@@AlyssaADUB1D Yes, I know this feeling. It is the process, your internal. You cant change other person, you cant change the past,the only thing you can change is yourself.
Bro my chick I was with for 6 years ran off with a guy never came back that was 13 months ago it took 12 months of pain everyday and night for 12 months to start feeling better
It’s been a couple of years since I wanted my ex (a definite avoidant) back. I did everything Craig said after watching many of his videos. I made the decision in that time that I didn’t want to date an avoidant. Now my ex keeps coming around and even though they won’t say it they want to get back together. I’ve moved on emotionally and have no problem ignoring them. I never thought I would be in this position of power, but here I am. I guess the point of my comment is that Craig is 100% correct in what he teaches. It works if you set your mind to it. My advice is don’t date or want an avoidant unless you want heart break after heart break.
These two are speaking truth. I was shocked : This happened to me. It took 9 months post breakup but he came back. I am whole and healed and better equipped emotionally this time. ❤
It's been a little over two weeks he's ghosted me. He done this before for three weeks. Not sure what to expect but I'm going to ignore him if he comes back!!
I cared for ny ex more than he cared for me, doesn't mean men will always care less about me, I just need to do a better job picking the right men to care about, who will care for me in return.
I haven't spoken to my ex gf since my bday 8/8 and since then her dad passed away and she didn't tell me. Today I was looking thru mail and my phone began to vibrate and it was HER calling. I didn't answer and now the ball is in my court. When you add value to their lives and disappear you send a firm message and I'm very proud of my discipline because I really loved her and the breakup was tough. I'm too strong now. Shes gotta put in some effort. Random" check ups" don't work over here 🚫
@@os3688 and after what @os3688 says to do, make contact, then go silent again. She knows you will respond, you responded with empathy and now the ball is in her court again. In the mean time, no contact, be silent, be strong and live on!
It's been more than 6 months of NC. My brain keeps flashing visuals from our time together, this is then followed by questions like: Did she even love me? Was she really who I thought she was? Was it not worth working on? Is my whole world a lie? Sometimes it hits hard. But I'm focussed on getting better. I wish her well.
@@Coreboprobably not, I learned this 6 weeks ago! We are all in the same situation bro! What they say and what they do are two completely different things! I wish i could go back to the 90s/2000s. Dating was so simple and fun. Women also were way different than now!
A few days ago somebody I barely knew told me in conversation that it’s a good thing that humans are so forgetful. We have to be, otherwise life would completely overwhelm us. I realised that he was right. Then I realised how much of my ex I had forgotten since we broke up nearly two years ago. When he left me I initially felt so terrified that I would forget him. Especially when deleted all of our photos for his new partner (ouch). But as time has gone on, I accepted that I also had to move on. And actually, on the days where I realised I hadn’t thought about him yet, I felt a real sense of achievement and joy. Let them go, and allow yourself to be free and also to heal. You will be okay 💙
Have I not let go of im still watching your videos? There was a brief period where I stopped because i genuinely tried to move on but here i am again. I just love your advice and I find comfort in these videos just like all your viewers
10 years of relationship and we had trouble when we plan to finalise it with family(usual Asian family shit). I got upset with the situation and didn’t speak for a month to her. when I return to sort it out. she was already in a relationship. Now I am left with 10 years of trauma while she makes new memories… in the end I have to choose how many battles I will have to fight.
Two years since the breakup and my avoidant ex never lifted a finger to see how I was or even say hello when we crossed paths in public a couple of times. Most don't give a rat's patootie, I fear. Stay strong, everyone. Find someone better. I did and so can you.
If they monkey branched, by cheating physically then leaving or emotionally cheated and then rebounded, or just rebounded, and got into honey moon phase, they going to be distracted for a while. Also, if she has been with another man, she’s been tainted, it will never be the same, and will not be able to fully respect you again. Also watch out for diseases when she comes back.
My ex narc has been blocked for over 12 mnths now & he hoovered me 4 mnths ago but i did not respond. It has been a hard journey in my healing process, i still think of him constantly & do miss him but i know he dosnt care about me. 😔 Moving forward has me realized i know i can find better. My mind is a little clearer now & think back of the times he used & abused me kept walking out of relationship. The multiple chances i gave him he did not deserve. I dont believe in chasing someone thats not worth my time.
Craig PLEASE “PLEASE” upload a video on how to help Dads save their family and get back with the mother of their kids!!!!I’m desperate and my kids are so broken because of mums decision to break up the family 😢😭😢😭😢😭😢😭😢 it’s killing the kids and me too
I left my x for 2 years to heal and to see if I still had feelings. I took that time to go to church and join a nice gym. Recently, I saw him and he was angry and looked very sad. We did talk, but while I'm not sure if we will come together again I'm hoping time will heal all wounds. 🙂
I did the no contact thing, and she is dating someone new now for a few months. It doesn't always work, just how life is sometimes. I don't think I'll ever hear from her again to be honest. I think she will end up marrying this person too, because we were talking about it when we were together. It has been one of the most painful things I've ever experienced.
I’m in incredible pain. The worst pain I’ve ever experienced. It’s kind of exciting. I feel alive. I’m a different case I think. Not a few months no contact. More like 4+ years. Did the indirect approach through my sister and the door was reopened. She’s was being warm to my sister ABOUT me, but is refusing to respond to any of my direct messages or calls. I’ve concluded that she’s making me pay for breaking her heart and after a few weeks of twisting the dagger in my chest we can begin reconciliation. I don’t see any reason she would knowingly do this to me for any reason besides teaching me a lesson. She could achieve more lasting and malicious results by telling me I missed out and she moved on. But she hasn’t. So ima just- I’ll bear it.
How do you let go tho? That’s the mystery. Detach, let go, move on??? None of these things are easy to do. If it was we would all be good right? Give us some info on the exact way to let go. The real deal. Thanks before hand.
Letting go is the hardest thing to do for sure but it’s the only thing that we should do for 100%! We are all in the same situation bro! Be strong! I had to go through this 6 weeks ago and I’m still struggling!
The only way is after enough time and you are healed enough, you find a younger and hotter woman than your ex. My son’s mother monkey branched after 5 years together, and after about 5 months I was finally ready to date, and I found a beautiful younger woman, and we dated for 3 years, it was mostly a good relationship but we were just at different stages in life so we both found it best to part ways amicably. My ex, once her rebound started to have problems and arguments at about 9 months post monkey branching, (which they always do after honey moon phase) got jealous of my new GF and she tried to come back and asked what I thought about getting back together 😂
She left me 6 weeks ago and i went straight to NC, she wrote 2 disturbing messages after I left her house and I didn’t even respond. I have no social media, work on myself and all that…we will probably never see each other again… so how will she come back eventually?
She contacted me yesterday after I held on to no contact for one week. She called asking me for financial assistance to get some medicine. I told her I don't have it for now which is true. I guess I will go back to no contact today. Or? What should I do guys?
Hi coach. My ex blocked me a month after the breakup (we were in no contact and I did not reach out to her even once) I just don’t know why she blocked me after a month ?
How about if my ex is with me working thesame place. And his my boss. Then asking me to work for his line. Does the talk my ex doing w/me everyday is a sign. I dont have any feelings to him. And I do know he doesn't like other women. His has a mental illness. And drinking med. So his tension is sometes low and high.. does he still feel something for me. Because he choose me against alot worker. To work for him
My avoidant gf left me in April. After 10 weeks she reached out to my mom and 3 weeks later she reached out to me. She just went silent after 5-6 messages. Why is she doing this type of breadcrumbing ? Just to find closure ?
The only guys who have women treat them good and fall in love with them are guys who are total jerks and detached from her. Not just my problem, i have a friend who's a baseball player, very good looking, great body but he's kind hearted, so women treat him like crap.
The only women those men r attracting are broken women. If you want a healthy woman u should be kind, she’ll be attracted to your kindness, but have healthy boundaries too. I’m a woman
Sorry what was all this for if I let him go. Baby if u see this you need to call me because know you love me and I love you. So if you don't love me tell me in person and not over a text message or a phone call or a text message because I can't let u go knowing that you are okay and safe sweetheart and I need to tell me to my face please
It took me 12 months for the pain to go away when my chick of 6 years ran off with some dude never going through that again that was pain that wouldnt end it was so hard
Craig PLEASE “PLEASE” upload a video on how to help Dads save their family and get back with the mother of their kids!!!!I’m desperate and my kids are so broken because of mums decision to break up the family 😢😭😢😭😢😭😢😭😢 it’s killing the kids and me too
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Love your videos. Can you do a video on Anger & Love? Do these emotions go together? Ty 🤗
Man, it's been two months, but it still hurts like hell. To anyone going through this, I hope you get better soon
You must understand one thing- this person don't want you.
The pain is crazy fr, when I’m alone it’s tough
@@AlyssaADUB1D Yes, I know this feeling. It is the process, your internal. You cant change other person, you cant change the past,the only thing you can change is yourself.
I’m praying for everyone’s broken hearts😘😘😘❤️
Bro my chick I was with for 6 years ran off with a guy never came back that was 13 months ago it took 12 months of pain everyday and night for 12 months to start feeling better
It’s been a couple of years since I wanted my ex (a definite avoidant) back. I did everything Craig said after watching many of his videos. I made the decision in that time that I didn’t want to date an avoidant. Now my ex keeps coming around and even though they won’t say it they want to get back together. I’ve moved on emotionally and have no problem ignoring them. I never thought I would be in this position of power, but here I am. I guess the point of my comment is that Craig is 100% correct in what he teaches. It works if you set your mind to it. My advice is don’t date or want an avoidant unless you want heart break after heart break.
Agreed, an avoidance unwilling to change is a painful dead end.
These two are speaking truth. I was shocked : This happened to me. It took 9 months post breakup but he came back. I am whole and healed and better equipped emotionally this time. ❤
It's been a little over two weeks he's ghosted me. He done this before for three weeks. Not sure what to expect but I'm going to ignore him if he comes back!!
Totally and completely agree🎉🎉👏👏
The more you care about her, the less she cares about you. That's been my experience at least
I cared for ny ex more than he cared for me, doesn't mean men will always care less about me, I just need to do a better job picking the right men to care about, who will care for me in return.
@@rel0302
But the question is, will you be more attracted to the men who is very available for you or the one who is indifferent & not that available?
As a male, Hypergamy changes when you place your other on a pedestal. Creates a lot of pressure for her.
@@RobbiJamesshow
I agree. Hypergamy is only satisfied if she likes the guy more
I sort of think you’re right. That’s been my experience. They take you for granted and walk all over you.
Absolutely agree! You have to be willing to let go to bring your ex back. It has worked for me a few times, and each time was with avoidants!
yep 6 days in avoidant ex is mad and blowing up my phone soon grief then missing stages
You two probably don’t realise the positive impact you have on peoples lives - keep it up ❤
I haven't spoken to my ex gf since my bday 8/8 and since then her dad passed away and she didn't tell me. Today I was looking thru mail and my phone began to vibrate and it was HER calling. I didn't answer and now the ball is in my court. When you add value to their lives and disappear you send a firm message and I'm very proud of my discipline because I really loved her and the breakup was tough. I'm too strong now. Shes gotta put in some effort. Random" check ups" don't work over here 🚫
Stay focused. Great job.
@@NDN_FTR 💪🏾
@@os3688 and after what @os3688 says to do, make contact, then go silent again. She knows you will respond, you responded with empathy and now the ball is in her court again. In the mean time, no contact, be silent, be strong and live on!
It's been more than 6 months of NC. My brain keeps flashing visuals from our time together, this is then followed by questions like: Did she even love me? Was she really who I thought she was? Was it not worth working on? Is my whole world a lie?
Sometimes it hits hard. But I'm focussed on getting better. I wish her well.
My thoughts exactly. All the times she said she was in love with me, was that real?
@@Coreboprobably not, I learned this 6 weeks ago! We are all in the same situation bro! What they say and what they do are two completely different things! I wish i could go back to the 90s/2000s. Dating was so simple and fun. Women also were way different than now!
@@Corebo Right? I wish I really knew that also?
I’m with both of you. Mine’s an avoidant. Their words don’t match their actions💔💔
No contact 3 months now, did much healing and I'll never take him back. No contact woke me up ❤
I love comments like this bc it strengthens me to do the same❤️❤️. Thank you🌷🌷
A few days ago somebody I barely knew told me in conversation that it’s a good thing that humans are so forgetful. We have to be, otherwise life would completely overwhelm us.
I realised that he was right. Then I realised how much of my ex I had forgotten since we broke up nearly two years ago.
When he left me I initially felt so terrified that I would forget him.
Especially when deleted all of our photos for his new partner (ouch).
But as time has gone on, I accepted that I also had to move on. And actually, on the days where I realised I hadn’t thought about him yet, I felt a real sense of achievement and joy.
Let them go, and allow yourself to be free and also to heal.
You will be okay 💙
You can either be happy without your ex, or unhappy without them. The choice is yours, and either way they are gone…
The pain of letting go is actually less than the pain I was carrying because he wasn't meeting my needs.
Been watching these videos for years, learned so much, but I could care less about my ex, I’m only here to learn and to enjoy coach Victorias smile
Could care less?
If you love something let it free, if it comes back it’s yours if not it never was 🦋… do it when YOU are ready
I like this one better: if you love them, let them go. If they come back, it means nobody else wanted them..
Set them free again😂
@@Champman543😂😂 damn
you look cutee, u got ig? wont share it
@@michaelmich00 oh mate I’m gay 😂
@@michaelmich00 thank you though
Have I not let go of im still watching your videos? There was a brief period where I stopped because i genuinely tried to move on but here i am again. I just love your advice and I find comfort in these videos just like all your viewers
Well, I totally blew it with the no contact today. I’m gonna go right back to no contact immediately.
I'm overwhelmed with a confusing mixture of feelings about the way things went down between her and I.
There's a saying that goes something like this, "if you love somebody let them go. If they come back it was meant to be, if they don't it never was"
So what if both people think that
Thank you Craig and Victoria. Your expertise and also ability to convey with clarity is exceptional…
10 years of relationship and we had trouble when we plan to finalise it with family(usual Asian family shit). I got upset with the situation and didn’t speak for a month to her. when I return to sort it out. she was already in a relationship. Now I am left with 10 years of trauma while she makes new memories… in the end I have to choose how many battles I will have to fight.
Two years since the breakup and my avoidant ex never lifted a finger to see how I was or even say hello when we crossed paths in public a couple of times. Most don't give a rat's patootie, I fear. Stay strong, everyone. Find someone better. I did and so can you.
Let them be, they know your number and prob where you work, where you live. If they really wanted to contact you, they would and they can
Yes! So True!!!
It doesn't even matter. Relationships are hard. Its almost like no one is destined to be together. Not worthbthe effort.
Great advice difficult but true..working on it
not only respecting them also to respect yourself even if i do miss him and love him but the idea of reaching out to him first scares me
If they monkey branched, by cheating physically then leaving or emotionally cheated and then rebounded, or just rebounded, and got into honey moon phase, they going to be distracted for a while. Also, if she has been with another man, she’s been tainted, it will never be the same, and will not be able to fully respect you again. Also watch out for diseases when she comes back.
Its been a year and I still think about him 😢
My ex narc has been blocked for over 12 mnths now & he hoovered me 4 mnths ago but i did not respond. It has been a hard journey in my healing process, i still think of him constantly & do miss him but i know he dosnt care about me. 😔 Moving forward has me realized i know i can find better. My mind is a little clearer now & think back of the times he used & abused me kept walking out of relationship. The multiple chances i gave him he did not deserve. I dont believe in chasing someone thats not worth my time.
Craig PLEASE “PLEASE” upload a video on how to help Dads save their family and get back with the mother of their kids!!!!I’m desperate and my kids are so broken because of mums decision to break up the family 😢😭😢😭😢😭😢😭😢 it’s killing the kids and me too
Thanks for the info Craig and Vicky. Happy Labor Day!
Same to you!
Great information 🙌
I left my x for 2 years to heal and to see if I still had feelings. I took that time to go to church and join a nice gym. Recently, I saw him and he was angry and looked very sad. We did talk, but while I'm not sure if we will come together again I'm hoping time will heal all wounds. 🙂
I did the no contact thing, and she is dating someone new now for a few months. It doesn't always work, just how life is sometimes. I don't think I'll ever hear from her again to be honest. I think she will end up marrying this person too, because we were talking about it when we were together. It has been one of the most painful things I've ever experienced.
No bro … she will be back but by then you must have moved on … Mark my words ✌️
@@Rocky76549 I wish you were right man, I'm doing all the things to move on. Its just taking me some time because I loved this woman.
@@Rocky76549 I don't know man, I'm trying to do all the things to move on. Its just been hard for me because I loved this woman.
Any update??
I’m in incredible pain. The worst pain I’ve ever experienced. It’s kind of exciting. I feel alive.
I’m a different case I think. Not a few months no contact. More like 4+ years. Did the indirect approach through my sister and the door was reopened. She’s was being warm to my sister ABOUT me, but is refusing to respond to any of my direct messages or calls. I’ve concluded that she’s making me pay for breaking her heart and after a few weeks of twisting the dagger in my chest we can begin reconciliation.
I don’t see any reason she would knowingly do this to me for any reason besides teaching me a lesson. She could achieve more lasting and malicious results by telling me I missed out and she moved on. But she hasn’t.
So ima just- I’ll bear it.
How do you let go tho? That’s the mystery. Detach, let go, move on??? None of these things are easy to do. If it was we would all be good right? Give us some info on the exact way to let go. The real deal. Thanks before hand.
Letting go is the hardest thing to do for sure but it’s the only thing that we should do for 100%!
We are all in the same situation bro! Be strong! I had to go through this 6 weeks ago and I’m still struggling!
The only way is after enough time and you are healed enough, you find a younger and hotter woman than your ex. My son’s mother monkey branched after 5 years together, and after about 5 months I was finally ready to date, and I found a beautiful younger woman, and we dated for 3 years, it was mostly a good relationship but we were just at different stages in life so we both found it best to part ways amicably. My ex, once her rebound started to have problems and arguments at about 9 months post monkey branching, (which they always do after honey moon phase) got jealous of my new GF and she tried to come back and asked what I thought about getting back together 😂
She left me 6 weeks ago and i went straight to NC, she wrote 2 disturbing messages after I left her house and I didn’t even respond. I have no social media, work on myself and all that…we will probably never see each other again… so how will she come back eventually?
Thank you Craig
Thank you.
She contacted me yesterday after I held on to no contact for one week.
She called asking me for financial assistance to get some medicine. I told her I don't have it for now which is true. I guess I will go back to no contact today.
Or? What should I do guys?
What do I do? I work closely with him. How can I do no contact?
I accept break up and going to no contact now I am moving on
He broke up with me 4 times and it feels hurtful... Found a lot of women too what should I do now I wish things weren't like that
Hi coach. My ex blocked me a month after the breakup (we were in no contact and I did not reach out to her even once) I just don’t know why she blocked me after a month ?
*UUUMMM they had a storm in their area so I had to call them 😂😂*
That was a real excuse I heard recently!
So how can this person see that I’ve changed if I can’t speak to them or talk to them how is no contact or us not seeing each other helping anything?
How about if my ex is with me working thesame place. And his my boss. Then asking me to work for his line. Does the talk my ex doing w/me everyday is a sign. I dont have any feelings to him. And I do know he doesn't like other women. His has a mental illness. And drinking med. So his tension is sometes low and high.. does he still feel something for me. Because he choose me against alot worker. To work for him
Having no contact is really hard! I miss him so much but I won't chase him. I think he's moved on and Im really confused. I think he was using me.
My avoidant gf left me in April. After 10 weeks she reached out to my mom and 3 weeks later she reached out to me. She just went silent after 5-6 messages.
Why is she doing this type of breadcrumbing ?
Just to find closure ?
She wanted you to chase her
I let him go, and he. didn't come back.
So what does "letting go" even mean?
Cause they're let go. They've been let go for a while now.
We both love eachother but family issue & sechuation end tha relationship..... at this sechuation how can i move on plzz make a video about this
Hi
Is letting go mainly a man issue?
Are you two a couple? The looks u2 give each other during these videos 🤔
The only guys who have women treat them good and fall in love with them are guys who are total jerks and detached from her. Not just my problem, i have a friend who's a baseball player, very good looking, great body but he's kind hearted, so women treat him like crap.
The only women those men r attracting are broken women. If you want a healthy woman u should be kind, she’ll be attracted to your kindness, but have healthy boundaries too. I’m a woman
Women rarely return after a break up. Enjoy your time without her.
If you're too forgettable then yes. All my ex's came back after no contact
@RebelTitan 21 year marriage, she found a new guy pretty quick.
@@boriskarloff598 it won't last long mate. Trust the process. Move on
Sorry what was all this for if I let him go. Baby if u see this you need to call me because know you love me and I love you. So if you don't love me tell me in person and not over a text message or a phone call or a text message because I can't let u go knowing that you are okay and safe sweetheart and I need to tell me to my face please
It took me 12 months for the pain to go away when my chick of 6 years ran off with some dude never going through that again that was pain that wouldnt end it was so hard
Most painful thing in the world
Craig PLEASE “PLEASE” upload a video on how to help Dads save their family and get back with the mother of their kids!!!!I’m desperate and my kids are so broken because of mums decision to break up the family 😢😭😢😭😢😭😢😭😢 it’s killing the kids and me too