How Women Actually Want to be Asked Out (According to Real Women)
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- Опубліковано 23 сер 2024
- I asked a bunch of women how they would like men to ask them out on dates. In the age of technology and dating apps, have we lost the art of dating and courtship?
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Men don't want to have their lives ruined.
All that matters: Is she attracted to you. Not sure? Then she's not. Walk away.
Gentlemen, never ever forget that women WANT you to approach them because they enjoy rejecting you. It really is that simple.
None of these "dating BFFs" are saying that women should be more likeable or do the approaching themselves. Its all about getting us to approach for the simple, irrefutable reason that they get the warm-n-fuzzies when we approach and they reject us!
Men have walked away and they're not coming back. We've been put in a situation that has FORCED us to learn to be alone. Once that happens, the self-sufficiency,
accountability, and acute awareness that we are on our own and nobody cares, creates a mindset that doesn't include women or the world at large. The damage is done...
Chad and Tyrone are having a great time, however....
If vvomen want to go on dates so badly, why don't they do the asking?
Women aren’t worth it gentlemen. Work on you and live your life without stress.
Very saddening mindset.
The one who wants to go on the date should be the one to initiate.
If she wanted to, she would.
If you want a partner, shouldn't you go 50-50?
Love should not be about the courting rules or money.
So let's take that out of equation.
Depending on the culture if you don’t follow courting rules and it works, you got a low class girl good job
I'm sorry but, "dating more" for a man is a waste of time and money. Dating doesn't get us anywhere. For any woman reading this, if you want a mans attention, just tell him you like him and skip all the time wasting. No man wants to just go on dates with you when you aren't even in an established relationship.
Good job. Everything about this video was done well. The camera work, audio etc... the content of course.
Thank you for your encouragement! I've been learning from scratch so great to have that production work recognised!
Women want to be asked out by Chads not by average men. I am the most confident man I know I can walk up to any woman without any inhibition and make good conversation, make them laugh and ask them for their numbers which I always get. It just never leads to a date in 100% of cases due to me beeing average looking, no matter how perfect and positive the interaction was. I am a millionaire and 6ft too lol. Average men simply can't date it doesn't matter how perfect they are otherwise, if the looks aren't on point it won't work. You need hundreds, if not thousands of positive approaches as an average looking dude, average looking = a 0/10 in womens eyes. When women think about beeing asked out on a date and beeing asked out for coffee they imagine being asked out by a tall, extremely handsome man. The right looking man can almost do nothing wrong he can be shy, timid and a bad conversationalist and he will have massive success anyway an average looking guy can be the walking deus ex machina of percetion and will still get rejected 99,9% of times if he is just average looking and thats his only flaw.
Women can ask men out too!
Give this tutorial to Bears ! We are good women !
We don't care how you want to be asked out. The juice is not worth the squeeze. Too many potential pitfalls. There's probably a nice bear out there somewhere. Grizzzle grizzzle. 😂😂😂
Don't ask a fish how to be caught. Go ask the fishermen.
Don't take advise from a fish on how to catch a fish
Oooh fish-n-chips sound good right now!
Yeahhhh John Paul the key to women is to not listen to them and see it through the lens of fishing or hunting. Their opinion doesn’t matter, just what we want.
@@guydudedudeguy9030it's not black or white the way you put it. When it comes to choosing partners, women love to virtue signal, and essentially lie about what they like. Of course they won't tell you that they're rejecting you because you're ugly, fat, poor or dumb. They'll tell you that you're amazing just the way you are, and that they're sure you'll find someone.
I do understand that they're looking out for their reputation, and safety as well, because if you tell some bad men the truth about why you're rejecting them, they'll at best gossip how rude you are, or, at worst, they'll literally murder you.
Therefore, never listen to their words when they're talking about their preferences. Simply look for signs like is she making eye contact? Are your lame jokes funny to her? Is your dumb hobby very interesting to her? Is she touching you often, and when you touch her, does she lean into it, or pull away? If all these signs are positive, just ask her out, and if she still rejects you, forget her, there are still billions of beautiful, stunning women out there.
She ain’t a fish, bro. Consider it as “inside info” from someone who knows. She has more knowledge of women than you or other bros
By an attractive man is how they want to be asked out. You're welcome, gentleman.
Men will ask women out when there is a clear indicator of interest. Those no longer exist, and so no more asking out will happen.
She missed an important point…make sure you’re attractive, cause remember you’re just a push-up and a haircut away from being labeled a creep.
Good luck on your dates, Delphine! Thanks for your handkerchief video, too. Helped me to get a guy to message me! This one has great advice, too!
Oh, I'm SO encouraged to hear that ;) I hope it goes well!
Ask a woman out and get hit with a harassment suit because she either doesn't find you attractive, you made your move at the wrong time or in the wrong way, or simply because they were in a bad mood that day.
No, thank you.
You're so excited about going out with a guy you ask him out you pay for everything and you see how it goes to be on the other side
If woman are interested, she will and she should ask man out so she don’t need to be worried about , unattractive men asking her out 🤷♂️. Rejection is just rejection so just accept rejection if he rejects you .
Is the juice worth the squeeze?
I didn’t hear a lot of hints of how to drop the handkerchief.
This video is specifically about that: ua-cam.com/video/I6oOzsutYgw/v-deo.html
I think with how dating apps are and just the current way we socialize that dating is hard for men AND women. I think we need to rewire how we look at dating, love, and connection. Some men on the apps lie and deceive women, women lie and deceive men. I think there is a lot of fear based on personal experience as well as observed experiences. I would much rather be approached by a man in real life in a non creepy way than use the apps. But I am just not a lady who gets approached in real life honestly. I see a lot of men shooting down what you are saying but I think that just comes from a bruised ego. One person said: if you are unsure if she is attracted to you walk away. And I do not believe it is that black and white. Some people want to keep their attraction hidden and do not always show it non verbally let alone verbally. I think again, we need to rewire how we look at connection, dating, and love (platonic and romantic) and assess our standards/goals as well because sometimes standards are just not realistic.
I absolutely agree with you! Thanks for sharing your thoughts here, especially among a sea of really sad-to-read comments. The current climate of dating is resulting in a lot of hurt, loneliness, and hopelessness - and that's exactly why I wanted to start this channel: to encourage real-life community again, to demystify dating, and hopefully get us all seeing each other as precious human beings and not just transactional swipes!
We're sick of videos on what women want and their preferences. We men don't care anymore, until things balance out. The better topics are 'what men want'. It's time you ladies start thinking about how you can please us.
So many traumatized men in the comments.. I'm one of them too, got cheated on, in quite a harsh way, mentally abused, physically assaulted.. she was so bad to me.. I got in deep depression for years, heavy medication, extreme weight gain.
My solution was to work on my self esteem, and make sure I'm an attractive potential partner by doing the typical stuff - eat healthy, get in shape, learn to dress well, skincare, nice haircut, etc.
I have traumatic thoughts about women that makes me feel like an incel (I kinda am, I'm still afraid of women, I avoid all interactions with them) the first thought I have when I see a beautiful woman, is that she's probably screwing like 5 different guys, and is abusive, but I do recognize these thought are my mental scars showing themselves, and I simply don't believe them.
Despite all my scars that want me to avoid the reason they exist - women, I still think we're condemned by our instincts to find a partner and create a family, so I'm going to seek therapy as soon as I can afford it, continue reading therapy books, and make myself as presentable as possible, so that I have the most options that I can have, which will give me the privilege to be a chooser, and I'll make sure not to choose an abusive person.
If anyone read to the end - I hope you'll overcome your trauma. It takes years, but we need to do this. And to people who love belittling traumatized men - instead of calling them incels and icky icks, try to realise that they're at a very bad place, and don't push them further by bullying and ridiculing them.
Do you think that men should use the "date" word, or just ask for a walk because they will probably get what is going on. Also, I hear women say that they need to "get to know" a guy before they would be comfortable going on a date. How can you let a girl get to know you before you ask them out on a date?
Ha, yes, this reminds me of the scissors meme where you need scissors to open up your new pack of scissors. I think there's the 'intentionally getting to know each other date' which is like the coffee, the walk (and doesn't necessarily need to be called 'a date', and then the 'date date' which is something more obvious, like dinner. I hope that helps!
doesn't matter what you say if she likes you she'll guide you through the process. if she makes an excuse no matter how polite she's rejecting you. that's why men don't bother with dating - the guys who don't get the dms know they've been rejected and the guys that do don't need to date.
@@_xBrokenxDreamsx_ that's exactly what it is. Chads can do whatever they want, have the worst personality, be super shy etc. they will have massive success anyway. Average looking men can be the definition of perfection in terms of money, status, confidence etc etc etc and it will never work out. I know this from experience as a 6ft average looking extremely confident, outgoing milllionaire with nice cars, watches and houses (multiple) it's just ridiculous at this point. I had massive success 10 years ago now it's next to zero because everything is just about looks at this point. Social media and dating apps gave women the false believe that they have millions of options. It's true in a sense that they can theoretically get pumped and dumped by thousands of Chads if they wanted to but never end up in a relationship with them.
@@Rainer125 yeah, it's kinda sad to think that billions of good guys around the globe have no chance at continuing their 100+ thousand years of genetic lineage because women would rather look at 'hot convicted felon' on their phones but that's where we are.
@@_xBrokenxDreamsx_ This is very spot on.
Ma'am, it would be more effective if you demanded woman to go after men, because men are done with the games...
And why should we? What do you actually bring to the table?
I would hear it if it were an 18yr old and her parents on a couch.
As a man, I will never ask out first again. I’m debt free, lots of money, no job to slave away at. I literally have everything to lose.
Be especially careful when you have the money and people are asking you first. Also I think you should ask first - you probably had a traumatizing experience, but I think the lesson there isn't whether to ask first again, its more of knowing who you are asking.
@@djWOOF I think I’m just gonna let the ladies fight traffic everyday. Work all year to try to get a mediocre bonus, to pay off their debts. This is the future women fought for and won by the way. You see as men made the money for alll these years we were more than happy to use it to invest in family formation. As women are racking it in, how much are they initially investing in relationships? They can’t even be bothered to ask first. NEXT
@@subjectowns There are good women out there, and if you dont believe it, it will be true for you for as long as you believe it. Not saying its easy to find one
@@djWOOF did you know that even in the most feminist, girl-boss circles; they only refer to real men or men they deem worthy as the old school traditional protector and provider. He MUST ask her out and pay first. I noticed you side stepped that point I made, about women initiating 0 effort. As women now hold 54% of active jobs, they now have the money and status, they have retained desirabillity over the generations and rightly so they look good, and they also want to retain the old school privileges. It’s quite frankly a greedy feminist fest here in the modern societies and rationale men want no part
@@subjectowns okay youre right all 3.5 billion women in the world are hopeless. Men should all stay single. no good ones around, not even 1% of them
You give me hope!
Glad to hear it! Exactly my motivation to keep us all encouraged
@@delphinediscusses I wish I heard your advice 15-20 years ago because I did all the things that I shouldn't have to attract a girl--like ignoring her or avoiding her! LOL! I just had no confidence in myself to "man up"! Glad to see a fellow Catholic talking about dating on male-female relationships on UA-cam.
@@farscape1975 Deo Gratias! Great to have another Catholic on board and hey, it's never too late to learn - I feel like we'll be learning riiiiight through to purgatory and God willing, Heaven!
Everything you said is a lie
i didnt watch the video, but the answer is be 6'1 and a millionaire.