Talking about sex when you’re not engaged in it seems to be the best time to talk. Communication is paramount in a healthy and equal sexual relationship. It’s amazing to have a partner that is free to participate equally in the relationship.
This was a great discussion. So many conflicts, expectations, fears, shame, and anxieties are directly related to not communicating with the one person in your life that should be the easiest person to talk with. If one is embarrassed talking about such personal things, talking about it once even if you are uncomfortable with the topic will normalize is and make is much easier once you realize it was taken seriously by your partner. These types of discussions, which are limited to you and your partner are one of the elements that define the relations as being fundamentally different from than friendships you have. Once you have that conversation once, you will wonder why you were so reluctant in the past. Voicing your secret fantasies for example is freeing you from shame or fear.
Great topic! Married 18yrs here. Pre kids (5.5yrs) it was every night like just an assumed thing once we got in bed. Maybe one night off here and there. She brought toys into the bedroom fun and it made it fun and we figured out what each one of us really liked. After kids we push it off until Thursday because there's so much going on early in the week. Now after almost 20yrs together bedroom fun is still great. Straight to business though. She drinks wine to get relaxed, we hang out to set the mood, then when it's time for bed it's all good. 2-3 times weekly between Thursday and Sunday night is our average. My edging game is on point. She gets hers then me, or together depending on her ovulation days. We're keyed in on natural family planning to avoid "accidents". With a lot of life going on that's plenty for each of us and we look forward to it each week.
Sounds perfect. I actually cringed when she said that you have to schedule time for saturdays - that's exactly what I did with my ex and I was frustrated the rest of the week. Holiday trips were the worst, sometimes we had no privacy so it could cut to once per month. Tropical weather, skimpy clothed beautiful ladies all over and blue balls... ouch.
Saturdays are THE ONLY day that my boyfriend and I can get together and have sex or even not have sex..just talk..videos like this are great!! For both of us!!
Wow. Sounds to good to be true. Did a 100 intelligence officials sign of on this? And a 1000% the virus didn’t come from the biological weapons lab down the street from the wet market?
This is probably the first time, in my life of 38 years (almost) that, I felt that I am a sane man to think and be expressive about sexual pleasures and experiences and to encourage every woman I met and have indulged in eroticism. This is so important, to be open, share, explain, learn, to educate, to talk, to express and to encourage to the same about this. This is a relationship, short or long doesn't matters, this why it is called intimacy. It is sooo important for me to feel and see that my partner takes part in this actively and not because they have but, because want to. Thank you for this. It just helps me feel sane, educated and rational human. Please keep uploading your videos.
"Short or long doesn't matter" On the contrary. I feel the length of the relationship does matter, because one is obviously happier if they and their partner are in a long term committed and happy relationship, and the sex is better and deeper, and much more personal and intimate. Sex won't mean shit if it's just a one-night-stand, or if your partner is an FWB.
22 years married. Definitely the typical mismatch in libido. Your videos do help offer ideas to help. Toys are always fun for both. You said it best, communication is key. Men need to pay attention to her breathing, muscle contraction, body language etc. It doesn't always have to be verbal.
When it comes to understanding how to better support your partner in their search for sexual pleasure would it be beneficial to also try to know what senses provide trigger, stimulation and greatest pleasure to that particular person? I love that you mention that every person is different and one size doesn't fit all. In my 25 yrs of marriage I have learned to learn from my partner what pleasures her more when we are out of the bedroom than when we are there, I think that's what intimacy in the sexual term means in other words the intercourse is the peak and culmination of the moments we share during all the time we are together. The natural cause and effect
@@alphavegas1 Bruh, to be blunt, your comment here is violent. Consent is very important and is a good way to be in healthy relationship with others. you did not ask if you could label these two people as "smoking hot". In addition, they did not ask for your approval nor validation as to how they look like. yes your comment is in the category of violence towards women, and that needs to stop, and i would like to invite you to stop and help other men to stop to this behavior and other behaviors that stem from and support larger cultural systems that teach men to act this way. No on gets to go around labeling people and telling people who they are or what they look like, that is violence. period.
@@tonican7544 Bruh, to be blunt, your comment here is violent. Consent is very important and is a good way to be in healthy relationship with others. you did not ask if you could label these two people as "smart and beautiful". In addition, they did not ask for your approval nor validation as to how they look like. yes your comment is in the category of violence towards women, and that needs to stop, and i would like to invite you to stop and help other men to stop to this behavior and other behaviors that stem from and support larger cultural systems that teach men to act this way. No on gets to go around labeling people and telling people who they are or what they look like, that is violence. period.
There is a 20 year difference between me and my partner ( hate that word ) we were told it would never work, well "she" and myself have been together for 10 years and still going strong, because as you say in your interview communication is the most important thing. and she is sound asleep and I am up at 3am watching UA-cam.
I am still Twenty five years old and get a major problem. Getting it up isn`t a problem, but my problem is how to sustain a lasting interaction. I put into practice this ED treatment plan and boy it really works. The treatment plan was too good to be true for me initially, however later discovered that it is effective and it also stands true to its claims.
Scheduling these moments is a great way to avoid the rejections when one or the other is not in concert with each other in a moments sexual desire. Being male and somewhat shy abour sharing my interest for fear of rejection, the "scheduling" creates a realistic expectation of this pleasurable time together. Timing and frequency is something that you work out in a relationship - be as open as possible when making these kind of communications to minimize miscommunications and failed encounters. Another great thing about scheduling is that it leads to more occurences of these sexual encounters - for us, we decided that we would strive for a once per week coupling so it's not hard to build that into your schedule and less random.
@@Kmaczzz Volvo owner here, in my opinion because vehicular promiscuity was so frowned upon 50 years ago it was hard to talk about how to pleasure your Volvo correctly without people shaming you for having sex with an inanimate object.
Its really hard to take anyone serious when they say "Vulva owners" instead of just saying women. Had to tune out and find someone who actually accepts reality.
Most of the sexual perceptions that inhibits spontaneous sexual relationships originate from an era where conservative approaches put taboos on many things. Now we are living in a more open and liberal environment where these topics are more part of an acceptable culture.
TOP TIP: As a lubricant, we use coconut oil and it's great! We both love it, the smell is great, it tastes good... and it doesn't seem to affect condoms or cause vaginal infections. And it's CHEAP! We got a huge jar at Costco about 3 years ago and it's still 3/4 full! Why isn't EVERYONE using that instead of buying extremely expensive pharmacy lube?!🤔 And of course, we only use PURE coconut oil (sold for cooking). So there's no doubting the safety of it for viginal or penile use. NOTE: Don't cook with that stuff! It's extremely bad for you!
You both are 100% right! Communication is definitely where it is at! Expecting someone to read your mind or body language, definitely doesn't work 😕 I don't care for the word date night, had a lady that would tell me that going out the door in the morning and to tired to do anything when she home!!! I love to be a little more spontaneous!! The biggest and worst the about porn in most cases, is that it is way to one sided, the woman is never really satisfied, it all noise. I guess it's fine if your an animal, because that what they do!!!! Your both right, do a Q&A and do a lot of exploring, fine the feel good spots, it's a turn on when you do!!!! And then you can forget this BS about size matters. You pretty much confirm it, the stimulating is on the out side for both parties. Your both very informative and very attractive Lady's, you could almost ass for sisters. I know for a fact we can all uses a little more education in this department and thank you for not sugar coating it!!! My ears are ready for you next one!!!! Lol 😆 Thank You Both!!!! XOXO 😘
OMG! I'm so sorry about the missed spelled word before sister, you could pass for sisters. I'm 74 so that my excuse, if Joe can get by with it, so can I. Lol 😆 Sorry Lady !
One thing I see ppl complain about when they transition from casual sex in dating scenarios to partnership is, that sex gets less. But somehow they forget that just by the basics of the dynamic, that is normal. If you make an appointment with a person specifically for intercourse and schedule it, then naturally, each time you meet, you are there for this purpose, possibly with different ppl, and it works. When you're in a dedicated partnership, you have everyday life with each other and unlike "dating" or "casual hookups" you're now expecting the same frequency as that with many ppl, or that with this person when both of you specifically made time for dating (which you likely now don't), chances are you too are investing less into the relationship but do not notice where (e.g. emotional needs, romance, communication). You possibly also move two households together, which means each of you often ends up doing for more than one person. And although there are times when that make it easier and faster, the mental load and the process of doing things, can slow you down, because now you can no longer fly through the day by your own impulses only, but have to include and communicate with another person. Your contact is no longer concentrated on just the fluffy positive aspects either, but also the tough life stuff. You're also learning each other (straining at beginning) OR drop the ball on doing that (negativity increases as your needs change but your head cannon about what the needs of the other person, never changes along) There's pros and cons to everything. And each scenario has an own set of challenges that asks for an own set of skills and efforts from everyone involved. You can be good at dating but suck at running a long-term partnership well. They need separate learning. And that also applies for dopaminergic (reward circuit hormone) casual sex vs. oxytocin (bonding hormone) loaded committed partnership sex. Both, if done well, can be great.
I started questioning when she used the term "vulva owners" but I left when she said gender is not binary. Just because someone is "intelligent" doesn't make them right.
great video but in a way I feel like most of this is centered around what a man can do better for their female partner and very little centered around what a female partner can do better for their male partner you can't say it should be a two-way street and an enjoyed experience on both sides if most the points are about what the male partner can do better just because studies show females are often more sexually frustrated doesn't mean that they're the only ones not feeling pleased or feeling that their sexual desires are being met
Doc, Ive seen about ten of your videos, I found them very professional and informative but it gets to a point where everything you say works ok but please dont forget the emotional part of the human sexuality. Maybe youtube is selecting what I am suppose to be watching but honestly, when I hear specialist about sex not mentioning love, romance, kindness, honesty, firiendship, music, romantic movies, it really makes me sad, because sex is not an isolated activity from emotions for the vast majority of humans. Maybe some people are thinking a good sex life is about sexual knowledge only, about anatomy, scheduling, technology, pornography. You mentioned doing things together but specifically being romantic, honest, faithful and kind is the key to human pleasure. Thank you.
One thing that was a bit of a failure on Dr. Rena's part. She said that vaseline should not be used as a lubricant and that you should not use lubricants with containing parrafin, but failed to expalin what is the issue or risk in using those! Will they bring harm or death to my partner? Have I been hurting my partner all along? PLEASE EXPLAIN!
This is a great discussion and a great channel. Leeza said something here that caught my attention. She indicated that sex can change the ph of the vagina.....Can you talk about this? Especially, is there a link regarding getting yeast infections after sex? This happens to me all the time. I have started a relationship with someone after a 5 year stop in dating. I have been prone to infections my whole life. But, when I stop having sex, they go away. Soon as I resume activity, it happens again, immediately after sex. Yes, I have verified with my doctor that it is a yeast infection and nothing else. But, I have always been in long term monogamous relationships....only four main relationships in my life, and never had casual sex. In all of these relationships, I have experienced this phenomena. It seems like eventually my body gets used to my partner and infections decrease, but I am confused regarding what is going on and how to fix this. I am thinking that I have always been prone to these infections...probably because I was the antibiotic generation....it was used long term for me as a teen for acne!....too late now...and if sex changes my ph, then the yeast gets activated? I don't know. But it is pretty discouraging. I can't imagine I am the only woman who experiences this. Can you talk about this and vaginal ph?
They are talking about sex it mean they are liberated 😂😂 you Little liberals you what life you are living seriously ? Talking about sex mean liberation come on man
@@ElecWarBeats Did you even watch the video? Probably not. There were a few refreshing non-main stream ideas that they expressed, which means they are enlightened = liberated. 🖕🏻
Whether it’s ritual or worship whatever help you climax bonds you to the object of affection and forms soulties and emotional attachments so self pleasure or porn can be dangerous and cause a person to have to compete with artificial intelligence love is the best Stimulation in marriage 💙
Foreplay is key. Seduction.. the way you say and use your words.. the way you touch uncommon areas of the body..a sexual encounter or process can begin long before the actual action.. i’ve asked some of my female friends if they have experienced various things and majority of them say no. Lol its sick..
Very awesome points and tips you know very well said those of us who are in a relationship over 36 + is lots of experience but we still learn good narration and advice🙋♂️👍👌👊
Basically, the attraction of the two for each other in all respects. Next, the liking for each other or bondage of attraction for the two. The attraction might only apply among the two only and not anyone else. Next comes the intimate bondage and that sparks the excitement in bed.
Just one advice to both - Dr. Malik and Leena - considering human intelligence and psychology - usage of technology must be taught properly before advising for its usage. E.g. Porn is a product of Internet proximity and now we are dealing with FAP or NoFAP or porn addiction. P.S.: THINK 1000 times before giving suggestion and MUST give proper guidelines because your videos reach to millions.
Get off the meds, been married 45 years, laughter is the best aphrodisiac for staying together, still going stronger and loving each other more every day.
There are only two sets of DNA which make up our genders. Male and female … I agree with the notion that men and women can both be sexually dominant or one more sensitive/emotional. I think a gender stereotype is super dated. Many real men can express their feelings and are sensitive 👍 Many times when sex is brought up in an relationship someone gets overly sensitive and takes things the wrong way. Relationships need to find ways to communicate without getting defensive. Thanks for another great video
Thanks for sharing information and need little correction too. In India people are much aware about Lubricant and Coconut oil so please change your old mindset. 👍
Yes,my friend from Pakistan( I'm UK) I told him about coconut oil,he knew it was very good!! I use it alot now, better than any other, it's clean,good for skin and gives intense orgasms.
I had a Volvo once but it had some starting problems, so I got under it an it felt claustrophobic. I tried to lubricate it but don't think I got it on the right part. Can you help?
I disagree that men do not want women to be sexual initiators. In many erotic movies and erotic literature, the woman is the initiator of sexual interactions. If these behaviors were not desirable, stories featuring female sexual aggression wouldn't be told.
I could not even imagine men would do that until many of my lady friends told me about it. For me it's at least 80% of the fun to make her come. Repeatedly if possible.
Stop referring to your husband or boyfriend or fiance as your "partner". Detectives and tennis players have partners. Oral sex is not sex. It's oral sex.
how do you both look like sisters? I appreciate your efforts to educate Indian women to be aggressive in play is good, otherwise usually they are little boring.
I highly HIGHLY recommend regular kitchen Coconut oil. It’s natural, very effective and taste good … didn’t know you could use a Olive 🫒 Oil … but now that I know … maybe a delicious Extra Virgin Oil from Spain 🇪🇸…. ???
Short interview with an important message to all audiences.. Key words be Open ,Talk with your partner like dislikes,No prejudices tabus about sex,.Use toys pornography but be conscious ,LOVE and deep Care and SEX gonna be with tons of feelings and desire becoming true real pleasure..
Talking about sex when you’re not engaged in it seems to be the best time to talk. Communication is paramount in a healthy and equal sexual relationship. It’s amazing to have a partner that is free to participate equally in the relationship.
If you truly love your partner you will learn their love language. Sex is not love it's an action of love.
This was a great discussion. So many conflicts, expectations, fears, shame, and anxieties are directly related to not communicating with the one person in your life that should be the easiest person to talk with. If one is embarrassed talking about such personal things, talking about it once even if you are uncomfortable with the topic will normalize is and make is much easier once you realize it was taken seriously by your partner. These types of discussions, which are limited to you and your partner are one of the elements that define the relations as being fundamentally different from than friendships you have. Once you have that conversation once, you will wonder why you were so reluctant in the past. Voicing your secret fantasies for example is freeing you from shame or fear.
Great topic! Married 18yrs here. Pre kids (5.5yrs) it was every night like just an assumed thing once we got in bed. Maybe one night off here and there. She brought toys into the bedroom fun and it made it fun and we figured out what each one of us really liked. After kids we push it off until Thursday because there's so much going on early in the week. Now after almost 20yrs together bedroom fun is still great. Straight to business though. She drinks wine to get relaxed, we hang out to set the mood, then when it's time for bed it's all good. 2-3 times weekly between Thursday and Sunday night is our average. My edging game is on point. She gets hers then me, or together depending on her ovulation days. We're keyed in on natural family planning to avoid "accidents". With a lot of life going on that's plenty for each of us and we look forward to it each week.
Sounds perfect. I actually cringed when she said that you have to schedule time for saturdays - that's exactly what I did with my ex and I was frustrated the rest of the week. Holiday trips were the worst, sometimes we had no privacy so it could cut to once per month. Tropical weather, skimpy clothed beautiful ladies all over and blue balls... ouch.
Saturdays are THE ONLY day that my boyfriend and I can get together and have sex or even not have sex..just talk..videos like this are great!! For both of us!!
Wow. Sounds to good to be true. Did a 100 intelligence officials sign of on this? And a 1000% the virus didn’t come from the biological weapons lab down the street from the wet market?
This is probably the first time, in my life of 38 years (almost) that, I felt that I am a sane man to think and be expressive about sexual pleasures and experiences and to encourage every woman I met and have indulged in eroticism. This is so important, to be open, share, explain, learn, to educate, to talk, to express and to encourage to the same about this. This is a relationship, short or long doesn't matters, this why it is called intimacy. It is sooo important for me to feel and see that my partner takes part in this actively and not because they have but, because want to. Thank you for this. It just helps me feel sane, educated and rational human. Please keep uploading your videos.
"Short or long doesn't matter"
On the contrary. I feel the length of the relationship does matter, because one is obviously happier if they and their partner are in a long term committed and happy relationship, and the sex is better and deeper, and much more personal and intimate. Sex won't mean shit if it's just a one-night-stand, or if your partner is an FWB.
22 years married. Definitely the typical mismatch in libido. Your videos do help offer ideas to help. Toys are always fun for both. You said it best, communication is key. Men need to pay attention to her breathing, muscle contraction, body language etc. It doesn't always have to be verbal.
I divorced after 20 years and having thought of it afterwards, should have done it 10 years prior but hanged on due to the kids
Why not women pay attention to men???
Women do all satisfy men???
Loved how they both explained everything crystal clearly. Couple should communicate with each other in order to fulfill their sexual desires.
true
@@wildae. Very True
havent got time for communcation, viagra got no time pause button
Not exactly. What is that "people with vulva" nonsense... Really ticked me off.
@@dingdong2103That’s because you’re a dingdong.
When it comes to understanding how to better support your partner in their search for sexual pleasure would it be beneficial to also try to know what senses provide trigger, stimulation and greatest pleasure to that particular person? I love that you mention that every person is different and one size doesn't fit all. In my 25 yrs of marriage I have learned to learn from my partner what pleasures her more when we are out of the bedroom than when we are there, I think that's what intimacy in the sexual term means in other words the intercourse is the peak and culmination of the moments we share during all the time we are together. The natural cause and effect
I started to watch but stopped when I realized I’ll probably never need this information because I’m forever single. Keep up the good work tho!
Better get on tinder lol.
For a man in 2021, being single and alone is a great blessing.
Can i know u more
@@belloabdulkadrp5473 sure
Loved collaborating with you Rena - thank you so much for having me on your channel 💖
Great video. I subscribed. Also you are smoking hot!!
you a real smart and very beutiful woman.
Welcome to our group 😉😍😘❤
@@alphavegas1 Bruh, to be blunt, your comment here is violent. Consent is very important and is a good way to be in healthy relationship with others. you did not ask if you could label these two people as "smoking hot". In addition, they did not ask for your approval nor validation as to how they look like. yes your comment is in the category of violence towards women, and that needs to stop, and i would like to invite you to stop and help other men to stop to this behavior and other behaviors that stem from and support larger cultural systems that teach men to act this way. No on gets to go around labeling people and telling people who they are or what they look like, that is violence. period.
@@tonican7544 Bruh, to be blunt, your comment here is violent. Consent is very important and is a good way to be in healthy relationship with others. you did not ask if you could label these two people as "smart and beautiful". In addition, they did not ask for your approval nor validation as to how they look like. yes your comment is in the category of violence towards women, and that needs to stop, and i would like to invite you to stop and help other men to stop to this behavior and other behaviors that stem from and support larger cultural systems that teach men to act this way. No on gets to go around labeling people and telling people who they are or what they look like, that is violence. period.
I'm a Volvo owner.
Nobody “owns” their genitals. They came até no extra cost and are just as much a part of you as an arm or lung.
Did you lease with the option to buy or you went and bought it right away?
You better lube it regularly and frequently.
How much was it?
Well spotted 🤣🤣🤣🤣
There is a 20 year difference between me and my partner ( hate that word ) we were told it would never work, well "she" and myself have been together for 10 years and still going strong, because as you say in your interview communication is the most important thing. and she is sound asleep and I am up at 3am watching UA-cam.
I am still Twenty five years old and get a major problem. Getting it up isn`t a problem, but my problem is how to sustain a lasting interaction. I put into practice this ED treatment plan and boy it really works. The treatment plan was too good to be true for me initially, however later discovered that it is effective and it also stands true to its claims.
Scheduling these moments is a great way to avoid the rejections when one or the other is not in concert with each other in a moments sexual desire. Being male and somewhat shy abour sharing my interest for fear of rejection, the "scheduling" creates a realistic expectation of this pleasurable time together. Timing and frequency is something that you work out in a relationship - be as open as possible when making these kind of communications to minimize miscommunications and failed encounters. Another great thing about scheduling is that it leads to more occurences of these sexual encounters - for us, we decided that we would strive for a once per week coupling so it's not hard to build that into your schedule and less random.
Both of you girls are highly intelligent and informative with a good delivery, but my god you girls are straight gorgeous fire together.
Why couldn't we have had these kind of conversations fifty years ago.
Vulva owners ?
If you can't get it up tie a stick on and keep on trucking brother
@@GK-op4oc Volvo owners?
@@Kmaczzz It's so Saab.
@@Kmaczzz Volvo owner here, in my opinion because vehicular promiscuity was so frowned upon 50 years ago it was hard to talk about how to pleasure your Volvo correctly without people shaming you for having sex with an inanimate object.
You ladies are amazing …
Doing so much good to the world.
Two beautiful intelligent women
What more could a man want ,??
Great video.☀️
Great content and very informative. Bonus that it’s brought to you by two Intelligent and Breathtakingly Beautiful women ♥️ Thank You 😊
I was a Volvo owner for a few years,and you're right, it never was my main source of sexual pleasure.
😂
LOL you have given me a good belly laugh !👍🏽 must admit that I needed to read your comment a third time before it sank in to my brain.
@@davidott1484 LOL, I just thought it was such a bizarre phrase, ''vulva owner'. , what the heck is next!?
Pro tip: Unplug one of the 4 spark plugs - vibration ensues.
Its really hard to take anyone serious when they say "Vulva owners" instead of just saying women. Had to tune out and find someone who actually accepts reality.
Most of the sexual perceptions that inhibits spontaneous sexual relationships originate from an era where conservative approaches put taboos on many things. Now we are living in a more open and liberal environment where these topics are more part of an acceptable culture.
TOP TIP: As a lubricant, we use coconut oil and it's great! We both love it, the smell is great, it tastes good... and it doesn't seem to affect condoms or cause vaginal infections. And it's CHEAP! We got a huge jar at Costco about 3 years ago and it's still 3/4 full! Why isn't EVERYONE using that instead of buying extremely expensive pharmacy lube?!🤔
And of course, we only use PURE coconut oil (sold for cooking). So there's no doubting the safety of it for viginal or penile use. NOTE: Don't cook with that stuff! It's extremely bad for you!
You two could be sisters! Lol great collab! Thanks for the content as always from you both! 👏😊
Well done! Perfect interview!
Exactly how this subject should be discussed.
I learned a lot from this video. Thanks Rena. Both Rena and Leeza are so sweet.
My favorite Doctor is back on UA-cam
Great video with excellent delivery as well from the both of you!!! Thanks a ton to you both for these great points.
You both are 100% right! Communication is definitely where it is at! Expecting someone to read your mind or body language, definitely doesn't work 😕 I don't care for the word date night, had a lady that would tell me that going out the door in the morning and to tired to do anything when she home!!! I love to be a little more spontaneous!! The biggest and worst the about porn in most cases, is that it is way to one sided, the woman is never really satisfied, it all noise. I guess it's fine if your an animal, because that what they do!!!! Your both right, do a Q&A and do a lot of exploring, fine the feel good spots, it's a turn on when you do!!!! And then you can forget this BS about size matters. You pretty much confirm it, the stimulating is on the out side for both parties. Your both very informative and very attractive Lady's, you could almost ass for sisters. I know for a fact we can all uses a little more education in this department and thank you for not sugar coating it!!! My ears are ready for you next one!!!! Lol 😆 Thank You Both!!!! XOXO 😘
OMG! I'm so sorry about the missed spelled word before sister, you could pass for sisters. I'm 74 so that my excuse, if Joe can get by with it, so can I. Lol 😆 Sorry Lady !
Thank You Dr.Rena and Leeza 🙏 🌷❤️
Wonderful video. Lots of information and view points. It’s nice to know that some women actually do talk about their desires and pleasures. 🙂
One thing I see ppl complain about when they transition from casual sex in dating scenarios to partnership is, that sex gets less. But somehow they forget that just by the basics of the dynamic, that is normal. If you make an appointment with a person specifically for intercourse and schedule it, then naturally, each time you meet, you are there for this purpose, possibly with different ppl, and it works.
When you're in a dedicated partnership, you have everyday life with each other and unlike "dating" or "casual hookups" you're now expecting the same frequency as that with many ppl, or that with this person when both of you specifically made time for dating (which you likely now don't), chances are you too are investing less into the relationship but do not notice where (e.g. emotional needs, romance, communication).
You possibly also move two households together, which means each of you often ends up doing for more than one person. And although there are times when that make it easier and faster, the mental load and the process of doing things, can slow you down, because now you can no longer fly through the day by your own impulses only, but have to include and communicate with another person. Your contact is no longer concentrated on just the fluffy positive aspects either, but also the tough life stuff. You're also learning each other (straining at beginning) OR drop the ball on doing that (negativity increases as your needs change but your head cannon about what the needs of the other person, never changes along)
There's pros and cons to everything. And each scenario has an own set of challenges that asks for an own set of skills and efforts from everyone involved. You can be good at dating but suck at running a long-term partnership well. They need separate learning. And that also applies for dopaminergic (reward circuit hormone) casual sex vs. oxytocin (bonding hormone) loaded committed partnership sex. Both, if done well, can be great.
I started questioning when she used the term "vulva owners" but I left when she said gender is not binary. Just because someone is "intelligent" doesn't make them right.
I started questioning as soon as she said...."vouge, Elle, GQ".......
@@ironsharpensiron9406 God Bless You.
When I heard her say "vulva owners" I was turned off immediately. This is just one of those smart alec college kids on UTube.
great video but in a way I feel like most of this is centered around what a man can do better for their female partner and very little centered around what a female partner can do better for their male partner you can't say it should be a two-way street and an enjoyed experience on both sides if most the points are about what the male partner can do better just because studies show females are often more sexually frustrated doesn't mean that they're the only ones not feeling pleased or feeling that their sexual desires are being met
Doc, Ive seen about ten of your videos, I found them very professional and informative but it gets to a point where everything you say works ok but please dont forget the emotional part of the human sexuality. Maybe youtube is selecting what I am suppose to be watching but honestly, when I hear specialist about sex not mentioning love, romance, kindness, honesty, firiendship, music, romantic movies, it really makes me sad, because sex is not an isolated activity from emotions for the vast majority of humans. Maybe some people are thinking a good sex life is about sexual knowledge only, about anatomy, scheduling, technology, pornography. You mentioned doing things together but specifically being romantic, honest, faithful and kind is the key to human pleasure. Thank you.
One thing that was a bit of a failure on Dr. Rena's part. She said that vaseline should not be used as a lubricant and that you should not use lubricants with containing parrafin, but failed to expalin what is the issue or risk in using those! Will they bring harm or death to my partner? Have I been hurting my partner all along? PLEASE EXPLAIN!
I wish we could all more openly talk about this as these lovely ladies are doing for us all.
Nice collaboration of two intelligent person helping our personal life.
Love your content.
Very informative and tastefully presented. Thank you.
She lost me at “vulva owners”.
it's the right thing to say if you think about it
@@karth9121 No, reducing females to “vulva owners” is completely unprofessional.
She’s saying you don’t need to be a woman to have a vulva, nor do you need to have a vulva to be a woman.
I owned a 1976 Volvo once, does that count?
@@kumarsalib722 I'm glad such a small thing upset you lol
i don't have anybody to have sex, feels alone and incomplete wishes, I don't get any chance of doing it.
This is a great discussion and a great channel. Leeza said something here that caught my attention. She indicated that sex can change the ph of the vagina.....Can you talk about this? Especially, is there a link regarding getting yeast infections after sex? This happens to me all the time. I have started a relationship with someone after a 5 year stop in dating. I have been prone to infections my whole life. But, when I stop having sex, they go away. Soon as I resume activity, it happens again, immediately after sex. Yes, I have verified with my doctor that it is a yeast infection and nothing else. But, I have always been in long term monogamous relationships....only four main relationships in my life, and never had casual sex. In all of these relationships, I have experienced this phenomena. It seems like eventually my body gets used to my partner and infections decrease, but I am confused regarding what is going on and how to fix this. I am thinking that I have always been prone to these infections...probably because I was the antibiotic generation....it was used long term for me as a teen for acne!....too late now...and if sex changes my ph, then the yeast gets activated? I don't know. But it is pretty discouraging. I can't imagine I am the only woman who experiences this. Can you talk about this and vaginal ph?
This talk was very PC. Drop the textbook bulls***.
Doctor, how about a pleasure video for us in the geriatric group.. so many changes in our body as we age..
Or how about one for people that aren’t WOKE. 🙄
This is very informative. Thank you both for sharing your perspectives.
BOTH OF THEM LOOK IDENTICAL
This was a wonderfully informative segment. Thank you.
But how informative what is special
Wonderful and helpful discussion by two intelligent and liberated ladies, thank you 😊
They are talking about sex it mean they are liberated 😂😂 you Little liberals you what life you are living seriously ? Talking about sex mean liberation come on man
@@ElecWarBeats Did you even watch the video? Probably not. There were a few refreshing non-main stream ideas that they expressed, which means they are enlightened = liberated. 🖕🏻
Why women always think they are giving love but and men just getting this beautiful present 🎁 why isn’t it a shared feelings?
I feel, Sex pleasure is more depending on the mental attraction particularly when we get old.
Real love helps us to continuous mental pleasure.
How does that work when your hiring a prostitute.?
@@RadioRich100 the aids will kick in don’t worry bro u str8 go for it 😁
Whether it’s ritual or worship whatever help you climax bonds you to the object of affection and forms soulties and emotional attachments so self pleasure or porn can be dangerous and cause a person to have to compete with artificial intelligence love is the best Stimulation in marriage 💙
Say women or female instead of vulva owner or people with vulva. It will be easier to listen to and understand.
Foreplay is key. Seduction.. the way you say and use your words.. the way you touch uncommon areas of the body..a sexual encounter or process can begin long before the actual action.. i’ve asked some of my female friends if they have experienced various things and majority of them say no. Lol its sick..
Very awesome points and tips you know very well said those of us who are in a relationship over 36 + is lots of experience but we still learn good narration and advice🙋♂️👍👌👊
Basically, the attraction of the two for each other in all respects. Next, the liking for each other or bondage of attraction for the two. The attraction might only apply among the two only and not anyone else. Next comes the intimate bondage and that sparks the excitement in bed.
Just one advice to both - Dr. Malik and Leena - considering human intelligence and psychology - usage of technology must be taught properly before advising for its usage.
E.g. Porn is a product of Internet proximity and now we are dealing with FAP or NoFAP or porn addiction.
P.S.: THINK 1000 times before giving suggestion and MUST give proper guidelines because your videos reach to millions.
Get off the meds, been married 45 years, laughter is the best aphrodisiac for staying together, still going stronger and loving each other more every day.
vulva owners?
And we're supposed to consider this person's expertise, on men, and "women"?
I'm very sorry mate: I don't think so.
Nice and incredible discussion with both of you💐💐
Leeza Mangaldas and Reena Malik Looks so similar sometimes I get confuse😅
There are only two sets of DNA which make up our genders. Male and female … I agree with the notion that men and women can both be sexually dominant or one more sensitive/emotional. I think a gender stereotype is super dated. Many real men can express their feelings and are sensitive 👍 Many times when sex is brought up in an relationship someone gets overly sensitive and takes things the wrong way. Relationships need to find ways to communicate without getting defensive. Thanks for another great video
Omg! THANK YOU for this video!!! Such important info!💯🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️
fun and interesting conversation I could never have with my wife.
Y tho?
Love you both ❤️
You Ladies are Awesome !!!! love it
What or who is a Vulva owners, and where can I buy one
Vulva owners?
Once I used to believe that Rena and Leeza are sisters :P However its great to have both of you in the same video :)
After saying gender is not binary how does one believe anything else she says?
List all credibility.
Thank you so much for your wonderful channel !
Thanks for sharing information and need little correction too. In India people are much aware about Lubricant and Coconut oil so please change your old mindset. 👍
Yes,my friend from Pakistan( I'm UK) I told him about coconut oil,he knew it was very good!! I use it alot now, better than any other, it's clean,good for skin and gives intense orgasms.
I had a Volvo once but it had some starting problems, so I got under it an it felt claustrophobic. I tried to lubricate it but don't think I got it on the right part. Can you help?
Both of you look like sisters.❤
Great and insightful talk very helpful Greatly appreciated these subject
This video was recommended by YT.. So here I am. Cheers.
I disagree that men do not want women to be sexual initiators. In many erotic movies and erotic literature, the woman is the initiator of sexual interactions. If these behaviors were not desirable, stories featuring female sexual aggression wouldn't be told.
Clit is queen of pleasure. MOST MEN GO FOR PENERATION BUT FORGET FOREPLAY.I ❤ YOUR SHOW.
I could not even imagine men would do that until many of my lady friends told me about it. For me it's at least 80% of the fun to make her come. Repeatedly if possible.
Another very informative video! Thank you
I love you too much this kind of good knowledge
Would you do videos on BDSM and kink practices?
They are correct.. lubricant is AWESOME!! My boyfriend Ronnie and I can't have sex without lube for various reasons..
I have a boyfriend that can't have intercourse because of prostate. He is amazing taking care of me.
Very relieved to read this as I also was poleaxed after a prostate op and worry about it
Stop referring to your husband or boyfriend or fiance as your "partner". Detectives and tennis players have partners. Oral sex is not sex. It's oral sex.
Thanks for sharing your knowledge with us.
Great collaboration doctor 😊😍
She looks so charming that I get pissed looking at her knowing someone else can enjoy her lol
educate us all. educate us all.
Vulva owners…um, women!
I appreciate the valuable information!
how do you both look like sisters? I appreciate your efforts to educate Indian women to be aggressive in play is good, otherwise usually they are little boring.
I tried a vibrater didn't like it. It brought tears to my eyes
I highly HIGHLY recommend regular kitchen Coconut oil. It’s natural, very effective and taste good … didn’t know you could use a Olive 🫒 Oil … but now that I know … maybe a delicious Extra Virgin Oil from Spain 🇪🇸…. ???
Short interview with an important message to all audiences..
Key words be Open ,Talk with your partner like dislikes,No prejudices tabus about sex,.Use toys pornography but be conscious ,LOVE and deep Care and SEX gonna be with tons of feelings and desire becoming true real pleasure..
I am injoying your program
Please create subtitles to understand these valuble educative ideas....!
06:15 I thought she said lube was the unsung hero of better snacks - What?!
Its difficult to focus on the video .i be mesmerized on Rena beauty 😍
two very beautiful women😍
Eye opening! 👏
Very interesting discussion, and definitely need to be more of it out there.
Where do you find the links, to the other lady...?
My lady’s vulva has an excellent crash test rating. 5 stars.