Thank you for speaking out for femininity and being a proud woman and stay- at-home mom - an extremely valuable, difficult and vital role. So many women nowadays are competing for more "manly" roles for fear of being seen as of lesser value or old fashioned.
I LOVE THIS! I'm 43, I think there is a very large gap between our generation and those younger than us when it comes to *marriage roles* There will always be people that are easily offended by the advice given from someone in a different generation than they are, sometimes even angered. I grew up in the Midwest in a traditional family, my parents had the same roles that you described in this video. My high school had classes for home economics and food... and all of us girls took those classes, they counted towards our credits to graduate... so they were actual classes. Home economics taught us how to sew, cut patterns for clothing, knitting... and food class taught us how to prepare, measure, cook, bake...understanding nutritional values... etc. I mention that because that is something I feel is important in life, it teaches us how to be more self sufficient... one big reason is so we don't have to pay outrageous prices for pre cooked meals that are usually absolutely horrible for our health. They don't have these classes in most schools anymore... they're no longer considered important in life skills. A lot of marriages and long term relationships these days have 2 partners that have no conscience role in their relationship...I think they believe it's unacceptable to define their individuality to certain *roles* and that's really what they've learned to be accustomed to. I'm a very independent woman, and I absolutely believe that roles in a marriage are significantly important to the happiness and longevity of that relationship. There are SO many things that happen every single day, and knowing what things will be done by your partner and what things are done by you just makes it soooo much easier to accomplish the day without all the chaos and stress. My children have all graduated and are in college and/or starting their careers, and I can't tell you how many times they've thanked me for raising them with these traditional values/roles because they see a lot of their peers with zero direction or they're lacking basic life skills. Marriage is teamwork, you can't have 2 quarterbacks playing at the same time... we need to know we can rely on each other to get their job done, so we can do ours. I LOVE your opinions and way of thinking...I watch your videos and say *hey girl, me too!* all the time 🤍🤍🤍
Thank you for being vulnerable and for sharing your life with us. That is very kind of you. God bless. 💜 Also--to the haters...What's wrong with wanting to look fit and toned? I mean geez...How silly to tear someone down for wanting to look fit/toned...Jenifer--keep shining. You dropped knowledge in this video. The purpose of light is to SHINE!
Can you please make a video on how you manage your time and duties as a stay at home housewife / mom? I mean, do you have a cleaning schedule? A laundry schedule? Meal schedule? How do you take care of the house (and yourself! Which is impressive) sometimes women let themselves go when they have a lot of things to do, but you don’t seem to be that kind of a woman. Would love to know your thoughts on that and learn from you, cuz I always learn something from you and look up to you ❤️
How sad is it that you have to keep apologizing for the “potential complainers”. I LOVE this video and I actually subscribe to all of it in my own marriage including the intimacy perspective. We have a incredibly healthy marriage and we love being with each other.
The people that say their marriage is incredibly healthy, it’s almost usually not the case. I don’t think people are always incredibly healthy 100%, that’s impossible.
Thank you so much for this. I've always had a low sex drive and have pushed my husband away for the last 17 years we've been married. Now he barely asks for it anymore and I feel horrible. He's exactly as you've described your husband. Thank you Lord for opening my eyes through Jenny. I'll do better.
Wouldn’t it be nice if we all had the same sex drive? 🙃 For most couples, I think it’s typically the man who has the greater drive, so you’re not alone. I went through a period once (after my first born) where I was completely uninterested for months. I actually felt bad because although my husband never reacted with hostility or anger, I personally felt bad for always rejecting him during that time. Rejection is painful, and it’s confusing, especially from a spouse. And then I thought to myself, ‘my husband should be able to have sex with his wife’. I just felt like it wasn’t fair that I was keeping that from him when I hadn’t before. So I just tried to look at it differently. When I’d be doing things with my daughter during the day on a weekday, I would remind myself that my husband made this possible. When I was able to sleep in because she had a rough night, I reminded myself that my husband made this possible. He was working hard so she and I could be together. That gratitude changed everything for me! I realized how loved it made me feel and it made me feel very affectionate towards him when he’d come home after working so hard every day. Anyway, I’m glad you felt open to that portion of my video. I was really worried about the response I would get. Thank you so much! ❤️🌺
@@JeniferJenkinsBeauty so profound...yes, I'll use gratitude to help me get me more in the mood. I'm moving to Houston this summer...hope to grab lunch one day.
This was by far the best video you’ve done in my opinion. Always great to keep it real because many of us can relate to you on many points that you talked about. Cheers 🇦🇺
An autism diagnosis can be hard to accept or deal with and puts stress on everyone. (I’m also on the spectrum and so is one of my kids) I like that you have traditional roles in your marriage. I’m sure that’s a major factor in its success.
You are very lucky to have a husband like him. Many man "forgot" to take care of their family, and we have to do all the household chores as you described it and the top of that we have to be financially responsible as well... living this life for 9 years now and looks like forever...
I have been married for 27 years, got married at 20, I would say I agree with everything you said. My only thing I would add is Jesus. We are wholly committed to following Jesus and I believe that has been a huge key is us remaining together and still in love. We have a common goal and purpose and it makes all the difference!
Just found you and just think you are an absolute gem! Thank YOU for sharing your insights, stories and tips with us!!! You surely didn't need to, but you did, and have helped many of us with your openness. Blessings to you and your family and please keep showering us with anything and everything that may beckon you to share with your YT family!
Absolutely love this video!!!! I’m so thankful to be in a strong marriage where both of us are loyal and committed to one another and our family. It’s not always easy but it sure is much easier when we are both on the same page!
Really enjoyed this Jenifer! It's great to hear your key points on making your marriage work. I love that you did this video and would love to see more like this. You have a beautiful family and marriage ❤
@@BeautyByAnneMarie Awe, thanks!!! I've been cutting it so much since it thinned out so much after Covid, but I think I'm done cutting for the time being. Lol!! At least a quarter of my hair is about 2 inches of re-growth right now. So happy it's coming back! I can't wait to see yours! ❤️🥰
I love this video. Even though I’m not married yet, I think it’s crucial to hear and learn about the inner workings of a healthy marriage. I was not able to experience healthy marriages as a child so it’s important that creators like you make these videos. Please continue to make videos like this.
This was a great intimate look at your married life and I admit at the end when I heard the song and saw the pictures of you and your husband it made me tear up. Your points I am sure will help so many....love is love and love really does find a way. In those first 10 years I was married to Bill I would be out gardening and be all sweaty and dirty and he would bound out the backdoor...pick me up and carry me into the house like Tarzan!!! My girlfriend said to me " how can you put up with that!" and I told her honestly, I wish he would do that every day. He saw me as beautiful and it helped me see myself that way. I think you and your hubby reflect each other's dedication and respect that you have for shared goals. You found your soulmate....this was wonderful my friend...it really was. xxoo Susan & D
Oh my gosh Susan, what a sweet story!!! I love that you have those memories of him carrying you into the house like that. That's the kind of thing movies are made of! ❤️🥰 Thank you so much! 🙏😘
I loved this video. You hit on all the things that are so important in making a marriage and a family thrive. You are blessed and your gratitude shows. God bless you and your family.
Came across you randomly & was drawn to your upbeat & honest personality. Really appreciate you talking about your autistic son & caring about his special needs. I'm 55, autistic & adhd, late diagnosis at 50. Both my parents are narcissistic & gave me childhood neglect. I was undiagnosed, no special needs supported. Took me over half a century to realise I'm a double issue, without support is crushing. My life has been chaotic & dangerous. Really means a lot to me that you care about your son & worked on your marriage re his diagnosis. ❤
That breaks my heart! 💔 I’m so sorry to hear that you were neglected growing up. What a tragedy.🥺However, I’m happy to hear that you are finally receiving answers and help to better understand and navigate who your are and how your mind works. God Bless you! ❤️🥰
Loved this video. My husband and I have had a wonderful marriage, coming up on 7 years! Keep waiting for things to get rough, but we still have so much love for each other and so much fun with each other. Even after having 3 kids. I agree that keeping your body in shape is so important in a marriage, and just for yourself to feel good in your body.
This was such a great video! I loved hearing how you and your husband make things work. My husband passed almost two years ago but we had sort of a similar type of marriage. You hit on some really great points especially about showing appreciation and respect for all that our husbands do. I wish I had done better in that area. It is important to talk about all of these aspects of relationships and marriage. :)
I’m getting married and this is amazing to hear. I haven’t watched it and when I got afraid (cold feet) this completely calmed me. God bless you and your family! Such great insight on how to make two people become one
Your vulnerability is a testament to what a healthy marriage is. Your transparency opens doors for many who live in the dark. Your grace speaks volumes. All women should practice life and relationships in this manner. Please continue with this content. Heaps of gratitude!
Thank you for being so honest and for sharing those private things with us. I’m 30, in a relationship, no kids yet and not married but I took a LOT from this video. I really appreciate it! 😘
Loved this video! I could relate to so many things you mentioned. My husband and I have five wonderful children and have been married 38 years. Things were not always the best when it came to our relationship, many ups and downs until 4 years ago when my husband fully surrendered and became the Christian husband he was meant to be. I am so thankful that I stuck by him and never gave up even when I felt like I couldn't take it anymore. Now we have the best marriage ever, almost like when we first met. We love each other so much! Oh and the whole laundry thing, my husband does the same thing. I have even let them inside out, like you did, made me laugh. But honestly I try so very hard now to not let the little things bother me anymore. Life is so short and we lost out on so many years of happiness that I just want to make the best of what we have now. Thank you so much for sharing. Enjoyed every minute of it.
I'm so glad you guys tell your daughter that she will appreciate seeing you too being loving and flirty to each other because as someone who came from a broken home and never saw their parents showing affection to one another, I was never modeled what a healthy relationship is. Good on you for reminding her!!!
Jenifer, you totally need to create more of these videos. You have so much valuable knowledge!! I can't thank you enough for this video.🤗 In regards to both of you caring for your fitness, that is admirable! That just means, you love yourselves enough to stay healthy and strong, NOT just for yourselves, but for your children and everyone around you. "Get your oxygen on first" love ya Jenifer!!❤️🥰
You never need to apologize for the keys you have used for a successful marriage! My husband and I have been married 25 years and very, very similar to yours. We practice the same mindset with defined roles, love & respect, health & maintenance, disciple & encouragement towards our children. ❤️
I’m watching this because I watch a lot of your videos, however, I skipped this one because I was going through a rough patch in my relationship and I was not really in a good place to watch. But now we are in a better place and this makes me want to do even better! I am in the medical field so you guys prioritizing your health is definitely relatable for me and the fact that anyone would think otherwise would tell me that their priorities are not where they should be. You and your husband looks fabulous btw!!! I love that you slipped that picture in of him lol 😆
I don’t know if y’all are Christian or not but you are describing gods design for marriage, and almost every single thing that you stated I am very happy for you to get to experience that type of marriage it to be that type of wife.
I absolutely loved this video! I agree with everything you said about why a marriage works. My husband and I have been together for 27 years and I love him more than the day we married. Thank you for sharing❤️
I have been married almost 41 years. We have a son with autism. When we found out he was around 19 months old. We happened to attend a conference on autism. Dr. Lovaas was speaking and said to the audience that this was going to be rough on your marriage, but stick together.
That gave me goosebumps. I'm SO glad we stuck it out! And I love my son! He's so unique and special! We figured it out together and we're stronger because of it. I'm sure you feel the same way.❤️🤗
This was gold! I believe you nailed it all so perfectly. Accepting our unique roles, respect and intimacy - it’s simple but not always easy! So powerful!
I like your point on all of this BUT every marriage IS different!! I am a nurse and I provide for our family more than he does … financially, caring for the kids, the home, the bills, groceries, taking care of the yard, the cars and the list goes on and on!!
I love this video Jennifer thank you for opening up and putting yourself out there. You and your husband sound so much like my husband and I and it’s really such a true blessing to have that kind of marriage. My first marriage was so full of heartbreak, neglect, and abuse that I realized one day that I didn’t even care if I lived anymore. I didn’t want to kill myself but I would’ve been more than happy to just go to sleep and never wake up. I realized that day that those feelings are not healthy and normal and that life was not what God wanted for me. I’m now married to a man so wonderful that I have to pinch myself sometimes because I can’t believe he’s real. Lol. Anyway I love how sweet you are. I’ve always thought that even though you could literally be a supermodel, have a handsome husband and a great life, you are so humble and kind. 😊
Thank you for saying such kind things! ❤️🌺 I’m so happy to hear that you were able to recognize that God would not want that kind of life for you and that you were able to move on. Too often, women remain in toxic marriages for fear of having to start over. You took control over your story and now you’re living the happily ever after you deserve! So happy for you! ❤️🥰
I love that you speak from your heart, Jennifer, and it clearly shines through. Your conceptualization of your happy and healthy marriage seems so on target. It's wonderfully refreshing to hear how much you continue to love and honor your husband. As a Marriage & Family Therapist, I see so many couples who struggle because they don't practice those values that you espouse. Love to you, beautiful Jennifer. xoxo
This was a great video. Everything you said made so much sense! I'm also a SAHM and I think especially in modern society we lose sight of everyone having a job. SAHM IS a job, but I need to show up for it for him and our family just like he goes into work for us
First of all, you named the number one key to a marriage or even relationship working: Communication. Also, Patience, Dedication, Commitment, etc. Those are all important! Also, what you're describing is basically, your husband is a true gentleman. I commend him for that! We need more men like him in this world. And like you said, you both work together to make it work. What one person doesn't do, the other one does, so all your bases are covered at all times. Less stress for you both then. Which means you have more time for your kids, and I understand about a kid with special needs (autism). My cousin has autism. But I give you and your husband credit for having the patience to deal with it and not let it rip your marriage apart, instead, it brought you both closer. God knew what he was doing. Your husband is your yin to your yang. No of course, no marriage or relationship is perfect. And you both acknowledge that which also helps you make it work. And again, respect is your husband's language because he's a gentleman. Seriously, I could go on and on about why I love this video, but bottom line is you are the perfect woman to tell other people how a marriage works. Because even though, not every marriage is the same, your tips could help a majority of people work out their marriages. So great video! I commend you both! Much respect!!
Thank you so much Chris!!! And thank you for clarifying that it's Yin and Yang. Lol! You seem like a very kind hearted person. I hope you're having a wonderful weekend! 🙏🥰
What you said about knowing your roles is so important. I've felt for a long time that many newer relationships have blurred lines in that regard and it causes a lot of problems. I know what my husband expects from me and vise versa and it works. I've been married 26 years.
Yes! It was a gradual process for us, but I'm so glad we know our roles so well now. Everything around here runs so smoothly because of it. Glad to hear that you feel the same way! ❤️🥰
Awesome video! So glad and relived to know that you have someone as special as you on your team! You truly deserve it! What a nice Father’s Day present for your husband! To watch this video and realize how much he is appreciated and loved and most of all how he is one heck of of lucky guy! Lol
Jenifer, THANK YOU for posting this! Personally I value those sharing what makes their marriage work! Having lost (deceased) my best friend/fiancé/father of my first born in my 20’s to becoming happily divorced in my 40’s I am ready for that “final destination” in my 50’s. The sex thing, men need sex to feel emotionally connected, women need to feel emotionally connected to have sex. Half the time my mind was always on stuff I had to do or what to make for dinner. DATE NIGHT I feel should also be a huge priority! Sharing what works for you two is definitely something I do strive for, especially having that love for staying active, fit, healthy! A win win in all facets of a relationship, as well as staying playful, and reading each other without saying a word! Thank you again for sharing, nix the naysayers. You have something beautiful and appreciate you sharing ♥️🙏🏻♥️
I absolutely love love LOVE this video! So much so that I’m sharing it with my husband bc I know he will love this video too 🥰. We definitely strive for all of those exact same values you and your husband do. Also, the point you made on having y’all’s defined “roles” in the marriage and how you each fulfill your responsibilities and don’t interfere with the other’s duties, I found that so refreshing. Your channel is so very awesome and full of amazing content! Thank you for sharing this with us ❤️
As a Divorced mom of 4 who had to be the mom and dad and sole provider for my family, I should be envious. However, I just like you so much, I’m genuinely happy that you have such a beautiful life! I know just the fact that you have an autistic child, life has thrown you many curve balls and that your life has been far from “EZ” . Thank you for making this video to show everyone what a good, solid, healthy marriage looks like! You are so inspiring in so many ways!👍😘👏🥰
Thank you so much!! But it's you who are inspiring! I have so much respect and admirations for Single working moms! Your kids are going to grow up with strong work ethics and an independent mentality. You're amazing! ❤️🥰
I know this when myself and my husband go longer than a few weeks without being intimate petty fights start, we argue more, I become more aggravated and so does he. We stop flirting it’s like night and day. It’s so so so important in a relationship. I never realized how important until I hit 40. I also so agree keeping in shape and staying desirable is important too. I’ve also been with my husband since we were 22 I just turned 40. It’s nice to know he’s still attracted to me and vice versa.
Thank you for sharing! It’s nice seeing and hearing about a relationship with roles that work. My husband and I are the same and I’m a stay at home mom, which now a days isn’t common. So I get a lot of questions of why do you stay home? He pays for everything? Etc etc. so much judging, but it works nicely for our family
Great video! I agree with everything you said!! I have been married for 35 years and we have a very traditional marriage. Our roles are defined the way yours have been and it really works for us. Your life is beautiful...keep up the good work.
So as someone who has gotten out if shape and currently trying to get back into shape, I can say that people just need to be real. If you are naturally someone who enjoys fitness, whether because you always have been or just discovered fitness, you shouldn't get flack for that. If it makes you feel good and you enjoy each other's bodies, that's your business! Why not enjoy life to your fullest while you can? If people get angry or triggered by you they need to look in the mirror and ask themselves if they are truly happy with themselves. People who are happy with themselves don't feel the need to put others down. The haters would rather get angry at something outside themselves so they don't have to face what they are angry at i side themselves. Being dedicated to keeping yourself healthy, and minimizing disease is an act of love for each other. Wanting to be the best of yourself for the other is an act if love.
I'm just watching this video 1 year later, and I agree with everything you said. I know you felt vulnerable about the last point in particular, and I agree with you on that, too. And you explained your reasons beautifully!
I loved this video! 18 years in a happy, loving, and, successful marriage is amazing! Thank you for sharing your most intimate secrets to continue building a lifelong relationship. ❤
I love hearing how happily married you are- as my husband and I will be celebrating 26 happy married years next month, ourselves:) Our 22 yr old daughter, also acts squeamish when my husband & I show affection, admitted today that she secretly loves it because she knows we’re still in love! Re: bow chicka wow wow- all I can say is that it gets much spicier when the kiddos leave for college and also when the wife’s hormones are totally balanced (aka: HRT) One other thing that may help someone- remember when you and your spouse are going through a hardship- you are on the same team. You are NOT enemies!! Attack the problem NOT each other. We have always come through the other side stronger because we have a natural tendency to band together. I hope this helps someone:) xo
Omg, I love everything you wrote!!! And thank you for sharing that tip about HRT. I'm not quite there yet, but it's good to know because someone else left a comment on how menopause really changes things, and I don't want that to happen.😊 Yes...attack the problem, not each other! I love that! ❤️😘
@@JeniferJenkinsBeauty Thst was me! 😀 Best advise educate yourself now on BHRT so you’re armed when the time comes. I’m 60 and still on the fence about using hormones 😩
I come back to this and watch sometimes when I’m struggling. I am not married yet but we have been together 5 years and are planning to get married soon and i want to start these habits as soon as possible
I missed this video for some reason but I’m happy to have found it. My marriage is very similar to yours. (27years) I get a lot of flack from women that think I’m not independent enough or tell me I should be more involved with finance’s or whatever else. It was so wonderful to listen to your story. It really sucks that you/me always have to justify or have a disclaimer for our stories. I alway tell my daughter (23) not to tear other women down but lift them up. I’d love to see more videos like this one. You’ve already helped many women who watched it learn something by the comments left. I learned from your bulletin point about the importance of still being sexually active. I try not to say no a lot but thinking about it after you talked about it made me think I do say no too much. I never thought of it coming from a place of gratitude. Your examples of ways our husbands can say they don’t feel like going to work or paying a bill. Thanks for the tip! 😁
I think this is going to be good, but I have to stop watching for now, because I started crying on the 'high hopes' part. I've been trying for 8 years, base on those very high hopes. What you said already has just made me sad, & also touched my heart. I'm going to try & finish this later as I think you are very understanding, so I do want to finish the video. Thanks
What an amazing video!! You have such a beautiful heart and you are such a classy woman. I loved so much how you talked about your marriage and family. You have such a beautiful honesty and candidness to your videos that I think is very unique and inviting. I'm so glad I found your channel!! I love all of your advice and tips!! You have such a beautiful and loving marriage and family. Your children will one day be so incredibly grateful to you and your husband for the example of love, gratitude and warmth you are showing them. Your deep love for your husband shines through everything you say and his love for you and your family is so beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing so many of your life tips and your health and beauty tips!! 🙏🏻❤🤗
These tips are very encouraging and uplifting! After dating for 9 years and now 24 years of marriage, I'm willing to apply them in our marriage to make it more healthier! Thank you!
I totally agree with what you're saying, maybe that's why I've been happily married 40 years. You have a beautiful family and keep doing what you're doing :)
Thank you for sharing! My husband and I have been married for 18 years as well and we have worked hard and continue to work hard to keep our health and our bodies! We feel we owe it to each other to try and be the people each other married. Of course our love it deeper than the outside, but remaining attractive to each other is a key to our marriage!
Thanks for this. You're so blessed. 🥰 Your hair is looking really healthy these days. Can you do a "hair loss" update and let us know what worked in getting your hair to grow back. I'm having lots of shedding these days 😔.
Thank you so much! I've had to cut so much of it off since it thinned out so much. But I can definitely see a ton of new growth at the top. At least a quarter of my hair is about 2 inches long. However, the video that I plan to make is how to avoid breakage. I just had to wait patiently for the shedding to stop, and then of course I add collagen to my coffee every morning and drink protein drinks a couple of days a week. I also practice a keto diet which is packed with protein. Here is the Collagen and Protein Powder I use: ❤️🥰 amzn.to/3QrnxIN amzn.to/3OqLlKM
@@JeniferJenkinsBeauty Wow! I can't believe you have that much regrowth! That's wild! I wonder if it was the collagen that helped so much? I would love to take a collagen supplement but I'm vegan so I need to research a vegan version. And I look forward video on breakage. I have long hair but so much breakage at the nape of my neck and I don't use any heat on my hair so I dunno. 😩Thanks for responding and hope you and your family enjoy a wonderful Father's Day tomorrow! 💞
Thank you for mentioning "roles". It is exactly the same way in our house. I have met alot of couples who make me feel like my "role" is under my husband. That is not the case at all. He respects me for what I do and I do the same. We also have had a terrible time in our marriage, we lost our 18 month old son 11 years ago. It could've torn us apart but it made us closer...thank god! (Not that it wasnt the hardest thing we have ever gone through. But we chose to work through it) Thank you for this video!!! I loved it! 😘
Oh my goodness I’m so sorry for your loss! I can’t even begin to imagine what that was like for you.🥹My deepest sympathies.🌺 I’m glad to hear that you and your husband were there for each other and grew closer and stronger together as a couple.❤️🥰
My first time visiting your channel, and you are a delight. I listened to this and realized that I need to make some adjustments in my marriage, very helpful!
This is video has given me so many feels. Thank you for that. I needed to hear a lot of this as a re-reminder of things in my marriage. You would make a wonderful mentor♡
I just found you on UA-cam and I’ve watched some of your other videos already. They were very fun and enlightening. I just watch this video and there was a lot of really good information, but one thing you did not mention if you and your husband had built your relationship with Jesus as your foundation. I think that is THE most important thing in your life and in your marriage.
Loved everything you shared! So nice of you to be honest and give your thoughts on this topic! I am also in a happy marriage, coming up to 24 years in August! We have had our ups and downs over the years, but have worked hard to keep it together with all that life throws at you! 💕
It’s very important to stay fit&healthy because you want to be there for your kids & possibly grandkids 💕 Also if you don’t take care of yourself, you could become a burden for them. Yes, it’s a very good video thanks
I can relate to you very well. We have been together for over 24 years and it was an adjustment period for the first 7-8 years, but we sort of got into our groove with each other and we established our roles also. It just naturally fell into place and it works for us. I think mutual respect and just being loving and caring makes a great relationship. He takes care of me and I take care of him. Thanks for sharing this with us!
Yes!!! I love when you said we sort of got into our groove. That's exactly how it was for us too! And like you and your husband, we take care of each other. ❤️🤗
What a *wonderful* video, Jenifer! I feel like this is the kind of content ppl love to see occasionally, it's SO relatable and it resonates. Well done!
I have a very similar marriage to yours. I am the same age as you, been with my husband since the age of 17. I was a SAHM for 13 years and even now only work 8 hours a week. Even though it’s kind of frowned upon these days (especially here in the U.K.), I love our more traditional marriage, I have the same role as you and my husband is like yours. If I work longer hours, I get stressed and that isn’t great for a healthy relationship. I also just love being at home with my family. We’ve had many ups and downs with the sad passing of close family members, my son had awful anxiety and school refusal for years, my now mum has Alzheimer’s (I care for her) and now I am in perimenopause and I can be a little bit crazy these days lol, these all put a big strain on a marriage and the wheels fall off the wagon at times but we stop, fix the wheels and carry on. Keeping fit at any age is never a bad thing, it is so important for physical and mental health and all those things are key ingredients to a good marriage. My husband is and also has been my rock and I hope he will always be 😊
Yes, My husband and I married the same year we graduated 1983 .. We are moving towards our 40th anniversary next year and we work out together to sure look attractive in ways but mostly to stay healthy and strong ;] It's great to do this together and our grown kids also work out and eat healthy .. People can be jealous all they want of our love and friendship but to heck with them .. You are a BEAUTIFUL WOMAN and Should be very proud ;] So proud of you being a Venus woman to ;] It is my clothing company to .. mostly all Venus.. ;] Stay well beautiful and congratulations on your beautiful family life ;]
Great video Jen. I was like yes yes yes. I am 49 yrs old married now separated. I have thyroid issues and sex is not my priority sad to admit. You know I wish persons could be honest and talk about real issues affecting us all. Thank you for sharing. ❤
I have been married for 41 years, and every word you spoke is just plain common sense . May I also add we also have a son with austism who is in his 30's and is such a blessing to us. But your husband couldn't have hung the moon, cause I am quite sure mine did. LOL
Omg, I love this comment!!!😄 I'm glad to hear you're in a happy, healthy marriage as well and that your son is such a blessing! We have a lot in common! ❤️🤗
I just found you the other day and I’m so glad! I just love you!! You’re so cute and make me laugh when you say something and you laugh at yourself! I appreciate you’re honesty, you’re very genuine!! You also motivated me to start cleaning my house while I listened! Haha!!
Jenifer this is the best video you’ve done !!. My husband and i have a similar type of marriage and we are very happy!We have been together for 20 years and we had our ups and downs but we managed to deal with them with mutual respect and love.We have two children and we are on the same page in terms of their behavior.God bless all our families and children.
Wonderful and very vulnerable video! You have a marriage that most couples yearn for. Today my husband and I are married 40 years! There are definitely ebbs and flows! The physical part becomes more challenging when menopause comes to call…ugh! Thanks for sharing your personal life with us and keep up the good “work.” 💜
I feel like my marriage is great. We've been together for 28 years but the one thing I wish was different was the being healthy and caring about taking care of our bodies together 😫 I try to take care of myself and would like for him to do the same so we can grow even older together. Its so soooo frustrating and also difficult to stay motivated for your self when your spouse couldn't care less.
Loved this video, Jenifer!! Thank you for being so transparent. Yes, I loved this style of video and my its favorite type of video to watch! I think most (normal) people like these kinds of videos a lot so don’t worry about that. Yes, make more!!!
Love this video! Thank you for being so open and vulnerable in sharing the true day to day of making a relationship work. I could listen to your advice all day! Long time follower, first time posting.
Having watched you for years I know this must have been a difficult decision to discuss this topic. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable ... Your happiness shows. Bravo for being BOLD!! Your confidence in front of the camera has grown immensely this past year!! I love all your videos. God bless your marriage and family. Beautiful
Great video! I’m also a stay at home mom with a quiet husband, and a son with autism, and could really relate to a lot of things that you said in this video. I especially got a kick out of the clothes being inside out, because I too feel the same way you do🙂 Thanks for sharing!
Wow! Thank you for being so vulnerable in this video to help so many women. I am a NEW stay at home mom, and my husband is the provider of our family- something I am not used to. This humbled me hearing your experience.
Hi! I’ve watched your videos for years. You are just so stunning and so well spoken. Thank you for glorifying the happiness in your marriage. I allow your videos to play throughout the day if I happen to pop onto UA-cam around my 2 1/2 yr old daughter because I’m not ever worried that your videos would be tasteless or crude :) Congrats to you and your hubby! 🍀
Stay at home mom, beautiful traditional marriage, health conscious, special needs mom! I’m so happy I found your channel!
Thank you for speaking out for femininity and being a proud woman and stay- at-home mom - an extremely valuable, difficult and vital role. So many women nowadays are competing for more "manly" roles for fear of being seen as of lesser value or old fashioned.
I LOVE THIS!
I'm 43, I think there is a very large gap between our generation and those younger than us when it comes to *marriage roles*
There will always be people that are easily offended by the advice given from someone in a different generation than they are, sometimes even angered.
I grew up in the Midwest in a traditional family, my parents had the same roles that you described in this video. My high school had classes for home economics and food... and all of us girls took those classes, they counted towards our credits to graduate... so they were actual classes. Home economics taught us how to sew, cut patterns for clothing, knitting... and food class taught us how to prepare, measure, cook, bake...understanding nutritional values... etc.
I mention that because that is something I feel is important in life, it teaches us how to be more self sufficient... one big reason is so we don't have to pay outrageous prices for pre cooked meals that are usually absolutely horrible for our health.
They don't have these classes in most schools anymore... they're no longer considered important in life skills.
A lot of marriages and long term relationships these days have 2 partners that have no conscience role in their relationship...I think they believe it's unacceptable to define their individuality to certain *roles* and that's really what they've learned to be accustomed to.
I'm a very independent woman, and I absolutely believe that roles in a marriage are significantly important to the happiness and longevity of that relationship. There are SO many things that happen every single day, and knowing what things will be done by your partner and what things are done by you just makes it soooo much easier to accomplish the day without all the chaos and stress.
My children have all graduated and are in college and/or starting their careers, and I can't tell you how many times they've thanked me for raising them with these traditional values/roles because they see a lot of their peers with zero direction or they're lacking basic life skills.
Marriage is teamwork, you can't have 2 quarterbacks playing at the same time... we need to know we can rely on each other to get their job done, so we can do ours.
I LOVE your opinions and way of thinking...I watch your videos and say *hey girl, me too!* all the time 🤍🤍🤍
Thank you for being vulnerable and for sharing your life with us. That is very kind of you. God bless. 💜 Also--to the haters...What's wrong with wanting to look fit and toned? I mean geez...How silly to tear someone down for wanting to look fit/toned...Jenifer--keep shining. You dropped knowledge in this video. The purpose of light is to SHINE!
Oh wow, thank you so much for saying such nice things!!! It means so much to me! ❤️🤗
Can you please make a video on how you manage your time and duties as a stay at home housewife / mom? I mean, do you have a cleaning schedule? A laundry schedule? Meal schedule? How do you take care of the house (and yourself! Which is impressive) sometimes women let themselves go when they have a lot of things to do, but you don’t seem to be that kind of a woman. Would love to know your thoughts on that and learn from you, cuz I always learn something from you and look up to you ❤️
How sad is it that you have to keep apologizing for the “potential complainers”. I LOVE this video and I actually subscribe to all of it in my own marriage including the intimacy perspective. We have a incredibly healthy marriage and we love being with each other.
Thank you!! And I just love hearing that you're in a happy marriage as well! ❤️🤗
The people that say their marriage is incredibly healthy, it’s almost usually not the case. I don’t think people are always incredibly healthy 100%, that’s impossible.
Thank you so much for this. I've always had a low sex drive and have pushed my husband away for the last 17 years we've been married. Now he barely asks for it anymore and I feel horrible. He's exactly as you've described your husband. Thank you Lord for opening my eyes through Jenny. I'll do better.
Wouldn’t it be nice if we all had the same sex drive? 🙃 For most couples, I think it’s typically the man who has the greater drive, so you’re not alone. I went through a period once (after my first born) where I was completely uninterested for months. I actually felt bad because although my husband never reacted with hostility or anger, I personally felt bad for always rejecting him during that time. Rejection is painful, and it’s confusing, especially from a spouse. And then I thought to myself, ‘my husband should be able to have sex with his wife’. I just felt like it wasn’t fair that I was keeping that from him when I hadn’t before. So I just tried to look at it differently. When I’d be doing things with my daughter during the day on a weekday, I would remind myself that my husband made this possible. When I was able to sleep in because she had a rough night, I reminded myself that my husband made this possible. He was working hard so she and I could be together. That gratitude changed everything for me! I realized how loved it made me feel and it made me feel very affectionate towards him when he’d come home after working so hard every day. Anyway, I’m glad you felt open to that portion of my video. I was really worried about the response I would get. Thank you so much! ❤️🌺
@@JeniferJenkinsBeauty so profound...yes, I'll use gratitude to help me get me more in the mood. I'm moving to Houston this summer...hope to grab lunch one day.
This was by far the best video you’ve done in my opinion. Always great to keep it real because many of us can relate to you on many points that you talked about. Cheers 🇦🇺
That means a lot, thank you so much Sally! ❤️🤗
@@JeniferJenkinsBeauty So, did you get married at 30?
I agree 100 percent
An autism diagnosis can be hard to accept or deal with and puts stress on everyone. (I’m also on the spectrum and so is one of my kids)
I like that you have traditional roles in your marriage. I’m sure that’s a major factor in its success.
Gotta say - I don’t have much in common with you but I really like your videos. You seem like a really honest and cool lady.
This is so refreshing- truth that people desperately need to hear. My marriage has taught me how important these things are.
What a beautiful tribute to your marriage, hubby, and life together.
Awe, thank you so much! ❤️🤗
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be fit so you look good. It helps, not hurts, a marriage.
You are very lucky to have a husband like him. Many man "forgot" to take care of their family, and we have to do all the household chores as you described it and the top of that we have to be financially responsible as well... living this life for 9 years now and looks like forever...
Agree. It seems there aren’t many men around like Jennifer’s husband :/
I have been married for 27 years, got married at 20, I would say I agree with everything you said. My only thing I would add is Jesus. We are wholly committed to following Jesus and I believe that has been a huge key is us remaining together and still in love. We have a common goal and purpose and it makes all the difference!
Just found you and just think you are an absolute gem! Thank YOU for sharing your insights, stories and tips with us!!! You surely didn't need to, but you did, and have helped many of us with your openness. Blessings to you and your family and please keep showering us with anything and everything that may beckon you to share with your YT family!
Absolutely love this video!!!! I’m so thankful to be in a strong marriage where both of us are loyal and committed to one another and our family. It’s not always easy but it sure is much easier when we are both on the same page!
Yes! 🙌 I love hearing that!!! ❤️🤗
Really enjoyed this Jenifer! It's great to hear your key points on making your marriage work. I love that you did this video and would love to see more like this. You have a beautiful family and marriage ❤
OH and I posted before I mentioned your hair looks fantastic! Very pretty!
@@BeautyByAnneMarie Awe, thanks!!! I've been cutting it so much since it thinned out so much after Covid, but I think I'm done cutting for the time being. Lol!! At least a quarter of my hair is about 2 inches of re-growth right now. So happy it's coming back! I can't wait to see yours! ❤️🥰
I love this video. Even though I’m not married yet, I think it’s crucial to hear and learn about the inner workings of a healthy marriage. I was not able to experience healthy marriages as a child so it’s important that creators like you make these videos. Please continue to make videos like this.
This was a great intimate look at your married life and I admit at the end when I heard the song and saw the pictures of you and your husband it made me tear up. Your points I am sure will help so many....love is love and love really does find a way. In those first 10 years I was married to Bill I would be out gardening and be all sweaty and dirty and he would bound out the backdoor...pick me up and carry me into the house like Tarzan!!! My girlfriend said to me " how can you put up with that!" and I told her honestly, I wish he would do that every day. He saw me as beautiful and it helped me see myself that way. I think you and your hubby reflect each other's dedication and respect that you have for shared goals. You found your soulmate....this was wonderful my friend...it really was. xxoo Susan & D
Oh my gosh Susan, what a sweet story!!! I love that you have those memories of him carrying you into the house like that. That's the kind of thing movies are made of! ❤️🥰 Thank you so much! 🙏😘
@@JeniferJenkinsBeauty I still miss him and that made me love your video even more!
I loved this video. You hit on all the things that are so important in making a marriage and a family thrive. You are blessed and your gratitude shows. God bless you and your family.
I honestly believe that Gratitude is the secret to happiness! God Bless you as well!! ❤️🤗
Came across you randomly & was drawn to your upbeat & honest personality. Really appreciate you talking about your autistic son & caring about his special needs.
I'm 55, autistic & adhd, late diagnosis at 50.
Both my parents are narcissistic & gave me childhood neglect.
I was undiagnosed, no special needs supported. Took me over half a century to realise I'm a double issue, without support is crushing. My life has been chaotic & dangerous.
Really means a lot to me that you care about your son & worked on your marriage re his diagnosis. ❤
That breaks my heart! 💔 I’m so sorry to hear that you were neglected growing up. What a tragedy.🥺However, I’m happy to hear that you are finally receiving answers and help to better understand and navigate who your are and how your mind works. God Bless you! ❤️🥰
Loved this video. My husband and I have had a wonderful marriage, coming up on 7 years! Keep waiting for things to get rough, but we still have so much love for each other and so much fun with each other. Even after having 3 kids. I agree that keeping your body in shape is so important in a marriage, and just for yourself to feel good in your body.
This was such a great video! I loved hearing how you and your husband make things work. My husband passed almost two years ago but we had sort of a similar type of marriage. You hit on some really great points especially about showing appreciation and respect for all that our husbands do. I wish I had done better in that area. It is important to talk about all of these aspects of relationships and marriage. :)
I’m getting married and this is amazing to hear. I haven’t watched it and when I got afraid (cold feet) this completely calmed me. God bless you and your family! Such great insight on how to make two people become one
Your vulnerability is a testament to what a healthy marriage is. Your transparency opens doors for many who live in the dark. Your grace speaks volumes. All women should practice life and relationships in this manner. Please continue with this content. Heaps of gratitude!
Oh wow, thank you so much!! That means so much to me and you worded it so beautifully! I appreciate you! ❤️🥰
Thank you for being so honest and for sharing those private things with us. I’m 30, in a relationship, no kids yet and not married but I took a LOT from this video. I really appreciate it! 😘
Loved this video! I could relate to so many things you mentioned. My husband and I have five wonderful children and have been married 38 years. Things were not always the best when it came to our relationship, many ups and downs until 4 years ago when my husband fully surrendered and became the Christian husband he was meant to be. I am so thankful that I stuck by him and never gave up even when I felt like I couldn't take it anymore. Now we have the best marriage ever, almost like when we first met. We love each other so much! Oh and the whole laundry thing, my husband does the same thing. I have even let them inside out, like you did, made me laugh. But honestly I try so very hard now to not let the little things bother me anymore. Life is so short and we lost out on so many years of happiness that I just want to make the best of what we have now. Thank you so much for sharing. Enjoyed every minute of it.
I'm so glad you guys tell your daughter that she will appreciate seeing you too being loving and flirty to each other because as someone who came from a broken home and never saw their parents showing affection to one another, I was never modeled what a healthy relationship is. Good on you for reminding her!!!
Jenifer, you totally need to create more of these videos. You have so much valuable knowledge!! I can't thank you enough for this video.🤗 In regards to both of you caring for your fitness, that is admirable! That just means, you love yourselves enough to stay healthy and strong, NOT just for yourselves, but for your children and everyone around you. "Get your oxygen on first" love ya Jenifer!!❤️🥰
You never need to apologize for the keys you have used for a successful marriage! My husband and I have been married 25 years and very, very similar to yours. We practice the same mindset with defined roles, love & respect, health & maintenance, disciple & encouragement towards our children. ❤️
Brave woman putting out this video content - loved it. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing with us.
That means a lot! I was so worried about how the comment section would go. I appreciate it! ❤️🌺
I’m watching this because I watch a lot of your videos, however, I skipped this one because I was going through a rough patch in my relationship and I was not really in a good place to watch. But now we are in a better place and this makes me want to do even better! I am in the medical field so you guys prioritizing your health is definitely relatable for me and the fact that anyone would think otherwise would tell me that their priorities are not where they should be. You and your husband looks fabulous btw!!! I love that you slipped that picture in of him lol 😆
I don’t know if y’all are Christian or not but you are describing gods design for marriage, and almost every single thing that you stated I am very happy for you to get to experience that type of marriage it to be that type of wife.
I absolutely loved this video! I agree with everything you said about why a marriage works. My husband and I have been together for 27 years and I love him more than the day we married. Thank you for sharing❤️
I have been married almost 41 years. We have a son with autism. When we found out he was around 19 months old. We happened to attend a conference on autism. Dr. Lovaas was speaking and said to the audience that this was going to be rough on your marriage, but stick together.
That gave me goosebumps. I'm SO glad we stuck it out! And I love my son! He's so unique and special! We figured it out together and we're stronger because of it. I'm sure you feel the same way.❤️🤗
@@JeniferJenkinsBeauty Our son is extremely lovable and very laid back. Yes, we’re glad we stuck together. My husband is a gem!
This was gold! I believe you nailed it all so perfectly. Accepting our unique roles, respect and intimacy - it’s simple but not always easy! So powerful!
I like your point on all of this BUT every marriage IS different!! I am a nurse and I provide for our family more than he does … financially, caring for the kids, the home, the bills, groceries, taking care of the yard, the cars and the list goes on and on!!
yep about the physical attraction and staying healthy...doesn't always guarantee but, totally can't hurt
I love this video Jennifer thank you for opening up and putting yourself out there. You and your husband sound so much like my husband and I and it’s really such a true blessing to have that kind of marriage. My first marriage was so full of heartbreak, neglect, and abuse that I realized one day that I didn’t even care if I lived anymore. I didn’t want to kill myself but I would’ve been more than happy to just go to sleep and never wake up. I realized that day that those feelings are not healthy and normal and that life was not what God wanted for me. I’m now married to a man so wonderful that I have to pinch myself sometimes because I can’t believe he’s real. Lol. Anyway I love how sweet you are. I’ve always thought that even though you could literally be a supermodel, have a handsome husband and a great life, you are so humble and kind. 😊
Thank you for saying such kind things! ❤️🌺 I’m so happy to hear that you were able to recognize that God would not want that kind of life for you and that you were able to move on. Too often, women remain in toxic marriages for fear of having to start over. You took control over your story and now you’re living the happily ever after you deserve! So happy for you! ❤️🥰
I love that you speak from your heart, Jennifer, and it clearly shines through. Your conceptualization of your happy and healthy marriage seems so on target. It's wonderfully refreshing to hear how much you continue to love and honor your husband. As a Marriage & Family Therapist, I see so many couples who struggle because they don't practice those values that you espouse. Love to you, beautiful Jennifer. xoxo
Oh wow, how cool that you're a Marriage and Family Therapist! Thank you so much for leaving me this comment, it means so much to me! ❤️🤗
This was a great video. Everything you said made so much sense! I'm also a SAHM and I think especially in modern society we lose sight of everyone having a job. SAHM IS a job, but I need to show up for it for him and our family just like he goes into work for us
First of all, you named the number one key to a marriage or even relationship working: Communication. Also, Patience, Dedication, Commitment, etc. Those are all important! Also, what you're describing is basically, your husband is a true gentleman. I commend him for that! We need more men like him in this world. And like you said, you both work together to make it work. What one person doesn't do, the other one does, so all your bases are covered at all times. Less stress for you both then. Which means you have more time for your kids, and I understand about a kid with special needs (autism). My cousin has autism. But I give you and your husband credit for having the patience to deal with it and not let it rip your marriage apart, instead, it brought you both closer. God knew what he was doing. Your husband is your yin to your yang. No of course, no marriage or relationship is perfect. And you both acknowledge that which also helps you make it work. And again, respect is your husband's language because he's a gentleman. Seriously, I could go on and on about why I love this video, but bottom line is you are the perfect woman to tell other people how a marriage works. Because even though, not every marriage is the same, your tips could help a majority of people work out their marriages. So great video! I commend you both! Much respect!!
Thank you so much Chris!!! And thank you for clarifying that it's Yin and Yang. Lol! You seem like a very kind hearted person. I hope you're having a wonderful weekend! 🙏🥰
@@JeniferJenkinsBeauty You're very welcome! And thank you! I am having a great weekend so far! I hope the same is true for you and your family! 😊
What you said about knowing your roles is so important. I've felt for a long time that many newer relationships have blurred lines in that regard and it causes a lot of problems. I know what my husband expects from me and vise versa and it works. I've been married 26 years.
Yes! It was a gradual process for us, but I'm so glad we know our roles so well now. Everything around here runs so smoothly because of it. Glad to hear that you feel the same way! ❤️🥰
Awesome video! So glad and relived to know that you have someone as special as you on your team! You truly deserve it! What a nice Father’s Day present for your husband! To watch this video and realize how much he is appreciated and loved and most of all how he is one heck of of lucky guy! Lol
You're so sweet! Thank you so much! I should make him watch this. Lol! But he already knows how loved he is. ❤️🥰
Jenifer, THANK YOU for posting this! Personally I value those sharing what makes their marriage work! Having lost (deceased) my best friend/fiancé/father of my first born in my 20’s to becoming happily divorced in my 40’s I am ready for that “final destination” in my 50’s. The sex thing, men need sex to feel emotionally connected, women need to feel emotionally connected to have sex. Half the time my mind was always on stuff I had to do or what to make for dinner. DATE NIGHT I feel should also be a huge priority! Sharing what works for you two is definitely something I do strive for, especially having that love for staying active, fit, healthy! A win win in all facets of a relationship, as well as staying playful, and reading each other without saying a word! Thank you again for sharing, nix the naysayers. You have something beautiful and appreciate you sharing ♥️🙏🏻♥️
I absolutely love love LOVE this video! So much so that I’m sharing it with my husband bc I know he will love this video too 🥰. We definitely strive for all of those exact same values you and your husband do. Also, the point you made on having y’all’s defined “roles” in the marriage and how you each fulfill your responsibilities and don’t interfere with the other’s duties, I found that so refreshing. Your channel is so very awesome and full of amazing content! Thank you for sharing this with us ❤️
Couldn’t have loved this more! Thank you so much for sharing❤️
Oh how sweet! Thank you so much! ❤️🤗
As a Divorced mom of 4 who had to be the mom and dad and sole provider for my family, I should be envious. However, I just like you so much, I’m genuinely happy that you have such a beautiful life! I know just the fact that you have an autistic child, life has thrown you many curve balls and that your life has been far from “EZ” . Thank you for making this video to show everyone what a good, solid, healthy marriage looks like! You are so inspiring in so many ways!👍😘👏🥰
Thank you so much!! But it's you who are inspiring! I have so much respect and admirations for Single working moms! Your kids are going to grow up with strong work ethics and an independent mentality. You're amazing! ❤️🥰
I’m in my 20’s and engaged. This was soo helpful. Please do more videos like this! 🤍
I know this when myself and my husband go longer than a few weeks without being intimate petty fights start, we argue more, I become more aggravated and so does he. We stop flirting it’s like night and day. It’s so so so important in a relationship. I never realized how important until I hit 40.
I also so agree keeping in shape and staying desirable is important too. I’ve also been with my husband since we were 22 I just turned 40. It’s nice to know he’s still attracted to me and vice versa.
Thank you for sharing! It’s nice seeing and hearing about a relationship with roles that work. My husband and I are the same and I’m a stay at home mom, which now a days isn’t common. So I get a lot of questions of why do you stay home? He pays for everything? Etc etc. so much judging, but it works nicely for our family
Great comments. I am 57 and married to my husband for 28 years. I agree with your bullet points.
Great video! I agree with everything you said!! I have been married for 35 years and we have a very traditional marriage. Our roles are defined the way yours have been and it really works for us. Your life is beautiful...keep up the good work.
So as someone who has gotten out if shape and currently trying to get back into shape, I can say that people just need to be real.
If you are naturally someone who enjoys fitness, whether because you always have been or just discovered fitness, you shouldn't get flack for that. If it makes you feel good and you enjoy each other's bodies, that's your business!
Why not enjoy life to your fullest while you can? If people get angry or triggered by you they need to look in the mirror and ask themselves if they are truly happy with themselves. People who are happy with themselves don't feel the need to put others down. The haters would rather get angry at something outside themselves so they don't have to face what they are angry at i side themselves.
Being dedicated to keeping yourself healthy, and minimizing disease is an act of love for each other. Wanting to be the best of yourself for the other is an act if love.
I'm just watching this video 1 year later, and I agree with everything you said. I know you felt vulnerable about the last point in particular, and I agree with you on that, too. And you explained your reasons beautifully!
I loved this video! 18 years in a happy, loving, and, successful marriage is amazing! Thank you for sharing your most intimate secrets to continue building a lifelong relationship. ❤
I love hearing how happily married you are- as my husband and I will be celebrating 26 happy married years next month, ourselves:) Our 22 yr old daughter, also acts squeamish when my husband & I show affection, admitted today that she secretly loves it because she knows we’re still in love! Re: bow chicka wow wow- all I can say is that it gets much spicier when the kiddos leave for college and also when the wife’s hormones are totally balanced (aka: HRT)
One other thing that may help someone- remember when you and your spouse are going through a hardship- you are on the same team. You are NOT enemies!! Attack the problem NOT each other. We have always come through the other side stronger because we have a natural tendency to band together. I hope this helps someone:) xo
Omg, I love everything you wrote!!! And thank you for sharing that tip about HRT. I'm not quite there yet, but it's good to know because someone else left a comment on how menopause really changes things, and I don't want that to happen.😊 Yes...attack the problem, not each other! I love that! ❤️😘
@@JeniferJenkinsBeauty Thst was me! 😀 Best advise educate yourself now on BHRT so you’re armed when the time comes. I’m 60 and still on the fence about using hormones 😩
Menopause is a real issue, sometimes it’s impossible to have relations.
I come back to this and watch sometimes when I’m struggling. I am not married yet but we have been together 5 years and are planning to get married soon and i want to start these habits as soon as possible
I missed this video for some reason but I’m happy to have found it. My marriage is very similar to yours. (27years) I get a lot of flack from women that think I’m not independent enough or tell me I should be more involved with finance’s or whatever else. It was so wonderful to listen to your story. It really sucks that you/me always have to justify or have a disclaimer for our stories. I alway tell my daughter (23) not to tear other women down but lift them up. I’d love to see more videos like this one. You’ve already helped many women who watched it learn something by the comments left. I learned from your bulletin point about the importance of still being sexually active. I try not to say no a lot but thinking about it after you talked about it made me think I do say no too much. I never thought of it coming from a place of gratitude. Your examples of ways our husbands can say they don’t feel like going to work or paying a bill. Thanks for the tip! 😁
I think this is going to be good, but I have to stop watching for now, because I started crying on the 'high hopes' part. I've been trying for 8 years, base on those very high hopes. What you said already has just made me sad, & also touched my heart. I'm going to try & finish this later as I think you are very understanding, so I do want to finish the video. Thanks
What an amazing video!! You have such a beautiful heart and you are such a classy woman. I loved so much how you talked about your marriage and family. You have such a beautiful honesty and candidness to your videos that I think is very unique and inviting. I'm so glad I found your channel!! I love all of your advice and tips!! You have such a beautiful and loving marriage and family. Your children will one day be so incredibly grateful to you and your husband for the example of love, gratitude and warmth you are showing them. Your deep love for your husband shines through everything you say and his love for you and your family is so beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing so many of your life tips and your health and beauty tips!! 🙏🏻❤🤗
These tips are very encouraging and uplifting! After dating for 9 years and now 24 years of marriage, I'm willing to apply them in our marriage to make it more healthier! Thank you!
I totally agree with what you're saying, maybe that's why I've been happily married 40 years.
You have a beautiful family and keep doing what you're doing :)
Love your honesty and it makes me so happy to hear how couples get it right!!
Thank you for sharing! My husband and I have been married for 18 years as well and we have worked hard and continue to work hard to keep our health and our bodies! We feel we owe it to each other to try and be the people each other married. Of course our love it deeper than the outside, but remaining attractive to each other is a key to our marriage!
You are truly blessed! I pray a man enters my life that loves and provides for me Ike your husband does. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thanks for this. You're so blessed. 🥰 Your hair is looking really healthy these days. Can you do a "hair loss" update and let us know what worked in getting your hair to grow back. I'm having lots of shedding these days 😔.
I can tell you what I have done in the last year after I shed at least 50 % of my hair
Thank you so much! I've had to cut so much of it off since it thinned out so much. But I can definitely see a ton of new growth at the top. At least a quarter of my hair is about 2 inches long. However, the video that I plan to make is how to avoid breakage. I just had to wait patiently for the shedding to stop, and then of course I add collagen to my coffee every morning and drink protein drinks a couple of days a week. I also practice a keto diet which is packed with protein.
Here is the Collagen and Protein Powder I use: ❤️🥰
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@@JeniferJenkinsBeauty Wow! I can't believe you have that much regrowth! That's wild! I wonder if it was the collagen that helped so much? I would love to take a collagen supplement but I'm vegan so I need to research a vegan version. And I look forward video on breakage. I have long hair but so much breakage at the nape of my neck and I don't use any heat on my hair so I dunno. 😩Thanks for responding and hope you and your family enjoy a wonderful Father's Day tomorrow! 💞
@@angelmuscledoc Hi Angel, I'd love to hear about that!
Yes.
I found you about hairloss TE..
its been do difficult..My self esteem is so low. I feel patience fir growth is so slow...feeling sad.
Love this! This is what being a woman is about. Thanks so much for the encouragement!
I’m getting married soon and I feel like these are such good tips to keep in mind for years to come 😊
Loved this video, Jenifer! My husband and I have been married for 32 years, and I agree with many of the points you made. Thank you. :)
Thank you for mentioning "roles". It is exactly the same way in our house. I have met alot of couples who make me feel like my "role" is under my husband. That is not the case at all. He respects me for what I do and I do the same. We also have had a terrible time in our marriage, we lost our 18 month old son 11 years ago. It could've torn us apart but it made us closer...thank god! (Not that it wasnt the hardest thing we have ever gone through. But we chose to work through it) Thank you for this video!!! I loved it! 😘
Oh my goodness I’m so sorry for your loss! I can’t even begin to imagine what that was like for you.🥹My deepest sympathies.🌺 I’m glad to hear that you and your husband were there for each other and grew closer and stronger together as a couple.❤️🥰
@@JeniferJenkinsBeauty Thank you so much!! I appreciate that. I now have my own personal guardian angel looking over me !😘
My first time visiting your channel, and you are a delight. I listened to this and realized that I need to make some adjustments in my marriage, very helpful!
This is video has given me so many feels. Thank you for that. I needed to hear a lot of this as a re-reminder of things in my marriage. You would make a wonderful mentor♡
I am in alignment with your wisdom! ❤️ A reasonable and committed couple can make for a beautiful and fulfilling marriage!
I just found you on UA-cam and I’ve watched some of your other videos already. They were very fun and enlightening. I just watch this video and there was a lot of really good information, but one thing you did not mention if you and your husband had built your relationship with Jesus as your foundation. I think that is THE most important thing in your life and in your marriage.
Loved everything you shared! So nice of you to be honest and give your thoughts on this topic! I am also in a happy marriage, coming up to 24 years in August! We have had our ups and downs over the years, but have worked hard to keep it together with all that life throws at you! 💕
It’s very important to stay fit&healthy because you want to be there for your kids & possibly grandkids 💕 Also if you don’t take care of yourself, you could become a burden for them. Yes, it’s a very good video thanks
I can relate to you very well. We have been together for over 24 years and it was an adjustment period for the first 7-8 years, but we sort of got into our groove with each other and we established our roles also. It just naturally fell into place and it works for us. I think mutual respect and just being loving and caring makes a great relationship. He takes care of me and I take care of him. Thanks for sharing this with us!
Yes!!! I love when you said we sort of got into our groove. That's exactly how it was for us too! And like you and your husband, we take care of each other. ❤️🤗
What a *wonderful* video, Jenifer! I feel like this is the kind of content ppl love to see occasionally, it's SO relatable and it resonates. Well done!
Oh, I'm so happy to hear that!! I love making these types of videos! ❤️🤗
I have a very similar marriage to yours. I am the same age as you, been with my husband since the age of 17. I was a SAHM for 13 years and even now only work 8 hours a week. Even though it’s kind of frowned upon these days (especially here in the U.K.), I love our more traditional marriage, I have the same role as you and my husband is like yours. If I work longer hours, I get stressed and that isn’t great for a healthy relationship. I also just love being at home with my family. We’ve had many ups and downs with the sad passing of close family members, my son had awful anxiety and school refusal for years, my now mum has Alzheimer’s (I care for her) and now I am in perimenopause and I can be a little bit crazy these days lol, these all put a big strain on a marriage and the wheels fall off the wagon at times but we stop, fix the wheels and carry on. Keeping fit at any age is never a bad thing, it is so important for physical and mental health and all those things are key ingredients to a good marriage. My husband is and also has been my rock and I hope he will always be 😊
Yes, My husband and I married the same year we graduated 1983 .. We are moving towards our 40th anniversary next year and we work out together to sure look attractive in ways but mostly to stay healthy and strong ;] It's great to do this together and our grown kids also work out and eat healthy ..
People can be jealous all they want of our love and friendship but to heck with them ..
You are a BEAUTIFUL WOMAN and Should be very proud ;]
So proud of you being a Venus woman to ;] It is my clothing company to .. mostly all Venus.. ;]
Stay well beautiful and congratulations on your beautiful family life ;]
Fantastic video! I have been with my husband for over 30 years and share similar beliefs, roles, etc. Stay well!!
Great video Jen. I was like yes yes yes. I am 49 yrs old married now separated. I have thyroid issues and sex is not my priority sad to admit. You know I wish persons could be honest and talk about real issues affecting us all. Thank you for sharing. ❤
I have been married for 41 years, and every word you spoke is just plain common sense . May I also add we also have a son with austism who is in his 30's and is such a blessing to us. But your husband couldn't have hung the moon, cause I am quite sure mine did. LOL
Omg, I love this comment!!!😄 I'm glad to hear you're in a happy, healthy marriage as well and that your son is such a blessing! We have a lot in common! ❤️🤗
I just found you the other day and I’m so glad! I just love you!! You’re so cute and make me laugh when you say something and you laugh at yourself! I appreciate you’re honesty, you’re very genuine!! You also motivated me to start cleaning my house while I listened! Haha!!
Jenifer this is the best video you’ve done !!. My husband and i have a similar type of marriage and we are very happy!We have been together for 20 years and we had our ups and downs but we managed to deal with them with mutual respect and love.We have two children and we are on the same page in terms of their behavior.God bless all our families and children.
Loved this video Jenifer. I’ve been married 30 years next year. You made a lot of very good points .
Wonderful and very vulnerable video! You have a marriage that most couples yearn for. Today my husband and I are married 40 years! There are definitely ebbs and flows! The physical part becomes more challenging when menopause comes to call…ugh! Thanks for sharing your personal life with us and keep up the good “work.” 💜
The way you love your husband is so beautiful 💕
Thank you so much for opening up and sharing! This was a wonderful video. XOXO
Thank you Lisa! ❤️🥰
I feel like my marriage is great. We've been together for 28 years but the one thing I wish was different was the being healthy and caring about taking care of our bodies together 😫
I try to take care of myself and would like for him to do the same so we can grow even older together. Its so soooo frustrating and also difficult to stay motivated for your self when your spouse couldn't care less.
Loved this video, Jenifer!! Thank you for being so transparent. Yes, I loved this style of video and my its favorite type of video to watch! I think most (normal) people like these kinds of videos a lot so don’t worry about that. Yes, make more!!!
Love this video! Thank you for being so open and vulnerable in sharing the true day to day of making a relationship work. I could listen to your advice all day! Long time follower, first time posting.
Having watched you for years I know this must have been a difficult decision to discuss this topic. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable ... Your happiness shows. Bravo for being BOLD!! Your confidence in front of the camera has grown immensely this past year!! I love all your videos. God bless your marriage and family. Beautiful
Great video! I’m also a stay at home mom with a quiet husband, and a son with autism, and could really relate to a lot of things that you said in this video. I especially got a kick out of the clothes being inside out, because I too feel the same way you do🙂 Thanks for sharing!
Wow! Thank you for being so vulnerable in this video to help so many women. I am a NEW stay at home mom, and my husband is the provider of our family- something I am not used to. This humbled me hearing your experience.
Hi! I’ve watched your videos for years. You are just so stunning and so well spoken. Thank you for glorifying the happiness in your marriage. I allow your videos to play throughout the day if I happen to pop onto UA-cam around my 2 1/2 yr old daughter because I’m not ever worried that your videos would be tasteless or crude :) Congrats to you and your hubby! 🍀
That made me giggle! Thank you so much! ❤️☺️🤗