I LOVE Tabatha, she has such a sweet spirit. I love how she never has anything negative to say about her husband. She always finds a way to see the good in the bad and choose to focus and speak on that. Only giving life to the good in him. Truly a unique woman.
Honestly, this was a remarkable episode. The body of Christ really needs these topics. I’ve run into too many women that say they don’t like sex or they’re just not having sex or would rather not have it. Thank you so much for sharing with the community may the father continue to bless your efforts.
Can i say as a woman, we (our maybe just me and my siblings) were NEVER taught how important sex is in a relationship. They teach girl how to NOT give it up, keep your sugar, the cookie, etc. Telling you that's all boys/ men want, they're a distraction, etc. Men come wired like that. Women don't do naturally if we're going by our sex drives, it's not gonna get initiated much. Or as much as he would like. You can't initiate on someone else drive? Just saying
This is very real, not one day in my household have anyone shined a light on a positive sex life or conversation . My parents have 5 girls and one boy 😅. I know they were sweating I get it but it doesn’t help much for our future. I didn’t have a bad childhood at all my parents have been married over 46 years so I saw a healthy marriage. Being married myself for 20 years I still have so much learning to do .
@@FitPasson There is a book called "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagisoki, that addresses a lot about the sexual anatomy of women, factors that can influence it, and what can help with initiation. I had to read it for a sex therapy class. I am not yet married (hopefully one day !!) but it was so helpful because I was 25 at the time and felt like I was lied to about so much my whole life!! (As in, so much I did not consider about how women can also be prioritized in sexual relationship that can IMPROVE sex drive, etc. and from what I remember it includes some research as well. I recommend you both get a copy. :)
I like this. I wish Ken would've let Tabitha explain more. He would ask her to unpack something and in the middle of her unpacking it he'd chime in. You all have some beautiful points and its wonderful to hear this topic being talked about. Blessings to you all.
I really enjoy this couple. I love the formatting and the way their conversations flow. But I would enjoy it so much more if Tabatha was able to complete a thought without interruption.
I actually stopped watching the video roughly 4 minutes in because he asked her “are you satisfied?” And then said “don’t answer that” and covered her mouth jokingly. If this video is about the wives enjoying sex with her husband then let your wife speak sir. It’s funny how he answered that question but didn’t want her to. Insecurity maybe? Idk. They obviously mean well but this isn’t executed well
Pornography is a trick of the devil! I was exposed to to pornography at the age of 7. I sought the Lord for deliverance. I am a born again believer! And by God’s Grace and Mercy God delivered me from my childhood trauma. I love you two together I love the Union that you have!! To God be the glory!!!
Good topic. The man the husband really needs to treat wife with love because us women need to feel wanted and respected before entering intimacy. Thank you both,🔥
I appreciate Tabitha’s perspective. Ken must work on respecting her voice by listening. His constant interruptions are frustrating. Honestly, I am privy to what men want. I have been taught that all my life. It’s a blessing to hear from a woman who’s mastered it or has a good recipe. Also, as one who has endured sexual assault, it also made me cringe when he offered the trauma of her past without first asking her permission. Even if she’s shared it publicly before, I felt asking her shows he considers her feelings even if he knows she wouldn’t mind. New comers to this channel are getting to know both of you. Therefore, we can only interpret what we see. Despite those things, this was refreshing. I’ll keep the tidbits Tab said in mind. Lord, thank you for this couple. Continue to bless them and move them in the right direction. Amen Great content!!!
Umm I do appreciate the video topic, it came up randomly and I did gain some insight, yet I don't feel like I heard enough from Tabitha. The scripture used to imply that a wife should not say no to sex once she is married is .... an interesting interpretation. There is some validity in "pushing through" but I do not think it's always black and white. I took a sex therapy class as part of my counseling curriculum (yes it was a Christian school!). We read a book called "Come As You Are" which discusses sexual obstacles/pleasure for women, including how couples can improve it *together*; it also addresses a woman's anatomy and what can influence a woman's sex drive emotionally, physically, etc. I am not married , but it was extremely helpful read as it challenged stereotypes I've heard in Christianity or life etc. Highly recommend anyone read it!
Can you guys talk on music in the bedroom? I know there's a lot of controversy with that, but please talk on this matter if the Holy Spirit leads you to do so. I recently found this channel and you guys are representing the Kingdom well and God is truly glorified with your union. May bigger and better be added unto you! God bless!
I came across your reel on IG and I am so loving & enjoying your content. Tabatha I'm so happy you're doing well? To God be all the glory ❤ Also thank you for being so authentic and transparent about life in general, especially as believers, this is so needed & so necessary. I am really enjoying this... Sending love & blessings 🧡🙏🏽
This is very helpful. I think in the bedroom you need to be youthful like a little kids exploring each other. The body is supposed to be explored in the most truest form. With the man or woman you love
How do you clear (free) your mind and break these unholy sexual spiritual soul ties from the past. That’s the place where I’m at now. My husband and I both have a sexual past before marriage and need to redefine godly sex in a marriage.
One thing I’d say is to set times to fast together and have a time to pray together during those times. Definitely keep pushing and keep encouraged ❤ & encouraging each other.
Ken, if you ask Tabitha a question, please let her explain it in her way because the ladies get what she is saying. The way she explains will be totally different than you. You're a man, and she is a woman. She is so respectful and such a godly woman that she never says anything negative. Tabitha, thank you for modeling submission on these segments.
So if you are not feeling well or you are tired, you have to have sex anyway??? I thought marriage was about being sensitive and understanding. If I'm exhausted my spouse should under that. Be sensitive to you enough to say OK, I'll just hold you, or we can do something else.
This was soo good. im not married yet or even close to it but im trying to make sure my foundation on sex is healthy and holy when it does come! thank you!
I think using the word intimacy to mean sex is not right. It's possible to have sex with zero intimacy. It's also possible to be intimate with someone but not necessarily being sexual with them.
That's because sex is intimacy lol and you can be intimate without having sex. You cannot have sex and not be intimate unless you're talking about gRape
@@im26c4u5Actually, men remind women constantly that sex does not necessarily mean intimacy. That is the reason they give for why wives should not be so upset if their husband has sex with someone outside of the marriage.
Do y’all have a podcast episode about how to talk to your children about sex at those young ages? We have a son that’s 6 and feel it’s time to have that talk but don’t really know how to address it & what’s too much.
Thank God I came across your page, we have been married for 12 years now but we only have been doing missionary position only ever since we are so young am 32 years hubby is 37 but our sex life is really frustrating because as born again Christians we don't really know what to do, we don't know what is allowed in the bedroom or not, our marriage is strained and drained, please help what we can do
Maybe the husband could do more to lighten the load to help create the emotional, physical and mental capacity to prioritize sex?? Or is that too much of an ask?
@@davidr9589 Oh, you’re thinking about a different dynamic? Option 1: Man works outside the home (pays bills) and woman works in the home (manages household), both care for their children Option 2: Both Work outside the home, Both Pay Bills, Both Complete Housework, both care for their children Which dynamic was your perspective when commenting? It wasn’t exactly clear. Either way, seems like they are both doing quite a bit and would have to help each other every now and then.
@kristinbell5116 I spend 50-55hrs at work and commuting to work to solely support the family financially. Many women in modern America and the western world do not spend 50-55hrs handling the household. We have many modern appliances and yet the work at home still doesn't get handled. Many men look overseas for a wife because they don't take the situation for granted.
I love this. Im single and trusting the lord for my promise of marriage. In the wait im praying the lord mold me to be a wife of desire for my husband and to refine me to be not just a wife but a blessing. However that comes with shame from past experiences and not knowing how to approach sex from a "holy" stand point. This help me to see gods way of looking at sex and its role in the marriage. Thank you guys ❤
So inspiring 🙏🏾 Definitely going to pray to grow in submission to my future husband. Love that you mentioned praying for the strength to engage with your spouse.
Hi I have came across your video on Facebook an I must say it very interested because you don't get these type of information from close Christian friends and family.We live in a world today where people are ashamed to talk about there sex life/marriage with other couples an I very happy I did came across u guys channel .Very rarely u would get people that are solider for Christ to share information that can help in some way or the other .But I HV a question to ask does using sex toys to spice up ur marriage is a sin?
I am so glad I found you guy’s channel. Not only are you well spoken and intelligent, but you’re insightful and more than anything, you’re saved. I just want to thank you for the content that you put out. When I listen to you, I can’t help smiling.
I LOVE Tabatha, she has such a sweet spirit. I love how she never has anything negative to say about her husband. She always finds a way to see the good in the bad and choose to focus and speak on that. Only giving life to the good in him. Truly a unique woman.
So sweet
One day I will have a husband who I am taking notes to do and be the best I can be with the last days on this earth. They are cool in their openness
PLEASE DO A PODCAST ON TALKING TO UR KIDS ON PURITY AT THEIR LEVEL! If I’ve missed it please tag me in it!!!! I need this help!!!
That’s a great topic and it’s already in our discussion plans! Stay tuned.
Honestly, this was a remarkable episode. The body of Christ really needs these topics. I’ve run into too many women that say they don’t like sex or they’re just not having sex or would rather not have it. Thank you so much for sharing with the community may the father continue to bless your efforts.
This is the first time I am watching this video ,you guys are such a blessing .knowledge is power!thanks mrs Ken and Mrs Tabitha ❤
I love the way you too look and talk to each other. ❤❤
You twos are so beautiful.. the love of God is so evident in your lives😊
Can i say as a woman, we (our maybe just me and my siblings) were NEVER taught how important sex is in a relationship. They teach girl how to NOT give it up, keep your sugar, the cookie, etc. Telling you that's all boys/ men want, they're a distraction, etc. Men come wired like that. Women don't do naturally if we're going by our sex drives, it's not gonna get initiated much. Or as much as he would like. You can't initiate on someone else drive? Just saying
This is very real, not one day in my household have anyone shined a light on a positive sex life or conversation . My parents have 5 girls and one boy 😅. I know they were sweating I get it but it doesn’t help much for our future. I didn’t have a bad childhood at all my parents have been married over 46 years so I saw a healthy marriage. Being married myself for 20 years I still have so much learning to do .
@@FitPasson There is a book called "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagisoki, that addresses a lot about the sexual anatomy of women, factors that can influence it, and what can help with initiation. I had to read it for a sex therapy class. I am not yet married (hopefully one day !!) but it was so helpful because I was 25 at the time and felt like I was lied to about so much my whole life!! (As in, so much I did not consider about how women can also be prioritized in sexual relationship that can IMPROVE sex drive, etc. and from what I remember it includes some research as well. I recommend you both get a copy. :)
Ken must wait for Tabitha ❤
😂😂😂
I like this. I wish Ken would've let Tabitha explain more. He would ask her to unpack something and in the middle of her unpacking it he'd chime in. You all have some beautiful points and its wonderful to hear this topic being talked about. Blessings to you all.
AMEN.
I really enjoy this couple.
I love the formatting and the way their conversations flow.
But I would enjoy it so much more if Tabatha was able to complete a thought without interruption.
Whew! 🤦🏾♀️ I’ve turned off several videos bc he won’t let her talk.
Yeah, this man loves to hear himself talk. He's so rude cutting her off all the time. Poor woman can barely complete a sentence.
I actually stopped watching the video roughly 4 minutes in because he asked her “are you satisfied?” And then said “don’t answer that” and covered her mouth jokingly. If this video is about the wives enjoying sex with her husband then let your wife speak sir. It’s funny how he answered that question but didn’t want her to. Insecurity maybe? Idk. They obviously mean well but this isn’t executed well
Sex loses its value when your Spouse is not faithful. You just shut down, and the desire dies with the disrespect.
Pornography is a trick of the devil! I was exposed to to pornography at the age of 7. I sought the Lord for deliverance. I am a born again believer! And by God’s Grace and Mercy God delivered me from my childhood trauma. I love you two together I love the Union that you have!! To God be the glory!!!
Good topic. The man the husband really needs to treat wife with love because us women need to feel wanted and respected before entering intimacy. Thank you both,🔥
I appreciate Tabitha’s perspective. Ken must work on respecting her voice by listening. His constant interruptions are frustrating.
Honestly, I am privy to what men want. I have been taught that all my life. It’s a blessing to hear from a woman who’s mastered it or has a good recipe.
Also, as one who has endured sexual assault, it also made me cringe when he offered the trauma of her past without first asking her permission. Even if she’s shared it publicly before, I felt asking her shows he considers her feelings even if he knows she wouldn’t mind. New comers to this channel are getting to know both of you. Therefore, we can only interpret what we see.
Despite those things, this was refreshing. I’ll keep the tidbits Tab said in mind. Lord, thank you for this couple. Continue to bless them and move them in the right direction. Amen
Great content!!!
Thank you both for being real, honest, open, and transparent.
I appreciate the value you are adding to our world 🌎 ❤!!!
The church doesn't dive into such conversations so your openess is really helping
Umm I do appreciate the video topic, it came up randomly and I did gain some insight, yet I don't feel like I heard enough from Tabitha. The scripture used to imply that a wife should not say no to sex once she is married is .... an interesting interpretation. There is some validity in "pushing through" but I do not think it's always black and white. I took a sex therapy class as part of my counseling curriculum (yes it was a Christian school!). We read a book called "Come As You Are" which discusses sexual obstacles/pleasure for women, including how couples can improve it *together*; it also addresses a woman's anatomy and what can influence a woman's sex drive emotionally, physically, etc. I am not married , but it was extremely helpful read as it challenged stereotypes I've heard in Christianity or life etc. Highly recommend anyone read it!
Can you guys talk on music in the bedroom? I know there's a lot of controversy with that, but please talk on this matter if the Holy Spirit leads you to do so. I recently found this channel and you guys are representing the Kingdom well and God is truly glorified with your union. May bigger and better be added unto you! God bless!
Are you satisfied..and the giggle...please tell me..😃
I love it here..taking notes.
I came across your reel on IG and I am so loving & enjoying your content. Tabatha I'm so happy you're doing well? To God be all the glory ❤ Also thank you for being so authentic and transparent about life in general, especially as believers, this is so needed & so necessary. I am really enjoying this... Sending love & blessings 🧡🙏🏽
I love the truth of you as a couple. You are helping us. You have a wonderful ministry. ❤️
Thank you so much!!
Where have y’all been all my life 😂 naw but seriously my husband and I just started watching you all and we love it here
I enjoy the topics❤ I’m believing God for my husband. Just in preparation and being ready 🙏🏽💕🙌🏽‼️
This is very helpful. I think in the bedroom you need to be youthful like a little kids exploring each other. The body is supposed to be explored in the most truest form. With the man or woman you love
I’m liking this couple, but this video still seems to be about improving his sex life; not so much hers.
How do you clear (free) your mind and break these unholy sexual spiritual soul ties from the past. That’s the place where I’m at now. My husband and I both have a sexual past before marriage and need to redefine godly sex in a marriage.
One thing I’d say is to set times to fast together and have a time to pray together during those times. Definitely keep pushing and keep encouraged ❤ & encouraging each other.
Ken, if you ask Tabitha a question, please let her explain it in her way because the ladies get what she is saying. The way she explains will be totally different than you. You're a man, and she is a woman. She is so respectful and such a godly woman that she never says anything negative. Tabitha, thank you for modeling submission on these segments.
So if you are not feeling well or you are tired, you have to have sex anyway??? I thought marriage was about being sensitive and understanding. If I'm exhausted my spouse should under that. Be sensitive to you enough to say OK, I'll just hold you, or we can do something else.
This was soo good. im not married yet or even close to it but im trying to make sure my foundation on sex is healthy and holy when it does come! thank you!
I get you. So grateful for both of them.
Yes you have to be intentional about intimacy marriage and sex
I think using the word intimacy to mean sex is not right. It's possible to have sex with zero intimacy. It's also possible to be intimate with someone but not necessarily being sexual with them.
That's because sex is intimacy lol and you can be intimate without having sex. You cannot have sex and not be intimate unless you're talking about gRape
@@im26c4u5Actually, men remind women constantly that sex does not necessarily mean intimacy. That is the reason they give for why wives should not be so upset if their husband has sex with someone outside of the marriage.
What do you do in the 2 months when you can’t have sex if you don’t watch pornography?
I really love this couple for real especially this woman of God
This is so helpful.. I’m a newlywed and I tell you marriage love life is totally different
Love the show!
What podcast host, editor, ECT do y'all use?
You guys are intimate in many aspects and it’s lovely ❤❤ God blessed and is still blessing you guys!!
Amen!!
Do y’all have a podcast episode about how to talk to your children about sex at those young ages? We have a son that’s 6 and feel it’s time to have that talk but don’t really know how to address it & what’s too much.
He definitely speaks over the wife too much…
New viewer/sub and I love Tabatha. Such grace. God bless you both.
Thanks for this talk. I’m preparing for my husband / for my marriage. ❤
Can we have guidelines for christian dating/courting?
If life gets so busy and as a couple we have no time for one another then as a woman I won’t be in the mood I need that quality time to bond
Men should chill. This converstaion is too much about pleasing the man. Bullchit.
Thank God I came across your page, we have been married for 12 years now but we only have been doing missionary position only ever since we are so young am 32 years hubby is 37 but our sex life is really frustrating because as born again Christians we don't really know what to do, we don't know what is allowed in the bedroom or not, our marriage is strained and drained, please help what we can do
Exactly. Wondering too if we can do all the gymnastics or others are forbidden.
I'll recommend videos like this, and books by people like Dr Juli Slattery, Doctors Cliff and Joyce Penner and other Christian authors on sex.
Beautiful people. Thanks for sharing your hearts with us. Love; Martha from Uganda.
Youre a blessing to many marriages.blessings.
Can't do a 30, we menstrate!
How to talk to our kids ! Yes please !
This is so fruitful! Thank you for this wisdom.
Maybe the husband could do more to lighten the load to help create the emotional, physical and mental capacity to prioritize sex?? Or is that too much of an ask?
Pay all the bills and do all the house work?
@@davidr9589 Oh, you’re thinking about a different dynamic?
Option 1: Man works outside the home (pays bills) and woman works in the home (manages household), both care for their children
Option 2: Both Work outside the home, Both Pay Bills, Both Complete Housework, both care for their children
Which dynamic was your perspective when commenting? It wasn’t exactly clear. Either way, seems like they are both doing quite a bit and would have to help each other every now and then.
@@kristinbell5116 pulling together to get all things done is essential. It's the 2 of you against the world in a lot of ways.
@@davidr9589 Ok, so it sounds like it’s not unreasonable for the husband to help more when needed. Thanks for confirming with your response.
@kristinbell5116 I spend 50-55hrs at work and commuting to work to solely support the family financially. Many women in modern America and the western world do not spend 50-55hrs handling the household. We have many modern appliances and yet the work at home still doesn't get handled. Many men look overseas for a wife because they don't take the situation for granted.
Yall addressed this topic so well, what a blessing thank you!
Hahaha,let's climb up the coconut tree and grab hoooold of the coconuts🤣🤣🤣
I love this. Im single and trusting the lord for my promise of marriage. In the wait im praying the lord mold me to be a wife of desire for my husband and to refine me to be not just a wife but a blessing. However that comes with shame from past experiences and not knowing how to approach sex from a "holy" stand point. This help me to see gods way of looking at sex and its role in the marriage. Thank you guys ❤
Thank you for this!!
Wow never thought about it like this
Glad this was helpful!
I love Tabitha… Ken has a controlling streak and that’s emotional abuse. I hope Tab is okay ❤
So inspiring 🙏🏾 Definitely going to pray to grow in submission to my future husband. Love that you mentioned praying for the strength to engage with your spouse.
Hi I have came across your video on Facebook an I must say it very interested because you don't get these type of information from close Christian friends and family.We live in a world today where people are ashamed to talk about there sex life/marriage with other couples an I very happy I did came across u guys channel .Very rarely u would get people that are solider for Christ to share information that can help in some way or the other .But I HV a question to ask does using sex toys to spice up ur marriage is a sin?
Thank you all for sharing, and being so transparent!!
So glad you did a segment on this topic. Love ❤
This was very informational thank you to the both of you 🙏
Glad you enjoyed it!
Wow so beautiful thank you ❤
I am so glad I found you guy’s channel. Not only are you well spoken and intelligent, but you’re insightful and more than anything, you’re saved.
I just want to thank you for the content that you put out. When I listen to you, I can’t help smiling.
Sooo helpful! Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Oh, Salt N Pepper - take us back to 1990. I sang it too. No shame. 🙂
This is soooo good 👏🏽
You two are awesome!
😂😂😂😂 loved this so much
❤️
I love you both
❤❤❤