Don't know who needs to hear this, but you can have a wonderful, monogamous relationship with one man folks. Hook-up culture is sucking everyone's heart into a vortex. Trust me, once you experience true love with a person for a long time, you'll never go back to casual/ one-night-stands again. Good luck guys. You're all so amazing and beautiful🥰😘
Not everyone can. That's all I want. I have physical and mental health problems, and nobody wants anything to do with me. I'm 41, have a background of trauma since childhood, including rape and abuse, I contracted HIV from a rape 12 years ago. I've had depression and anxiety since childhood, and have major problems with my teeth from bulimia, which people find disgusting when they find out, and it can't be fixed. Gay men are shallow. Most men won't accept me because of my HIV, the people with HIV won't accept me because of my mouth. I've tried and tried, and can no longer be rejected. I'm kind and decent, and am good company, and that means I'm lucky enough to have friends. But I will never have a relationship, and I don't want to carry on in such misery. It's not true that there is someone for everyone. I will die alone.
Been there and done that and it’s not for me. People aren’t cookie cutter things that all want or do the same things. It might be what you want, but it’s not what everyone wants or needs.
@@phily8093 Sorry to hear about your story, I can't imagine what you're going through. Loneliness kills a lot of people every year. I hope you can overcome the loneliness.
You can also meet gay men doing volunteer work. Most communities have service organizations for the gay community. So, not only will you meet men who have similar interests, you'll be helping your community as well.
I met a ton of awesome gay men when I joined the gay men chorus here in MN. It’s a breath of fresh air knowing that when I met these people it’s not about sex or things like that. I’d recommend joining any LGBTQ focus groups in your community.
This is very true. I've joined local LGBTQ meetup groups and it is a great way to meet new friends in your area. The vast majority of people I've met through these groups are great and are also just out to meet other local gays in the area in a safe, non-sketchy environment.
What if the type of guy you like is a normal guy who just likes to chill at home and isn't obsessed with bars, or clubs or social media? I have chronic fatigue and I can't keep up with a high maintenance man who always wants to go out.
I`ve had chronic fatigue for 15 years. Went on a full carnivore diet .6 weeks into it my life turned around......100% improvement......I slowly start adding veggies, then fruit in moderation....,the moment I add sugar or carbs I know that I know.....don`t do this again. Maybe this will help ?
More or less in the same train, I'm in the autism spectrum and I have somehow less tolerance to social interaction, and the vast majority of gay men is of the partying kind
I met my last bf on scruff, it was just something casual that turned serious. We lasted over two years, but at the time I wasn’t very good at maintaining relationships so we split up. I met a lot of guys in the meatpacking district at brunches, on the roof at the Ganesvoort in New York City. I met people at museums, art shows, I even took a cooking course once and met a guy. You have to be out there to meet someone, no one does guy deliveries…well I mean they do, but that’s an entirely different conversation.
I don't see the topic here so I'll bring it up. It's called AGEISM. At your age you probably have never experienced that and with your handsome looks, I seriously doubt you have a emotional concept of this fact within the Gay culture. Unfortunately AGEISM is a fact of life. I first experienced this at age 27. I thought I was hot, sexy and cute at age 27, but NOT to all thought so! I was 'getting up there' in age. Yes. Seriously. So the first problem in relationships is trying to get over that prejudice. Mostly impossible though. Ever notice all the attractive SINGLE men out there that seem to always be running through men like toilet paper? Relationships are hard because men are not taught how to connect emotionally with other men. They can have sex, but lack emotional availability. Look Thomas. You're young. Very good looking with model-like looks. But you won't have it forever. Looks fade even with the best care. The 'youthful and hot model look' starts fading after 30. Then what? The time to begin questioning needs and wants begins in the early 20's. Successful relationships take honestly and hard work.
Tommy, you gave lots of great suggestions. I used to be part of a group here in Chicago where twice a month you would meet a differet group and go to dinner at a local restaurant. The thought was that no one was paired up in advance so it made it more relaxing and a lttle less intimidating. I met friends through this and had alot of fun. It was great getting to meet a different group of guys twice a month. The organizers disbanded the idea after a while but I thought it was a great way to meet guys.
The world is changing man. Just dating sites are now changing to video dating sites where verification is based on videos and profile photos. Try meetfems.com - actual video dating sites based on all orientations (gays, lesbian and straight) where chances of fake profiles are less. Here you can find actual gays via video chat. Try if u want
ok let’s say i go to a gay bar. i’m not outgoing enough just to talk to complete strangers! if i see someone i like i just get intimidated. in the past when ive gone i usually just end up talking to women who happen to be there. it’s frustrating cuz i know im only holding myself back.
Only dating was never for me, but I started to think it would be the only way to get a boyfriend. Thanks to this video, I now know other ways to possibly meet mr.right.
Kudos !! for this video ! It's full of really good ideas ... As a much much oldere gay man I would also add Libraries in general ! are a good place to not only check out excellent Reading materials...but to meet other gay men. Why> Because gay men Read more than many men do !! lol Your tip on University and colleges groups is also excellent. You often DO want to meet up with other genuinely intelligent people, after all !
I’m like I live outside of New York, but the thing is I don’t know how to approach guys. I’m like I don’t know what to say. I don’t know how to flirt. I’m on the spectrum. I don’t know what to say.
The problem with all these apps are that the profiles are often of people trying to get money, images are phoney and so are the people. posting them. As for gay anything since COVID there's not one gay bar remaining.
Thank you. It’s though looking for a life partner. I’m just not into one time hookups. I look in the mirror and where does the time go. Still looking for love.
I've almost fallen off social media entirely. Have come to see it as a corrupt mechanism. Spending time w face to face mates & dogs is the best However, w/o these platforms we would not have 'met' Cuts both ways, eh? You are best BTW Thank you 💜🌈
The thing I have found out with the apps,if your just looking for friends all you get is unwanted d/pics and it’s all about hook ups.some of us really do just want to meet friends
I hope this is the right video for this comment. You made comment that there aren't a lot of non-white men on Instagram...however, my experience is the opposite. I rarely had a white guy ever show up on my list. They're almost always Hispanic and I don't know why that happened but I'm sure glad it did. I find them incredibly sexy. Not that I don't like white guys or Europeans they're just rarely presented to me on IG or X for that matter.
My problème is, everytime I try chatting with a guy, they always think I'm not interested in them. Like I don't want to be your friend I want to date you. How's that hard to understand...
I have a question. I am gay , I am 49 and I like younger guys , so this is my question, when I see a guy I like what’s the best approach to let him know I am gay , and how do I bring up to ask him if he is gay without no confrontation, this the only thing I am struggling with , I love ur channel
The issue now is, that more radical people who represent queer culture somehow pretend that queer dating is morally above heterosexual dating. In reality however is, that queer people are more material and more obsessed with sex and sexuality than even 'straight' people.
Tommy, I'm a mature man in Wisconsin. I moved here five years ago from L.A. I was shocked to learn that the Gay community here (MKE) is mostly younger people. I still don't have a Gay friend here. Thanks for your tips.
This is one “how to” I’m sure you have skills. Because you are too fine for those mangy gays to ignore. Serious beans. I don’t do apps. Don’t trust them. I do chat sometimes on apps, but no meet ups. Possible someday, but slim chance. Mostly because I might be coming off the market if you get it. Fingers crossed.
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But once you are at the gym, how do you know which guys are straight? I have been going regularly to the gym for 10 years and I still can't find someone there!!!
ALTHOUGH I LOVE WOMEN, I LOVE AND PREFER TO BE WITH AND HAVE SEXUAL RELATIONS WITH GAY AND BI-SEXUAL MALES. I'VE BEEN HAVING ALL KINDS AND TYPES OF SEX WITH GAY&BI-SEXUAL BLACK AND WHITE MALES SINCE I WAS VERY VERY YOUNG.
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Don't know who needs to hear this, but you can have a wonderful, monogamous relationship with one man folks. Hook-up culture is sucking everyone's heart into a vortex. Trust me, once you experience true love with a person for a long time, you'll never go back to casual/ one-night-stands again. Good luck guys. You're all so amazing and beautiful🥰😘
Not everyone can. That's all I want. I have physical and mental health problems, and nobody wants anything to do with me. I'm 41, have a background of trauma since childhood, including rape and abuse, I contracted HIV from a rape 12 years ago. I've had depression and anxiety since childhood, and have major problems with my teeth from bulimia, which people find disgusting when they find out, and it can't be fixed. Gay men are shallow. Most men won't accept me because of my HIV, the people with HIV won't accept me because of my mouth. I've tried and tried, and can no longer be rejected. I'm kind and decent, and am good company, and that means I'm lucky enough to have friends. But I will never have a relationship, and I don't want to carry on in such misery. It's not true that there is someone for everyone. I will die alone.
Been there and done that and it’s not for me. People aren’t cookie cutter things that all want or do the same things. It might be what you want, but it’s not what everyone wants or needs.
@@phily8093Continue to grow and heal and manage. You will still lead a happy and fulfilling life. Romantic relationships are not the be-all end-all.
Agreed
@@phily8093 Sorry to hear about your story, I can't imagine what you're going through. Loneliness kills a lot of people every year. I hope you can overcome the loneliness.
You can also meet gay men doing volunteer work. Most communities have service organizations for the gay community. So, not only will you meet men who have similar interests, you'll be helping your community as well.
great advice!!
I like that idea
I am a pilipino men I hope I can find some one white or black guy who's has a Goodheart and respectful
I met a ton of awesome gay men when I joined the gay men chorus here in MN. It’s a breath of fresh air knowing that when I met these people it’s not about sex or things like that. I’d recommend joining any LGBTQ focus groups in your community.
Love this!
This is very true. I've joined local LGBTQ meetup groups and it is a great way to meet new friends in your area. The vast majority of people I've met through these groups are great and are also just out to meet other local gays in the area in a safe, non-sketchy environment.
hells yeah!!!! where can i find this?
What if the type of guy you like is a normal guy who just likes to chill at home and isn't obsessed with bars, or clubs or social media? I have chronic fatigue and I can't keep up with a high maintenance man who always wants to go out.
There are a lot of quiet gays out there! I hate the whole gay scene and much prefer a quiet night in with a herbal tea 😂
I`ve had chronic fatigue for 15 years. Went on a full carnivore diet .6 weeks into it my life turned around......100% improvement......I slowly start adding veggies, then fruit in moderation....,the moment I add sugar or carbs I know that I know.....don`t do this again. Maybe this will help ?
Same
More or less in the same train, I'm in the autism spectrum and I have somehow less tolerance to social interaction, and the vast majority of gay men is of the partying kind
I met my last bf on scruff, it was just something casual that turned serious. We lasted over two years, but at the time I wasn’t very good at maintaining relationships so we split up. I met a lot of guys in the meatpacking district at brunches, on the roof at the Ganesvoort in New York City. I met people at museums, art shows, I even took a cooking course once and met a guy. You have to be out there to meet someone, no one does guy deliveries…well I mean they do, but that’s an entirely different conversation.
I am pilipino men I hope I can find some one white or black guy who has a good heart and respectful
This was a good video and can be extensive tool to help many. Thank you for being welcoming and inclusive. You keep sharing and doing you.Thank you.
Thank you for such great content, honest and open. Well done!
I don't see the topic here so I'll bring it up. It's called AGEISM. At your age you probably have never experienced that and with your handsome looks, I seriously doubt you have a emotional concept of this fact within the Gay culture. Unfortunately AGEISM is a fact of life. I first experienced this at age 27. I thought I was hot, sexy and cute at age 27, but NOT to all thought so! I was 'getting up there' in age. Yes. Seriously. So the first problem in relationships is trying to get over that prejudice. Mostly impossible though. Ever notice all the attractive SINGLE men out there that seem to always be running through men like toilet paper? Relationships are hard because men are not taught how to connect emotionally with other men. They can have sex, but lack emotional availability. Look Thomas. You're young. Very good looking with model-like looks. But you won't have it forever. Looks fade even with the best care. The 'youthful and hot model look' starts fading after 30. Then what? The time to begin questioning needs and wants begins in the early 20's. Successful relationships take honestly and hard work.
Tommy, you gave lots of great suggestions. I used to be part of a group here in Chicago where twice a month you would meet a differet group and go to dinner at a local restaurant. The thought was that no one was paired up in advance so it made it more relaxing and a lttle less intimidating. I met friends through this and had alot of fun. It was great getting to meet a different group of guys twice a month. The organizers disbanded the idea after a while but I thought it was a great way to meet guys.
The world is changing man. Just dating sites are now changing to video dating sites where verification is based on videos and profile photos. Try meetfems.com - actual video dating sites based on all orientations (gays, lesbian and straight) where chances of fake profiles are less. Here you can find actual gays via video chat. Try if u want
Monogamous relationship is the best ❤❤❤
Great video love the advice.I don't like using apps because most of them want a subscription and I can afford them ,are there any free apps?
UR SOOOOOOOOO CUTE!!!!! I love how you said "I'm not even being sarcastic" lol I almost spit out my coffee, no lie! Great vid bb
I met my husband at a country western dancing group. You can join athletic groups like Frontrunners to meet gay men.
ok let’s say i go to a gay bar. i’m not outgoing enough just to talk to complete strangers! if i see someone i like i just get intimidated. in the past when ive gone i usually just end up talking to women who happen to be there. it’s frustrating cuz i know im only holding myself back.
I cannot believe you are 27. Hummmmm, Classic European Cars, Bonsai Club, Orchid Club, Wine Tasting, ohhh The Fountain Pen Show, so many.
You can generally meet them, but getting them to want more than a quickie is practically impossible.
Only dating was never for me, but I started to think it would be the only way to get a boyfriend. Thanks to this video, I now know other ways to possibly meet mr.right.
Kudos !! for this video ! It's full of really good ideas ... As a much much oldere gay man I would also add Libraries in general ! are a good place to not only check out excellent Reading materials...but to meet other gay men. Why> Because gay men Read more than many men do !! lol Your tip on University and colleges groups is also excellent. You often DO want to meet up with other genuinely intelligent people, after all !
I’m like I live outside of New York, but the thing is I don’t know how to approach guys. I’m like I don’t know what to say. I don’t know how to flirt. I’m on the spectrum. I don’t know what to say.
Be yourself, ask open questions and listen.
Hey
The problem with all these apps are that the profiles are often of people trying to get money, images are phoney and so are the people. posting them.
As for gay anything since COVID there's not one gay bar remaining.
Thank you. It’s though looking for a life partner. I’m just not into one time hookups. I look in the mirror and where does the time go. Still looking for love.
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I've almost fallen off social media entirely.
Have come to see it as a corrupt mechanism.
Spending time w face to face mates & dogs is the best
However, w/o these platforms we would not have 'met'
Cuts both ways, eh?
You are best BTW
Thank you 💜🌈
I love your beautiful mustache.
Yes you should do a video on the pros and cons of some of these apps please?
Thank you so much - this helped me so much !!!
Hai😊
The thing I have found out with the apps,if your just looking for friends all you get is unwanted d/pics and it’s all about hook ups.some of us really do just want to meet friends
I hope this is the right video for this comment. You made comment that there aren't a lot of non-white men on Instagram...however, my experience is the opposite. I rarely had a white guy ever show up on my list. They're almost always Hispanic and I don't know why that happened but I'm sure glad it did. I find them incredibly sexy. Not that I don't like white guys or Europeans they're just rarely presented to me on IG or X for that matter.
My problème is, everytime I try chatting with a guy, they always think I'm not interested in them. Like I don't want to be your friend I want to date you. How's that hard to understand...
I can't believe myself watching this right now. HELP HAHA
I have a question. I am gay , I am 49 and I like younger guys , so this is my question, when I see a guy I like what’s the best approach to let him know I am gay , and how do I bring up to ask him if he is gay without no confrontation, this the only thing I am struggling with , I love ur channel
Am interested help me out
Do u wanna talk?
Yes I need a man
@@larichulo2834 yes
@@Idrick where?
online is not an option bars or the gym works sometimes
The issue now is, that more radical people who represent queer culture somehow pretend that queer dating is morally above heterosexual dating. In reality however is, that queer people are more material and more obsessed with sex and sexuality than even 'straight' people.
Can gay men be found in normal everyday places? Can I use a computer or is a flagship smart phone the only way to meet gay men?
Interesting username there, you do have a good point too as where each person loves when it comes to meeting guys 😮
Tommy sizzles.
Seeking worked great for me!
Thomas Mathew - Id like to meet you !
Hi , Matthew !
That amazing stories I like that many lesson learned that you to your story ...
I'm ready for serious relationship and marriage
This daddy would be happy to meet you.
Hope you get to "meat" him
You are beautiful the way you are!
I've had very poor results with Meetup. Literally nothing showing up in bigger cities of Ohio.
Are You Close To Northwest Ohio?
Didn't mention any thing about spiritual connections - so needed now in the superficial gay culture.
I want to meet gay men, but not for dating, I want more friends in the community. How can I do it?
Michael Phelps
I like men that swim
I tried gay dating app it does not work for me because people seems to take for ever to text back I rather meet gay men in public places
Yes
Yeah, I live outside of New York City so I can easily go into the city and try to go to a gay bar by myself OK?
Possible Gay Apps: Tinder, Hinge, OK Cupid, Scruff, Bumble, Match, Eharmony, Silver Singles, Grindr
I met my husband at work. We did not actually work together. He was at a training facility I was a student at (at work).
How to meet the cool mature ones and make friends with
Hi, Im pretty cool and semi mature.
Inside any toilette of the world. The problem is you can't have any conversation with them. They all have their mouth occuppied.
Gay geeks in my area? Sign me up!!!
I,m a single Gay Man From NorthWest Ohio I,m Very Lonely
Hi Eric, I'm Billy in Lawton Oklahoma
@@billybilly6574 hi billy how are you
Hmm 3 hours ago - im guessing you two will have done the deed by now@@billybilly6574
Hi
You can also meet them in public transport
This is my first time can you please help me with this
Nice shirt 👕❤
I love you❤❤😊
the gym
I'm from Bharat 🇮🇳 I'm looking for life time partner means husband nothing else. Don't know is that possible ?
Tommy, I'm a mature man in Wisconsin. I moved here five years ago from L.A.
I was shocked to learn that the Gay community here (MKE) is mostly younger people. I still don't have a Gay friend here.
Thanks for your tips.
Hello
I never wanted to go for dates, but monogamy relationships are hard to find in India. I so wanted to love ❤ a soul 😢😢😢😢
Hi
Hello Vinay I,m Africa Mozambique I,looking to relationship
@@aibomutalbericardo4935haiii, u want to talk?
Hi, im asian gay men and single 😊
PhD being gay 😊
Would u look better without the mustache
I don't use apps.
why not? I mean, I can imagine, but why not?
This is one “how to” I’m sure you have skills. Because you are too fine for those mangy gays to ignore. Serious beans.
I don’t do apps. Don’t trust them. I do chat sometimes on apps, but no meet ups. Possible someday, but slim chance. Mostly because I might be coming off the market if you get it. Fingers crossed.
Ciao dall'Italia ❤
Hello
very halpful
Beware of all of these apps unless you’re into being harassed with d pics and old men 24/7
I need a partner
Ummm what about me?
I sense no deception from this one.
Am looking for a date am in Ghana
Meee
How can i find a genuine partner??!... I'm looking for a genuine one!!!
@@IndianBorage yess!!
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what is with the child on your shirt?but daddy?
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I like you so much🥰🥰🥰
Nice video...and you're adorable. thanks.
HOW TO MEET GAY MEN -> go to a gym!
But once you are at the gym, how do you know which guys are straight? I have been going regularly to the gym for 10 years and I still can't find someone there!!!
@@williammencia5857 what is your city?
No I go to the gym and do no need to see gay men / stupid to meet gay men
Dating people at a gym to me is a red flag
Does anyone know any gay men
Where can I meet someone real? Just kidding 😂
I am free here Im oke for a gay partner
Is this gay?
Public toilets?
GROSS
???
Daddy Tommy, how do I meet you ❤
Everyone wants to meet him...he comes across as a sane, smart chap.
ALTHOUGH I LOVE WOMEN, I LOVE AND PREFER TO BE WITH AND HAVE SEXUAL RELATIONS WITH GAY AND BI-SEXUAL MALES.
I'VE BEEN HAVING ALL KINDS AND TYPES OF SEX WITH GAY&BI-SEXUAL BLACK AND WHITE MALES SINCE I WAS VERY VERY YOUNG.