Couple add ons as a recent bride: - Do NOT look at the weather at least the last week before your wedding. There is nothing you can do about it so there is no reason to stress about it. - Take twilight or golden hour photos. We were thinking of skipping it but they truly are our fave photos. - The week leading up to your wedding just relax as much as possible enjoy all the last minute primping (nails, hair, etc) and just let it go cause most likely everything is all set all ready so there is nothing you can do about it.
Best advice I heard during planning "everything is optional" invitations, florals, all those must-haves are optional in the end. If I want to call each guest and have a conversation invite, there's nothing wrong with that. It's so much more personal.
We didn’t have a list of our things, but we had green for stickers and blue electrical tape. We stuck a green dot on everything that was ours and a small piece of blue tape on everything from our florist/decorator as it came out of her boxes. That way, people who helped clean up knew that green means it goes in Mom/dad’s vans, blue goes into the florist’s van, and anything without a sticker belongs to the venue owners.
My fiancé and I have decided to do personal vows during our first look while we are ALONE! After we get the photos and video of our first look, we are asking everyone to leave us alone for 15 minutes to soak in the moment! That’s honestly the one thing that I’m most looking forward to.
Oh my gosh. I love this idea. I’m going to have to use it because my fiancé is VERY awkward with public speaking and a large ceremony and reception with a lot of people he doesn’t know is already out of his comfort zone. I had never heard of this but THANK YOU.
I'm getting married this Saturday. Thank you so much for making these videos! I'm a little sad that this is my last Tuesday video before my wedding, but all of your videos have been so helpful during this process. You rock.
Video starts at 3:20 Budget Before You Book 3:25 Make a Separate Wedding Email 3:56 List of All of Your Items for Set up and Tear Down 4:30 Put Numbers on Your RSVP Cards 4:53 Read Your Contracts 5:25 Have Your Priorities And Stick To Them 6:01 Forget Everyone Else’s Opinion/Skip Traditions if You Want To 7:15 Pause on your Wedding Day/Take A Step Away From Wedding Planning If You Need 7:50 Plan For Something To Go Wrong 9:25 Make Sure There Is Enough Room For Gifts and DIY and People 10:12 Feed Your Bridal Party AndYourself 10:44 Don’t Get Sunburn 11:26 Hope This Helped! Hop on over to my Wedding Planning Channel for more tips! The support is always appreciate (:
Might sound obvious but it's easy to forget: stay hydrated. Especially if you have a summer wedding drink plenty of water the week leading up to your event.
Ladies! Create a wedding website and put at the end of your invitations to RSVP via the website link. That way everything is right there, no added expense of postage and eliminates the possibility of no names! Guests actually appreciate the ease of just being able to log on. And! Some websites allow you to put fun questions like song suggestions for the guests!
Don't get sunburned! Very true! Some members of our bridal party suggested we take a trip to a water park the Tuesday before our Saturday wedding just to have a fun and relaxing day. I know I burn easily so I declined. They went without us, and everyone came back burned. They all looked a little extra toasty in our wedding photos 😂
Arbella Rasho i ALMOST had this same thought I really wanted to do Disneyland with my bridal party in the few days before the wedding and I shut that thought down reaaally fast 😂😂
Just got engaged this weekend! I've been following you for awhile on here, but so glad we are finally engaged after 7 years! Hallelujah! Thankfully I've been well educated via your videos :)
Amen to feeding the bridal party! Once upon a time I was a bridesmaid and the day of the wedding I ate breakfast at 7:30 am and my next meal was 6pm. My fiance who was one of the groomsmen told me he got lunch when he was with the groom and the groomsmen. :(
Opting out of traditions, yes! I said I don’t want to do a bouquet toss and the reaction I got from family was as if I suggested my mum wasn’t invited to the wedding 😂 weddings can make people a bit crazy (just a bit 🤪)
Everyone kept on telling me to not let society or standards dictate who i have in my bridal party. I was getting so much anxiety because i felt like i had to ask my future sister in law to be a bridesmaid. It wasnt until i listened to everyone and made the decision to ask someone else that i felt like i could breathe again (in case youre wondering, my future SIL is very dramatic and no one, including her family, seems to be able to deal with her)
I read someone who said that at the end of the reception, after all of the people were gone, they had one last dance. I think that's something I would do. It sounds great. I also really like the idea of having dinner just the two of us. You're the bomb ❤
My mother died before my wedding, so I had my uncle walk down the aisle with a bride's bouquet, and Laid it in a chair next to my stepmother. And we took it to her grave the next day. It was also important that my stepmother felt like she was she was the mother of bride . It is okay to have all parents Represented at your wedding.
HI! Congrats on your 2021 wedding! I got engaged 17 months out..and felt we had plenty of time. In doing so, my fiance and I had an agreement.. to only discuss the wedding 1 day a week and schedule only 3 appointments a month for the wedding (when we both needed to be there) So glad we did that. Things got crazy...closer to the wedding month..and that rule of thumb helped us..I don't think we got burned out of discussing it..until about 2 months left. :0)
Wedding was two weeks ago 😊I had every single thing labeled and packed. Then, a Word document that showed how to set everything up. I gave everyone a copy of the day of timeline so they knew what the other side of the bridal party is doing. Get started early so when you're two weeks out, you're not freaking out and only have the last set of confirmations. Then, you can hang out with family when they get into town before the wedding. I really cherished the time spent with family a couple days before. We had a prayer time before the ceremony together, sunset photos, and I had a second dress so we got quite a bit of time by our selves. The easy way to make sure to feed everyone is to order lunch to pick up on your way through the day of errands.
I seriously hate when people say "Ignore what everyone else says." Uh, if I truly didn't care what people thought of my wedding I'd make them pay for entry.
Some ideas can be good, especially if you've overlooked something or I don't know, picked uncomfortable chairs or something. You'd be surprised how people overlook comfortable seating, and seating arrangements in receptions. Don't sit people too close together, and made sure you sit on the chairs others will me in at least once, in a dress. Sitting in a dress that's knee length for a guest is different than a floor length one.
It’s important to make sure your guests have a great time, you’re hosting a party after all! I would say ignore what people might *judge* about your wedding, especially if it’s something that makes you happy! I think where brides get stressed is when they trade their happiness for everyone else to be happy.
A while back you mentioned in a video to stop browsing Pinterest once you made most of your decisions about your wedding. I definitely agree with that!! My Pinterest board was created even before I got engaged and I had pinned so many summer/outdoor wedding ideas. I am getting married on the first day of spring in Montreal, Canada a.k.a it might still be snowing lol.. So I need to stop pinning cute wedding sandals and and sleeveless dresses and instead should be looking at winter parkas and snow shoes 🤣❄️⛄️
I’ve been following you for a few years, I got engaged last month after a 5 and half year relationship. I feel so confident planning a wedding because you are by far the most informative and helpful person I’ve come across. 💕💕💕 thank you for these videos!
❤ thank you so much! Main thing that I've got from this: If you pause to plan, you should PLAN TO PAUSE Having moments reserved mentally and on paper leading upto the special day and on the day will make it more enjoyable and shows honour to yourself and the one flesh union being created. Wonderful! Thank you!
I've been binge watching your videos and I'm almost out of new content 😫 I love your content and your personality. I'd love to see your take on the toasts. Who does them, what's expected, is it okay to not do them, etc.
A bit of advice for summer weddings, have sunscreen on hand for all guests- have some different sorts as people skin conditions or sensitivity. But have that available for guests to slip slop slap. And water, I know guests will hopefully bring their own waters, but we are have wheelbarrows full of ice under some beach umbrellas with bottles and bottles of water, we are working from 2 bottles per person for adults/children. Work cases of water and sunscreen into you shopping budget instead of wedding budget, cause sunscreen is like a given type thing anyways and can be used after the wedding, and the water (if any left over) people will drink up or you can bring them into the reception and they will get used. Also, shade is important! Try to provide some shade for the young and elderly or ask people to bring a hat to wear while in the sun for the ceremony or provide hats. Some advice and suggestions I have been given along the way of my wedding planning. 😬
Getting married Sept 1, I meant to number my RSVP cards and then forgot until it was too late 😭 seriously everyone... number them! It will save you a lot of frustration! We had several of them with no name or anything and you’ll know who is missing when people don’t RSVP at all ☺️ Also, it’s really easy to get caught up in the details so I ask myself 3 questions when making any decision: 1. What will I do with this item a week, a year, etc after the wedding? 2. Will I remember/care about that detail 5 years from now? And 3. With everything else going on will I even notice if that detail is different or missing? If I can’t say yes to those questions or have a good answer for why it’s important to me then it’s not worth stressing over and everything will work itself out ☺️ congrats to everyone else planning!
Jess F I agree with the whole detail perspective , but I would take it to the other extreme lol ! I’d be debating if we needed chairs and forks at our wedding 🤣🤣 some days I want the most intricate decorations and some days I’m like alright so we’ll just need 10 white balloons and call it a day 🤷🏻♀️
karma3212 Yes! Especially at this point cause I am all planned out! Lol I feel like I’m at a point where people ask me questions and I’m just like “sure, sounds good, whatever” because the big stuff is done and I’m burnt out!
Hi, Jamie! Let me just say right off the top that I had been watching your videos since I became engaged 17 months before the wedding. You're videos have been so informative and so funny it really helped with some of the frustration and issues I was trying to figure out. Some of the rules I took with me and used. Wedding email, budget (choose top 3 to put the money towards the most.) Another big one was when packing for some one to set up the reception & wedding...label everything. I luckily found my packing paper...and used that to wrap things up and write on the paper. It was so helpful for our wedding planner who was setting up. Another big one, if something messes up..stay calm.. because your guests won't know its a messed up. Perfect example.. violinist wasn't playing 2 songs that we had chosen. My girls wanted to go out and talk to her.. but I was thinking.. no.. no one knows that it isn't the songs we wanted. But one went out anyway..and well I didn't choose enough songs to play before the wedding so she just added a few. (Which she told me she was going to do.. but I forgot.) . Biggest tip? Get some squeezed in time for you and your spouse,, Thanks to my wedding party...planning out the way things were gonna end..(Wedding planner had to leave before end of wedding to go set up reception 30 minutes away.) We not only were given the time to sit after we got married..but one of the groomsman "stood guard" so we weren't disturbed. I was amazed how much stuff there was.. and we only had a guest list of 60 people. I am now officially a month married...but I will continue to watch your videos AND pass it on to other brides/grooms who are planning their wedding. Thanks for all that you have done! You ROCK!
I can absolutely relate to the sunburn one! When I was a bridesmaid at my uncle’s wedding I had just returned from a music festival with the sunburn of my life. My mum’s friend sacrificed one of her aloe plants for me and it really worked wonders!
At my parents wedding, the catering staff didn't regulate the buffet and they ran out of food halfway through because so many guests were taking too much. There were three main dishes (and sides) but instead of taking one, people would take all three. The caterers had to go get emergency lunch meat to feed everyone. So make sure you have someone preventing pigs.
How do you budget before scouting out venues? That's like number one step for me. Scout venue - check with them if they have something like "minimal budget" to even allow you to book there, then from there, choose and book the date, then do the budget. Then again, in my country, venue rentals are not expensive and often free, so maybe that's why I am thinking of it this way....
This is probably one of the most helpful videos on your channel (I love all the vids don’t get me wrong) but this one was more eye opening and new info ✨
Seriously you channel has changed my wedding planning life, so informative and awesome, really really enjoy watching your content and seeing your passion for it all, makes me want to have you as my coordination but I'm from Australia ahhh if only !!! Also Thankyou for taking the time and help all us lost Fiances booking their weddings!
My best tip is use your and your family's connections to get the help you need. A friend of my mother is into flowers and took care of all that for cost price. My father's car was fancy enough. My brother became the driver. My brother in law was the day of coordinator. My mother took care of entertainment. One friend from church is an artist and did all the photography and made a beautiful photo album as well. Another friend from church is a make-up artist. Some unknown person decorated the church for us! The ladies from the coffee after church volunteered for that and for lunch as well. All helped in their way. Thanks everyone!
I'd be so much more stressed without you Jamie I can't even tell you! I'm from the UK so not everything applies but soooo much of it does, your lists help ground me because I feel like I'm way less likely to forget anything and the 'self care' parts make me feel like it's ok that I'm doing things slightly differently/less traditional. 109 days to go, I'll be watching a lot more videos along the way xx
Honestly the only "traditions" I want to stick with are: having a new dress for the wedding (probably will be pale blue not white), having a gathering of friends and family for the ceremony, and having a party of some kind with music after to celebrate. My brother and I were in Scouting and earned Eagle. My mother compares the Eagle Court of Honor to a small wedding (ceremony followed by food and party) and honestly if my wedding was similar to that event I would be happy. 50 or so friends and family, bare minimum decorations, BBQ for dinner. I honestly think the hardest part will be if our mothers want us to invite ALL the family, since the extended family is quite large if you combine the two. I could just be being very optimistic about how much work will go I to this lol.
Speaking of breaking tradition - I’d love a video on how to dress bridesmaids if you are going with a non-white dress! Really any conversation about colors would be great because even when I find a cute pallet I can’t figure out which colors should be dresses or linens or lighting etc.
Yes, this would be so handy, I want to wear a blue dress myself but wonder if you'd make bridesmaids wear a darker colour or if you want to be even less traditional maybe you could put them in white while the bride wears the colour 😊
Love your videos Jamie! Would you be able to do a video about destination weddings? We're planning a super small (12 person) wedding in the Cayman Islands. I'm wondering if you have any advice about how to pack a wedding dress, whether we should hire a local planner, how to accommodate guests with different budgets, etc. Thanks!
I highly recommend hiring a local planner for destination weddings- they know the area and the best local vendors. It’s great to have someone on your team who is actually there while you’re planning!
I dont know if you have already done this or something similar to it, but you should make a video on the small pre wedding things that need to be done whether people will do them all or not: marriage license, invitations, hotel arrangements, engagement pictures, engagement parties, wedding registries, food tastings, hair, make up, and nail trials. Things like that because all the pre wedding things like this is stuff that all the the couples whose weddings I have attended have forgotten about until the last minute.
I'm planning my wedding for next summer. It's so much fun so far. But we are planning a wedding in a campground to be very relaxed and casual. It's hard to find advice or inspiration because it's not a typical wedding.
beth scholes LOVE this idea!! Since it is so unique and casual, you don’t need to worry too much about the “normal” wedding stuff - don’t try to make it something it’s not. This kind of stuff works the best when you really make it your own. Logistics can be stressful with non traditional weddings, but I would lean more toward making it camping-y than wedding-y... Does that make sense? Also, instead of searching specifically for wedding inspiration, you could look for camping party inspiration and apply it to your wedding! Or maybe some backyard bbq type stuff! Hope this helps! Let me know if I can help with anything specific 💕
This is sooo helpful and valuable. Definitely agree with not worrying about what people may judge about your wedding, it's your day, not theirs! Also your earrings are amazing 💕
Quick tip from a makeup artist on sunscreen: if there's too much SPF in your foundation, it can cause "flashback" in photos that wash your face out and make you look a little ghostly! Protect your body for sure, but use as little SPF on the face as you can, for the photos' sake. Love the channel!
If you are bride or groom stay hydrated no matter what season and make sure bride and groom take their medication in case they both take it as well everyone if they are bridemaids and groomsman and for bride have good undergarments for them to make it easy to go to bathroom especially ballgown dresses and great comforting dance shoes as well break them loose a week before wedding recount your guest list so you wont pay extra remember guest list varies can decrease or increase any season guest have lives and emergencies in their life can happen.
What’s your take on e-invitations and real life invitations? I can’t decide! But I feel like it would be a waste of money to print them and design them with ribbons and stuff. 🤔
You’re personality is soooo happy and easy going! I can see why you have had so much success with wedding planning. You could say to me “hey, the flowers for the wedding are dead, somebody put the temperature wrong” and I’d still be like “oh ok”. 🤣🤣🤣 Ps. It hurt me to even joke about that. My first priority is flowers. I want lots and lots and lots of flowers. My wedding favor? Clarityne.
Chantelle Devan I would say go with a common material and then mix it up! If you have vases for flowers that are all brass or all crystal then they’ll look like they go together even if some are tall, short, big, or small. You don’t have to have exactly the same centerpiece on every table and it’ll still look really nice. Having the same types of florals or the same color of candles in different sizes will also help tie the centerpieces together so that your smallest table isn’t crowded with the same centerpiece you have at your largest table.
@@slytherinprincess5682 Oh sorry i should have worded my question differently. What I meant was what is a good centerpiece size for a round 8 top, 10 top... etc. Thanks for the great advice for others that may be looking :)
Hi Jamie! Love your videos! Will you do a video on renting the wedding dress? The pros and cons of it and how it’s different from buying a wedding dress?
Those pants are so cute girl, Jamie you are the youtuber who I get most excited about when you put out new videos! With my wedding coming up soon, I rely on your videos to make sure I'm on the right track.
Hi Jamie, I’ve been a subscriber and watching your channel since your backyard wedding video. This weeks video is AMAZING, as usual. Could you possibly do a venue style video like your dinner style video? I’d like a wedding in a conservatory or a barn(something of the earthy woodland style) and I know many people like the churchy, banquet hall style venues (or at least they do in my area). I just want to know the pros, cons, ins, and outs of different venue options.
Rachel, you can get an all-access pass for immediate access to all the expo content. If you want some last minute wisdom or to set up a solid financial foundation with your soon-to-be spouse ;) Www.Weddinghackerexpo.com/Jamie
Girl!!! Your hairrrrr!!! Its so mega luscious and vibrant. Like... more than usual! The health is unreal 😍😍 Love the video, thank for the info 😊😊♥️ Ps: need to know your tips and tricks to the health of your hair, getting married autumn 2020 and I’m currently working on my skin texture and hair. I’m getting there, slowly but surely. A video about hair/beauty for the big day would be aaaaamzing!
Loving these videos - thank you so much for the advice, tips and tricks. Have you done a video about lengths of engagements and the pros/cons of each, or even tips to plan over a longer span of time without getting antsy? I recently got engaged and we're looking at a 2-year engagement, so I'd love to hear your thoughts!
You often hear “it’s your day do whatever you want” and I understand where this is coming from, but I disagree. It’s an important day but it’s only one day and it’s not worth damaging important relationships with people you love.
I absolutely love your videos! I’ve been watching them for so long and my wedding is slowly creeping up, I’m getting married on Valentine’s Day! Can you please do a video on wedding videography, I was thinking about having a videographer and now I’m not sure if it’s really worth the money or within our budget.
Hannah Pedraza My advice to brides on this that if their photography and videography budget is big enough ($4,000+), they can hire both. But I think it’s better to hire an AMAZING photographer than to hire an ok photog and an ok videographer.
Omgggg! I wish I could be there😢 is there anything around Sf-Bay area?? I’d like to thank you for all your advice thru this vids. It really helped me while planning my upcoming wedding (Aug.16) sending my love and gratitude to you Jamie! 💕💕💕💕
I was so aware of the sunburn thing that when I went to Australia zoo a few days before my wedding, I had 50 SPF on, a hat, and a umbrella. Not too fashionable but I did NOT get sunburned. Just annoyed my future hubby a bit as he thought it was a little overboard. Wish I had noticed the t-shirt tan I had on my upper body before the wedding so I could have covered it with sunless tanner like a few weeks before.
I love your videos!!! They are so helpful!! Planning my wedding on a budget has been rough. I just literally made a video with some of my own tips! I hope the video is a blessing to someone !
Could you please do a video about destination weddings? I know you did one in Hawaii, which was more vlog style. I really love your videos and advice, and would love to hear your thoughts and opinions. (not going to lie, going to paste this in the next 3 videos of yours that I watch.) Also, I love you, and you're amazing and would love for you to plan my wedding when/if it happens.
The feed your wedding party advice!! Omg I can't tell you how bad it was as the MOH that we didn't eat all day. Being the MOH and having so many things to do and not eat was terrible. Big advice I can give from that wedding experience is: have time in between events like food, speeches, bouquet toss. The bridal party was barely served our plates before we were told we had to leave again to do speeches and then the toss. After not eating all day. I didn't have time to even try the cake! Try having a plate of food in your face finally, and then told you can't eat it. They cleared the tables by the time we got back. Try not to give so many responsibilities to One person, spread it out. So they can have time to enjoy your wedding too. It's hard to enjoy the wedding when you're running around from one thing to another and Hangry/ emotional. It's not pretty.
Couple add ons as a recent bride:
- Do NOT look at the weather at least the last week before your wedding. There is nothing you can do about it so there is no reason to stress about it.
- Take twilight or golden hour photos. We were thinking of skipping it but they truly are our fave photos.
- The week leading up to your wedding just relax as much as possible enjoy all the last minute primping (nails, hair, etc) and just let it go cause most likely everything is all set all ready so there is nothing you can do about it.
Best advice I heard during planning "everything is optional" invitations, florals, all those must-haves are optional in the end. If I want to call each guest and have a conversation invite, there's nothing wrong with that. It's so much more personal.
Agree 😍😍😍
We didn’t have a list of our things, but we had green for stickers and blue electrical tape. We stuck a green dot on everything that was ours and a small piece of blue tape on everything from our florist/decorator as it came out of her boxes. That way, people who helped clean up knew that green means it goes in Mom/dad’s vans, blue goes into the florist’s van, and anything without a sticker belongs to the venue owners.
Great idea! I'm totally doing that!
My fiancé and I have decided to do personal vows during our first look while we are ALONE! After we get the photos and video of our first look, we are asking everyone to leave us alone for 15 minutes to soak in the moment! That’s honestly the one thing that I’m most looking forward to.
Omg! I'm so glad I'm not the only one doing this!
I love this idea
Oh my gosh. I love this idea. I’m going to have to use it because my fiancé is VERY awkward with public speaking and a large ceremony and reception with a lot of people he doesn’t know is already out of his comfort zone. I had never heard of this but THANK YOU.
Callie Collins mine is the exact same way! So this was the perfect solution for the both of us. I’m glad I could help you!
That is GENEOUS.
I'm getting married this Saturday. Thank you so much for making these videos! I'm a little sad that this is my last Tuesday video before my wedding, but all of your videos have been so helpful during this process. You rock.
Video starts at 3:20
Budget Before You Book 3:25
Make a Separate Wedding Email 3:56
List of All of Your Items for Set up and Tear Down 4:30
Put Numbers on Your RSVP Cards 4:53
Read Your Contracts 5:25
Have Your Priorities And Stick To Them 6:01
Forget Everyone Else’s Opinion/Skip Traditions if You Want To 7:15
Pause on your Wedding Day/Take A Step Away From Wedding Planning If You Need 7:50
Plan For Something To Go Wrong 9:25
Make Sure There Is Enough Room For Gifts and DIY and People 10:12
Feed Your Bridal Party AndYourself 10:44
Don’t Get Sunburn 11:26
Hope This Helped!
Hop on over to my Wedding Planning Channel for more tips! The support is always appreciate (:
I still can't figure out why you haven't got at least a million subscribers. You're advice is so helpful and I'm so grateful for it
same same!
I think it probably has to do with the people who unsubscribe. She’s amazing but her videos won’t be relevant to be after my wedding, ya know?
Might sound obvious but it's easy to forget: stay hydrated. Especially if you have a summer wedding drink plenty of water the week leading up to your event.
Ladies! Create a wedding website and put at the end of your invitations to RSVP via the website link. That way everything is right there, no added expense of postage and eliminates the possibility of no names! Guests actually appreciate the ease of just being able to log on. And! Some websites allow you to put fun questions like song suggestions for the guests!
Don't get sunburned! Very true! Some members of our bridal party suggested we take a trip to a water park the Tuesday before our Saturday wedding just to have a fun and relaxing day. I know I burn easily so I declined. They went without us, and everyone came back burned. They all looked a little extra toasty in our wedding photos 😂
Arbella Rasho i ALMOST had this same thought I really wanted to do Disneyland with my bridal party in the few days before the wedding and I shut that thought down reaaally fast 😂😂
also don't eat rare meat the week of, my cousin's entire bridal party got food poisoning from rare burgers at the rehearsal dinner!
Just got engaged this weekend! I've been following you for awhile on here, but so glad we are finally engaged after 7 years! Hallelujah! Thankfully I've been well educated via your videos :)
Congratulations!!
Congrats girl!! 🎉💍 Let the planning begin!!
Congratulations
Amen to feeding the bridal party! Once upon a time I was a bridesmaid and the day of the wedding I ate breakfast at 7:30 am and my next meal was 6pm. My fiance who was one of the groomsmen told me he got lunch when he was with the groom and the groomsmen. :(
Opting out of traditions, yes! I said I don’t want to do a bouquet toss and the reaction I got from family was as if I suggested my mum wasn’t invited to the wedding 😂 weddings can make people a bit crazy (just a bit 🤪)
maybe you should have not said it and then people might have not realized that after months.... because your program was so fun anyways?
Everyone kept on telling me to not let society or standards dictate who i have in my bridal party. I was getting so much anxiety because i felt like i had to ask my future sister in law to be a bridesmaid. It wasnt until i listened to everyone and made the decision to ask someone else that i felt like i could breathe again (in case youre wondering, my future SIL is very dramatic and no one, including her family, seems to be able to deal with her)
Only 47 days left until I marry the love of my life! 🥰 Thanks for all the advice! ☺️
Why am I crying watching this video? The part where you talked about having dinner alone I just started bawling. I guess it spoke to me lol
I read someone who said that at the end of the reception, after all of the people were gone, they had one last dance. I think that's something I would do. It sounds great. I also really like the idea of having dinner just the two of us.
You're the bomb ❤
The shared, task-specific e-mail idea is genius.
That's the best piece of advice I've ever heard
My mother died before my wedding, so I had my uncle walk down the aisle with a bride's bouquet, and Laid it in a chair next to my stepmother. And we took it to her grave the next day. It was also important that my stepmother felt like she was she was the mother of bride . It is okay to have all parents Represented at your wedding.
your hair in this video is EVERYTHING!!!
I get married in 2021 I have soooo much time (not really) I know it passes by fast and I'm so excited thanks so much for these amazing videos.
I signed up for the expo❤
My wedding is in 2021 too! Excited. It will be a destination wedding.
Congrats girl! 🎉 It’s so nice to start early so you have your pick of the vendors and you can take your time!!
HI! Congrats on your 2021 wedding! I got engaged 17 months out..and felt we had plenty of time. In doing so, my fiance and I had an agreement.. to only discuss the wedding 1 day a week and schedule only 3 appointments a month for the wedding (when we both needed to be there) So glad we did that. Things got crazy...closer to the wedding month..and that rule of thumb helped us..I don't think we got burned out of discussing it..until about 2 months left. :0)
Wedding was two weeks ago 😊I had every single thing labeled and packed. Then, a Word document that showed how to set everything up. I gave everyone a copy of the day of timeline so they knew what the other side of the bridal party is doing.
Get started early so when you're two weeks out, you're not freaking out and only have the last set of confirmations. Then, you can hang out with family when they get into town before the wedding. I really cherished the time spent with family a couple days before.
We had a prayer time before the ceremony together, sunset photos, and I had a second dress so we got quite a bit of time by our selves.
The easy way to make sure to feed everyone is to order lunch to pick up on your way through the day of errands.
Thanks for the awesome tips! These will surely make everything go more smoothly. Hope you had a wonderful first year as newlyweds. 🤗
Hair looks 🔥🔥🔥🔥
I seriously hate when people say "Ignore what everyone else says." Uh, if I truly didn't care what people thought of my wedding I'd make them pay for entry.
Some ideas can be good, especially if you've overlooked something or I don't know, picked uncomfortable chairs or something. You'd be surprised how people overlook comfortable seating, and seating arrangements in receptions. Don't sit people too close together, and made sure you sit on the chairs others will me in at least once, in a dress. Sitting in a dress that's knee length for a guest is different than a floor length one.
It’s important to make sure your guests have a great time, you’re hosting a party after all! I would say ignore what people might *judge* about your wedding, especially if it’s something that makes you happy! I think where brides get stressed is when they trade their happiness for everyone else to be happy.
Just don't have guests. That's ok
A while back you mentioned in a video to stop browsing Pinterest once you made most of your decisions about your wedding. I definitely agree with that!! My Pinterest board was created even before I got engaged and I had pinned so many summer/outdoor wedding ideas. I am getting married on the first day of spring in Montreal, Canada a.k.a it might still be snowing lol..
So I need to stop pinning cute wedding sandals and and sleeveless dresses and instead should be looking at winter parkas and snow shoes 🤣❄️⛄️
I’ve been following you for a few years, I got engaged last month after a 5 and half year relationship. I feel so confident planning a wedding because you are by far the most informative and helpful person I’ve come across. 💕💕💕 thank you for these videos!
❤ thank you so much!
Main thing that I've got from this:
If you pause to plan, you should PLAN TO PAUSE
Having moments reserved mentally and on paper leading upto the special day and on the day will make it more enjoyable and shows honour to yourself and the one flesh union being created. Wonderful! Thank you!
Hi! My fiancé hasn’t been the easiest with wedding planning so I had a glass of wine when talking about our music. It helped a lot! Lol
I've been binge watching your videos and I'm almost out of new content 😫 I love your content and your personality.
I'd love to see your take on the toasts. Who does them, what's expected, is it okay to not do them, etc.
Yes I would love to see a video on toasts as well!!
Love the pants, girl! Really, really, REALLY excellent video. And I'm the bride's MOM, not even the bride!
If I wasn’t in Australia, I’d hire you in a minute!
The videos however have been so helpful. Thank you thank you thank YOU!
A bit of advice for summer weddings, have sunscreen on hand for all guests- have some different sorts as people skin conditions or sensitivity. But have that available for guests to slip slop slap. And water, I know guests will hopefully bring their own waters, but we are have wheelbarrows full of ice under some beach umbrellas with bottles and bottles of water, we are working from 2 bottles per person for adults/children. Work cases of water and sunscreen into you shopping budget instead of wedding budget, cause sunscreen is like a given type thing anyways and can be used after the wedding, and the water (if any left over) people will drink up or you can bring them into the reception and they will get used. Also, shade is important! Try to provide some shade for the young and elderly or ask people to bring a hat to wear while in the sun for the ceremony or provide hats. Some advice and suggestions I have been given along the way of my wedding planning. 😬
Getting married Sept 1, I meant to number my RSVP cards and then forgot until it was too late 😭 seriously everyone... number them! It will save you a lot of frustration! We had several of them with no name or anything and you’ll know who is missing when people don’t RSVP at all ☺️ Also, it’s really easy to get caught up in the details so I ask myself 3 questions when making any decision: 1. What will I do with this item a week, a year, etc after the wedding? 2. Will I remember/care about that detail 5 years from now? And 3. With everything else going on will I even notice if that detail is different or missing? If I can’t say yes to those questions or have a good answer for why it’s important to me then it’s not worth stressing over and everything will work itself out ☺️ congrats to everyone else planning!
Jess F I agree with the whole detail perspective , but I would take it to the other extreme lol ! I’d be debating if we needed chairs and forks at our wedding 🤣🤣 some days I want the most intricate decorations and some days I’m like alright so we’ll just need 10 white balloons and call it a day 🤷🏻♀️
karma3212 Yes! Especially at this point cause I am all planned out! Lol I feel like I’m at a point where people ask me questions and I’m just like “sure, sounds good, whatever” because the big stuff is done and I’m burnt out!
I was already overwhelmed with vendors, thank you for the separate email tip !! It seems so obvious lol
Not wedding related..but can you tell us where you got your earrings?? 😅
Hi, Jamie! Let me just say right off the top that I had been watching your videos since I became engaged 17 months before the wedding. You're videos have been so informative and so funny it really helped with some of the frustration and issues I was trying to figure out. Some of the rules I took with me and used. Wedding email, budget (choose top 3 to put the money towards the most.) Another big one was when packing for some one to set up the reception & wedding...label everything. I luckily found my packing paper...and used that to wrap things up and write on the paper. It was so helpful for our wedding planner who was setting up. Another big one, if something messes up..stay calm.. because your guests won't know its a messed up. Perfect example.. violinist wasn't playing 2 songs that we had chosen. My girls wanted to go out and talk to her.. but I was thinking.. no.. no one knows that it isn't the songs we wanted. But one went out anyway..and well I didn't choose enough songs to play before the wedding so she just added a few. (Which she told me she was going to do.. but I forgot.) . Biggest tip? Get some squeezed in time for you and your spouse,, Thanks to my wedding party...planning out the way things were gonna end..(Wedding planner had to leave before end of wedding to go set up reception 30 minutes away.) We not only were given the time to sit after we got married..but one of the groomsman "stood guard" so we weren't disturbed. I was amazed how much stuff there was.. and we only had a guest list of 60 people. I am now officially a month married...but I will continue to watch your videos AND pass it on to other brides/grooms who are planning their wedding. Thanks for all that you have done! You ROCK!
I'm getting married Friday and have been having a slight melt down today. Thanks for your reassuring advice !! Xxx
Jamie, I love your outfit today and everyday! Those pants are awesome
I can absolutely relate to the sunburn one! When I was a bridesmaid at my uncle’s wedding I had just returned from a music festival with the sunburn of my life. My mum’s friend sacrificed one of her aloe plants for me and it really worked wonders!
At my parents wedding, the catering staff didn't regulate the buffet and they ran out of food halfway through because so many guests were taking too much. There were three main dishes (and sides) but instead of taking one, people would take all three. The caterers had to go get emergency lunch meat to feed everyone. So make sure you have someone preventing pigs.
How do you budget before scouting out venues? That's like number one step for me. Scout venue - check with them if they have something like "minimal budget" to even allow you to book there, then from there, choose and book the date, then do the budget. Then again, in my country, venue rentals are not expensive and often free, so maybe that's why I am thinking of it this way....
I love you and your channel Jamie Wolfer !! Your intros are so freaking fracking adorable and I love your cool pants and hair !! 💯🥰
This is probably one of the most helpful videos on your channel (I love all the vids don’t get me wrong) but this one was more eye opening and new info ✨
Seriously you channel has changed my wedding planning life, so informative and awesome, really really enjoy watching your content and seeing your passion for it all, makes me want to have you as my coordination but I'm from Australia ahhh if only !!! Also Thankyou for taking the time and help all us lost Fiances booking their weddings!
I'm recently engaged and your channel has been amazing with helping with my wedding planning! Thank you so much 😁
KellyHerbert Congrats 💍🎉🎉
Hi Jamie, I just got engaged and been following you for couple months now. Could you do a video all about cocktail weddings? Thank you!!
Yes! Cocktail wedding has been my dream since I went to one a few years ago 😊
What the heck is a cocktail wedding?!
My best tip is use your and your family's connections to get the help you need. A friend of my mother is into flowers and took care of all that for cost price. My father's car was fancy enough. My brother became the driver. My brother in law was the day of coordinator. My mother took care of entertainment. One friend from church is an artist and did all the photography and made a beautiful photo album as well. Another friend from church is a make-up artist. Some unknown person decorated the church for us! The ladies from the coffee after church volunteered for that and for lunch as well. All helped in their way. Thanks everyone!
I'd be so much more stressed without you Jamie I can't even tell you! I'm from the UK so not everything applies but soooo much of it does, your lists help ground me because I feel like I'm way less likely to forget anything and the 'self care' parts make me feel like it's ok that I'm doing things slightly differently/less traditional. 109 days to go, I'll be watching a lot more videos along the way xx
Honestly the only "traditions" I want to stick with are: having a new dress for the wedding (probably will be pale blue not white), having a gathering of friends and family for the ceremony, and having a party of some kind with music after to celebrate.
My brother and I were in Scouting and earned Eagle. My mother compares the Eagle Court of Honor to a small wedding (ceremony followed by food and party) and honestly if my wedding was similar to that event I would be happy. 50 or so friends and family, bare minimum decorations, BBQ for dinner. I honestly think the hardest part will be if our mothers want us to invite ALL the family, since the extended family is quite large if you combine the two. I could just be being very optimistic about how much work will go I to this lol.
Jamie can you make a Wedding drama video. Some of your experiences and how you found that people handle it best.
girl, I just love your videos. not a bride. not even close. but I still love them.
Same. She's just amazing!
Speaking of breaking tradition - I’d love a video on how to dress bridesmaids if you are going with a non-white dress! Really any conversation about colors would be great because even when I find a cute pallet I can’t figure out which colors should be dresses or linens or lighting etc.
Yes, this would be so handy, I want to wear a blue dress myself but wonder if you'd make bridesmaids wear a darker colour or if you want to be even less traditional maybe you could put them in white while the bride wears the colour 😊
Love your videos Jamie! Would you be able to do a video about destination weddings? We're planning a super small (12 person) wedding in the Cayman Islands. I'm wondering if you have any advice about how to pack a wedding dress, whether we should hire a local planner, how to accommodate guests with different budgets, etc. Thanks!
I highly recommend hiring a local planner for destination weddings- they know the area and the best local vendors. It’s great to have someone on your team who is actually there while you’re planning!
I dont know if you have already done this or something similar to it, but you should make a video on the small pre wedding things that need to be done whether people will do them all or not: marriage license, invitations, hotel arrangements, engagement pictures, engagement parties, wedding registries, food tastings, hair, make up, and nail trials. Things like that because all the pre wedding things like this is stuff that all the the couples whose weddings I have attended have forgotten about until the last minute.
Can you do a video about the pros and cons of having a DJ vs Live Band? Love your videos!
Jamie, would you ever share pictures or videos of your wedding? Would be awesome inspiration, if thats not too personal of a request! :)
Tina Tang her wedding video was just shared on the JW Coordination instagram page
Just saw it! So lovely!
Jamie.... I love you! I am getting married in October!! You have been so hopeful! I just wish I found you sooner!!!
Love your hair like this!!
I'm planning my wedding for next summer. It's so much fun so far. But we are planning a wedding in a campground to be very relaxed and casual. It's hard to find advice or inspiration because it's not a typical wedding.
beth scholes LOVE this idea!! Since it is so unique and casual, you don’t need to worry too much about the “normal” wedding stuff - don’t try to make it something it’s not. This kind of stuff works the best when you really make it your own. Logistics can be stressful with non traditional weddings, but I would lean more toward making it camping-y than wedding-y... Does that make sense?
Also, instead of searching specifically for wedding inspiration, you could look for camping party inspiration and apply it to your wedding! Or maybe some backyard bbq type stuff!
Hope this helps! Let me know if I can help with anything specific 💕
Your hair is so beautiful 😻
This is sooo helpful and valuable. Definitely agree with not worrying about what people may judge about your wedding, it's your day, not theirs! Also your earrings are amazing 💕
I love your channel!
THE BEST COMPLIATION OF ADVICE ON THE INTERNET!!!
Signed up for wedding hacker - and I’m excited! Thank you
Hey 👋🏾 I’m getting married next month and your videos has helped me a lot. Do you have any videos on dealing with anxiety day of?
Quick tip from a makeup artist on sunscreen: if there's too much SPF in your foundation, it can cause "flashback" in photos that wash your face out and make you look a little ghostly! Protect your body for sure, but use as little SPF on the face as you can, for the photos' sake. Love the channel!
Signed up for the expo as soon as you announced it on IG!! Love you Jamie! Def been watching you since getting engaged this past March!
If you are bride or groom stay hydrated no matter what season and make sure bride and groom take their medication in case they both take it as well everyone if they are bridemaids and groomsman and for bride have good undergarments for them to make it easy to go to bathroom especially ballgown dresses and great comforting dance shoes as well break them loose a week before wedding recount your guest list so you wont pay extra remember guest list varies can decrease or increase any season guest have lives and emergencies in their life can happen.
Can you do a video listing all the wedding traditions? Such as mother/ son dance?
What’s your take on e-invitations and real life invitations? I can’t decide! But I feel like it would be a waste of money to print them and design them with ribbons and stuff. 🤔
You’re personality is soooo happy and easy going! I can see why you have had so much success with wedding planning. You could say to me “hey, the flowers for the wedding are dead, somebody put the temperature wrong” and I’d still be like “oh ok”. 🤣🤣🤣
Ps. It hurt me to even joke about that. My first priority is flowers. I want lots and lots and lots of flowers. My wedding favor? Clarityne.
YESS I signed up for the expo! Can’t wait! :)
Lots of great tips!!
Do you have any suggestions for center piece sizes for different table sizes ?
Chantelle Devan I would say go with a common material and then mix it up! If you have vases for flowers that are all brass or all crystal then they’ll look like they go together even if some are tall, short, big, or small. You don’t have to have exactly the same centerpiece on every table and it’ll still look really nice. Having the same types of florals or the same color of candles in different sizes will also help tie the centerpieces together so that your smallest table isn’t crowded with the same centerpiece you have at your largest table.
@@slytherinprincess5682 Oh sorry i should have worded my question differently. What I meant was what is a good centerpiece size for a round 8 top, 10 top... etc.
Thanks for the great advice for others that may be looking :)
I'm no where near getting married, but I literally have these videos saved for when I finally need to know about wedding. lol
Hi Jamie! Love your videos! Will you do a video on renting the wedding dress? The pros and cons of it and how it’s different from buying a wedding dress?
Not planning a wedding, just looovvveeee your tips and energy... Hopefully one day I'll contact you... Greetings from Tj =]
Those pants are so cute girl, Jamie you are the youtuber who I get most excited about when you put out new videos! With my wedding coming up soon, I rely on your videos to make sure I'm on the right track.
Getting married this November! So exciting. I feel like I got so much done but still have so much to do. It gets more stressful the closer it comes...
Didn’t even get to the advice, I just liked it with that pants thing in the beginning, because me too.
Hi Jamie, I’ve been a subscriber and watching your channel since your backyard wedding video. This weeks video is AMAZING, as usual. Could you possibly do a venue style video like your dinner style video? I’d like a wedding in a conservatory or a barn(something of the earthy woodland style) and I know many people like the churchy, banquet hall style venues (or at least they do in my area). I just want to know the pros, cons, ins, and outs of different venue options.
Your pants are pretty cool :) We see you girl!
Very helpful, as usual! Thank you!!!!
How do I like this video 100 times?????! My wedding is in 3 months and I'm stressed. BRB gonna go watch the previous videos AHHHHHH
Mines in 40 days and omg I have stress pimples, stress gray hairs.. and I'm 23
cool pants!
Me: I need this expo in my life
Jamie: it’s on your wedding day
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Rachel, you can get an all-access pass for immediate access to all the expo content. If you want some last minute wisdom or to set up a solid financial foundation with your soon-to-be spouse ;)
Www.Weddinghackerexpo.com/Jamie
Same 😂😂 August 18 over here
Girl!!! Your hairrrrr!!! Its so mega luscious and vibrant. Like... more than usual! The health is unreal 😍😍 Love the video, thank for the info 😊😊♥️
Ps: need to know your tips and tricks to the health of your hair, getting married autumn 2020 and I’m currently working on my skin texture and hair. I’m getting there, slowly but surely. A video about hair/beauty for the big day would be aaaaamzing!
I GET MARRIED IN 2 WEEKS!! Thanks for your videos Jamie!! I am seriously considering starting a business similar to yours someday!
Loving these videos - thank you so much for the advice, tips and tricks. Have you done a video about lengths of engagements and the pros/cons of each, or even tips to plan over a longer span of time without getting antsy? I recently got engaged and we're looking at a 2-year engagement, so I'd love to hear your thoughts!
You often hear “it’s your day do whatever you want” and I understand where this is coming from, but I disagree. It’s an important day but it’s only one day and it’s not worth damaging important relationships with people you love.
I absolutely love your videos! I’ve been watching them for so long and my wedding is slowly creeping up, I’m getting married on Valentine’s Day! Can you please do a video on wedding videography, I was thinking about having a videographer and now I’m not sure if it’s really worth the money or within our budget.
Hannah Pedraza My advice to brides on this that if their photography and videography budget is big enough ($4,000+), they can hire both. But I think it’s better to hire an AMAZING photographer than to hire an ok photog and an ok videographer.
Omgggg! I wish I could be there😢 is there anything around Sf-Bay area?? I’d like to thank you for all your advice thru this vids. It really helped me while planning my upcoming wedding (Aug.16) sending my love and gratitude to you Jamie! 💕💕💕💕
I was so aware of the sunburn thing that when I went to Australia zoo a few days before my wedding, I had 50 SPF on, a hat, and a umbrella. Not too fashionable but I did NOT get sunburned. Just annoyed my future hubby a bit as he thought it was a little overboard. Wish I had noticed the t-shirt tan I had on my upper body before the wedding so I could have covered it with sunless tanner like a few weeks before.
Are you having the event this year too? Also how many months before the wedding is to soon to start planning if it's a diy wedding?
I love your videos!!! They are so helpful!! Planning my wedding on a budget has been rough. I just literally made a video with some of my own tips! I hope the video is a blessing to someone !
Looove these tips !
I like your new lamps. Oh and your pants lol
Could you please do a video about destination weddings? I know you did one in Hawaii, which was more vlog style. I really love your videos and advice, and would love to hear your thoughts and opinions. (not going to lie, going to paste this in the next 3 videos of yours that I watch.) Also, I love you, and you're amazing and would love for you to plan my wedding when/if it happens.
Your hair looks very nice
The feed your wedding party advice!! Omg I can't tell you how bad it was as the MOH that we didn't eat all day. Being the MOH and having so many things to do and not eat was terrible.
Big advice I can give from that wedding experience is: have time in between events like food, speeches, bouquet toss. The bridal party was barely served our plates before we were told we had to leave again to do speeches and then the toss. After not eating all day. I didn't have time to even try the cake! Try having a plate of food in your face finally, and then told you can't eat it. They cleared the tables by the time we got back.
Try not to give so many responsibilities to One person, spread it out. So they can have time to enjoy your wedding too. It's hard to enjoy the wedding when you're running around from one thing to another and Hangry/ emotional. It's not pretty.
Can you talk about wedding shoes???