Please tell me that poor cat has been rehomed. There is no reason it should suffer like that. Let her sit in her own filth, but get that cat away from her!
@@Marbaby double agreed. Also slap an animal cruelty charge. first time fine, untreated mental health issue, let it slide. but she did it AGAIN. No more free passes for the health and well-being of the cat, sorry.
If you "can't be bothered" to throw stuff away, you absolutely should not have a pet. Taking in another being and punishing them with the result of your laziness is so incredibly cruel. Make yourself miserable all you want, but leave innocent parties out of it..
It’s expensive to provide proper veterinary care and good quality food for a pet. This morning I just paid over $500 for vaccinations, lab tests, and exam for my 14 year old cat. If you can’t take proper care of an animal, please reconsider having one.
Truth cleaning up the aftermath of a cat hoarder is crazy 14 cats took 3 years and 10000 in cleaning supplies and 110 buckets of urine it looks and smells great 👍 have no idea why hoarders live cats they do the most damage
I'm a home health aide and I can tell you I worked at a retirement home with quite a few clients and many of them got thrown out for hoarding. You can't live in independent living or assisted living or retirement home and hoard. They will throw you out. I guess a few years ago the same retirement home let someone horde like that and an entire infestation of bed bugs broke out
@@susanlett9632a)bed bugs aren’t caused by hoards, they’re just harder to get rid of because of them. C) they should get rid of the stuff not the HUMAN
Oh how my eye twitched when she did that . I don't understand how people can willingly live in such filth .Makes me wonder if their sense of smell died along with it 🤢
Sally is extremely immature. Immature people are like children. Total selfishness and no ability to have insight. Sitting around eating a banana while Caz and Tee clean up her hoard in hazmat suits. She hasn’t lifted a finger and has taken responsibility for absolutely nothing. With no actual consequences she will definitely do it again. I think she partly does it for some attention and for company.
I think it’s way more complicated than that. I think it’s a complex disorder. No healthy person would live like this. She does seem very young. Like she never made it past thirteen.
sorry I disagree its not immaturity or childishness it is incredibly incorrect mental processes. No one childish, immature or otherwise would decice this is how they really want to live their lives, what she really needs is not the cleaners in but mental health support to understand why she does it and learn to move past this and into a healthier way to live.
She said she just doesn't want to. There may be some mental stuff going on but the fact that she says "I just don't want to" tells me she is being lazy.
When she said at the beginning that she "just couldn't be bothered" that triggered me but then when she kept smiling and laughing like everything was a joke, I was dONE with her part!
@@CraigsOverijseEven people with mental health issues range from lazy to extremely hard working. She can be both. She’s lazy as hell and she even admitted it.
If you cannot clean up after yourself throw EVERYTHING away. You need a couple shirts and some pants. Two pairs of shoes. The money you save can pay for a cleaner to come and tidy up since you can’t be bothered. That’s how you keep it clean.
Two shirts, two pairs of shoes...Cutting down this severely is likely to trigger anxiety and more excessive "acquiring." I think it would be helpful to lead the person through realistic thinking like "How many outfits do I actually need?" I would say 10 to 12 everyday outfits plus 2 "Sunday best" outfits. Tops, skirts, and pants that can "mix and match" would be helpful. Two pairs of everyday shoes, one pair "Sunday best" shoes, one pair of walking shoes, one pair winter boots, one pair summer sandals. Then when the person is tempted to buy clothes, they should think "I have enough clothes" followed by "I should refrain from buying additional clothes at this time." If clothes wear out or just become "old and boring", the person could discard or donate one item and buy a nice replacement item; e.g. discard a shirt and buy a new shirt. I think hoarders need help to clear old feelings and emotional responses; learn new realistic ways to think, plan, make decisions; learn new values and "should"s. Also these people need activities outside their homes and with other people! If they can't work, then a regular housework routine at home, a daily walk or exercise class, some volunteer work, a regular routine of get-togethers with friends and family including people visiting their homes!
Nah I mean if you have a cat or dog and like 10 strangers in your house best keep them out of the way so they don't get run off or stepped on or injured especially if it got up caught while they are shovelling out the crap.
I am a hoarder. However I fight the urge. I so easily could go out and thrift or op shop my home full of un needed treasures. Or see a thing on the aide of the road amd collect it. But I stop myself. I'm getting older. I don't want anything to happen to me and leave the crap for my kids to have to deal with
I give in to the urge, but I make sure I trade or donate it away again, if I feel it doesn't suit me. Trading has really, really helped me. You get the rush of adrenaline when taking it home, the rush of getting rid of it, the rush of getting someone a "present" and them being happy with it and the rush of receiving their item. Especially when I receive a nice, smaller item and I give them my bag of stuff, it is a good trade.
My mom and I both are hoarders, the only difference is that I have the will power to stop. But the struggle is real. I have to very consciously tell myself I don't need it and I don't want my house to looks like my mother's. I don't have a hoard at my house but there's things that really are out of place... I just can't get to the point where I can put these things in there places so they can get out of the way.
I wish my mom would clear out her hoard before she dies. I said, you are gonna leave things just like dad did for us. You are gonna die, and then we will have to clean this crap up. You'll never have used any of the stuff you had to hoard. And no one else will either cuz it's gonna go in the trash after you are gone. She listens to me but she just can't make herself do it. I've offered help cuz I know how it feels to be so overwhelmed when someone is telling you you have to get rid of something you have some kind of attachment to.
@trudesinadelaide Awesome. Keep up the great work. We all collect something, to different degrees. The fact you are aware of your situation is the most important thing. Maybe pay attention to the technique of @Widdekuu91 . I try to practice that as a wanna-be-minimalist. Something comes into my home, something of equal or greater quantity must go out. Ex: buy a new shirt, throw an old one away or donate it.
If you're a repeated offender like Sally, then you shouldn't be allowed to rent an apartment. The poor landlord shouldn't have to deal with her filth. The property damages cost thousands of dollars to repair
@Trea-pl4xr Yes, her living condition is a significant fire hazard and bug infestation hazard to herself and ALL her neighbors. Not right for everyone living in the same building.
It’s a council property. The city council. They own properties to rent to people at reasonable rents to prevent homelessness, because England is much more civilised than the capitalist barbarian USA where you feel bad for millionaire owners of giant towers instead of poor peoppe
The difference between Sally's and Fae's attitudes is incredible. I'm rooting for Fae, bless her with all the help she needs. She deserves peace and joy, help with her mental health.
@@Tahoooooooooo I personally have empathy for most of the Hoarders in these shows. The stories can be heartbreaking. The person may have suffered tragic loss or some kind of abuse or came down with a long term illness or disability and their mental health takes a spiral downwards. I still wouldn't accept a drink or food from a home that is in filth and mess. I would be protecting my health.
She just seems lazy to me. The fact that she bought paper plates, probably so she didn’t have to do dishes and can’t take the time to throw them in the trash. Disgusting behavior
The young blonde woman really breaks my heart. She seems to genuinely want and need mental health care. The first woman with he caged cat makes me angry. That is full on animal abuse and cruelty!! Also it seems to me she's not taking responsibility for herself and isn't even remotely interested in controlling her disorder. She's only making excuses for it. One more point I'd like to mention it appears the Counsel does not inspect properties on a scheduled basis. Here in the U.S. Housing Authority agencies which provide housing payment assistance for eligible participants conduct annual inspections of all properties as well as financial recertification to determine the people receive rent assistance are maintaining the property and continue to meet the financial need to continue receiving the benefit. The U.K. should implement this system and make it a requirement that hoarders accept and follow through with their mental health treatment/counseling in order to continue receiving rental assistance. This system would help so many U.K. citizens as well as U.K. tax payers.
Sally needs some serious help with accepting responsibility. Her comment on the article about hoarders and being too intelligent is almost laughable, as though she’s trying to make it something positive about not throwing trash away.
@@dakotaosmond8614 I know! I thought that too! She's a long way from even beginning to accept responsibility for her behavior. Honestly, I think she's the worst of the lot as well, regarding Hoarder behavior.
Geez Faye, you need to be kinder to yourself! You're doing an incredible job, and doing it yourself. You absolutely will get there, because you are putting in the hard work yourself and you won't want to go through this again. You are also dealing with OCD habits, and even if you did have to recheck before putting in the bin, you still did it!
She really stuck out to Me also, a really beautiful woman. Richard is very intelligent too. Such a shame. I like a clean home, I always hook in and get it done, chronic pain means a lot of pain afterwards.... marfan syndrome.
@@Amanda-pp5hr You’re so strong! I hope you get some assistance with that. It’s so hard to want to do everything myself and not be able to. I hope you have a good life and many spoons ❤
Sally is seriously LAZY. She said "I can't be bothered to throw rubbish away". She is to lazy to clean up after her self. Her first hoard was horrific. She didn't learn her lesson then and done it again after the consul stopped checking on her. She kept it clean bc she had to, when 18months was up they stopped the checking on her apartment and she went back to being a slob.
She will continue to hoard and rehoard until she's evicted; as far as I know, there is no cure and 90% of hoarders will continue to hoard for the rest of their lives.
Hoarding goes in my family. I collect which can be struggle to make sure I keep it as neat as possible. Majority of my house I keep tidy cause I enjoy having friends over and people should be comfortable about being there. But my work room and collection room are the areas are my "junk" rooms but I want to get those in good order. But I use these shows to help me get rid of stuff. I will never give up
It’s an attachment. I think hoarding is like being addicted to drugs. No one wakes up and goes “I’d like to be addicted to meth”. There’s an underlying mental illness and this is the only way they know how to cope.
The only thing I can think is that the idea of throwing the immediate piece of rubbish away starts the ideas cycle of throwing out other rubbish, which then spirals, becomes overwhelming, so the immediate rubbish is put with other rubbish and eventually its out of control
As a depressed person I understand them. It's unbelievable what trauma does to our brain and how it makes people completely mind broken. Some people die defeated by it with the same bizarre behaviors that slowly killed them, it can be drugs, alcohol, food, ocd or hoarding
That’s not hoarding. Hoarding is when you can’t get rid of stuff you like. She’s just plain lazy. In her own words “ I can’t be bothered to throw it “.
@solidstate9451 me too I would actually find this more work then actually cleaning, it's really not that hard to just put a large trash bag on the ground and throw things away when your done with them. When stuff piles up a little bit it becomes so annoying to actually find or do anything
@@connorfuhrman6986 The worst part of my lazyness is that I think the whole day of ways to make my life even easier, like hanging storage, declutter, ...
If any of you guys actually watch Midwest Magic Cleaning channel, this isn’t what you would think of Sally. He explains so much about what’s going on in a hoarder’s mind. She has a mental disorder caused by a traumatic event. She did say she hasn’t gone through grieving her mother’s death and is currently taking care of her father who’s sick. It’s not as simple as labelling a hoarder as immature, selfish or lazy. Just talking to someone about her hoarding makes her feel so attacked and taking that cat away as many of you have mentioned will only make her hoarding much much worse. Yes she should have accepted the help that was offered but if you didn’t have the capacity to think clearly, it makes it that much harder to recognize you need that help. Hoping for empathy and compassion from all of you when you see people going through tough situations. Be thankful you’re not facing the same mental disorder that they do.
People like this should NOT be allowed to own animals or have kids in this mess.. its cruelty. Its abuse. I know its a disease, but that doesnt excuse it and gives you NO right to abuse other beings.
“My hips…” sis, I know literal amputees with no legs, one arm, no arms, wheelchair bound and they can manage to keep an immaculate house. No excuses.. she seems to find every excuse BUT the excuse to ACTUALLY clean. 🙄
I absolutely love Fay, she is really doing her best! The man just makes me feel sad, I hope he will be able to at least throw out the garbage he is hoarding, like the empty packages. So he has space and he can wash that glass.. The lady Sally, is she really a hoarder? She just sat there, eating her banana, while other people cleaned up her mess. To me it felt like she was full of excuses, and was happy to let other people do the work. And she should not have animals, that poor cat broke my heart. If you can't take care of yourself at all, like that, you should not have an animal depending on you. I hope it was taken from her, and found a nice home. I feel that she will sit in her trash soon again, if other people don't come to do it for her. Mental illness or too lazy, I don't know, but that cat should not suffer over her "I can't be bothered".
Sally has serious problems. She needs to complete a list everyday. Starting with taking a bag of trash out twice a day. Can't do that, then you don't need your own place.
It’s a great gift to help someone get a second chance, especially if it’s for free. This is a slap in the face to people have helped her. Leave her to her filth but save the poor cat. 🐈
I realized that I could easily hoard, my hoard is a million little stuff. I spent a couple of weeks cleaning it out and it was complete agony, but I went through it all threw it away, and neatly packed away the extra items in the shed. I have a cleaner that comes in once a week, and I would rather spend money on that than have my whole life turned upside down. I now have a 'map' of how my home must look like and anything outside of those boundaries is not allowed. I do not buy stuff online, to not deal with boxes. I do allow myself one cabinet in the house where all the stuff can go, and even this cupboard I go through every year so that it doesn't get out of control. My home is clean and minimalistic and nothing gets out of hand, some weeks it does and I force myself to do a reorder and clean before the cleaner comes, but it keeps it manageable and it keeps me accountable and empowered that I can do this on my own. It is really hard to kick the habit and you have to be honest with yourself and do self-reflection of why you keep everything and if it is trauma, then you need to work through it. If it is precious items, get a shed or storage, if it's mental health, get the help and get it under control, for me getting a cleaner, who understands my condition has been so important, and maintaining sanity.
Sally probably has to be taught the same way that you'd teach a child about being tidy. If she were prompted to be more active in the cleaning process; she'd hate the process enough to rewire her thinking. If people just keep cleaning for her or doing the bulk of the work, she's just going to keep making a mess.
My mom was a hoarder similar to Sally. My two brothers and I repeatedly cleaned out her hoards. Once we stopped, out of sheer frustration, her home became so bad, it was condemned. She quickly filled up an apartment with the same volume of possessions. She was narcissistic and an addict. She was addicted to food, shopping and gambling. Her doctor decided she needed to be in an assisted living facility. She lasted six months before they kicked her out for hoarding objects around the facility. Salt shakers, towels, magazines, toothpaste, you name it. She never did get better and refused therapy every time it was offered.
@@roadtriptovegasI am sorry your mom was like that. That's pretty bad. It sounds like she was a severe hoarder and had problems. It must have been hard on you, family members And people who were in her life. I take it that she's passed on now. Yes? How are you doing in your life? Have you had any kind of therapy to help with any emotions you have towards your mother's behavior. Has it effected you in some way? Wishing you all the best.
@@Iloveflowers2024thank you so much! I'm doing great now. Unfortunately, her passing was very freeing and my progress as a human being jettisoned within the 7 years since her death. I say unfortunately , because it's sad that she had that kind of hold on my life. I have been in therapy since shortly after her funeral. Having gone through what I did with her has made me have firm, unbending boundaries. I'm almost heartless at times, but am getting better at finding my empathy again.
@roadtriptovegas I am glad for you that you are doing so well. It is understandable that you have such firm boundaries under the circumstances. It is good you've been having therapy. I have been doing better with establishing boundaries myself. I've had some situations where the person took advantage of my kindness. So I have to be careful of that. I use to be quick to help someone out, friends, strangers, anyone, but now I think carefully before doing so, and I can say No. I have my own health issues I have to take care of. Having empathy is ok, but some people can take advantage of that. There are people with drama going on, and can easily suck us into it, so I think it's smart and for our own well-being to be somewhat on guard.
@@Iloveflowers2024 I remember clearly hearing both of my parents shame other people because they were unwilling to help them or didn't want them in their lives. Over the last seven years, it has dawned on me that people like that are far better off. They have healthier lives, more financial success and are overall happier. They have a low tolerance for ridiculous, self created drama because there is rarely hope for a person that would do that to themselves. I'm still learning that it's ok to be that way. I'm totally willing to help someone if they are physically incapable of doing things, or if they are helping themselves.
I feel so bad for her, she is clearly suffering from depression, is overwhelmed and doesn't know where to begin. Human compassion/supportive friends, neighbors, family checking in regularly and helping to clean could make a huge difference.
Hello stranger, I rarely comment on videos and even more rarely under comments on videos 😅 I’m a bit of a shy one… but oh my GOODNESS this comment was such a breath of fresh air. It’s so nice to see people like you who understand there is waaaay more to it than just “being lazy” and “not throwing away trash”. I have ADHD and just the mere basics can be pretty tough. There are probably a host of psychological factors contributing to her situation and I feel for her, despite her lackadaisical attitude (which seems to me like she’s trying to appear detached because it’s too painful to admit). There’s probably a lot of trauma under this, I can’t imagine the impact of the bullying and loss of job she experienced. Seriously seriously seriously feel for her ❤
I believe what you see in a hoarders home is what's going on inside of them. Without intensive therapy I don't see anybody changing their routine. However I'm not a doctor and I don't know s***. But I do hope they get better.
I often wonder, looking at the amount of processed food packaging in Sally’s flat, whether some of the mental health issues stem from lack of proper unprocessed food. If we look at the latest research about diet being implicated in mood disorders and depression, perhaps there’s a place for a nutritionist in this situation?
I find it hard to understand and expect that Sally is a hoarder ! My understanding is hoarders collect items that have a meaning to them. Such as items they think they are saving and have the intentions to sell, fix and reuse. Collecting items because the are addicted to shopping. And have a strong attachment to each item and a story or an excuse why they have the item. But Sally I feel is a different condition. I feel it’s more to do with a cleanness. I think she’s suffering with a disorder were she has a extreme laziness problem. She’s not attached to the rubbish she just can’t get motivated to clean. If she can sleep on a bed with cat fasces that would stink!! How could you sleep with that smell?? She’s not keeping the poo because she doesn’t like throwing things out ! It’s because she can’t be bothered! And the cat deserves to be living in better conditions!
I love that she shared with the ladies at the thrift shop,being open about her OCD made it less uncomfortable for all. Keep up the good fight to you all🥰
I have hoarding tendencies. But this video encourages me to keep tidying up & removing things from my house But my home is far from being as cluttered as these places!
Sally says it's not that she cant throw things away but that she cant be bothered. How is that hoarding disorder? She refuses to accept any responsibility, has lots of excuses ... She might have hoarding disorder, but I have a hard time believing it. I believe all the other hoarders in all the shows I've ever seen, just find it hard to sympathize with Sally.
Agree. Her response to Lucy when it was suggested she stay home and clean instead of visiting her dad seemed incredibly manipulative. I question the hoarding diagnosis and wonder if she is just a lazy person. Most hoarders are private but Sally has biscuits and cakes for visitors. That just doesn’t check out. Rescue Custard 🐈 and leave Sally to wallow in her self-pity and laziness.
@@baishalideb5565 do you really think averagely people like to live like this? Obviously not, being lazy or calling someone lazy is just excuse to not see that she has deeper problems. Being lazy is symptom of something else.
im surprised someone hasnt created a dummy shopping website for hoarders yet. like, it looks like amazon and you can add whatever you want to the cart and when they click "purchase" it sends them a receipt with everything they put in the cart but doesnt have any payment method. so the hoarder gets the satisfaction of shopping, gets the confirmation email, but is never charged and nothing arrives. not suggesting this as a replacement to therapy, suggesting this to work alongside therapy to keep the hoarding from getting worse.
It goes to a rainy day fund and the hoarder gets a check once a year of the purchase price and a card to remind them of the important things that NEED to be addressed . Heating, boiler repairs ect. More than hoarding.
@@arianekelly2633 That's a great idea!! &/or donations of either the purchase money or the goods to people in need. This might be a goa. Someone call Stellios!!!
After watching these, I’ve determined a rule for myself that’s NO EATING IN OR ON THE BED! I have chronic pain, so it’s such a temptation to go to the bed for comfort. Both the bed AND the eating are a self-comforting move. I’m not perfect at this yet but I’m working on it.
@@Debra-g9i Kind of hard to call and report someone when you don't know the person's last name or address plus a lot of commenters don't live in that country. In this case it's an old video and she probably doesn't even live there anymore. FYI: It's the RSPCA there.
I live alone and I am disabled, lots of health issues, pain every day and guess what? My house is tidy and very clean. It’s very hard to do but I force myself because I don’t want to live like this. She needs help. My heart breaks for her sweet cat 🐈
It's absolutely wild that someone in thr UK or US can be unemployed and yet still hoard so much stuff you cant even clean and organize corner in an hour. But we have children working for pennies a day to feed their families in other countries.
Loneliness creates a awfull society... I fighting my shopping addiction and I m happy this year to succeed, but it s not easy... In the same way I m re organizing my home, a long process...but not alone, but I prefer to pay someone to help me, I m on a no buy so... I m focusing better 😊❤ but I never understood why people are keeping their thrash ??
It sounds like you're doing well and you are recognizing your behavior and you're doing something about it. Not buying things is definitely a good approach. How do things get into our homes? We bring it in, we are the consumers. I'm not blaming advertising and the media, they're just doing their job at selling stuff. But we as the consumers have to take responsibility for our actions. And be very careful about not falling for it all. I know for me I'm an emotional shopper. I have anxiety and have had depression bouts too. I recognize why I have bought things and I'm changing my behavior too. It feels good to declutter and get rid of things. Making my home tidier and easier. I'm nearly 60. I don't want to burden my children in the future with a mountain of crap for them to deal with after I pass. So I'm working on my mental health, physical health, my home. It has to be done. I am enough. I don't need more stuff. You are enough! ❤😊
Sally is simply manipulative and I know it sounds harsh but she ain't just deluded or lonely. She's rigging the system since she doesn't even have anything sentimental or even a hoard of stuff. It's just rubbish.
I don't think a rubbish hoarder is exactly a hoarder... Seems more like the laziest of persons. I feel so sorry for Richard; he seems a sweet guy. Fay is great: she fights her fears and sets goal, and it must not be easy at all.
I wonder if some ladies from the church could come to visit Sally now that her place is cleaned up on a weekly basis to make some social life for her. If they were the same ladies, she could have some light friendships… Eventually getting her to go out for lunch or to visit the park with these ladies….
She needs a weekly check up and therapy. Maybe even a volunteer job that will keep her busy and away from the house and a chance to socialise. She may be disabled, but part of it is pure laziness. That poor cat also needs rehoming. Her apathy is frustrating. 😊
I know someone that, at 18, lost his leg in a motorcycle accident. Before that he was a runner, motocross rider, and generally just a risk taker kid. He has not left his "handicap" stop him. I also know a 5 year old with cerebral palsy. He wears braces on his legs and his one hand is pretty limp. He is a little fighter!! He runs and plays all over the playground and refuses to sit in his wheelchair unless he is completely exhausted from walking. Some people fight back against their limitations and others just refuse to take out the trash and blame it on using braces when they were 5.
I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis in 2001. And even though I can have a better apartment if I chose not to work because I would be able to get an income based apartment. I choose to work part-time. I get disability check and I get a military retirement check as well. But I like to work. People that I know who have chronic illnesses like fibromyalgia and multiple sclerosis and lupus who decided they're just going to sit around and do as little as possible end up in a wheelchair, bedridden or a nursing home. I hate a lazy b****h
So true. And sometimes I do have to force myself. I keep the basics, dishes, trash, laundry, the things I figure can cause bugs and orders, but beyond that I’m not the best at it. But this is just beyond lazy. This is seriously mentally ill.
@@EsteeWalts I live in Japan, and making the bed is not something that’s done here. We don’t use fitted sheets. As for dishes, I prefer to rinse them lightly when I finish eating and save the actual washing for the weekend.
Please tell me that poor cat has been rehomed. There is no reason it should suffer like that. Let her sit in her own filth, but get that cat away from her!
agreed
@@Marbaby double agreed. Also slap an animal cruelty charge. first time fine, untreated mental health issue, let it slide. but she did it AGAIN. No more free passes for the health and well-being of the cat, sorry.
That was my immediate reaction. No way should she be permitted to care for an animal, as she obviously can’t take care of herself.
The cat is pooing on the bed, it was probably just in the cage while the film crew was there
Yes please save the CAT!
Please take that poor animal away from Sally. She’s not capable of caring for herself much less another living creature. Horrible!
If you "can't be bothered" to throw stuff away, you absolutely should not have a pet. Taking in another being and punishing them with the result of your laziness is so incredibly cruel. Make yourself miserable all you want, but leave innocent parties out of it..
💯 poor little Custard 😿.
It’s expensive to provide proper veterinary care and good quality food for a pet. This morning I just paid over $500 for vaccinations, lab tests, and exam for my 14 year old cat. If you can’t take proper care of an animal, please reconsider having one.
Truth cleaning up the aftermath of a cat hoarder is crazy 14 cats took 3 years and 10000 in cleaning supplies and 110 buckets of urine it looks and smells great 👍 have no idea why hoarders live cats they do the most damage
I can’t believe that massive pile of dirty paper plates in the kitchen!! 😮
@@jordanlever7857haha right? I though the purpose of paper plates was to throw them away lol
She really needs to live in a guided situation. And not on her own. She doesn’t work, living in a home would benefit her.
I'm a home health aide and I can tell you I worked at a retirement home with quite a few clients and many of them got thrown out for hoarding. You can't live in independent living or assisted living or retirement home and hoard. They will throw you out. I guess a few years ago the same retirement home let someone horde like that and an entire infestation of bed bugs broke out
@@susanlett9632a)bed bugs aren’t caused by hoards, they’re just harder to get rid of because of them.
C) they should get rid of the stuff not the HUMAN
2:30 "It's actually gone moldy. I don't understand why that happens to be honest...". And then continues to place it back where she found it, Hidden..
She just chucked it in a corner rather than throwing it in the rubbish. It takes no more effort to dispose of it properly.
Oh how my eye twitched when she did that . I don't understand how people can willingly live in such filth .Makes me wonder if their sense of smell died along with it 🤢
@@gissellerivera7495did you really not see the mental illness? Something in you is broken just like her sense of smell
Sally's cat urinated on her laptop because she NEVER cleans the litterbox. And....A dirty litter box isn't pleasant for the cat either
Why has the animal control not been called by the people that helped clean? That’s animal abuse.
Yes. She can have it back when she cleans it up.
Sally is extremely immature. Immature people are like children. Total selfishness and no ability to have insight. Sitting around eating a banana while Caz and Tee clean up her hoard in hazmat suits. She hasn’t lifted a finger and has taken responsibility for absolutely nothing. With no actual consequences she will definitely do it again. I think she partly does it for some attention and for company.
I think it’s way more complicated than that. I think it’s a complex disorder. No healthy person would live like this. She does seem very young. Like she never made it past thirteen.
sorry I disagree its not immaturity or childishness it is incredibly incorrect mental processes. No one childish, immature or otherwise would decice this is how they really want to live their lives, what she really needs is not the cleaners in but mental health support to understand why she does it and learn to move past this and into a healthier way to live.
She said she just doesn't want to. There may be some mental stuff going on but the fact that she says "I just don't want to" tells me she is being lazy.
When she said at the beginning that she "just couldn't be bothered" that triggered me but then when she kept smiling and laughing like everything was a joke, I was dONE with her part!
@@CraigsOverijseEven people with mental health issues range from lazy to extremely hard working. She can be both. She’s lazy as hell and she even admitted it.
If you cannot clean up after yourself throw EVERYTHING away. You need a couple shirts and some pants. Two pairs of shoes. The money you save can pay for a cleaner to come and tidy up since you can’t be bothered. That’s how you keep it clean.
Two shirts, two pairs of shoes...Cutting down this severely is likely to trigger anxiety and more excessive "acquiring." I think it would be helpful to lead the person through realistic thinking like "How many outfits do I actually need?" I would say 10 to 12 everyday outfits plus 2 "Sunday best" outfits. Tops, skirts, and pants that can "mix and match" would be helpful. Two pairs of everyday shoes, one pair "Sunday best" shoes, one pair of walking shoes, one pair winter boots, one pair summer sandals.
Then when the person is tempted to buy clothes, they should think "I have enough clothes" followed by "I should refrain from buying additional clothes at this time." If clothes wear out or just become "old and boring", the person could discard or donate one item and buy a nice replacement item; e.g. discard a shirt and buy a new shirt.
I think hoarders need help to clear old feelings and emotional responses; learn new realistic ways to think, plan, make decisions; learn new values and "should"s.
Also these people need activities outside their homes and with other people! If they can't work, then a regular housework routine at home, a daily walk or exercise class, some volunteer work, a regular routine of get-togethers with friends and family including people visiting their homes!
Sally needs full-time care she clearly can't look after herself
Yep. Time for the straitjackets and padded rooms.
You're being sarcastic, christine?
I agree with Christine!!!
She would LOVE to have someone do everything for her. She suffers from extreme LAZINESS
@@LonelyGirl82 Maybe if you weren't so lonely, you wouldn't be so nasty.
The cat in the cage is horrible,abusive☹☹☹
Probably in their because of the film crew
@@theropesofrenovation Maybe
Let’s hope !
#SaveCustard
Nah I mean if you have a cat or dog and like 10 strangers in your house best keep them out of the way so they don't get run off or stepped on or injured especially if it got up caught while they are shovelling out the crap.
I am a hoarder. However I fight the urge. I so easily could go out and thrift or op shop my home full of un needed treasures. Or see a thing on the aide of the road amd collect it. But I stop myself. I'm getting older. I don't want anything to happen to me and leave the crap for my kids to have to deal with
I give in to the urge, but I make sure I trade or donate it away again, if I feel it doesn't suit me. Trading has really, really helped me. You get the rush of adrenaline when taking it home, the rush of getting rid of it, the rush of getting someone a "present" and them being happy with it and the rush of receiving their item.
Especially when I receive a nice, smaller item and I give them my bag of stuff, it is a good trade.
My mom and I both are hoarders, the only difference is that I have the will power to stop. But the struggle is real. I have to very consciously tell myself I don't need it and I don't want my house to looks like my mother's. I don't have a hoard at my house but there's things that really are out of place... I just can't get to the point where I can put these things in there places so they can get out of the way.
I wish my mom would clear out her hoard before she dies. I said, you are gonna leave things just like dad did for us. You are gonna die, and then we will have to clean this crap up. You'll never have used any of the stuff you had to hoard. And no one else will either cuz it's gonna go in the trash after you are gone. She listens to me but she just can't make herself do it. I've offered help cuz I know how it feels to be so overwhelmed when someone is telling you you have to get rid of something you have some kind of attachment to.
@@Widdekuu91 That is so awesome. Great technique. Keep doing that.
@trudesinadelaide Awesome. Keep up the great work. We all collect something, to different degrees. The fact you are aware of your situation is the most important thing. Maybe pay attention to the technique of @Widdekuu91 . I try to practice that as a wanna-be-minimalist. Something comes into my home, something of equal or greater quantity must go out. Ex: buy a new shirt, throw an old one away or donate it.
If you're a repeated offender like Sally, then you shouldn't be allowed to rent an apartment. The poor landlord shouldn't have to deal with her filth. The property damages cost thousands of dollars to repair
@Tahoooooooooo doesn't matter, not landlords problem. My grandma was a hoarder, we kept nothing after she died.
@Trea-pl4xr Yes, her living condition is a significant fire hazard and bug infestation hazard to herself and ALL her neighbors. Not right for everyone living in the same building.
@@kristinab1078 And mold. Once it gets in the walls or air ducts, it's over
It’s a council property. The city council. They own properties to rent to people at reasonable rents to prevent homelessness, because England is much more civilised than the capitalist barbarian USA where you feel bad for millionaire owners of giant towers instead of poor peoppe
She can start by taking her garbage out. 😮
The difference between Sally's and Fae's attitudes is incredible. I'm rooting for Fae, bless her with all the help she needs. She deserves peace and joy, help with her mental health.
“ I have these biscuits for when visitors come……….”
Nobody is going to be visiting her in that disarray and filth willingly.
Pure laziness.
I caught that. No one could eat from that 💩hole
IF I was a visitor I wouldn't eat or drink anything there.
@@Tahoooooooooo I personally have empathy for most of the Hoarders in these shows. The stories can be heartbreaking. The person may have suffered tragic loss or some kind of abuse or came down with a long term illness or disability and their mental health takes a spiral downwards.
I still wouldn't accept a drink or food from a home that is in filth and mess. I would be protecting my health.
She doesn't understand how the moldy bread got there, hidden behind the bed and she THROWS IT BACK THERE AGAIN!! Jeez. One word - lazy.
@@cassiegreene9528 you see she sat there while they clean it.
Another word - Crazy
the people who cleaned sally's home are so sweet! shes lucky to have them to help her
Sally you’ve got to be kidding me!
She just seems lazy to me. The fact that she bought paper plates, probably so she didn’t have to do dishes and can’t take the time to throw them in the trash. Disgusting behavior
The young blonde woman really breaks my heart. She seems to genuinely want and need mental health care. The first woman with he caged cat makes me angry. That is full on animal abuse and cruelty!! Also it seems to me she's not taking responsibility for herself and isn't even remotely interested in controlling her disorder. She's only making excuses for it. One more point I'd like to mention it appears the Counsel does not inspect properties on a scheduled basis. Here in the U.S. Housing Authority agencies which provide housing payment assistance for eligible participants conduct annual inspections of all properties as well as financial recertification to determine the people receive rent assistance are maintaining the property and continue to meet the financial need to continue receiving the benefit. The U.K. should implement this system and make it a requirement that hoarders accept and follow through with their mental health treatment/counseling in order to continue receiving rental assistance. This system would help so many U.K. citizens as well as U.K. tax payers.
Sally needs some serious help with accepting responsibility. Her comment on the article about hoarders and being too intelligent is almost laughable, as though she’s trying to make it something positive about not throwing trash away.
@@dakotaosmond8614 I know! I thought that too! She's a long way from even beginning to accept responsibility for her behavior. Honestly, I think she's the worst of the lot as well, regarding Hoarder behavior.
"I can't be bothered to" = I'M LAZY.
And then what. What’s the goal of saying that?
Omgosh Custard 😢 And seeing the BEFORE pics of her first hoard knowing THOSE cats suffered. She should have a no pet clause.
Absolutely. If you can't take care of yourself, you shouldn't have a pet.
Geez Faye, you need to be kinder to yourself!
You're doing an incredible job, and doing it yourself.
You absolutely will get there, because you are putting in the hard work yourself and you won't want to go through this again.
You are also dealing with OCD habits, and even if you did have to recheck before putting in the bin, you still did it!
She really stuck out to Me also, a really beautiful woman. Richard is very intelligent too. Such a shame. I like a clean home, I always hook in and get it done, chronic pain means a lot of pain afterwards.... marfan syndrome.
I agree! I hope you stay in good spirit Faye
@@Amanda-pp5hr You’re so strong! I hope you get some assistance with that. It’s so hard to want to do everything myself and not be able to. I hope you have a good life and many spoons ❤
I agree with everything you said.
Sally is the “Queen Of Denial.”
Sally is seriously LAZY. She said "I can't be bothered to throw rubbish away". She is to lazy to clean up after her self. Her first hoard was horrific. She didn't learn her lesson then and done it again after the consul stopped checking on her. She kept it clean bc she had to, when 18months was up they stopped the checking on her apartment and she went back to being a slob.
She will continue to hoard and rehoard until she's evicted; as far as I know, there is no cure and 90% of hoarders will continue to hoard for the rest of their lives.
I can understand hoarding, but I do not understand keeping literal rubbish.
Exactly
Hoarding goes in my family. I collect which can be struggle to make sure I keep it as neat as possible. Majority of my house I keep tidy cause I enjoy having friends over and people should be comfortable about being there. But my work room and collection room are the areas are my "junk" rooms but I want to get those in good order. But I use these shows to help me get rid of stuff. I will never give up
It’s an attachment. I think hoarding is like being addicted to drugs. No one wakes up and goes “I’d like to be addicted to meth”. There’s an underlying mental illness and this is the only way they know how to cope.
The only thing I can think is that the idea of throwing the immediate piece of rubbish away starts the ideas cycle of throwing out other rubbish, which then spirals, becomes overwhelming, so the immediate rubbish is put with other rubbish and eventually its out of control
It's a mental disorder. It isn't logical behaviour. You can't rationalize it.
As a depressed person I understand them. It's unbelievable what trauma does to our brain and how it makes people completely mind broken. Some people die defeated by it with the same bizarre behaviors that slowly killed them, it can be drugs, alcohol, food, ocd or hoarding
this is attention-seeking, covert narcissism and victim-playing. She knows full well what she's doing.
Yep
I agree. And yet the real situation is that she will never be able to take care of herself. It’s co-morbidities.
That’s not hoarding. Hoarding is when you can’t get rid of stuff you like. She’s just plain lazy. In her own words “ I can’t be bothered to throw it “.
I'm extremely lazy, too.
But in now way I would live that way.
There must be something additional.
@solidstate9451 me too I would actually find this more work then actually cleaning, it's really not that hard to just put a large trash bag on the ground and throw things away when your done with them. When stuff piles up a little bit it becomes so annoying to actually find or do anything
@@connorfuhrman6986 The worst part of my lazyness is that I think the whole day of ways to make my life even easier, like hanging storage, declutter, ...
@@solidstate9451 I think laziness can be used to your advantage if thought about right
If any of you guys actually watch Midwest Magic Cleaning channel, this isn’t what you would think of Sally. He explains so much about what’s going on in a hoarder’s mind. She has a mental disorder caused by a traumatic event. She did say she hasn’t gone through grieving her mother’s death and is currently taking care of her father who’s sick. It’s not as simple as labelling a hoarder as immature, selfish or lazy. Just talking to someone about her hoarding makes her feel so attacked and taking that cat away as many of you have mentioned will only make her hoarding much much worse. Yes she should have accepted the help that was offered but if you didn’t have the capacity to think clearly, it makes it that much harder to recognize you need that help. Hoping for empathy and compassion from all of you when you see people going through tough situations. Be thankful you’re not facing the same mental disorder that they do.
rescue the cat!...
People like this should NOT be allowed to own animals or have kids in this mess.. its cruelty. Its abuse. I know its a disease, but that doesnt excuse it and gives you NO right to abuse other beings.
I agree, children or animals shouldn't suffer because of someone's mental illness.
Cat in a cage ? I dont see people coming to visit
Let alone having anyone who would enjoy a snack in that mess.
@@indianne9781 I would give to her collection in the form of Vomit.
“My hips…” sis, I know literal amputees with no legs, one arm, no arms, wheelchair bound and they can manage to keep an immaculate house. No excuses.. she seems to find every excuse BUT the excuse to ACTUALLY clean. 🙄
Well I guess you can't really make a mess if you have no arms and no legs...
Faye has actual OCD.... That's some crazy hard shit.
Anyone else start to purge once they see these shows. 😅
that woman doesn't deserve that cat. I hope someone saves it. so infuriating and sad. so incredibly selfish.
I absolutely love Fay, she is really doing her best! The man just makes me feel sad, I hope he will be able to at least throw out the garbage he is hoarding, like the empty packages. So he has space and he can wash that glass.. The lady Sally, is she really a hoarder? She just sat there, eating her banana, while other people cleaned up her mess. To me it felt like she was full of excuses, and was happy to let other people do the work. And she should not have animals, that poor cat broke my heart. If you can't take care of yourself at all, like that, you should not have an animal depending on you. I hope it was taken from her, and found a nice home. I feel that she will sit in her trash soon again, if other people don't come to do it for her. Mental illness or too lazy, I don't know, but that cat should not suffer over her "I can't be bothered".
Blonde woman at 21 mins is so self aware :( bless her i hope she gets the help they need
She really is so sweet and aware. I related so much with her. She gave a genuine perspective.
Sally has serious problems. She needs to complete a list everyday. Starting with taking a bag of trash out twice a day. Can't do that, then you don't need your own place.
She can’t ever be expected to look after herself for literally I bet about 3 hours.
twice a day????????????! IS ThaT whaT you do???????????!
Yes hoarding is a mental disorder however being dirty and living in dirt; is laziness
I completely agree! In this case it is just Laziness.
The inability to engage in age appropriate self care and hygiene is actually a huge sign of mental health issues.
I do think she has some sort of mental illness but she is also lazy and refuse to take any responsibillity for her actions
I will never understand how so many people that hoard have money to buy so much stuff
Right
That's what always blows me away. I can't fathom, especially the ones that buy stuff and just toss the bags of brand new stuff in piles.
Well think about going a few years and never throw anything any way. We buy more then we realize.
It's not high quality, therefore qualifies as stuff rather than too much art or too many books.
@anitahaviland3036 quality is completely irrelevant. You can go broke buying too much of anything. Not sure what your point is.
It’s a great gift to help someone get a second chance, especially if it’s for free. This is a slap in the face to people have helped her. Leave her to her filth but save the poor cat. 🐈
the cat deserves a better home(:
I realized that I could easily hoard, my hoard is a million little stuff. I spent a couple of weeks cleaning it out and it was complete agony, but I went through it all threw it away, and neatly packed away the extra items in the shed. I have a cleaner that comes in once a week, and I would rather spend money on that than have my whole life turned upside down. I now have a 'map' of how my home must look like and anything outside of those boundaries is not allowed. I do not buy stuff online, to not deal with boxes. I do allow myself one cabinet in the house where all the stuff can go, and even this cupboard I go through every year so that it doesn't get out of control. My home is clean and minimalistic and nothing gets out of hand, some weeks it does and I force myself to do a reorder and clean before the cleaner comes, but it keeps it manageable and it keeps me accountable and empowered that I can do this on my own. It is really hard to kick the habit and you have to be honest with yourself and do self-reflection of why you keep everything and if it is trauma, then you need to work through it. If it is precious items, get a shed or storage, if it's mental health, get the help and get it under control, for me getting a cleaner, who understands my condition has been so important, and maintaining sanity.
She’s living in squalor. What ever the disorder is it’s awful and sad. But, please re home the cat.
Richard's house is a fire hazard! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
9:14 I’m hoping this lovely gentleman is connected with a library that will take his paper treasures and catalogue them.
The two ladies in the first story are truly wonderful for helping her.. I’d be frustrated too
Sally probably has to be taught the same way that you'd teach a child about being tidy. If she were prompted to be more active in the cleaning process; she'd hate the process enough to rewire her thinking. If people just keep cleaning for her or doing the bulk of the work, she's just going to keep making a mess.
My mom was a hoarder similar to Sally. My two brothers and I repeatedly cleaned out her hoards. Once we stopped, out of sheer frustration, her home became so bad, it was condemned. She quickly filled up an apartment with the same volume of possessions. She was narcissistic and an addict. She was addicted to food, shopping and gambling. Her doctor decided she needed to be in an assisted living facility. She lasted six months before they kicked her out for hoarding objects around the facility. Salt shakers, towels, magazines, toothpaste, you name it. She never did get better and refused therapy every time it was offered.
@@roadtriptovegasI am sorry your mom was like that. That's pretty bad. It sounds like she was a severe hoarder and had problems. It must have been hard on you, family members And people who were in her life.
I take it that she's passed on now. Yes?
How are you doing in your life? Have you had any kind of therapy to help with any emotions you have towards your mother's behavior. Has it effected you in some way?
Wishing you all the best.
@@Iloveflowers2024thank you so much! I'm doing great now. Unfortunately, her passing was very freeing and my progress as a human being jettisoned within the 7 years since her death. I say unfortunately , because it's sad that she had that kind of hold on my life. I have been in therapy since shortly after her funeral. Having gone through what I did with her has made me have firm, unbending boundaries. I'm almost heartless at times, but am getting better at finding my empathy again.
@roadtriptovegas I am glad for you that you are doing so well. It is understandable that you have such firm boundaries under the circumstances.
It is good you've been having therapy.
I have been doing better with establishing boundaries myself. I've had some situations where the person took advantage of my kindness. So I have to be careful of that. I use to be quick to help someone out, friends, strangers, anyone, but now I think carefully before doing so, and I can say No.
I have my own health issues I have to take care of.
Having empathy is ok, but some people can take advantage of that. There are people with drama going on, and can easily suck us into it, so I think it's smart and for our own well-being to be somewhat on guard.
@@Iloveflowers2024 I remember clearly hearing both of my parents shame other people because they were unwilling to help them or didn't want them in their lives. Over the last seven years, it has dawned on me that people like that are far better off. They have healthier lives, more financial success and are overall happier. They have a low tolerance for ridiculous, self created drama because there is rarely hope for a person that would do that to themselves. I'm still learning that it's ok to be that way. I'm totally willing to help someone if they are physically incapable of doing things, or if they are helping themselves.
She is just lazy....too lazy to take out the rubbish or clean.
I feel so bad for her, she is clearly suffering from depression, is overwhelmed and doesn't know where to begin. Human compassion/supportive friends, neighbors, family checking in regularly and helping to clean could make a huge difference.
Hello stranger, I rarely comment on videos and even more rarely under comments on videos 😅 I’m a bit of a shy one… but oh my GOODNESS this comment was such a breath of fresh air. It’s so nice to see people like you who understand there is waaaay more to it than just “being lazy” and “not throwing away trash”. I have ADHD and just the mere basics can be pretty tough. There are probably a host of psychological factors contributing to her situation and I feel for her, despite her lackadaisical attitude (which seems to me like she’s trying to appear detached because it’s too painful to admit). There’s probably a lot of trauma under this, I can’t imagine the impact of the bullying and loss of job she experienced. Seriously seriously seriously feel for her ❤
@@nafstalgic❤
I believe what you see in a hoarders home is what's going on inside of them. Without intensive therapy I don't see anybody changing their routine.
However I'm not a doctor and I don't know s***. But I do hope they get better.
Just plain LAZY!! No EXCUSES FOR THIS!!
I feel bad for neighbors. No way in hell she doesn’t have bugs.
Sally you aren't a Hoarder you are just a very Lazy person.....Clean up your mess and quit depending on others to do it for you
So everyone missed the part where she said she likes to offer guests cakes or a cup of coffee AND THE COFFEE GROUNDS ARE ON THE BATHROOM FLOOR🤯
@kierrawyatt3465 Thats so funny!
Why the hell is she allowed to have a cat when she can't look after her self ,it was in cage a lot
Being a hoarder and being nasty are two different things, my humble opinion 😂😂😂.
I often wonder, looking at the amount of processed food packaging in Sally’s flat, whether some of the mental health issues stem from lack of proper unprocessed food. If we look at the latest research about diet being implicated in mood disorders and depression, perhaps there’s a place for a nutritionist in this situation?
I find it hard to understand and expect that Sally is a hoarder !
My understanding is hoarders collect items that have a meaning to them. Such as items they think they are saving and have the intentions to sell, fix and reuse. Collecting items because the are addicted to shopping. And have a strong attachment to each item and a story or an excuse why they have the item.
But Sally I feel is a different condition.
I feel it’s more to do with a cleanness.
I think she’s suffering with a disorder were she has a extreme laziness problem. She’s not attached to the rubbish she just can’t get motivated to clean.
If she can sleep on a bed with cat fasces that would stink!! How could you sleep with that smell??
She’s not keeping the poo because she doesn’t like throwing things out ! It’s because she can’t be bothered!
And the cat deserves to be living in better conditions!
It's squalor. It could be a subset of hoarding but it seems to be slightly different.
I love that she shared with the ladies at the thrift shop,being open about her OCD made it less uncomfortable for all. Keep up the good fight to you all🥰
Although I don't hoard I can relate 1000% with Fae!! Depression is REAL and it can/does sometimes control you.
I resisted at first cause I was stuck on the American hoarders but now I’m hooked
Oh my, that woman has learned ALL the " victim words", to justify her lifestyle...
“I have these biscuits for when somebody come…”
Is this a threat? Excuse me, nobody goes there in that filth and disgrace
Why the F is that cat in a cage?? Cats don’t live in cages. If you want to live in filth then fine but don’t drag a defenceless animal into it
I have hoarding tendencies. But this video encourages me to keep tidying up & removing things from my house
But my home is far from being as cluttered as these places!
The same for me i also have a few dissabillities but i keep myself acountable and even on my worst my place was cleaner than this
Sally says it's not that she cant throw things away but that she cant be bothered. How is that hoarding disorder? She refuses to accept any responsibility, has lots of excuses ... She might have hoarding disorder, but I have a hard time believing it. I believe all the other hoarders in all the shows I've ever seen, just find it hard to sympathize with Sally.
Agree. Her response to Lucy when it was suggested she stay home and clean instead of visiting her dad seemed incredibly manipulative. I question the hoarding diagnosis and wonder if she is just a lazy person. Most hoarders are private but Sally has biscuits and cakes for visitors. That just doesn’t check out. Rescue Custard 🐈 and leave Sally to wallow in her self-pity and laziness.
"Can't be bothered to" = lazy
Depression makes people feel "lazy", judging someone in this situation doesn't make sense.
@@nikolas4347or sometimes people are just lazy and have depression as an excuse for living in filth
@@baishalideb5565 do you really think averagely people like to live like this? Obviously not, being lazy or calling someone lazy is just excuse to not see that she has deeper problems. Being lazy is symptom of something else.
@@baishalideb5565 Your judgment of her is intellectual laziness.
Sorry. She is lazy as F.
I understand hoarding is a mental issue, collecting things. What I don’t understand is the garbage and trash
Hoarders live such sad, sad lives. It affects them and everyone around them until they are completely alone with their stuff.
im surprised someone hasnt created a dummy shopping website for hoarders yet.
like, it looks like amazon and you can add whatever you want to the cart and when they click "purchase" it sends them a receipt with everything they put in the cart but doesnt have any payment method.
so the hoarder gets the satisfaction of shopping, gets the confirmation email, but is never charged and nothing arrives.
not suggesting this as a replacement to therapy, suggesting this to work alongside therapy to keep the hoarding from getting worse.
Interesting Idea:):)
Or, just pay for delivery, and a nice supportive card is sent instead. ? :):)
It goes to a rainy day fund and the hoarder gets a check once a year of the purchase price and a card to remind them of the important things that NEED to be addressed . Heating, boiler repairs ect. More than hoarding.
@@arianekelly2633 That's a great idea!!
&/or donations of either the purchase money or the goods to people in need.
This might be a goa.
Someone call Stellios!!!
The way she speaks about it she’s proud sleeping with rubbish
How did she get a 2 bedroom COUNCIL flat as a single person?
I adore Cass and T (Sally's extreme cleaners). I love how they tackle the task and their banter.
Fay is a sweetheart, I wish her well! Sally didn’t lift a finger, why? And the man….worse thing to me was the glass he was drinking out of, yuck!!!
This is when you’re supposed to call adult services
I’m sorry, but when a team has been there before to clean, it will be a waste of time to reclean.
Hmmm she seems very proud of herself for hoarding....not afraid to talk about herself!!!! poor darling cat...does she even care about it.?
After watching these, I’ve determined a rule for myself that’s NO EATING IN OR ON THE BED! I have chronic pain, so it’s such a temptation to go to the bed for comfort. Both the bed AND the eating are a self-comforting move. I’m not perfect at this yet but I’m working on it.
omg poor little baby Custard...I want to take you away and give you a good home :(
Yes, having a cat in a cage is abuse. I hope someone calls the SPCA.
Why do people wait for every body else to call SPCA.why do the person call that comment.
@@Debra-g9i Kind of hard to call and report someone when you don't know the person's last name or address plus a lot of commenters don't live in that country. In this case it's an old video and she probably doesn't even live there anymore. FYI: It's the RSPCA there.
This is an old video. It's the RSPCA there.
I'm sure these hoarders cant wait for the cleaners to leave so they can go and buy more stuff to bring back in.
I live alone and I am disabled, lots of health issues, pain every day and guess what? My house is tidy and very clean. It’s very hard to do but I force myself because I don’t want to live like this. She needs help. My heart breaks for her sweet cat 🐈
I'm glad the charity worker called her out. Pity party🎉
It's absolutely wild that someone in thr UK or US can be unemployed and yet still hoard so much stuff you cant even clean and organize corner in an hour. But we have children working for pennies a day to feed their families in other countries.
Loneliness creates a awfull society... I fighting my shopping addiction and I m happy this year to succeed, but it s not easy... In the same way I m re organizing my home, a long process...but not alone, but I prefer to pay someone to help me, I m on a no buy so... I m focusing better 😊❤ but I never understood why people are keeping their thrash ??
Keeping trash is a symptom of a very difficult and overwhelming mental illness.
It’s the reason why you shopped so much. Getting things helped you cope. Having things helps them cope
It sounds like you're doing well and you are recognizing your behavior and you're doing something about it. Not buying things is definitely a good approach.
How do things get into our homes? We bring it in, we are the consumers. I'm not blaming advertising and the media, they're just doing their job at selling stuff. But we as the consumers have to take responsibility for our actions. And be very careful about not falling for it all.
I know for me I'm an emotional shopper. I have anxiety and have had depression bouts too. I recognize why I have bought things and I'm changing my behavior too. It feels good to declutter and get rid of things. Making my home tidier and easier. I'm nearly 60. I don't want to burden my children in the future with a mountain of crap for them to deal with after I pass. So I'm working on my mental health, physical health, my home. It has to be done.
I am enough. I don't need more stuff.
You are enough! ❤😊
Sally is simply manipulative and I know it sounds harsh but she ain't just deluded or lonely. She's rigging the system since she doesn't even have anything sentimental or even a hoard of stuff. It's just rubbish.
I don't think a rubbish hoarder is exactly a hoarder... Seems more like the laziest of persons. I feel so sorry for Richard; he seems a sweet guy. Fay is great: she fights her fears and sets goal, and it must not be easy at all.
Sally is lazy. There's no need to keep garbage around you.
Who's going to come around for a cup of coffee and a chat in that place? Come on, lady, those cakes and biscuits are for you!
Despite she has so many things that we all could see, my eyes are only on that cat. Poor thing. 😢
I wonder if some ladies from the church could come to visit Sally now that her place is cleaned up on a weekly basis to make some social life for her. If they were the same ladies, she could have some light friendships…
Eventually getting her to go out for lunch or to visit the park with these ladies….
What’s sad is over half of the Hoarder’s have pets I wonder if they have the cats to keep mice/rats away? 🤷♀️ prayers 🙌🙌
What's really sad is over half the hoarders are actually just lazy dirty people.
She needs a weekly check up and therapy. Maybe even a volunteer job that will keep her busy and away from the house and a chance to socialise. She may be disabled, but part of it is pure laziness. That poor cat also needs rehoming. Her apathy is frustrating. 😊
The sad part is without therapy or some kind of other intervention she's going to make a mess again. Near Chicago. Tina, Al's wife
I know someone that, at 18, lost his leg in a motorcycle accident. Before that he was a runner, motocross rider, and generally just a risk taker kid. He has not left his "handicap" stop him. I also know a 5 year old with cerebral palsy. He wears braces on his legs and his one hand is pretty limp. He is a little fighter!! He runs and plays all over the playground and refuses to sit in his wheelchair unless he is completely exhausted from walking. Some people fight back against their limitations and others just refuse to take out the trash and blame it on using braces when they were 5.
I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis in 2001. And even though I can have a better apartment if I chose not to work because I would be able to get an income based apartment. I choose to work part-time. I get disability check and I get a military retirement check as well. But I like to work. People that I know who have chronic illnesses like fibromyalgia and multiple sclerosis and lupus who decided they're just going to sit around and do as little as possible end up in a wheelchair, bedridden or a nursing home. I hate a lazy b****h
7:14 why does this man seem so kind
EVERYBODY has to clean on a daily basis. If you let it be for a week the misery starts.
So true. And sometimes I do have to force myself. I keep the basics, dishes, trash, laundry, the things I figure can cause bugs and orders, but beyond that I’m not the best at it. But this is just beyond lazy. This is seriously mentally ill.
Owning my disagree. Cleaning daily may work for a housewife, but I have a busy job and find cleaning once a week is absolutely fine. 🤷🏻♀️
@@KnittyElf Well, you'll have to do your bed and wash the dishes every day. Unless you live in a hotel.
@@EsteeWalts I live in Japan, and making the bed is not something that’s done here. We don’t use fitted sheets.
As for dishes, I prefer to rinse them lightly when I finish eating and save the actual washing for the weekend.
@@KnittyElf Okay, that makes sense. Hoarders never clean 🤣😂
Richard & Faye seem really nice. 🙂
Sally "Warm loving caring person" keeping the cat in a cage
HOW do you Not throw away GARBAGE!!?? COLLECTING IS ONE THING BUT LEAVING GARBAGE PLATES IS JUST NASTY!! SMH POOR KITTY.
Sort of person that the council should put in a rented room - not a house !