My Fiancée's Dead-End Career is Causing Problems
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- My Fiancée's Dead-End Career is Causing Problems
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"on and off for 20 years" alright I'm out 😂😂😂
Exactly. Lol
Oh Lord yes
😂😂😂
What are yall trying to say lol 😭😭
I wouldn’t trust an on and off 20 year relationship either
I agree.
Yes. And she had kids with someone else during that time frame..
@@kara2162 He didn't say the ages. They may be in college.
@@bonniest.pierre2045 20 years off and on? They have to be at least early early 30s
For real. This has to be the biggest red flag in existence.
"Why doesn't she trust me? We've been on and off for 20 years!"
Boy, bye.
Boy, bye?
That "boy" makes double her income and doesn't come with kid baggage. And he's even supportive of her AND her kids... why is he a boy exactly?
@@DHFlip18 ah. Another one.
@@BlazeTrinity Another one, honey you don't know squat about me
@@DHFlip18 ooh. Got me.
@@BlazeTrinity Indeed 😉 😘
As soon as he said "From her J-O-B", I was done. 🙄😂
As Dave would say, ‘Paint or get off the ladder.” If you’re not married after 20 years, don’t bother.
This has to be the worst case of someone needing to follow that advice.
After twenty years the paint has expired and the ladder is shoddy. Lol
That's such a good quote, I'm going to remember that!
@@angryox3102 explain?
Barney Fife believed in long, long courtship's. I'm with Barn.
Why would she trust a boyfriend who hasn’t committed to marrying her after 20 years... she doesn’t want a male savior, she wants a husband/life partner
I would not want to marry someone who wasn't financially stable.
If that's his deal breaker then it is what it is. It's not all on him. They're both comfortable in this dead end relationship and thats sad.
Clearly not qualified for that.
Title of this video should be "My dead end relationship is causing problems."
Facts 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Exactly, a 20yr dead end relationship😂
Yeah "so called relationship"
😅🤣😂
You don't LISTEN!! That's your problem.
“On and off for 20 years”
“She doesn’t exactly trust me”
They need to move on... separately.
Move on.
Sounds like they did, but couldn’t stop coming back to each other.
That's the exact thing I was gonna comment nice! 🤣 Like gee I wonder why she doesn't trust you?
Dude talks to much. U called for advice. Be quiet and listen!
Yeah and he’s getting louder as if he doesn’t want to be spoken over
And you know he does that in his “relationship”
That is why dave has a mute botton
Forget the woman 👩 being a lost cause, the caller is the lost cause, called in for advise and will not listen 👂🏿
LOL! Anthony reaction is just like Dave's when the caller says we been on and off for 20 years... LOL!!!
He was like “uhhhhhhhh am I the only one that actually heard that??” 😂
Yes! LoL!😂
Anthony is the only one I could stomach taking over after Dave retires.
This guy is strange. After 20 years? This has being going on for 20 years? He wouldn’t change anything about her but for 20 years he has had a problem with this.
Agreed
He needs to get a new girl asap
Dude thought he was going to call and they'd soft pedal him and chastize her. No sir, the problem is you. 20 years on and off? Bro, the problem is you. Lol
Then added, “I’m going to marry her.” Lol. No he isn’t. Takes a few minutes to get married at the courthouse.
Madly in love with a woman that you have been with for 20 years and haven’t married? LOL! Come on man!
😖😖😲😳Life
Marriage is a made up concept to control and bankrupt you. Love is love
GG heyjryiy5
Marriage is a cultural construct. Not everybody recognizes or requires that.
@L Cam not everyone’s religious. And that’s a very naive thing to say maybe he knows someone who’s had a difficult marriage and it has been divorced and has been left bankrupt. You can love someone and not marry them, some people just don’t believe in it at the end of the day it’s a contract.
He said that he wanted her to come to him if the electricity bill needed to be paid. Sounds like he wants to be the hero. Marry her, combine the incomes instead of trying to play sugar daddy with a women who’s done it by herself for so long
My thoughts exactly
The longer this guy talks, the more issues that keep surfacing, he is confused. He is a walking living ready-made Dr. Phil episode.
She's his fiancee?? TBH, it sounds like he's not even in a dating relationship with her. Perhaps just close friendship. How can someone be with someone for 20 years but don't trust the other person?? Something is not adding up. I think caller may be delusional about his relationship status with the woman in question.
They all are😳😳😳
If you are calling into a radio/internet show for financial or relationship advice your delusional or looking for someone to side with you!
@@schylerlewis8467 but it’s ok to listen to it?.... ok
Agree 100% She does not view the relationship the same way.
😂
If she hears "baby I got your back" one more time she's gonna lose it!
🤣🤣🤣
The only men in her life that are a priority, are her sons.
true..thats why he should bounce....shes a liability..
My wife is at a salon where she makes double in half the days as previous salons she worked at. Location, location, location.
it sounded like she worked at another job to pay the bills. He said something about cutting insurance checks.
Side note: The caller is in a 20 yr Relationship and the Woman is in a FWB Relationship
This
Hmmmm sounds right ✅
This is toxic. 20 years?? Ladies and Gents, do yourself a favor and do not commit to someone who does not have the want or means to provide something for themselves/cannot bring at least something significant to the table...i.e. stay away from people who are gonna be nearly 100% dependent on you financially. Much of the time these kinds of folks will be nothing but a burden and a drain to not only your financial resources, but also your mental and emotional well-being. I've seen it too many times...
He wanted a pat on the back for offering to “have her back”. On and off for 20 years? And expect her to quit her job? 🤣😅😂 He’s offering to pay the light bill though. If she quits the job will the relationship be off next week? You can’t make this stuff up. She’s not his wife. She would be a fool to listen to anything this time wasting 🤡 has to say. She needs to get rid of that extra baggage ASAP.
Plus he doesn’t need her to ask him for money to pay bill, he could just pay them and say nothing
@@garyh1431 i dont think hes a clown but they have to get married before she can truly rely on that income and switch carreers.
@@acruzro95 been together on and off, haven’t gotten married, she doesn’t trust him yet (for whatever reason)... you want him to waste 20 more years?
Yea I know couples that was on and off twice a month, Going on for 5+ years engaged and still not marry. 20 years omg!!!!
Anthony's face when he says "20 years" lol...he wasn't able to focus on anything else after that lol
“On and off for about 20 years.”
“Alright, coo.”
I died when he said that.
I wonder if she knows that she's in a relationship with him
Ha! I think she found out when she listened to the show.
@@portiagts9416 lol
This dude sounds like he is trying to "fix" her and she doesn't need or want fixing. Sounds like she is doing fine.
Honestly how can he expect her to have trust if it's been on and off for 20 years? How does she know it won't be off again when she is in the process of going after her career. It's a gamble she just doesn't want to take.
She got knocked up by some other guy during not one, but TWO of this “little breakups”. She has no respect for him.. And he doesn’t deserve any either.
@@mambofuego5101 I don't really know all the details with their relationship but that's between them. They both don't fully trust each other. The things he stated sounds like he is trying to convince himself otherwise and waiting 20 years to expect a different result is insanity. Hopefully for both one of them will be honest and have the courage to let go and say enough and be done. Hopefully they find their happiness someday. 🙏
If someone isn't driven or willing to work when they're dating you, they won't magically become that person when they marry you.
Amen
She obviously is driven to work more than most people, just not in her passion. Just a fact that she is a single mom raising two boys, she's working like a dog. Especially if no one else is helping.
But she IS working.
He wants her to take a lower paying job and then be dependent on him. Not the making of a good relationship.
@@thelogicaldanger Or.... he wants her to be able to work at a job she loves without worrying about the financial implications rather than working at a secure job she hates where she comes home crying.
If he didn’t marry her in 20 years, she should please move on. I hope she reads this!
She should have moved on 19 years ago.....
Move on to what?
messyties to a new career and a new man.
Marriage is an abstract concept. It’s just a piece of paper that says you to are together and that’s it. You can be in love and not be married
@@messyties the next simp
Listen to the callers aggression. This is the same voice he uses with her, 100%.
Yea he sounds off his rockers like he can snap at any moment. These are the people who call in at my customer service job and they are insane and randomly scream and demand things
He simping for someone that dont like him. And she is misleading him by having him around.
He's trying to trap her
You're as delusional as he.
Marry her or stop trying to “help” her. Who doesn’t trust who here? That is too much power to give someone who is not all in.
That would be the worst mistake ever.
20 years ... did he forget to propose? ;) Nah, as a widow who had very young children myself, I heard people say the whole 'why would you date a single mum' and 'children are baggage' thing so many times that I never dated again. Even some of the comments here can are like this. I got asked out a lot, once by another widower too, but I rejected everyone. Too scared to love and loose again. Too scared to have people say bad things about me behind my back because I was a single mum. I raised all my kids, put myself through university, and worked two jobs. I don't blame her for being wary. But single motherhood is the worst and I can't blame her for maybe wanting to get her kids raised before doing a relationship at a more equal level.
A widow is a whole different ballgame. Single mom with a living baby daddy is what is going on here.
@@labornurse Where did you hear that? The kids were always there. They are grown. I want to hear her side.
If she was really into changing her life, she would have been the one phoning in to change it
This caller just wants to hear himself talk.
If I were her I would say no too. Have to be married to know he's got her back.
buahahahaha. most men are suckers for marriage but not all ;)
@@mattiaslp9645 I would be like move on dude.
I get where he is coming from. Why would you want to be married to someone who cries and complains about her job all day. Its just being set up to be in a toxic emotionally abusive relationship.
@@venchenzo4493 Exactly if that's how he feels! Like move on for both of them.
This is the problem with playing house....for 20 years
Your spouse needs to have her life together before you get married. Getting married to someone who you expect to change is setting yourself up for failure. You accept her as she is and not who she might be.
How do I get her to trust me? Date her another 20 years.
😂
Nooooope!
This guy is off his rocker.
😂
True.
My husband always used to tell me I could get a better job / earn more. I felt offended and became defensive. Then one day he explained all he meant was that he thinks I'm selling myself short and I'm not using my potential. I thought for years he was criticising me but he actually believed in me more than I believed in myself! I'd suggest talking this through calmly and ensuring she really understands what you mean.
Ramsey:sell the spouse
but what is his household income tho?
😂
A lot of people go through this....they are more 'comfortable' being miserable, unhappy, etc. at a job because of the security and familiarity it provides rather than trying a career switch since they are outside that comfort zone. It can always be difficult to start a new career, but you got to take a leap a faith and give it a try. Just be smart about it and analyze the risks/rewards, and if it doesn't work out for some reason, there is always someone hiring
She raised two kids. She (rightly) chose to stay in a secure, stable job and not risk her income.
Single mom two kids who cries all the time that she hates her job. And... "she can do anything?", I don't think so.
Sounds like this girl is way out of his league in attractiveness and put him in the friend zone back in high school and he has been lingering for 20 years as option B.
He makes twice as much as her he can go anywhere in the world and get more for less
Well said!!
I wouldn’t trust an on and off 20 year relationship either.
Simpin' ain't easy.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
on and off for 20 years.... a single mother... unless her kids are over 21... thats a little awkward
@@guzlemuzle absolutely, the guy is the beta male provider
@@guzlemuzle Since the kids were "always there" it can be assumed that they are over 20.
Here's the thing she doesn't want to have to rely on him for s**t. He's not telling everything
Bro 20 years you didn’t pull the trigger yet. She’s got red flags your unconscious is picking up on.
Wait...umm 20yrs of on and off??? I now need to hear her side before making a decison🤔🤦♀️
This guy comes off as extremely manipulative to me.
There's bigger issues than a job that stretch further than 20 years 🤔
Maybe Jesse should start by shutting up an listening when people are traying to tell him things. XD He interrupted them so many times while they were trying to give him an answer!
Anthony’s sighs and reaction at 5:45 are priceless. Haha love it
Oh boy, glad I'm not this guy. Doc handled this well; that relationship is not healthy.
Yep. The second he talked over me I would have pulled a “Dave” and muted him.
“i really love this girl”
you already lost
What’s wrong with love?
@@bobfryfish You're asking the He Man Woman Haters club to explain themselves. You're going to get useless anime edgelord answers. Might as well save keystrokes and ignore them.
@@chernagast6754 what makes u think i hate women? i love my mom, sisters and aunts very much. i have plenty of female friends as well
It’s AO’s facial expressions for me lol
She doesn’t want to open a cosmetology business. That’s the problem. She wants this guy to marry her and then she wants to be able to quit her job and not be able to work. “Cosmetology business” is a front. If she really wanted that she wouldn’t need someone trying to push her into it.
This is a really good point. And I could see that being the case from the way he started out the conversation by simping
Right she has no drive. If the Job truly made her unhappy she would leave. Also she has kids, I think that prevents her to have the confidence to leave.
For 20 years? She would hope to not work eventually, if she were to marry this guy after 20 years? I think she would've done this by now and not have to wait that long.
Who said that she wants him to marry her? She has raised her kids by now (over 20 years). He is the one who has decided what she needs. If she wanted to open her own business she would have done it. She chose to have a stable job that enabled her to raise her kids. If she has a 20 year old Cosmetology license, she needs to go back to school and take a refresher and then start at the bottom. She probably said that's what she wanted years ago and he hasn't heard a word she said since then.
I kind of see it differently. He said he wishes she would come to him when she needs something and he gave the example of the electric bill. Sounds like he is trying to hold on to her and wants her to need him and she is just with him until someone better comes along.
AO STAYS in “I’ll probably get in trouble” mode. 😆
So, he’s been in love with her and in an on and off relationship with her for 20 years but she is a single mom of two kids. So clearly she decided to go with someone else over you. Twice at least.
And you don’t feel secure with her unless she makes more money?
And she doesn’t trust you after 20 years?
So much wrong.
He said "She's ALWAYS had these two kids. They are grown. They are likely grown and in college.
How do losers never know they are losers?
Mute him
This guy is so basic and she just hasn’t found the reason to totally send him on his way. You’re being used, bro. Period.
Where do you get that? He wants her to ask for money when she needs it. He never said that he supports her or lives with her.
I love John and Anthony together ! They are hilarious !
Toxic
This guy sounds like he has his issues.. however.. I’d be tired of someone calling me crying every day about how they hate their job and can’t live their dreams and I tell them no worries quit we will be alright and they prefer to stay and cry? I wouldn’t need her to leave, I’d be out..
Are you sure she's crying on him? You're only hearing one side. People lie and frame their situation to sound like they are in the right.
Anthony’s face at 1:49 😂😂😂
Hilarious
Smh why would you want to raise someone else’s kids!?!?!?! Fellas and ladies, don’t and never do this!!!
While there are a few thing's men's health groups don't always fully agree on, one that is pretty universal is stay away from single mom's. Especially if you have no kids.
Get over yourself.
@@RemixerUltimate How does a single, childless man benefit from dating a single mom? Do enlighten us.
@@ryanj357 🎯🎯
The kids are grown up. She had them before they ever met 20 years ago
Ladies and fellas, make sure your partner before you become married ACTUALLY HAS A STRONG AND STABLE CAREER THAT THEY COULD TAKE AND GO ANYWHERE WITH!!!!
100% for men,but for women? What if she wants to be stay at home mom?
Ladies and fellas, make sure that you never hook up with someone who thinks that what someone does is the most important thing in a relationship.
Picking the right partner is the biggest financial decision you will make but a job/career is just one part of that.
I have personally been low/median paid blue collar my whole working life after leaving the "good career" early on, we are now very very comfortable by most standards and I no longer have to work or rely on Govt. for funds.
My wife was a stay at home mum and now works part time because she wants to.
I know plenty of people in "careers" who will never have what we have financially.
good vibes if that’s the case she needs to have some sort of education/continued education so that if anything happens and they separate she can find a good paying job and take care of herself and the kids
Mute him like Dave does lol
The thumbnail just said "my fiance's dead..." So I was relieved to click and find out she was fine 😂
Jeezus....... How disconnected from reality can you be. Just NO. Leave this woman.
You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves.
Let me help you
@@KentWav nice try I got my priorities under control
@@Lilbit2215 nothing wrong with that, stay blessed
She is a lost cause. Man go date and marry someone else.
My thought too
It may be too late. He has a horrible case of oneitis.
@@saulgoodman2018 yeah there is. The guy above explained it perfectly lol what other reasons do you want?
@@saulgoodman2018 There’s a lot wrong with them, and that was perfectly explained. Don’t be delusional
@King Julien Well said.
Im madly in love with this woman...but we are not married after 20 years 🤔.
He would have to actually produce the ring for her to believe him. He’s been stringing her along for 20 years, which is the root of the problem.
He sounds like her dad. Brother that ain’t your job …
People don't call into a radio show for advice to not side with them. His attitude says he was looking for support on his side and, for good reason, didn't get it.
How does he expect to gain her trust when he can't even make time to listen? This call is a perfect example of his listening skills.
Dave (arms folded, look of exasperation); "paint, or get off the ladder".
I knew he was going to say cosmetologist lol
Everyone dont wanna be saved.
I have your back.... until we break up again for the 6th time. Then you are in big trouble.
I can't with AO's expressions on this one. 😅
20 years?!?!
I think she's playing him for money. She's a single mom, I don't think she wants to get married again but she sure loves that extra help when her kids need it.
"If she doesnt have it, Just ask me and I'll pay it."
My brother, you are in for a world of hurt. Just you wait.
She is also a single mom, this caller is an idiot
@@edgehodl4832 The kids are likely in college.
@@bonniest.pierre2045 glad I'm not the only one who can do the math. If he hits the gym he can get a better younger woman with hopes and dreams she can actually accomplish.
She is, if she accepts that.
Give it another 20 years and he will not need to worry they can both collect their pensions.
The way Anthony said Bruh its been 20yrs in that high voice made me laugh out loud🤣😂😅
I agree, 20yrs is a long time to wait for someone.
If no talk of marriage the first couple of years. I’m out. Not that hard to decide.
My ex fiancé from back in the day had the same problem, though she was not a cosmetologist. Eventually, she started getting mad at me for not having the answers when she would call me complaining throughout the day. I know she didn’t mean to yell at me and was just expressing her frustration at me because I was convenient. That said, issues with a job will eventually bleed over into the relationship if you don’t find a solution.
Somebody direct him to AMS asap 🚨 🤣🤣🤣
Jesse sounds like a guy that can't listen and wants control. You want her to trust you? Marry her
That will be the biggest mistake of his life
Ok so the first two minutes, you cannot change someone. You cannot force your partner to make a life decision, unless they have the will/want to do it. You are projecting what you value on her and she obviously doesn't have the motivation to be what you want her to have. This is soo important everyone, its incredibly crucial to not ignore red flags at a beginning of a relationship. If you don't want a lazy or non motivated person, these things will usually show up at the beginning of the relationship. That's on you if you continue the relationship to end it once you realize you have different goals and values.
What happened to the mute button?
I have a simple fix for this problem. Quit trying to save women. Single childless men, should be dating single childless women. Find a woman who values what you value.
I don’t have kids but I think people should date who they want. Some people are ok with dating kids, some aren’t.
@@bobfryfish Just because people are ok with dating single moms doesn't mean It's a good idea.
Sounds like he's removing her need to fight for what she wants. Rather than connecting with her to bring that fight out.
Looks like he is being a fixer rather than a friend/mentor.
This guy needs help. He wants to fix someone else. Ha ha ha .
20 years ????? That's crazy I wouldn't trust this guy either