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The Aging Woman ~ My Rant, Thoughts, & Opinions at 49yrs old
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I'm 61. I've concluded that aging with grace is sort of like the serenity prayer - change the things I can, accept the things I can't, and be smart enough to know the difference. I take pride in looking my best every day even when I'm not going anywhere. I asked my 80-something father, who also gets dressed, grooms himself, and tries to look his best, when I would stop caring about my appearance and he said "never". I just try to do the most with what I have. As you get a little older, the focus will shift from "beauty" to staying healthy. It is an interesting subject. The person's opinion that matters is the one you see in the mirror every day.
I loved your analogy!😁 And I’m the same way. I apply makeup pretty much every single day, even if I have nowhere to be. It just makes me feel better, and in a weird way it gives me energy. Lol! I love that you and your dad are the same in that respect. ❤️🌺
💯 percent agree with you!! We should always take pride in our appearance. I love your serenity prayers comparison! Its so true! ❤
Aging gracefully to me is aging without putting all the pressure on myself to look like I did in my 20’s!! Accepting my age & being honored to grow older!! I love how I’m so much more secure now than in my 20’s or even my 30’s! I stand up for myself now or walk away! Beauty comes from within mostly anyways. You are gorgeous inside & out! You can see it in the sparkle of your eyes! You have a beautiful spirit!
Thank you so much Kelly! 🌺 I agree. I am so much more sure of myself, my thoughts and my opinions now, more than ever before. That's the beautiul part of aging. And then of course all of the wonderful experiences and memories we make along the way. ❤🥰
There is a simple answer to all of this ladies, do what YOU WANT! As a mental health therapist I get asked all the time, “Do I need to embrace aging or do I fight it? What is the right way to age?” There is no right way, what you choose for yourself is the right way for you. Be respectful that someone else may make a difference choice, which is perfectly okay! Share love and kindness, that is always beautiful!
Why do guys and female teens 'beg' to be dominated by older women in the bedroom? I spoke with two teenage girls [17-18 years respectively,] recently, and they I quote, 'would die' for the chance with an older woman. Interesting solvent for aging gracefully. As for me at 70 years, forget it.
THIS IS WHAT MY HUSBAN TELLS ME TOO! its so hard to not think about "how pretty you used to be" im not 20 nor will i ever be again, yes i was more youthful but i dont have or know what i do now, nor did i have 4 amazing children! thats such a good way to look at it!
Everyone knows what the 'girls' think of JJ. I still call her Jenifer but as Samantha tells me" Mr. Martin the name Jenifer is just not there now JJ means business.
Aging is a privilege. Whether you're a woman or a man. Enjoy life. It's a short ride.
LOVE THIS!!! I work with childen with cancer and I think the same way
Exactly! Like I said, Aging is just another word for "Living" and I want to keep doing it! ❤🙌
Absolutely. My mom died too young. Any year I live older than her, I will be incredibly grateful to be on this Earth with my family.
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Totally agree. We're damned if we do, damned if we don't. There are women that accuse you of filter or procedure use if you look TOO good. But if you don't look good enough, you're berated. It's awful. And you know they'd never say these things to your face...only from behind a keyboard. I agree that aging gracefully can mean different things to different people. I also find it interesting that the few very large over-40 influencers here on YT have had procedures and have been pretty open about it. And yet I see viewers that follow them being so rude to other influencers for doing those same procedures. It's bizarre. Loved this thought-provoking video!
Exactly! The issue I have is WHY is anyone berrating someone else for how they personally decide to age? I would never look down on someone or ridicule them for not aging the same way I do. And I certainly would never shame someone or pick someone's appearance apart publicly for all the world to see! It just seems so mean! And you're right, no one has ever walked up to me and said some of the things people feel so courageous and compelled to say to me online. It's wild. I think we all get our fair share on social media. 🙄❤😘
You are so right. I have been bullied by other women in the workplace my whole career. I am told it is because I do my best to look nice and put together and some women are jealous. I have always tried to befriend other women but I have a few friends that are so special and accepting of me just as I am. But others are extremely mean and down grading to me. I compliment women all the time and some seem to appreciate it and others not so much. But I can't help but give compliments when I see a lady doing her best to look her best.
I had the same thing happen..its so depressing
Oh yes, the catty jealous women. I worked in the office field for many years. My older supervisor lady,, was the worst. She was on a power kick all the way
Haters love to hate
It’s so sad to me that if you are a woman who looks after herself, physically fit, healthy, and puts in the effort to look polished and put together, there is automatically a large subset of the female population that is going to dislike you.
Keeping physically fit does wonders for your body, skin, mind, energy levels, confidence. I just turned 40, and regularly have people think I’m 30. Feels really good❤💪
I am 45 and I have absolutely no issue being overlooked or ignored or simply forgotten. I have lived for 45 years on this planet and in that time frame I have slowly come to love myself and be happy with myself. I have learned that once you get rid of people and the constant source of criticism you are left with blessing in disguise. Why? Because most of us humans are very very unhappy inside and we like to project that on others in the form of criticism. I mean why would I want humans in my life for that 🤣. I have a very few supportive friends, a dog and a cat and two gorgeous boys. What could I ask for more from God? Also I am a typical Gemini couldn't give a hoot about what others think 🤣. Probably because I am too busy about giving importance to what I think about others 🤣🤣🤣
I started watching you in my late 20’s because I wanted to know the road paved ahead. My mom passed on right before I turned 30 and I needed role models. Sounds silly but with no aunts I needed guidance on becoming more mature with grace inner and outer. It’s taught me a lot and I’m always grateful to those who have helped me without ever knowing it💜
I’m in my mid 30s and you helped me realize it’s fun to wake up and try to look good whatever you’re doing. I have young kids so I was disheartened for a little while when I realized I didn’t have a lot of things to “get ready” for anymore. I think people feel beautiful for different reasons, make up for some women and not others. But people notice beauty when you’re feeling happy, confident, and healthy, whatever that means for you. I admire the way you take care of yourself and your family. And I think that makes you appear beautiful and happy.
Thank you so much! 🥰 Oh that is SO true!!! The most beautiful people radiate it from within! ❤🌺
Great topic! when you were talking about your self, and how critical you are of yourself, I am as well! I need to stop talking bad of myself. My poor husband listens to my self criticism. He gets upset when I do. He tells me all the time how beautiful I am. I am 64 years old soon to be 65. I can hardly believe it! I am blessed to have good health, and I work out daily eat healthy. I should be proud of myself. I also get a little Botox here and there and a little filler as well. I see nothing wrong with it. I do agree people do get very opinionated. my husband thinks I’m beautiful the way I am without any Botox or filler, but he understands why I do it! thanks Jennifer, for being so honest and being you! You are A beautiful person inside and out! Great video!😃❤️👍
23 year old girl here 👋🏻 I watch your videos for the reasons you mentioned, I want to be excited for every age in my future and I hope to be able to enjoy all the same things I do now. My generation (z) is toxic enough towards aging and I want to be able to have positive role models to look up to. Hence why I’m here! Lol
Such a good topic. Loved how you mentioned no one cares if you want to preserve your joints and bones and health, but everyone has something to say about your physical appearance. Good point. Love your videos.
Isn't that the truth?! ❤😘
Personally, I feel that it's up to each woman to ignore the trolls--especially if she is posting on social media. It starts and ends there. Everyone ages; how I choose to deal with it is no one else's concern, and their concern is none of my business.
You should have your Mom in one of your videos! And...when you said you have "veiny" hands, I was actually happy to hear someone as gorgeous, inside and out, as you...because I also have veiny hands! It didn't make me feel bad, it made me feel included! 😘
Awe, that's awesome! I guess it's all in the way you receive it. I would love to have my mom in one of my videos one day! I don't know if I could talk her into it though. ❤😘
I often get “ complimented” that I look good for my age.I think to myself why did for my age have to be a part of that sentence.
Thank you for talking about this topic! It is so important to talk about aging in a positive way. You are the definition of aging well. I am just like you when it comes to being in a great mood on the days I am going to make a reel. I also cherish being a mother and a grandmother. I am so happy you are putting a positive light on aging for younger women. I absolutely adore you. Sending love. 💕💕💕
You do?!! Isn't it so much fun?! It literally gives me energy! It's like a fun little hobby. And it's also fun to try and be creative. You're really good at that on Tiktok. Your voiceovers and captions always crack me up! You have a great sense of humor! ❤🤗
@@JeniferJenkinsBeauty Thank you! 💕
Yay!!!! I love it when a diva speaks the truth! No apologies for looking amazing, taking care of yourself, and being a powerful woman in control of her life! ❤ I really enjoyed this. Thank you. Every woman can benefit from hearing this. Your 10 focus points at the end are gospel. Much love. ❤
Aging gracefully to me, means being confident and comfortable with yourself no matter the changes that happen to your looks or situations. Loving others as yourself and enjoying every moment in your life and those you love.
Jenifer, l'm glad you listened to your mother .Stop putting yourself down. I recently turned 70 and I have not had any procedures. I'm very happy with my mature skin. I do take care of myself, and I hope I too am a good role model for younger women. I still teach seniors in high school, and being around them helps me stay young at heart!!! Thank you for this conversation!!! (This picture was taken on my 70th birthday. I also think being grateful makes you prettier.)
You made a great point at 16:00 to me. Since I was young, I would exercise to Mousercise in the basement (because it was fun), when I could drive at 16, I joined Women's Workout World and started to read more about healthy eating. I have always washed my face before bed and worn SPF, even in my teens. It's not like I turned 40 and started taking care of my skin/health. To those just starting, and who want to take care of themselves, it is never too late. I love the saying "pick your hard". Yes it is hard to work out 4 hours a week, but it is also hard to get off the sofa when your joints are sore from NOT ever moving. I love to read self-help books! Anything to make myself 1% better every day. 🥰
Oooh, I like that, "pick your hard". So true! I'd rather eat right and work out now than spend time in and out of hospitals because my health is so bad. I'm a little bit of a hypochondriac, so the way I live now is really my only option. 😂😘
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Thank you, Jenifer! You've really opened my eyes on aging! How I treat myself and how I think of other women needed to change and thanks to your insight, I feel differently. I feel better, more empowered. You are beautiful, inside and out!
Wow, what a nice thing to say! Thank you so much! ❤🤗
We are our own worst critics. Such a great video. You look so beautiful! Thank you 😊
Yes we are! Thank you so much! ❤🤗
I'm over 50, and happy to look slightly younger. But I've noticed when I get together with friends or coworkers they often ask why I still bother to wear makeup, blow out my hair, dress nice. etc. like I should just give up and let myself go! Plus, most of them are all married and I'm single, so I probably do try a little harder. They constantly tell me how they couldn't be bothered, and make me feel like I'm shallow just for trying to look decent! It's very discouraging 😞
Awe, that stinks!! Your friends should be complimenting you and encouraging you to do what makes you happy, not criticizing you for putting in the effort that they're not willing to put in. That's not very nice. I bet you look beautiful! ❤🤗
@Jenifer Jenkins Awwe, thank you! I just don't understand how when women choose to take pride in their appearance and put in some effort, others find negativity in that. I sometimes feel some women give up after a certain age, and feel threatened or angry at those who still want to have fun and look good! Thank you for making a video addressing this topic.The struggle is real 😄
I take very good care of myself physically and mentally. I am over 60 and healthy and I feel beautiful. The best thing I have achieved
from aging. Is not caring what insignificant people have to say about women's aging. That is the plus to reaching say 50. You realize you can't please everyone. And you shouldn't want to. You do what feels good and right for you. And you well be happy with your choices.
We can take care of ourselves and be happy by accepting our life stages without spending too much energy and pressure to turn the clock around. I worked in a Medical Spa, and I literally felt sad for so many women that drove themselves sick trying to inject themselves feelers, Botox etc…to hide every little sign of age, looking plastic and noticed as unnatural 😢 and the sad part: they didn’t even noticed that they had an obsession to try to change who they really were.
Nothing against Botox and filler’s, but women needs to draw a limit, which is very difficult for many.
It can definitely be a slippery slope, but if it makes them happy and they feel more confident, I'm not bothered by it. But I definitely have my limits! ❤😘
Aging is a natural process and no one can stop it. We begin to age from the day we are born, right?! A lovely novel by Oscar Wilde-"The Picture of Dorian Gray" describes the state of such lovers in their faces and their non-existent youth. Very sad story, BTW.
@@Mary-tj5qx yes! Many even like to compete with their young daughters 🥹
@@JeniferJenkinsBeauty I think it’s sad that you would not be bothered by it just because it makes them feel happy and confident. People do all kinds of terrible things for happiness and confidence, and this kind of behavior is sick, no matter how they feel.
@@na-zu2ey lmao, it’s Botox and fillers. They’re fine. They’re not hurting anyone. Lol.
Im 32 but I do a lot of collagen stimulators, some Botox and some fillers. Many would say I don’t “need” the treatments but I do it for myself not for others. I am my best when I feel my best just like people workout to feel good I don’t see anything wrong with investing on your face etc if it makes you feel good. After all that’s the end goal right to feel good about yourself. It’s so silly that people put others down for wanting to invest in their face say facials or Botox I say to each their own. 😊
I totally agree with you, we will get criticized no matter how we choose to age. I personally don't give a flying fig about "aging gracefully" and choose interventions to maintain my looks. It's my face, it's my body and I want to look like myself for as long as possible and I do it for myself, I also don't give a flying fig about society lol. As far as other aging women often being the harshest critics I agree and here is my theory. I think it stems from insecurity and sometimes even jealousy. I also think that there are women that feel that if they are going to age naturally all other women should have to too. I know it sounds harsh but I honestly think it's true. I also think we should all be free to age how we choose and that we should support each other in that choice whatever it is. ❤️
I consider it a privilege to be 51 years old, as many women don’t get there. All I do now to maintain myself is I watch my weight,so I don’t look older and frumpy. Great video Jenifer 🇦🇺
I love your deep dives on aging. You say what most people are afraid to admit. I'd get eyeball transplants if I could get young eyes that could read up close again lol.
Haha. So true. My diminishing vision is the only thing about again that REALLY bothers me. 🤣
So refreshing that you are so honest with everything you do to keep up your good looks! I’m 50 and will always try to look my best, just like my mom always did! I say look good, feel good and if someone doesn’t like it that’s on them, not you!
Thank you for inspiring me to be my best. You have no idea how you've set me on a path for better self care. May you receive many blessings.
I can understand what your mom means when someone discusses negative things about themselves. I do start to feel insecure about those things afterwards. I am so incredibly mean to myself also, but would never notice those things in other people either. I'm similar to you and always see the beauty and compliment others. That just comes from being kind within. Some people are just so mean and hateful inside that it just spews onto others to try and bring them down. They are truly miserable. I will never understand it, though. No matter how bad I may feel about myself or how bad my day is I AM ALWAYS KIND!!!!! In fact, it makes me happier to be extra kind when I'm not feeling 100%. I also noticed when I was younger that some people get great pleasure from you being down on yourself. That hurts even more when "friends" enjoy your sadness. From experience, I keep my friend circle extremely small. I don't let people like that into my life anymore.
Fantastic chat Jenifer it’s something that truly needs to change❤ we are allowed to age however we choose to do so and you are so right! it’s a privilege and we can do this our way ❤ have a great day beauty
Thank you so much Jenny! ❤🥰
Great conversation. Age is seriously so much a mindset. I’m 41 and feel like I’m 20-25 and people still think I am. I think aging gracefully means just taking care of yourself the best you can and not overly obsessing with the aging process. I don’t like the fact I’m getting some gray hair, but I just dye it and who cares? I enjoy wearing makeup and dressing cute, etc, but I’m not doing it for anyone but myself since it makes me feel good and that’s all that matters. We are so lucky that we GET to wake up and live another day, because none of us are guaranteed another minute, day, or year. I hate that people focus on aging so much. You know what? Every person, animal, and plant on earth at this moment right now are aging! To live and exist is to “age.” Sorry I’m ranting. I have a lot of opinions about all of this, too, and I agree with you on a lot of what you say. We just all need to be grateful for being alive and aging is a part of that.
Awww I love this so much ❤ I don’t know if I’m the Molly that you were referring to but I just have loved watching your videos all these years. You have definitely inspired me so much. You definitely are not only a physical representation of what us younger women want to “age” like but also your soul is just beautiful ❤ you are so kind and uplifting and radiate positivity and it’s so refreshing to see that in a beauty community of so many mean spirited people. I’ve seen the countless comments left on some of your videos and other women that I watch and I just don’t understand it. So thank you for being such a sweet, kind soul. I love all of the older women in my life. I think a lot of younger women can greatly benefit from hearing wisdom of the beautiful strong women in their lives. I think “aging gracefully” has a lot to do with your attitude. I’ve met some really mean older women and I automatically think they’re a mean old hag and then I meet these kind, graceful older women and just think they are so beautiful and have “aged gracefully” simply by being a sweet, radiant person. Your children are so lucky to have a mother like you. Especially your daughter. You are such a lovely person and so beautiful and sweet. Keep shining ❤🫶🌹💗
I hang out with many women 50+ and I’m 47. They are all so amazing and inspirational. They ride motorcycles, they look amazing and are fit, fabulous and dating and going out dancing, yoga etc etc. I absolutely love my tribe of ladies! I do find UA-cam to be really lacking women and views over 40!
Thank you for making this video, it is inspirational and comforting! I am 49 myself and couldn't happier in my own skin, much more than I was in my 20s/30s. I think aging gracefully is being true to yourself at every step, and appreciating the natural cycle of life. In nature, fall is just as beautiful (or even more so) than the spring or summer.😃
Awe, I love that! ❤🤗
This is such an important topic. I appreciate you discussing it and being respectful and kind to others. I agree with your top 10 at the end!!! When I was in my twenties, I was broke. At that time I could afford a few nice outfits and my makeup consisted of foundation, eyeliner, lipstick and blush, but that's really all I needed. Getting ready was so quick because all I had to do is brush my hair and my teeth, put on an outfit, some earrings, and looked presentable. At that time I told myself if I grow old, and I have money, I will give myself the gift of a nice wardrobe, whatever Cosmetics I want, and the time to spend each day getting ready. Now I consider my skincare, Beauty routine, and exercise as my hobby. In order to make time for it I've given up other hobbies, but I want my outward appearance to match how I feel inside. I don't want to look tired when I'm not, due to dark circles, puffy eyes, discoloration. I have fun with skincare and makeup at age 46 and I can't see that ever changing. I want my husband and my children to see me respect myself enough to take care of myself by keeping my weight down and caring about what I look like.
I think it is all a matter of perspective. I think if you were thin and beautiful when you were young, it may be hard to age. But I was never thin or that beautiful when I was young. I'm actually a 100lbs less right now in my mid 40s than I was in my early 20s. So my perspective is different because I don't look back at my youth fondly. I think it is harder for women who were extremely beautiful at one time to lose their beauty. But I couldn't rely on my looks for anything. I personally have liked getting older because the flaws I have, that I've always had stretch marks, flab etc. don't seem as bad now because most women my age have it.
Hi Jennifer. Great topic to discuss. I believe the main reason people are mean and over opinionated regarding this topic just comes down to their own insecurities and possibly some jealousy too. I'm 42 now and I definitely feel like I don't care so much of what people think of me and that's the way to go. Everyone has their own opinion. I like to preserve my skin etc because it makes me feel so much better about myself. Taking care of myself is my new mission as I make my way through my forties. I love your content and very much enjoy your tips and tricks to looking youthful. Thank u 💕
That's exacty how I approached my 40's, on a mission! I listened to so many people say that once you turn 40 your metabolism will slow down and you'll gain weight, that you'll lose muscle mass, that you'll have no energy, that your skin will dry out and you'll get more wrinkles, etc.. But the only thing all of that did was motivate me to try even harder to defy the odds! No sense in going down without a fight right?! ❤🙌
@@JeniferJenkinsBeauty indeed!!! Aging well is all I'm trying to achieve. I actually enjoy the challenge.
True. I say do what feels good to you. Self care, love etc. Do not live to please others but rather do what is healthy to you and feels good to your soul.
I agree 100%! ❤🙌
When I have criticized someone it is always because they are narcissistic, or not very nice people. But otherwise, I always try to be nice. Moreover, I do have a problem with people who advocate for looking old and then, they criticize those of us who are in support of cosmetic procedures. If people are happy looking their age or older, more power to them. But please, don't criticize me for not wanting to do the same. Great video 👍
Jenifer, you are us women’s most positive cheerleader for the aging woman! I really enjoyed this sincere video. I think aging gracefully is putting yourself first and taking care of your health. On that note, Happy Mardi Gras! 💚💛💜
Why can’t we be the best version of ourselves as we age? I love the process of everyday self care and obtaining my goals of being a better version of myself….
Hi Jennifer , I needed this today . I’m 58 and I take of my self . I have always loved beauty , skincare and just taking care of my skin . I went to a new dermatologist yesterday actually and it was a male I have a Basel cell on my nose and I have a plastic surgeon next month to remove it .I was there to start a full body visit but before we started talking he called me Vein !!! So upsetting especially from a male doctor . I won’t go back . Thank you for your message I needed this today .
To me it makes you relatable. I pick myself apart too but it’s also a bad habit and your mom is right.. I don’t see those things when I look at you whatsoever. I see a beautiful, kind, fit, healthy, woman. We are very critical of ourselves.
I'm 29 and love watching your videos. You are so inspiring 💞❤
Thank you so much!! ❤🥰🤗
Thank you for being so vulnerable. I admire that. 💜
Awe, thank you so much! ❤🥰
Ditto ❤
What a great video championing women practicing awareness in camaraderie. I always say/think this about other women… it’s really sad and needs to change. We could all lift each other up and we all experience the same things.
Thank you for starting this conversation and putting this topic into the universe Jenifer! ❤❤😊😊
This is so true.we need to respect people regardless of what they choose. I will be 40 next year and I am definitely getting fillers, botox, or lazers ect. Whats funny is they young people that get these same procedures get told how amazing they are and how beautiful they are. I think people get jealous of older people that look good. And for the people that decide not to get work done they are mean to them because they dont even know what natural aging looks like.
Lately, I've noticed more criticizing comments being made too. I even wrote a comment saying some criticize anything and everything. Dolly Parton had a prophetic dream and she made a song about it called, "Don't Make Me Have to Come Down There." and even so-called Christians came against her saying that God wouldn't give someone like her a prophetic dream and putting her down. I made a few comments defending her because I happen to like her. I think she's as real as they get. I grew up listening to her music. P.S.. To the ones criticizing others: "Don't Make Me Have to Come Down There!" GOD
I found you on TikTok, and my first thoughts were, yes! What a vibrant woman, she has an incredible energy. I had to follow you here. You’re on such a different level, many people will be jealous of you. It’s the price of beauty and brains ❤ I’m 26, and hope to be like you in 15+ years
I m about aging gracefully mind body and soul. I enjoy watching trends and fashion mixing old with the new and finding balance in life. I dont believe in looking frumpy and feeling frumpy. I want to feel energetic and empowered because why not???? And Im a lot smarter and sharper now than I was in my 20s!
Happy people do not leave rude comments. It’s a misery loves company thing. I feel sorry for trolls but I won’t put up with any of their stuff.
I agree with this video, some women I swear think" who does she think she is putting more effort than Me into her appearance" it comes down to envy and when another women puts in the effort it reminds them that they don't so its easier to just put them down
I think you’re 100% right on! It’s other women (mainly) who are doing the criticizing. The cause is likely insecurity and jealousy, and social media is a safe place to be mean and nasty. 😩
American society has outright demonized aging. I’m sure to profit from the millions they have people spending, just trying to feel accepted. Thank you for this video, Jenifer! You’re beautiful inside and out!
Jenifer..SO WELL SAID!! Thank you. It is VERY difficult dealing with the pressure put on us as "mature" women in today's world. I don't even know WHAT "aging gracefully" means anymore. We're all supposed to look like celebrities, get all kinds of procedures (whether surgical or non-invasive), keep up with the "K" family or much younger women..I just don't get it anymore. If you look at social media, everyone is copying everyone else..how they do their makeup, their hair, what they eat, how they dress, etc. Anyway, I'm ranting now; this is a hot button topic for me. I've struggled with this issue for a very long time. You're closer to my daughter's age, so obviously, I've been feeling "invisible", especially since menopause. Thank you again..take good care. Rosemarie 💖
You are so right I had a younger women made me try to feel bad for having hair extensions. I was 49 at the time. I’m 50 know. Thank you for this .
Let’s be real. Physical changes of Aging are irritating even if no one ever mentioned it. For me, A person who was always beautiful and got compliments every day, Looking old is sickening to me. It’s OK that we don’t want to look old. Who cares.
I’m happy I’m aging with care.
Yes, I could totally do without the physical changes as well! Lol! And I'm probably going to always fight it. 😂😘
@@JeniferJenkinsBeauty You’re a true beauty. Keep on keeping up with it,
if it makes you happy. I know I will ! Lol😍
The entire conversation about aging and the pressures we put on ourselves because of these ridiculous societal standards that just don’t seem to budge is extremely sad. Yet, men age like “fine wine” and look “distinguished” in the process 🙄. These double standards need to stop! I’m happy to be 51 and I don’t give a shit what anybody has to say about what I look like or how I live my life. I’m just happy to be here. We are all living on borrowed time. Bottom line. it would be great if we could all just support each other, especially women. We should be lifting each other up. Wow, what a thought!
I turned fifty in November and I’ve done nothing to myself and people think I’m in my twenties I’m dealing with more jealous people then when I was younger
Hello beautiful Jenifer 😊 What a great video!!! Thank you so very much ♥️
Good point on us picking ourselves apart. Im 35 and I found an old camera of me in my 20s. It broke my heart that I wasted those years picking myself apart and being so hard on myself. I wish I was more loving of myself. I've learned to always take that picture and wear what makes me feel good, to take care of myself and to LIVE! One day we will pass away and those pictures will be loving memories for our loved ones. They're not going to care about our crows feet
I have always worn makeup, fashionable clothes, and colored my hair, when shou,d i stop? Same day i stop breathing. You are gorgeous and your beauty and personality hide all flaws if there are any
Hi Jenifer you and I have so much in common and we think so much alike… I hate the aging process. I’ll be 56 July 10. I’ll try anything to continue looking youthful but still remain my age. Not looking to be 25 again but just want to look my best at my age. It’s not easy growing old gracefully. Love your videos.
I dont feel bad about myself when you talk about hollow temples. I just resignate with what you say and you always give advice and suggestion on how you fixed things you view as flaws and thats helpful
i love this! ive been watching your videos for a few months now, and i just think your wonderful! this video is something we all need to think about and be more gentle with eachother on! i have done this, especially after having children and being pretty heavy it killed me to see beautiful, fit, women around me, never bothered me in my life and it really made me take a look at the way i veiw myself and some of the reasons behind why we as women do these things! the pressure in this word as a woman to look and present perfectly is crushing, we all need some grace and gentleness!
Seriously feel the motivation for these women to say such, rude, mean, critical comments is they are miserable, jealous and bitter. Happy people and happy ladies don't try to bring other ladies down. Women should be supporting other women. My mom has always taught me, if you can't say anything nice, dont say anything at all. I always compliment other ladies, online and in person. Keep up the fabulous content ,, love your channel!!❤❤
Jenifer you are aging like Benjamin Button. You look awesome, not for your age but as a woman. All of the work you put into your skin care has really payed off. You also have an incredible body, the body of a 20 year old. I am 52 and I am trying to fight the aging process, I get botox, color my hair, I use retin-a and work out 5x a week. I like you like to dress young because I feel young, I am not trying to look like I am 20 or 30 but I still feel young in my heart. Like you said "I'm not trying to compete with 20 year olds" I just want to age the best way possible for me. Thanks for bringing up this topic you are a total sweetheart.
Beauty doesn't fade in my opinion. It changes. I try to remember it is a blessing to age. My Mom is 75 and is still beautiful. Does she look 20? No. But, why would she or anyone at 75? What is the saying? At 20 you have the face you were born with at 70 you have the face you deserve? Something like that. Inner beauty DOES shine through. I agree with you also that I am in no way trying to compete with younger woman, That is just crazy. They are living a different stage of life. Yes, I do some cosmetic things to look younger. But I always loved hair and makeup and fashion. It's who I am. It was for me then and it's for me now. But none of it would matter without my amazing family. So maybe I am a bit vain but my children and my marriage and my amazing friends are the only things that REALLY matter to me. ❤
I'm about to turn 39 and a couple of years ago I started to notice some changes and for me it's the same thing, it's looking in the mirror and your reflection starting to differ from how you feel on the inside. I still feel like I did in my late 20s to early 30s, probably even better since I actually live healthier lol. I'm still energetic and goofy and the same person and I want my outside to stay as close to the same as possible as well. I don't want to compete with 20 year olds either, I just want to look like myself. What's so terrible about that? What's so terrible about wanting to look our best?
I have found that one of the greatest things about being 68 is that I am no longer looking outside of myself to define my value. I focus on my health, and spirituality, feeling great and looking good but truly not checking in with anyone’s evaluation of how I’m doing and it’s so peaceful.
I love that! ❤🥰
Although i agree, we cannot forget that this obsession about anti- aging comes from women being valued only for their physical attributes. I don't agree with other women criticizing or talking about another woman but i do thinkis good to recognize that we are taught this since birth. And men only treating us decently if they find us attractive is another factor ...
I’m a realist. I don’t know if it will ever be a level playing field between men and women as far as aging goes. Men can look their age, gray hair and hair loss, pot belly, wrinkles and they can still be desired. We have to put sooo much effort into everything so we can appear young. It works as long as we don’t actually look our age. I think men were wired to be attracted to young women as they’re the ones who reproduce. If most men were attracted to women that are 50+, the species would stop. Once it is clear a woman is beyond child bearing years, she will definitely see that men desire her less.
I am a woman. I don’t like this, but I like to see things as they are. It makes sense since men can reproduce at any age. We’ve all seen old men drooling over young women 😢 My dad did that, but not in a vulgar way. I would see his eyes when a young gorgeous women was around. It bothered me since I knew no woman his own age could complete with the beauty of youth. Beauty is power and it gets laced in with our identity. It is super hard to watch it fade.
George Bernard Shaw was the one who said, “Youth is wasted on the young.” It implies we get better and wiser as we get older, but we look the best when we’re young.
Love this, great content for us women of all ages 👏
Is aging really that bad?
We all have someone in the aging family, and the problems intertwine with our conscience about supporting or putting them into assisted living.
My dad lived into his 90s and outlived ALL of his friends. He always exercised and was mentally acute his whole life. On his 90th birthday, I asked, "Dad, don't you wish you were 21 again?". His reply was the wisdom of the ages. He said, "No, I want to be 60 again. Those were the best years of my life. I was retired, fit, and had financial freedom; all my friends were still alive. In my 20s, I had no money and still so much toil, worry, and heartache ahead of me." I have remembered that my whole life, and now, about to turn 60 myself, I am looking forward to it. Thanks, Dad! Just one final gift you left me with at the end of a life full of them.
Tsai, Levenson & Carstensen, 2000). Documented personality traits remain largely stable into old age. People who perceive their friends and family members as supportive during times of need have a stronger sense of meaning in their lives; they live with a broader purpose, adhering to a value system that fits within the larger social world. And in late life, as at earlier times, the experience of negative emotions affects physiological functioning and, ultimately, physical health.
In old age, social spheres may also influence cognitive functioning. Many studies have found that older adults embedded in strong social networks and high levels of social activity are less likely than their more socially disengaged peers to experience declines in cognitive functioning. According to van Gelder, 2006, Older men who live alone at any point during five years, for example, are twice as likely to experience cognitive declines as those who live with others. If that is true, I should now be in fall, but with every mental and physical test asserted on me, including surgeries, I have Passed to date with flying colors. On the flip side, grief certainly took its toll on my sanity. I am sure had it not been for the fashion industry and youtube creators who often fire me up. I would probably be more dysfunctional. As recently noted over Kat Wonders, the 'girls' certainly play their part in riling me into fervent conversation topics.
Barg 2005, the likelihood of grief from losing family or friends increases with age. Loneliness is strongly related to depression among older adults; right now, one of my safeguards that inadvertently turned in my favor is the creators on youtube and the fashion shows with live feeds and traveling. Medical opinion favors such a strange interaction as healthy. After all, what man wins an argument with a woman?
The' girls' I write about regularly [19-29 years] often talk at the dinner table openly about their dreams of being dominated by an older woman in the bedroom. Sacha plainly stated she would beg for the chance. Such desires are not uncommon, though for me, at 70 years, I could not manage despite my leg being pulled to the contrary by the company.
The Guardian writes, Cougar is a term used to describe an older woman who uses the same predatory sexual techniques as men, focusing on members of the opposite sex who are much younger than her. Think of The Graduate's Mrs. Robinson, updated without psychological hang-ups. A person with such a sexual preference is a gerontophile or gerontosexual. The word gerontophilia was coined in 1901 by psychiatrist Richard von Krafft-Ebing. It derives from Greek: Geron, meaning "old person," and philia, meaning "friendship."
I told the 'girls' Jennifer that an older woman's attention boosted their confidence and self-esteem. Others recognized that older women have more life experience, emotional stability, and grounding and can offer honesty and different perspectives. They all disagreed strongly. I quote the census of opinions, 'the very thought of being told what to do and when to do it in the bedroom is enough to make any of us pass out.' There you have aged gracefully in 2023.
“You can live to be a hundred if you give up all things that make you want to live to be a hundred.” - Woody Allen
Hi Jennifer 🌷 I'm 70 yrs young ...yes I get a little Botox between my eyes ...not to look younger but less tired when I'm not tired ....love your videos . I personally feel ladys should do whatever they wanna do to feel/look better & improved ...BTW a smile goes a long way to lift our face 🥰 I guess their mother never told them " if you can't something nice ...don't say anything at all " and what is the alternative to not aging...I'll rather be alive & enjoying my family 👪 ❤
I love what you said about a smile! I think a genuine smile can make someone instantly look more beautiful and youthful. ❤🥰
@@JeniferJenkinsBeauty me, too 🥰
You seem like such a sweet soul! Thank you for your honesty and opinions, I love your videos.
Well I am fifty years old . I think I look good for my age maybe someone else might not agree but I have had people say after I said my age they would say oh you look great I thought look in your 30's I do stuff for myself I don't like it when I see any one making a nasty comment about women and there ageing we do what we want to do that makes us happy. I don't do Botox or fillers or nothing really but if another else wants to they are fine with doing that that what makes them happy . I just to say one thing we as woman don't need to be so hard on each other we are all beautiful inside and out hopefully that makes sense . Always enjoy your videos . And your very pretty Jenifer. Have a great day 😊💞
Thank you so much Debra! 🌺 And you're right, we all posses beauty and we should all age the way we see fit. ❤🥰
Hi Jennifer, In one of your videos long ago you said your husband was looking at you and you asked him if he noticed how old you were, He said, I was actually thinking how lucky I am to have such a beautiful wife. We are almost exactly alike. Thank you for this. xoDiane
Yes, something like that. I'm not exactly sure what I said, but it was definitely self deprecating, and you're right, that's how he responded. I even remember exactly where I was standing when he said it. It made me fee so good! I have an amazing husband. I hope you do too! ❤🤗
I love your personality it's so relatable. Also love your young spirit. Thanks for making videos.
Thank you for this video, it’s such an important conversation!
For me (as I approach 40) I do notice subtle aging in my body. My back hurts a lot more and I have to work harder to keep up my physique. I am also learning that I need to filter out all the negative influences in life and only let the 'positive' in. It's about choosing what you want each day (if you're lucky enough to have choices). As far as looks, I always say just do what makes you happy! Women are constantly being judged. I feel good when I dress up and put on a little makeup, do my hair, etc. I feel good when I express myself through words, clothes, and makeup. I think there's an artist inside all of us that wants to express that voice, however it comes out. The nice thing about getting older is you start listening to that voice.
I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said. Women, generally, are very critical of other women. It's comical too, considering all the hype around "women supporting women." There is much emphasis on the outer woman rather than the inner. True beauty radiates outward. A really beautiful woman is one who is kind, loving, and willing and eager to leave others better than when she encountered them.
Love you dont worry about this . Dont let anyone put you in a box. Be a figther , remember people might be jealous of you and try to make you feel bad about yourself . All hater be positive and stop bullying my friend .
Well said. You touched my heart. I'm 61, I eat right, exercise. This is a struggle. You are beautiful body and heart. I love your videos. My family is always forefront, but I want to look and feel my best
Hi jenifer, you mentioned one of the things you do is to nurture your marraige. I think it would be a good video idea to talk about how you do that, advice etc 😀
You are rocking this maturing thing 🖐Thank you for sharing your take on it😘I 💘your IG! You are an amazing dancer 💃P.S.: I have discovered the joy of AUDIObooks, I've been flying though "book shelfs" 📚Silly metaphysical debate: When you listened to the book, could you say that you had read it? 🤣🤔 Keep up the good work Jen, xx
I love this video! Four hours would be amazing btw :) Beauty never fades...my lovely Mom at age 66 is the most beautiful woman to me. I'm serious, beauty is absolutely not fading. It's just some volume and such things...btw...meditation is so good to relax your body, mind and soul. After a deep relaxation I usually feel and look healthier and more "beautiful" or better said at ease. If you can't quiet your mind during meditation, count backwards from 200 to 100 and then again...focus on relaxing your face muscles...you'll start drifting away with practice. I'm a tacher for autogenous training so I can definetely rcommend practicng. It will eventually work out sooner than you think. Have a wonderful week!
I love your ten things and wrote it down for myself thank you!! I confess, after watching the video where you talked about your temples and eyes I put the latest video I made as private because I felt like I didn’t look my best in it. It is hard to be ok with how I look and to enjoy putting myself out there to do fun things like videos and not be embarrassed. ❤
Oh no, you shouldn't have done that! I'm sorry. 🥺 I just went over to your channel and it looks like you started making videos and then you stopped 2 yrs ago. Why did you stop? It IS hard to pur yourself out there sometimes, but it gets easier the more you do it. Just like everything else. I subscribed just in case you decide to return. ❤🥰
How kind! Thank you 😊I do think back that I should have continued! Thanks for the encouragement 😍I really love your generous heart, it comes through in your videos. Now I need to post a video! 😂
I honestly stopped because I thought the quality of my videos was bad and because I didn’t like how I looked in them.
Hi Jennifer! I've bee following you prob since your first video. I love all of them! :) Anyway, I just wanted to say I appreciate this video so much. I agree with you 100%. I wish people weren't so rude to each other either. I'm like you too and will point out my flaws to friends and family. All the time. I think cuz I hate my flaws, obviously and it's a nervous reaction. I just start rambling my flaws then I feel better. I don't feel upset when you point out your flaws. It's your body. You can speak your mind as you want but I think you are too harsh on yourself. You take care of yourself and eat well and look amazing. I'm glad that there are caring people out there like yourself. All the negative we hear on a day to day basis gets us down butt hearing positive and sweet words like you've just said can truly cheer me up and make my day. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Jennifer. :)
Hello there gorgeous Jennifer 👋
Look I’m in the middle of doing a project with a friend to photograph women over 50 with all of their grays,stretch marks,saggy skin and yes cellulite (😬🙀)basically ALL there beauty that they endured through out their lives and I call it the Silver Vixons!! These women that I photograph just want to have this for themselves to reflect on and to have a beautiful memory of a womens life.
I wanted to do this because when I was a teen I remember a mother told a stunning young woman that if you are called pretty or beautiful when your young then that is the DEATH of you because psychologically you will have to live up to those words FOREVER!!! Yikes… right! So I teach my daughter to be STRONG, FUNNY, KIND and always DO THE RIGHT THING in any situations and be your best self inside and out.
Loved this video and keep it up cause all of us women truly need to hear positiveness every day❤
Oh, I just love this comment! Thank you for thaking the time to leave it! I loved when you said, "...to have a beautiful memory of a woman's life." That is so wonderful!
And I think that mother was right when she said that it's the kiss of Death because psychologically you will feel the need to live up to those words forever. I've never heard it put that way, but I do believe there is truth in that. And I think it's wonderful that you teach your daughters the importance of being beautiful on the inside because at the end of the day....and at the end of our lives, it's truely all that really matters. ❤🥰🤗
I think it’s ok that you point out your insecurities. It’s what makes you real… we all have our pros and cons about ourselves ❤
Thank you Glory! ❤🥰
I think you’re my spirit sister 😂🌪️🤍love you Jenifer!
Thank you for sharing Jennifer. You are so intelligent, kind considerate, and of course, beautiful! Not all your content appeals to me, our eating styles are different and our dressing styles are different. But I thoroughly enjoy your wisdom content. The opinions you share are so well thought out! And, of course, I love your skin care and make up tidbits.
I do not think there is anything wrong with wanting to take care of oneself especially if it makes you feel better. Health and happiness with or without wrinkles is a wonderful way to age. I think aging gracefully is not being "hung up" on it.
That's a good point...not being hung up on it. I also think aging gracefully has less to do with looks and more to do with being happy, content and grateful as we age. ❤🤗
We have to remember that these people that makes such unkind comments, obviously don't have the Lord in their heart. One time we put our beautiful Christmas display on UA-cam, and got a thumbs down. Who in their right mind would ever give the Lord a thumbs-down, but Satan. We can only pray for these people to find our Lord. God bless you, Jennifer, for being there for all of us women. 🙏🤗💖
As someone who has chosen not to intervene much with Botox, fillers, or other treatments, I have had to accept (at 37) that I’m not going to hear anymore how young I look for my age. I used to hear it all the time but now I’m probably just going to “look my age” and that’s perfectly fine! Unfortunately, lots of people don’t seem to think it’s fine and believe it means I’ve “given up.”
I also want to add that I think it’s great to use interventions as well, it’s just not for me. Can’t we all just look our best and not worry about the age part? ❤
Men try to keep themselves looking their best for their age. Or at least most of them do. But there are some women who try to continue to act and look like they are 25 years old even if they’re 35,45 and 55. Those are the ones that are trying to hard. And then there’s others that don’t try at all and they can do a better job at taking care of themselves. It to me the best balance is to try to keep yourself together for whatever age you are and that will be the best balance in the healthiest for all.
I'll be 61 years old this Friday and I think I look better now then I did in my late 30's and early 40's (I think I looked my worst at that time). I am lucky to have inherited what I call the young looking genes from my parents. I have been told by many people that I look way younger than my actual age and actually I feel younger then my actual age. I do try to stay physically active, eat right and take care of my skin the best I can. I'm not trying to look 20, nor do I want to be 20, I just want to look the best I can at my age. My biggest compliment comes from my husband of 39 years, who still thinks I look beautiful and have a fabulous figure. He is the one who counts the most! I loved your list at the end and agree with them completely. Thanks for sharing, really enjoyed it.
I really appreciate your honesty, and you are completely correct.
People are allowed to make fun of and criticize women who color their hair or dress "young"
But if you make one comment about women who are gray and dress in a less than attractive way, then you're being rude and catty