Get More From 2024: Your Blueprint for the Year Ahead | Being Well, Dr. Rick Hanson
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- Опубліковано 6 чер 2024
- @RickHanson and I kick off 2024 by exploring how we can relate to the past, plan for the future, and get more from the year ahead. We talk about different approaches to New Years, the tactics that maximize your chances of achieving a goal, and a simple four question system for reflecting on and learning from the year that was. You'll learn how to create useful resolutions, put 2023 into perspective, and set yourself up for success in the year to come.
Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
0:55 Rick's approach to New Year’s resolutions
4:00 Going from being to doing to having
10:15 Four questions to ask yourself around the New Year
22:20 A S.M.A.R.T. way to put New Year’s resolutions into form
26:20 Bottom-up intentions, and leaning into the feeling of a completed intention
28:40 Trying different somatic cues for embodying an intention
31:40 Finding your allies, not oversharing your goals, and physically declaring priorities
40:25 Getting on your own side
51:50 Recap
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Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth.
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Just wanted to share that despite all the many other self help channels and gurus, Im drawn to how you both sound (very calming! and not overwhelming.) It feels safe and reassuring. I also appreciate how you guys approach your topics with thoughtfulness, intention and sincerity. Nice to see a father son duo diving into these topics!
Forest you should be so confident in your work. Listening to you, your dad, and elizabeth comforts me so much. You all speak with such Intelligence and peace. Thank you for being the self help person I go to!
Hi Forrest. You are presenting this material in your own way. I've listened to countless channels like yours, but you and your dad are my NUMBER ONE choice. What you say just deeply resonates with me and watching the relationship between you and your dad just strengthens the message. You are making a difference in my life. Don't stop posting. You are providing a serious service to your listeners! Best.
42:00 😮🤯 Dr. Hanson this part REALLY spoke to me! I've always struggled with this. I grew up in a home that checked all of the ACEs boxes and instilled in me the ~vital~ importance of putting everyone else first, but the idea of going beyond ~self love~ and actively being on my own side is... holy bananas. Wow. I didn't really put it together that the simple things like taking care of myself and my basic needs are the *real* pieces of vital importance.
Dang.
Wow.
Oh, and now Forrest is talking about exactly the aversion I grew up with! How perfect!
You two are wonderful, and I REALLY appreciate being able to sit and (actively!) listen to your conversations! ❤❤❤ Thank you both so much!
4 questions to ask yourself:
1. What am I letting go of?
2. What am i taking in
3. What is working for me right now that I want to cultivate more of?
4. What do I want to celebrate a year from now?
Love this! Simple and straight to the point. Thank you for this ✨
Thanks ❤
Feeling inspired after listening to this episode - excellent achievable advice.I I keep coming back to your podcast because what you share is real and authentic… even though there are hundreds of people sharing similar stuff - they aren’t sharing it in the way that you do - please keep going and believe in what you are offering - there are people like me that need to hear your voice .. everything that you put out is honest and authentic.. from a very grateful listener ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Fantastic episode. I'm gonna relisten often, as this is a lot of helpful and some new bits that I want to integrate. Thank you.
Want to add to other comments how your podcast is one of my most favorite, among thousands of what’s available. I really appreciate your effort of collecting information, putting in structure, recapping for people so we can easily follow, your kind consideration and carefulness, practical questions, etc. I also love a combination of calming voice and laughters of both of you. Thank you so much for your works. They really give me a good start into a day, a friend while commuting, and help calm me down in times of storm. ❤
While I can relate to your desire to feel more confident about your work, and I wish that for you, too, I also just want to say that one thing I especially appreciate about you is your carefulness and modesty. I feel so many podcast hosts and similar talk like they are experts whether they are or not, as if admitting or being honest about where you are coming from or limits to your level of expertise about a topic is something negative. I feel that kind of confidence can be captivating at first, but I find your gentleness and transparency much more appealing and professional.
👍🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Love your conversations and vulnerable shares, thank you!
I really love you guys so much, I’m doing some of the work you introduced me to from Diane Poole Heller. Installing the protector. I have started imagining that you are my dad and brother, I hope that is okay! You both help me regulate, and then I also get to have Elizabeth as the most awesome sister in law ever. Happy New Year to your entire family! ❤
You're not the only one who had this idea! 😊😊😊 ❤
I would have been really disappointed if on the first week of the new year there hadn't been a new Forrest and Rick episode. ❤ think you, that was wonderful and useful as always
I had Forrest's first 3 questions with my team at work during our last team meeting of 2023. I will add what I would like to celebrate a year from now for my personal reflection. I really don't vibe with SMART goal thing. My brain does it differently.
THANKS FOREST!
Thank you both for this conversation, just in time for the new year and all of those thoughts about changing ❤
Thanks Forrest for a great start to 2024. I've been a subscriber for awhile but became a member today. Thanks for creating great content to support finding ways to a more joyful walk on the path.
I came across your podcast on Spotify and listened to your episode on authenticity. I loved it so much I had to listen to more. I absolutely love this episode. So many nuggets of gold...I love the way you both bounce ideas and perspectives off one another. "Rick learns about the internet" 😂 Too cute! Your podcast is so refreshing compared to all of the saturated material out there that sounds so alike it's like people are reading a script. I will definitely be sharing with my friends and family!
You two are so cute and brilliant and so enjoyable to watch!!
Thanks!
The collage idea reminds me of the “Possibilities” book she creates in the movie “Last Holiday” 😊 This idea is so helpful…the acting on our dreams in a tangible way…even if they haven’t quite come to fruition. ❤
So here's a question for you: What if your goals CANNOT be specific, measurable, or for sure attainable? For example, I have recently separated from my abusive, covert narcissistic husband. He lied to our three kids and turned them against me, so I moved out alone and live on my own now. I would LOVE to set a goal of making progress in my healing from all the abuse, and of winning my kids back by the end of 2024, but that is largely out of my hands. Yes, there are things I can do to heal, but I can't ever officially say, "I'm healed!" And my kids are teens and the courts will not force them to live with me; they need to realize the truth on their own and make their own choices. Yet those are the things I want most for 2024. So how on earth can I set goals around those things? I know I'm not alone in having goals like this. I can be on my own side, I can write positive affirmations, I can go to therapy, I can journal, I can have compassion for myself, I can refuse to give up, and I can focus on things I care about all I want, but that won't guarantee any kind of change or "Goal Accomplished" checkmark by December 31st. I'll probably make progress in my healing, but mental and emotional healing can't be easily defined or quantified.
Thankyou Forrest, i too am still quite new to your podcasts, however i am really enjoying them and they are really helping at this time. Best wishes to you and yours.
Intention also needs to come from the heart for it to feel authentic and embodied. A top down approach is more involved with the mind and cognition. Thank you for making us reflect on meaningful subjects.
There was so much in this episode that was personally helpful. Thank you so much
I'm glad!
Another amazing episode! Thank you
I very much enjoy listening to you both.
Amazing as ever. Thank you Forrest and Rick, am a huge fan of your weekly podcast/UA-cam vids. Have personally gained so much insight & many beneficial tips from you both ❤ Happy New Year to you both from the UK 💗 🎉
Thank you for "the Forrest Four"- great questions.
Super informative episode ❤
Thank you for this episode! I am fairly new to the pod and I am finding tremendous value already ✨ Also love the recaps at the end Forrest, they are so helpful!
Thanks for joining us, and I'm glad you've found it helpful!
Focused listener here 🖖😜 many thanks to both of you for this episode! lots of food for thought that i'll be certainly aiming to integrate throughout this year. May you both have a very peaceful and blessed 2024! Be well
We love a focused listener 😆
Forrest: Apologies for saying this because your content is foremost, & it's great. You're a good looking guy, and I'm currently watching your episode on self worth & see you had a slight beard & mustache, & you look truly beautiful. It may be because of the color contrast between your light skin & dark hair or because of the way facial hair changes the way the light hits your features, but it really amps up your good looks. There it is. I know facial hair has to suit one's significant other, and I hope yours encourages it. 🧔All the best in 2024. Thank you for your work.
When you apologize in advance for saying something, it might be best to just not say it. In a professional context such as this podcast, I believe it's inappropriate to comment on someone's personal appearance. Yikes.
@@pacummiskey Yeah, he's a good looking guy. Looks even better w the shadow. 👍 Noticing his physicality doesn't diminish the integrity of his work, but I felt compelled to apologize. I'm not sure why... Gotta think about that one.
Perhaps some of your lack of confidence comes from your intelligent awareness of how much you don’t know. There are plenty of content creators out there who are less intelligent and much less aware of how much they don’t know. Keep being you, Forrest. We are here because we love hearing your take on things as an intelligent, knowledgeable, humble, authentic human being.
i have arbitrary marker. every second.
its easier to not make mistake if you focus seocnds and not days week or years. january 2 get drunk in depth unhealthy fastfood inactivity... pass.
ill continue my mindset of 2023 i had way too much advantage and reward from it. its not about years. its about seconds.
its always now even now. but we prefer dream and not act, or know mistake and repeat it acting again. (generalising)
depend favorite suffering. (i monologed a 40 minute video about it, steal my content)
agree with "being" first. im a healthy ethical economical fit person.
thefore i eat whole food plant based and exercise
not "i want to be hgelthy fit ethical economical" its cause i am that i apply it.
i love nutrition, 47 nutriment 2000 calori 3$ canadian. i love overthinking and minmaxing, cause it make me healthier richer fitter and have more time energy for things i like, instead of overworking overtime to death with depth and fastfood and inactivity.
i learn nutrition cause i am soemone that love being healthy without pain and efficient agile fast endurant body.
not cause i want to have one. cause i am one (a human body with potential) not that im a world record owner
im a human being with huge potential, thefore i eat healthy ethicaly for cheap and get all nutriment i need and all exercise i need.
you dont become vegan, you either are or not. its about being.
but you can be nonvegan and eat whole food plant based.
being vegan make it easy to not eat animal corpse or their secretion unessentialy without concent. cause tis about being first, then doing.
"doing" healthy food can be easy to fail.
being ethical is either being ethical or not
vulnerability is win, peple conect and associate "finaly someone not braging a perfect life"
and they can reflect and recognise themselves. cause we are humans.
it breka this "popular tiktok instagram" face lies and deception.
im triaging those people out of my life i dont need thier projection and lies and waste of time pretending being perfect and wanting validation while not working (sometimes not at all) about thier potential future or flaw repeated.
narcisistic people everywhere (im one ironicly im so narcisist that i have no pity for my ego and can expose all my weakness for others advantage to be comfortable with facing their own weakness). im epic at seeing how not epic i am.
(irony and paradox, but has huge advantaged when used well... how to eat better? maybe by starting not eating badly... how save more money? maybe by realising i cannot earn that much more but can save tons by not spending alot... how to exercise more? maybe by stoping to try learn how ot exercise more and putting my shoes on and doing 1 step then 10 then 100.. then do a couple pushup"
not wasting time energy on stuff people dont care xD
like minded people xD (and avoid people pretending likeminded... like those manifesting a rich husband in their life by having plastic surgery and ritual yoga to atract a rich 0.01% for their plastic implant and fake smile, outcompeting real smile (deception can work tho, nature use it. its just advantagous to also notice deception, and not give half your income to a fake happy karenism that is a devil in sheep cloth, pretending being the princess rich husband want, but actualy being a devouring demon) - work both way "the pretending chad" that isnt
41:00 be your best best friend : if you help familly or friend more htan yorself. see yourself as someone else that need want help.
work well with making good decision. (egolessnes ironcily do it, cause you are just one of many, and you can take care of "one of many" easier, cause its not "your problem" but "you' have solutions that work.. and you dont ahve to work hard about "applying it yourself" cause "you are someone else doing it for you, yourself"
this is hugely powerfull. shamanism and buddhism jains have alot to say about those ego and dissociation mindset