Bullying in Spain's schools | DW Documentary
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- Опубліковано 28 сер 2023
- Children subjected to bullying often carry lifelong scars. Many go on to suffer from mental illness, and some are even driven to contemplate suicide. In Spain, the tragic case of Kira López has triggered a nationwide debate on bullying.
At the age of 15, Kira López took her own life. Her parents say bullying at school drove her to her death. They accuse the school of failing to take action to stop the bullying and have filed a lawsuit. They want those responsible to be held to account and hope to spare other children the bullying that their daughter went through. Brian Giner also knows what it means to have everyday school life turned into a nightmare. He was bullied for twelve years because he had crossed eyes.
He changed schools repeatedly, mostly blaming himself for what was happening: "For a long time, I thought bullying was normal. If you experience it for long enough, you start to believe everything they say about you. It took me a long time, for example, to be able to look my partner in the eye. Then there was the terrible fear of facing a group. The fear of giving a presentation, and appearing in front of lots of people. I panicked at the thought that someone might make eye contact with me.”
He’s written a book describing his ordeal. His aim in particular is to encourage others affected by bullying. He regularly visits schools and gives lectures and workshops aimed at preventing bullying. Together with Kira's father José Manuel, he’s campaigning for a nationwide anti-bullying law.
Their goal is to raise awareness of the problem and bring about lasting change. They’re calling for clear, nationwide rules for dealing with bullies and documentation of each case, applicable to every school and in every part of Spain. Only then, says Kira’s father, will he be able to find some peace.
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Most schools don't care AT ALL. And the parents of the bullies don't care either. Only those we go through it know how much it ends up shapping your own self-esteem and communication skills.
They don’t want to get sued for wrongly interrupting a child’s education. And private schools have a financial motive.
Parents don’t care unless a fight breaks out.
Bullying is a sign of criminality. Criminality breeds terror. Terror breeds death.
When you open your eyes in a place where there are no laws(school), know that society will never really respect any law
Very true, and I am so so sorry as a mother to be that I must look towards a world that is just not caring enough and keep on recompensate the bullies!!! It couldn't be wronger than to give decision in the hand of bullies!!
“And because she didn’t fit in at school, now she fits into a small urn.” This is beyond heartbreaking 😢😢😢
That statement hits me 😢
Absolute brutal and unacceptable. The pain will never go, but it may subside after some time especially if you put thoughts in the actions like these brave parents do, to fight for justice and to change the laws so the other children wouldn't need to experience such mental and physical brutality.
@@Asgoga Sometimes it has to take a tragic circumstance to initiate a change that will benefit others in the long run. I really hope there will be no more reoccurrence before this issue is addressed.
At least she finally got to fit.
Schools in Spain are brutal. Many are light skinned, If you're shades darker, That makes you a target. My ex is Spainard and told me all about it.
I have been bullied at school, college and at work. I am a magnet for bullies. I don't know why. I got into depression and self-harm due to bullying which led to losing job and into disability. It is a global problem. It needs laws passed and awareness raised. Otherwise many more children will die. We have to teach children and adults to respect the humanity of each other. Otherwise we as a society have failed.
Talk to a therapist and work on increasing self esteem, it gets better. Read self help books and ignore the harassment when you can, fight back when you have to.
Believe me, there's still hope for humanity, bad and evil people are the minority.
NEVER GIVE UP.
Yeah the typical answer to the larger problem. As someone who was "systematically" bullied since elementary school in the US and these "proposed" solutions are temporary and only work if the conditions are right from therapist to the community or family unit. That is if these resources are available this another key problem. Bullying kills period and kids with disabilities in most cases the main targets. Some of the stuff I have seen I can never unsee. Education to change stigma and perceptions, access to resources, and support mechanisms for kids or families are the answer. @@hfredydl
It's not a global problem. Not all places have severe bullying. Please consider moving to other country where the majority of people are kind.
I was a polite, quiet kid, always looking to do the right thing. I never hurt a goddamn fly in my life, so why did a small child deserve that hell I went through? I had it at home, I had it at school. Almost my entire 66 years have been spent alone. I do not trust friendships. If anyone wants to be near me, there must be something wrong with them. I have battled to have even a small amount of success at anything in life. I do not trust praise, I don't take compliments, I don't even allow anyone to take my picture. It has been a lifetime of shame for no reason. Again, what did I, as a little child, do to earn the life I was given? I don't forgive any of them - the then-children or the adults. They can all rot in hell.
So sorry.
I don't know, is it possible for you to go to a church? You might find a bit of access to prayer there, or at the very least someone to talk to. It came up on my feed so I felt I might gently and humbly suggest this. . .
I feel you. Same here. I was a polite, sensitive and shy guy as well. I suffered bullying and it affected my self steem to these days
I’m sorry. If it’s any comfort there’s millions of people in the same boat. Hugs to you. X
Please turn to Jesus and allow Him to heal the wounds your soul has suffered.
I am 70 years old. I cannot forget the times I was bullied at school. It ended when I physically fought back, lost one fight but won the other. My parents didn’t know and I was miserable. By the way, the bullying ceased. I am heartbroken listening to these stories. Timid and vulnerable children need to learn self defence.
If it's ok to ask why didn't your parents know?
But now, if you fight back you'll also be punished.
@@LoloO42 Better to be punished than haunted for life.
I did the same. I feel shy to fight in front of others as I like to be respected by others so I call the bully for a fight alone and fight even though I did not win many times the bully lost his confident on me..
Sometimes the bully is your mother or father.
I feel so bad for all of them. I’m glad the young man that is 23 is turning a negative experience into a positive outcome. I can’t believe people would bully him, his energy is so kind and he is handsome. I feel bad for the adorable girl that cried when she spoke of the bullying. I feel so bad for Kira and her parents. She is angel. I am disappointed in the school administrators.
For me it´s so sad seeing Spain having this kind of troubles as a mexican i remebered a Spain that was a global power totally cruel, bad and full of darkness and glory for me it´s like that Spain has die forever and it´s just another country that it´s still called Spain
@@dkah8733 Being cruel is a good thing to you??
Kira‘s school was directly responsible for her death. All who let her down and told her she (WTH?!!!!) was the problem.
My deepest condolences to the parents.💔
Yes
I can't believe they denied it
There is NO way Kira wasn't bullied. I think children should be able to transfer more easily. The government should step in so that the kid and the parents can move if there is no other school in the area. That is unless the school actually does smth about it and it stops. The victim is always to blame apparently.
@@Unbreakable245 Its hard to believe when you look at her. If you have that face and can´t at least make some of the boys like you, then you must do something very wrong with your personality i would assume.
@@1112viggo Have you ever heard of jealousy? There are a million reasons why kids are getting bullied but it ain't right regardless.
@@Unbreakable245 Yeah that´s why "at least some of the boys" Sure, its never right to bully, but sometimes i get it... Some kids just begs for it, either by insisting upon extreme eccentricities in their clothing and behavior, or simply by being actively unpleasant, even to those who tries to include them in group activities. Ya know, the types who typically ends up as school shooters.
@@1112viggo You are blaming the victim. You should be ashamed of what you wrote.
I was bullied too very much when i was a child.. Up until today I suffer with paralysing social anxieties as a side effect. The hardest part was that the teachers and the school itself, did nothing!
0:47: 😔 Bullying at school can have lifelong effects on victims, and it is important to create a safe environment for children.
4:36: 😢 Bullying leads to tragic consequences and lasting trauma for victims.
9:37: 😢 A teenager named Kira died by suicide after suffering severe bullying at her school in Barcelona.
12:49: 🔍 Parents of a bullied student work to establish an anti-bullying law after their daughter's suicide.
16:24: 🛡 Bullying in schools is a serious issue in Spain, and efforts are being made to create awareness and implement rules to address it.
20:47: 😔 A father seeks justice for his daughter's death due to bullying, as the criminal case is discontinued and they consider pursuing a civil case.
24:42: 💔 The parents of Kira, a victim of bullying, are determined to seek justice and hold the school, parents of bullies, and authorities accountable for their daughter's death.
Recap by Tammy AI
thanks for saving my time! useful time stamps! where you get this app Tammy AI??
@@ambition112you can find it on Google
In Spain, even teachers are the bullies. I have seen teachers putting students down with their words and them ignoring bullying within school hours. This is things I've seen as an English Language Assistant.
Maybe those teachers are not professional and licensed. Those were being hired on the streets or at the back of the bush.
That happens everywhere, lol
Happens everywhere on this precious earth
@Me-td1vi do you really think that education, masters degree or bachelors degree in teaching gives you emphasy, or enough knowledge ? NO, believe me NO
@@Np37470Each individuals are innately different.
We differ in our characteristics, attitudes, beliefs, etc. But knowing that you are a teacher you must posses good qualities and professionalism. Teachers are disciplinarians. They are not the one who are promotes bullying inside the school. They schould act descently because they are public figures in the society. They must posses ethical behaviours and promote s inclusion in schools regardless of individual differences and imperfecttions.
Are you a bully?
When my 12 year old daughter was 9 she started cutting her arms because of bullying at school. She didn’t tell me for a while and then when a friend of hers told me about the cutting I immediately contacted the school and surprisingly they were very quick to put an end to it. They had a huge gymnasium full of elementary students for a day long seminar about bullying. I was surprised just how pro active in this Midwestern American elementary school they actually were. My daughter has always been a little different starting from age 8 but didn’t deserve that. To this day she still wears a sleeve thing on her left arm to cover the scarring. In the past I thought it was something she wore in her “emo” phase sort of like an accessory.
We’ve since moved schools and are lucky it hasn’t happened again. That full year of bullying still affects her today she has horrible group anxiety and doesn’t like to leave the house much or go over to friends or have friends over the way she used to. Some days I wonder if she will ever have that excitement in her eyes and how she was so outgoing as a younger child. It’s like all the anxiety of those bullies just sucked the life out of her and some days it seems like she’s just sort of surviving. Anyway just my thoughts.
I used to be paralyzed by anxiety and depression. From the time I was five when i was diagnosed with selective mutism to when I was prescribed medication at 14 and things began to get better very slowly. By the time I was 25 I felt very comfortable in my skin and I am almost outgoing now.
@belltowndaisystretch like a rubber band.... 🙄
Sorry to hear this. I hope she recovers and enjoys life to the fullest. This is very common in US schools. Good to know the school acted quickly. Needs attention, awareness and change.
I'm from Spain. I was bullied. My parents weren't able to bring me the help I needed. The school didn't take me seriously. I guess I was able to get through it because it wasn't extremely severe, but I am still not a fully functional adult and I need therapy and medication to be able to have a normal live. I cryed during this documentary. Sometimes parents do not help. No, I wasn't from a poor family, nor a dysfunctional family. Sometimes parents are not equipped to deal with this stuff. Please, educate parents too.
your parents failed you. its awful. you are their responsibility, the government doesnt care about anyone, family is family
@@user-qn6fw8fg4b Thank you for your words. They are now helping me pay for therapy and meds, and they have changed a bit. They are taking responsibility in some way even though I'm already an adult, so I don't consider them bad parents.
Luckly my parents did help in what they could 🙂
Soy de España y era timido y si me rompi la cara con el abuson unas cuantas veces, además era de un barrio muy conflictivo donde la gente tenia una mentalidad taleguera, carcelaria, y había que hacerse respetar, todo eso me convirtió en un cabronazo violento por las malas, por las buenas jamas abuse de nadie, incluso en el ejercito me enfrente a los veteranos para que no abusaran de los reclutas., me pase meses arrestado por no aguantar los abusos, por las malas si era bastante malo y en el barrio me respetaban bastante.
couple of years ago, my daughter was being teased by a boy in school. when she informed us of the issue, my wife immediately contacted the school. they tried to placate us by letting us know they would talk to the boy. My wife told them it wasn't enough and insisted on a meeting with the boy's parents. realizing we weren't going to let the issue go, the school set up the said meeting but also made the boy write an essay about what he did and how wrong it was. Aftewards there was no more issue. I think our case was handled differently because my daughter goes to a private school. I have no idea how it would have gone in a public school.
Please call a spade a spade, this isn’t bullying, these are criminal acts that should be punished. I disagree with the father who said kids are kids- kids are little but not dumb- they know right from wrong. Besides, I used to be a teacher and teachers could form a cartel and never do anything about what goes inside the school for fear of losing their jobs or something else- never trust them.
As a Spanish woman who faced terrible bullying when I was a high schooler, I have to say: nobody gives a damn about the kids, not even the counsellors are equipped to deal with it. I still remember how, after a terrible episode of harassment I suffered, I was told by my school counsellor if I ‘perhaps, had done something for the bullies to treat me that way’. The education system is rotten here, and filled with mostly useless individuals.
Is it what Spaniards do in their free time?
As a former bully victim when I was a teenager and as a teacher who has witnessed bullying amongst my students, I find that you cannot teach the bully not to bully anymore, often they won't take you seriously, instead, you need to help/teach the victim how to fight.
Thank you, someone that sees.
and the victim gets in trouble and the bully doesn't it's that simple
@@bored742 You may get into trouble for fighting back, but the bullying will stop after.
Unfortunately is not that simple...
But I did notice that bullies dont care if they get punished if the person getting bullied also gets punished for fighting back :v
In Finland some cases of bullying stopped when local MC bikers started taking bullied kids to school with Harleys.
That is badass haha
@@Qwerty.240 Yes. Bikers said we come to school as many times as needed. How cool is that
Talks like these should also involve school teachers and management who have more power and authority to halt bullying. I've gone through bullying by my school seniors, but I retaliated to those who have bullied me years after I begin to grow-up physically. I turn-up to become a protector to younger guys against bully.
Why involve the enablers?
And also, teach your kids to be strong, able to cope w/ the cruel people they will encounter throughout life.
As a teacher myself I can’t tell when a kid is a bully and I keep a close eye on them, no kid is gonna be bullying a kid in my school
You are much better than my teacher,my teacher saw me got kicked by another girl but the teacher did nothing😢
@@annali961 she’s so careless 🤦🏻 I’m sorry
@@freegelato07 ikr maybe she’s the bully’s parent
Thank you for making doc on a such sensitive topic. May Kira and other victims get justice and soon bullying is put to an end!
Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback!
I went to a public school in Spain, no bullying from the kids, but the teacher certainly had a heavy hand. We were pulled out!
I was bullied and isolated. Sometimes for no reason. Sometimes because maybe my hair is oily. Sometimes for my nationality. Sometimes because I was introverted with few friends. Overall school was a nightmare from 8th grade onwards. Just don't go and find a way to graduate and go as few times as possible. School is about discipline and not learning anyways.
That's why many Americans have opted homeschooling their children. It's very sad. Many school amenities in the US are on par with other advanced countries. But severe bullying and active shooting ruin good education for many students.
People in other countries spend a lot of money sending their children to American international school because they find it more hands-on and fun than other schools. The education system is American, but the culture is not American. It's cross-cultural of diverse students and teachers' cultures. So it's different from schools in the US in terms of cultural context.
I wonder why is school bullying so severe in the US? I'm aware that American media contributed to the bullying culture. Are there any other reasons?
@@nadiajr1500I think racism plays a big role
I suffered bullying when in school and it has scarred me for life.
@KillAnythingFruity I participate in society "fully", though not bc I like or enjoy it. I'm severely depressed and have other health problems. Some could be linked to the bullying or overall stress I was under, but who knows who would I have been without this experience, I had so many other problems going on. Retreating into a safe zone sounds very appealing, I just don't have one.
@@gomerpyle1542 they were many, harassement was constant and even school staff treated me like shit. I tried, didn't work.
Why didn't you use the most effective means which is physical violence
Aww poor Kira. She was such a beautiful girl. I think that's why they bullied her it's usually out of jealousy.
Sadly I think a lot of schools aren't on top of bullying.
If you think being bullied because a girl is beautiful, imagine if a girl or boy is "unattractive", or "overweight" or "slow, naive, childish, a nerd, wimp".
I don't believe people get bullied for being good looking. They're more likely to be popular, even if they are terrible or not themselves....
@@user-2c5Goi0fr8id-m Any reason is as good as any to bully, either being tall, short, fat, thin, having sharp or deep voice, introvert, not fitting in or just by having what the others lack and are envious of you. Whatever what they think it'll make them feel better with themselves
@@user-2c5Goi0fr8id-m bullying of beautiful girls out of jealously is more worst, I have seen how horrible it gets for those girls like everyone is trying to prove she is crazy, pathological liars gang together to bully the beauty of the class, and the professor also try to take advantage of that situation. Kira was so beautiful that why she got bullied to death.
Bullying in Spain is awful and is seen as more of a sport than a problem. I'm half Spanish and my family moved there when I was a teenager. The bullying only stopped when I beat up one of them so then he tried bullying my little brother who never had problems integrating because the kids in his year were much nicer so I beat him up again. I was so isolated for years. University is when my life really started.
This heartbreaking. I pray my toddler never gets bullied and he sticks up for others. It’s a worrying world we live in.
Mi hijo discapacitado y mi persona, adulta mayor con 60 años venimos recibiendo acoso sicológico desde que falleció mi esposo en Alemania, abandonamos ese País y el acoso ha continuado en Panamá. Estoy segura que atraves de Internet han planificado todo esto, en Alemania no hicieron nada con mis denuncias, en Panamá me han cerrado dos, pero seguiré luchando para proteger a mi hijo y se descubra a estos criminales. Que Dios proteja a todos esos pobres niños acosados en las Escuelas y le de Fortaleza a sus Padres para defenderlos 🙏🙏
It's a school system issue all over the world.
speak for yourself, we had a no tolerance policy that was enforced
@@TomNook. And bullying magically stops with more policies?
@@A_R_B_G it's when you treat children like a herd of chickens, hundreds of them together in a small space.
As a grandfather I will not stand by and let my grandchildren suffer, I'll just leave it at that.
You're absolutely right, the education system needs to change all over the world.
The world moved on, yet the system stayed as is, it stayed traditional!
It all starts in the home. Poor parenting and a lack of discipline reflects in public.
Strongly agree.
Parents are responsible for how their children behave at school.
Rigid discipline is a must. Parents nowadays just dont care. Some of them tolerates the bad behaviours of their children. What a shame!
Parents are the first teachers and inuencers to their children. Children are the reflection of their parents.
I'm 54, and I have never experienced bullying, personally. At our school, we did not allow bullying, as we saw everyone as family, hence we protected the vulnerable.
Sound like a beautiful school. Mine was filled with self important litlle thug who thought of themselve as special
@cycy1647 I won't say beautiful. We just grew together a family it had its ups and downs like any family had, disputes, etc. However, blatant bullying of individuals was not tolerated, that feeling of family at schools and society in general has disappeared. It has become a selfish world
I was bullied from elementary to my freshman year, it’s a horrible feeling
Same...I still cannot go near my school to this day. They did very little wealth and privilege insulate the guilty.
me too
me too
I think Spain is having conversations that many countries need to have...as a woman, I feel Spain is very progressive.
I have a friend that got bullied during middle school. Our friend group has wonderful memories; she has nightmares, panic attacks and trust issues. Bullying is hell. I wish it to no one.
I was one of few black kids in school. I never allowed anyone to mistreat me. I knew how to stand up for myself. My tongue lashing was🔥. I believe this is why i was never bullied.
Good for Brian. It's impressive that he took a painful experience made it a strength through self awareness and courage, then reached out to help others. He's a great role model for younger kids and their parents. I bet the people who previously bullied him will feel as small and pathetic as a roach when they see him on this show. Hopefully they have developed emotional maturity will raise their kids to be better people than the cowardly weaklings that they were.
Unfortunately our society is the animal kingdom at its core and the only thing that is stopping people from acting out their animalistic instincts are laws & punishment for breaking them and religion.
Those 2 aspects don't work in school.
Some parents are human waste, such as criminals, alcoholics, overall pieces of shit and they bring up children into animals without any morals, principles or fear.
So trash shit parents create trash shit kids and unfortunately both such parents and kids only understand one emotion that is fear.
The only way they will stop bullying you or somebody else if their animalistic instict of fear takes over.
And that is possible only through either violence or other threat to their well being.
Also it's absolutely disgusting to see teachers close eyes on bullying or even foster it. They deserve a beating and being fired on the spot.
Some people never get to see it, but all humans are animals and we live in cold ruthless world, where if you don't defend your interests you will be stomped on.
Though I wonder how parents of Kira didn't react to situation when somebody cut her hair off in school.
If I was the parent, I'd be in that school tomorrow asking for a director to be fired on the stop and then telling kids whoever did it, that if they try to do it, I'd murder them with my own hands.
thanks
Take your kids out of the school! Why would you keep taking your kids to a place where they are getting abused?
But if a child leaves school, the truant officer will immediately swoop down and force them back (while turning a blind eye to the troublemakers).
@@user-2c5Goi0fr8id-m You have no obligation to let anyone into your house without a warrant. Homeschool or private school if you can afford to, but it's none of the government's business how people raise their children as long as they aren't being abused.
Homeschooling is not a thing in many counties you have to attend school by law and most parents don't have time for homeschooling they both have to work in most cases.
@@silotxonline classes still a thing even the lock downs ended.
@@DegreesOfThree
Most countries don't have the exact same laws as the US in case you didn't know.
From my experience, even if teachers say something and tell the bullies off, that either makes it worse because the bullies get angrier for being in trouble or the teachers are not taken seriously. Bullying should have actual legal consequences, with school suspensions and making the parents of the bullies pay up. The only thing you ever see is that a bullied kid has to leave the school, when it should be the bullies forced out. There should be life-long consequences for the bullies, instead it's the bullied kids who suffer for the rest of their lives with the trauma. School's have no power to do anything legally - the states have to change the laws and make bullying illegal, otherwise nothing will ever change.
Those parents are an example to others not only through their activism to combat bullying at schools, but also by how they have stayed together and draw energy from each other. Many parents drift apart and lose each other after losing their kid.
I suffered bullying in my country, Brazil and here in Portugal. I never had a break. I used to eat lunch in the school bathroom so I wouldn't get mocked
Sorry you had to endure that kind of treatment, don't let idiots get to you, you should study Brazilian JuJitsu so if they try something stupid you can choke a fool out.
This video made me very sad.I hope that this problem will be solved in all schools.
I wish that no family would lose their loved child like this family.
STOP BULLYING IN SCHOOL
The person who bullied me throught my school years probably doesn't even remember who i am. On the other hand, i'll never forget her and all the things she did to me.
Same with me .Exactly you don't forget the ugly things that they do to you. The thing is you want to forget you try to forget but the ugly things that they said to you keep coming back to you.
I understand these people very well. For me, going to School was like going to jail. There was no freedom and I was surrounded by sadist mates. This is one of the reasons why I am so much in favor of homeschooling
These schools have failed the students. They are accountable. How can they not talk to the bullies? How can you tell a bullied student that it's their fault?! That means that the school is backing up the bullies. My heart breaks for the students and their parents and other loved ones. Hope the school system will change for the better.
A similar process occurs in custodial workplaces, not only schools but also among police, army, security hospitals etc. Any thing that "rocks the boat" or causes extra work is avoided and the blame is put on the victim rather than the bullies. Research into this disturbing aspect of human nature is only in its infancy. Private corporations have found that bullying costs money and loses many valuable employees to competitors costing them credibility in the long run.
Much work needs to be done to avoid power imbalances in any place where people congregate, especially in schools where attendance is mandated by law and people from many different backgrounds meet.
The trouble is that other imperatives for government action are put ahead of child welfare because children do not have a vote.
Children unlucky enough to have non-supporting parents, lacking power or money or ability to support their children, are pretty much left on their own in an unkind world.
Exactly!!
Heartbreaking ❤ rest in peace. I also have been bullied, so much at school, it gave me the strenght to do better in life and because a fighter; achieving the best in life but not anyone is like me. I feel bad for this girl. Bullied needs to pay. R.I.P Kira❤
You should come to Romania and make a documentary about bullying here. It is just as bad or worse. I have seen everything: physical & emotional abuse, violent fighting in the halls, getting hit, punched, kicked, pushed down the stairs, getting surrounded by a group and beaten and many many horrible things.
Also the school's cameras do not work at all, the bullies will always get away and not get kicked out no matter what crime, violence or trauma have caused.
The teachers can also be just as bad, abusive and traumatising.
Everyone smokes in the bathrooms, there's 0 hygiene and the schools or the education system does ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to change these things.
The food that they gave was also really bad. They gave spoiled milk and croissants hard and dry as rocks that you can barely chew. Of course it wasn't eaten, everyone just used the croissants and milk jugs as toys to throw at each other. Food fight happened every single day.
0 hygiene? Are you being serious?
@@brooklynknite The boys bathrooms have always been a wreck with shit and piss everywhere. Heavily vandalised, smoke stains and graffiti everywhere.
I agree. The most bullied are the ones who are a bit different as well, like a bit overweight, or wear glasses, or are shy / and don't wanna join them smoking, skipping classes, and bullying others. It's a mentality that starts at home, many times their parents raised them spoiled, or didn't recognise that it's not ok to treat other kids bad. 🤷🏻♀️ That's why, as adults, they go to others countries and embarrass us because they don't want to act civilised and respectful of others. Because they don't learn respect.
And there are teachers that still want to work on schools there?
Wow! I went to school in Romania and i never experienced any bullying from KG to college. I am surprised to hear this. Also, in Romania schools dont serve lunch. The breaks between classes are between 5 minutes and 15 minutes. Your comment is very confusing. You just threw a bunch of negative things there. Not sure what you are talking about, dude.
Watching this documentary made me really sad. Adolescence is a really complex time of life. It makes me wonder if school as an institution, is really the best place for young people these days 😢
Hearing what happened to that poor girl Kira just broke my heart. No one should ever feel that's the only way to stop the trauma.
Bullies will not go away, same as criminals. It's up to you how you respond. I was also a victim of bullying in elementary and early highschool. I know I cannot rely on anyone even to school officials except for myself. So I studied martial arts to learn how to fight back, when necessary. From then on I gained confidence and no one dared to bully me again.
Maybe we should treat bullying as criminal behavior. Lets say that there is stricter monitoring in classrooms and all across the school and those caught bullying will have to meet their victims later in life who get a psychological evaluation and if it's determined that the effects still exist then the bully should have to pay lifetime compensation each month.
Bullies are criminals. Yeah it's up to us how we respond and we cannot relay on anyone. I was bullied 50 years ago. I just didn't care and built my life, my private and personal feelings, ... . Bullies died out and then I found out that my life had become a precious diamond. Today I still love my life, ...
It works for some cases, not for all. I would never turn to martial arts...and I did do tae kwon do etc. I'm just not a fan of violence. Every case is a case.
What is needed is understanding. Each case is a case. eacyh context a context.
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The problem with martial arts is knowing when to stop violence when the aggression has stopped and the bully has fled. Some people will follow through and enter the tragic phase of permanent injury or even death. Even worse is the knife culture in some rough locations which have led to many crimes committed out of fear.@@jeanlundi2141
This is so sad. The smart young boy from Andorra made me proud. Such an eloquent answer. I think schools need to adresss these issues early on, so that bullies dont feel so powerful and discouraging observers to just follow like sheep
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On Jordi's answer to the question, "Who needs the most self respect?", Jordi is of course right. I thought that too, as a kid. But as I grow older, I realized the oppressors also lack self-esteem or self -respect. Otherwise why do they get such entertainment from harassing and hurting other people? It serves to falsely 'boost' the bully's tiny self-respect.
And, how much self respect can you have as a kid? Being bullied everyday slowly chips away at your self-respect unless one is a prodigiously resilient child, which is rare.
I may be wrong, I didn't study psychology. I wanted to hear more about self-respect in the issue of bullying.
This documentary shows very brave and empathetic people who use their pain to bring a positive change in the world. Thanks DW.
Horrible the mother and father lost that beautiful girl 😥
Kira was so pretty, I actually read an article some years ago that it's the pretty girls in school who are most likely to be bullied. It's gross, but kids especially can act like animals, that's why they need strict adult supervision.
Oh. I always thought it was mostly insecure, less social kids (like me) that get bullied rather than the pretty one. People will pick on the weak with small social group. In my class, there was plenty of pretty girl and they where popular. No one bothered them. The less fortunate looking one (both boys and girls) wheren't spared.
I think so too, girls who are very pretty and shy will get picked on a lot. But also very ugly and weird ones. I don‘t know, for girls the way you look can really make people hate you, it‘s weird .. we should all stop bullying and punish the children who bully!
Every country has this exact same problem.
My father always taught me and my brother to defend ourselves. I will teach my children the same. Bullying can be so incredibly traumatizing for young children. My heart goes out to the parents who lost their beautiful daughter. My prayer is that through their efforts they provide better opportunities for other children to thrive despite their hardships.
Hard to believe that Kyra's school failed so badly. Some teachers need to be brought to justice for that.
I want to thank, first of all, individually, the work that has been done with this documentary, since I believe that it will help many families who need to hear this message, as well as the entire team that has made it possible, because They were days of recording and professionalism was present at all times. I also want to thank Kira's parents, since they had the strength with me to be able to tell their daughter's story and express to the whole world how one lives in a situation of helplessness when seeing that no one does anything to stop it or find the culprits. . We sincerely hope that this documentary helps you a lot and above all that if necessary, you can count on us to be able to help you in everything we can.
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que pena mas grande perder a una hija de esta manera, y el que la molestaba seguira molestando a otros sin ni siquiere sentir culpabilidad
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@@onuspromis7166Dear “whoever you are”. Why would you respond to a request in such an insulting manner? Are you really so sensitive that you have to react like this or are there other reasons?
I too carry the memory of bullying from school time and I have mostly cutoff contacts with those bullies.
I have also been kind with myself post those times and continue to give myself time & space to heal whenever those emotions become overwhelming.
That's why it's so important to do everything as a parent to break in into the kids soul, to make them aware that you are here for them no matter what. It's a very complicated task, many parents are pretty sure that "they know their kids" but one day they realize that they didn't, and usually, it's the day when it's too late, unfortunately. Parenting is one of the hardest jobs on the planet, but the majority of the parents usually blame it on school, society and god knows who. 😢
School is not fit for purpose and should evolve. Even more remarkable that it’s the same worldwide.
Amen, brother!
Sometimes your mother or father is the one who's tormenting you.
After 20+ years, I still find myself sometimes hating and blaming my bullies for the way I turned out.
I understand you very well I am going through the same thing as well.
I have been to multiple schools throughout my academic career.
One school was riddled with bullies. I was lucky it was mild. The teachers took the easy way out by letting me take recess in the safety of an administrator’s office.
But never did they want to tackle the bullies. Never did they want to punish them.
They had this stupid poster of zero tolerance against bullies. But their actions spoke differently.
The next two schools had zero bullying at all. And the latter had one incident that was IMMEDIATELY stopped.
I am 44 and we had the same problem... so glad we moved. Still today is even worst since they have social media, can't even imagine how bad since it makes it 24/7 and not only at school.
My daughter told me that her teacher told kids to ignore bullies. NOPE! Defend yourself. Dont be passive.
Many times that this horrible children like to bully people is because of their upbringings at home. Parents that don’t care at all and that’s exactly what they reflect on their own children. Very sad situation-and it’s mostly coming from non-educated parents.
Wow, I am heartbroken for these parents. I have an almost 14 year old daughter, and I am constantly worried about such things.
God help us and protect all our children. Thank you DW for such a great segment with a very sensitive topic. Always looking forward to your documentaries.
Bullying is a community issue, not just an event at school. Parents of both perpetrators and victim need to get involved and work together to end it. Unfortunately the issue is very complicated as others factors including parental mental health play a part.
The parent isn’t at school with the kid, you can’t control everything a child does.
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You need to understand that a child spends more time at school than with their own parents. You underplay the influence peers have on a child’s behavioural development.
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That you haven’t got the capacity to think ?
It’s societal. They only way to stop a bully is to actually stop him. Stand up for yourself.
Spanish government must act on this issue 😢
they won't do anything. Kira's dad collected 250,000 signatures, and he's told he needs to double that for the government to even consider lifting a finger.
schools when a student is being bullied: 😪
schools when a bullied student fights back: 🤬🚩🚨
When I got bullied at school my mom told me to punch them. That did the trick.
Maybe in your case but not everyone has that in them and it can go very wrong
@@delideri3518 you have to do it, that's life, you have to risk this. life chose to give you cancer, now you have to go through the pain of chemo therapy
Why did anyone bully Kira? She looked so pretty😢
It looks like it was jealousy, such a beautiful girl with loving parents, it’s heartbreaking.
Even if she wasnt pretty, it doesnt warrant any abuse either
Any reason is as good as any other. It's not a problem of the victim, it's the agressor's.
As a martial arts teacher that’s my aim with my kids classes. Teaching kids to stand up dirb themselves and face their fears
I teach Karate as well. While the kids do find it hard, their self confidence certainly increases and so does their attitude.
To my shame I was guilty of being a bully at times, being bullied myself and standing by when I was a child back in the 1980s and 90s.
Fortunately,as an adult,I've seen the error of my ways
Same in Finland. Young teen girl just killed herself because she was bullied so badly constantly. In my small town of 22 000 in 20 years two young teens killed themself because of bullying. They went to same school. My daughter was bullied there too and I took her to other school because no-one cared.
When the victim retaliates they get punished. The teachers and school regulatilns are very sadistic.
Aye, even when they know exactly what's happening
Thank you DW for such great documentary. 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
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They really need to have a zero tolerance in these schools. Expelling puts fear into some and gets rid those that doesn't.
to DW: is there a possibility to do the translations in silence please? As a speaker of several languages, it would be a pleasure to listen your work in the original language.
Yes, l would love listening in Spanish and Catalan they were both speaking, l live in border France Spain Andorra , anyway english speakers only know their language, would have been better subtitles in English next time
In a country which considers animal torture as part of its culture, children grow up with violence - no surprises here.
I get you tried to make some smart *gotcha* comment regarding bullfighting...but you know what other countries are super high on bullying? Poland, Korea, Canada...
So their traditions have zero to do with this.
FYI only a small percentage of Spaniards support bullfighting, mainly older people and not particularly from the region this was filmed. So none of these teenagers (bullies) grew up seeing animals being tortured. Thanks.
I will NEVER understand the logic behind most school's reaction to bullying.
-You have a pacific kid trying to live a totally normal life.
-Then you have a bully whose only purpose is to make the pacific kid's life worse.
-When the bully harasses the pacific kid, nothing happens. No one does anything.
-BUT if the pacific kid "dares" to fight back, then he/she's the one making trouble and gets punished.
-We end up with a bully whose ego will just keep getting bigger while the pacific kid is suffering punishment from both the bully and the autority.
THIS MAKES NO FCKN SENSE
Sad truth is bullies exist even at work. What's worse? Managers and supervisors are afraid of them. They are scared to fire them and allow them keep doing unacceptable crap. I am not saying every work is like that. I'm saying most work places are. It will never be fixed. that's the reality. Only you can save yourself. Not teacher, not manager, not hr, not religion,...... only you must be able to relieve yourself from any hellish shit hole. All the matters will be so based on how determined you are.
Losing the only child you have .
Thats hard
What happened to Kira López in completely unacceptable. Total neglect on the school's part they should be ASHAMED and are totally culpable. The email is hard evidence. Some of these behavior's have no room in the school this is why schools, parents and familys need to be involved in the process. To schools education, de-stimatization of disability, and inclusive polices are needed. To parents keep a log for evidence so you have a trail and listen to your child. Be there for them and do not feel shame in advocating for them or to get outside help. Do not give up you are on the right path and will save so many
Many issues nowadays means taking your own initiative, few really care or even help, including the police.
I am from Spain and I also went through bullying in my childhood. It really left a mark on me, wished that I was dead at some point. Luckily I was able to surpass it and I'm a really happy person right now, but others aren't so lucky.
Bullying occurs not only in Spain. It occurs all over the world to some extent. I am from Uzbekistan and I was a victim of bullying as well. The main reason for me to be bullied was my short height. In other words, I was the shortest pupil in my class and was systematically laughed at. As a result, now in my 30's I have low self-esteem, tendency to loneliness and some other psychological problems.😢😢
You matter. I don't know you but I love you and you deserve happiness and peace.
Truly, bullying is evil.
Bullying is destroying life.
Teach your kids to be strong, able to cope w/ the cruel people they will encounter throughout life.
Im crying while watching ❤
Thanks❤
I am 59 now. I still battle against the damage I suffered from grades 2 to 12.
I am still baffled this is called bullying. Bullying is ostracizing someone, and generally beaing mean. Assult and physical abuse is a crime and there are supposed to be correctional institutes for underahed criminals.
It really makes you wonder who the parents are of the bullies.
When I heard of the bullying of the young girl who has epilepsy made me feel so sorry for the school children that have to suffer this in silence.
Can it be that most children and parents have NEVER heard of epilepsy!.
That the more stress, the more often and seriously it occurs and every event is a potential death sentence.
That is the way bullies are. I'm elderly and my next door neighbor keeps saying he is going to beat the you know what out of me. And it's a made up reason saying I said something about his friend that I never said. I imagine sooner or later I'm going to get assaulted by him. It made my happy home a nightmare 😢
My school was notorious for violence, and it was always the victim's fault
I always earned a reputation as a violent and aggressive kid throughout my school years and nobody even dared to make a joke on me. I know that sometimes i've crossed the line and got suspended from school several times but this saved me from the misery that my fellows suffered at the hands of bullies
This was a sad watch. May time heal them for all they have undergone.
thank you
DW Documentary are exceptional
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I've been bullied in a school in Spain,the parents of my executioner were also like that,not all by the way some of them changed to good but there are some who got worse
Absolutely heartbreaking! However, it makes me wonder how any parent can continue to send one's child into such a sick and toxic environment day after day? I don't homeschool but I'm glad we at least have the option in the US to pull out kids out of school and educate them ourselves. It's not the answer but at least one has the option.
It CAN be the answer. For me, growing older is looking back and seeing how many things society assured me were essential...really weren't. A kid needs to socialize, that much is true....and/or build a healthy social self-esteem but who says normal school is the best way?
Kids need to turn into healthy adults. That's IT! How we get there is secondary. And if I had kids today I'd probably homeschool them. Help them follow their passions and create opportunities for them to meet friends for sure..........but school? It's politically incorrect........but other than reading and writing ...tehre isn't a whole lot it does for many people imo.
@@jeanlundi2141 I have loads of friends who homeschool and love it. It's a wonderful option but we've chosen private school.
I was psychologically bullied for years, when I finally finished school I was left with an eating disorder, depression and s*icidal thoughts. It took decades to become a relatively confident person (outwardly), but I became a loner and don't trust anyone. I remember my teacher saying to me not to cry in front of others and to get tougher. The thing is, there are bullies among adults too. The only way is to teach the bullied kids confidence and that bullying is less about the victim and more about the bully's insecurities (not that this is any consolation to victims). As long as there is 'otherness' there will be bullies.