I’m writing a memoir about forgiving my dad even though who abused me . It also talks about the challenges of going to a inpatient hospital at 12 and group home at 14
I have transitioned from male to female had regrets than transitioned back ! My story is incredible writing about my detransition has not only helped me heal but gave me hope for life I’m so excited to share my story !
Great information!! Love it!! I would love a call to discuss my memoir, and involves another person that is very powerful and will do nothing more than to squash me like an ant. But I feel like I need to share my story so I can help women leave powerful man. Safely
I'm am transitioning from being a script writer to writing my own memoir. I went from an abusive relationship, to a life changing spinal surgery, to losing half of my family at once, to deal with a roof collapse, to then traveling around my country not knowing where I'd be living next. I'm calling it "The Year That Went To S**t" in hopes that someone can see that you can have a hard year and still come out with your sanity and strength.
Thank you for this, Kelly. You are the absolute best at describing with examples and allowing the viewer to listen and apply/incorporate technique into their own writing style and goal.
I've had a desire to write a memoir for years. I started writing the memoir at a pivotal moment in my life where everything was turned upside down. I knew that this is where I had to start. Thanks so much for your great advice. I will continue to watch your videos to help guide me.
Thanks for watching, I'm so glad that this video was helpful during your journey. What a great time to start a memoir right in the middle of life-changing events. Keep going! We can't wait to hear how your story comes along.
Ignore this, Just taking notes Memoir: crafted like a novel, not chronological, interjections, discussion of life, understanding and articulation of a bigger picture going on, character driven & scene driven like a novel, readers must grow to love u as the protagonist. U must win them over with being vulnerable, imperfect, revealing flaws and selves. Show rather than tell, show by carefully chosen scenes. Show what happened scene by scene. Needs to have hero’s journey in it. Show us the moment where u got diagnoses, show us moment where ___, bring us into the story by giving the irrelevant details (about who we are and the scene we’re walking thru on this journey). Do character development and journal abt u, who are u? What do u care about? What did u care about before this happened? What were u thinking abt most of the time? What were u doing and talking to? What thoughts were running thru ur mind? Take us to the moment it happened, show us don’t tell us. Character development about the people who were there. Write about where u loved, the yard u played in, the key people in ur life. Plot the scenes out as if in a movie. Scene progression, how does the beginning and middle and end fit with each other? Plot them in advance, u can’t include every important moment of ur life. Carve it out. Memoirs: traveling mercies by Anne Lamont (beautiful scenes) Caravan of no despair (she had to leave a lot out, but good example of sparely told and emotionally intense memoir) The afterlife of billy fingers (cooky, lively and funny scenes, good at setting scene after scene) Sue Monk Kidd The dance of the dissident daughter (beautiful scenes)
Hi, what helpful information you share, this has helped me a lot! Are you a writer, or author? If so, I had a couple questions, was wondering if you could maybe help point me in the right direction if at all possible. Thanks!😊
The memoir I’m writing about is about a broken heart, manipulation, drugs, jail, success, failures, sex, lies, getting kicked out the military (love), house arrest, mental depression, finding God, and much more. I had the blessing to read “Educated” by Tara West and she inspired me to write book. The problem is I’m uneducated, a hispanic male, and broke. Just finished my first draft of 59 pages.... this is the beginning of my shame and humiliation. When I write (specifically memoir) I end up crying, drinking, or sleeping more than usual. I need help writing my memoir.
Getting your story out can be the biggest challenge! We would love to help with your memoir! Your first initial phone call with an editorial matchmaker is absolutely free. They will gather details about your specific project and provide directions for next steps. Here is the link to schedule a call: knliterary.com/schedule/
Best of luck to you. Fight club might be a good inspiration for you as a film reference. But as memoir and also a film, maybe Basketball Diaries. Also Nicki Sixx's Heroin Diaries and possibly Motley Crue's , The Dirt. They all tackle drugs /addiction and all kinds of madness. I have to admit I tried reading Heroin Diaries and as someone who has also had battles with depression, it was way too depressing for me to read. Best of luck. Really listen to her advice in this video. Take notes, and start trying to whittle down the moments to the ones you think are too important to not have in telling your story. Like if you had 5-15 minutes to tell a complete stranger who you were, what would you tell them about? How would you want them to perceive you? What would you absolutely want them to know or understand about your journey? Specific lessons you learned? How you changed as a person? Remember what she said about we have to experience it with you, and get us to be on your side. Best of luck.
Writing memoir brings up a lot of painful memories. As a recovering addict, I highly recommend working on recovery in NA and/or AA to help you process your past and see it from a new perspective.
I know I’m years later, but find the book, “when the lights go out” by David (Nino) rodriguez. It’s about a guy (ex champion boxer) who fought addiction and lost everything… his darkest days and road to recovery. You might relate to him.
Thank you for this! Just 2 hours ago I made the decision that my first book will be a memoir (maybe a teaching memoir?). I've been writing this book for almost 4 years and am so EXCITED to have this clarity. I can begin to "bring together" my story. Appreciate all your videos and advice.
Wow this is such beautiful content, thank you so so much for sharing. I'm writing a memoir but my experience of healing 40 years of clinical depression and suicidal ideation through plant medicines, ayahuasca, mushrooms, iboga, and was looking for ways to organize my story. My story is very similar to caravan of no despair actually in the sense that my suffering became a catalyst for my healing. This is absolutely priceless, thank you so much again!
Hmm, I was thinking of just writing mine as a bunch of short stories. My logic being that there are lots of times people get me to sit down and tell the tales of my (often stupid and rediculous) adventures. So I figured having those stories written out would be fun. That said, they really are just a bunch of scenes, so likely I could link them together a bit more into one flowing story.
Writing a bunch of short stories is a great idea! My advice would be to sit down and assess your content and then determine whether it makes the most sense for you to write a shorter piece or a longer piece! As always, we at KN Literary encourage writers to schedule a FREE consultation with one of our lovely matchmakers to help answer questions you may have: www.knliterary.com/schedule -Ayesha💕
Allison, thank you for your very true inspiring words. You reinforced the very essence of the memoir I wrote many years ago, value! I valued my carefree beautiful life on the small Island where I grew up, however comfortable it may have been, something was missing that I could not put my fingers on. I was brought up in a house of secrets where no one talked about things, you were just told to keep quiet and not ask silly questions. I was at a pivotal point in my life where one part of me had had enough, and one part of me wanted to flee Island life. I was never any good at verbally expressing myself and developed a spiritual calling out of frustration to write my story which was where my writing journey all began. My mental suffering became the catalyst of my healing and the only way I could climb out of this 'stuck place' was to write about it. I needed to let go and find myself and the only way I knew how was to keep a diary every day which eventually turned into a book.
This video was very helpful. Thank you! I started writing mine yesterday. Really for my two kids, but the more I sit and plan things out, the more I wonder if more might be interested in some of the pivotal moments in my life. Again great video, you gave a lot of good information concsely.
Congrats on getting started! It's great when the reason for writing motivates you. It really helps you mold the story and figure out your direction and voice. Keep up the good work!
Really? I think she rushes. I get sensory overload trying to take in so much information at such a pace. I have to keep stopping and taking breaks. But then, I'm getting old. 😊
I'm currently writing a memoir about surviving cancer at 16 and the knowledge I learned along the way. In the book, I'm also giving advice along with telling my story. I am taking notes during all your videos because it is so helpful especially since I haven't had a lot of writing experience (I'm 17). For the scenes, I have them written in past tense but would it be more realistic for the reader if I made them in present tense so they felt like they were there with me? I have been journaling all my emotions for the past two years so a lot of it is present tense but when I write about specific scenes like when I was diagnosed and my first and last chemo I write in the past tense. I'm wondering if the change in tense would be confusing or interesting. Love your videos!!!
Thank you for sharing a bit about your story. It sounds like you have some great wisdom and a very important message to get into the world! Tense is a personal preference, and there are great memoirs that use past tense (like Educated by Tara Westover and Becoming by Michelle Obama) and others that use present tense (like Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert and Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle). We recommend doing a bit of research on memoirs similar to your own as you make your decision!
Hey same here. I’m also a cancer survivor and in the process of writing my own book based on the experience of my past 2 years. Even i was confused about the same. I hope you’re doing well now. More power 💪🏻
Excellent question. I too was curious about the tense. That is something i've long had difficulty deciding as a writer depending on what i'm working on. I was a theater geek in high school and middle school so i've got a great deal of practice with play/script format writing. I always loved creative writing and even wrote for my school paper, but it's so much different when it's more personal. Congratulations to you and the other commentor who have survived and seem to have defeated cancer. I bet your stories will help a lot of people. I have to say, just reading your comment/question you seemed much older & wiser than 17. It's pretty crazy how living through certain things can impart so much wisdom in the young. I grew up with a severely disabled brother who was born when I was 3 so I had to learn what death was then, coz we were told he'd not live to be a year old. This experience greatly impacted my life in 2 major ways, I think it made me have to mature faster, and I think it's the "reason" I ended up being "a freak" (goth, punk, social outcast). I got told my entire life I was "an old soul" i bet you hear that a lot as well. That's kinda the focus i'm wanting to go with my story, why I look this way. Hell in 1999 I was interviewed by the local newspaper because they wanted me to be the voice for educating the public on what goth is. I was a public figure cos I was a manager at my local hot Topic and I influenced a couple generations of outcast kids. Either through a phase or through their life. It's so wild just the other day I got a message on Instagram from a girl who is in her 20s or 30s who told me she's wanted to be me since she was about 9 years old. It blew my mind. Especially since I quit that job in 2006 after 8 years. But apparently i'm still in the minds of those who remember me. It's really a mind eff especially coz the general public was incredibly cruel and mean to me. I had to have my guard up the moment I stepped outside, nowadays I hear more positive stuff than negative, so it feels like a lot of my goals of breaking the public in to acceptance of the different or weird has finally paid off for the most part! Best of luck to you, and your progress on your story, life, and health! Keep staying positive and imparting knowledge/experience/advice is great too. I believe: If you can help or inspire someone along the way, that's something I feel excellent about doing as much as possible.
The information you provided in this video is priceless!! I work in the film industry and you knocked it out of the park with this one. I've an outline, character building, now I can start on my plot. This video pushed me out of my two week rut!! Absolutely Amazing!!
I like your take on having scenes drive the book rather than making it chronological. I wrote a memoir that jumps around a bit; some times are finite and some are just musings but they all occurred at roughly the same time.
My aunt contacted me recently and told me about her memoir involving drug addiction which this inspired me in the midst of a transformative part of my life. Literally a light bulb. "I should write about my experience with my narcissist and the crucial lessons I learned over the past seven years!!" So now I'm trying to gather as much information as possible on writing memoirs to me this happen and to share my story with others. I'm so excited for this new chapter of my life 😁😁💐
Being a Sixties scoop survivor, and the son of two residential school survivors, I'm trying to figure out whether I should write an essay compilation, or a memoir.
Thank you for watching. The world needs your story! You could start out by writing essays about these experiences. Eventually, if you see a common theme emerging, it may turn into a memoir later on. Either way, start writing.
I’ve been wanting to write a short memoir of me traveling around the world. I particularly want to talk about how discovering new experiences has set my moral compass for the better and affect my life decisions up until now. My political beliefs and growing empathy all started from meeting new people and has grown into a web of discovery that lead me to either change my habits, discover social media accounts that promote empathy and in turn enable changing, and speak up for people who have been treated unjustly. I’ve been reading books again because of quarantine to improve my vocabulary for such a project and in turn has led me to this video to learn about the creative writing process. I have many more ideas when it comes to memoir but a travel memoir was the strongest idea.
Thanks for sharing a bit about your memoir journey. It sounds like you have a great path established and reading other memoirs for inspiration is a great way to research and improve your vocabulary as you say. Best of luck!
Thank you so much for this video which has inspired me more to tell my story of a terrible loss I suffered six years ago; the illness and death of my only child. I have been trying to get things going but trying to find the courage to do so. I hope to find more support from your videos; this is my first.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your story will no doubt be inspiring to others. We really encourage you to keep going and hope you find all the other videos helpful as well. Keep us posted on how your project comes along!
((Hugs)) watched my mom endure this with my little brother. And I've lost someone every single year since he passed in 2007. In fact sometimes more than one someone. On 9/11 this year I found my best friend, who I did caregiving for for 6 years deceased in her apartment. So I lost my job, income, and best friend all in the same day. I'm literally waiting for unemployment right now still, cos of covid its been delayed.. suucckks. And it really messed me up experiencing that. I'm so sorry I hope your heart gets lighter in time, and that you're able to find healing and peace in time. As well as more people to connect with that can feel you and help.
What an insane time to be writing a memoir. C19 and isolation affected me so much more than I ever thought possible. In the beginning, I continued writing, but then my boyfriend's parents got sick, his father died, my guy tested positive and I went into an anxiety spiral. What more could possibly happen, right? I'm so blessed. And now I've kept adding to my journey. When you sell all your possessions and allow yourself only one suitcase, buy a series of plane tickets with no return destination...then fall in love with a young Turk!! Haha, well, life is insane and amazing all at the same time. Thanks for being the guiding light to get this second memoir into the second draft stage. Love your passion!
Thanks for sharing your story! This is a very unique time, and it's all that more important to capture your experiences in your writing. Best of luck with the next stages of your journey!
Hi there. I’m also a cancer survivor and in the process of writing my own book based on the experience of my past 2 years. Your videos help me alott. More power 💪🏻
Thanks for watching. We're so glad the videos have been helpful and can't wait to hear how your project goes. Your message is so important and your personal story will touch so many who have struggled and survived. Congrats on taking steps toward your book dream!
I was really impressed by the succinct nature of the information, the enthusiasm, the speed of words-delivery, and the closing remarks about the story "you were born to right". The beautiful marble on the cutting room floor was such an inspired way to describe the editing process - kudos, props, bravo, great choice of metaphor. I hope this comment serves as an encouraging moment for you because this sincerity and still business-oriented style for the video was refreshing, to say the least! Namaste. And thank you.
Well done. Thanks! Very useful tips and presented in an encouraging manner. Good writing is real work. One can always improve. As I began to write , I attended a writers' conference and found a one-page handout imploring us to ask one simple question - Why do we write? And what I found is that the answer to that question evolves and grows over time. It is easy to overthink things and paralyze ourselves into inaction. Who cares if "it" is not "perfect"? What is "perfect", anyway? I would surmise that anyone watching this video has either begun or is at some more advanced stage of completing a memoir. To you, I would say... enjoy it! Be one of the very few who actually completes a manuscript. Don't hesitate. Press on! I remember an art teacher telling us that there is no such thing as "bad art". Grind it out and surprise yourself! Above all else, do not allow anyone to steal your dream. Everyone has a story to tell... Cheers, 🍷
While I was watching you and listening to you I was imagining making movie out of my own story book. I love movies and now I understand it's possible to make my own movie. I can start by making short videos.
I wanted to write a memoir based on my love story on how I found and kept my partner through the painful struggle of obsessive compulsive disorder! I can’t wait to start it once I get all the info I need on how to do it!
Starting to write again after a 2 year hiatus. I’m re-re-re-starting my memoir project. The latest idea is to use the actual text I wrote (and published anonymously) back in 1997. It was picked up and reposted on the web in a few places. Over 1M views-this was way before blogging, and way, way before social media. On my pre and early days of transition. Writing to fill in more of the before and since then. …29 years later. It’s a cliche but so true how time zips by. Lots of serendipity and Zelig-like moments that created tangents/new directions. I never thought I’d live past 27, never thought I’d be able to transition, never thought I’d get married AND divorced, never thought I’d have my heart heal after so many breaks and losses, and never thought I could ever have the chance to update my story and to finally be not-anonymous.
This was so incredibly helpful information, thank you. I've been tossing around the idea of a memoir for YEARS. Coz all my years in retail (8 at a book store even) i've had people I don't really know, or just met expressing deep curiosity and interest in knowing and hearing about my life. I've long been focused on a young adult novel but people keep bringing my mind and focus back to my life and me and it seems like a sign I just need to follow. I always wanted to approach it like a movie, coz movies are how I like to digest story frequently. But when it's your life and your experiences sometimes it feels like we're too close to decide exactly where to start. It seems when I tell people about my life, no matter what part, it seems fantastical and exaggerated because it's so crazy! I get told all the time it sounds like a movie. And it does. I feel like people think i'm making it up sometimes. I took heavy notes from this video. I'm going to subscribe and start doing what you suggested. I actually had to do something similar for my y.a. story (i'm still writing). I had to stop the general story and write down names, family trees, and history of events that took place before the characters in the main story existed because it was detrimental to how I tell about the events happening now to them. So this actually makes a lot of sense to me!! Thanks again!!
I just found your channel - I’ve never considered reading other memoirs for the purpose of researching how to write my own one day - though it seems so obvious! I mostly listen to audio books but I get a sense this exercise would be much better served by reading the paper book - I’m so excited - I think it’s been over 5 yrs since I’ve read a real book in my hands! Thank you!! Vivi
I wrote my first memoir based on universal life lessons that everyone learns. I learned as a child on a small broken down farm. One lady who grew up in a high rise apt building in NYC told me she could relate to every lesson. Bingo! I knew I hit my goal. Even memoir is written for the reader. Not for the author. Love your videos
Also, do you have any recommondations for crime based or photo driven memoirs? I happen to have tome very compelling visuals that help to drive the stories, as the stories enhance the visuals, but I don't know of anything that has been done in such a way that there would be images placed throughout. Is it a concept that simply won't work?
@@scottlunn4327, Thanks for your question! It is fairly commonplace to include a photo insert if there are visuals that are compelling and even required for the reader to understand the book. However, having photos throughout the book is possible as well, as long as you can run them in black and white. If they need to be in color in order to be understood, a photo insert is the best idea so that you don’t have to run the entire book in 4-color. Four-color printing is very expensive and requires glossy paper which is not necessary or normal for a text-driven book. Hope this helps!
Hi Kelly. I just came across your clip here and you explain things very well. I'm beginning my adventure in writing my story. Looking forward to it. I'm going to read the books you recommended. Especially the first two. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. Grandma's Angel's
Thanks for the explanation of how to write a memoir, it’s pretty much how I thought it would be all these years of thinking about writing my book. I think maybe I might be a little too young I’m 39 but I’ve had a long life so far. Allot of good times and some not so good. I feel like mine- would be ranked right up there with best sellers if I can just write it out correctly. wish me luck, and again thank you for the video
You are awesome! As a child and teen,I read often.Life is so busy know I don't get to read like I use too however I've rather read them watch T.V. I love creating memorable moments in my writing!
Thank you so much for this helpful video and your free PDFs! I am currently writing a memoir on my father and will be looking for an editor in the near future, so I made sure to subscribe and write your name down. Thank you for the 3 Book Outlines workpage, it was the first time I was able to write my story step by step with the Hero's Journey! It has brought so much clarity to my project. Thank you!!
Thank you for your videos. I just finished my memoir and sent my query letter to two literary agents. Hopefully it will go well. I wrote a lot in college. I am hoping my writing will be up to there standards. If anything, I will self publish if I need to. Your videos were extremely helpful.
Thank you so much for your sound advice. I appreciate your time and insight on a topic that can feel overwhelming. The way you explain everything is easy to digest and utilize. I just subscribed to your channel, and look forward to seeing more of your content.
Excellent advice and observations... thanks. I was gasping a little, having to re-wind several times due to the speaker's record breaking syllables-per -second rate. Thanks again!
This video really packs a punch with useful tips about developmental and scene writing when crafting a memoir. Thank you so much for spelling it out and for including reference books that I can both enjoy and learn from. Do you lead any Zoom classes on character development that where we can share writing assignments with others for feedback? If not, I'd love your recommendation. Thank you again.
So good! Very sensible and clear advice, obviously from an understanding of both sides, the editor's and writer's/protagonist's perspectives. Thank you for sharing it! 🙌
I just discovered your channel. I'm writing, and it's helping me a lot! As I write, I am banging out memoir after memoir that teachers like you are recommending. Currently reading "Angela's Ashes" and right away I noticed there are no quotation marks around any of the dialogue. Can you comment on why, and how the author might have decided to omit this?
My memoir would be about healing from severe abuse in childhood that caused dissociative identity disorder, and becoming a foster parent and leader in the community to help children from childhoods like my own.
Thank you for the specific advice! I love how you tailor it to each of our stories. Through highschool, my 3 cancers were misdiagnosed, causing me to have lifelong damage, and stage 4 thyroid cancer. It's so hard to write an autobiography when there's so much to fit. I'm excited to start writing using your tips!
As always, Kelly, I have loved seeing you in the webinars and on You Tube! Your book is mentioned in my book! I have actually reached out to Annie with your company. We will be talking soon. Blessings, Dee Dee!
@@knliteraryarts You certainly deserve positive and "sweet" comments for going the extra mile to insure that people truly DO have a book to write. I will be contacting Annie very soon! I can hardly wait!
I’m almost ready to start my memoir. The only thing holding me back is hurting my mother. She will be a big part of my story as a drug addict and neglectful parent. I’ve long forgiven her and she has been clean for over 20 years. Any advice or “tricks” you could share to help me soften the blow to her? Leaving her out of my book isn’t an option.
Jennifer, this is a great question, and one we get often from aspiring authors. I have a great video on this very topic called "How to Tell Your Story (Even If Mom Won’t Like It)" Check it out here: ua-cam.com/video/Y-ECrSBcwH0/v-deo.html
I am now the Primary Caregiver for my mother, and I have learned to overcome the obstacles of the past by shifting my awareness of the importance of caring for her! Blessings!
Thank you for the video. I don't know why unimportant people want so badly to have their memoir wrote. If I didn't do anything with my life, I would want to be forgotten.
Thank you for your comment! I believe that if someone wants to write a memoir, they definitely should! Writing is one of the best forms of expression 😊
@@knliteraryarts I tried to help my grandmother write a memoir the other day (and I used your tips). She seemed to like the tips, but she has this idea that she can make the memoir much more exciting than she believes her life to be. There was really nothing I could do to help her at that point, I actually had to leave her house because she went crazy.
New subbie here and found this very helpful! 😊 I’ve written quite a bit just to get the memories down on paper but realize much editing is in my future. I suppose I wanted to document for my children’s sake as well. Beginning another outline draft immediately, bearing in mind your thoughts on creating scenes rather than chronological order. That makes so much sense and I agree adds more interest. Thank you for sharing! 💕
I'm writing my memoirs & its just about me finding the humor in good & bad times. Ever since i was a teenager friends family etc have always told me "w/your facial expressions & you're funny stories you should do stand up comedy on open mike nights." Through the years i realized myself that I'm not a person who can tell jokes,the punch line is lost on me i cant get a joke straight. However, I was told by my everyone who knows me , loves me, has worked w/ me & has hated me, all agree that im a great story teller because as i say often "this shit only happens to me." I always kept journals, until my mom started reading them & i would get into a shitload of trouble, so i stopped writing. When i started writing my memoirs it was probably the 2nd most stressful time of my life. I started writing again & thought, i write as i remember the different times & struggles in my life. I thought there was NO WAY the reader was going to be able to keep up w/ leaps & bounds of decades of funny & heartbreaking stories..... I guess I was right & wrong! Its great t hear that
I’ve been really thinking about writing my memoir which would be a similar theme as Educated. I grew up in a messianic doomsday cult (that no longer exists), but I’m not sure where on earth to start and if I should try to reconnect with others who left the cult and interview them to get that grip on character development. I think it would be healing for me in the long run to get the story out but it’ll definitely be a traumatic read for other people, especially if it’s in scenes. There was animal sacrifice, abuse, and themes of apocalypse and terror, political extremism, lots of mental anguish. I’m not sure how to display my experience authentically but with proper care for the subject matter and other people involved. And I’m not sure how to do it without getting sued by the old leaders who are still alive, or if I should wait for them to pass away
There are many ways to approach this and all of them can be good. If you're unsure of what the outline of the book should be, try just getting started with lots of exploratory writing. From there you can decide what direction to go in. Working closely with an editor can be a huge help in shaping the story as well. When the book is done, a literary lawyer can help you make any necessary tweaks to keep you from getting sued, so that doesn't need to be a huge concern until you're ready to publish.
I'm just wondering, do you have any good scene driven memoirs you can recommend from a male perspective. I'm not trying to be sexist or anything, it's just that males and females experience things very differently and therefore express their experience differently. I am wonder if this will help craft my writing style and scenes being a male, or, is it not relevant to the reader?
There are many amazing scene-driven memoirs written by men. A few of my favorites include Beautiful Boy by David Sheff, Angela’s Ashes by Frank McCourt and Hillbilly Elegy by J.D. Vance. Hope this is helpful!
"The book you were born to write needs to be in the world". 😭❤️
I love this too! I get goosebumps at the mention of this line!
So true and beautiful said thanks for sharing
I’m writing a memoir about forgiving my dad even though who abused me . It also talks about the challenges of going to a inpatient hospital at 12 and group home at 14
I have transitioned from male to female had regrets than transitioned back ! My story is incredible writing about my detransition has not only helped me heal but gave me hope for life I’m so excited to share my story !
I'd personally love to hear your story..❤️
Wow, your story sounds interesting. I'm so happy you turned this negative experience into a positive.
I’m definitely interested
Fantastic it's great to see this side of it all. Have you published it yet?
Yup I’d love to read your journey and feel it with you.
I read "A Child Called It." when I was 12, 22 now. Learning how to write my memoir
Oh so we’re both just living the same life aren’t we
I loved the writing in that book. He talked about living with a mom with some mental illness, but his voice is not bitter or condemning. Well written.
A haunting book, in the best way possible!
I got inspired to write a memoir from the movie “Basketball Diaries “ through everything he never stopped
Great information!! Love it!! I would love a call to discuss my memoir, and involves another person that is very powerful and will do nothing more than to squash me like an ant. But I feel like I need to share my story so I can help women leave powerful man. Safely
I love the book “Educated.” It was so relatable for me. This video was extremely helpful.
very happy to hear it was helpful, and all of us here at kn literary loved that book too... so inspiring!
@@knliteraryarts me too!
I'm am transitioning from being a script writer to writing my own memoir. I went from an abusive relationship, to a life changing spinal surgery, to losing half of my family at once, to deal with a roof collapse, to then traveling around my country not knowing where I'd be living next. I'm calling it "The Year That Went To S**t" in hopes that someone can see that you can have a hard year and still come out with your sanity and strength.
Thank you so much for sharing part of your story!
Thank you for this, Kelly. You are the absolute best at describing with examples and allowing the viewer to listen and apply/incorporate technique into their own writing style and goal.
I've had a desire to write a memoir for years. I started writing the memoir at a pivotal moment in my life where everything was turned upside down. I knew that this is where I had to start. Thanks so much for your great advice. I will continue to watch your videos to help guide me.
Thanks for watching, I'm so glad that this video was helpful during your journey. What a great time to start a memoir right in the middle of life-changing events. Keep going! We can't wait to hear how your story comes along.
Ignore this, Just taking notes
Memoir: crafted like a novel, not chronological, interjections, discussion of life, understanding and articulation of a bigger picture going on, character driven & scene driven like a novel, readers must grow to love u as the protagonist. U must win them over with being vulnerable, imperfect, revealing flaws and selves.
Show rather than tell, show by carefully chosen scenes. Show what happened scene by scene. Needs to have hero’s journey in it. Show us the moment where u got diagnoses, show us moment where ___, bring us into the story by giving the irrelevant details (about who we are and the scene we’re walking thru on this journey).
Do character development and journal abt u, who are u? What do u care about? What did u care about before this happened? What were u thinking abt most of the time? What were u doing and talking to? What thoughts were running thru ur mind?
Take us to the moment it happened, show us don’t tell us. Character development about the people who were there. Write about where u loved, the yard u played in, the key people in ur life.
Plot the scenes out as if in a movie. Scene progression, how does the beginning and middle and end fit with each other? Plot them in advance, u can’t include every important moment of ur life. Carve it out.
Memoirs: traveling mercies by Anne Lamont (beautiful scenes) Caravan of no despair (she had to leave a lot out, but good example of sparely told and emotionally intense memoir) The afterlife of billy fingers (cooky, lively and funny scenes, good at setting scene after scene) Sue Monk Kidd The dance of the dissident daughter (beautiful scenes)
Hi, what helpful information you share, this has helped me a lot! Are you a writer, or author? If so, I had a couple questions, was wondering if you could maybe help point me in the right direction if at all possible. Thanks!😊
Way more helpful than this woman talking 100 miles at hour rambling. Thank you.
The memoir I’m writing about is about a broken heart, manipulation, drugs, jail, success, failures, sex, lies, getting kicked out the military (love), house arrest, mental depression, finding God, and much more. I had the blessing to read “Educated” by Tara West and she inspired me to write book. The problem is I’m uneducated, a hispanic male, and broke. Just finished my first draft of 59 pages.... this is the beginning of my shame and humiliation. When I write (specifically memoir) I end up crying, drinking, or sleeping more than usual. I need help writing my memoir.
Getting your story out can be the biggest challenge! We would love to help with your memoir! Your first initial phone call with an editorial matchmaker is absolutely free. They will gather details about your specific project and provide directions for next steps. Here is the link to schedule a call: knliterary.com/schedule/
Best of luck to you.
Fight club might be a good inspiration for you as a film reference.
But as memoir and also a film, maybe Basketball Diaries. Also Nicki Sixx's Heroin Diaries and possibly Motley Crue's , The Dirt. They all tackle drugs /addiction and all kinds of madness. I have to admit I tried reading Heroin Diaries and as someone who has also had battles with depression, it was way too depressing for me to read.
Best of luck. Really listen to her advice in this video. Take notes, and start trying to whittle down the moments to the ones you think are too important to not have in telling your story.
Like if you had 5-15 minutes to tell a complete stranger who you were, what would you tell them about? How would you want them to perceive you? What would you absolutely want them to know or understand about your journey? Specific lessons you learned? How you changed as a person? Remember what she said about we have to experience it with you, and get us to be on your side. Best of luck.
I am proud of you
Writing memoir brings up a lot of painful memories. As a recovering addict, I highly recommend working on recovery in NA and/or AA to help you process your past and see it from a new perspective.
I know I’m years later, but find the book, “when the lights go out” by David (Nino) rodriguez. It’s about a guy (ex champion boxer) who fought addiction and lost everything… his darkest days and road to recovery. You might relate to him.
Thank you for this! Just 2 hours ago I made the decision that my first book will be a memoir (maybe a teaching memoir?). I've been writing this book for almost 4 years and am so EXCITED to have this clarity. I can begin to "bring together" my story. Appreciate all your videos and advice.
Lovely, Dee! Thanks for watching. We really do this to help writers like you. We're excited that you're excited!
I'm attempting to write a memoir on my experiences with nature, so excited to share soon!
Wonderful! Thank you for commenting. We're cheering you on!
Wow this is such beautiful content, thank you so so much for sharing. I'm writing a memoir but my experience of healing 40 years of clinical depression and suicidal ideation through plant medicines, ayahuasca, mushrooms, iboga, and was looking for ways to organize my story. My story is very similar to caravan of no despair actually in the sense that my suffering became a catalyst for my healing.
This is absolutely priceless, thank you so much again!
Hmm, I was thinking of just writing mine as a bunch of short stories. My logic being that there are lots of times people get me to sit down and tell the tales of my (often stupid and rediculous) adventures. So I figured having those stories written out would be fun. That said, they really are just a bunch of scenes, so likely I could link them together a bit more into one flowing story.
Writing a bunch of short stories is a great idea! My advice would be to sit down and assess your content and then determine whether it makes the most sense for you to write a shorter piece or a longer piece! As always, we at KN Literary encourage writers to schedule a FREE consultation with one of our lovely matchmakers to help answer questions you may have: www.knliterary.com/schedule -Ayesha💕
Allison, thank you for your very true inspiring words. You reinforced the very essence of the memoir I wrote many years ago, value! I valued my carefree beautiful life on the small Island where I grew up, however comfortable it may have been, something was missing that I could not put my fingers on. I was brought up in a house of secrets where no one talked about things, you were just told to keep quiet and not ask silly questions. I was at a pivotal point in my life where one part of me had had enough, and one part of me wanted to flee Island life. I was never any good at verbally expressing myself and developed a spiritual calling out of frustration to write my story which was where my writing journey all began. My mental suffering became the catalyst of my healing and the only way I could climb out of this 'stuck place' was to write about it. I needed to let go and find myself and the only way I knew how was to keep a diary every day which eventually turned into a book.
Thank you for sharing! We're so glad that you found healing through writing your story. So powerful.
This video was very helpful. Thank you! I started writing mine yesterday. Really for my two kids, but the more I sit and plan things out, the more I wonder if more might be interested in some of the pivotal moments in my life. Again great video, you gave a lot of good information concsely.
Congrats on getting started! It's great when the reason for writing motivates you. It really helps you mold the story and figure out your direction and voice. Keep up the good work!
I love how you speak normally, normal speed! Don’t like those UA-cam videos that people talk so slow.. can’t watch. You’re awesome
Really? I think she rushes. I get sensory overload trying to take in so much information at such a pace. I have to keep stopping and taking breaks. But then, I'm getting old. 😊
I'm currently writing a memoir about surviving cancer at 16 and the knowledge I learned along the way. In the book, I'm also giving advice along with telling my story. I am taking notes during all your videos because it is so helpful especially since I haven't had a lot of writing experience (I'm 17). For the scenes, I have them written in past tense but would it be more realistic for the reader if I made them in present tense so they felt like they were there with me? I have been journaling all my emotions for the past two years so a lot of it is present tense but when I write about specific scenes like when I was diagnosed and my first and last chemo I write in the past tense. I'm wondering if the change in tense would be confusing or interesting. Love your videos!!!
Thank you for sharing a bit about your story. It sounds like you have some great wisdom and a very important message to get into the world! Tense is a personal preference, and there are great memoirs that use past tense (like Educated by Tara Westover and Becoming by Michelle Obama) and others that use present tense (like Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert and Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle). We recommend doing a bit of research on memoirs similar to your own as you make your decision!
Hey same here. I’m also a cancer survivor and in the process of writing my own book based on the experience of my past 2 years. Even i was confused about the same. I hope you’re doing well now. More power 💪🏻
@@shveta9334 Thanks for sharing. We wish you all the best on your writing journey as well. Please let us know how your project comes along.
Excellent question. I too was curious about the tense. That is something i've long had difficulty deciding as a writer depending on what i'm working on.
I was a theater geek in high school and middle school so i've got a great deal of practice with play/script format writing.
I always loved creative writing and even wrote for my school paper, but it's so much different when it's more personal.
Congratulations to you and the other commentor who have survived and seem to have defeated cancer. I bet your stories will help a lot of people.
I have to say, just reading your comment/question you seemed much older & wiser than 17. It's pretty crazy how living through certain things can impart so much wisdom in the young. I grew up with a severely disabled brother who was born when I was 3 so I had to learn what death was then, coz we were told he'd not live to be a year old. This experience greatly impacted my life in 2 major ways, I think it made me have to mature faster, and I think it's the "reason" I ended up being "a freak" (goth, punk, social outcast). I got told my entire life I was "an old soul" i bet you hear that a lot as well.
That's kinda the focus i'm wanting to go with my story, why I look this way. Hell in 1999 I was interviewed by the local newspaper because they wanted me to be the voice for educating the public on what goth is. I was a public figure cos I was a manager at my local hot Topic and I influenced a couple generations of outcast kids. Either through a phase or through their life.
It's so wild just the other day I got a message on Instagram from a girl who is in her 20s or 30s who told me she's wanted to be me since she was about 9 years old. It blew my mind. Especially since I quit that job in 2006 after 8 years. But apparently i'm still in the minds of those who remember me. It's really a mind eff especially coz the general public was incredibly cruel and mean to me. I had to have my guard up the moment I stepped outside, nowadays I hear more positive stuff than negative, so it feels like a lot of my goals of breaking the public in to acceptance of the different or weird has finally paid off for the most part!
Best of luck to you, and your progress on your story, life, and health! Keep staying positive and imparting knowledge/experience/advice is great too. I believe: If you can help or inspire someone along the way, that's something I feel excellent about doing as much as possible.
@@Sindollx666x Thanks for sharing. Well said!
Love Anne Lamott. Need to read that book.
Enjoy!
The information you provided in this video is priceless!! I work in the film industry and you knocked it out of the park with this one. I've an outline, character building, now I can start on my plot. This video pushed me out of my two week rut!! Absolutely Amazing!!
Wonderful! You can do it!!🌟
I like your take on having scenes drive the book rather than making it chronological. I wrote a memoir that jumps around a bit; some times are finite and some are just musings but they all occurred at roughly the same time.
Glad you agree. That sounds like a great approach!
Fingers crossed as the book is in the hands of my three beta readers. Waiting for a crushing blow (or 3).
@@ericcrane4871, Best of luck! Let us know how it goes.
My aunt contacted me recently and told me about her memoir involving drug addiction which this inspired me in the midst of a transformative part of my life. Literally a light bulb. "I should write about my experience with my narcissist and the crucial lessons I learned over the past seven years!!" So now I'm trying to gather as much information as possible on writing memoirs to me this happen and to share my story with others. I'm so excited for this new chapter of my life 😁😁💐
Wonderful! So glad we were able to give you some info as you start your book journey!
Being a Sixties scoop survivor, and the son of two residential school survivors, I'm trying to figure out whether I should write an essay compilation, or a memoir.
Thank you for watching. The world needs your story! You could start out by writing essays about these experiences. Eventually, if you see a common theme emerging, it may turn into a memoir later on. Either way, start writing.
I’ve been wanting to write a short memoir of me traveling around the world. I particularly want to talk about how discovering new experiences has set my moral compass for the better and affect my life decisions up until now. My political beliefs and growing empathy all started from meeting new people and has grown into a web of discovery that lead me to either change my habits, discover social media accounts that promote empathy and in turn enable changing, and speak up for people who have been treated unjustly.
I’ve been reading books again because of quarantine to improve my vocabulary for such a project and in turn has led me to this video to learn about the creative writing process. I have many more ideas when it comes to memoir but a travel memoir was the strongest idea.
Thanks for sharing a bit about your memoir journey. It sounds like you have a great path established and reading other memoirs for inspiration is a great way to research and improve your vocabulary as you say. Best of luck!
Thank you so much for this video which has inspired me more to tell my story of a terrible loss I suffered six years ago; the illness and death of my only child. I have been trying to get things going but trying to find the courage to do so. I hope to find more support from your videos; this is my first.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your story will no doubt be inspiring to others. We really encourage you to keep going and hope you find all the other videos helpful as well. Keep us posted on how your project comes along!
((Hugs)) watched my mom endure this with my little brother. And I've lost someone every single year since he passed in 2007. In fact sometimes more than one someone.
On 9/11 this year I found my best friend, who I did caregiving for for 6 years deceased in her apartment. So I lost my job, income, and best friend all in the same day. I'm literally waiting for unemployment right now still, cos of covid its been delayed.. suucckks. And it really messed me up experiencing that.
I'm so sorry I hope your heart gets lighter in time, and that you're able to find healing and peace in time. As well as more people to connect with that can feel you and help.
What an insane time to be writing a memoir. C19 and isolation affected me so much more than I ever thought possible. In the beginning, I continued writing, but then my boyfriend's parents got sick, his father died, my guy tested positive and I went into an anxiety spiral. What more could possibly happen, right? I'm so blessed. And now I've kept adding to my journey. When you sell all your possessions and allow yourself only one suitcase, buy a series of plane tickets with no return destination...then fall in love with a young Turk!! Haha, well, life is insane and amazing all at the same time. Thanks for being the guiding light to get this second memoir into the second draft stage. Love your passion!
Thanks for sharing your story! This is a very unique time, and it's all that more important to capture your experiences in your writing. Best of luck with the next stages of your journey!
Hi there. I’m also a cancer survivor and in the process of writing my own book based on the experience of my past 2 years. Your videos help me alott. More power 💪🏻
Thanks for watching. We're so glad the videos have been helpful and can't wait to hear how your project goes. Your message is so important and your personal story will touch so many who have struggled and survived. Congrats on taking steps toward your book dream!
I was really impressed by the succinct nature of the information, the enthusiasm, the speed of words-delivery, and the closing remarks about the story "you were born to right". The beautiful marble on the cutting room floor was such an inspired way to describe the editing process - kudos, props, bravo, great choice of metaphor. I hope this comment serves as an encouraging moment for you because this sincerity and still business-oriented style for the video was refreshing, to say the least! Namaste. And thank you.
Thank you for your kind words. We are so glad you found it helpful!
Well articulated, enjoying and learning from Namibia!
Well done. Thanks! Very useful tips and presented in an encouraging manner. Good writing is real work. One can always improve. As I began to write , I attended a writers' conference and found a one-page handout imploring us to ask one simple question - Why do we write? And what I found is that the answer to that question evolves and grows over time. It is easy to overthink things and paralyze ourselves into inaction. Who cares if "it" is not "perfect"? What is "perfect", anyway? I would surmise that anyone watching this video has either begun or is at some more advanced stage of completing a memoir. To you, I would say... enjoy it! Be one of the very few who actually completes a manuscript. Don't hesitate. Press on! I remember an art teacher telling us that there is no such thing as "bad art". Grind it out and surprise yourself! Above all else, do not allow anyone to steal your dream. Everyone has a story to tell... Cheers, 🍷
Thank you so much for sharing!
This is great! Thank you. I just finished Wildflower, a Tale of Transcendence. And, wow! So good! I finished it in two days.
While I was watching you and listening to you I was imagining making movie out of my own story book. I love movies and now I understand it's possible to make my own movie. I can start by making short videos.
I wanted to write a memoir based on my love story on how I found and kept my partner through the painful struggle of obsessive compulsive disorder! I can’t wait to start it once I get all the info I need on how to do it!
Starting to write again after a 2 year hiatus. I’m re-re-re-starting my memoir project. The latest idea is to use the actual text I wrote (and published anonymously) back in 1997.
It was picked up and reposted on the web in a few places. Over 1M views-this was way before blogging, and way, way before social media. On my pre and early days of transition.
Writing to fill in more of the before and since then.
…29 years later. It’s a cliche but so true how time zips by.
Lots of serendipity and Zelig-like moments that created tangents/new directions. I never thought I’d live past 27, never thought I’d be able to transition, never thought I’d get married AND divorced, never thought I’d have my heart heal after so many breaks and losses, and never thought I could ever have the chance to update my story and to finally be not-anonymous.
Thank you for sharing! We're glad you're telling your story again.
Watched all the videos on writing a memoir and this was one of the most succinct and helpful, thank you!
This was so incredibly helpful information, thank you. I've been tossing around the idea of a memoir for YEARS. Coz all my years in retail (8 at a book store even) i've had people I don't really know, or just met expressing deep curiosity and interest in knowing and hearing about my life. I've long been focused on a young adult novel but people keep bringing my mind and focus back to my life and me and it seems like a sign I just need to follow.
I always wanted to approach it like a movie, coz movies are how I like to digest story frequently. But when it's your life and your experiences sometimes it feels like we're too close to decide exactly where to start.
It seems when I tell people about my life, no matter what part, it seems fantastical and exaggerated because it's so crazy! I get told all the time it sounds like a movie. And it does. I feel like people think i'm making it up sometimes. I took heavy notes from this video. I'm going to subscribe and start doing what you suggested.
I actually had to do something similar for my y.a. story (i'm still writing). I had to stop the general story and write down names, family trees, and history of events that took place before the characters in the main story existed because it was detrimental to how I tell about the events happening now to them. So this actually makes a lot of sense to me!! Thanks again!!
You're very welcome! Best of luck to you on your writing journey 💕
I just found your channel - I’ve never considered reading other memoirs for the purpose of researching how to write my own one day - though it seems so obvious! I mostly listen to audio books but I get a sense this exercise would be much better served by reading the paper book - I’m so excited - I think it’s been over 5 yrs since I’ve read a real book in my hands! Thank you!! Vivi
Hi Vivi! So glad to hear that this video has helped you, wishing you all the best 💕
Thank you so much! This was a great video & gave me such clarity.
So glad to hear! Wishing you all the best :)
Excellent video! I couldn't help but embed it in my article on writing autobiographies. Thank you for sharing!
Thanks so much! I'm glad the content was helpful.
I wrote my first memoir based on universal life lessons that everyone learns. I learned as a child on a small broken down farm. One lady who grew up in a high rise apt building in NYC told me she could relate to every lesson. Bingo! I knew I hit my goal. Even memoir is written for the reader. Not for the author. Love your videos
Thank you, Judy, and thank you for watching. So glad you were able to bring your words and your experiences to the world!
Some solid advice. Thanks for taking the time to share your professional insights.
Also, do you have any recommondations for crime based or photo driven memoirs? I happen to have tome very compelling visuals that help to drive the stories, as the stories enhance the visuals, but I don't know of anything that has been done in such a way that there would be images placed throughout. Is it a concept that simply won't work?
@@scottlunn4327, Thanks for your question! It is fairly commonplace to include a photo insert if there are visuals that are compelling and even required for the reader to understand the book. However, having photos throughout the book is possible as well, as long as you can run them in black and white. If they need to be in color in order to be understood, a photo insert is the best idea so that you don’t have to run the entire book in 4-color. Four-color printing is very expensive and requires glossy paper which is not necessary or normal for a text-driven book. Hope this helps!
Thank you so much for this information!!
You're so welcome. Thanks for watching!
Great video
Thank you, Karl! -Ayesha
What a spark of inspiration, thanks this motivates me to write.
We're so happy to hear this was a motivator for you! Good luck on your journey. Let us know how it goes for you.
Hi Kelly. I just came across your clip here and you explain things very well. I'm beginning my adventure in writing my story. Looking forward to it. I'm going to read the books you recommended. Especially the first two. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. Grandma's Angel's
Thanks for the explanation of how to write a memoir, it’s pretty much how I thought it would be all these years of thinking about writing my book. I think maybe I might be a little too young I’m 39 but I’ve had a long life so far. Allot of good times and some not so good. I feel like mine- would be ranked right up there with best sellers if I can just write it out correctly. wish me luck, and again thank you for the video
Thanks for watching. It sounds like you have a great experience to share. Can't wait to hear how it goes for you! Best of luck.
Thank you. i love how fast you speak
Thanks for commenting!
You are awesome! As a child and teen,I read often.Life is so busy know I don't get to read like I use too however I've rather read them watch T.V. I love creating memorable moments in my writing!
Great to hear. Thanks for watching. Happy writing!
Thank you for the book recommendations. I rented them from the library and look forward to reading them!
Thank you! No fluff in this video at all. Just found you and subscribed! ❤️
This was huge for me. Amazing tips that will hopefully help me get going! Thank you.
So happy to help! Thanks for watching and for your kind comments.
This was extremely helpful and on par with my editor’s notes. Thank you for helping me see my memoir in a broader, reader based sense!
So glad we could help!
Just purchased Caravan of no despair. Can’t wait to read.
Wonderful! Let us know what you think of it.
Love this! So helpful. Thank you.
We're so glad! Thank you for commenting!
This was so helpful, glad to have found your channel, thanks! :)
Thank You! Best Luck!
You are so welcome. Thanks for watching!
Thank you for posting. Appreciate your insights. :-)
thank you so much!
You're welcome! 💗
wow what an awesome video. good info, great suggestions, beautiful smile!
Great video once again. So much wisdom and knowledge. Thank u
Thank you for watching!
Excellent advice, thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you so much for this helpful video and your free PDFs! I am currently writing a memoir on my father and will be looking for an editor in the near future, so I made sure to subscribe and write your name down. Thank you for the 3 Book Outlines workpage, it was the first time I was able to write my story step by step with the Hero's Journey! It has brought so much clarity to my project. Thank you!!
Love this video...thank you for sharing.
Thank you for watching!
Thank you for your videos. I just finished my memoir and sent my query letter to two literary agents. Hopefully it will go well. I wrote a lot in college. I am hoping my writing will be up to there standards. If anything, I will self publish if I need to. Your videos were extremely helpful.
So happy to hear it, Steven! We have lots of great resources here on our channel to help you on your journey.
Wonderful video. Very informative. Thank you so much..
You are so welcome!
This was incredibly helpful. Thank you.
You're so welcome. Thanks for watching!
Thank you so much for your sound advice. I appreciate your time and insight on a topic that can feel overwhelming. The way you explain everything is easy to digest and utilize. I just subscribed to your channel, and look forward to seeing more of your content.
Thank you so much for subscribing! Cheers! --Ayesha
This is fabulous content!! I AM LEARNING SO MUCH!!! Thank you so much!!
You are so welcome. I'm so glad you are finding it helpful!
Thank you so much I really appreciate everything you shared
You are so welcome. Thank you for your comment!
Excellent advice and observations... thanks. I was gasping a little, having to re-wind several times due to the speaker's record breaking syllables-per -second rate. Thanks again!
This video really packs a punch with useful tips about developmental and scene writing when crafting a memoir. Thank you so much for spelling it out and for including reference books that I can both enjoy and learn from. Do you lead any Zoom classes on character development that where we can share writing assignments with others for feedback? If not, I'd love your recommendation. Thank you again.
I suggest scheduling a free consultation with one of our matchmakers! They will be able to guide you in the right direction ☺️
The best help - phenomenal video - thanks
Thank you so much for this!
You're so welcome. Thanks for watching!
I needed to hear this. Thank you 💙
You are so welcome. Thanks for watching!
Thank you this video was extremely helpful.
You are absolutely brilliant. Really impressive.
Thanks for sharing
Have a blessed day 💜😇
This is amazing advice! Thank you
You're so welcome. Thanks for watching, Mia!
Thank you! I was actually doing this , writing in scenes, but I thought it was wrong .
Sounds like you were already on the right track!
Excellent post, it really helped. The reader is shown not told...got it.
I'm so glad it was helpful!
So good! Very sensible and clear advice, obviously from an understanding of both sides, the editor's and writer's/protagonist's perspectives. Thank you for sharing it! 🙌
You're welcome. Thanks for watching!
I just discovered your channel. I'm writing, and it's helping me a lot! As I write, I am banging out memoir after memoir that teachers like you are recommending. Currently reading "Angela's Ashes" and right away I noticed there are no quotation marks around any of the dialogue. Can you comment on why, and how the author might have decided to omit this?
Great video. Very helpful!! You're very articulate.
Thank you for watching! Glad the video was helpful! 🤍
This is gold.
I'm so happy to hear this was helpful to you. Thanks for watching!
Ver helpful 🎉 thank you so much ❤
You’re welcome 😊
My memoir would be about healing from severe abuse in childhood that caused dissociative identity disorder, and becoming a foster parent and leader in the community to help children from childhoods like my own.
Wonderful. Thank you for sharing 💜
Thank you for the specific advice! I love how you tailor it to each of our stories. Through highschool, my 3 cancers were misdiagnosed, causing me to have lifelong damage, and stage 4 thyroid cancer. It's so hard to write an autobiography when there's so much to fit. I'm excited to start writing using your tips!
So glad it helped!
As always, Kelly, I have loved seeing you in the webinars and on You Tube! Your book is mentioned in my book! I have actually reached out to Annie with your company. We will be talking soon. Blessings, Dee Dee!
Yay! I'm so happy you'll be working with Annie. She is great! Thanks for watching, and for your sweet comments.
@@knliteraryarts You certainly deserve positive and "sweet" comments for going the extra mile to insure that people truly DO have a book to write. I will be contacting Annie very soon! I can hardly wait!
I’m almost ready to start my memoir. The only thing holding me back is hurting my mother. She will be a big part of my story as a drug addict and neglectful parent. I’ve long forgiven her and she has been clean for over 20 years. Any advice or “tricks” you could share to help me soften the blow to her? Leaving her out of my book isn’t an option.
Jennifer, this is a great question, and one we get often from aspiring authors. I have a great video on this very topic called "How to Tell Your Story (Even If Mom Won’t Like It)" Check it out here: ua-cam.com/video/Y-ECrSBcwH0/v-deo.html
I am now the Primary Caregiver for my mother, and I have learned to overcome the obstacles of the past by shifting my awareness of the importance of caring for her! Blessings!
@Ingenium write your story unapologetically. Whole world will be interested in it . Good luck
What an amazing video. Thank you so much! Very well done.
Thanks so much for watching! Glad you found it helpful!
You are incredible! I cannot thank you enough.
You're very welcome! 💗
Thank you for the video. I don't know why unimportant people want so badly to have their memoir wrote. If I didn't do anything with my life, I would want to be forgotten.
Thank you for your comment! I believe that if someone wants to write a memoir, they definitely should! Writing is one of the best forms of expression 😊
@@knliteraryarts I tried to help my grandmother write a memoir the other day (and I used your tips). She seemed to like the tips, but she has this idea that she can make the memoir much more exciting than she believes her life to be. There was really nothing I could do to help her at that point, I actually had to leave her house because she went crazy.
New subbie here and found this very helpful! 😊 I’ve written quite a bit just to get the memories down on paper but realize much editing is in my future. I suppose I wanted to document for my children’s sake as well. Beginning another outline draft immediately, bearing in mind your thoughts on creating scenes rather than chronological order. That makes so much sense and I agree adds more interest. Thank you for sharing! 💕
Thank you for sharing, I'm so happy this helped you! Good luck on your writing journey!
This was really helpful! Thank you.
You are so welcome. Thanks for watching!
I'm writing my memoirs & its just about me finding the humor in good & bad times. Ever since i was a teenager friends family etc have always told me "w/your facial expressions & you're funny stories you should do stand up comedy on open mike nights."
Through the years i realized myself that I'm not a person who can tell jokes,the punch line is lost on me i cant get a joke straight. However, I was told by my everyone who knows me , loves me, has worked w/ me & has hated me, all agree that im a great story teller because as i say often "this shit only happens to me."
I always kept journals, until my mom started reading them & i would get into a shitload of trouble, so i stopped writing. When i started writing my memoirs it was probably the 2nd most stressful time of my life. I started writing again & thought, i write as i remember the different times & struggles in my life. I thought there was NO WAY the reader was going to be able to keep up w/ leaps & bounds of decades of funny & heartbreaking stories.....
I guess I was right & wrong!
Its great t hear that
Glad the video has helped you! I wish you the best on your writing journey 💞
Every story has characters in conflict. Even protagonist is flawed and overcomes obstacles and learn from them.
I’ve been really thinking about writing my memoir which would be a similar theme as Educated. I grew up in a messianic doomsday cult (that no longer exists), but I’m not sure where on earth to start and if I should try to reconnect with others who left the cult and interview them to get that
grip on character development. I think it would be healing for me in the long run to get the story out but it’ll definitely be a traumatic read for other people, especially if it’s in scenes. There was animal sacrifice, abuse, and themes of apocalypse and terror, political extremism, lots of mental anguish. I’m not sure how to display my experience authentically but with proper care for the subject matter and other people involved. And I’m not sure how to do it without getting sued by the old leaders who are still alive, or if I should wait for them to pass away
There are many ways to approach this and all of them can be good. If you're unsure of what the outline of the book should be, try just getting started with lots of exploratory writing. From there you can decide what direction to go in. Working closely with an editor can be a huge help in shaping the story as well. When the book is done, a literary lawyer can help you make any necessary tweaks to keep you from getting sued, so that doesn't need to be a huge concern until you're ready to publish.
I'm just wondering, do you have any good scene driven memoirs you can recommend from a male perspective. I'm not trying to be sexist or anything, it's just that males and females experience things very differently and therefore express their experience differently. I am wonder if this will help craft my writing style and scenes being a male, or, is it not relevant to the reader?
There are many amazing scene-driven memoirs written by men. A few of my favorites include Beautiful Boy by David Sheff, Angela’s Ashes by Frank McCourt and Hillbilly Elegy by J.D. Vance. Hope this is helpful!
@@knliteraryarts thank you :)