I was in a situation where I was spending a lot of time with a younger woman who was extremely attractive. Eventually I started to have feelings for her but it became clear that she didn't feel the same about me. Soon after I told her that I didn't think it was a good idea for us to be spending that much time together anymore. She asked me why and I told her that being around her all the time while having to remain just friends wasn't going to work for me. In a situation like that you're better off accepting it and then move on to something else.
she should have walked away from him... after he confessed his feelings... ... but sounds like she sticked around ... play stupid games win stupid prizes...
You are so right. I keep warning a friend about this! Right now she has a looney young woman renter who she has given notice to leave - and this situation is scary enough! I’ve told her, at least it isn’t a crazy man who could physically dominate her - but it is still a concerning situation. I pray this young woman vacates the property in 3 days like she is supposed to.
I believe it's good to define boundaries in a situation like that. Partying and going on vacations with someone who is interested in you romantically does not always end well when you decide to cut him off.
@@barbarabagatin8962 I think she needed him like a brother which is a common mistake. Men don't think like women do. I was in a similar situation till I realized I made a mistake and made a U-turn. I escaped in a nick of time and proceeded with a lawsuit. I did not win but at least I made it clear to his lawyer and his employer so he stayed away from me.
Yeah, and taking flirty pictures with, and who knows what else. He was wrong if he killed her, but some people don't realize we don't live in a perfect world. If you leave food on the floor, the dog will eat it.
If the last several profiles have taught us anything, it's that checking computer searches is a handy crime-solving tool for police. Thanks for another fascinating profile, Dr. Grande.
@DeepCode I’m tempted not to say anything, but deleting things on a storage drive does not erase the information there. It simply changes the status of this section to allow it to be rewritten when needed. There are several ways to read and recover deleted files. Unless the space used to store the old files is needed and used to hold new data your old files still exist and are not difficult to recover.
Cheaper area? These days ppl can’t afford to do that room mate is only way this looks like it was before our Covid time and high inflation but still even moving to the hood it’s exspensive
I agree, there’s too much stranger danger even if your roomie is the same sex I wouldn’t feel safe. Plus, I’m always afraid of people bringing roaches or bed bugs in my house. It happened to a friend of mine, he let this woman stay with him who was on hard times and she brought bed bugs into his house! He had to throw out so much stuff including her! No thanks, my home is for me and my 2 cats.
@@Arizona_lilly you’re right about rents but I wouldn’t risk my peace of mind or safety having a roommate. People are too weird and desperate these days and seems everybody has a gun. It’s a NO, for me.
I remember watching this case, on a different program, and I just remember thinking that her sister should've asked her to leave and stay with her, until the guy moved out. Tensions were high at that residence, and I remember it was illustrated how scared and uncomfortable she was with him. It's so sad she trusted her home to be her refuge, when he had other things brewing in his mind. 😪 I feel so bad for everyone who truly cared for her.
Wow, I didn't know she even h-a-d a sister that she could have stayed with. Too bad she didn't, or even just splurged and rented a hotel room when it got dicey towards the end. But it's easy to have 20/20 vision AFTER the fact; obviously, she didn't know that he would do what he did to her. Still, I wish she would have left and found other temporary accommodations before this happened. Poor lady.
I've noticed sadly a lot of these cases Could have been avoided in having family support or friend's. This case for example, she had a big family. Her sister said in Nexflix she was already settled in when she asked her to move in with her to help with the rent. It's really sad how one moment of selflessness could of changed this sad story. 🙏🏻🤍 🕯💫
Awesome insight, & you were spot on! 👏 I remember my late mother warning me when I was young. She said be very careful not to make the wrong person mad, especially if it’s someone you don’t have the same feelings for, because it’s very dangerous. So when you spoke about unrequited love in the video, it reminded me, along with this young victim’s story. We can never be too careful in life. Thank you for your analysis!
The photos of the two make it seem like she might have been interested in being in a relationship with him, but maybe the red flags were piling up and she changed her mind. People are allowed to change their mind, especially when it comes to safety reasons. However, as a woman it is not a good idea to have a male roommate. Not saying it was her fault... but it's not safe.
I'm lucky to be alive after the number of people who did creepy stuff to me, or tried to. Once, when I was home from school on vacation, a classmate showed up at my parents door and announced he had been sleeping in the nearby cemetery for a week with a suitcase of books, getting up the courage to tell me his feelings. And he was one of the more harmless ones. I've felt like prey all my life.
I too, have dealt with the tight rope walking involved in unrequited attraction. More needs to be done in this mental health area. Seriously delusional people can be terrifying to cope with and most young women have to try to navigate it without knowledge and support.
Thank you Dr. Grande for pointing out the dangers of unrequited love. In an uneven power dynamic where one person loves and the other does not, hate can become a much stronger feeling than love. Murderous revenge becomes a convenient remedy for rejection. ❤️🔥💔💘
I remember reading about this when it happened. What’s so sad is the devastation left behind. Maribel had a little sister, and to loose your mom and your only sister in the same year…….I hope this dude NEVER gets out of prison. But California…..he’ll be out in 10 years.
He also is guaranteed "3 hots and a cot" while in prison, so he won't need to find a new roommate. Great job as usual, Dr. Grande!!! Love your channel!
I was stalked by an older guy when I was in my 20s while I was an exchange student at the foreign country after I refused to go out with him. We used to hang out with the same crowd and he obviously misinterpreted my friendly personality. He would show up outside the place I was staying call me all the time, send me emails, love letters It was such a scary situation, especially because I was away from my family.. Luckily, I returned to my country. I now have two teenage daughters and I am literally afraid for them.
So scary to have someone move in before knowing them very well. Even courtship is a scary situation and the chaperones are a better idea all the way around in this day and age
Janet Roberts I'm in my 60s now and recall that this used to be an extremely common practice, yet it's never been a good idea and even more so nowadays. I also remember having issues in regard to men I'd moved in with when I was younger, even though other people often stayed and visited. I did know them, yet obviously not well enough! I had no idea that they found me attractive at all, as I've never been beautiful, until things happened to show that it was the case. I ended up moving out because they both turned on me. I had huge issues with male neighbours as well and wasn't even friendly to a couple of the extreme ones. I won't go into detail about all that, except to mention that one ended up in jail for the night, then was evicted from his flat and had to go to court. I've had issues with other men in that area, hence why I'm learning to not be as friendly, or to have male friends, just to be on the safe side. It's much less likely to happen at my age though. 🙁
@@cyndigooch1162 I'm 64 and went through two rough marriages, First : was 26 years long, 2 year courtship, two years to get divorced. Second: was one year courtship and 14 months married. Narcissistic and hateful were both, I'm a money-maker (nurse) and those evil fellows were money grubby to the maximum! I am enjoying my peace and have good friends who values I respect and they respect me. Much to be said for their goodness and I'm not in fear of my life. First spouse gave me threats. Second one used his hammer to bust up my Kindle device that was my master info tablet. I left while the getting was good January 2022!
Dear Dr G. It is a very sad case, a woman who served her country is slain. Yes unrequited love can be very very dangerous as this case proves. She did not have any background information on this man who likely was not a full box of chocolates. The best part of today was kicking back and viewing your channel. You have a very soothing and trust inspiring voice. Providing great analysis with principled education of the risks around us. Topped with delicious humour like the Swiss chocolate topping on a cappuccino.
Stories like this help me to understand why women are often vigilant around men. There’s always a population of men out there screwing things up just bad enough for everyone else. Too many men don’t take no for an answer…
Yes! Men should be furious that a few disturbed men are making it for their future partners to find a way into their lives. It is a literal crap shoot for women. I have gotten back together with my partner after we broke up because he handled it so well and remained caring and supportive. There are some really good men out there but it is hard to weed through them.
@@kirpdeb I understand. These are dangers that are possible for either side but I acknowledge that women disproportionately have to deal with them and are generally less able to defend themselves when they happen. I understand why women are so selective but unfortunately sometimes, even that is ineffective because some men play the long game and hide their true selves. I acknowledge that I might be scared to date if I were on the other side.
Brilliant analysis. Her sixth sense told her she was in danger when she made a 911 call. She should have moved out immediately. It is a common mistake when we fail to act on the clear & present danger. My intuition told me that I was in danger in 2019. I ignored and paid the consequences. Since then, I started carrying a notebook, listening attentively to the inner voice and observing my surroundings. When a male friend asked me to visit his apartment, I ignored his invitation. When he followed me on my Instagram, I did not follow back. An 85 years old woman would stop by my house and hug me. I discovered by accident that I don't share her values. I knew I had to keep a distance. So I avoid any encounter. Listening to my inner voices and acting on them religiously is difficult. It taxes your energy but it potentially saves lives.
Sounds overly cautious to the point of paranoia ruining your life, avoiding an old lady because you don't share values and not following a friend back on instagram??
@@alexanderorr2528 This is a public forum so I cannot elaborate in detail. There were a series of disconnected incidents over the years that I could not ignore. I don't believe in random. I like having friends. When I lose a friend, I feel hurt. Often it is a difficult decision to abandon a friendship.
She obviously didn't view him as "sick and evil" for much of their "relationship" as she willingly went on a cruise with him and allowed him to Kiss her before deciding to reject him.
"His defense made several arguments.. or perhaps KC killed Maribel in self-defense." - You're telling me your client can't remember if he killed someone in self-defense?
Its so sad that people take kindness and niceness from people and then letch on them and kill them for not reciprocating their creepy love ....revolting 💔
what was creepy from this guy's love? Seems to me this woman lead him on from all those photos. Young woman lead on wealthier man to leach off him and then when she found another guy she cuts him off raveling her true intentions.
Yup. She would take pictures with him sitting on his lap, and she had no interest of returning his feelings. They would go on solo trips and all, and she only viewed him as a friend. Taking kissy pictures. With that said, once she rejected him once, he should have moved on and moved out. Sounds like Maribel was using him for sugar-daddy stuff. ANd once he no longer provided, she now used the whole "hes dangerous, im scared of him" card. And of course she had a main boyfriend, while using KC for sugar daddy stuff. She played with KC heart and feelings. However, he should have left the house once he rejected her the first time because it was obvious that she was only in it for sugar-daddy stuff.
This is an important aspect not examined by Dr Grande. Maribel was attractive and the guy probably spent a good deal of money trying to impress her. When he realized that his money has been wasted, he must have become angry at her playing him along. Did he spend all this money on her and became desperate at the end?? That could have driven him to commit this horrible act.
Isn't Dr. Grande wonderful? I could listen to his videos all day when I have a day off. He is so amazing at what he does and teaches us so much about criminal profiling and understanding human behavior. I appreciate him!! ❤❤
He genuinely seemed to feel that he should be allowed to stay there for free. Like this young woman should cover the costs of an older man she's not related to, or dating. Someone who was literally unknown to her before he moved in. His entitlement is insane. It must have been very scary for Maribel. Imagine calling the police just in case something happened? I wonder if things might have been different if she'd gotten legal advice to force him out by the date originally agreed?
I would never never ever move a stranger into my house. Especially some strange man.. How can one be that unafraid? I can’t wrap my brain around it. I’d rather get evicted 😢
Not blaming her for her own murder, but not wise to take a male roommate when she was the only person in the house, particularly an older lonely guy she didn't know well and not wise to go on trips with him. The fact that she stands so close to him in pictures shows that she was perhaps sending some mixed signals or ones he just couldn't interpret correctly due to his own issues with women. Perhaps the attention he gave her flattered her early on or she thought it would be nice to be around when she agreed to rent to him? I agree with another commenter that she seemed naive; she doesn't look like she's really that young either... I've learned unfortunately as I've gotten older not to only "look for the best in people", you've got to protect yourself. I get the needing a roommate thing due to unforeseen circumstances but she probably should've interviewed more of them and probably had a woman move in instead, in the end it cost her her life, very tragic..
Yeah, a lot of women fail to realize that in general, there can be no platonic relationship between a straight man and a woman, especially when there is an attraction at this level
Great comment my dear friend. Steve is back at work full time, but he's now getting weekends off. I asked him how it was ,he said he had flash backs but then the adrenaline kicks in and he's doing well. Hope your mum and you are doing well. Goodnight my dear friend 😴😚❤💙💚💔🌷🌷🌷✉🎇
@@cottontails9003 Thank you friend. Glad he is back full time. Flashbacks can be difficult😔 but having wknds off sound good. Heading to bed here, appreciate your wishes, catch up soon...goodnight 😴💕💜💤👩❤️💋👩🦢🌷🌠✨️🎈💛💚🤍🧡
There are important lessons in this story. Dr. Grande knows a lot about the worst of human behavior, but heartache is the very hardest of emotions to suck up and overcome. If we are victorious in our battle with the heart, we become very strong, morally.
I'm delighted to see the alliteration has made its way into the titles of your videos! Thank you for your interesting and sensitive analysis of this tragic case, Dr Grande ❤
Sometimes empathy and kindness can turn out to be a devastating. I think Maribel really wanted to help him but that ended up costing her life. What a tragic case. Thank you, Dr. Grande. I hope you have a wonderful day.❤
I'm not sure if that's the case. I think she was toying with him. In the photos they look like they're dating, she tells him a tattoo would look and then he did it. She knew what was going on. She doesn't deserve what happened if that is the case, but there were serious red flags in this guy's behavior from the start. Not sure if I'd be taking Alaskan cruises with him. Edited for my terrible autocorrects mistakes
@@Aaron-kj8dv yes spot on she is too close to him on the picture ...bad boundary on her part, I think she underestimated him, and his ego, once she made a phone call to police, she should just have her other boyfriend stay with her...
Rejane Oliveira That's exactly right and I've written that it's best to be extremely careful on common Facebook posts that state to be kind to EVERYONE since you don't know their story, because many people view kindness as a weakness, or are downright dangerous. ❤
What a terrible story! Maribel's first mistake was renting a room to a stranger who didn't have a job. KC was absolutely guilty. As far as his inspiration to write a crime book goes, he should hook-up with OJ Simpson. Maybe they can coauthor a best seller! Two killer heads are better than one!
I don't think that the gal was saying no to this guy. Not blaming her in any way but she had a lot of pictures taken with this guy and they were very physically close in them. Seems odd when they were just friends and roommates. And of course he murdered the poor girl
This is an unintended consequence of the lack of affordable housing. The fact that Maria needed to advertise on Craig’s list for a roommate she didn’t even know in order to afford the apartment without her mother there. Most roommate experiences are not this extreme but I’ve heard plenty of negative stories. These are people they would never consider living with under other circumstances. When I was a young nurse in 82/83 pay scales were abysmal. I slept on a pull out couch in a studio apartment before I could consider rooming with a total stranger. Luckily I had a good experience
I remember this case. She was such a kind lady and served her country well. And this is what happens to her!!😡😡😡 just makes me sick. He is a monster. I hope she is resting in peace. She deserves that.
There are some people who just don’t get a rejection and although a very small part of the population their lack of critical social skills dealing with rejection can cause serious problems. There is no easy answer.
Hi Dr Grande. Just wanted you to know that I have been listening to your videos for about a year. I enjoy your unique style of presenting along with your dry, whitty and comedic humour. Keep it going.
I honestly don’t believe single men can have a woman friend they spend a lot of time with and not get some kind of attraction to them. At least not that I’ve ever personally experienced or seen. I’m sure there are exclusions to the rule but I would say that’s the usual case. Especially roommates. Loneliness is a real problem for many, and even women get serious crushes on men that are just friends.
That depends on how sexually attractive or not the woman is. It's easier for unattractive girls to make male friends without romantic feelings. It's also true Good looking girls fall victims of crimes of passion more often than ugly ones.
@@koningklootzak7788 you make solid points. But I think even say a 4 or 5 could have issues with a male roommate or close friend if he was lonely enough and didn’t have any other women in his life. I used to think I could have just close guy friends but every single one of them at some point either professed their love or made a move, even after I would consistently say things like “I’m so glad we can be just friends and it not get weird” or “hey I have a friend I think you’d be great with” or “wow I’m so glad I’m single and I plan on staying this way for a very long time”. I don’t know a single female who has successfully maintained a close relationship with a male and it not get weird at some point. And vice versa for guys i know. Anecdotal, of course, and not trying to be sexist. But men are more sexual creatures and dominating than women, typically, and sometimes that side wins out over logical thinking and friendly lines. The whole anger over being “friend-zoned” stems from this very argument, I believe. But yeah I’d totally agree with you that the more attractive the woman, the less success she would have with male friends simply remaining friends. Imagine being Angelina Jolie lol you’d never be able to have a male friend.
@@HeatherHolt Very true. Many men could have sex with a woman without any romantic feelings, including with friends and even with strangers. Some women could too, but less compared to men. Men are more like animals. Things can get exciting when crossing a line of friendship and turn it into something more, of course the desire for it need to be mutual.
I also think so. They probably slept together a few times especially while they were going on vacations together. But the guy wanted a serious relationship with her. He probably even paid for the vacation trips.
@@remhk6672 I doubt they even slept together or that he paid for every thing that said she probably did not make much of a effort to say no to him paying for things, she probably knew that he liked her very earlier on and she did not feel threaten by him so she loved the attention and wanted him to stick around by giving him bread crumbs running a game on him, I have been in a situation myself when I was younger with a so called female friend who I grew up with and to be fair she did tell me she did not like me in that way early on when we first started working together after me doing a forest gump, but in her mind that made me beneath her and so she would try to use me and she would lash out at me and slander me if I stopped giving her enough time or if I did not do or say what she wanted to see or hear, and she would give me confusing signals which made her overall behaviour so unbearable that I ended up leaving the job just to get away from her, also looking back at it now she put herself in some very vulnerable situations with me back then but luckily for both of us I was a nice guy and could control my emotions although only just. If I ran into someone today who knew her and they said she had been raped or killed and that she knew her killer or rapist I would not be surprised at all. not that I wish that on her of course
So weird that some people in the comments assume the male roommate was paying for everything, including the cruise. Why is that the assumption when Dr. G laid out the facts? The lady roommate was a veteran who served 2 tours in Iraq (put some respect on her name, y’all!), was putting herself through school, and had just lost her mom (who was her roommate before the guy!).She needed a new roommate to help with the bills, not some douchey weirdo to outright pay them. Like wtf? This lady veteran paid her dues in many ways, paid her own way in life, and was kind to a maladjusted man with few prospects. It just kills me...Maribel made it through the war and THIS was her end. And her obsessed killer got 15 yrs on the low end. Travesty.
What a tragic event. Its seems she made Casey comfortable. If Mariabel found her roommate uncomfortable, I wonder if when she asked Casey too leave, why didn't she have the police too evict him. It would appear Casey wouldn't leave and realize Mirabel had no interest in him. If he couldn't pay the rent, where did he get the money for cosmetic surgery. I'm so pleased he was charged and got prison time, hopefully this will give Mirabel and her family the justice they deserve. Thank you Dr Grande. Brilliant analysis and sad topic.
The police can't just evict someone, to evict someone you first have to file it, register the eviction with the courts, and serve notice on KC for example, then you'd appear before a judge, after that first appearance the judge will most likely give you a date for the next appearance, approximately 2 weeks subsequent, then after the second court appearance the judge will, if he's ruled in your favor set a deadline to vacate, then if the party being evicted doesn't move out the sheriff's office for that county will come and put you out, that's standard in all 50 states, not sure what you mean by have the police evict him.. Doesn't work like that
You really do have to be very careful when allowing someone in your home. The person can be very easy to get along with as long as they are not facing eviction. I had 2 boyfriends, from the past, who turned into stalking troublemakers after I had to get the police + courts make them move. It's sad because I really thought that they were amazing friends until I evicted them. It was then that the harassment started + it doubled once I met a new guy + started dating. One threatened to burn my house down + the other threatened to kill me. Thank God for getting me through all that. Another thing is they won't physically hurt you but will hurt or kill your cat or dog - or smash up your place. Things that you love are in danger. Please stay safe out there! Jane Moncton Smith wrote an amazing book on the danger signs in a relationship that will predict partner's danger signs.
The pictures show she was not treating him like a friend but enjoying his romantic interest. That's wrong. Boundaries are important! It's almost as if he was a sugar daddy. Then he ran out of money and she wanted to throw him out. He was a creep but she was playing with fire too. Women should never share a roof with an unrelated man who has unrequited feelings for them
@@agingerbeard microdosing is good for ongoing gear but for the narcissist they need a large dose. It works better if you do it in a large dose with your partner it creates bond breaks, barriers and empathy is found
Good evening Dr.Grande, thank you for the excellent analysis. I agree Cayce is guilty, and deep down inside knows he is. I don't think the Innocent Project will have Cayce as a client. I learned something new with your videos. Have a wonderful Tuesday.
It's clear they kind of was using each other up to the point that she didn't want to go any further with him. Woman for the most part know when a man is interested in them way before the man ever confesses it. She was obviously liking the attention she was getting. It kept her from being totally lonely and not thinking as much about her mother not being around anymore. He was her soft pillow. A thing a lot of women do. Keeping male orbiters around them they have no intentions of being with. Someone to listen to them, run errands, be their handyman, male bash with about her ex or men she really likes who have rejected her, to protector her, ect. All without being romantically connected. But when those men want to cash in on her male needs. These woman want to bounce off. In this case. The man she wanted to bounce from lived with her and he thought in his beta male mindset that rejection means try harder. And that only makes her like him less. No is no. But not to a person who was not brought up in a stable environment.
She was naive - she never should have spent so much time with an older guy she was renting a room to. As this story was being told I kept think RED FLAG! RED FLAG! And I cringed at the photos of this beautiful young woman socializing with this loner who she had no romantic interest in.
Your home is your refuge, never rent to a person that you don't have a lot of good references for...strangers in one's home.. it's a red flag in every way. I'm surprised this Mirabel lady didn't have that common sense having worked in the army - having had some challenging work-life experiences.
Love your videos.....very informative with a sprinkling of dry, almost sarcastic humor ! Wondered if you would analyze Taylor Parker ?....Thank you much !
Wait a minute- She let him move in to live with her, they went on a cruise together and it appears from photos, they were dating. Yet she did NOT want a romantic relationship with him?? What could possibly go wrong in such a scenario? It's unfortunate she put herself in this situation; thinking she could control him (in what appears to be a sadistic manner). Essentially she was an accomplice in her own murder. I dont know what to think: a) Did she have a death wish? b) Was she mentally ill? c) Was she just really, really stupid?
I watched the documentary on this and it's so sad that maribel endured this freak. In this day & age - I would never rent any of my rooms to a man. Dr Grande ~ yesterday was a sad day in America 🇺🇸. When we get more information " I would love to pick your brain about how " why" a woman could walk into a school and cause the deaths of 3 little kiddos. As a woman / mom I'm stunned that a female would do something so horrific. Females tend to be so protective of children- we are natural caregivers who usually don't cause harm to kids. We send our children to school thinking there safe and being well cared for. Yesterday that changed 😢.
She was leading him on by going out with him all the time, going on vacations with him, etc. Why would you do all of those things with a man if you had no romantic interest in him? They were acting like a couple.
Dr. Grande, Would you be able to cover the case of Pat Viola. I would be interested in hearing your analysis of the mysterious case and how/why she went missing. Thank you!
Ladies, most men will wander into this territory. Getting an unknown single man as a roommate is a massive risk. Not looking at their life & doing diligence as to stress factors, etc., and socializing with them in a deeper way, traveling with them, not noticing they have no other relationships, sounds like leading someone on, using flirtation, and totally ignorant and reckless about the impacts that has and the potential likely risks. Staying on premises once reporting fear of violence, instability, and a knowing something bad is going to happen- and believing anything that unstable person says- is unconscious high risk, life threatening behavior. Wake up.
Too many men have no personality. They just wait on a woman to tell them who they should be. Grow up. Know who you are beyond your private part. Set boundaries and learn to accept no for an answer. Walk away.
A piece of advice for every man friend-zoned or rejected. By the time you are older and happily married you will thank God for every time you were rejected. If I’d gotten my way back when I was younger I dread to think where I might be now. It will work out. It’s amazing what having a good career and crossing the magic threshold of age 29 can do for a man.
@@duskripper6650 For sure. It's just that the advice of "by the time you are older and happily married" wouldn't apply at his age. But yes, there is nothing worse than people of any age stuck on their unrequited "love" obsession.
I love how you’re making this about men being victims of friend zoning and rejection instead of a creepy older man getting things twisted and living out his delusions until he murdered an innocent woman. Sorry but I feel like this isn’t exactly the right place for an ‘it’ll get better’ pep talk for the gross incels reading this. You’re not nearly as reformed as you think you are, buddy. Yikes.
@@batacumba ok but why allow an old man move in and go on a cruise and trips and take pics where ur real close to the old man? He got mixed signals from her. Why didn't she just leave the apartment Have him evicted? I think she liked the attention or maybe their relationship was deeper then we know, he thought it was
To any of us regular Dr. Grande viewers, this guy would just scream of narcissism right away, and we'd all steer well clear. Or if we had a loved one who was close to such a person we'd probably give them an education about narcissism. This is why everybody needs to be watching these videos. Learn the signs.
I was in a situation where I was spending a lot of time with a younger woman who was extremely attractive. Eventually I started to have feelings for her but it became clear that she didn't feel the same about me. Soon after I told her that I didn't think it was a good idea for us to be spending that much time together anymore. She asked me why and I told her that being around her all the time while having to remain just friends wasn't going to work for me. In a situation like that you're better off accepting it and then move on to something else.
She played him big time
@@MypronounIsKing found the incel. What's it like to be so easily emasculated?
once she friend zones you she never gonna fak you
she should have walked away from him... after he confessed his feelings...
... but sounds like she sticked around ... play stupid games win stupid prizes...
@@therearenoshortcuts9868 aka she was a slu t
It's not advisable to share a home with a man who is a stranger.
You are so right. I keep warning a friend about this! Right now she has a looney young woman renter who she has given notice to leave - and this situation is scary enough! I’ve told her, at least it isn’t a crazy man who could physically dominate her - but it is still a concerning situation. I pray this young woman vacates the property in 3 days like she is supposed to.
Common sense.
Exactly what I was thinking.
No way really
@@deegarr964 Sadly common sense is very uncommon Why would you have a strange man in your home and then begin dating him
I believe it's good to define boundaries in a situation like that. Partying and going on vacations with someone who is interested in you romantically does not always end well when you decide to cut him off.
@@barbarabagatin8962 I think she needed him like a brother which is a common mistake. Men don't think like women do. I was in a similar situation till I realized I made a mistake and made a U-turn. I escaped in a nick of time and proceeded with a lawsuit. I did not win but at least I made it clear to his lawyer and his employer so he stayed away from me.
Truth. Bad judgement especially if she ever became sexual with him even for a tiny bit.
people gonna expect payment for that fancy cruise....
Agreed.
Yeah, and taking flirty pictures with, and who knows what else. He was wrong if he killed her, but some people don't realize we don't live in a perfect world. If you leave food on the floor, the dog will eat it.
If the last several profiles have taught us anything, it's that checking computer searches is a handy crime-solving tool for police. Thanks for another fascinating profile, Dr. Grande.
@DeepCode dude, he was literally using a laptop rigged by the police. Wtf are you talking about?
@DeepCode I’m tempted not to say anything, but deleting things on a storage drive does not erase the information there. It simply changes the status of this section to allow it to be rewritten when needed. There are several ways to read and recover deleted files. Unless the space used to store the old files is needed and used to hold new data your old files still exist and are not difficult to recover.
@DeepCode no, he used the library’s to track the route of the awareness walk, and the police had already confiscated his computer
@@flyingfrog7847lmaooo
Beware of a man who's got nothing to lose.
I'd move to a cheaper area and live alone. Never live with strangers.
Cheaper area? These days ppl can’t afford to do that room mate is only way this looks like it was before our Covid time and high inflation but still even moving to the hood it’s exspensive
For sure. I cannot imagine doing that.
Having a roommate always has some financial risks, but it would have better for her to find a roommate from school rather than Craigslist.
I agree, there’s too much stranger danger even if your roomie is the same sex I wouldn’t feel safe. Plus, I’m always afraid of people bringing roaches or bed bugs in my house. It happened to a friend of mine, he let this woman stay with him who was on hard times and she brought bed bugs into his house! He had to throw out so much stuff including her!
No thanks, my home is for me and my 2 cats.
@@Arizona_lilly you’re right about rents but I wouldn’t risk my peace of mind or safety having a roommate. People are too weird and desperate these days and seems everybody has a gun. It’s a NO, for me.
I remember watching this case, on a different program, and I just remember thinking that her sister should've asked her to leave and stay with her, until the guy moved out. Tensions were high at that residence, and I remember it was illustrated how scared and uncomfortable she was with him. It's so sad she trusted her home to be her refuge, when he had other things brewing in his mind. 😪 I feel so bad for everyone who truly cared for her.
Wow, I didn't know she even h-a-d a sister that she could have stayed with. Too bad she didn't, or even just splurged and rented a hotel room when it got dicey towards the end. But it's easy to have 20/20 vision AFTER the fact; obviously, she didn't know that he would do what he did to her. Still, I wish she would have left and found other temporary accommodations before this happened. Poor lady.
@@bettywith2girls I know, I feel so bad for her.
I've noticed sadly a lot of these cases Could have been avoided in having family support or friend's. This case for example, she had a big family. Her sister said in Nexflix she was already settled in when she asked her to move in with her to help with the rent. It's really sad how one moment of selflessness could of changed this sad story. 🙏🏻🤍 🕯💫
Awesome insight, & you were spot on! 👏 I remember my late mother warning me when I was young. She said be very careful not to make the wrong person mad, especially if it’s someone you don’t have the same feelings for, because it’s very dangerous. So when you spoke about unrequited love in the video, it reminded me, along with this young victim’s story. We can never be too careful in life. Thank you for your analysis!
The photos of the two make it seem like she might have been interested in being in a relationship with him, but maybe the red flags were piling up and she changed her mind. People are allowed to change their mind, especially when it comes to safety reasons. However, as a woman it is not a good idea to have a male roommate. Not saying it was her fault... but it's not safe.
I'm lucky to be alive after the number of people who did creepy stuff to me, or tried to. Once, when I was home from school on vacation, a classmate showed up at my parents door and announced he had been sleeping in the nearby cemetery for a week with a suitcase of books, getting up the courage to tell me his feelings. And he was one of the more harmless ones. I've felt like prey all my life.
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I too, have dealt with the tight rope walking involved in unrequited attraction. More needs to be done in this mental health area. Seriously delusional people can be terrifying to cope with and most young women have to try to navigate it without knowledge and support.
Men have to face unrequited love too. Luckily for us, being bigger we are safer.
Truth. Rejection hurts and I wish I saved some of the phone messages I use to get once I broke up from them years ago.
Girl wtf
Thank you Dr. Grande for pointing out the dangers of unrequited love. In an uneven power dynamic where one person loves and the other does not, hate can become a much stronger feeling than love. Murderous revenge becomes a convenient remedy for rejection. ❤️🔥💔💘
Ain't it great??😅
I remember reading about this when it happened. What’s so sad is the devastation left behind. Maribel had a little sister, and to loose your mom and your only sister in the same year…….I hope this dude NEVER gets out of prison. But California…..he’ll be out in 10 years.
Not precisely if it's murder. He won't be released ever. Especially since he killed her with extreme malice.
He also is guaranteed "3 hots and a cot" while in prison, so he won't need to find a new roommate. Great job as usual, Dr. Grande!!! Love your channel!
May KC get a big burly roommate in his prison cell who “loves” him in they way that he deserves to be loved.
@@kirpdebdude might kill or get killed with that one.
What a sad case. It's too bad she couldn't move in with family members or her boyfriend until he moved out. Thank you for your service Maribel.
I was stalked by an older guy when I was in my 20s while I was an exchange student at the foreign country after I refused to go out with him. We used to hang out with the same crowd and he obviously misinterpreted my friendly personality. He would show up outside the place I was staying call me all the time, send me emails, love letters
It was such a scary situation, especially because I was away from my family.. Luckily, I returned to my country. I now have two teenage daughters and I am literally afraid for them.
Was he Muslim
@@Dhruv_DograDon't be racist...
@@lolazal1 Muslims are not a race, you nincompoop. They can be any race.
@@lolazal1Asking if someone was Muslim is racist?
No matter how desperate for money you are never live with a stranger
So scary to have someone move in before knowing them very well. Even courtship is a scary situation and the chaperones are a better idea all the way around in this day and age
Janet Roberts I'm in my 60s now and recall that this used to be an extremely common practice, yet it's never been a good idea and even more so nowadays.
I also remember having issues in regard to men I'd moved in with when I was younger, even though other people often stayed and visited. I did know them, yet obviously not well enough!
I had no idea that they found me attractive at all, as I've never been beautiful, until things happened to show that it was the case. I ended up moving out because they both turned on me.
I had huge issues with male neighbours as well and wasn't even friendly to a couple of the extreme ones. I won't go into detail about all that, except to mention that one ended up in jail for the night, then was evicted from his flat and had to go to court.
I've had issues with other men in that area, hence why I'm learning to not be as friendly, or to have male friends, just to be on the safe side. It's much less likely to happen at my age though. 🙁
@@cyndigooch1162 I'm 64 and went through two rough marriages, First : was 26 years long, 2 year courtship, two years to get divorced. Second: was one year courtship and 14 months married. Narcissistic and hateful were both, I'm a money-maker (nurse) and those evil fellows were money grubby to the maximum! I am enjoying my peace and have good friends who values I respect and they respect me. Much to be said for their goodness and I'm not in fear of my life. First spouse gave me threats. Second one used his hammer to bust up my Kindle device that was my master info tablet. I left while the getting was good January 2022!
Dear Dr G. It is a very sad case, a woman who served her country is slain. Yes unrequited love can be very very dangerous as this case proves. She did not have any background information on this man who likely was not a full box of chocolates. The best part of today was kicking back and viewing your channel. You have a very soothing and trust inspiring voice. Providing great analysis with principled education of the risks around us. Topped with delicious humour like the Swiss chocolate topping on a cappuccino.
Stories like this help me to understand why women are often vigilant around men. There’s always a population of men out there screwing things up just bad enough for everyone else. Too many men don’t take no for an answer…
Yes! Men should be furious that a few disturbed men are making it for their future partners to find a way into their lives. It is a literal crap shoot for women. I have gotten back together with my partner after we broke up because he handled it so well and remained caring and supportive. There are some really good men out there but it is hard to weed through them.
@@kirpdeb I understand. These are dangers that are possible for either side but I acknowledge that women disproportionately have to deal with them and are generally less able to defend themselves when they happen. I understand why women are so selective but unfortunately sometimes, even that is ineffective because some men play the long game and hide their true selves. I acknowledge that I might be scared to date if I were on the other side.
Why I am staying Single with my Furbabies! ❤
Exactly. Sad but true.
@@jamaaldavis6243 I appreciate your introspection...so many men don't get it and are unable to see the situation from a woman's point of view.
Brilliant analysis. Her sixth sense told her she was in danger when she made a 911 call. She should have moved out immediately. It is a common mistake when we fail to act on the clear & present danger.
My intuition told me that I was in danger in 2019.
I ignored and paid the consequences. Since then,
I started carrying a notebook, listening attentively to the inner voice and observing my surroundings.
When a male friend asked me to visit his apartment, I ignored his invitation.
When he followed me on my Instagram, I did not follow back.
An 85 years old woman would stop by my house and hug me.
I discovered by accident that I don't share her values. I knew I had to keep a distance. So I avoid any encounter.
Listening to my inner voices and acting on them religiously is difficult. It taxes your energy but it potentially saves lives.
Sounds overly cautious to the point of paranoia ruining your life, avoiding an old lady because you don't share values and not following a friend back on instagram??
@@alexanderorr2528 This is a public forum so I cannot elaborate in detail. There were a series of disconnected incidents over the years that I could not ignore. I don't believe in random. I like having friends. When I lose a friend, I feel hurt. Often it is a difficult decision to abandon a friendship.
I remember this case, It was on Web of Lies. Yes, the roommate was definitely a creepy one. Just sick and evil.
She obviously didn't view him as "sick and evil" for much of their "relationship" as she willingly went on a cruise with him and allowed him to Kiss her before deciding to reject him.
Apparently men are "sick and evil" because we have to deal with loneliness more than women. You're part of the problem
"His defense made several arguments.. or perhaps KC killed Maribel in self-defense." - You're telling me your client can't remember if he killed someone in self-defense?
Its so sad that people take kindness and niceness from people and then letch on them and kill them for not reciprocating their creepy love ....revolting 💔
what was creepy from this guy's love? Seems to me this woman lead him on from all those photos. Young woman lead on wealthier man to leach off him and then when she found another guy she cuts him off raveling her true intentions.
@Thomas Watson she set boundaries he crossed them.. people can choose to be friends it's not leading someone on...guess you can't see that either ...
Judging by a lot of the pictures of them, it looks like she was playing him until he ran out of money.
Yup. She would take pictures with him sitting on his lap, and she had no interest of returning his feelings. They would go on solo trips and all, and she only viewed him as a friend. Taking kissy pictures. With that said, once she rejected him once, he should have moved on and moved out.
Sounds like Maribel was using him for sugar-daddy stuff. ANd once he no longer provided, she now used the whole "hes dangerous, im scared of him" card. And of course she had a main boyfriend, while using KC for sugar daddy stuff.
She played with KC heart and feelings. However, he should have left the house once he rejected her the first time because it was obvious that she was only in it for sugar-daddy stuff.
This is an important aspect not examined by Dr Grande. Maribel was attractive and the guy probably spent a good deal of money trying to impress her. When he realized that his money has been wasted, he must have become angry at her playing him along. Did he spend all this money on her and became desperate at the end?? That could have driven him to commit this horrible act.
Thank you for all your hard work Dr G.
Can you review the Sean Daugherty case. Law Enforcement believe he killed himself but family thinks it was foul play. He was only 12.
Moving in with a stranger of the opposite sex as a young woman. What could go wrong?
Exactly
Isn't Dr. Grande wonderful? I could listen to his videos all day when I have a day off. He is so amazing at what he does and teaches us so much about criminal profiling and understanding human behavior. I appreciate him!! ❤❤
He genuinely seemed to feel that he should be allowed to stay there for free. Like this young woman should cover the costs of an older man she's not related to, or dating. Someone who was literally unknown to her before he moved in. His entitlement is insane. It must have been very scary for Maribel. Imagine calling the police just in case something happened? I wonder if things might have been different if she'd gotten legal advice to force him out by the date originally agreed?
"Despite this duck-facilitated delineation of dermal damages, the police were determined to get their ducks in a row." Thank you, Dr. Todd.
This episode is brought to you by the letter R... Thank you Dr. GRANDE!
Excellent video. Pretty obvious to me but you did a superb job of breaking it down and told the story well and succinctly.
I would never never ever move a stranger into my house. Especially some strange man.. How can one be that unafraid? I can’t wrap my brain around it. I’d rather get evicted 😢
he had money and she wanted it. She seems pretty dumb and dirty
Not blaming her for her own murder, but not wise to take a male roommate when she was the only person in the house, particularly an older lonely guy she didn't know well and not wise to go on trips with him. The fact that she stands so close to him in pictures shows that she was perhaps sending some mixed signals or ones he just couldn't interpret correctly due to his own issues with women. Perhaps the attention he gave her flattered her early on or she thought it would be nice to be around when she agreed to rent to him? I agree with another commenter that she seemed naive; she doesn't look like she's really that young either... I've learned unfortunately as I've gotten older not to only "look for the best in people", you've got to protect yourself. I get the needing a roommate thing due to unforeseen circumstances but she probably should've interviewed more of them and probably had a woman move in instead, in the end it cost her her life, very tragic..
girl roomate whose a gun instructor
Yeah, a lot of women fail to realize that in general, there can be no platonic relationship between a straight man and a woman, especially when there is an attraction at this level
Creepy looking guy. I've had scary roommates & it's a terrible feeling. How sad for her, I believe he's guilty. Great analysis again. Thanks Dr G😊💙💙
Great comment my dear friend. Steve is back at work full time, but he's now getting weekends off. I asked him how it was ,he said he had flash backs but then the adrenaline kicks in and he's doing well. Hope your mum and you are doing well. Goodnight my dear friend 😴😚❤💙💚💔🌷🌷🌷✉🎇
@@cottontails9003 Thank you friend. Glad he is back full time. Flashbacks can be difficult😔 but having wknds off sound good. Heading to bed here, appreciate your wishes, catch up soon...goodnight 😴💕💜💤👩❤️💋👩🦢🌷🌠✨️🎈💛💚🤍🧡
He's not creepy looking at all lol he looks like any typical old asian dude. Regardles he's a monster.
@@alloverdaplace2043 Some of those photos are creepy, I can see his anger. Nothing to do with being Asian.
@@zenawarrior7442 Definitely my beautiful friend. Sleep well. 😴❤💙💙💙💙🌷🌷🌷🎇
There are important lessons in this story. Dr. Grande knows a lot about the worst of human behavior, but heartache is the very hardest of emotions to suck up and overcome. If we are victorious in our battle with the heart, we become very strong, morally.
My only 'roommates' have 4 legs -
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I'm delighted to see the alliteration has made its way into the titles of your videos! Thank you for your interesting and sensitive analysis of this tragic case, Dr Grande ❤
Sometimes empathy and kindness can turn out to be a devastating. I think Maribel really wanted to help him but that ended up costing her life. What a tragic case.
Thank you, Dr. Grande. I hope you have a wonderful day.❤
I'm not sure if that's the case. I think she was toying with him.
In the photos they look like they're dating, she tells him a tattoo would look and then he did it. She knew what was going on.
She doesn't deserve what happened if that is the case, but there were serious red flags in this guy's behavior from the start. Not sure if I'd be taking Alaskan cruises with him.
Edited for my terrible autocorrects mistakes
@@Aaron-kj8dv yes spot on she is too close to him on the picture ...bad boundary on her part, I think she underestimated him, and his ego, once she made a phone call to police, she should just have her other boyfriend stay with her...
Rejane Oliveira That's exactly right and I've written that it's best to be extremely careful on common Facebook posts that state to be kind to EVERYONE since you don't know their story, because many people view kindness as a weakness, or are downright dangerous. ❤
What a terrible story! Maribel's first mistake was renting a room to a stranger who didn't have a job. KC was absolutely guilty. As far as his inspiration to write a crime book goes, he should hook-up with OJ Simpson. Maybe they can coauthor a best seller! Two killer heads are better than one!
I remember this Case! Heartbreaking, and very Frightening! Prayers for Maribel, and her Family.💔💔💔🙏🙏🙏
I don't think that the gal was saying no to this guy. Not blaming her in any way but she had a lot of pictures taken with this guy and they were very physically close in them. Seems odd when they were just friends and roommates. And of course he murdered the poor girl
This is an unintended consequence of the lack of affordable housing. The fact that Maria needed to advertise on Craig’s list for a roommate she didn’t even know in order to afford the apartment without her mother there. Most roommate experiences are not this extreme but I’ve heard plenty of negative stories. These are people they would never consider living with under other circumstances. When I was a young nurse in 82/83 pay scales were abysmal. I slept on a pull out couch in a studio apartment before I could consider rooming with a total stranger. Luckily I had a good experience
I completely AGREE! Especially young women need to be able to live in safety while they figure out their lives and learn how to navigate it.
Agreed.
KC reported her missing , yet his defence claimed he disposed of her body after she died by some other means. That seems a silly defence.
Yes!! Thank you Dr. Grande….. just what it needed for tonight.
That guys tiger tattoo makes me believe hes on the spectrum.
I remember this case. She was such a kind lady and served her country well. And this is what happens to her!!😡😡😡 just makes me sick. He is a monster. I hope she is resting in peace. She deserves that.
She played him though lmao
Me2 I remember
@@MypronounIsKing Shut up, grow up. Touch some grass and read some books
@@MypronounIsKing non-sequitur
@@chuckharding6405 watch the video it’s pretty obvious buddy boy
I love the cactus collection 🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵
Best cactus collection in true crime 🌵
Each one has the name of a character or real life person.
There are some people who just don’t get a rejection and although a very small part of the population their lack of critical social skills dealing with rejection can cause serious problems. There is no easy answer.
Thank you for your quality and consistency Dr Grande. I really enjoy your videos!
Hi Dr Grande. Just wanted you to know that I have been listening to your videos for about a year. I enjoy your unique style of presenting along with your dry, whitty and comedic humour. Keep it going.
I honestly don’t believe single men can have a woman friend they spend a lot of time with and not get some kind of attraction to them. At least not that I’ve ever personally experienced or seen. I’m sure there are exclusions to the rule but I would say that’s the usual case. Especially roommates. Loneliness is a real problem for many, and even women get serious crushes on men that are just friends.
That depends on how sexually attractive or not the woman is. It's easier for unattractive girls to make male friends without romantic feelings. It's also true Good looking girls fall victims of crimes of passion more often than ugly ones.
@@koningklootzak7788 you make solid points. But I think even say a 4 or 5 could have issues with a male roommate or close friend if he was lonely enough and didn’t have any other women in his life. I used to think I could have just close guy friends but every single one of them at some point either professed their love or made a move, even after I would consistently say things like “I’m so glad we can be just friends and it not get weird” or “hey I have a friend I think you’d be great with” or “wow I’m so glad I’m single and I plan on staying this way for a very long time”. I don’t know a single female who has successfully maintained a close relationship with a male and it not get weird at some point. And vice versa for guys i know. Anecdotal, of course, and not trying to be sexist. But men are more sexual creatures and dominating than women, typically, and sometimes that side wins out over logical thinking and friendly lines. The whole anger over being “friend-zoned” stems from this very argument, I believe.
But yeah I’d totally agree with you that the more attractive the woman, the less success she would have with male friends simply remaining friends. Imagine being Angelina Jolie lol you’d never be able to have a male friend.
@@HeatherHolt Very true. Many men could have sex with a woman without any romantic feelings, including with friends and even with strangers. Some women could too, but less compared to men. Men are more like animals.
Things can get exciting when crossing a line of friendship and turn it into something more, of course the desire for it need to be mutual.
I think there is way more history here about what really went on between these two which led up to the murder (which I think he is guilt of)
I also think so. They probably slept together a few times especially while they were going on vacations together. But the guy wanted a serious relationship with her. He probably even paid for the vacation trips.
@@remhk6672 I doubt they even slept together or that he paid for every thing that said she probably did not make much of a effort to say no to him paying for things, she probably knew that he liked her very earlier on and she did not feel threaten by him so she loved the attention and wanted him to stick around by giving him bread crumbs running a game on him, I have been in a situation myself when I was younger with a so called female friend who I grew up with and to be fair she did tell me she did not like me in that way early on when we first started working together after me doing a forest gump, but in her mind that made me beneath her and so she would try to use me and she would lash out at me and slander me if I stopped giving her enough time or if I did not do or say what she wanted to see or hear, and she would give me confusing signals which made her overall behaviour so unbearable that I ended up leaving the job just to get away from her, also looking back at it now she put herself in some very vulnerable situations with me back then but luckily for both of us I was a nice guy and could control my emotions although only just. If I ran into someone today who knew her and they said she had been raped or killed and that she knew her killer or rapist I would not be surprised at all. not that I wish that on her of course
I agree.
So weird that some people in the comments assume the male roommate was paying for everything, including the cruise.
Why is that the assumption when Dr. G laid out the facts?
The lady roommate was a veteran who served 2 tours in Iraq (put some respect on her name, y’all!), was putting herself through school, and had just lost her mom (who was her roommate before the guy!).She needed a new roommate to help with the bills, not some douchey weirdo to outright pay them. Like wtf?
This lady veteran paid her dues in many ways, paid her own way in life, and was kind to a maladjusted man with few prospects.
It just kills me...Maribel made it through the war and THIS was her end. And her obsessed killer got 15 yrs on the low end. Travesty.
Thanks for the upload, Dr. Grande. Why are some men so entitled?
She rejects his advances, but she’s more than happy to go on an all expense paid Alaskan Cruise with him! 😂🤣
Did he not know she already had a bf.
I love your use of alliteration in your newest videos. Definitely caught my eye (ear)
Thanks for the frequent videos!
What a tragic event. Its seems she made Casey comfortable. If Mariabel found her roommate uncomfortable, I wonder if when she asked Casey too leave, why didn't she have the police too evict him. It would appear Casey wouldn't leave and realize Mirabel had no interest in him. If he couldn't pay the rent, where did he get the money for cosmetic surgery. I'm so pleased he was charged and got prison time, hopefully this will give Mirabel and her family the justice they deserve. Thank you Dr Grande. Brilliant analysis and sad topic.
The police can't just evict someone, to evict someone you first have to file it, register the eviction with the courts, and serve notice on KC for example, then you'd appear before a judge, after that first appearance the judge will most likely give you a date for the next appearance, approximately 2 weeks subsequent, then after the second court appearance the judge will, if he's ruled in your favor set a deadline to vacate, then if the party being evicted doesn't move out the sheriff's office for that county will come and put you out, that's standard in all 50 states, not sure what you mean by have the police evict him..
Doesn't work like that
@@bethewalt7385 You can in Australia
They can't always do that. You have to fill out the right paperwork.
@@abbinormal11 In Australia, if you call the police they will come and watch the person who the other tenant is evicting.
@@cottontails9003 wish we could do that here
You really do have to be very careful when allowing someone in your home.
The person can be very easy to get along with as long as they are not facing eviction.
I had 2 boyfriends, from the past, who turned into stalking troublemakers after
I had to get the police + courts make them move. It's sad because I really thought
that they were amazing friends until I evicted them.
It was then that the harassment started + it doubled once I met a new guy + started dating.
One threatened to burn my house down + the other threatened to kill me. Thank God for getting me through all that.
Another thing is they won't physically hurt you but will hurt or kill your cat or dog - or smash up your place.
Things that you love are in danger.
Please stay safe out there! Jane Moncton Smith wrote an amazing book on the danger signs
in a relationship that will predict partner's danger signs.
I'm continually amazed that people still don't understand that deleting something like a file or browser history doesn't ACTUALLY delete anything.
Creepy indeed.... Thank you Dr.
Dr. Grande nailing the alliterations lately!
The pictures show she was not treating him like a friend but enjoying his romantic interest. That's wrong. Boundaries are important! It's almost as if he was a sugar daddy. Then he ran out of money and she wanted to throw him out.
He was a creep but she was playing with fire too.
Women should never share a roof with an unrelated man who has unrequited feelings for them
I one cares what you think
She uses this guy,and goes on an Alaskan Cruise with him paying for everything, then rejects his advances. 😂🤣
Excellent analysis Dr Grande 👌
Those photos they looked like a couple…I think there is more too the story.
Great insight on the case Dr. Grande!!
Please discuss the effects of psychedelics on narcissism and narcissistic abuse
Mental chaos and abnormal behavior. ...just sayin'
Sounds interesting 🤔
@@agingerbeard both
@@agingerbeard personally seen the effects over 20 years and it's astounding. Science is finally catching up
@@agingerbeard microdosing is good for ongoing gear but for the narcissist they need a large dose. It works better if you do it in a large dose with your partner it creates bond breaks, barriers and empathy is found
Good evening Dr.Grande, thank you for the excellent analysis. I agree Cayce is guilty, and deep down inside knows he is. I don't think the Innocent Project will have Cayce as a client.
I learned something new with your videos.
Have a wonderful Tuesday.
Ahh yes, right on time. Thanks Dr Grande!!
I keep coming up with the same question: What about the Sunshine Band?
Always interesting
Thank you
Peace 💕🇺🇲
It's clear they kind of was using each other up to the point that she didn't want to go any further with him. Woman for the most part know when a man is interested in them way before the man ever confesses it. She was obviously liking the attention she was getting. It kept her from being totally lonely and not thinking as much about her mother not being around anymore. He was her soft pillow. A thing a lot of women do. Keeping male orbiters around them they have no intentions of being with. Someone to listen to them, run errands, be their handyman, male bash with about her ex or men she really likes who have rejected her, to protector her, ect. All without being romantically connected. But when those men want to cash in on her male needs. These woman want to bounce off. In this case. The man she wanted to bounce from lived with her and he thought in his beta male mindset that rejection means try harder. And that only makes her like him less. No is no. But not to a person who was not brought up in a stable environment.
It looked in the photos as if she played a part in leading him to believe he was in with a chance .
She was naive - she never should have spent so much time with an older guy she was renting a room to. As this story was being told I kept think RED FLAG! RED FLAG! And I cringed at the photos of this beautiful young woman socializing with this loner who she had no romantic interest in.
Yes she is very beautiful ... losing her Mom was a terribly sad time it seems & this dude was a disaster ☹
There is probably more to this story, and maribel, than what is apparent...
Your home is your refuge, never rent to a person that you don't have a lot of good references for...strangers in one's home.. it's a red flag in every way. I'm surprised this Mirabel lady didn't have that common sense having worked in the army - having had some challenging work-life experiences.
Love your videos.....very informative with a sprinkling of dry, almost sarcastic humor ! Wondered if you would analyze Taylor Parker ?....Thank you much !
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Wait a minute- She let him move in to live with her, they went on a cruise together and it appears from photos, they were dating. Yet she did NOT want a romantic relationship with him?? What could possibly go wrong in such a scenario? It's unfortunate she put herself in this situation; thinking she could control him (in what appears to be a sadistic manner). Essentially she was an accomplice in her own murder.
I dont know what to think: a) Did she have a death wish? b) Was she mentally ill? c) Was she just really, really stupid?
Guys, learn to take a hint ...and don't murder a girl if she rejects you, just uhh cry for a bit and then uhmm... cry some more maybe, then move on.
I watched the documentary on this and it's so sad that maribel endured this freak. In this day & age - I would never rent any of my rooms to a man. Dr Grande ~ yesterday was a sad day in America 🇺🇸. When we get more information " I would love to pick your brain about how " why" a woman could walk into a school and cause the deaths of 3 little kiddos. As a woman / mom I'm stunned that a female would do something so horrific. Females tend to be so protective of children- we are natural caregivers who usually don't cause harm to kids. We send our children to school thinking there safe and being well cared for. Yesterday that changed 😢.
That woman was mentally ill, also struggled with gender issues so who knows if she really saw herself more as a woman or less...
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I’ve heard of this case. But excellent retelling of it, Dr. Grande.
If he was trying to win her over, ending up unemployed definitely didn't help his cause.
She was leading him on by going out with him all the time, going on vacations with him, etc. Why would you do all of those things with a man if you had no romantic interest in him? They were acting like a couple.
Well, I guess he found a way out of making those pesky rent-payments.
Dr. Grande, Would you be able to cover the case of Pat Viola. I would be interested in hearing your analysis of the mysterious case and how/why she went missing. Thank you!
Dr Grande! Love your videos. You should analyze the case of Dorothy Kilgallen.
Ladies, most men will wander into this territory. Getting an unknown single man as a roommate is a massive risk. Not looking at their life & doing diligence as to stress factors, etc., and socializing with them in a deeper way, traveling with them, not noticing they have no other relationships, sounds like leading someone on, using flirtation, and totally ignorant and reckless about the impacts that has and the potential likely risks. Staying on premises once reporting fear of violence, instability, and a knowing something bad is going to happen- and believing anything that unstable person says- is unconscious high risk, life threatening behavior. Wake up.
"Low level of phyical attractivness.", I hope I'm never the subject of a Dr. Grande video. 😁
Ah, the classic Asian ruse of feigning poor English language skills.
Lmaooo its true😂
Too many men have no personality. They just wait on a woman to tell them who they should be. Grow up. Know who you are beyond your private part. Set boundaries and learn to accept no for an answer. Walk away.
If his English is broken, I hope the Department of Homeland Security deports him when he finishes his time. 14 years is too lenient.
Another awesome analysis about angry accommodations and amorous alienation.
Your humor gets me every time!
I think I saw this on Netflix's WORST ROOMMATE EVER. series.
Your alliteration skills are amazing
A piece of advice for every man friend-zoned or rejected. By the time you are older and happily married you will thank God for every time you were rejected. If I’d gotten my way back when I was younger I dread to think where I might be now. It will work out. It’s amazing what having a good career and crossing the magic threshold of age 29 can do for a man.
This guy was in his 50s. He didn't have the same prospects.
@@dammar117 he should've moved on (and out), started dating some other people and found someone that was actually interested in him.
@@duskripper6650 For sure. It's just that the advice of "by the time you are older and happily married" wouldn't apply at his age. But yes, there is nothing worse than people of any age stuck on their unrequited "love" obsession.
I love how you’re making this about men being victims of friend zoning and rejection instead of a creepy older man getting things twisted and living out his delusions until he murdered an innocent woman. Sorry but I feel like this isn’t exactly the right place for an ‘it’ll get better’ pep talk for the gross incels reading this. You’re not nearly as reformed as you think you are, buddy. Yikes.
@@batacumba ok but why allow an old man move in and go on a cruise and trips and take pics where ur real close to the old man? He got mixed signals from her. Why didn't she just leave the apartment Have him evicted? I think she liked the attention or maybe their relationship was deeper then we know, he thought it was
To any of us regular Dr. Grande viewers, this guy would just scream of narcissism right away, and we'd all steer well clear. Or if we had a loved one who was close to such a person we'd probably give them an education about narcissism. This is why everybody needs to be watching these videos. Learn the signs.