5 THINGS YOU HAVE TO AVOID IF YOU HAVE BPD
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Thanks for mentioning Narcissists! It’s very very important! It can defiantly make our mental health way way way worse!
I’ve been around way too many narcissists in my life I believe those people have caused me to get BPD. All the emotional mental abuse they put me though there actions affected me severely.
@@GlitteranGoldme too. Absolutely horrific 😢childhood
I have bpd and cptsd and grew up with a narcissistic mother who was emotionally and physically abusive. I feel that everyone has narcissistic traits to some degree, more so in my kids 2k generation and ironically the post ww2 parent's have almost no boundaries.
I still struggle with drinking it's not something I'm proud of and it is definitely a trigger for me and doesn't help with impulse control or emotional regulation.
I'm glad I stumbled upon your videos, it's nice to see fellow bpd peoples personal insights and how they deal with their struggles.
Anytime I drink its like playing Russian Roulette with nearly a full chamber. My life improved leaps and bounds when I cut that poison out of my life.
sameeee!!! such a slay
Saaaame! It's been 2 1/2 years since I've had any alcohol, and I'm so glad I haven't had to deal with any lows from that.
@@EMILYHERRERA and funnily enough I relapsed last night. I think I’ve pushed away another partner that’s been beyond patient with me. I hate that I keep doing this
@@AnabolicSaagAloooh, dear, I hope you are better now.
@@olenaku1611 To be honest I'm at a low point right now and feeling very alone. I keep making the same mistakes over and over. I just feel trapped with where i am in life but I always come out of these slumps stronger. I'll get there eventually
Important side note : im so happy to see you thriving! Been here for a big part of your journey & you give serious hope💕 thank you for being so brave to have shared so much with all of us.
yessss omg i love this thank you so much for sharing
i always hear "bpd people (like me) should avoid narcissists" but there are people in my life who've called me the narcissistic one. im not above working on my narcissism if its there, but is it true? do i have narcissistic tendencies, or was i being gaslit by an actual narcissist? the questions continue...
SUCH A GREAT QUESTION!! Should I make a video??? If you have bpd YOU ARE NOT the narcissist!!! Thank you for my next video 🫶🏼
You look & sound amazing!
Yes I agree to no alcohol!!! Hugely problematic for me. I’ve been sober for long time. Enough said.
you're literally the first and. only advocate i've found for someone w bpd back. in 2018 thanks for still making videos and reminding me that i can/will improve and i stil deserve love and acceptance of myself
aww yay!! i appreciate the love and sticking it out all this time!
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Narcissists are always straight bad news there’s no other way around those people an since I’m very empathetic an sensitive to emotions they all get attracted to me. The worst trigger is narcissists for me an any negative unsafe environment negative people. I can’t not be around those things because it’s worsens my BPD. I’m already hyper vigilant an self aware all the time I’m constantly on alert all the time I know that’s from my anxiety an it’s a big sign of PTSD an I know I have that also. 6:07 to 6:09 yes girl putting up the middle finger to those toxic manipulative life suckers.
On #5, You are generous and too kind to narcissists. To all people, if you're a full blown narcissist, you're a full blown problem. Always curious about BPD. Great content!
I do see a connection with alcohol and BPD with my experiences of friends/ex-friends/acquaintances who've had it. So, its great to have it on the list of things to work on. Good job and thank you for being so honest and open.
Most borderlines are comorbid with npd, bpds more damaging in a relationship
If someone you loved turned out to be a narcissist, there's often the compulsion to want to show grace... though they sadly would not do the same. If they guilted you and said you're a terrible person, you may try to forgive and wish them well just to prove you're not.
@@Em_Elizabeth It really does boil down to the person, and as you say, sometimes that person is a full blown narcisist--saveable or unsaveable. And, you don't need to date that person to save them. Best, keep your relatively happy life not toxic, not worth it imo.
thank you! so happy this was helpful :)
the alcohol and bpd combo for me is a NO GO! haha ive learned the hard way!!! :)
@@SammyGrimm This is smart! Good choice young lady!
You look beautiful as always 💜✨ thank you for this video I always look forward to your videos
I am a new subscriber and i found out about you from Medcircle. I have BPD and you remind me that I'm not alone in feeling really shitty about myself after an episode. Thank you for normalizing BPD. ❤
welcome to the samfam babe! BPD BADDIES
Everything in this video is so true. A few boyfriends ago was a narcissist and it just made everything even worse than I already was for boyfriends to come :/
I also recently have thought thay I was supposed to confront all my triggers head on and "get over them", but maybe your right. Maybe not forcing myself to be around what triggers me is better
Im telling you, try to remove yourself from your triggers and i guarantee you will feel so much better!
You are amazing human soul, thank you so much for coaching and explaining, not the only one , love your videos❤❤❤❤❤
Wow the difference in your energy is amazing you seem so much calmer 🥰🥰🥰
thank you! i think so too!
thanks for making this video Sammy! I agree with all of these. In my experience, everything you mentioned has affected my mental health negatively and I've had to learn a few hard lessons. Social media and endless scrolling can definitely be super triggering at times!
Almost exclusively only dated highly narcissistic people in my life. I am also seemingly only attracted to them because of the confidence they exude 😩 (working on this)
I'm glad you can help others with the things that you have been through! That is a great thing!
Loveeeeee this your videos have been helping me learn about my own BPD♥️
THAT MAKES ME SO HAPPY!!!!
❤❤❤ so true babe!
Thanks Sammy xx for me it's avoiding avoidant people, as they bring out the worst possible abandonment and rejection triggers 😢 sadly though, I'm most drawn to avoidant people as they give me the opportunity to confirm how everyone abandons me 😢😢
I like these kind of informative videos, thanks for making them. Very helpful for me to understand BPD better! 😊
thank you so much babe!
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Narcissists r VILE xxx well done
Do you offer advice for partners of those with BPD? Just got out of a very turbulent relationship with my ex (where we both suspected she suffered from BPD), and I was dealing with my own mental health issues.
We both were in therapy and had a lot of childhood trauma, but things still got really bad. Any advice would be appreciated, thank you Sammy.
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I love this video and so true. I don't have bod but my wife does and these triggers are definitely recognizeable. Love the work you are doing.
thank you so much, so happy to help :)
I think my therapist is a narcissist, because everyone that’s been my FP have narcissistic traits, tenfolds!
Would love to see a vid on nutrients relative to bpd! loved this vid, love seeing your energy, it really seems renewed💓
thank you so much, im so so glad you enjoyed the video and I AM GOING TO FILM THAT VIDEO NEXT WEEK😻😻😻😻
Thanks for this video. Can you please explain what an episode looks like once a person with BPD has been triggered?
I have tons of videos/ vlogs showing bpd videos in real time!🖤
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Can you make a video on having healthy relationships with other people? I have bpd and I have in the past allowed friends and men to abuse me because I didn’t think I deserved better.
anything specific?? i have a few videos with my partner on my channel- a lot of relationship advice!! but let me know if you want me to make a new video with him and you can dm me on insta with specific questions if you want!
@@SammyGrimm thank you!’ I was think relationships with friends, specifically how to avoid narcissistic relationships, and how to maintain healthy relationships with family while you have BPD. Thank you!
I’d love to know what vitamins are helpful for BPD
Hi sammy ❤ love your videos! Sending hugs and love
love you!
Hey lovely, I’m actually really interested in knowing more about the link between deficiencies and BPD please 🙏
I made a video about deficiencies and vitamins! Check my videos 💓
Excellent video, drugs and alcohol never helped me relax or anything, I also changed my diet to Candida free and that was a game changer. Boundries we’re scary for me to place in my relationships cause I feared rejection and abandonment and I’m happier with boundaries. I had a controlling argumentative boyfriend I broke up with because my BPD was getting triggered. I’ve let go of narcissistic ppl in my life and also am better off, this is a Great video💯♥️
so proud of you for letting go of the narcissists in your life! thats such a slay!!!
I have bpd and I want that video! :D
When you say "Episodes" , do you mean a flare up in your BPD symptoms or something else? from what I know BPD isn't an episodic illness but a stable disorder.
Personally when I smoke Cannabis, my symptoms flare up to an extent, depends on my overall mental health at the time, so for example if I am during a really bad time and I smoke, I could experience panic attacks and have a lot of "fun" with my anxiety, mood swings, intrusive thoughts and dissociation, but when my mental health is good, the flare ups will not be as bad and I will just have to deal with intrusive thoughts, and I might have a bit hard time to stay present in the moment.
Overall you are right though it's better to stay clear from alcohol and drugs, and I agree with all of the other points, managed to reach the same conclusions by doing a lot of self reflection :)
By the way, NPD people are problematic for us (My father is a narcissist so I can identify such behavior easily) but what do you say about someone with BPD dating someone else with BPD, do you think it's a bad idea overall or it could work?
How long are BPD episodes?
They can last anywhere from a few hours to a few months. In some cases, the person with BPD may split on a person, situation, or item forever and never back away from their extreme view. When a person is more symptomatic, they could experience splitting that occurs quickly and without much warning.
theres a few conflicting things about bpd and episodes but this is what ive learned!
omg i relate sooooo hard with smoking as well. i started smoking when i was 12 and did it the rest of my life until about 3 ish years ago! idk how i would react if i smoked now- i probly would have a panic attack and want to die lmaooooo
also, im sure its possible to date another with bpd as long as everyone is in recovery and working towards remission. my only worry would be triggering eachother in a cycle like behavior but i believe its possible! ive dated someone with bpd (very recently- yes brian and i are still together but we dated another girl for little while- just to clarify) and it was beautiful! were still friends to this day and talk frequently and i care about her very much! so its possible, as long as all parties are working towards healing
Smart woman! ❤
Sammy, could you identify some narcissistic signs? Beautiful video 🌷🌻🪷 Thank You
definitely! : lack of empathy, arrogant, sense of self importance, entitled, etc! you can google examples and more as well :)
I just came to the conclusion too to stop drinking completely and I didn’t realize how triggering it would be and difficult it would be 😢
The amount of people with mental health issues that consume copious amounts of alcohol....blow my mind!! Especially the people I've crossed paths with, with depression & bipolar. I have no doubt that if these people cut out alcohol or heavily reduced it...their lives would change significantly
I have been diagnosed with epilepsy & stopped drinking alcohol completely.
im so sorry youre struggling with that
:( i understand i have been there!!! if you need support message me on instagram
Hey, do you have recommendations on how to behave if your partner with bdp is constantly ignoring his boundaries without me even really asking for it. It often gets us in trouble and we both feel like we can't manage to get things better.
Like i ask: "are you done eating?" Or "do you need more of that?" (Just so i can know if i leave something for him or store it in the fridge) and he usually interprets plenty of things into it like me pushing him to eat more, so then he starts explaining what he'd eaten already to assure me hes doing fine (but in a very stressed tone).
Doesn't seem that stressfull for a single situation but these situations keep happening all over our days and my intentions almost never seem to be understood in the situations, no matter how much i think about my wording before saying anything. No matter how many therapy sessions i used to solve it by changing my own behaviour. My therapist basically saying i have to practice not taking his accusations to my heart (pretty hard for me as im super sensitive and have a historymakinh it difficult but I'm working on it) and care for myself as explaining those situations to him doesn't seem to work.
I'm still confused though and somehow refuse to believe there might be no way to help us go through issues. 😢
Im so glad you keep making videoa s they help me so much to understand whats really going on in our relationship. ❤
I want another video explaining more about alcohol and bpd
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i have a lot of videos! you can just go to my channel and search
Does any of you have advices about stopping alcohol? I have been trying and it’s so hard, especially when I am more impulsive. I am also BP-II and when I am more depressed or even hypomaniac, I tend to just go for alcohol
if you are struggling i highly suggest you get professional help from it! theres tons of free programs like AA/NA (i went to NA for awhile and it was very beneficial for me! )
just checking in to see how youre doing?? you can message me on instagram if you wanna chat!
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Hey Sammy just wanted to let you know that Jesus loves you and you can come to him in time if need
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ive read practical magic and the rules of magic! the second one is my fav if you havent read it!!!