Will Western Culture RUIN A Filipina?
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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
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Will western culture ruin a Filipina? Is a heavy does of western culture ruining me? Will your relationship be DOA after bringing her back to your home country? Join me for an in-depth look at the dangers, and ways you can maximize your chances of success! Will western culture ruin a Filipina? Not if you watch this video, and know what to watch out for!
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Hello ma'am. Your channel, for some reason, popped up on my feed. So Im new to the party.
Questions for you:
Are you married? Or dating anyone?
I saw you were here in the US recently. Will you be coming back to the states you visited to live?
What is your real name? (Probably will not get an answer to this question, but I thought I would ask anyhow).
If you have videos addressing and answering the questions I asked, could you PLEASE link them in your response? Thank you ma'am!
I have love for the pea, but I wouldn't bring her here and marry her in just a month. I'm PRETTY sure she's a sweetheart, but I would need quite a few hours of talking and getting to know each other before i'd ever ask her to move here with me. While she is well-educated and moderately well acclimated to American culture, a month isn't long enough to acclimate to ME.
1:29 I don't know about the control part. But more Like the protection for the women that we want to date/girlfriends/married in the philippines Because I think I speak for majority of men. We do not want you to be a part of all this BS.
What about Security that recently got caught stealing $300 at the Manila Airport?
@@ravenlorans Manila sucks…!!
Regardless, the security is trash. They most likely saw an influx of Americans coming there and now corruption is again going to take over
The quality of the vids, in conjunction with the rate she’s able to make them, blows me away. She obviously puts a lot of effort into making them, and somehow almost makes it seem effortless. Very impressive
Thanks, Chill 👍
Literally all I do is work - I’m already starting on Tuesdays vid 😳
(I need a vacation while on vacation) 🤣
The wisdom she freely gives us, is invaluable
@@TheFilipinaPea you don't have any VAs or helpers ?
She's AI
@@TheFilipinaPea it shows
I knew my Filipina wife for 2 years before marrying her in 1981. She was traditional in many ways but highly educated and familiar with American culture since her father worked at Clark AFB. We were close in age as well. To make a long story short, we’re still together! Didn’t know anything about Pre-nups at the time, but neither of us had much when we were first together. Thankfully, things worked out. So much so, that my son also married a Filipina and they have 3 handsome boys! I guess there are exceptions to everything.
Yeah man I have 2 co-workers with Filipina wives and they've been together for many years. One of the Filipinas went ro school here in the US and got a bunch of medical certifications and stuff and now makes more money than him and they are still together, and the other one is a faithful homemaker (he's retired now so I don't keep in touch but they were together when he retired at least).
The big secret to why it worked for them? They're in similar age groups maybe 5-10 years apart at max (I never asked their ages but could tell). It's a different story when a 60 year old fat guy brings a hot 20 or 30 something over here and suddenly she realizes her value is much higher than she thought. At the end of the day most relationships don't last anyways whether it's domestic or international so just cover your ass like Pea said and hope for the best.
@@adamtwelve I guess you can say my relationship lasted. We’ll be married 43 years this coming January.
I'm curious, what brings you to a channel like this? It seems like this channel is more for (and about) teaching people about Filipino culture who are not very familiar with it.
@@AndrewDaniele87 Pea is right on the money with her assessment of being with a Filipina is like. It only took me 40 years of being married to one to learn. I still find the videos enlightening.
Way back, I had a Filipina girlfriend for about 2 years. I didn't bring her to U.S., her parents did, and she had lived here for at least 4 years before we met. She was quite traditional, and would have made precisely a "traditional wife" that so many guys want, but that's not just because she was a Filipina. Her natural personality was shy and introverted, and she wasn't adapting very well in the U.S.; Being an immigrant myself (from Eastern Europe), I could sympathize with her difficulties.
However what I've seen happen, is an introverted guy brings over a vivacious and energetic girl from a 3rd world country - because that's the girl who will pounce at the chance to marry a foreigner, and will easily seduce him into doing that. Of course - she will be savvy, she will quickly make connections, and figure out her advantages, no matter where she goes. A shy and introverted girl could in theory do that too, but she's much less likely to, because her personality doesn't naturally drive her to such things. She doesn't want boundless growth, she just wants security, peace and quiet.
Very important point. Figure out, which personality type your partner is.
@@Perky32 as someone said before - if you're not a tiger, don't choose a tigress for your mate - or she'll eat you!
@@markrcca5329oh shit
I'm kitty chow!
@@Perky32It's too late if you consider her your partner already. The time to evaluate is during courting. Even the problem with this is love or annoyance can happen without our consent, and love or infatuation makes us blind to sometimes glaring problems. The fact she is stubborn might actually be a plus, but that annoys you. Her 'openness to experience' may seem like a plus, but it may be an actual minus.
Great comment. @@troy3456789
I totally agree with everything you say in this video, Pea, because I've lived it. At age 40 (at the hight of my career) I brought a 25 year old Filipina to Belgium and married her. I never had to introduce her to any Filipina community here. She found that all by herself and that's where she was poisoned. She succeeded in doing lots of things behind my back without me ever finding out. After all, she now had a network of Filipinas in Belgium who could cover up for her. After 14 years of marriage I divorced her. Fortunately I had made her sign a prenup (I would never get married without one, not even to a local woman) or she would have left with half of my belongings. I do know quite a few Belgian men who married a Filipina WITHOUT that prenup and I know at least one who is staying with his Filipina wife because he's not very well off and can't afford to lose half of his assets. Financially I got out of this marriage without any damage on the Belgian side. On the Filipines side, however, I lost my house in Ormoc, but that is of course another story: one about the impossibility for foreigners to own real estate in the Philippines (a topic you have already dealt with a few times). Now there are Belgian men who have found a good Filipina wife (I think, because obviously I don't know what goes on behind closed doors) but I have learned from my mistakes and will never again bring a Filipina to my country. All I can say to guys who are still considering it is: look before you leap!
I can relate. Met many asawa group couples.... they rarely feel any romantic love for their petitioners. It's all about sending money home. One new "bride" only consummated the marriage one time and was banging a hot Chad (can't blame her as she was sent by family on "mission green card" to be a lifetime OFW). Admittedly, none of the men marrying brides were tall, young, handsome men. It was transactional from the start. But, they deluded themselves (as did I) it was love.
dude, I am living that right now. She lies when the truth would serve her better, and gets mad that I chat with anyone on the phone, even though I have no interest (sexual) in whomever I might be talking with. I am hoping she goes back to the Philippines as she is threatening too. She has a Filipina friend who is highly manipulative. The friend's husband is a vet with 100% disability most of it a lie, she wants me to do it, free money, I have honor and will not take money I did not earn. Listens to her friend rather than me, someone who has only worked at McDonald's. I have given her tons of money and am getting out of debt now because of her and she gets mad when I don't just give her money when she wants it.
Well as you already learned in the Philippines you don't have to worry about her taking your house, because you never had one.
You didn't lose your house in the Philippines because it was never yours to begin with, and you seem to know that too.
@@MissingLink-hb9ov The moral of the story is: Don't give money. Have the snip. Never petition. (in other words, no "cope").
Pre nup is the way to go. Bottom line buddy, never ever trust a younger filipina. Period. Never. Especially if you brought her to western ways. Tour ass is grass. Lol
My filipina and I have been together for 27 years. We did not see or heard each other voices for the first 3 years or so. We only wrote letters to each other. Our marriage is really heaven on earth. Thank you Pea for helping me understand my beloved flower.
Great post and you both deserve a Medal for 27 years of marriage. You are both really lucky, and I hope I am that lucky.
Wow 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Count your blessings and there will be more blessings for you to count has been our secret plus lots of laughter too.
I am happy for you both. I hope you share many more happy years together. 🌞
@spankybrownspoon3228 Thank you. We want the same for you and much much more ❤️.
i met my wife in Manila and she immediately impressed me as a trustworthy, well educated woman of faith and integrity. I trusted her right away and after 1 year of courtship, going to Ph 3x and spending weeks together. Getting to know her family (all well educated, working in Makati), we got married in the US and have been living here for 4.5 years. She speaks english well and stays connected to her large family via video chat. We have only been back to visit once so far in 2022 because of covid. I'd say that the biggest hurdle for her is the lack of foods that she loves - fresh seafood and vegetables that you can easily get in Ph. She has liked it here from the start. i think mostly that it is safe and clean and somewhat orderly. we will be going to visit her family with our 9 month old boy in just a few weeks. Very exciting!
Congrats bro.
Nice!!!
Nice what state you live in?
And is it near the city or country/woods?
You found a good 👍 one congratulations man.
They have Filipino Markets in the US. They have a store in Springfield Mo. With a small restaurant in the back. They also have Joe's crab shack, and Red Lobster 🦞 Some Bas Pro shops have restaurants that serve seafood.
Videos like this is what makes Pea legit. Plainly speaking about the pros and cons of moving to and bringing someone from a foreign country. No flowery language or sweet words to make the medicine easier
Sometimes the truth is bitter 🤣👍
@@TheFilipinaPea by seeing the truth before sampling it, you can reject the bitter options for better options!
@@TheFilipinaPeayet balanced it works some an doesn’t some other for those who won’t do the right research on their knew foreign lover so long as a man is as careful as he can be investigating what he needs he should be fine, an if it doesn’t work out at least the experience is as you stated “was in heaven” lol
Pea, I'm not surprised about this video..... you've been doing this from the very beginning. Classic Pea. I recall a video you did that really upset the PH locals (but you just let things cool off a bit). You've always been true and time-tested. One thing I can say is you are respected by friends and foes.
@@TheFilipinaPea I think you are pandering to your misogynic audience, I find it disappointing.
I'm one of the lucky ones my wife has been here for over a year now and has for the most part been able to make the adjustments. I remember the day I picked her up at the airport and the first thing I explained to her that she was no longer in the Philippines and no matter what she has heard or seen on TV or in the movies things are different here and that she would see for her self.
Wow, a whole year.....
Have you noticed any differences in her? 😊
@E-stylz-1967 congrats on the "over 1 year" benchmark. However stay tuned. There have been many of couples (east meets west) who set up You Tube channels and gave advice. Many of these east meets west marriages fell apart IN THE WEST.
One couple (Bruce and Yuri) had a very strong You Tube following and they even wrote a 📖 book.
Where are they now ?
Endsville😢
They broke up. To be fair there are success stories, but unless you live in Maine, Alaska, or the Dakotas the odds are tough.
In any event good luck with your marriage.
@@Buildsolarhomes Your correct about in Alaska.....i learned the hard way in 2002 🙄
Pea. I can't express how 100% accurate you are, and your advice is so spot on. This is by far your best and most insightful video to date, and I have been with you since the beginning. You are truly an amazing, insightful person. Keep up the great work that you do. ❤ you Pea!
Disaster avoided! You have great insights Pea and people should heed your advice I have been extremely blessed finding my Filipina. Maria was raised in the providence outside Daivo, and we meet in San Francisco through a mutual acquaintance. She was a member of a traveling choir from the Philippines, and I worked as a nurse. We dated for 6 months here in the Bay Area. This Saturday 23rd of September will be our 20th Wedding Anniversary. I could not be more grateful my Maria in my life. Pea, I pray🙏 for you to find your soul mate💕 with a happy life together. COME ON guys, this is the best Filipina, you should reach out to her and see if there is a connection. The only thing you are losing out on are years of happiness together.
Hello and thankyou for being the voice of reason and keen insight in the field of Filipina/Foreigner relations... I'm learning a lot of useful information. Bless you Pea.
Who doesn't want Pea in their life?
I have to admit that I came to the Philippines to meet a girl after talking to her on line for 5 months---yes she was more mature at 35 and gainfully employed in a government job and had good conversational English. We spent a month together in and around Manila and spent time in Subic Bay and Olongapo. I even met her family. It was funny that I knew more about places to visit around Manila than she did. After 3 months back in Australia I invited her to visit me for a month. I have no family but great friends and neighbours and she was accepted by everyone and loved her holiday---her first out of the Philippines. Six moths later I came back to the Philippines and we spent another month together and I spent more time with her family especially her niece who she had virtually raised since a 1yo. After being back in Australia for 3 months I asked her to visit me again and said she could bring her niece for a trip----they came for a month and both fitted in very well and loved Australian life and culture. I had already offered to assist her with her annulment and she had started to process. Six moths later I came back to the Philippines and we spent 1 month together travelling to Cebu and Dumaguette and talked about marriage and where we should live----I wanted 6 months in each country which she was excited about. Six moths later and she was back in Australia for a month, we got engaged and after thinking more of the pros and cons we decided it was better to live in Australia and take extended holidays to the Philippines. Six moths later I was back in the Philippines, her annulment had been granted we toured around and went to Bacolod---thought I could live there and maybe would ------but we made our plans, got all of our paperwork from the Philippines and Australia, planned a wedding and five moths later she arrived in Australia on a tourist visa, we married 5 days later and applied for a partners visa. So really I think spending time talking on line for nearly 4 years and visiting each country we had a great foundation . She was mature, fitted into life in Australia very easily and now 4 years later is applying for citizenship and we are still in love
Your crazy man
How long did that annulment take?
Why would you do that? There are plenty or filipinas in Australia already, and we don't need more immigrants. You're just adding to your own problems down the line, whilst making it worse for everyone who's living here already
@@DoubtingThomas333shut up
Congratulations man.
Ms Pea this should be a training video that is mandatory for every foreigner thinking of dating a Filipina, let alone marrying one. For me the best option (and it’s not an option for everyone) is to move to the Philippines and live with your partner there. Just getting a Filipina out of the Country can be a nightmare to begin with. But it’s the best way to see how you can get along. It worked for me. 😉 Thanks for sharing! 🙏
Facts!!
I am mentoring young men in the USA who are quality young men and relationship minded. I am recommending they go live in the Philippines while doing work with local Christian churches for 2-3 years while “bride shopping/dating” there. This adds another automatic culture touch point between them and potential brides. The young men who have come back with their Filipina brides are very happy couples, and one of them decided to just stay in the Philippines. He is also a very happy husband. There are old American church ladies who complain about what I do because they cannot pawn off their reamed out high body count granddaughters and daughters onto the single young men at church like they used to do.
@@MegusKhana lot of those granddaughters have been taught they don't need men anyway and they just look for like-minded girlfriends lol
Pum Pum with a lot of mileage, nobody want's there's is no tightness anymore!!@@MegusKhan
I met my wife in the philippines in 1984 for 2 months, and we were married 6 months later . and I brought her to Japan for 2 years, and we have been married for 39 years now. We have 3 girls . We share everything.
Are you two still in Japan?
Where did you settle?
@@TheFilipinaPea Pea, thanks for the ❤! Since I may have your attention for a moment, It is my experience that the BEST strategy for an American Man seeking a traditional Woman (which finding one in America have the same odds of winning the Powerball lottery), is to find one living in a "traditional Culture" - such as the Philippines, or many, many, many other Countries. It's the CULTURE that creates and _Maintains_ traditional values. As part of the strategy, once a _Fully Qualified_ bride is found, Both her and the Man should relocate to another Country that has traditional values steeped in its culture. No "home field advantage" for either of them
If, for example, my son finds a Filipina, I would counsel them to move a place like Vietnam, or Indonesia, or Tanzania...or someplace else like that. Why? Because the 3rd Country (with a traditional culture) will not only reinforce the male/female traditional roles, but also _Insulate_ both partners from their own societal hang-ups they will inevitably bring with them. And as a bonus, a Couple living in a 3rd Country will benefit from an "Us vs. the World" partnership, where everything is new to BOTH of them and must be navigated together. @garyheincy2229 has done this, and it would be interesting to see how it worked out.
This is probably the most important video for any Western man thinking of going overseas. Thank you Pea for this treasure trove of valuable information. You are such an asset to men thinking of dating outside their own culture. Semper Fidelis 🇺🇸
TRUST PEA. This video is required watching. Especially for any Western man who is considering bringing his Filipina to his home country. I could not find a single part of this video that I didn't agree with wholeheartedly. Thank you, Pea! 😎👍
You hit the nail on the head today Pea! From past experiences I agree 150% and I hope the western guy's listen...👍😁
I’ll see if my weekly emails about this subject finally decrease 🤣
@@TheFilipinaPea like I said before Pea, I've got the nightmare from hell story and if all your followers would listen, their best option is to go to the Philippines and stay there for 6 months or better yet longer.
Wish I knew you were going to Gatlinburg, I am not to far from there.
@@TheFilipinaPeawell, If i marry with a Filipina, i want to stay in filipina...
Afternoon, Pea
...and always let the ads play
I wish I could watch my own ads 🤣🤣
@@TheFilipinaPeaIt's worth a look! HAPPY BIRTHDAY
It’s a moot question because it’s nearly impossible for the average Filipina to get a US entry visa. Having an American partner automatically makes it harder because it’s assumed the Filipina will overstay in the US, becoming TNT. Pea has unique circumstances which made her visa approval a comparatively easy process. Pea is special! “Not your average Filipina” in her own words 😁
Some guys do manage it, but of course it means getting married, too, which can be dicey! 😊👍
You have to pass an in-person interview at the US embassy or local US consulate. Many years ago, my Ya Ya got nervous and failed her interview. However, it was lucky for me because she was 3 or 4 months pregnant. 😂😂😂😂😂😂
She was denied in the past. But years of traveling in SE Asia, a Shengen visa, building a channel and income and purchasing property and her Filipina notoriety has grown, so she had better odds at approval. Go to america illegally and the country gives you free housing, free medical and free money up to $3600 per month via tax paying citizens. Try to go there legally and get treated like you're a potential terrorist. America is broken beyond repair. Don't westernize your Filipina! Just keep her in the Philippines.
Filipino 304s use it to get to foreign countries to get a job to send money back to their families. Their foreign husbands are just tools as a way of of their poverty. Most middle class Filipinos will never get with foreigners at all in general. Filipino has already been westernised for centuries maybe not in a way that is degenerate in the west with the deconstruction of moral boundaries. But the Philippines will get there with their institution's cultural betrayal of traditional societal norms which is a drawback from their pre-colonial past and traditional Spanish Catholic upbringing. Single motherhood is a symptom of decay and death of society and it has nothing to do with being modern. Filipino women getting pregnant out of wedlock because the shame involved in the legal codes where illegitimate children have no legal right to inherit property has been ignored with law changes. Filipino women have lost their way. This will destroy Filipino society in the future like it has done in the west where gender dysphoria and other forms of mental illness has been fabricated to be an imaginary human right.
@@airwess3369of course, Western Culture can and will RUIN Filipino women. The difference in size is huge. Just search for BBC on many adult sites , and you'll see what I mean.
Once again, thank you for your videos and for being who you are. IMO, you are a world treasure! Please keep up the good work.
You are spot on Miss Pea. I know a lot of Filipina American marriages and most work out well but the ones that don’t are pure hell. A prenup is essential. My Filipina is well educated and very fluent in English. She was very familiar with American culture before she came here. We spent 5 years getting to know each other before we decided to get married. My advice is get to know each other well first. Be careful but that goes even more so if you marry a western woman.
Pea, this should be a must see video for all men seeking and bringing a filipina to the USA. 22 years ago , I was a passport bro who met and dated a filipina. We had a year and a half of visits. I asked her to marry me after a year long romance. I brought my filipina back to the USA. I took my time to slowly introduce my girl to the USA culture. We had ups and downs, but now 20 years of marriage and two kids, my filipina is the best decision I have eve made. She kept her philipine traditions, but adapted to the culture here in the USA, I'm a happy man
Success is inspiring. You are obviously a an intelligent, compassionate, honest man too (other part of the equation that seems to be skipped over)
Amazing advice and insight. I've been married to a Panamanian for over 40 years and mad the very mistakes that you have brought up. I was a very young and shortsighted (ignorant) young Soldier and had no real understanding of the problems we were about to face. It was a very hard time (mostly for her) as she was isolated from her family and culture as I was traveling the world and doing Soldier stuff. She was at home raising the kids and adapting ....luckily the Military support systems were there and we weren't the first in history to make many many mistakes. .....
Not only does she get her own lawyer, ( A requirement for legally binding prenups actually. ) it needs to be a Filipino lawyer that speaks her language so she can't claim that her English wasn't/isn't so good and she didn't really understand what he was saying and therefore what she was signing.
Yep ..... a common ploy is to plead poor English.
Well beautiful wise advice and good advice Ms. Pea and I am thankful for it.
Pea, you are so completely awesome 🥳 I wish more filipinas had your attitude, personality, and common-sense 🙏🏽
Greatttt video Pea. I've made these mistakes in the past as I brought someone over from the Ukraine. It was a complete disaster as you've talked about here. I would never bring a filipina to the U.S. now as I've learned from my past experience. Great advise.
WOW.....never ceased to be amazed by your insights and abilities to communicate straight forward with no BS and fearlessness to tell it like it really is.
Please continue to be the real you 🙏
Thanks Paul, and yes I’ll never change 👍❤️
@@TheFilipinaPea great 👍
The Cell phone is in my opinion the greatest obstacle of transitioning to Western Culture. The vast majority of Filipina I know are continuously networking on the cell phone and the amount of negative influence is overwhelming. Constant comparison of status and quality of life issues never end. One Filipina gets a new car, goes on vacation or any other personal gain and it is spread all over Facebook. Gossip never ends. Along with a prenup move to an area where there is no cell service.
Yeah I'm thinking about moving to Alaska and living on my boat, cell service will be hit or miss, and the further from a major city the less likely it will work.
Same with girls from Thailand.
Today's message was honest, straightforward, sincere, genuine and generative.
It sends an important message to anyone considering bringing a new bride into their country. I would also argue that your advice is also likely to be useful to a female who is committed to integrating a new husband into their community or country.
Having witnessed the difficulties experienced by native-born residents of the USA that have marred natives of Mexico, a country which shares a 2,600 mile border with the USA, I would also argue that your advice embodies a number of universal truths.
Your intuitive cross cultural knowledge and understanding of the challenges all of us are experiencing in a world that is increasingly borderless is amazing.
Everyone considering a marriage that spans borders, languages and cultures needs to reflect upon your message.
Such a reflection is bound to result in more successful cross-border relationships and marriages.
Again, congratulations. If my plans to visit the Philippines within the next 6 months pans out, I hope that I will have the pleasure of meeting you in person.
As a longtime academic, were you my former student I would be so proud of you.
Yeah that’s true and if they see other Filipinas at a store or wherever they start talking and get each others facebooks then start hanging out in big groups. It’s like they are having there own little country inside this country
Like Americans aren't constantly glued to their cell phones. If you are over 40, fat, bald, and grey, forget it. f you are retired and + 65, forget it. You divorced your fat, controlling wife and are bitter. At 70, you think you can get full control back. Fillpnas are not going to be your slave at 25 y/o. As a younger man working to manage our factories there, if your waist size is over 30 inches, Forget it, man. And don't plan on living on SS. Your sex life is over.
For younger men who are mature but not ole, 40 is the top. You will need help getting any medicines you need.
You must completely give up your culture, so no "Caaawlege Bawl" will be seen. You will need 200K + income and 4-5M in liquid marketable securities. JP Morgan is around, and I can still trade when I have time. You must give up your Western culture mostly and learn to speak Tagalog at least. When in Rome, you speak Italian.
I belong to a VIP business club with many CEO's of our suppliers. They asked if I needed a maid. They picked a very beautiful, and she lives with me, no kids. I promptly raised the salary to 15x what they get, which is nothing, and bought VIP healthcare
for her. I invented West-East FMLA paid. 20 days off and 10 days of sick leave paid. But do not mix it up with her. I set up a household account in both names so she has money to spend on food and pay the bills. The Philippines is very slow. We have plant repair guys who come right over to fix stuff. Satphone to keep the net running and a big generator set that can power the whole house automatically, tapping 600 gallons of diesel fuel. You will need a home, and I suggest you build a 300 sq foot home on a hill with stainless supports and excellent drainage.
It has three floors, and it is primarily typhoon-proof. She has a huge master bedroom and a big bathroom she loves.
You need to store water and have The home has five filters, so the tap water will be clean, but store 1000 gallons of fresh
water that can run through four water heaters powered by LNG. She takes care of me well, but I know she has developed
feelings that you must avoid. She wears a maid outfit and makeup even when I told her she doesn't have to do that. But
she does anyway In the household account, there is plenty for her to buy clothes and makeup, toiletries, and shoes.
She did not finish high school. So asked the CEO of one of our suppliers at my expense to get her in with a bribe to the headmaster. She finished. If she wants to go to university I will send her to one she likes. It will take about 500K to build a nice home. I am not living in a condo or apartment.
I was lucky in many ways, having met my Filipina wife here in Oz. She is a medical professional and Pinay having worked in a number of Western countries and her English is same as Pea’s.
So the culture shock was lessened significantly and most importantly, I think, is that we are of the same age.
What Pea is talking about though we have witnessed when we bought her niece from the Phillipines here to study. Food, how we eat, language, family, driving, snakes, open space…….all hit her hard. She did become comfortable but took nearly two years and would not have seen her degree out without having her Tita on hand here.
Great video, Pea! You are 100% correct. There is no “one size fits all” answer to this question. I insisted on marrying my Filipina wife in the Philippines 🇵🇭 almost five years ago. She was a single Mom at 26 and I was a single Dad at 54. Age gap, yes. She is just now at 31 years of age getting her spousal visa as a permanent resident of the USA 🇺🇸. The pandemic changed our time plan to be sure. But we needed this time to lay the ground work for her transition. It is absolutely a mistake to take a young Filipina lady out of her country too quickly. The challenges she will face in the West will seem overwhelming. My wife is only now ready to come over the “Pacific Pond.” Her family supports her transition. It is in the best interest of our children too for her to come over. And still there is a lot of stress, anxiety, and financial cost to deal with as she is preparing to leave. I do not regret getting married in the Philippines 🇵🇭. Yes, I know the divorce laws are risky here in the West. Pre Nups are no guarantee of safety either. Marriage, by definition, is always a risk. My advice is to marry in the Catholic Church in the Philippines 🇵🇭 in front of her WHOLE family. Make the marriage real from the start. So when she comes to the West she can never escape the fact that your marriage is sealed before God, her family, and legally binding in the Republic of the Philippines…. her forever home. Even if she comes to live in the West, there is no escaping this. And plan to retire in the Philippines 🇵🇭 once you are done working in the West. What if you are not Catholic? I suggest you convert to Catholicism if you decide to marry a Catholic woman from the Philippines. Go to Mass! Take her. And build your family God’s way. 😊
Morning Miss Pea , I love your bluntness on telling the truth about the good and bad of interracial marriages and your advice that those seeking a partner should really get to know them
Thanks Michael! I’m pretty blunt 🤣🤣
She isn’t telling the truth 😂 she is trying to make an advertisement for herself. Not how to pick a good woman. 🙄
@ccpj0eyb319 I watch a lot of her videos, and she tells both sides and even promotes filipina relationships but with caution
This is why I love your channel, you bring both sides of an issue to light without bias or denigration. I can always count on you for solid advice and for that I truly thank you. Stay healthy and happy Pea❤️❤️❤️❤️
Always a common sense and pragmatic approach Pea in your advice to men considering the Philippines. I was relieved to see that you hadn't dyed your hair blue and had a nose ring by the time you completed this segment 🤣. One of my oldest friends who is also a divorce attorney and Coach Greg Adams on UA-cam offer this same wisdom. "Men fall in love. Women are in business" . This aligns with your advice to men to do their research and not just follow their heart.
good point but as luck will have it , most females don't think of it as a Business until there into there 20's , or as has been said recently with and i do agree with "influencers" on the internet and social media have lowered that age drastically .
@@CalmDownClown
Stay Away From Social Media Influencers.
Pea, my wife and I have been married for more than 18 months. I have been there many times. We have a farmlot there. My wife speaks multiple languages and has a decent understanding of western lifestyle. She firmly believes in our marriage. We are both older and more mature. We are patiently waiting for our opportunity to retire permanently in the Philippines 🇵🇭. We both love living in the Philippines 🇵🇭. For us, we find there is more freedom there than there is here.
Oh yeah, her parents passed on a while back. She has no significant family influence. She is happy to build a new family with me as her husband. She is very happy to get to know my son, who is a teacher in Spain. She thinks of him as her own son. We could not be happier.
It depends on the Filipina and those she is surrounded by. As a man married to a Filipina living in the USA for 5 years... I know many Filipinas that live in our area. Some Filipinas are here with their families, not with a foreigner, and they are still, for the most part, the same. Women married to Americans run the gamut, from completely Americanized to very little changes culturally. My wife has changed, but not for the worse. She's the same woman, but has chosen to take some American cultural ideas to heart and kept some Filipina cultural ideas. My wife is a smart and strong willed woman, and we lived together for a year or more in the Philippines so we really got to know each other, understand both cultures, and she visited Western countries for significant time in the past and dated other Western men before me. So I knew she was comfortable with herself, knowledgeable about the differences in culture, and wouldn't become a different person.
So, honestly, it comes down to the Filipina and the people she is surrounded with. So, first and foremost, put the time in IN THE PHILIPPINES with her. If you don't, you won't know how she will handle it, and you won't understand her culture by being part of it.
Hi Pea, I happen to know that you are right. You can give all the information you can to people but they have to find out for themselves. I belong and hang out with Filipinos here in Georgia and they say the same thing you are saying. I stayed a month and a half in the Philippines and really enjoyed it. I knew half of the information that you are giving out. Sad to say it just didn't work out for me there with the woman I met. I am with Pea, go there and spend as much time as you can with your newfound love, and find out as much as you can before you go all in. Plus the Philippines is a lot of fun. Again, Pea was also right with the comments made by guys telling their stories. Thank you Pea for the information!!!
And thank you Michael for sharing your story 👍👍
Wow….you nailed it again! Your powers of observation and communicating are nothing short of amazing…And I don’t say that very often.
Every story is different, and there are many Filipina expat tales of woe to be heard when you date in the U.S: these are the ones that didn’t work out, and of course are still in process of extricating themselves from whatever and whomever.
To be honest, in my younger dating days l saw enough red flags to start my own red flag store!
Everything from “drop me off a block away, and if a man comes running up the street take off quickly” to a very beautiful woman that stated on a first date “ I need to get married in a week-can you do that?” Luckily, I d know when to cut my losses and run.
Again…bravo! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
As you may recall, my Filipino wife has been in the USA 2 years now. However, she and I both vehemently reject non-traditional values. Therefore, we have drastically reduced the risk factor.
That sure will benefit you, yes, as long as she’s on the same page 👍👍
Best of luck to you both! ❤️❤️
How do you stay on the same page?
@@MG77740 in our instance: the family that prays together stays together.
@@am-fil I see. God provides the page. Nice.
I occasionally hear a friend complaining that his relationship is not balanced as if it should be 50/50. I told his that this is a really terrible standard and he should change it to 100/100.
So she's been her two years, she should be adapted now and used to her new country, how has that panned out thus far?
This is pure wisdom. It should be required watching for men seeking a relationship, period, even for men seeking a relationship within the US. If we assume that cultural differences inside the United States are large, then this is wisdom for such a relationship as well!
My Filipina, came to the USA @ 16, I met her when she was 21, I was 31, we have been together for 26yrs, married 25, western culture didn’t ruin her, we still live in the USA, she is traditional, I work, she takes care of the family, she hasn’t been @ a job in 24yrs, our mutual beneficial relationship works and works well, we are blessed ❤🙏
You made some very good points (as usual) and hopefully will cause some to rethink their plans and also talk to a lawyer. When the little head gets hard, the big head gets soft and commonsense goes out the window. Take care Pea and enjoy your time here.
Norm!! Watch that little head of yours, or I’ll have to do it for you 🤣
@@TheFilipinaPea In my dreams Pea!😍😍💋💋
Making videos about other people's hopes and dreams, their personal stories, is a great idea. You have the right personality for putting people at ease. Do you get to record those conversations? I'd watch videos of you interviewing people.
I do record the ones I plan to put into videos, although only a small fraction are ultimately used 👍
This advice is applicable to passport bros looking for another country of residence. Where the bro has to adapt to the language and culture he chooses. It is necessary to be literate wherever a choice is made. Kudos to English speakers who are far from fluent in it for attempting Vietnamese.
Pea,you've sprouted and are a budding reporter/documentarian on the world stage. If this is your aim I and many here, will wish you success on your personal journey.
I predate "passport bros" by quite a long time, and have lived in the Philippines and/or maintained a residence in the Philippines since 2011. Whereas, you do need to adapt to the culture, you most definitely do not need to learn the language. Could it be helpful in certain situations? Most definitely. Is it a necessity, like it might be in some other countries? Not at all.
@@sgtm7 some people are quite happy to be illiterate. I've met Vietnamese in the U.S. don't speak or read English and happy to do so for decades. My late wife was Chinese/Thai and spoke seven languages, some are not.
It's always nice hearing the thoughts of an informed and intelligent woman, Pea! By the way in a prior video I commented with advice on how to increase the probability of guys hitting on you. Your appearance in this video is absolutely perfect for that! You just need to be sitting on a bus stop looking like that where a good match is likely to see you. If you're still not getting people approaching it's either because Western guys have become too apprehensive based on attitudes from Western females, or you're in a bad location.
It's too bad you're not likely to make it out to the Los Angeles area on this trip to the U.S., because I could tell you exactly the right places to be swarmed with attention probably. One key tip is to be where single guys are in higher numbers. For example, the way things are laid out in the U.S. there are places with a 50/50 balance between houses to apartments, places with almost all apartments and few houses, and the opposite, places with almost all houses. You want to be in the areas with almost all apartments because that's where people who are not yet married with a house and family are more likely to be. A place like New York city, where there are tons of big buildings with few houses would be an exception, though, because demographically the females there outnumber the males by a large margin; at least this was the case a few years ago. In the L.A. area it's the opposite, or at least more equal. In fact, I routinely see females continue to wear face masks even though the Covid pandemic is already a distant memory for many, and they do this not because they're health conscious, but because their appearance is so high on the points scale they would be constantly pestered with unwanted attention.
Oh Pea, you opened another can of worms with this one. I believe that if a woman refuses to sign a prenup then it is a huge warning. Just as I would never go into combat without my battle rattle, I'll not get married without a prenup. And watching for the little red flags helps because the add up and grow as the relationship becomes more comfortable. I think it would be a blessing to find someone like you. You are well versed in both cultures and languages and that intelligent mind of yours is awesome. After your visit to the US is done, please do a video of your overall thoughts of this country. Thank you for always giving of yourself to inform us of the dangers. Godspeed, sweet Pea.
Boy, you hit the nail on the head. Keeping it real and giving some real sound advice. There’s bound to be some Filipinas upset with this video. But what better advice can be given about Filipinas besides another Filipina, that understands her country, her culture and most of their ways of thinking and how calculated their thoughts and actions can be just to help their family.
Boy???!
@@hazelnafsika5130 It's a figure of speech it has nothing to do with her Gender.
Hi Pea! I have personnal experience seeing how western culture changes a philippine woman once they live in it for a while. They lose their humbleness and think they are better than those back in the PI. Sad really.
Yes, I’ve seen that too, as if living abroad makes them better somehow 😳
I think it is perfectly natural. I am quite sure we are all the same all around the world. Maybe in some countries there is bigger percentage of truly spiritual people (still I think most in deserted/isolated areas - African deserts, Eskimos, the indians, Nepaleans, Tibetans) who are humble by their nature (like Pea ;-) ) - humble which springs from their wisdom. But the rest is humble just because they know they are poor. So if they get rich (or get out of misery) there is no longer reason to be humble.
Well having been through the experience of bringing a Filipina to the U.S. and marrying her much of what you said is sound advice.
First and most important is to be patient, get to know your Filipina and her family well. The part you didn’t mention is you need to be proactive on learning about her culture and appreciating the good and being skeptical about the bad. It’s important to do that as a lot of having a successful marriage with her is going to be getting married the right way by her cultural values. This right here will go a long way towards finding the right Filipina. As for her family if her Nanay develops a genuine affection and respect for you as a man that is incredibly helpful and is indicative you’re going about things the right way.
Second for lords sake’s don’t be a naive fool. Don’t let your romantic fantasies get in the way of reality. This is going to be wasted advice on a significant percentage of guys and I have no advice for you other than not to court a Filipina.
Be engaged with your Pinay’s assimilation. She’s going to feel completely isolated at times and you have to step up and lead and mentor her. Assuming she’ll pick it up by osmosis is a disastrous approach.
On prenups. They are of limited value in this situation. So here’s something you need to consider before you even start the K-1/K-2 paperwork. You will be required to sign a document that you will agree that for the next ten years you will be financially responsible for you Filipina. Even if she were to divorce you after she gets her green card you will still be financially responsible for any debts she incurs and for her day to day living. Your prenup is not going to get you out of that obligation. So if you haven’t developed that level of trust with your Filipina then don’t do it.
My last bit of advice is for you Pea. Yes, your English is excellent and you do have a stronger understanding of western culture than most Filipinas and being in your early thirties you have maturity on your side. So yes you assimilating to life here in the U.S. would be easier but it wouldn’t be easy. My misses was definitely immature when we married and she was 24 but not terribly so. She also spoke English well though 19 years later she still has a Filipina accent. She had also lived abroad in Taiwan a couple of years, is University educated and, like you, is highly intelligent. She definitely had what it took to assimilate here. That assimilation period was still a difficult and stressful time for her and with my and my family’s proactive support during this period she very well could have floundered. So keep in mind that if the possibility of you immigrating to the U.S. for a relationship is in the cards you still have a whale of a lot to learn and it won’t be easy by any means. One example is until you start working here you’re still pretty clueless about the American rat race until you’ve toed up to the line and start running it yourself. I’ve met more than one Filipina like you, bright, excellent English, strong work ethic, etc., who said “screw this!” and returned to the Philippines as they didn’t like the rat race consuming your life as it tends to do here.
The plain old fact is that it’s just hard for anyone to do and it will not only draw significantly on your reserves but you will absolutely need a strong support network to help you.
Lastely, this is for you guys. It is absolutely imperative that your family be 100% behind in support of your relationship with your Pinay. If they do have issues then you need to address that with them immediately and really stress to them how important their unconditional support will be to you. Unfortunately I have seen a number of Fil-Am marriages get off to a good start only to be undermined by their own family. I have seen family members who are absolutely convinced that your Filipina is out to scam you and will engage with your Filipina in a hostile manner because of their convictions and will proactively undermine your relationship because nothing will ever convince them that your Filipina really does love you. You should have no tolerance for this whatsoever and if it were to happen address it immediately and strongly. Most of your family will fall immediately in love with your Filipina but it only takes one person in your family to be a hostile non supportive jerk to cause you a world of headaches. Don’t tolerate it.
You make some very good and quite valid points. I really enjoy your videos. Very well done. Your one of a kind.
Another great video packed with much needed common sense. Yet, I must correct you on one reference in your video for the majority of your readers are like me and think that you are perfect just the way you are. If only we were so lucky. Please continue to enjoy the your visit here. 😊❤
"The Curse of the HOT Filipina" video's counterpart! Great!
Really, really great topic! I think this video series may have been making US retirees homesick.
This one is important to watch!
I hope the US didn't ruin you!
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You nailed it again Pea!
This extremely important topic was adequately covered.
You’d make a great premarital counselor to those foreigners who are thinking 🤔 about taking the plunge and bringing their Filipina to the USA. Case by case studies.
You could also be the new Judge Judy of the Philippines 🇵🇭. Hehehe Seriously though, your on point with the prenup and I didn’t know some states are more prone to having them reversed?? That’s good info there! I need to research further..
Thank You again for brilliantly exposing all the risks invoked when letting the little head speak for the big one! The risk is real! ❤
Pea, another home run!
My girlfriend has a 9 year old daughter. They have lived in Bohol with family all their lives. Her day is kind, thoughtful and respectful. I would never forgive myself if I brought them here for an extended time and she became Americanized. Our culture would be very, very difficult to adjust to.
My girlfriend and I plan to marry and have children. I plan to live in Bohol 9-10 months out of the year and visit family in the US 2-3 months.
I KNOW living in Bohol will be an adjustment. I spent 5 of the last 12 months in the Philippines, but I’m sure living there is a bit different.
I prefer to raise our family there. Besides, she is close to her family (much closer than I am to mine) and it wouldn’t be right to just take them away for years at a time.
I’m 51 and healthy, but I feel the slower pace of life will be good for my health and mentally.
I’m trying to see things from different perspectives, but I doubt anything can totality prepare me.
This kinda confirms what I already felt. Thank you for working so hard to produce great content. I’m glad you enjoyed your visit.
Thank You Pea!!! Never stop doing these Great videos. This is a video I needed to hear, as I got tired of hearing ppl say, “Don’t bring her here.” Yet many ppl have no choice, we are still young and can’t just leave everything behind. Ppl are just unrealistic by saying this.
Thank you! Your really the most true person I have ever met! The nation does not matter. All is the same. Love your channel!
Good Point. When the western dude goes to the Philippines - he is the prize. When the Philippina gets taken to the west - she is the prize…
That’s true, except in my case - I wonder why I don’t feel like the prize? No one really notices me 😳
@@TheFilipinaPea You are the prize Pea, it's your personality that makes you the prize and people can't see that just in passing.
It will indeed! One of the biggest mistakes men make, bring the Fillipina to their home country. When the Filipina is flooded with overwhelming male attention, she quickly realizes she has more options! Like the Monkey Branching that is currently happening in the West. I have seen this numerous times with South American Latinas that lived in smaller towns, or in the Amazon region.
All should heed your comment. She WILL change, but the question is how much. Depends on character. Since most humans are opportunistic, chances are she will 'monkeybranch' to a better option.
"When the Filipina is flooded with overwhelming male attention, she quickly realizes she has more options!"
You don't see how wrong it is to want to manipulate someone into thinking you are their only option?
You are incredibly knowledgeable on this Pea. I wish so much I had your channel before I made the mistake of marrying a filipina and bringing her to the west. I married a filipina very soon after meeting her and lived with her and her family for 10 months before bringing her here. There were some signs that she was a little bit off but I loved her so much I ignored it. She was extremely charming. When I brought her to the West she became a monster and I discovered she had a horrible childhood and was secretly an alcoholic (which she hid pretty well when we were in the Philippines) and she made my life hell on earth and stole all of my life savings and sent it to her parents while telling a lot of lies. Her mom was like the one you described who only cared about money and status and I later discovered her parents and her sister had the worst moral values of any one you would meet. Once in the U.S. she sought out filipinas every where we went. The town I live in has 12,000 filipinos so there are plenty of filipinas. I did learn that just about every filipina here in the U.S. was up to no good. Their husbands thought they had good women, but they were secretly stealing money, flirting with every attractive guy they met, and many were cheating. Eventually I was able to divorce her and thankfully didn't give her any more money and didn't have to sponsor her green card anymore after I contacted immigration and told them about her stealing everything and giving it to her parents. I had a tremendous amount of debt because of her but after about a year of living in my car and working three jobs I was able to get out of debt. Your warning to not bring a filipina to the west is something your viewers should take very seriously. She recently contacted me and the younger guys the filipinas talked her into dating did not turn out to be what she thought. She told me how much she loved me and missed all of the things we used to do together. I told her to forget it, that it's over.
Wow, sorry that happened! Pretty much the same thing happened to me. Single now for 10 years and at peace, finally.
@@je862 It's hard to believe a person that is supposed to love you would treat you that way. Glad you found peace.
Sorry brother , that’s tough , but even American women do that, just ask my ex 🤬
Thanks Pea. This is a really useful video. I will bookmark to watch it again!!
I've been online dating for as long as I've been following you (about 10 years it seems!!) This video is a reminder of all things discussed, I do pay attention!
I will travel when I'm fit, the waiting is almost over. I will be meeting somebody. And I will be applying all you have taught. I will have to trust my own instincts however, but you have taught me well Obi Pea!😘
This is great and objective advice. Having lived in Taiwan for ten years I witnessed too many examples of American men "living in a dream world" when it came to wanting to marry their girlfriend and take her back home. The U.S. military was there when I first arrived and I had a friend who was a Navy chaplain. He told me it was a constant battle trying to point out the difficulties that marrying a local girl could entail especially to the young sailor who was not well traveled, educated or mature enough to understand the complexity of the situation. Hopefully, the guys who are considering taking this step will see this video and take the necessary steps to "stop and consider" everything involved in marrying someone outside of their culture.
If a woman can’t appreciate the unfair dangers a man faces without a prenup, and can’t respect his intelligent desire to protect himself, she’s not worth it. It’s an excellent test really. It also shows her that if you are capable of protecting yourself, you’re probably capable of protecting her as well. It shows that you’re smart and wise too.
Great point, and good attitude 👍
100% right Pea! But also hard to teach a Filipina how to ride a bike and harder to drive a car.
Woman will always talk a married woman to get a divorce. They want her to be as miserable as they are. They cannot stand a happy woman.
Take care Pea and don't get caught having TOO much fun.
Yes, there always seem to be other women around during and after a divorce, as if they coach each other through it 😳
😊 Thank you Instructor Pea you have given me a few things to consider 🎉
Great assessment of western culture and we’ll stated. Your advice to all sides should be adhered to. Great job Pea. You are a teacher.
In the Philippines, the foreigner is the unicorn everyone wants a ride on, in the U.S. the Filipina is that unicorn everyone wants to ride on. Studies show it takes 3-6 months for a person to get comfortable and START to open up and show who they TRULY are on the inside, before that they're just trying to put their best foot forward and trying to hide that one hideous toe on the other foot. I think one problem with LDR's, is foreigners getting into them too early, knowing they have YEARS before they can retire and be with the woman. Expecting her to wait for him, stringing her along, getting her hopes up he will actually show up, when she could have been in a relationship with someone who is physically there and she can wrap her arms around. As the saying goes, "You wait LONG, you wait WRONG." Expecting a young woman full of life and most fertile to wait around for you to FINALLY show up is the wrong way to go about it.
Unfortunately Pea, you aren't talking any sense into western women. You aren't telling them what they WANT to hear, that they are perfect and nothing is their fault. You are telling them what they NEED to hear and holding them accountable for THEIR actions and behaviors, so they're not listening to you. If they can't admit THEY ARE THE PROBLEM and accept responsibility, they won't learn from THEIR mistakes and will continue making them. With as many boohoo stories that still happen from foreigners, obviously they're not all listening to your advice and common sense either.
I find it funny you say Filipina's with a foreigner need to adapt and CHANGE, yet in so many interviews you hear Filipina's say "I want someone who will ACCEPT me as I am." Sorry ladies, you've entered into a multi-cultural relationship, just as the foreigner has, and BOTH of you will have to CHANGE and adapt. You don't get to say, "You're in my country and this is how we do it here," his culture is what made him the person he is, deny his culture and you are denying him, and he'll find a different lady that will be open minded and willing to change with him. Think about your current lives, how well has "This is how we do it" and not wanting to change worked out for you so far? If you're impoverished and ACCEPT you for you and don't do anything to CHANGE, why would you expect anything to change and no longer live in poverty?
What is really good to do is spend several years getting to know your Filipina which really helps to get to know them as well as knowing their ways. I brought my wife to the US in 2013 and we have been married now for 10 years. I never got a prenup because I knew who she was after spending close to four years getting to know her before we met. She has never tried to do anything other than being a great wife. Don't just jump in to a relationship and talk about getting married or bring her to your country until you get to know her. Go to the Philippines to meet her and her family to get a little bit of an idea of who they are and how they act around you. Before bring the one you want to bring to the US talk to an immigration lawyer to find out what your responsibilities are instead of learning about those responsibilities after the fact. If I'm not mistaken if you bring someone here to the US that you are responsible for them for 10 years but that might be different if she becomes a US citizen or maybe other factors.
The problem as I see it is for an American living in the P.I. they/we have no rights period there. Now, my wife came here on a fiance visa (in the 80's) and she adapted quite well. She learned to drive on the California freeways. Starting life here in San Diego with a large Filipino community helped.
I stayed near Filipino part of town on vacation (with all of the stores). That's was a real nice area a couple decades ago. I hope it maintained itself.
Seems horrible no rights for Americans in PI.
Not so sure , I have seen and worked around many Filipinos in California, toxic does not start to describe them
@@deepskywishingwell2602 Oh wow, I have totally a different experience around Filipinos, most of them I'd characterize as positive, like really nice people in general.
This is the one reason why I love on enjoy your videos, your truth you are so honest.
Brilliant video Pea, your a champion, my sentiments exactly
Pea,
To say you are not an average Filipina is a gross understatement. Your talents stand far above the average person. Very few native American citizens can match your level of intelligence,creativity, humor, wit, charm, and clarity of the expression of your thoughts - and in your second language to boot! I am continually amazed at your knowledge of colloquial American English, especially since this is your first visit. You have what it takes to be successful beyond the medium of youtube. I do hope that one day you will choose to move up to the next level!
Great video Miss Pea. I'm curious, while you are there in the US, have you met Filipino people who have lived over
here for a longer period of time? If so, how would you describe them? Have they changed a lot? I'm asking that because
I live in New Jersey close to places that have larger Filipino communities.
Great question, Axel. the closest Ive seen is that girl, Helga.
Hi Axel,
For what its worth, I've been married to a Filipina immigrant in the US for 30 years and no, she didn't change much. Neither did our new daughter in law who is also a Filipina immigrant.
Think about it. If any of us went to the Philippines, would we drastically change? Probably not. The experience is good and has some kind of effect. For the most part, women in their mid twenties or older, don't change that much. America will make them more confident and outgoing. The divorce rate is a little over 20% which is less than half the rate of Americans.
The biggest issue is adjustment. Women can't be left alone in the house. They need social life. You can keep the toxic people out as one can find those types in any crowd, however, I would be one to advocate finding other successful couples in the Filipino-American community and making friends. They have house parties all the time and its a sub culture in the US to go to these house parties where they can meet some good friends who will help them adjust. That's really a very critical thing so they don't become depressed when they land in the US. Their depression will become the guy's problem.
Completely agree MG, I've been married to a wonderful Chinese lady for the last 36 years and my
observations are very similar to yours, My son married a young lady from Taiwan a few years ago
and they are also very happy together.
Pea I brought my Filipina to the states 45 years ago. Western culture ruined her. I told her when we go back to the Philippines that I am sending her back to providence for 3 months to retraining.😂😂
Awesome sir
Retraining 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👍👍
Love the content and thought provoking discussion about important topics! I’m a 37 year old American currently living in southern Leyte working remotely for a California company and I plan to stay here in Ph 🇵🇭
Thanks Pea. This was one of the most important one you posted.
Pea is 💯 correct again. I brought my province girl to the U.S. 5 years ago. She remained loyal and faithful, but she hated it here. She was so depressed the first winter here, I worried about her mental health. She couldn’t find her favorite brands of food, vegetables, and fruits. Try finding mangosteen in North Carolina! She was almost 30 when I brought her here, so she was mature enough to think about the future. I did the math, and I told her to just hang in here with me for 5 years, and we would retire early to the Philippines. She stuck with me and we are moving to Mindanao next week. I have lived 6 months in the Philippines before and I love it. However, like Pea said, be careful about bringing a Filipina here. If my wife had not been of high moral character, I would have been in trouble.
I have heard that MalayBalay in Mindonao is a good choice, cooler than most places, inexpensive cost of living
@@tryscience MalayBalay in Bukindon province on Mindanao is one place to try...but there are many many other places to also try....Big cities such as Metro Manila...Cebu City will always be more comfortable to live...and more expensive....Not sure if MalayBalay is"Cooler"....
@@anthonyhutchings8239 sorry for the misunderstanding. I meant the temperature not the social climate or nightlife. It's a very small town from what I understand. Manila or Cebu City would be significantly more expensive and thermally warmer. Sorry for the misunderstanding
@@tryscience Ahhh ok..i thought you meant a"Hip" type place...Well since its on Mindanao its probably not cool at all ..i do not think the town is elevated...Now Baguio City a few hundred miles in Northern Luzon gets very cool...sweatshirt needed at night if sitting around...I never been to MalayBalay but had a penpal friend for a short time in 1996..I been Minadnao to visit a different penpal friend in 1997 and been Philippines x6..Will be back first time since 2005 come December.....
@@anthonyhutchings8239 MalayBalay elevation is just over 2,700 ft
Baguio is rather crowded, extremely hilly, and so not great for a casual stroll. I'm told that Malay Balay, Even though half a mile altitude, is relatively flat and so easier to get around as well as less expensive
Yes and no I've met alot of Filipinas and most are ok and some are...different lol😂 But ALL were proud to be Filipino which is amazing good vid Pea❤
Exactly! It’s a yes - and - no kinda thing - just depends on the Filipina 👍
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Great Subject.
Great Coverage.
Simply Stated, Slow Dow , Get to Know Each Other, And You Reduce Many Risks. And , As You Stated, That Prenup Can Be a Life Saver. Or, at Least Financial Savior. 😊
Looking Forward To The Next Intwresting Subject . 😊
Pea, not only are you very funny and cool, you are a really good psychologist and very culturally aware. As a psychiatrist who also has lived in SE Asia, and studied culture (Ivy League Ph.D.), I really appreciate what you are saying to your audience, and they should pay deep attention to your points. I wish you safe travels, and hope that you have a stunning career ahead. You are a very smart and super aware person, and you really "get it".
Great video and very good common sense advice. As an older American, when I came to the Philippines, I chose a girl around 35-years-old, she was a widow whose husband died of medical reasons, she is mature and smart, former government employee, and we lived together with her daughters for about 2-years before we decided to get married. I have no immediate plans to move back to the U.S., but it is always possible, and I would take them with me. By then my wife would be in her 40s, and I do not think she would "go nuts" if living in the U.S. I would be more worried about her then 21-year-old daughters -- I think it would be more difficult for them to assimilate into the culture. I would have them complete their university degree in the Philippines first so they are not "ruined" by the U.S. Educational System. They would be shocked attending classes where they teach you to hate your country and other people (Critical Race Theory), Woke and anti-family indoctrination, other socialist indoctrination, etc. They don't like ideas forced down their throats. However, they are strong and independent enough not to need a "safe space" to survive in the U.S. I spent 18-years in U.S. higher education including 6-years as a University Professor, and it is amazing what I saw.
A LOT of good, logical points as always from you. Personally, if I felt I had to keep my partner in the Philippines in order to have "more control of the situation" or fear any personal growth she may gain living in the West, then she was never "mine" to begin with...I never truly captured her heart like she would have captured mine. Because yeah, true love means you only want to grow WITH your partner and that goes both ways. BTW, you are not too westernized. IMO, the best woman to find is one that is independent and can stand on her own two feet but WANTS to be with a one and only love, not NEEDS to. So yes, a young Filipina with few resources, experiences, and options may choose a man for other reasons...and MUCH respect for those that stay loyal to him if he treats her with respect, affection, and caring.
I know a few people who brought their wives back to the US. This is pretty common with those in the military. I know a marine who brought his wife back the US and it quickly went south because she and his mother were always at it like dogs. There's just various reasons it might not work out long term.
A long list of reasons, yes 😳
So did they get divorced?
@@TheFilipinaPea I'm not sure, I haven't seen them in a while.
Sounds like he needs to move far away from his mom to preserve his marriage.
I agree with you on a lot of what you said and pointed out. You definitely need to take the time to get to know each other before jumping into anything serious.
Your exactly the kind of lady I'm looking for. Smart, Beautiful and very intelligent.
You are spot on! My 21 year marriage started falling apart after about 10 years, she started cheating and hanging out with a bunch of angry filipinas and when the kids were grown she divorced me and landed a wealthy man. What make it even worse is we were married in the Philippines and she filed the divorce papers so I can never get married again to a filipina and even mess up plan to retire in the Philippines.
Tell us how that was a mistake for you to marry in phillipines? I’m looking at marriage to my girl and ponder here, or in her country? She’d some light on your marriage arrangements back then, please
Hi Ok! It was not a mistake! I still love my ex-wife but do not like what she became after being in the U.S. for so many years. Yes people change but she became so in love with money and the filipinas that she hanged out with was the same way! She started cheating looking for someone wealthy to replace me with. The problem in the Philippines there is no divorce! Even if you get a divorce in the U.S. you are still married in the Philippines if that is where you got married in the first place. I wanted to retire in the Philppines with a 13a visa but now if I retire there I will have to use a 30 day visa and renew every 30 days or spend a lot of money and get a srrv visa. And my now ex-wife and I had a house that she has now I lost in the divorce and I now have to rent because for non philippines people can not own land in the Philippines. In my opinion merry your girlfriend in the U.S. makes life so much easier later if things go bad in the relationship! (note I would love to get married to another filipina but that is out of the question until Philippine government changes there marriage laws)@@deepskywishingwell2602
I don't know who has told you that, but to me you are my ideal Filipina! You ARE articulate, funny, witty and beautiful to boot! The fact that you understand Western culture is a definite bonus in my eyes. I have nothing but respect and adoration for the Filipina Pea! This is great advice for most Western men. In my eyes you are the perfect woman for me, but I'm not sure what you would think of me but we have a lot of personality traits in common.
I made the mistake of bringing a young Filipina to the US. It ended in disaster. The worse case scenario Pea talks about is what happened to me and will happen in the majority of cases.
When a Filipina moves to the West, they will immediately find other Filipinos. The women they meet will soon start coaching them on divorce laws and what they are entitled to. They make sure they know how long they have to stay with you in order to have their unrestricted green card, which means they can stay in the West without your aid.
You wouldn’t put good ingredients in a boiling pot of feces would you? The West is the boiling pot of feces. Do not bring any foreign woman to the West. It will ruin her and then she will ruin you.
As a Western man, you have all the advantage when living in the Philippines. You can keep your money in Western banks, making it inaccessible to anyone without your consent. As long as divorce remains illegal, you are relatively safe there. If divorce becomes legal in the Philippines, every Western man will be targeted to be divorce raped and it will no longer be a viable place to look for a wife.
It means you want to take advantage of their poverty and crazy law which hold them in unwanted marriage? Don't you think divorce is human right? Law only held by catholic church which disables people to have happy live due unhappy marriage they were led in example by their youthful imprudence or total ignorance of human biology (and unwanted pregnancy).
But still there is prenup and just partnership so I can't see any problem for western guys.
I wanted to go into more detail about the dangers of some of these online ‘Filipino groups’ and the effect they have on newly-arrived Filipinas, but time constraints prevented me from listing the dangers. Maybe a separate video?
Well men also need to be realistic. If you are not good looking then you will kid yourself by thinking filipina will be with you no matter what. Women are women at the end of the day.
If that happens, you can at least abandon ship (continue to pay child support of course). If you live here don't become so attached to any belongings that you can't leave them behind. For children, though, this is a hard one. Here, none of the laws work in your favor, as a foreigner.
Yes Pea , a deeper look into the advantages or not of marriage in both countries? It a great topic because many men looking for a Filipino bride have been thru divorce already , and been stripped. Unless utterly wealthy , you are aware of the peril. But, I hate to see dedicated girlfriends not getting a chance because of other’s behavior
Let me tell you what you said is absolutely true and it applies to any foreign wife-to-be! What you said about the dangers in a relationship affected my relationship with my wife who was from the Ukraine. It was a big mistake having her connect and make friends with Ukrainian community here in the USA. The only thing that saved me was that she was a real dummy! I confused her being a loving parent with being a good and honest person! Thank you Filipina Pea for sharing such wonderful insight into human behavior! We truly love you, you are Awesome!
Pea, you have earned a lot of respect from me. I was married to an African and saw a lot of what you are speaking about. You are honest and objective in your views.
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I’ll keep track of the votes 🤣👍
@@TheFilipinaPea have you seen what western women have become lately. It's all by design to destroy the west. But that's a debate for a different day.
I would have to wager that Pea doesn’t have it in her to be unkind to her man. It’s important to note that is a two-way street, but I’d bet that Pea is set in her ways sufficiently to remain steadfast in her kindness.
Thank you Pea!
I am an Australian and grew up around a small Filipino community. Great respect for and love of your culture.
Most young people, will have a hard time away from their families regardless of culture. Add to that a lack of strong family values in the West and a culture that values personal freedom more than personal accountability and responsibility, young Filipinas will suffer.
Men please treat these people with respect as most Filipinas are genuine and have grown up in strong, close families and honestly want to get married and have a real family. Men slow down you are acting like a kid in a candy store. You are adults behave like it. I would give the world to have met just 1 of these amazing women when i was in my late 20's.
Now i am in my 50's and have been divorced and have had my kids. I am neither young nor old, i grew up believing in the same values as these wonderful people, just once let western culture NOT destroy the place and people i adore. Please, be responsible, its not an easy life there.
Filipina Ladies, don't rush matters of the heart, get your mom to check out the boys and trust her judgement, if a guy is serious he will wait for s*x. Men, I promise most of these ladies under 35 have next to no life experience do not abuse a Filipinas lack of western guile....
wow I didn't realise i felt that strongly about it. Sorry for the rant Pea. You all deserve better from westerners.
I hope Taal calms down soon and that all there are safe. God Bless.
As an older man, never bring a younger Filipina to the US no matter how long you have known her. The internet has screwed things up for the older man. We are being forced into the Province. Ha
Good Video Miss Pea 😊. Keep the video's comin.
Stay Safe 💕 💞 🙏 🙏
I will keep this video for further reference. Thanks 😊
In short, Western women are just awful. As men, we tread on eggshells in the hope, mostly a vain hope, of keeping them happy, and having access to companionship.
Ultimately in the West, when a man gets involved in a serious relationship…he simply gets a new boss, and becomes an employee. An employee with steadily diminishing benefits.
I would suggest watching the series “Everybody Loves Raymond”
‘Steadily diminishing benefits’
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Doesn’t sound like a good job 😳😊
Good video Pea other than realization tell-it-like-it-is keep it 100%. People need to understand and realize everything ain't what you see.
Pea, am not sure if I have already mentioned this but...I think you're great ! 😍
Your the best vlogger on You Tube. Hands down, Pea!!!
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P U 1 Of A Kind
All The Best 2U
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