Hey J, I heard what you said about the picker. I left a great man because sex was not as important to him. After 6 months I lost my attraction out of neglect. He kept thinking it was something we could work on but I kept saying it should be a byproduct of who we are. He didn’t think sex was an expression of love. He always separated sex from loving someone. I just got blamed for having a higher sex drive. Free and moved on.
I'm really glad you had this convo. I was in a relationship for 4 years that I recently ended and we rarely had sex, I'm talking like 5 times in the whole year. I thought I had lost my sex drive and was turning asexual, but I realized that all of out problems were getting in the way of me being attracted to him. He'd say he only acts out because I didn't want to put out, but I didn't put out because I emotionally he was taking me through it, it was like a constant loop that only made things worse.
I personally do not think it is easy to find. Its easy to find sex, lol that is everywhere nothing special about it at this point. Where meeting someone that wants more than sex and actually reciprocates effort and wants you the same way you want them....that is a rarity in my experience and opinion.@@dearblackgaymen
@@dearblackgaymen The part about the balance between the physical and the heart. Sex is important, both are necessary to keep the relationship alive and vibrant.
Hey J, I heard what you said about the picker. I left a great man because sex was not as important to him. After 6 months I lost my attraction out of neglect. He kept thinking it was something we could work on but I kept saying it should be a byproduct of who we are. He didn’t think sex was an expression of love. He always separated sex from loving someone. I just got blamed for having a higher sex drive. Free and moved on.
I'm really glad you had this convo. I was in a relationship for 4 years that I recently ended and we rarely had sex, I'm talking like 5 times in the whole year. I thought I had lost my sex drive and was turning asexual, but I realized that all of out problems were getting in the way of me being attracted to him. He'd say he only acts out because I didn't want to put out, but I didn't put out because I emotionally he was taking me through it, it was like a constant loop that only made things worse.
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Now, if you can find an even balance between bomb sex and a genuine good person that is a BLESSING!!!!
Facts are facts America. Do you think that’s easy to find?
@@dearblackgaymen No it’s not easy to find, so if you find it you should really cherish it and do what is necessary to keep it.
I personally do not think it is easy to find. Its easy to find sex, lol that is everywhere nothing special about it at this point. Where meeting someone that wants more than sex and actually reciprocates effort and wants you the same way you want them....that is a rarity in my experience and opinion.@@dearblackgaymen
I strongly agree. May we all be blessed to meet someone like this.@@kdlewis7355
I really do love your show. Im proud to know you and have met you.
I’m glad I met you and we found each other here as well. How’d you stumble on my little corner of the innanet?
@@dearblackgaymen IT POPPED up when you first started
This was good Great advice.
Thanks so much. What resonated the most with you?
@@dearblackgaymen The part about the balance between the physical and the heart. Sex is important, both are necessary to keep the relationship alive and vibrant.
Yes, what you said is so true!
Thanks so much. Which part resonated the most with you.
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Thank you. What resonated most with you?