3 reasons you should never chase women

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  • Опубліковано 3 чер 2024
  • There are things that separate boys from men. This is one of them. In this video, Jessica highlights 3 reasons you should never chase women.
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    00:00 - Intro
    00:43 - 2 reasons why women make you chase them
    02:40 - 3 reasons men should not chase
    02:51 - Reason 1
    03:51 - Reason 2
    06:25 - Reason 3
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  • @JessicaOS
    @JessicaOS  2 роки тому +427

    Kindly note that I will never give you a phone number to contact me on. Please beware of fake Jessica OS accounts looking to scam you. The only way to have any direct conversation with me is via my Patreon account. Www.patreon.com/jessicaos . Stay safe guys!

    • @LW-ny7vl
      @LW-ny7vl 2 роки тому +5

      nice, just seen this, anymore videos on this matter thanks

    • @fredrickegiebor8990
      @fredrickegiebor8990 2 роки тому +3

      I appreciate your concerns on us men best advice so far on the internet

    • @SA80TAGE
      @SA80TAGE 2 роки тому +3

      right so all I have to do is become rich and successful so worthless gold diggers will come chasing my money (not me)... what kind of advice is that? For both men and women?

    • @augustismynight3457
      @augustismynight3457 2 роки тому

      Another one, will, they will keep killing you guys and all you will good for is make Americans great for others and you here, it a sad day on Black Wall Street. Will they try hahah 😂🤣😂

    • @akhil_1210
      @akhil_1210 2 роки тому +3

      I probably need an advice
      the girl I've been chasing for almost a few days...it's she who confessed to me and started a relationship...(everything was alright)in the middle she just wanna break up for no reason and when I asked her to think again,she said me to wait till she's ready to accept me again,she probably wants me to chase after her...I really don't like this,and the fact that all her feelings just dissolved into thin air... just makes me think like I've been used like a toy/dog and thrown away after she became bored of me...
      The fact that this is my first love hurts me even more..
      I really don't know what to do at this point.

  • @Damola247
    @Damola247 2 роки тому +5098

    "You lose money chasing women but you never lose women chasing money"

    • @JustinLeon423
      @JustinLeon423 2 роки тому +47

      Facts my dumbass falls for everytime. I think I can give them something that they never got with all the past relationships. I could of had cash to buy a 200000 house

    • @waynesworld90
      @waynesworld90 2 роки тому +3

      @Damola Adenola Right✊🏾

    • @MrSnow-dx1pr
      @MrSnow-dx1pr 2 роки тому +40

      I think I love my wife.

    • @elliottsmith7530
      @elliottsmith7530 2 роки тому +3

      faaaaax.....the only aphorism u need to know on god

    • @karlen5550
      @karlen5550 2 роки тому +86

      Yes and alot of them are a big waste of money..and most time you chase a woman at times when you finally get them your not as interested anymore she probably done do so many things to make you change your mind

  • @dennisokoi8234
    @dennisokoi8234 2 роки тому +4711

    Make her chase you!!! How??? The answer is: Focus on your dreams/goals. This is exactly what I'm doing. No more chasing women! Thank you sister! You're my favorite on this! Love you!

    • @trapkidvoke6145
      @trapkidvoke6145 2 роки тому +69

      Exactly my brother

    • @ofosuappiahpage1701
      @ofosuappiahpage1701 2 роки тому +213

      I was once chasing my girlfriend and I realised I was being stupid”so I move back and she’s now chasing me!! And am also chasing my dreams for now ..

    • @jasonyoung1608
      @jasonyoung1608 2 роки тому +19

      Lol so they what you have become if that’s it so then I’ll will her dawg if she come to
      Me after 🤣 the fact

    • @Fn7_ACTUAL
      @Fn7_ACTUAL 2 роки тому +13

      Amen to that! She's right.

    • @Fn7_ACTUAL
      @Fn7_ACTUAL 2 роки тому +13

      And always great advice

  • @jordanwest43
    @jordanwest43 Рік тому +218

    I spent my 20’s chasing relationships. My last relationship were fucked me up. Depressed & not eating. I ended up getting a gig & got back chasing my goals. I’ve been traveling & working ever since. Chase your goals fellas.
    If y’all aren’t chasing each other then stop. You deserve love & effort too.

    • @jessemartinez2127
      @jessemartinez2127 11 місяців тому +2

      I wish you were there in the 70s. You would have been the greatest ❤️! Case closed. It's ok. Before your time. Love you Jessica.

  • @phillnelsonifeadi3307
    @phillnelsonifeadi3307 Рік тому +118

    We need women that can advice men genuinely like you do now than ever ❤️

  • @calvinthompson2590
    @calvinthompson2590 2 роки тому +1428

    I’ve wasted years after chasing and it never hit me until I lost my dreams, I put all my effort into the relationship and all I did was to complete her goal and not mine, hope all men see this and learn, I learn the hard way.

    • @InfluencerKhiz
      @InfluencerKhiz 2 роки тому +10

      Thank you for this ❤

    • @InfluencerKhiz
      @InfluencerKhiz 2 роки тому +4

      Thank you

    • @Colonfuego
      @Colonfuego 2 роки тому +27

      I had to learn the hard way as well but glady I stop chasing and starting working on my goals

    • @kenchino0161
      @kenchino0161 2 роки тому +14

      Never too late to get back to your goals.

    • @Josue-zm9iu
      @Josue-zm9iu 2 роки тому +1

      @jade azeem 💪🏽💪🏽

  • @jimmyfritz8240
    @jimmyfritz8240 2 роки тому +580

    No dating apps no social media no chasing women. Focusing on myself. Living alone doesn’t make it easy especially when get inside your head feel needy and lonely but just have to push through the mental stuff. One day at a time

    • @neo5973
      @neo5973 Рік тому +46

      Dude it’s the same with me. I’m happy being alone and focusing on my stuff but it does get challenging when you see all these couples everywhere you sometimes wonder what am I doing… but it only lasts for a couple of minutes haha then I’m back to liking myself

    • @-TheMaskedMan-
      @-TheMaskedMan- Рік тому +37

      Alone? Its time you guys start dating abroad. Brazil etc, better women in every possible way with significantly less the effort. That loneliness and depression is not healthy for us regardless of what anyone says. We have needs and we just cant get them in this country which is weird as hell.

    • @brolysmash9333
      @brolysmash9333 Рік тому +12

      Bro you’re not the only one. Focus always on yourself my King. I went tru many sh*** in life with girls I loved, and trust me, you’re doing good. Work, learn always something new, set goals, buy a house, etc.. The right person will come to ya at the right time.
      I’ve been alone for 8 years and I still am. You play games, go to bar, talk to your friends when you have the time, money is not an issue, life is beautiful, and I most importantly, I don’t focus on these so called beautiful woman from the outside but rotten on the inside. Waiting for you to break, so they can squeeze you in every sense possible. Mostly monetary.

    • @brolysmash9333
      @brolysmash9333 Рік тому

      @@neo5973 bro facts. I saw this dude having a hard time with his girl, she was being rude and disrespectful. I felt bad for him but at the same time I was like yo I’m happy I’m not living that life.
      I always say, the right person will come to ya. Just give it time. I rather whack of*** than having a chick that after giving you some pus*** start taking dominance in certain ways.

    • @lhcoco94
      @lhcoco94 Рік тому +11

      Keep pushing brother. It is all about quality over quantity, it applied for relationships and friendships. I deleted all my social media and freed myself from so much waste of energy and curated alternatives realities.

  • @UnholyByChoice
    @UnholyByChoice 8 місяців тому +11

    As a now 50-year-old man who has experienced the results of chasing women and from what I've seen from countless men who have chased women is, even if you hook up with them after the chase the relationship doesn't last long.

  • @shadowgarden6053
    @shadowgarden6053 Рік тому +33

    As a woman a man chasing me, repulses me. It makes me feel like he's desperate. It makes me cringe. Trust a man I want, will never have to chase me, if I'm into man I speak up, or if he pursues me I'll agree. But nothing makes a woman want you more, than a man working on his goals. It let's woman know your mindful about your life, and possibly those in it. It makes a woman feel safe, & secure with you. As much as I love being important to a man I love, but if his dreams, and goals aren't just as important I feel like he's weak, & is a ticking time bomb bcus in return he will be looking for me to satisfy, his lack of care for his goals, he will take until there's nothing left. Bcus he's not giving to himself. In return leaves a woman feeling drained, and him feeling like a failure.

  • @omartamer1334
    @omartamer1334 Рік тому +437

    As a 19 years old, I really felt like you're my older sister and wanna give me some advice and life lessons. Thanks to UA-cam for recommending me this.

    • @jt.8144
      @jt.8144 8 місяців тому

      How sad for a 19year old to be getting LIFE lessons in UA-cam. I pity anyone under 40 years old nowadays. CLEARLY Lost AS WHAT WE SEE HERE.

    • @foodetc.
      @foodetc. 8 місяців тому

      I'm over 50 and still learn from UA-cam @@jt.8144. There is definitely a lot of bunk here too but in that mess of bunk, there are nuggets of gold. This lady gives good advice and there is A LOT of good advice on UA-cam. It's the world we live in; to draw from others and their experiences but in this generation, it's times 1000. You just have to separate the wheat from the chaff.

    • @g-man8023
      @g-man8023 5 місяців тому

      @@jt.8144 how is it a bad thing for someone to obtain advice and knowledge from UA-cam? Isn't that the whole point of these channels and the internet itself? There are people who don't have a figure in their life to give them guidance or personal experience to help reflect. These types of videos aid so many ppl to feel a little less alone and lost and im grateful for this video Jessica made 💙

  • @otiss3213
    @otiss3213 2 роки тому +879

    Never ever have I chased any woman. My dad taught me early on never to go running behind any woman because another one would come along in a few minutes...chasing only makes you look like you're less than someone else's equal and so forth. I've taught my sons the exact same thing! NEVER CHASE ANY WOMAN! PERIOD.

  • @DecimalD_
    @DecimalD_ Рік тому +43

    This is exactly what I needed to hear. Just started dating this year after a 4 year hiatus and it’s been mostly a disappointing experience. I also immediately started slacking in the Gym as soon as I began dating. Going to just focus on myself for a while and keep leveling up my career.

  • @goodlife2456
    @goodlife2456 Рік тому +6

    Totally agreed. Men shouldn't be chasing after women. Here are my reasons:
    1) Chasing implies desperation
    2) A woman already knows which guy she is going to "surrender" to. And THAT guy is usually the one who didn't put in much effort at all.
    3) The dynamic is unbalanced. This woman you are chasing is not just benefiting from your time and resources, but from multiple other guys with minimal to no effort at all. Meanwhile you are wasting resources on something that is more than likely never going to happen.
    4) When a woman is interested in a guy and actually WANTS his attention, SHE'LL make every effort to get it. So if a woman is not vying for your time and attention, don't just give it to her.

  • @webexpert247
    @webexpert247 2 роки тому +155

    Why do people think u can't chase women and work on ur success at the same time? If u would really stop improving yourself or giving 100% in ur job/business just because u're chasing a girl, then u have a different problem. If u ignore girls until u have money, then u attract more golddiggers than honest ones and u'd be too inexperienced to know the difference. The golden rule is: don't be needy, have standards, value ur time, learn to let go when u're not appreciated.

    • @alhassanfirrdous7292
      @alhassanfirrdous7292 2 роки тому +9

      You said it all! There are a lot of rich men with bad women!

    • @koalsam1494
      @koalsam1494 2 роки тому +1

      Even by doing what you said doesn't escape you from chasing gold diggers but how experienced enough are you relating to females will determine how far you can go with your point. And it's in both ways. In my opinion Jessica points are okay for me based on my experienced with female. Less stress if you're switched on in your head.

    • @jsnow07grad
      @jsnow07grad 2 роки тому +5

      Now your post is realistic thank you.

    • @danielgitau7213
      @danielgitau7213 2 роки тому +3

      Your comment is pure gold

    • @MaJeSTiCz0
      @MaJeSTiCz0 2 роки тому

      Facts hustle and grind.

  • @bobstone8446
    @bobstone8446 2 роки тому +360

    Jessica is a typical example of someone who has really worked on her craft. She’s so professional!
    Great work!

    • @larryshenault8107
      @larryshenault8107 2 роки тому +3

      She is world class. Now where is the video tell black women how to conduct themselves to get black men to show them more respect, there must be a code of conduct for black women. I See so many video putting down black women concerned there additude.

    • @AbubakarSeif
      @AbubakarSeif 2 роки тому +1

      I concur.

    • @jonathanbanda2869
      @jonathanbanda2869 2 роки тому +2

      That's true

    • @klausmakaneta6890
      @klausmakaneta6890 2 роки тому +2

      She is a woman so she knows how they work kkkk

    • @vicdoesfitness
      @vicdoesfitness 2 роки тому

      Absolute Class!

  • @gamzaify
    @gamzaify Рік тому +1

    Found this video randomly and I must admit I found you very eloquent, well put and straight to the point. You've earned a new sub

  • @drkips4757
    @drkips4757 Рік тому +2

    Keep them coming Jennifer.
    You're opening the eyes of men.
    Glad that I found this channel; so real and practical that I cannot ask for more

  • @mophemewapitori3747
    @mophemewapitori3747 2 роки тому +236

    That's what I've been doing and women think I'm proud because I don't chase or beg. I court, you decline, I walk away. Or you accept, we date
    Thank you Jessica

  • @hvppy_world
    @hvppy_world 2 роки тому +66

    As soon as I decided to stop chasing women and started focusing on my dreams...she came to me.
    we immediately connected...2 years later... we still together.

    • @HDMIOT
      @HDMIOT 2 роки тому +1

      i stopped chasing a girl i was trying to get with for almost 8 months, we spoke regularly if i did'nt call or texted her she would contact me, we went to bed a few time in the 7th month which after another week she started to show some pulling away and some bad vibe, in a late night convo she told me she had taken sex off her mind, me seeing she was still going thru a break-up she says had'nt fully gotten over. so i shut down the engine no calls no texts, she was the one texting cause i told myself and her if she was interested i'm here waiting. after a week she stopped texting first and when she saw me around she looked at me like i did her wrong. even tried to call me friend (must be out your mind) behind, why she was upset i don't know know. i've been getting a lot of flack "bad mouthing" and bad puffed up lips stare down looks that should cause an argument but i'm not letting her have it her way.

  • @BudoReflex
    @BudoReflex Рік тому

    I love listening to you. Very insightful, calm, and solid.

  • @josiahosewo9725
    @josiahosewo9725 7 місяців тому

    Your channel is very educative/ helpful.

  • @mwanzafitalpha9827
    @mwanzafitalpha9827 2 роки тому +320

    1. Ignore her words focus on her actions
    2. Don’t chase women become the man that women will pursue
    3. Women you previously pursued and got rejected by Will later be interested when they see you have a different woman
    4. Women think about marriage as a wedding day and not a lifetime supporting and respecting their man
    5. Embrace rejection it will make you stronger
    6. Disdain women who rejected you, ignoring them is the best revenge
    7. The more attractive she is the harder you have to be, DONT SIMP
    8. Stay away from single mothers
    9. Prioritise your appearance no matter what’s
    10. Never fully commit
    11. Don’t share your weaknesses with a woman, seek professional help in a serious rut
    12. Women cheat more than men, don’t let her accusations blind you
    13. Be low tolerance, be ready to walk away at any given moment
    14. Don’t be bitter, accept female nature and adjust
    15. Keep playing the game and make it difficult. People come back to difficult games to try and beat it, easy games get played once and put on the shelf

    • @gauravkumartailor
      @gauravkumartailor 2 роки тому +16

      Excellent but I can't agree with few points ...

    • @graceyanderson6010
      @graceyanderson6010 2 роки тому +7

      No. If a woman pursues you it is based on WHAT you have (assets) not that the other women that are chasing you. Not all women considers other women their competitions.
      Let's face it. Women want different things. Some women only want a man who is good in bed... not all women are motivated bye sex. I know no woman that thinks about marriage as only one day lols.
      Never fully commit. Really?
      Only an uneducated, masochistic uninitiated woman comes backs for psychological mind games.

    • @infinitesupply8035
      @infinitesupply8035 2 роки тому +3

      Facts!! 💯💯

    • @forgivemakwena6252
      @forgivemakwena6252 2 роки тому +13

      You're red pilled brother 🤒

    • @cashrhodes2296
      @cashrhodes2296 2 роки тому +4

      Taaalllllkkkkk... 🎯🔥🔥🔥

  • @ItBeFactsThou6669
    @ItBeFactsThou6669 2 роки тому +38

    When a Woman gives you game on Woman, YOU LISTEN 🎧 💯🤷🏽‍♂️

    • @sphiwekancube908
      @sphiwekancube908 Рік тому +1

      Great, this is called wisdom👌

    • @abcde9867
      @abcde9867 Рік тому +2

      nahbro all they care about is money she telling us to be more selfish but we have to sacrifice for family and cover them with love. this advice is realistic but not romantic or lasting

  • @sdk7367
    @sdk7367 Рік тому +23

    Can confirm this. I had a crush on a girl and “chased” her for over a year. It was during highschool. I noticed that I was being rejected and just stopped giving her every sort of attention in just an instant. Summer break was over and she suddenly began chasing me. Like having a conversation with me whenever she saw an opportunity, starting lots of nonsene small talk and or taking a seat near me

  • @Foreign_Royal
    @Foreign_Royal Рік тому

    Great video! Straight to the point and I didn’t get bored watching..

  • @mandlamgwenya382
    @mandlamgwenya382 2 роки тому +75

    Agreed. Imagine begging someone to love you. If we vibe and we are both looking for a relationship, we should start determining if we are compatible. It's a 2-way street. No one is doing the other a favor.

    • @graceyanderson6010
      @graceyanderson6010 2 роки тому +2

      Right I disagree with chasing anyone. If you do so ... it will be ultimately to your detriment and not benefit, Relationships should be mutually beneficial. No one person should be doing all of the emotional labor.This sends the signal that you want a caretaker/parent child relations with ultimately diminished sexual activity,
      Unfortunately, many women buy into the belief that they are responsible for their mates ' emotional upkeep and well being. I don't like that relationship model. It is for those that seek to use a person for their own self aggrandizement.
      To engage in this type of relationship only brings about heartache and exhaustion.

    • @harneksingh8296
      @harneksingh8296 2 роки тому

      Ùù

  • @gregorybush1403
    @gregorybush1403 2 роки тому +337

    If someone has a pattern of continually “misunderstanding” you, there’s a good chance you’re getting manipulated. You could end up talking yourself in circles which will be draining, harm your mental health, and make you too emotional so that you can’t think clearly. Many people like this are no different at their core than people who are OPENLY verbally and physically abusive, they’re just more sneaky about it, and there’s a good chance that the physical and/or verbal (aka overt) abuse is on its way. Covert abuse is very hard to spot

    • @gregorybush1403
      @gregorybush1403 2 роки тому

      THNAK YOU BRIANHACKSONLINE ON WEB

    • @javaailon2802
      @javaailon2802 2 роки тому +12

      This is one of the best description to my recent experience. I've never had the right words to describe it but this sums it up! A painful place to be in. FYI, just came across this channel and great content.

    • @likeitornot8027
      @likeitornot8027 2 роки тому +9

      Bro this is excalty what I had, she kept lying about things, hiding things for me and when I was asking something about why some things are like that she couldnt tell me truth. And one day believe I had a bad feeling that she was cheating! And boommm i caught her

    • @thabangtaukobong1040
      @thabangtaukobong1040 2 роки тому

      So accurate!

    • @tailsthefox6568
      @tailsthefox6568 2 роки тому +7

      It’s called covert narcissist

  • @user-jl7kz9zy1w
    @user-jl7kz9zy1w 24 дні тому

    Thanks for sharing this video ,it's very helpful I had been through this type of path before.

  • @Jburneyjr
    @Jburneyjr Рік тому

    You hit all points on the head. Great job.

  • @TRuffin
    @TRuffin 2 роки тому +45

    Hearing a Woman say this from a genuine perspective is very pleasing, alot of men need this so they can make their necessary adjustments..

    • @DC-qv6gq
      @DC-qv6gq 2 роки тому +1

      It's just one woman's view.

    • @graceyanderson6010
      @graceyanderson6010 2 роки тому +1

      Means nothing. This is called a logical fallacy.
      Many black enslaved persons also believed in slavery.
      So your reasoning is just because a woman says so, therefore she is more credible?

    • @DC-qv6gq
      @DC-qv6gq 2 роки тому

      @@graceyanderson6010 complete fallacy. It's a shame so many men have fallen for this message . May they receive sense.

  • @ojimaochuma3971
    @ojimaochuma3971 2 роки тому +67

    Never chased women, never will. Thanks for making my thoughts more plain and coherent Jessica.

  • @philserna3581
    @philserna3581 Рік тому

    GREAT ADVISE. THANK YOU.

  • @Juan_M19
    @Juan_M19 8 місяців тому

    This is gold. Thank you ❤

  • @amirprime44
    @amirprime44 2 роки тому +84

    Truth be told Jess, you hit the nail on the head in this video. I always tell my gender "Chase your dreams, the women will come later" no woman wants to be with an unsuccessful man. Also she will respect you even more when she sees that you're operating on a certain frequency.
    Thanks for this piece ✌️

    • @bradiepoa3409
      @bradiepoa3409 Рік тому +1

      I've been doing this shit bit not I promise I won't do it anymore. Thanks a lot dear Jessica

  • @user-cc8fe3pe4p
    @user-cc8fe3pe4p 2 роки тому +257

    I’ve been doing this all throughout my high school career, no more. Don’t care how beautiful the girl is, I’m not bending over backwards over another human again, especially one that’s not giving me the same attention, treat a female or a male like a celebrity and he or she will treat you like a fan.

    • @eseigbepablo6109
      @eseigbepablo6109 2 роки тому +2

      I know of a strong spiritual man who can help you bring back your soulmate I am a living testimony of his work and I know that he can also do yours ❤️❤️

    • @norman9541
      @norman9541 2 роки тому

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @user-cc8fe3pe4p
      @user-cc8fe3pe4p 2 роки тому

      @@norman9541 Something to say, Norman?

    • @elliotwall5664
      @elliotwall5664 2 роки тому

      Hoodville fam

    • @tajdyer2803
      @tajdyer2803 2 роки тому +4

      Been there so many time bruh! I regret my past choices I have made. I bend over backwards for females when I was younger. The results were not good. Make your own self happy. These females will not acknowledge you until they have child(ren) , no eyes problems. In short you will be there back up plan when things turn sour for them. I learned alot.

  • @yassanwilliam3153
    @yassanwilliam3153 24 дні тому

    Thanks, Jessica.
    Very informative for these tips. You're indeed helping a lot of guys out there.
    You just won my subscription to your channel.
    Cheers!

  • @BooneDraw
    @BooneDraw Рік тому

    Absolutely. Explains the difficulty of Chasing. Being the one to do all the work in the relationship. Most painful to find out when you marry her that she never really cared.
    I was only financial support to her and her dreams but she never put forth the effort for me. I tell her I love her she says I love you back sometimes but not always. And never tells me she loves me without me saying it first. I have always chased women but expected to be chased back and it never happens.
    I say my must-haves are positivity, kindness, compassion, and good honest communication to build on respect, and romance ... and it all sounds good but Not finding that special someone.
    I am a little desperate because I have never really been loved. Ya. I need to stop chasing and set a new mindset. I Subscribed today, and watched two videos... TY.
    I am now getting a 2nd divorce from a narcissistic relationship. Finding True Love has been so hard for me.

  • @RILLAMAN84
    @RILLAMAN84 2 роки тому +217

    I’m married already, but this is dope. In a sense, that was my mind set. I had things I wanted to try to achieve in my own life. My wife came to me🤷🏽‍♂️. 17 years together now with two kids. It pays to not chase. Less problems I think🤔.

  • @josephvenant7577
    @josephvenant7577 2 роки тому +188

    You're absolutely right Jessica.
    I have been a victim of relationships for years. However, your videos transform my life completely because I have experienced most of those things with women.
    Thanks a lot for this wonderful job 💞💞💞.

  • @godfreymckay
    @godfreymckay Рік тому +3

    Love this Sis. I also think having chased my dreams, I cannot allow anyone who chases after me in my sacred space, Love. We better meet chasing things bigger than ourselves, and thereby fall in love because of our common goal/s. That way I envisage longevity and continued fulfilment in individuality hence capable of enjoying companionship. My thoughts.

  • @thomasdalebabu2538
    @thomasdalebabu2538 10 місяців тому +1

    Really very important clue to note.

  • @tyreeperkins968
    @tyreeperkins968 2 роки тому +112

    This is what has gotten me girls in the past. Staying dedicated to my goals and myself. Constantly visualizing myself in the driver seat of my life, and crushing all of my goals. Now it’s time to get back to that after a deep heat break. I claim it! The power is within all of us.. dig deep 💥

  • @xolanivanda185
    @xolanivanda185 2 роки тому +75

    For me, the problem with women is they have too many signs to read, if you should be persistent and patient with her, or is she giving the signs that it's time for you to move on.
    Then again, as men, we do tend to chase the one woman who is not really looking for what we are looking for. If you are looking for someone to introduce to your mom, the club is not necessarily the best place to look.

  • @shawnpunchdrawingandphotog7113

    Really nice video. Thank you for your thoughts!

  • @razickaj4401
    @razickaj4401 Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much for this

  • @ronwilli684
    @ronwilli684 2 роки тому +67

    ive come across a plethora of female dating advice in my lifetime but this right here is the most to the point, factual and no bs advice ive ever seen.. definitely great video

  • @kenstevens7855
    @kenstevens7855 2 роки тому +95

    The key is to develop a social network and lifestyle where you have repeated interactions with wife/gf level single women. It's much easier to resist the urge to chase when you know you will be interacting with attractive women on a regular basis and developing relationships where they can see your better qualities. If you only rely on online dating or picking up women in bars, then the first time a woman you are strongly attracted to shows a tad of interest the urge will be there to do whatever it takes to get her and that can lead to chasing or simping.
    Women know what they want at that particular time, but their agenda changes frequently as well. Instead of trying to force her to change her agenda, have several attractive women that you interact with on a regular basis (via organizations or peer groups) and you might end up being in the right place at the right time. My dad did not meet my mom's requirements when they met, but they bumped into each other a year later and it was a different story.

    • @olajuwontokunbo7979
      @olajuwontokunbo7979 2 роки тому +9

      You are so on point, but sadly not evey has that has that circle/connection with the opposite sex.

    • @javo10ful
      @javo10ful 2 роки тому +4

      Or just be on your purpose always. Have hobbies and life goals, etc. that way you don’t become relationship focused when you meet a girl you like.

  • @tonytonex
    @tonytonex Рік тому

    Beautiful. I totally agree with you. I love your voice.
    Thanks!

  • @lanremadibarealestate
    @lanremadibarealestate Рік тому

    You’re good at this. I learned from this too. Thanks!

  • @MrKnjwhite
    @MrKnjwhite 2 роки тому +28

    Dennis Okoi said it perfectly! Please my brothers I know its hard to hear but trust us on this. Focus on you, your goals, your purpose, and your legacy and the right woman will appear without much effort at all. The ones we chase, most of the time are not the right women for us. I found my Queen the minute I had given up on chasing. I was enjoying life with my friends, my professional career took off, and my community activism was through the roof! All of a sudden my bride to be appeared!

    • @tylowe78
      @tylowe78 2 роки тому +2

      Your situation is kind of similar to what happened to me. Once I stopped looking or chasing...then low and behold there she was. I was running late for a doctors appointment when I ran into my wife to be. Just imagine if I was on time for the appointment, we probably wouldn't have met each other. Lol.

  • @bonnymb1_official597
    @bonnymb1_official597 2 роки тому +238

    Wow, this is really helpful. I needed someone to tell me that honestly. Been doing exactly what I'm not supposed to. My thoughts and intentions have changed right now. Thank you Jessica.

  • @joseabad2552
    @joseabad2552 Рік тому

    Thanks for sharing this outstanding pointers ❤

  • @leonardgithua7014
    @leonardgithua7014 Рік тому

    The message you cut across very helpful ☺️

  • @aabusang
    @aabusang 2 роки тому +52

    “Everything that needs to be said has already been said. But since no one was listening, Jessica has to say it again” - Andre Gide

  • @melisizwengcobo1170
    @melisizwengcobo1170 2 роки тому +36

    My relationship has evolved ever since I started watching your videos Jess. Thank you alot.

  • @colorlord98
    @colorlord98 Рік тому

    Good video thank you Jessica

  • @wisdomnation3252
    @wisdomnation3252 Рік тому

    Great piece

  • @malikmartin481
    @malikmartin481 2 роки тому +70

    This video randomly came up on my feed, but I’m happy I watched till the end. I’ve been chasing the same girl since HS and everything you said in this video was spot on. I put her on a high pedestal and forgot that I matter.

  • @afleyao8545
    @afleyao8545 2 роки тому +63

    Thanks a million.! Got my heart broken and presently couldn't piece myself together cause I have been trying harder to get her attention... she's independent and got me through all kinds of motions and desolations... honestly I'm drained and fed up of chasing her... I completely retreated...if she returns, good! On the contrary I'm moving on.! Thanks Jessica, you now have a new subscriber to your channel...❤️

    • @christianjoseph4784
      @christianjoseph4784 2 роки тому +1

      Love your wisdom & knowledge about relationships. You are Gorgeous as well.

    • @DC-qv6gq
      @DC-qv6gq 2 роки тому

      @@christianjoseph4784 Nhmmm

  • @214noel
    @214noel 11 місяців тому

    ❤❤❤❤thank you Noel from New Jersey

  • @akbarcnlegacy5586
    @akbarcnlegacy5586 Рік тому

    This is the 1st ever UA-cam Channel I subscribed too.
    Thank you! thank you!

  • @jcmoneyman
    @jcmoneyman 2 роки тому +54

    A+ advice... AND from a WOMAN. THANK YOU... I think that movies, books and media have duped us for so long to believe the storybook romance is real life, when it's not. YOU speak the truth!

    • @markoivanmarelic
      @markoivanmarelic 2 роки тому +1

      Well said bro 👏👍

    • @korneliustalenikapofi6146
      @korneliustalenikapofi6146 2 роки тому

      Thank you Jessica, your teaching is really helping many men worldwide. I was one of those men who are chasing women but since I started watching your videos, I learned a lot and I can assure you I'm totally change the way of proposing or act toward a woman.

  • @clidenjei9270
    @clidenjei9270 2 роки тому +33

    The sound of your voice is so soothing. I Like your choice of words too. Great video straight to the point and simple. I believe every guy has chased a chick at some point in their lives but personally I always knew no one should be chasing be it a man or a woman. If you’re going to chase them, let them go!

  • @nwobodougochukwu9616
    @nwobodougochukwu9616 Рік тому

    Thank you Jessy.

  • @bobbyward24
    @bobbyward24 Рік тому

    Thank you for the advice! Great vid!

  • @saintmearl8518
    @saintmearl8518 2 роки тому +128

    I already stopped chasing "them" and this video even gives me more reasons why I should.
    Focusing on my dreams and goals is my prime prioty right now.
    The only problem though is I don't if I make it, I'll still be interested in "them" who I had chased before

    • @salamiganiuolatunji1033
      @salamiganiuolatunji1033 2 роки тому +5

      Make sure you don't have any "if" when you're trying to achieve a goal...rather than "if", always remember yourself that "you can do it"
      "if" brings this negative thought about getting things done.

    • @mwanekwa1588
      @mwanekwa1588 2 роки тому +1

      True talk

    • @iharris3466
      @iharris3466 2 роки тому +4

      Nope !! You going have women on your level of dreams chasing you

    • @antoniomitchell1883
      @antoniomitchell1883 2 роки тому +1

      You won’t make it.

  • @collinmorudi5242
    @collinmorudi5242 2 роки тому +32

    Ooh thank you Jessica!!! There's tears in my eyes right now, I wish I had known this all these years, I have been chasing women and working hard to get their attention and even if I got some of them but things never really worked well coz I still had to work hard to keep them engaged, eventually they just leave for better successful guys. I did all that at the expense of my dreams, thanks to you it stops now!

  • @sharonichu9665
    @sharonichu9665 Рік тому

    Insightful podcast

  • @jarronwilson1094
    @jarronwilson1094 Рік тому +1

    I really appreciate the video

  • @njoysuccessnow
    @njoysuccessnow 2 роки тому +7

    Yep 3:38 This is exactly my current mindset. Keep focusing on fine tuning yourself physically, spiritually and financially.

  • @isaacboakye967
    @isaacboakye967 2 роки тому +157

    Spending your time and money on videos like these is a great great investment! God bless you Jessy. You're solving problems!

    • @eseigbepablo6109
      @eseigbepablo6109 2 роки тому

      I know of a strong spiritual man who can help you bring back your soulmate I am a living testimony of his work and I know that he can also do yours ❤️❤️

    • @fridayblessed9742
      @fridayblessed9742 2 роки тому +1

      @@eseigbepablo6109 get out

    • @christianwright1775
      @christianwright1775 2 роки тому

      She did not have to spend money to pull out her camera and record but she is investing her time

    • @Roestradd
      @Roestradd 2 роки тому +1

      @@fridayblessed9742 Lmao, you said that 🤣

  • @delcioamado1086
    @delcioamado1086 Рік тому

    Spot on Jessica! Well done!!!!

  • @carmimweemba1907
    @carmimweemba1907 Рік тому

    Thanx DR these are powerful points

  • @neyodiaries
    @neyodiaries 2 роки тому +58

    Have always believed that in the things of life pursuit; one has to keep trying(chasing)having the no giving up attitude, but on this video tips I realized it is not applicable to women(chasing one woman). One has to bring in balance in the affairs of women. Jessica your tips are fascinating, keep up the good work

    • @Ben256MB
      @Ben256MB 2 роки тому +1

      It doesn't ! It's a dance with women and dating isn't a chore !

  • @hysonapeugongaziseh5570
    @hysonapeugongaziseh5570 Рік тому +189

    I can testify. I asked a girl out several times. She finally accepted. Everything went on well until I discovered that I had to struggle for us to meet even when she had the time. I started questioning my approach from the start to where we were(more than 2 years in a relationship without any clear progress).

    • @madahmed7454
      @madahmed7454 Рік тому +43

      Let her go

    • @salmendramodi7703
      @salmendramodi7703 Рік тому +5

      Atleast you got a girl....

    • @Realcordy
      @Realcordy Рік тому +3

      Are you in high school?

    • @planetsai
      @planetsai Рік тому +10

      Bro, Let her go

    • @PalmdalesAdonis
      @PalmdalesAdonis Рік тому +20

      @@salmendramodi7703 at least he has a girl? Yeah she's most likely talking to other guys too.. all that free time she has she's spending it with someone else

  • @oghenetegaisrael2889
    @oghenetegaisrael2889 Рік тому +1

    Many thanks for sharing 👍.

  • @MegaKarume
    @MegaKarume Рік тому

    Thank you so much Jessica.

  • @activistbabahjanneh926
    @activistbabahjanneh926 2 роки тому +29

    Thank you for your advice sister Jessica, this is exactly what am going through with my marriage but as from today, I will put myself and my dreams first.

  • @Pakiratigri
    @Pakiratigri 2 роки тому +31

    Chasing women is not recommended. It makes them lazy. They let you as a man do all the work and they do the minimum. Can never be good. In addition, you may be dealing with a woman who is not interested and is leading you on. So, turn the tables!

    • @mzee5533
      @mzee5533 2 роки тому +1

      @@oyenirankofoworola2346 hey this is not a scammers channel getaway for fucksake.

  • @halhosmer1820
    @halhosmer1820 Рік тому

    What a thoughtful presentation.
    Easy to listen to and a pleasant voice.
    I think I'll return for more.

  • @okrasavchik
    @okrasavchik Рік тому +1

    Big talk, facts, thanks💯

  • @sylvesterese466
    @sylvesterese466 2 роки тому +25

    I've said it,over and over and over again....When she truly loves you,then she does,and When she's not into you, no matter the effort,get it, bro, she'll drop you when you least expect.Yes,Yes,Yes,....pathetic is the word....eeeewwww?You up Your game,career wise,watch her pull into you...

  • @michaelmerritt9657
    @michaelmerritt9657 2 роки тому +14

    It’s crazy. Things are so messed up out here. I’m done chasing. Definitely focusing on goals, but there’s something I don’t like about me achieving my goals, then being chased. I don’t want it. It’s become a game of chess.

  • @englishlearningcenter1470
    @englishlearningcenter1470 Рік тому

    Awesome!!! Great video

  • @kamalpandey101
    @kamalpandey101 Рік тому

    thanks for letting us know

  • @albertappiah4494
    @albertappiah4494 2 роки тому +14

    I always enjoy your critical thinking about the subject matter at hand.

  • @oluwaseundavid3819
    @oluwaseundavid3819 2 роки тому +10

    I'm subscribing right away. You're just so straight to the point, no beating about the bush. Everything you mentioned is so profound and thanks for sharing.

  • @Wayland.
    @Wayland. Рік тому +1

    Honestly, this explains very clear the quality not just the video but the quality of advice she gives.

  • @gibsonchama5207
    @gibsonchama5207 8 місяців тому

    I'm currently going through this and the videos are helping.I just hope to get to a safe conclusion of everything. Thanks Jessica.

  • @collenmatsepe606
    @collenmatsepe606 2 роки тому +16

    "Focus on you big bro. Focus on you."- The spirit to be adopted by us men.

  • @eyabatabadi7174
    @eyabatabadi7174 2 роки тому +48

    With your awesome videos, I renew my relationship with my wife everyday She’s always proud of me! Give us more of your potentials!

  • @nr5919
    @nr5919 9 місяців тому

    Thanks for the advice

  • @mrwhizzkhalifa
    @mrwhizzkhalifa Рік тому +1

    Great video

  • @kimulijohn1157
    @kimulijohn1157 2 роки тому +12

    Am here as always to learn from your teachings jessica, thanks for opening our thinking, hearts and mind

  • @tacticalhuddy3614
    @tacticalhuddy3614 2 роки тому +21

    This is arguably the best solid advice I have ever encountered. Very collected and informed advice that impacts directly in our lives.

  • @aikponkhaleaprecious8007
    @aikponkhaleaprecious8007 Рік тому

    Thanks for your idea

  • @RiceNoodle757
    @RiceNoodle757 Рік тому

    This was really helpful! Thank you!

  • @jacyahya3063
    @jacyahya3063 2 роки тому +12

    Jessica,you changed my life through this platform.Thank you.

  • @corneliusallen1777
    @corneliusallen1777 2 роки тому +5

    I love Jessica's mindset. Very intelligent and truthful. Experience, honest.

  • @expression7263
    @expression7263 11 місяців тому

    Nice one . That's the best advice