younger and I love learning about these types of things❤❤
Fanning this animation style, dope message and dope animation,
Yes I am dealing with one my boyfriend because of his past,he developed these but I can handle him as I am emotionally mature, he has an avoidant attachment style as well.
Hello, love your videos!
What about dealing with emotionally immature teenagers?
Genuinely, is there a way to tell a self-absorbed person why it's selfish and jealous if they don't understand that they are being jealous?
I love your videos and have been watching them for years now. that being said, I'm sorry to say that the sound quality made it hard for me to listen.
I just did a search on this yest, as ive parents who act like that. This week being my bday i didn wanto deal with the BS, but old man was still atten seeking. in fact your channel has often posted abt this topic. Kids like this not so bad but if seniors are like that so shit
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After dealing with 30+ years of insecure, toxic, emotionally immature humans, I now realize that it's just the way 90% of them are "trained" (or have learned by default). The core issue is systemic, and it begins with parenting, environment, financial beginnings, early schooling, and so forth. Unfortunately, once an individual is 16+ years old, if they've learned a *throng* of terrible habits, trust me, they'll never change. That's why narcissists aren't able to be "repaired"; they're incorrigible, and will continue to cause collateral damage to everyone and everything until they die. Acceptance is key.
I need this Video with German Dub ASAP in order to show it to someone who needs to see it badly.
Is there a way to help them gain at least some enotional maturity?
People like that usually never change. It's best to just break ties with them.
Knowing the struggles of emotional regulation and having a brain injury and ADHD can make people believe that I am emotionally immature, but in reality I am dealing with the negative effects that come from my disabilities.
youve just perfectly described every karen lol
He’s 55 and will never progress past 16 in mature years. It’s pathetic to watch. You can’t convince him otherwise. I ended the friendship today. I’m happier than I’ve been in years.
could you please make a video about how to deal with social anxiety ?
So anyone here who's immacha?
14 mins ago- your voice is so calming to me-
this question is for Drew Baillie: Drew, I noticed several different accents when you were speaking. Do you mind if I ask where your your combination comes from? I ask this as I have a combo English, Kiwi, Aussie accent :)
my parents all the way. fear of accountability.
Me, I get upset with dealing with immature guy. And ended up we separated. I wanted the relationship to work but however he just run away emotionally , is unrequited
I hate knowing about them every time!
Fun fact: in the original book, _Charlie and the Chocolate Factory_, Veruca Salt wants one of the squirrels (trained to remove walnuts from their shells without breaking the nut). The squirrels were changed to geese laying golden eggs in the first film version, because it was impossible in the days before CGI to have squirrels carry out their actions as described in the book -- and all the geese had to do was sit in place. The second film version restored the squirrels to the story, and thanks to CGI they carried out their role in a manner quite faithful to the book -- one of the very few things in that second film version that was faithful to the book!
The emotions of others do not effect me. It is their emotions to experience, not mine. It is none of my business what others are feeling or thinking.
Hey psych, may you make a video that is quite the opposite of the depression series? To be exact, the "Signs you aren't depressed, but sad" or something like that
Oh yey, my parents are like this 😍
The background piano song remids me of dankpods' ebay global shipping rant
To be honest I was called an immature and an idiot by my mom psych2go ❤
I'm sorry to hear that you were called hurtful names by your mom. It's important to remember that words can have a powerful impact, especially when they come from loved ones. If you feel comfortable sharing, have you tried discussing your feelings with her and finding a way to address this issue?
Do you think you could make a video about knowing if you're mind is tricking you into being sad when you're actually fine? It's a daily struggle for me and i really don't know sometimes
Thank you for sharing the idea with us. Though we think this could be an interesting idea, we're more concerned about your mental well being. Are you doing okay? Have you spoken to a mental health professional about your condition?
@Psych2go if I'm being honest no, I'm really not ok. And I can't go see anyone because the last time I asked my mom she just asked me "You just want something to be wrong with you, don't you?" I have no help right now
@Psych2go I really need help and I don't know how to get it
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. Despite what your parents might say about your condition, I think it's best to speak to someone who will not be dismissive about your current situation. I think speaking with a counselor or a mental health professional can be very helpful for you. And while our videos are aimed at helping people, because your situation is so specific, I highly encourage you to speak with someone so that they can get you the help you need. I hope this helps.
@@Psych2go thank you so much for reaching back out. I'll try my best. Does anyone on the team know a way I can reach out online besides my school counselor?
I'm not allowed to date till I'm A sophomore but I still love to watch these so I can learn (only a few years till high school!)
Well, that explains... someone I know 🤔
Also is form of Narcissist behavior
Is the speaker british i really can't understand the accent
What creates an emotionally immature person? Parent spouking the child?
She just described my Dad
this is very useful for me to better understand...my brother's...
Currently I'm in the midst of furthering my education I think ppl say its immature to try to aim towards completing it over prioritizing getting a job I know that's important and tough as well but furthing my education can lead to possible success maybe loneliness maybe I might be proud of myself for pulling thru it either way its a very ptessureful topic for any female por someone to carry I think ppl think it may be immature to think of myself so much may be partially right but I'm doing the best I can..
That voice is adorable whoever it is❤
Where is Amanda Silvera’s voice 😢😢😢
Yay I am emotionally mature!😎🎉
I agree I'm emotionally immature
So ADHD makes you more immature than your peers
Yo I thought that was Caillou on the thumbnail 💀💀
Where is our favorite narrator Miss Amanda Silvera. I want her voice. Please bring her back 😢
My ex called me this in the past ngl. And I think thats true. And Ik where it stems from- my schizophrenic mom who sometimes acts like a literal child. It's tiresome being around an emotionally immature adult who robbed you of your childhood.
My ex
slowly looks at my boyfriend
Nah my anxiety could NOT let me be emotionally immature😬😭
Hey, I have a question. If somebody was emotionally immature, would you have any tips or advice for them, or do you feel like it probably wouldn’t sink in and it would just go over their heads?
I'm in a bit of the same situation... no advice taken, however mildly put
Sounds like the majority of my housemates. The worst part is their ages range from 30 to 40+ and in professional jobs
What should i have to do ....if am became so attached to her and she doesn't give even half an hour ...and if she doesn't talk my emotions get obsessed on me and i feel too much sad and thousands of thoughts come ....why she doesn't talk to me... blaaa blaaa.... I need to understand why it's happening to me because in this situation i can't focus focus on my study's...... only thinking of her i know what to do what to study bt i am hopeless......give me some point to come out from this situation....
What if i know what's the right thing to do but choose not to because what i want is wrong?
😅 tick a couple of boxes but depends on stress levels and how the personalitys rolling on the day. Food for thought though