It's videos like these and those about abandoned houses over the last 10 years that helped me change my life from a hoarder to a normal way of living. Thank you UA-cam.
Susan was such a kind person. Anyone could tell how exausted she was and she never protested against throwing the junk away, but instead was so appreciative of the hardwork of the cleaners. May her rest in peace.
The saving grace , if any,, Is that the dog almost certainly died of carbon monoxide long, long before the fire ever reached him. One of my adult male cousins silently suffered chronic deep depression for many years and lived with his elderly widowed mother. Daniel set their home on fire and went to bed one afternoon. He was ordained as an minister in middle age. He preached at many small town, to many small congregations who could not afford to even share the cost of a half time pastor. So his only income was “good will offerings” which did little more than pay for his gasoline. He devoted a huge amount of hours weekly to those congregations, preparing sermons, visiting the sick, etc as rural pastors do. He desperately wanted to be called to a home church as at least a half time pastor. It wasn’t to be. He died of smoke exposure, and the fire never reached him before it was extinguished. We were told that it appeared that he had peacefully gone to sleep. His mother was in her 90s recovering from a slip and fall in a nursing home at the time. Although she was still of sound mind, she would not have been physically able to live at home for many years without Daniel’s help, and they were good companions, supporting each other And enjoying life, all in all, living with each other. His mother survived him for quite a long time, but never left the nursing home to live. Rest in Peace, Daniel and Aunt Delores
I agree that he should not have pets ever. He burned down two homes. A friend of mine lost her mother and her precious little dog (that I raised from birth until she adopted her) in a fire. The house was messy but not hoarded. A fan motor caught fire. My friend and her cousin were able to escape. But Ruth and little Delilah-Lu perished from smoke inhalation. Meanwhile that dumb f!ck burns down two houses, kills a pet, learns nothing and is still alive
Hoarding is a severe mental illness. People have suffered incredible trauma and loss. I grew up with this. Never had a space of my own no bedroom until I unburied a space for myself. Could never have friends over too ashamed. I remember maggots on the dishes. As a grown woman I’ve cleared out so many rooms so many times only for them to go right back to being hoarded. I live with chronic anxiety and depression. Live minimalistic to the point of not being able to keep anything I bring home because it’s like ptsd to keep it. It’s an awful upbringing there’s no room for you to develop an identity of your own. Therapy made all the difference for me, I’ve forgiven but I’ll never forget that anxiety and depression will never leave me, all I can do is manage.
I feel sorry for what you went through. Please stick to the possibility that healing is thinkable. In a way like „It’s not guaranteed but I don’t exclude it“.
😢I’m sorry your brain developed under those conditions, I’m sure you have built in scars. Sounds like you’ve done your best to heal as much as possible though, and that’s rare and commendable
You are describing the pain I think Heather felt from her father’s hoard. She was that wounded child that needed her dad to give her a hug and apologize; but then she was so brave and understood in the end that her father was suffering too.
@@romanakipper7713how is it judgmental to tell these people the truth? They know something is wrong but they will not get the help they need if they enabled bcuz "hurt feelings".
Susan, Brian and Jake all seem so sweet. The cleaning ladies are angels! Susan's attitude towards "losing" her stuff was so different from most hoarders on these hoarding shows. I'm glad she got her house back before she died, sorry she is gone.
Heather is a really empathic, sympathic and clever woman, trying her best to help her family but without pushing,she really impressed me in this documentary!
Those ladies are heaven sent angels. I started cleaning a hoarder's home. We didn't make it too the floors even. There were needles, things that held poop and pee. My dad and I started to become ill. And had to stop. The house still stands. People live there, just thinking about it makes me feel sick.
How cute it was to see Heather dancing at home, it was like watching her as a child. Your childhood scars are really hard to mend and sometimes I feel like her, so far away and "better" than what i came from, but it's days like today when I feel stuck in the past.
I bet most of all her stuff went to the trash cleaning a dirty home is much easier than cleaning a clean one the cleaners probably just saved what could be saved I'm happy those that the lady got to die with dignity to be able to see her home clean and sleep in her bed before she died is price less
@@ioanna9240 The camera work only ever showed these two ladies. Never any other team. That first day, that was 34°C in England, must have been such hard going. That's an oppressively hot day in that part of the world.
First time I watched the British version. The USA version is more severe, I am surprised that the fire inspector didn't require him to move out. In the USA it would be required
This is very different than the American version. I kept waiting for a cleaning crew to arrive for all the hoarders. It turned out, the only one getting that sort of help was Susan, and the work was done by only 2 ladies. I hope Susan was able to live out the rest of her life more peacefully after getting her home back to normal.
I once tried cleaning up a Hoarder's appartement. It was tiny (ca. 12 squaremeters). The rubbish was gone by this point but I just felt overwhelmed, there was so much damage done by the roaches and the neglect.... (roach shit basically covered everything and went 2 mt up all the walls). And the electricity was shut off, so no hot water from the boiler. It's a neverending hell of fillth. It takes at least 5 liters of water, changed at least 3 times, and a barrage of cleaning supplies and sponges to just clean 1 squaremeter of this mess. It's just unimaginable for the mainstream people. It's insanity, hell.
There are different levels of hoarding and not all hoards are that bad. There was a person on A&E Hoarders show whose hoard was all packaged neatly in plastic boxes... but still impaired her ability to use the home. And then people like Jake who hoard their own filth.
wow. and i’m assuming you did that for free? even if not, no amount of money i think is worth stepping in there without a full suit on. well fucking done
Can’t get over the fact that the older guy with the two adult children looks the same age as them, and noticeably fitter/healthier. Seems like their worrying and not being cared for made them age faster whereas he seems… unbothered to the point of delusional, absolutely not factoring in what he’s doing to them and not taking any responsibility. Not only a hoarder, but a narcissist and a bad father. Feeling really sorry for his kids.
My best woman friend lived in another town as the years passed. She was single, and spent every holiday, every family event, weeks at a time with us. I hadn't been to her home in five or six years because she wanted to be with us. She died suddenly, discovered when I called police for a welfare check. She was living in a hoard, a dog crap/pee saturated pile in every room, including the bathroom. It reeked, was filled with garbage and dirty clothes. No one knew. I was sad beyond belief in I couldn't help her, or talk to her about her hoard. God keep Karen, loved forever.
That's cold. Karen had emotional issues, but thought she was just fine. So did everyone. She volunteered for many great causes, did thing others didn't want to do, e.g. cleaning up after a potluck at the church. - well, she was a friend to all. We didn't know about her inner demons. You didn't know her. I did, Don't judge.
My mother and aunt were hoarders. They were raised during the great depression. It didn't get bad until they got older. Lots of arguments would come up if any of us tried to clean or remove items. If we cleaned while she was out of town, she would just hoard more stuff. It took us 2 years to clean out her house after she (my mother) died. It was a mess.
That must have been so hard to deal with. I was so grateful that my parents left their funeral arrangements all paid for. My sister and I took 12 hours and did an estate sale and cleared their home out and a man and woman team came and took everything that did not sell away for free. Again, I can’t imagine what you had to go through; all the emotions of losing a parent and then the anger and sadness that this is what you were left with.
Hoarding is a mental issue and as an outsider, it’s easy to express disgust or concern. I can only imagine how stressful it was for the daughter who is a victim of his dad’s hoarding and the mental toll it has had on her. And Susan, I’m glad that she finally came around and sought professional help to clean her house. RIP to her. it’s not easy, but my wish is for hoarders to have been given help and support earlier.
I knew a hoarder. He was from Cardiff. His home was a terrible mess. You could not sit on the sofa in the lounge. It was covered with stuff. The toilets and bathroom were filthy. I underestimate the state it was in. As to the bedroom no comment. This guy suffered from a mental illness. I tried to help him but I could not. He would get into terrible tantrums. He probably died from the Covid. I have had no news since that period.
@@Concerned-x2x hers was at top of my screen. None of others were. I apologize that this was taken rudely if by her or him. But not by you. I was not talking to you. So please MYOB Happy Thanksgiving and be well.
Jake should take responsibility for his dog’s death- instead he seems to almost put the blame on the dog for not following him?!That poor dog would have made it out of the fire if there was no hoard in the way to get out. I’m sure he loves his dog but he should not have any pets if he cannot care for them responsibly. The dog he has now should not be chained up all the time. People should not have pets if they will not prioritize their care above the junk in their home. So sad 😞
My grandma just unexpectedly passed away last week. She was a hoarder. The disaster she left behind is unreal. The whole family is fighting about all the stuff it’s like we can’t even properly mourn her bc we first have to deal with all this stuff
I am sorry for your family's loss 🌺 try to be the voice of reason, and understanding with your family and the spirit of cooperation might take hold - it's a double whammy to have clear out someone's hoard especially a person you loved.
It seems really dangerous to be cleaning that house without some kind of protection other than plastic gloves, isn't it? I can't imagine breathing in those mouse carcass and dropping fumes.
Always when I see these hoarding programms I just feel a lot of anxiety. How on earth do people have the strength to take everything out and clean it. But I have a chronic illness I could never do it myself. I have so much respect for the cleaners who do this for a living and for the hoarders for facing their fears, shame and getting the help they need.
Susan was such a good sport and did not object to anything! Those cleaning ladies did a fantastic job! I wonder what their charge was for something like this..
What do mean by Susan Shane 1954-2019?? She is dead?? TELL ME IM WRONG, NO WAY! 😭😭 SHE DESERVE THE 2 LADIES CLEANING HER HOUSE, THANK YOU FOR CHOOSING HER😭 SHE LOOK SO CALM AND CHILL, IM VERY SAD SEEING THE LAST PART HER NAME AND THE YEAR😭😭
Awful lot of drama queen on your part, considering you didn't know the woman, weren't part of her life, and that people DO die. Read the Bible---God has said "It is appointed to man once to die, and then the judgment..." She was 65 years old, a completely normal age at which to die, so you can stop the fake tears.
I grew up in a situation that ended up being a hoarder situation after I moved out. I have a bit of it in me as well. But I do huge purges every year and I my apartment is a lot better than the one I grew up in
It was hard watching this. I felt tired and I wasn't even there 😥. The view takes a toll on you mentally especially if you live like this. I didn't watch it fully cause I couldn't take it. Kept on forwarding the vid lol but the ending's great. Well done on Susan's place 👏🏻
My parents has the same problem. When my dad passed in 2019, I undertook to rearrange and declutter their house but my mom couldn't let me! We could agree to get everything out and let her pick tè stuff she wanted and then we dispose the rest! We ended up getting literally everything back to the house. Long story short, I timed when she was visiting her brother for a few days.....the rest is history 😂😂😂😂😂😂
What was your mother's reaction to you getting rid of her stuff while she was gone? It seems like such an obvious solution to just hire a dumpster and throw it all away, but I hear hoarders can have a completely unreasonable attachment to their stuff. Myself, I have a lot of junk, but I love purging and getting rid of stuff- thank God!
@@lilyt5855 Thank God that you are willing to let some stuff go! For my mom, I had to declutter while she was away. Of course she came back, got mad at me for days,weeks....months, but she eventually got used to it😀
The hoarder guy telling the actual expert that he’s a “fire expert” since he’s already started 2 major fires…it’s like a human embodiment of Dunning Krueger
my parents are hoarders and it drives me crazy, I cant find anywere to live to so I live in a camper on my dad's peoperty, the man has a huge hose full of trash and old mold, but he wont clean it or let me clean it, he would rather have me living outside in a campingwagon in freezing weather then allow his "house" be cleaned. My mum's house is full of everything you can imagin and my tounger brother lives there and is misereble 😢😢
The daughter could meet with her dad OUTSIDE of his home somewhere and forget about insisting he change at his elderly age. In time he ll die in his mess.
@A-Grammie-On-the-ROCK One difficulty for this daughter is that her adult brother has special needs, and has always lived in this house. She wants a better home situation for both of them - so hadn't given up entirely.
I love that the documentary was still put together in a way that felt positive or made them look like real people … vs some of the documentaries in the US that are so dramatized -
It's so funny to me the difference in musical choices between A&E's Hoarders, and this British version. In the American one it's life or death drama sting music, but here it's all light and quirky. Can't decide which is more or less appropriate XD.
Both of my parents are hoarders, They lost everything I witnessed it so I understand why they become one. Like most of the kids who grew up in that situation, I dont have friends, cuz im.ashamed of my own home No suitors Even relatives and coworkers Every single day I tried to talk it out But they dont listen, I am depressed, have anxiety and lonely. But their feelings matters not mine. Im 40+ yo Im.renting this home But Ive got no voice Out of respect, love and embarassment I surrender after our argument almost everyday I just wanted to breathe But my hands are tied I cant afford to provide for them while living on my own
@Meutroos My thought too. Working themselves far too hard to get that much cleared out in five days. And all the time, breathing in all the dust and mould spores.
Hoarder is a bad thing. I met a lot of people who hoarded everything,plastics,boxes,etc... Most of them are used to be poor/broke. So they literally saves anything the think it looks good...and not realizing it's not that good...the kids and the loved ones are mostly the affected one. It must be so tiring for the cleaner lady/madam😢 one day is never enough! I'm ended up being a clean freak, because like heather said...that's me now🤣 Or if the kids not learning,they could become a hoarder too
My friend used to be a minimalist and then it is like she snapped dur to overworking. Was on tablets for depression & just never been the same. She lost her house (sold it and had to get something cheaper further out) and when we packed it I encouraged try keep the new place in better order. Seriously it is no use. I have stopped organising and cleaning. She just sits amongst her junk all day. She bought a kitten and was frantic as she 'lost it' for 3 days in the junk. It is sad to watch and frustrating at the same time. It is similar to dealing with an alcoholic, as there is nothinv you can say or do to help them at times.
Her sons are not responsible for her mental illness and disorder. There are points where you need to accept that the hoarding isn't going to get better until they are ready to change (and you can't force them to change). If you haven't dealt with hoarders, it might be hard to understand. You can help them clean, but it's a process and it usually ends up getting just as bad (sometimes worse). If you try to "help" them by going in and just start throwing out everything, that can be traumatic to the hoarder and make their hoarding worse long-term. They usually need therapy and/or to be ready to that change (if they ever change).
You must not have seen other episodes. Family often does try to help them--but unless you fix the underlying mental issue they just fill up the empty space all over again.
Cleaness phobias are just as bad Truly. On the people they visit. Try having them in for tea or meal. They look,and watch what u do..wont eat food you prepare. Only bring store bought container meal. And this is in clean homes. Ask if youve washed your hands after everyyhing you do, every thing you move from. Its a very stressful visit, for the host Very. They never invite anyone inside thier homes. ( as to contaminate it) Its a sickness such as this. But in reverse.
I hate how those cleaning ladies judge Susan and giggle at the findings and trash! I wish they were a bit kinder and understanding of the pain and depression Susan must have been through that lead her and into such home situation…
To be fair most of it is “junk” so probably was very cheap, or found on the street…. Probably in the end not more expensive than other “habits and hobbies”. Most hoarders tend to be or become isolated so they don’t really spend much on going out or activities
34° Celsius is about 93° Fahrenheit. I had to look it up. Where I live thats normal early summer weather. Next week is gonna be over 100° Fahrenheit, with a heat index above 112°.
It is a trauma-based injury in the mind. They fear loss and the stuff protects them like a duvet from feeling the pain of loss. It does not help to fight the symptoms (= get rid of the stuff) but the main problem (= being able to feel the pain and to let go of all trauma) needs to be adressed psychologically first to prevent them to start to hoard again to get rid of unpleasant feelings.
Thank you. Makes sense and explains a lot, because many of the shows about hoarders focus on a border who started collecting things after losing someone they loved.
I really hate hoarding so much. Doesn't it mean you can't even take the smallest decision, such as, should I keep this pair of shoes that the mouse has lived in, or should I get rid of it?
I wonder how long it takes for these peoples homes to get to this stage again after its being cleaned up. Because this is a mental health problem and if that is not addressed, im sure the hoarding will get out of control again
If people want to shop so much and it's an obsession, why don't they shop for charity causes and givei the items to schools or orphanages? Instead of piling them up at home? Hoarding runs in my family so I understand the feeling though.
REST IN PEACE SUSAN. I’m so happy those lovely ladies gave you some peace at last.
I didn't expect that at the end oddly enough. I'm so glad she got to be home in her last days.
It's videos like these and those about abandoned houses over the last 10 years that helped me change my life from a hoarder to a normal way of living. Thank you UA-cam.
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Bless your heart.
Susan was such a kind person. Anyone could tell how exausted she was and she never protested against throwing the junk away, but instead was so appreciative of the hardwork of the cleaners. May her rest in peace.
Too rich?
She passed away? Oh No!!! 😭
😮wow really she needs to throw things out
That hoard and depression probably contributed to her cancer. How sad.
@@JesusGodHolySpirit3 You must not have watched it to the end.
The two cleaner ladies are absolute angels. To have the strength to clear and clean like that❤❤❤God bless them.
So true❤
Amen ❤ True they restore hope in humanity God bless them
Yes, especially the fridge!!!
😊❤yea agreed 👍
Yes they are angles to help her out yes ❤
Jake shouldn't be allowed to have a pet! The dog who died in one of his two fires probably got trapped in the mess and couldn't find its way out!
The saving grace , if any,, Is that the dog almost certainly died of carbon monoxide long, long before the fire ever reached him.
One of my adult male cousins silently suffered chronic deep depression for many years and lived with his elderly widowed mother. Daniel set their home on fire and went to bed one afternoon.
He was ordained as an minister in middle age. He preached at many small town, to many small congregations who could not afford to even share the cost of a half time pastor. So his only income was “good will offerings” which did little more than pay for his gasoline. He devoted a huge amount of hours weekly to those congregations, preparing sermons, visiting the sick, etc as rural pastors do. He desperately wanted to be called to a home church as at least a half time pastor. It wasn’t to be.
He died of smoke exposure, and the fire never reached him before it was extinguished. We were told that it appeared that he had peacefully gone to sleep. His mother was in her 90s recovering from a slip and fall in a nursing home at the time. Although she was still of sound mind, she would not have been physically able to live at home for many years without Daniel’s help, and they were good companions, supporting each other And enjoying life, all in all, living with each other. His mother survived him for quite a long time, but never left the nursing home to live. Rest in Peace, Daniel and Aunt Delores
I hate him
I agree that he should not have pets ever. He burned down two homes. A friend of mine lost her mother and her precious little dog (that I raised from birth until she adopted her) in a fire. The house was messy but not hoarded. A fan motor caught fire. My friend and her cousin were able to escape. But Ruth and little Delilah-Lu perished from smoke inhalation.
Meanwhile that dumb f!ck burns down two houses, kills a pet, learns nothing and is still alive
It's his dogs...none of your business.
@@mkmitchell1319, oh no! Dogs are not objects! Cruelty to living beings IS our business!
I love the declutter divas. They’re patient, considerate, nonjudgmental and supportive. And they’re miracle workers at cleaning out hoarded spaces.
That's pretty amazing what they do for others.
Hoarding is a severe mental illness. People have suffered incredible trauma and loss. I grew up with this. Never had a space of my own no bedroom until I unburied a space for myself. Could never have friends over too ashamed. I remember maggots on the dishes. As a grown woman I’ve cleared out so many rooms so many times only for them to go right back to being hoarded. I live with chronic anxiety and depression. Live minimalistic to the point of not being able to keep anything I bring home because it’s like ptsd to keep it. It’s an awful upbringing there’s no room for you to develop an identity of your own. Therapy made all the difference for me, I’ve forgiven but I’ll never forget that anxiety and depression will never leave me, all I can do is manage.
Stay strong! ❤
I'm glad the therapy is working for you.
I feel sorry for what you went through. Please stick to the possibility that healing is thinkable. In a way like „It’s not guaranteed but I don’t exclude it“.
😢I’m sorry your brain developed under those conditions, I’m sure you have built in scars. Sounds like you’ve done your best to heal as much as possible though, and that’s rare and commendable
You are describing the pain I think Heather felt from her father’s hoard. She was that wounded child that needed her dad to give her a hug and apologize; but then she was so brave and understood in the end that her father was suffering too.
I appreciate how British show doesn’t have as much drama and fights as American.
Yes, but I still find it horrible - SO judgemental and dramatic
@@romanakipper7713how is it judgmental to tell these people the truth? They know something is wrong but they will not get the help they need if they enabled bcuz "hurt feelings".
Agreed, but I wish they'd stop with the quirky background music that signals this is all cute or funny or lighthearted.
Yes! Agree
That's cause British people don't air their laundry. But I assure you they are worse. Just won't see it on TV.
I hope Susan spent the rest of her days, with her children and grandchildren in a very clean and comfortable home…😢❤️
same. may God bless them ❤
Unchain that poor dog. The man is a fool. Keeps having fires and smokes in the middle of the place. The poor other dog. He should have no pets.
I'm wondering why he feels the need to pee in plastic bottles.
@@lilithlevaykjeldahl5257because he's a sick F! I really don't like him.
Fool is too kind. He’s a selfish dog murderer
Susan, Brian and Jake all seem so sweet. The cleaning ladies are angels! Susan's attitude towards "losing" her stuff was so different from most hoarders on these hoarding shows. I'm glad she got her house back before she died, sorry she is gone.
Heather is a really empathic, sympathic and clever woman, trying her best to help her family but without pushing,she really impressed me in this documentary!
Those ladies are heaven sent angels. I started cleaning a hoarder's home. We didn't make it too the floors even. There were needles, things that held poop and pee. My dad and I started to become ill. And had to stop. The house still stands. People live there, just thinking about it makes me feel sick.
How cute it was to see Heather dancing at home, it was like watching her as a child. Your childhood scars are really hard to mend and sometimes I feel like her, so far away and "better" than what i came from, but it's days like today when I feel stuck in the past.
How on earth did those two ladies clean out that hoarded house by themselves?
I bet most of all her stuff went to the trash cleaning a dirty home is much easier than cleaning a clean one the cleaners probably just saved what could be saved I'm happy those that the lady got to die with dignity to be able to see her home clean and sleep in her bed before she died is price less
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They have a cleaning crew with them. They are just the bosses or the expert
@@alejandraherrera515it helped that the owner wasn’t going through every item they were throwing out.
@@ioanna9240 The camera work only ever showed these two ladies. Never any other team. That first day, that was 34°C in England, must have been such hard going. That's an oppressively hot day in that part of the world.
First time I watched the British version. The USA version is more severe, I am surprised that the fire inspector didn't require him to move out. In the USA it would be required
This is very different than the American version. I kept waiting for a cleaning crew to arrive for all the hoarders. It turned out, the only one getting that sort of help was Susan, and the work was done by only 2 ladies.
I hope Susan was able to live out the rest of her life more peacefully after getting her home back to normal.
I'm so glad Susan was able to live out the rest of her days in a peaceful environment.
I once tried cleaning up a Hoarder's appartement. It was tiny (ca. 12 squaremeters). The rubbish was gone by this point but I just felt overwhelmed, there was so much damage done by the roaches and the neglect.... (roach shit basically covered everything and went 2 mt up all the walls). And the electricity was shut off, so no hot water from the boiler. It's a neverending hell of fillth. It takes at least 5 liters of water, changed at least 3 times, and a barrage of cleaning supplies and sponges to just clean 1 squaremeter of this mess. It's just unimaginable for the mainstream people. It's insanity, hell.
At least you tried. Well done, you.
There are different levels of hoarding and not all hoards are that bad. There was a person on A&E Hoarders show whose hoard was all packaged neatly in plastic boxes... but still impaired her ability to use the home. And then people like Jake who hoard their own filth.
wow. and i’m assuming you did that for free? even if not, no amount of money i think is worth stepping in there without a full suit on. well fucking done
Well done! for taking on such a hideous task for someone else. Courage and kindness all wrapped up in one person.😇
Can’t get over the fact that the older guy with the two adult children looks the same age as them, and noticeably fitter/healthier. Seems like their worrying and not being cared for made them age faster whereas he seems… unbothered to the point of delusional, absolutely not factoring in what he’s doing to them and not taking any responsibility. Not only a hoarder, but a narcissist and a bad father. Feeling really sorry for his kids.
All men of that generation were like that
That fire inspection was pointless. No changes enforced, just friendly suggestions? Scary.. That poor dog
I don’t understand Englands laws.🇨🇦
That’s always effective on a 40 year mental illness isn’t it. Imagine getting another dog after you
Set the other on fire
susan’s soul was holding on and left peacefully once her home was finally clean 💗💗
That's what I thought... She had completed her path here..
She didn't leave a mess for her sons I suppose 😢
My best woman friend lived in another town as the years passed. She was single, and spent every holiday, every family event, weeks at a time with us. I hadn't been to her home in five or six years because she wanted to be with us. She died suddenly, discovered when I called police for a welfare check. She was living in a hoard, a dog crap/pee saturated pile in every room, including the bathroom. It reeked, was filled with garbage and dirty clothes. No one knew. I was sad beyond
belief in I couldn't help her, or talk to her about her hoard. God keep Karen, loved forever.
She chose to live that way.
That's cold. Karen had emotional issues, but thought she was just fine. So did everyone. She volunteered for many great causes, did thing others didn't want to do, e.g. cleaning up after a potluck at the church. - well, she was a friend to all. We didn't know about her inner demons. You didn't know her. I did, Don't judge.
So she didn't chose to hoard?
My mother and aunt were hoarders. They were raised during the great depression. It didn't get bad until they got older. Lots of arguments would come up if any of us tried to clean or remove items. If we cleaned while she was out of town, she would just hoard more stuff. It took us 2 years to clean out her house after she (my mother) died. It was a mess.
That must have been so hard to deal with. I was so grateful that my parents left their funeral arrangements all paid for. My sister and I took 12 hours and did an estate sale and cleared their home out and a man and woman team came and took everything that did not sell away for free. Again, I can’t imagine what you had to go through; all the emotions of losing a parent and then the anger and sadness that this is what you were left with.
Hoarding is a mental issue and as an outsider, it’s easy to express disgust or concern. I can only imagine how stressful it was for the daughter who is a victim of his dad’s hoarding and the mental toll it has had on her. And Susan, I’m glad that she finally came around and sought professional help to clean her house. RIP to her. it’s not easy, but my wish is for hoarders to have been given help and support earlier.
It has NOT been proven to be a mental issue. I believe it's a habit and pure laziness.. is all.
@@rodagrail3231Okay, show us all the articles you havd read where they say hoarding is NOT a mental health issue!!
What rubbish!
@@rodagrail3231 Hoarding is classified as a mental disorder. You not liking that doesn't really matter.
Bless you, that's so lovely of you. They need kindness
I knew a hoarder. He was from Cardiff. His home was a terrible mess. You could not sit on the sofa in the lounge. It was covered with stuff. The toilets and bathroom were filthy. I underestimate the state it was in. As to the bedroom no comment. This guy suffered from a mental illness. I tried to help him but I could not. He would get into terrible tantrums. He probably died from the Covid. I have had no news since that period.
Dude, I'm so freakin bummed out I fell in love with Susan and her clean house is gorgeous only to see she passed away 😢 😔
Yes, and left her place like that for her sons to see. So. It was a gift in the end for Susan as well as her family.
Damn spoiler
@@Oceangirl1234 did you skip over everybody else’s comment that was saying rest in peace Susan..
@@Concerned-x2x hers was at top of my screen. None of others were. I apologize that this was taken rudely if by her or him. But not by you. I was not talking to you. So please MYOB Happy Thanksgiving and be well.
Susan's place looks so beautiful after the gals cleaned it up! Congrats to all for that nice transformation and hope Susan's cancer is cured.
Reading the comments that Susan passed away. RIP dear Susan.
I’m surprised they don’t have face masks on. I’m glad to see gloves.
At the very end they showed she passed away in 2019.
Those two ladies did a excellent job
at Susan's house. R.I.P. Susan. Good
Luck with the other two 😢😢😊❤❤👍🙏🥰
Jake should take responsibility for his dog’s death- instead he seems to almost put the blame on the dog for not following him?!That poor dog would have made it out of the fire if there was no hoard in the way to get out. I’m sure he loves his dog but he should not have any pets if he cannot care for them responsibly. The dog he has now should not be chained up all the time. People should not have pets if they will not prioritize their care above the junk in their home. So sad 😞
that man is a lunatick
My grandma just unexpectedly passed away last week. She was a hoarder. The disaster she left behind is unreal. The whole family is fighting about all the stuff it’s like we can’t even properly mourn her bc we first have to deal with all this stuff
I am sorry for your family's loss 🌺 try to be the voice of reason, and understanding with your family and the spirit of cooperation might take hold - it's a double whammy to have clear out someone's hoard especially a person you loved.
It seems really dangerous to be cleaning that house without some kind of protection other than plastic gloves, isn't it? I can't imagine breathing in those mouse carcass and dropping fumes.
Hanta Virus is a very real possibility. Those ladies didn’t protect their own bodies.
I’d like to also see more help for them.
also the spores from the mold in the fridge -.-
@@Hitsugix eek! I didn't even think about the mold!
The lovely declutter Divas are amazing! So sad that Susan finally got her house cleared and then passed away.
Always when I see these hoarding programms I just feel a lot of anxiety. How on earth do people have the strength to take everything out and clean it. But I have a chronic illness I could never do it myself. I have so much respect for the cleaners who do this for a living and for the hoarders for facing their fears, shame and getting the help they need.
Susan was such a good sport and did not object to anything! Those cleaning ladies did a fantastic job! I wonder what their charge was for something like this..
"I said there was no dead bodies, I was wrong." LOL
Susan, as soon as I saw what was going on in your house ... I began to pray for you.
What do mean by Susan Shane 1954-2019?? She is dead?? TELL ME IM WRONG, NO WAY! 😭😭 SHE DESERVE THE 2 LADIES CLEANING HER HOUSE, THANK YOU FOR CHOOSING HER😭 SHE LOOK SO CALM AND CHILL, IM VERY SAD SEEING THE LAST PART HER NAME AND THE YEAR😭😭
I agree. Nice lady, was hoping she would recover.🥺
Awful lot of drama queen on your part, considering you didn't know the woman, weren't part of her life, and that people DO die. Read the Bible---God has said "It is appointed to man once to die, and then the judgment..."
She was 65 years old, a completely normal age at which to die, so you can stop the fake tears.
@@jb6712 Calm down! People like success stories. They know they may be in the same situation some day
Poor Heather. My friend’s family were hoarders. She was always so embarrassed. Her own home is spotless.
They should’ve titled this one “the man who hoards his own pee”
I have the handed to these women. They are hard workers and they want to help people, God bless you, ladies
If Brian and Jake are any indicator, it appears hoarding is some kind of anti-aging elixir. Both look amazing for their respective ages 😮
He didn't pass on those genes. Brian's daughter looks like his sister.
@@shoujobarton7692yes
Autism usually makes you look younger.
I hate to admit it, but you're right!
No stress. They just ignore everything
I pray Susan got a while to enjoy her clean house. prayers for the family.
I grew up in a situation that ended up being a hoarder situation after I moved out. I have a bit of it in me as well. But I do huge purges every year and I my apartment is a lot better than the one I grew up in
Try to develop routines, because as you get older the big purges get fewer and smaller and then it gets out of hand
Kids of hoarders go two ways either they hoard or they go like the daughter
It was so beautiful to hear dad and daughter talk
I love how these two women changed the life of the elder lady, I just love it!
Jake looks like an American hippie - not an 80-year-old hoarder. The “Up Theirs” on his forehead 🤣🤣
He murdered a dog
Where do these people get the money to buy all this stuff?!
I live in the U. S. ( in Maryland near Annapolis). I just wanted to say that I LOVE YOUR ACCENTS, and MANNERS. ❤
4 ft in the air 😮. That's wild.
That was so cute when the one sister had to push her sister into the house as the hill of junk was so high . What a great business !!
Are they sisters?
It was hard watching this. I felt tired and I wasn't even there 😥. The view takes a toll on you mentally especially if you live like this. I didn't watch it fully cause I couldn't take it. Kept on forwarding the vid lol but the ending's great. Well done on Susan's place 👏🏻
Susan is so sweet and Heather is trying so hard for her Dad and brother. She’s a lovely daughter.
jakes 'house' would be absolutely amazing as a setting in a videogame like the last of us
My parents has the same problem. When my dad passed in 2019, I undertook to rearrange and declutter their house but my mom couldn't let me! We could agree to get everything out and let her pick tè stuff she wanted and then we dispose the rest! We ended up getting literally everything back to the house. Long story short, I timed when she was visiting her brother for a few days.....the rest is history 😂😂😂😂😂😂
What was your mother's reaction to you getting rid of her stuff while she was gone? It seems like such an obvious solution to just hire a dumpster and throw it all away, but I hear hoarders can have a completely unreasonable attachment to their stuff. Myself, I have a lot of junk, but I love purging and getting rid of stuff- thank God!
@@lilyt5855 Thank God that you are willing to let some stuff go! For my mom, I had to declutter while she was away. Of course she came back, got mad at me for days,weeks....months, but she eventually got used to it😀
The hoarder guy telling the actual expert that he’s a “fire expert” since he’s already started 2 major fires…it’s like a human embodiment of Dunning Krueger
I hope the two women that cleaned up by their selves are getting good pay. I can’t understand how people,I’ve like that.
my parents are hoarders and it drives me crazy, I cant find anywere to live to so I live in a camper on my dad's peoperty, the man has a huge hose full of trash and old mold, but he wont clean it or let me clean it, he would rather have me living outside in a campingwagon in freezing weather then allow his "house" be cleaned.
My mum's house is full of everything you can imagin and my tounger brother lives there and is misereble 😢😢
Try to get help for yourself and your brother.
You need to get away
27:26 the cat giving him the side eye.
The daughter could meet with her dad OUTSIDE of his home somewhere and forget about insisting he change at his elderly age. In time he ll die in his mess.
@A-Grammie-On-the-ROCK One difficulty for this daughter is that her adult brother has special needs, and has always lived in this house. She wants a better home situation for both of them - so hadn't given up entirely.
I am so happy Susan got the peace she needed.
Susan has beautiful 🏡. I hope she can enjoy it now.
She is deceased.
I love that the documentary was still put together in a way that felt positive or made them look like real people … vs some of the documentaries in the US that are so dramatized -
It's so funny to me the difference in musical choices between A&E's Hoarders, and this British version. In the American one it's life or death drama sting music, but here it's all light and quirky. Can't decide which is more or less appropriate XD.
Jake is absolutely vile. They should have taken that poor dog and rehomed him.
I went through this with a family member. The excuses and reasons I was given for example the paper bags always kept to write ✍️ on
Jake pissing in containers and hoarding them is highly disturbing 😳
Both of my parents are hoarders,
They lost everything
I witnessed it so I understand why they become one.
Like most of the kids who grew up in that situation,
I dont have friends, cuz im.ashamed of my own home
No suitors
Even relatives and coworkers
Every single day I tried to talk it out
But they dont listen,
I am depressed, have anxiety and lonely.
But their feelings matters not mine.
Im 40+ yo
Im.renting this home
But Ive got no voice
Out of respect, love and embarassment
I surrender after our argument almost everyday
I just wanted to breathe
But my hands are tied
I cant afford to provide for them while living on my own
Thanks for sharing this. You said you understand why they hoard. Why? Do you have collections too?
Get your own place if possible. Even if it takes you years to save up money for it.
@@eileenacker1964 we've lost a lot when I was a child its like the way of coping but turns to addiction
@@mattr.1887 I can't cuz what I earn is what they spend
Why don't the cleaner wear protective masks and clothing? Can't be healthy working like this!
@Meutroos My thought too. Working themselves far too hard to get that much cleared out in five days. And all the time, breathing in all the dust and mould spores.
Hoarding looks like a condition that needs deliverance.
The cleaning people should be wearing mask and Susan’s house. God bless them.
Garbage Dump in such a nice house.These ladies are great to tolerate .
Hoarder is a bad thing. I met a lot of people who hoarded everything,plastics,boxes,etc... Most of them are used to be poor/broke. So they literally saves anything the think it looks good...and not realizing it's not that good...the kids and the loved ones are mostly the affected one.
It must be so tiring for the cleaner lady/madam😢
one day is never enough!
I'm ended up being a clean freak, because like heather said...that's me now🤣
Or if the kids not learning,they could become a hoarder too
Jake is whole next level 😅 one bucket water , stay safe
My friend used to be a minimalist and then it is like she snapped dur to overworking. Was on tablets for depression & just never been the same.
She lost her house (sold it and had to get something cheaper further out) and when we packed it I encouraged try keep the new place in better order. Seriously it is no use. I have stopped organising and cleaning. She just sits amongst her junk all day. She bought a kitten and was frantic as she 'lost it' for 3 days in the junk. It is sad to watch and frustrating at the same time. It is similar to dealing with an alcoholic, as there is nothinv you can say or do to help them at times.
Those two gals, need a team of help.
the dog didn't follow him out cause it wanted to die over living there anymore... sad
I think the dog was in a chain. This man should be prohibited to have a dog
It was panicked and knew it couldn’t trust him
These 2 women are heroes ❤
How did her sons allow things to get this bad? If your mother is struggling this badly, you STEP IN.
Her sons are not responsible for her mental illness and disorder. There are points where you need to accept that the hoarding isn't going to get better until they are ready to change (and you can't force them to change). If you haven't dealt with hoarders, it might be hard to understand.
You can help them clean, but it's a process and it usually ends up getting just as bad (sometimes worse). If you try to "help" them by going in and just start throwing out everything, that can be traumatic to the hoarder and make their hoarding worse long-term. They usually need therapy and/or to be ready to that change (if they ever change).
You must not have seen other episodes. Family often does try to help them--but unless you fix the underlying mental issue they just fill up the empty space all over again.
I thought they were twins at first!
I work for British family in uae and they keep everything. As a clean freak it drives me clazy
Cleaness phobias are just as bad
Truly.
On the people they visit.
Try having them in for tea or meal.
They look,and watch what u do..wont eat food you prepare.
Only bring store bought container meal.
And this is in clean homes.
Ask if youve washed your hands after everyyhing you do, every thing you move from.
Its a very stressful visit, for the host Very. They never invite anyone inside thier homes.
( as to contaminate it)
Its a sickness such as this.
But in reverse.
Jake is like the inspiration for a character from Norsemen - you just expect him to slice a piece of cheese off his feet or something.
😂😂
What is a detached house? Also…amazing how you can hear how much stuff is in the house by the sound..when she is speaking. Like soundproof lol
I hate how those cleaning ladies judge Susan and giggle at the findings and trash! I wish they were a bit kinder and understanding of the pain and depression Susan must have been through that lead her and into such home situation…
I’m a hoarder and I didn’t think they were cruel at all
Just the first few she sounds very sad. Poor Susan.
I am 64 living in a studio and this is disgusting to me. Unbelievable.
You seem small minded as well
How do they have so much money to waste to do this!???
Same way crackheads find money to sponsor their habits. They find ways even if it is picking up garbage on the side of the road.
To be fair most of it is “junk” so probably was very cheap, or found on the street…. Probably in the end not more expensive than other “habits and hobbies”. Most hoarders tend to be or become isolated so they don’t really spend much on going out or activities
34° Celsius is about 93° Fahrenheit. I had to look it up. Where I live thats normal early summer weather. Next week is gonna be over 100° Fahrenheit, with a heat index above 112°.
It says "trapped in her own home" and then opens with her WALKING OUTSIDE
Heathers dad seems like a sweet daddy only with a problem 😢
@Mikado677 I've just realised who he reminds me of. A little bit Michael Portillo. But more the actor Geoffrey Palmer.
There's nothing sweet about allowing your children to grow up in filth.
It is a trauma-based injury in the mind. They fear loss and the stuff protects them like a duvet from feeling the pain of loss. It does not help to fight the symptoms (= get rid of the stuff) but the main problem (= being able to feel the pain and to let go of all trauma) needs to be adressed psychologically first to prevent them to start to hoard again to get rid of unpleasant feelings.
Oversimplified
Thank you. Makes sense and explains a lot, because many of the shows about hoarders focus on a border who started collecting things after losing someone they loved.
I hate to tell Jake, but when he passes away, will probably burn his legacy. It’s sad that people get to that point.
Why are you so nice to him when he killed a dog
I really hate hoarding so much. Doesn't it mean you can't even take the smallest decision, such as, should I keep this pair of shoes that the mouse has lived in, or should I get rid of it?
Yes that’s essentially it
Rest in Peace Susan 🙏🙏🙏 those Two Ladies ar Absolutely Amazing...well done.
Jake needs some serious help
I wonder how long it takes for these peoples homes to get to this stage again after its being cleaned up. Because this is a mental health problem and if that is not addressed, im sure the hoarding will get out of control again
the end of the video just completely broke me...
Back a large dumper next to that house then get to chucking that crap out of the damn window. Do not stop until the joint is EMPTY!
If people want to shop so much and it's an obsession, why don't they shop for charity causes and givei the items to schools or orphanages? Instead of piling them up at home? Hoarding runs in my family so I understand the feeling though.
She could have the most amazing yard sale, she could meet people, make a ton of money