Hey hey! I've been posting my podcast episodes on my main channel for some time - but now I'm switching it up and posting over here! This is a biiit of a controversial one, but like I said... I actually don't disagree with these ideas, I just think that context and nuance is necessary when it comes to very strong takes that can have such a big impact on how we navigate relationships. A lot of these takes were originally created to apply to narcissistic people / strong "takers" and it has benefitted me to add nuance when it comes to people I generally find respectful and kind. I missed a little bit of nuance: "You're allowed to change your mind" is always an absolute when it comes to ANY personal high-risk decisions e.g. sex, buying a house, getting married etc . It still technically applies to all decisions. However, when decisions are lower personal risk (e.g. committing to attending a friends birthday dinner or agreeing to help a friend move), it can sometimes be kinder to practice taking your sweet time making a decision instead of regularly pulling out. If there are more lil nuances you'd like to add, chuck 'em in the comments, I wanna hear 'em.
I think the reason these are so popular is that they don't demand anything of you. It's easy to assume you're the only genuine person with reasonable needs and everyone around you is just trying to encroach on your emotional and mental resources. That way you don't bear any responsibility for anything. Your versions are obviously more thoughtful and accurate but they require people to actually empathise with others, and that's hard. But, great video!
Hey hey! I've been posting my podcast episodes on my main channel for some time - but now I'm switching it up and posting over here! This is a biiit of a controversial one, but like I said... I actually don't disagree with these ideas, I just think that context and nuance is necessary when it comes to very strong takes that can have such a big impact on how we navigate relationships. A lot of these takes were originally created to apply to narcissistic people / strong "takers" and it has benefitted me to add nuance when it comes to people I generally find respectful and kind.
I missed a little bit of nuance: "You're allowed to change your mind" is always an absolute when it comes to ANY personal high-risk decisions e.g. sex, buying a house, getting married etc . It still technically applies to all decisions. However, when decisions are lower personal risk (e.g. committing to attending a friends birthday dinner or agreeing to help a friend move), it can sometimes be kinder to practice taking your sweet time making a decision instead of regularly pulling out. If there are more lil nuances you'd like to add, chuck 'em in the comments, I wanna hear 'em.
I think the reason these are so popular is that they don't demand anything of you. It's easy to assume you're the only genuine person with reasonable needs and everyone around you is just trying to encroach on your emotional and mental resources. That way you don't bear any responsibility for anything. Your versions are obviously more thoughtful and accurate but they require people to actually empathise with others, and that's hard.
But, great video!
LOVE this video. So much nuance that I needed to gain perspective on. Thank you!
finally someone who points this out. the world has hope ❤ you earned a subscriber babe
Thank you❤