One time I was getting my haircut and the lady cutting my hair was telling me how she thought she was better off leaving her husband who she'd been with for 20 years and had 3 kids, youngest being 11. I told her congrats on at least a long marriage, and she goes "People always tell me that, but congrats for what? Hanging on for so long?" Then she started asking me about what I do for a living, if i had my own place etc. You think it's gonna last forever with these women, it's not. While you think everything is peachy, shes at work shopping for your replacement. Invest in YOURSELF.
Sadly a lot of guys would try to get her over, home wreckers. If only there was a way to give the husband a heads up that she’s shopping around....not our business though.
To you younger guys who haven’t been down the path us older guys have been down already: Listen to Rich. You never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever chase women. You risk losing too much that’s important in your life and it will bite you in the ass in the long run. If you want to be with a woman, fine... but you let her come to you as you work on becoming the better version of yourself.
There's some nuance to it. You can be as excellent as can be, if you don't put yourself out there no woman is going to come at you. I'm a great example: I have a very nice wage as a software engineer, so the monetary aspect is taken care of. I'm 1.9m tall, broad shoulders and work out a lot (strongman training). Don't have the most handsome face but a manly face (strong jaw, pronounced brow ridge, big nose), so I would say the physical aspect is taken care of. Yet I'm having a hard time getting any dates. Why? Because my job is behind the computer, my side projects are also software related. I won't date women from work and I won't date women from the gym (when I go to the gym, I go to work out, not to hit on women). So where am I supposed to get dates from then? I don't meet any women outside of the gym and work, because none of my hobbies have any women in them. Online dating is a waste of time, might be lucky with 10 matches a week, and if 2 of those actually reply. The solution would be to at least do something where I could meet women, such as take up a yoga class or whatever. But that would be "chasing women", but if I don't do something like that I just don't have any dates. So in my opinion, "generally chase excellence, but sometimes chase women" is better advice, it depends on your situation.
@@Mammel248 agree. work on yourself, focus on your goals, and do women on the side. not saying to chase them on the side, but have some "passive marketing"- nice social media, go out and do activities where there are women atleast once a week, but NEVER chase them. just put yourself out there but focus and work on your goals.
@@Mammel248 yeah I second that but you don't have to pick up a "feminine" hobby just to meet girls, you can go out with friends or build some kind of social media presence (not as hard as people think, not as easy either). With covid it's kinda hard to go out it's true but there's always a way to meet women without chasing them.
@Lee Dawson it is what has pushed humanity up the time scale of evolution, and developed reason and morality in men. As peterson puts it, feminine like masculinity has both and probably, and certainly multi varied facets of behaviour. So, you do your work at hand, and stick to the truth. Rest let God and fate do for you.
I've always had success with women. 6'3, 240 lbs and in very good shape. Military vet, sales, entrepreneur. I didn't take the red pill until this year. The one time in my life where I hit a "rut" aka went broke from business I met "the one". Just like Rich has said "She waits for the winners and DOES not care about your struggles. " After I went through this and her starting to flake I left her and ultimately realized that they already want a man who is complete and not having any struggles and can provide everything. I love women but have learned to be careful and do not get emotionally attached especially if you are going through some struggles. I learned from my mistakes and got a huge drive to better myself. Good luck gents! life is good. Live and learn. Be better than the dude you were yesterday. Shoutout to Rich. These videos are killer
It really depends on the girl. A girl with experience will tend to want a guy who’s accomplished. A young girl that still thinks love pays the bills will pick fixer uppers, granted he doesn’t dump all his problems on her every chance he gets. She’ll leave both eventually for whatever reason.
Which is crazy cause there's plenty of slampigs out here with regular shaped dudes. It boggles my mind. But dudes don't complain. At this point the body positive movement was for women not to work out and be accepted as "beautiful"
I wish you existed in 2010, I grew without a father figure and my older brother passed away in 1999, I’m just barely learning all this stuff and I’m 32 years old
@@roastme2079 Enthusiasm is key. I like to read books on the subject. There’s one by dale Carnegie that got me started on this road. Sensitivity is also important. Toxic masculinity, as they like to call it, is all about being the type of man that you think society wants you to be. You must be sensitive to changes to adapt to them properly and decisively. Above all, the brain can constantly be rewired. This is not a one-time deal. Complacency and comfort zones are to be avoided at all costs. One has to strive to keep moving forward and not lingering on the “coulda, shoulda, would a”s. Spot on, btw. I like the way you think.
Spot on! A woman should NEVER be the sun that your world revolves around.....more like an asteroid containing rare earth metals, it has its uses, but it is not needed to hold your solar system together.
LOL!!! I bought one of his $10 programs 2-3 years ago. It couldn’t be downloaded except to some Dropbox cloud clone service, that crashed a lot or just didn’t work right. I also had to create an account I didn’t want there, so then I got hit up to upgrade to more storage. Total WASTE!!!
The same golden advice that I listened to years ago that changed my life and is the best advice. Always be the best version of yourself and work towards being better! It's such a waste of time to chase women!
That's right brother I'm 5'4 and my bed hates me 😂 nonstop action. I have a great build I travel the world. I'm confident and maintain masculine frame . Never have a problem.
I dated a single mum 48 with 2 boys 11 and 13 . I did I gave I paid all the way . She had me at arms length over the 2 years . I did so much for her . After 2 years she dumped me . Yes given I am 57 it has taken me a long time to get over her . I did sell my house and bought a yacht and moved away . She stuck in a small town and I am free . I will never make the mistake of falling for these women again .
Hahaha my grandmother literally confirms exactly what Rich says, last time I simped she told me I’m meant to be King not the woman. Thanks for the content man!
So, I like what I hear you saying. Having been married 38 years to a woman who like myself is interested in making our relationship work and is doing the work. My take on LTRs is that it is important to always do the work on one's internal relationship with one's self. If you are not maintaining a healthy relationship with your self, it is difficult to maintain healthy relationships with other people. My opinion is that in US society we are encouraged to be mental children, gullible and needy. This keeps us weak and dependent, and compliant to those in power. Women want men who they can trust to have the inner and outer strength they need to be there for them.
Only child, absent father, single mother-background, certified Nice Guy for the better part of my life. You are waking me up with some much needed information, what younger me would refer to as the secret I never got to get in on, or understand. Thank you man, subbed and subbed.
I'm 5'8" and I've never had height issues with women. Albeit I don't really date women my height or taller.🤣 Gentlemen, go do fun shit! Enjoy your life, spend money on yourself and building your "tribe". Women will gravitate towards you naturally. You'll attract the ones that really want you.
@@mabd7340 Answer is mostly NO Although they do But only of you really have a small one But you need to get her in bed in order for her to care in the first place
This brother is straight money ! I lost 57 pounds at 50 years old. Running 6-7 miles a day. 6’3” and now 230. Bringing it. When I walk into a room with a suit. Fire. Before I was insecure when I walked into a room. Just got divorced and focusing on the next 10 years. Not a woman. preach it ..
I 100 percent agree with this video, I used to be very overweight and the typical nice dude. I had to put soo much effort into getting chicks and they never lasted more then a month. As soon as I started to focus on myself, lose weight, workout, not over eat anymore (cutting out sugars), and take care of myself. Woman started to throw themselves at me. Honestly men when you hit that 20% it becomes effortless. Woman will put themselves in your orbit. For the amount of effort I had to put in before, It was way more efficient and worth while to work out myself and reap the benefits. Before this lock down started, I would go to a club and woman would approach me.... A couple months ago I went to a house party and there was this attractive blonde girl there, I checked her out and like 30 minutes later her friend comes up to me and says "are you single? My friend over there is into you", we ended up hooking up that night. I don't mean to sound way to much of a douche, but it's true.
I'm 33 yrs old mother of 3 not educated I have no.problem with dating men because they need someone who has money and not burden that's why I'm single now for 8 yrs but I stay more peaceful with no stress just working in Lebanon as a nanny earning small money but I'm happy with it and life goes on.muck love from 🇰🇪
Newly divorced, (5 months) I like to think I am a 7. With that said, I checked out the dating sites briefly. Good god... What a shit show of options out there for men. The women on those sites are wounded birds. One woman seemed cool, attractive but she had more red flags than the Chinese Army. We never meet, but shortly after a few conversations she was automatically saying I miss you, I love you and said she had baby fever. Ding ding ding....that was my cue to dissolve the situation and back away from that woman who was clearly a level 10 clinger. Listen to Rich guys.
Charles Ivy . I agree, completely removed my self off online sites. Most women there made me want to puke. Ijust daygame at the coffee shops in my city while working on my business.
who else feels like unsubscribing to all the other channels and come here to watch all the videos. this is the most real staff i have listened to. thanks man.
I look at it like this. When you don't focus on making a ton of money in whatever field you are in but instead focus on just being the best at what you do money just becomes a by product of that. The same goes with being a better man doing what is necessary to improve your resume in life, women will simply come along. The more you focus your energy on the very thing you wish and desperately crave the further you will get from having it. This is my perspective.
Blunt and to the point. THIS is the advice men need. Actual Tinder data shows it's more like the top 10% than the top 20% though lol. The point remains. Excellent stuff Rich.
You're absolutely right. I know I'm a 5 on my best self - and I don't chase women at all. I've taken myself out of the game entirely until such time as I can get off medications and get in shape. And carve out a career rather than just a string of crappy jobs.
Chase God Chase Health Chase Excellence Chase Craft Chase Prosperity Chase Knowledge Men if you do these things your lives will be much better for the long haul. Look down the road. Not at her because she isn't looking at you. She is looking at your wallet, your resources and what you can do for her. You're better than that. You're above that. Do good. Be better.
@Jim Hook religion is a scam that preys on people who can't accept reality. I was brought up religious before seeing things objectively. Can't believe I use to think noah's ark and all of the other silly ridiculousness like Jonah and the whale occurred.
@@Poker-is8dt You are correct, religion IS a scam, which is precisely why Jesus attacked it. Jesus hates religion. It was the Religious Structure he attacked that had him crucified, via Roman authorities. Religion prays on the weak, and seeks to control you. Jesus died for your weaknesses so that you can be free. And before you go attacking Jesus, trust me, there is a long list of people more brilliant than you who set out to prove Jesus a lie, only to end up accepting Jesus as their personal Lord and Savior. 2000+ years and counting and no one has succeeded yet in proving Jesus false. Know the Truth and the Truth will set you free. I am speaking as a former anti-God, atheist who is exceptionally intelligent, who ended up giving his life to Christ. BEST decision I ever made. Twenty-one years of freedom and counting, through good times and bad, and my Faith in Jesus only gets stronger. I pray you are willing to humble yourself enough to be open to seeing the Truth. Ask God/Jesus to reveal himself to you - in humility and sincerity, not with pride and arrogance, and God will meet you where you are. If you are not willing to be open to it, that's fine, your call. Cheers -
Thank you, Rich needed to hear this, I moved from a small town to San Diego two weeks ago, and I haven't gone out and put myself out there for this exact reason, I have been working out 6 days a week and cleaned up my eating, cut my alcohol consumption and I am looking for a decent paying job (I'm 24). Until I feel confident in my skin and walk around chin up chest out, I will stay inside and do the work, women come after and only then-- remember fellas we are the prize not them, women are like the seasons, they come and go, a dime a dozen! ps: if anyone wants to link up for a gym sesh or have a beer let me know I don't know anyone out here Cheers!
It's like what Chris Rock's boss said in the movie, I Think I Love My Wife, "You'll always lose money chasing women, but you'll never lose women chasing money." Words for all of us men to live by, especially in these times.
I’m 42. I’ve been through the divorce grinder and came out the other side a better, stronger man. I don’t know why but this simple truth took me forever to learn...and I learned it the hard way. But once I did the world opened up for me. All fathers should have this talk with their sons. Thank you Rich.
This is what I need in my life. I've been trying my best to focus on ME and most of my life so far, I have had a hard time to doing so. I just turned 26 and I realize that I NEED to change. Always been afraid of it.
Found you a week ago. Definitely enjoy the content. Looking forward to the future 43, two years single, once divorced. You're definitely a positive UA-cam influencer. Thanks for your hard work.
all successful people have 50+ women they have fucked before that they can hook up with.... Why do ya'll act like this is some new concept?? Keep incelling it boys!!
This is a very good template. I have had a number of red pill moments but resisted the lessons. The final straw has me awake. Blue pill tells you to take her seriously, but not yourself. The ability to walk away is essential.
It is quite true. I would also refer people to your other video about changing your belief system, make better choices, get better results. Great input in this video too.
He is right. My dad does a lot of handyman stuff (fixing cars and appliances, some electrical, plumbing, AC, gardening, he cooks, he can clean (sometimes.. though he's not the best) and has been in the trucking business for more than 30 years. My dad is about 5'6. My dad looks rough after his last marriage, but he is really extroverted, he's always willing to lend a hand without asking for anything in return, he can do a lot for anyone, and everyone loves him for that. Women are attracted to how much he can do. He has been told "They dont make them like you anymore." My parents divorced in 2010. My dad married a nasty, foreign, single mom that opened credit cards in his name, took his money, and racked up cards that he didn't know about. He was too busy and too blind, as well as didn't have a spine to get rid of her as soon as he realized it was a BIG problem (that turned into a bigger problem) . She had a nasty personality and didn't want my dad to be around his kids or other family members. She worked at a Walmart 20+ miles away and had affairs with men who worked with her. My dad told her to gtfo in 2018 after catching her talking on the phone to a man. When she was moving out she even brought that old man to move her. my dad was there, but had no idea it was the guy she was talking to.. she thought old man had assets that she could obtain, but I hear the he was too smart and put everything of value in his son's name. He got married to her a month after the divorce was finalized (he had no feelings for her so idk why). I had a grudge against my dads ex, there were too many secrets and it drove my dad nuts.. she probably thought nobody would ever know what she was doing.. We got the old man's first name from our neighbor that delivers liquor to her walmart (he got the gossip). I began searching, popped it in on white pages, singled him out by age, found his ex-wife (they were together but divorced, because his wife didn't trust him) ..my dad went to her place, they talked, and he found out she was being a hoe. They all worked together (my dad's ex, old man, and his ex-wife) at Walmart so everyone found out about my dads ex and the old man. She has to live with the embarrassment of being a cheater and gold digging, life destroyer. She's a whole 🤡 because she had shit made when she was with my dad. He paid all the bills and had a decent car that he was paying for.. ive heard she became obese and looks way older as well. My dad is friends with the old man's ex wife now, they go to eat, my dad goes to her house parties. Im sure it upsets his Ex. Karma is a bitch.
Rich, I really appreciate content like this, where you focus on the self-improvement aspect of Red Pill philosophy, rather than what's wrong with women. Our gender needs to realize that we're biologically driven to hyper-focus on female attention. We can all do better by stop chasing them period. Do the work, make a good life for yourself, and you can have fun with women when they come after you. Good stuff, keep it coming 👍🏻
Spot on! I chased women and had no success. As soon as I stopped caring and focused on myself and my business, not only did those improve, I started having more dates and now got a great girl. But if you aren’t ok with yourself, a girl ain’t gonna fix that.
Rich speaks 100% the truth! I am 42 year old divorce father of two. I have made all the mistakes Rich has spoken about and I wish I had this knowledge when I was younger. I would have saved so much of my time and resources. If you are in your 20s and watching his stuff please take notes and follow it to the LETTER! His youtube channel should be a required course for all men to watch. I guarantee my Son will learn these lessons and he will have a much more successful path in his life than I did. I recommended his channel and book to all men that I know.
Before I had a stroke, I would always feel bad or feel like I effed up if I didn’t workout everyday or every other day. It just felt wrong. I’ve heard other people say they feel this way too. Good vid!👍
Team 5'5" here. I need to lose this belly fat and get shredded. I used to at least be in decent shape at one point. Been studying martial arts for almost 30 years.
Am a very ordinary reg nurse at 55 year old widow ,2 great grown kids Love been 7 YEARS ON my own,but love been able to pass your knowledge on to young people that I advise with love, good care going forward, not always about me isish i lady, Thanks, Sinead
5'8 170 lbs 30 year old here. I have always picked up women and instantly won their favor with ease, and id like to attribute the initial interest in my V taper I've had my entire adult life. Stated lightly weight training at age 15 and never stopped, now i dead lift 405, squat and bench 315. Fitness absolutely matters and if you think otherwise you're a fool. If you want options or more attractive ones at that you will hit the gym 5 days a week for the rest of your life. Don't make life harder for yourself.
Being the best version of yourself pretty much means knowing what you value and living a lifestyle conducive to those values. This will look different on a case to case basis. Making a ton of money doesn't necessarily fall into everyone's value system. In fact, I would say that some of the most interesting people don't care about having a high income. For my own financial stance, I strive for financial security and independence. You don't need to make tons of money if you are smart with your finances.
Another important point on chasing excellence and not women is why are you doing it? Are you chasing excellence because you want to make a difference in the world and live the life you want, or are you doing it because you want a girl? Thanks for the vid Rich.
I went through some legal issues and was down in the dumps so my girl at the time left me. Now she won’t stop blowing me up because I rebuilt myself with a six figure job and now car shopping for a luxury car
He said women don't care about the struggle they are just waiting at the finishing line to pick the winner 🏆 man this is realest shit I ever heard about women
So true, i'm going through a situation where i'm fit, good looking, and understand pickup, but the number 1 thing standing in my way from nailing 10s on a regular is the fact that i'm not balling and making 6 figures. It's not worth spending all this time understanding pickup and not working on your career. Work on yourself and the women will come and you won't have to deal with nearly as much BS on the way.
Just started reading No More Mr Nice Guy this evening from you recommending it in a previous video. The first chapter already indicates that men must work and prioritise on oneself first. Keep up the advice.
Thanks for your brutal honesty. I need to exercise more and this has kicked me into it. Most people probably mean well but being too nice prevents you making that difficult step of starting what you need to improve.
My Man Rich.... Keep telling us to chase excellence and not women. It's not about them, it's about us. We have to get our stuff together and that's what's important, do the work first, stop worrying about learning game when you don't even have your stuff together.
1. Only few women are worth your time. (Never your money). 2. Make your self great according to your values, not anyone else's values. 3. Always be honest with women. Great women love that. 4. Learn to slow romantic dance, very well. 5. Live a hobby and women with the same hobby will definitely be all over you. 6. It really is that simple. If there is a great woman near you, she'll find you.
I shared this video with a good friend of mine who is always looking for an external reason why he’s not successful with women. Always looking for that short cut or simple solution that doesn’t require self discipline. He got angry and defensive and thought I was being shitty with him! Some people just won’t listen to good advice.
For most young men it will be about a journey of self-discovery ... life, who am I, values, interests, partnering, etc. At times focus will be on self-development/experimentation, other times relationships eg chasing women/making friends, often everything at the same time. These things , of course, are not mutually exclusive and life is messy (even for the 1%). But it's true if you're not doing anything that is moving you forward, then you are going backwards.
Thank you for saying all of this Rich. This is the truth. Not that bs all these self righteous PUAs try to sell you guys. It’s only a woman’s world if you guys let it be. When you’re the best version of yourself you can be, you can almost say or text anything you want. Inner game is what’s going to lead you to the light
Well said Rich. I have been telling my buddies this forever and they don't get and then they complain that women don't want them. My response is look in the mirror and ask yourself "would you date a woman who has the same type of body as you and makes the same money as you?" Some of them get it and some never will.
I am 5 foot 4, and I like this message. I've been wanting to join a dojo, but my government has banned contact sports because of covid. Makes me mad like nothing else. I feel like it's the missing piece that I need to finally start getting more masculine
One time I was getting my haircut and the lady cutting my hair was telling me how she thought she was better off leaving her husband who she'd been with for 20 years and had 3 kids, youngest being 11. I told her congrats on at least a long marriage, and she goes "People always tell me that, but congrats for what? Hanging on for so long?" Then she started asking me about what I do for a living, if i had my own place etc. You think it's gonna last forever with these women, it's not. While you think everything is peachy, shes at work shopping for your replacement. Invest in YOURSELF.
@Wilfrid Joseph Holy shit bang on brother.
Yep, you're right. Been there, done that.
She was measuring you for a branch swing in the middle of your haircut? No shame.
Sadly a lot of guys would try to get her over, home wreckers. If only there was a way to give the husband a heads up that she’s shopping around....not our business though.
@Jonathan F is that your own perception or everything
To you younger guys who haven’t been down the path us older guys have been down already: Listen to Rich. You never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever chase women. You risk losing too much that’s important in your life and it will bite you in the ass in the long run. If you want to be with a woman, fine... but you let her come to you as you work on becoming the better version of yourself.
I second that
There's some nuance to it. You can be as excellent as can be, if you don't put yourself out there no woman is going to come at you. I'm a great example: I have a very nice wage as a software engineer, so the monetary aspect is taken care of. I'm 1.9m tall, broad shoulders and work out a lot (strongman training). Don't have the most handsome face but a manly face (strong jaw, pronounced brow ridge, big nose), so I would say the physical aspect is taken care of. Yet I'm having a hard time getting any dates. Why? Because my job is behind the computer, my side projects are also software related. I won't date women from work and I won't date women from the gym (when I go to the gym, I go to work out, not to hit on women). So where am I supposed to get dates from then? I don't meet any women outside of the gym and work, because none of my hobbies have any women in them. Online dating is a waste of time, might be lucky with 10 matches a week, and if 2 of those actually reply.
The solution would be to at least do something where I could meet women, such as take up a yoga class or whatever. But that would be "chasing women", but if I don't do something like that I just don't have any dates. So in my opinion, "generally chase excellence, but sometimes chase women" is better advice, it depends on your situation.
@@Mammel248 yeah there should be a balance..atleast we guys have to advertise ourselves
@@Mammel248 agree. work on yourself, focus on your goals, and do women on the side. not saying to chase them on the side, but have some "passive marketing"- nice social media, go out and do activities where there are women atleast once a week, but NEVER chase them. just put yourself out there but focus and work on your goals.
@@Mammel248 yeah I second that but you don't have to pick up a "feminine" hobby just to meet girls, you can go out with friends or build some kind of social media presence (not as hard as people think, not as easy either). With covid it's kinda hard to go out it's true but there's always a way to meet women without chasing them.
You’ll lose money chasing women, but you never lose women chasing money.
Simple
Yeah, but chasing money doesn't mean making money.
And the rest of life will follow
@@SerginhoSM9151 no shit, it’s a figure of speech, that goes for chasing anything. Thank you for the gaslighting.
Can u give an advice how to start chasing money
This basically what my dad told me"the better you are, the better woman will show up in your life"
Hm
He did good by you.
The most authentic, and blunt advise for men any age. Do the work".
@Lee Dawson it is what has pushed humanity up the time scale of evolution, and developed reason and morality in men. As peterson puts it, feminine like masculinity has both and probably, and certainly multi varied facets of behaviour. So, you do your work at hand, and stick to the truth. Rest let God and fate do for you.
@Lee Dawson for both genders. So we can't really predict all feminine manifestations to be eccentric.
What work? It’s so vague
Do the work and stay motivated.
@@fhowlandread his book and watch his videos.
I've always had success with women. 6'3, 240 lbs and in very good shape. Military vet, sales, entrepreneur. I didn't take the red pill until this year. The one time in my life where I hit a "rut" aka went broke from business I met "the one". Just like Rich has said "She waits for the winners and DOES not care about your struggles. " After I went through this and her starting to flake I left her and ultimately realized that they already want a man who is complete and not having any struggles and can provide everything. I love women but have learned to be careful and do not get emotionally attached especially if you are going through some struggles. I learned from my mistakes and got a huge drive to better myself. Good luck gents! life is good. Live and learn. Be better than the dude you were yesterday. Shoutout to Rich. These videos are killer
@@chad5617 ye, I feel that too.
There's this natural urge I get to take responsibility and share my pain and happiness.
@@chad5617 it's better to let go of such a woman and not be in love with her at all man.
@@chad5617 very true! learned this the hard way haha
@@chad5617 obviously for sex and toying around with. Watching them do crazy things for u thinking it’ll earn ur love will give u life long laughs 🤷♂️
It really depends on the girl. A girl with experience will tend to want a guy who’s accomplished. A young girl that still thinks love pays the bills will pick fixer uppers, granted he doesn’t dump all his problems on her every chance he gets. She’ll leave both eventually for whatever reason.
Unless you're a mafia boss, being fat is never acceptable to women.
Which is crazy cause there's plenty of slampigs out here with regular shaped dudes. It boggles my mind. But dudes don't complain. At this point the body positive movement was for women not to work out and be accepted as "beautiful"
Not true, perfectly acceptable.
Yous' guys chasing schifosas'...blahahaa!
Or rich.
Amen, Trump had to be a rich man to get his
I wish you existed in 2010, I grew without a father figure and my older brother passed away in 1999, I’m just barely learning all this stuff and I’m 32 years old
@@roastme2079 ^ fantastic comment. Everyone should take the time to read this. Stepping outside your comfort zone is the only place growth occurs.
Better late than never my friend.
They say there's always someone in a worse position than us. Well, I'm 38 and just learning this stuff now.
Glad you're here dog
@@roastme2079 Enthusiasm is key. I like to read books on the subject. There’s one by dale Carnegie that got me started on this road.
Sensitivity is also important. Toxic masculinity, as they like to call it, is all about being the type of man that you think society wants you to be. You must be sensitive to changes to adapt to them properly and decisively.
Above all, the brain can constantly be rewired. This is not a one-time deal. Complacency and comfort zones are to be avoided at all costs. One has to strive to keep moving forward and not lingering on the “coulda, shoulda, would a”s.
Spot on, btw. I like the way you think.
"Women don´t chase 4s"! Spot on Mr. Cooper. keep blessing us with your knowledge.
You bet
A lot of new red pill channels have opened in the past 12 months... This channel stays the realest. No fear mongering, real advice. Respect
What does red pill mean
@@metalxner5411 means that your aware and eyes wide open to the realities of the world and dating
@@jaleunbound8498 ahh ok, that makes sense. Thank u
Yes direct honest advice no bullshit and the hard route which yields results.
Spot on! A woman should NEVER be the sun that your world revolves around.....more like an asteroid containing rare earth metals, it has its uses, but it is not needed to hold your solar system together.
This one is straight from the space program 🤣
Great analogy.
When I live this way She says Im selfish
Don't let a woman become a supernova..consumes everything.
Fun Fact: the Sun is a male celestial being. The same sun that earth & all other planets revolve around. Men should never revolve around anyone!
"Chase excellence not women." Genius.
You're my mentor! I'm 27 yrs and I need a lot to learn. Always learn from the experience.
Spot on. The hell with Bobby Rio and his text message tricks.
Ha ha..yeah 'do this one thing when she pull's away' etc, etc..
But those are the ads showing up as I see these videos of Rich and Rollo!! LOL
LOL!!! I bought one of his $10 programs 2-3 years ago. It couldn’t be downloaded except to some Dropbox cloud clone service, that crashed a lot or just didn’t work right. I also had to create an account I didn’t want there, so then I got hit up to upgrade to more storage. Total WASTE!!!
@Peter Jordanson ..and eventually the ladies will start chasing you..!
I found a page from the Woman’s Playbook: “It’s men’s fault, I am the prize, I am the table”
Sounds like a frustrated woman for me
Make sure you’re chasing Excellence as in the betterment of yourself and not the Stripper named Excellence at Pink Pony.
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most of these young dweeb out there are into My Little Poney anyways!😀
Wish I read this before I chased Mercedes 😔
THE V10 is back baby!
The same golden advice that I listened to years ago that changed my life and is the best advice. Always be the best version of yourself and work towards being better! It's such a waste of time to chase women!
That's right brother I'm 5'4 and my bed hates me 😂 nonstop action. I have a great build I travel the world. I'm confident and maintain masculine frame . Never have a problem.
Richard Cooper needs his own marvel hero movie.
youre simpimg right now lol
I dated a single mum 48 with 2 boys 11 and 13 . I did I gave I paid all the way . She had me at arms length over the 2 years . I did so much for her . After 2 years she dumped me . Yes given I am 57 it has taken me a long time to get over her . I did sell my house and bought a yacht and moved away . She stuck in a small town and I am free . I will never make the mistake of falling for these women again .
Hahaha my grandmother literally confirms exactly what Rich says, last time I simped she told me I’m meant to be King not the woman. Thanks for the content man!
So, I like what I hear you saying. Having been married 38 years to a woman who like myself is interested in making our relationship work and is doing the work. My take on LTRs is that it is important to always do the work on one's internal relationship with one's self. If you are not maintaining a healthy relationship with your self, it is difficult to maintain healthy relationships with other people. My opinion is that in US society we are encouraged to be mental children, gullible and needy. This keeps us weak and dependent, and compliant to those in power. Women want men who they can trust to have the inner and outer strength they need to be there for them.
Please you shouldn’t be here, you will poison your life. GET OUT.
Only child, absent father, single mother-background, certified Nice Guy for the better part of my life. You are waking me up with some much needed information, what younger me would refer to as the secret I never got to get in on, or understand. Thank you man, subbed and subbed.
Ok, after getting muscles, bank, and lethality: why bother with women at all?
Don't. But they will bother with you.
@@gistfilm jesus christ, this is the best answer I've heard in years
Cuz they soft and smell nice
because your libido is a thing
@ Not so much post divorce
I'm 5'8" and I've never had height issues with women. Albeit I don't really date women my height or taller.🤣
Gentlemen, go do fun shit! Enjoy your life, spend money on yourself and building your "tribe". Women will gravitate towards you naturally. You'll attract the ones that really want you.
Do women care about penis size
@@mabd7340 only if youre rly small or rly big
@@calebbroege1333 can u specify which size is considered rly small and which one is considered rly big?
@@mabd7340 Answer is mostly NO
Although they do
But only of you really have a small one
But you need to get her in bed in order for her to care in the first place
@@mabd7340 under 4 i would think they would notice its small and over 6 or 7 is probably considered large
This brother is straight money ! I lost 57 pounds at 50 years old. Running 6-7 miles a day. 6’3” and now 230. Bringing it. When I walk into a room with a suit. Fire. Before I was insecure when I walked into a room. Just got divorced and focusing on the next 10 years. Not a woman. preach it ..
I 100 percent agree with this video, I used to be very overweight and the typical nice dude. I had to put soo much effort into getting chicks and they never lasted more then a month. As soon as I started to focus on myself, lose weight, workout, not over eat anymore (cutting out sugars), and take care of myself. Woman started to throw themselves at me. Honestly men when you hit that 20% it becomes effortless. Woman will put themselves in your orbit. For the amount of effort I had to put in before, It was way more efficient and worth while to work out myself and reap the benefits. Before this lock down started, I would go to a club and woman would approach me.... A couple months ago I went to a house party and there was this attractive blonde girl there, I checked her out and like 30 minutes later her friend comes up to me and says "are you single? My friend over there is into you", we ended up hooking up that night. I don't mean to sound way to much of a douche, but it's true.
I'm 33 yrs old mother of 3 not educated I have no.problem with dating men because they need someone who has money and not burden that's why I'm single now for 8 yrs but I stay more peaceful with no stress just working in Lebanon as a nanny earning small money but I'm happy with it and life goes on.muck love from 🇰🇪
Newly divorced, (5 months) I like to think I am a 7. With that said, I checked out the dating sites briefly. Good god... What a shit show of options out there for men. The women on those sites are wounded birds. One woman seemed cool, attractive but she had more red flags than the Chinese Army. We never meet, but shortly after a few conversations she was automatically saying I miss you, I love you and said she had baby fever. Ding ding ding....that was my cue to dissolve the situation and back away from that woman who was clearly a level 10 clinger. Listen to Rich guys.
Charles Ivy . I agree, completely removed my self off online sites. Most women there made me want to puke. Ijust daygame at the coffee shops in my city while working on my business.
who else feels like unsubscribing to all the other channels and come here to watch all the videos. this is the most real staff i have listened to. thanks man.
I look at it like this. When you don't focus on making a ton of money in whatever field you are in but instead focus on just being the best at what you do money just becomes a by product of that. The same goes with being a better man doing what is necessary to improve your resume in life, women will simply come along. The more you focus your energy on the very thing you wish and desperately crave the further you will get from having it. This is my perspective.
Blunt and to the point. THIS is the advice men need. Actual Tinder data shows it's more like the top 10% than the top 20% though lol. The point remains. Excellent stuff Rich.
You're absolutely right. I know I'm a 5 on my best self - and I don't chase women at all. I've taken myself out of the game entirely until such time as I can get off medications and get in shape. And carve out a career rather than just a string of crappy jobs.
Chase God
Chase Health
Chase Excellence
Chase Craft
Chase Prosperity
Chase Knowledge
Men if you do these things your lives will be much better for the long haul. Look down the road. Not at her because she isn't looking at you. She is looking at your wallet, your resources and what you can do for her. You're better than that. You're above that. Do good. Be better.
Sounds like you need the religion red pill lol. Chasing fictional characters is cringe worthy in 2020
justtony21, best I can do is 5 out of 6.
@Jim Hook religion is a scam that preys on people who can't accept reality. I was brought up religious before seeing things objectively. Can't believe I use to think noah's ark and all of the other silly ridiculousness like Jonah and the whale occurred.
@Jim Hook People say holy crap/shit a lot so do you think that they really believe that feces is holy? No, it's just a common phrase.
@@Poker-is8dt You are correct, religion IS a scam, which is precisely why Jesus attacked it. Jesus hates religion. It was the Religious Structure he attacked that had him crucified, via Roman authorities. Religion prays on the weak, and seeks to control you. Jesus died for your weaknesses so that you can be free.
And before you go attacking Jesus, trust me, there is a long list of people more brilliant than you who set out to prove Jesus a lie, only to end up accepting Jesus as their personal Lord and Savior. 2000+ years and counting and no one has succeeded yet in proving Jesus false. Know the Truth and the Truth will set you free. I am speaking as a former anti-God, atheist who is exceptionally intelligent, who ended up giving his life to Christ. BEST decision I ever made. Twenty-one years of freedom and counting, through good times and bad, and my Faith in Jesus only gets stronger.
I pray you are willing to humble yourself enough to be open to seeing the Truth. Ask God/Jesus to reveal himself to you - in humility and sincerity, not with pride and arrogance, and God will meet you where you are. If you are not willing to be open to it, that's fine, your call. Cheers -
Whenever rich is in the r8 he has additional wisdom some how
You would too if you were riding in one, driving one makes you feel like a king.
Thank you, Rich needed to hear this, I moved from a small town to San Diego two weeks ago, and I haven't gone out and put myself out there for this exact reason, I have been working out 6 days a week and cleaned up my eating, cut my alcohol consumption and I am looking for a decent paying job (I'm 24). Until I feel confident in my skin and walk around chin up chest out, I will stay inside and do the work, women come after and only then-- remember fellas we are the prize not them, women are like the seasons, they come and go, a dime a dozen!
ps: if anyone wants to link up for a gym sesh or have a beer let me know I don't know anyone out here
Cheers!
It's like what Chris Rock's boss said in the movie, I Think I Love My Wife, "You'll always lose money chasing women, but you'll never lose women chasing money." Words for all of us men to live by, especially in these times.
I agree. That’s the reason why the saying “A good woman is hard to find” you have to put in the work hence seek excellence not women.
When the flower blooms the bees come uninvited
I’m 42. I’ve been through the divorce grinder and came out the other side a better, stronger man. I don’t know why but this simple truth took me forever to learn...and I learned it the hard way. But once I did the world opened up for me. All fathers should have this talk with their sons. Thank you Rich.
Believe it guys - i am almost 30 and it took me this long to figure it out - never too late to start! Put the work in!
Yep, this is the video I've been looking for! I'm watching this every morning for motivation.
Uncle Rich delivering the truth! My favorite quote, “can you make it rain?”. Great content
Make it rain? Like Melvin Franklin of the Temptations? Make it rain?
This is what I need in my life. I've been trying my best to focus on ME and most of my life so far, I have had a hard time to doing so. I just turned 26 and I realize that I NEED to change. Always been afraid of it.
Found you a week ago. Definitely enjoy the content. Looking forward to the future 43, two years single, once divorced. You're definitely a positive UA-cam influencer. Thanks for your hard work.
"It's not the beard on the outside, it's the beard on the inside."
its the mind first
Sage advice.
Yo, what do you think of this variation on a theme:
You're not hers, it's just her turn.
You're the prize...
Rooster Carousel
We change our mindset and quit with a defeated mindset....establish your code men
You are making yourself property or an object.
all successful people have 50+ women they have fucked before that they can hook up with.... Why do ya'll act like this is some new concept?? Keep incelling it boys!!
This is a very good template. I have had a number of red pill moments but resisted the lessons. The final straw has me awake. Blue pill tells you to take her seriously, but not yourself. The ability to walk away is essential.
It is quite true. I would also refer people to your other video about changing your belief system, make better choices, get better results. Great input in this video too.
He is right. My dad does a lot of handyman stuff (fixing cars and appliances, some electrical, plumbing, AC, gardening, he cooks, he can clean (sometimes.. though he's not the best) and has been in the trucking business for more than 30 years. My dad is about 5'6.
My dad looks rough after his last marriage, but he is really extroverted, he's always willing to lend a hand without asking for anything in return, he can do a lot for anyone, and everyone loves him for that. Women are attracted to how much he can do. He has been told "They dont make them like you anymore."
My parents divorced in 2010. My dad married a nasty, foreign, single mom that opened credit cards in his name, took his money, and racked up cards that he didn't know about. He was too busy and too blind, as well as didn't have a spine to get rid of her as soon as he realized it was a BIG problem (that turned into a bigger problem) . She had a nasty personality and didn't want my dad to be around his kids or other family members. She worked at a Walmart 20+ miles away and had affairs with men who worked with her. My dad told her to gtfo in 2018 after catching her talking on the phone to a man. When she was moving out she even brought that old man to move her. my dad was there, but had no idea it was the guy she was talking to.. she thought old man had assets that she could obtain, but I hear the he was too smart and put everything of value in his son's name. He got married to her a month after the divorce was finalized (he had no feelings for her so idk why).
I had a grudge against my dads ex, there were too many secrets and it drove my dad nuts.. she probably thought nobody would ever know what she was doing.. We got the old man's first name from our neighbor that delivers liquor to her walmart (he got the gossip). I began searching, popped it in on white pages, singled him out by age, found his ex-wife (they were together but divorced, because his wife didn't trust him) ..my dad went to her place, they talked, and he found out she was being a hoe. They all worked together (my dad's ex, old man, and his ex-wife) at Walmart so everyone found out about my dads ex and the old man. She has to live with the embarrassment of being a cheater and gold digging, life destroyer. She's a whole 🤡 because she had shit made when she was with my dad. He paid all the bills and had a decent car that he was paying for..
ive heard she became obese and looks way older as well. My dad is friends with the old man's ex wife now, they go to eat, my dad goes to her house parties. Im sure it upsets his Ex. Karma is a bitch.
Rich, I really appreciate content like this, where you focus on the self-improvement aspect of Red Pill philosophy, rather than what's wrong with women. Our gender needs to realize that we're biologically driven to hyper-focus on female attention. We can all do better by stop chasing them period. Do the work, make a good life for yourself, and you can have fun with women when they come after you. Good stuff, keep it coming 👍🏻
Needless to say, but excellence is subjective to the individual man
Objective excellence markers include character health, wealth.
If excellence for me is to sit on my ass and compete in videogames then i cant complain about woman not wanting to smash
Let the women you want be the judge of that.
@@forwardpaunganwa4135 lol why? All that’s doing is putting her wants and expectations over yours
What a cope of a comment.
Chase excellence, work on yourself, a No BS Zone, Level Up Live your best life..Masculine
Pocket Hercules lmfao, you know their boy was a legend.
Spot on! I chased women and had no success. As soon as I stopped caring and focused on myself and my business, not only did those improve, I started having more dates and now got a great girl. But if you aren’t ok with yourself, a girl ain’t gonna fix that.
Be the best version of yourself! Wise words Coach Cooper
That Snatch reference was fantastic. Thanks for the content. Red pill's hard to swallow, but worth it everyday.
Rich speaks 100% the truth! I am 42 year old divorce father of two. I have made all the mistakes Rich has spoken about and I wish I had this knowledge when I was younger. I would have saved so much of my time and resources. If you are in your 20s and watching his stuff please take notes and follow it to the LETTER! His youtube channel should be a required course for all men to watch. I guarantee my Son will learn these lessons and he will have a much more successful path in his life than I did. I recommended his channel and book to all men that I know.
Excellent men live excellent lives!!! FRAME YOUR MINDSET MEN 🔥🔥
All facts ... listen to this man 💯
Rich I wish your videos and book was around when I was in High School in 1999…my life would have changed drastically for the better!!!
Women or no women ..
This is golden advice...from. teenager to your 60's...like me.
Preach it!
Before I had a stroke, I would always feel bad or feel like I effed up if I didn’t workout everyday or every other day. It just felt wrong. I’ve heard other people say they feel this way too. Good vid!👍
Realest channel out there, keep killing it!
Even tough succes is a lonely path i'dd still choose growth over company.
This video just shows how much men must try to have a date with us! We are so valuable. 😤🥰
Team 5'5" here. I need to lose this belly fat and get shredded. I used to at least be in decent shape at one point. Been studying martial arts for almost 30 years.
Am a very ordinary reg nurse at 55 year old widow ,2 great grown kids
Love been 7 YEARS ON my own,but love been able to pass your knowledge on to young people that I advise with love, good care going forward, not always about me
isish i lady, Thanks, Sinead
I love true authentic people that genuinely care for others the world needs more mentors like this
5'8 170 lbs 30 year old here. I have always picked up women and instantly won their favor with ease, and id like to attribute the initial interest in my V taper I've had my entire adult life. Stated lightly weight training at age 15 and never stopped, now i dead lift 405, squat and bench 315. Fitness absolutely matters and if you think otherwise you're a fool. If you want options or more attractive ones at that you will hit the gym 5 days a week for the rest of your life. Don't make life harder for yourself.
Being the best version of yourself pretty much means knowing what you value and living a lifestyle conducive to those values. This will look different on a case to case basis. Making a ton of money doesn't necessarily fall into everyone's value system. In fact, I would say that some of the most interesting people don't care about having a high income. For my own financial stance, I strive for financial security and independence. You don't need to make tons of money if you are smart with your finances.
your best video yet. 110% spot on
Best advice I ever gotten. The exact words. Opened my eyes
Gotta appreciate the reminder.
Watch this, pay attention and watch it again. 100% honest truth.
Competing in video games rather than competing in the real world!! FACTS!
Another important point on chasing excellence and not women is why are you doing it? Are you chasing excellence because you want to make a difference in the world and live the life you want, or are you doing it because you want a girl?
Thanks for the vid Rich.
I went through some legal issues and was down in the dumps so my girl at the time left me. Now she won’t stop blowing me up because I rebuilt myself with a six figure job and now car shopping for a luxury car
I got to admit, ive been slacking and forget how to be a better version of myself. Thanks for reminding me that
He said women don't care about the struggle they are just waiting at the finishing line to pick the winner 🏆 man this is realest shit I ever heard about women
So true, i'm going through a situation where i'm fit, good looking, and understand pickup, but the number 1 thing standing in my way from nailing 10s on a regular is the fact that i'm not balling and making 6 figures. It's not worth spending all this time understanding pickup and not working on your career. Work on yourself and the women will come and you won't have to deal with nearly as much BS on the way.
Instagram game is probably weak, update your i.g
Rock On Rich! Hope the youngers are taking notes!
Real Shit. Thanks Brother!
Just started reading No More Mr Nice Guy this evening from you recommending it in a previous video. The first chapter already indicates that men must work and prioritise on oneself first. Keep up the advice.
That book changed my life! Its so vital for every man to read it
@@JoMama123451234 👍🏻 wish I had heard of it 10 years ago, been out nearly 20 years.
Thanks for your brutal honesty. I need to exercise more and this has kicked me into it. Most people probably mean well but being too nice prevents you making that difficult step of starting what you need to improve.
My Man Rich.... Keep telling us to chase excellence and not women. It's not about them, it's about us. We have to get our stuff together and that's what's important, do the work first, stop worrying about learning game when you don't even have your stuff together.
1. Only few women are worth your time. (Never your money).
2. Make your self great according to your values, not anyone else's values.
3. Always be honest with women. Great women love that.
4. Learn to slow romantic dance, very well.
5. Live a hobby and women with the same hobby will definitely be all over you.
6. It really is that simple. If there is a great woman near you, she'll find you.
I shared this video with a good friend of mine who is always looking for an external reason why he’s not successful with women. Always looking for that short cut or simple solution that doesn’t require self discipline. He got angry and defensive and thought I was being shitty with him! Some people just won’t listen to good advice.
I agree 100%, learn to defend yourself.
The Audi R8 was a 10 cylinder but was changed to a 8 cylinder twin turbo. So, being able to adapt (or reset) one's thinking is critical.
For most young men it will be about a journey of self-discovery ... life, who am I, values, interests, partnering, etc. At times focus will be on self-development/experimentation, other times relationships eg chasing women/making friends, often everything at the same time. These things , of course, are not mutually exclusive and life is messy (even for the 1%). But it's true if you're not doing anything that is moving you forward, then you are going backwards.
This guy ! Hey, thanks Rich
Brother your video change my life 👏🏻
Thank you for saying all of this Rich. This is the truth. Not that bs all these self righteous PUAs try to sell you guys. It’s only a woman’s world if you guys let it be. When you’re the best version of yourself you can be, you can almost say or text anything you want. Inner game is what’s going to lead you to the light
Well said Rich. I have been telling my buddies this forever and they don't get and then they complain that women don't want them. My response is look in the mirror and ask yourself "would you date a woman who has the same type of body as you and makes the same money as you?" Some of them get it and some never will.
I watch this everyday . I'll continue to do so until it's ingrained into the fiber of my very being
I am 5 foot 4, and I like this message. I've been wanting to join a dojo, but my government has banned contact sports because of covid. Makes me mad like nothing else. I feel like it's the missing piece that I need to finally start getting more masculine
Watching you and AMS became my norm