You Don’t Actually Know What Your Future Self Wants | Shankar Vedantam | TED
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- Опубліковано 14 тра 2024
- "You are constantly becoming a new person," says journalist Shankar Vendantam. In a talk full of beautiful storytelling, he explains the profound impact of something he calls the "illusion of continuity" -- the belief that our future selves will share the same views, perspectives and hopes as our current selves -- and shows how we can more proactively craft the people we are to become.
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Just Stay curious
Practice humility
Be brave
Make your future self proud
I wish I could get the last 14 minutes of my life back.
Things to do for future self:
1. Stay Curious: Expand your horizon
2. Practice Humility
3. To be Brave: You don't have the capability to do things today, but your future self will have different capabilities.
Thanks fyi
thanks for this summary. But how to understand "practice humility"?
Everyday we become a new person.
Everyday I’m shuffling
I feel the same every morning.
Except my parents, they never change.
如果一个人可能不是以前的你，那信上帝还有意义吗？如何证明现在的你还是从前的你？
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Where I can see this
wtf is this thread
I like the concept of the illusion of continuity. Although my problem is that when I think of my future self, I have trouble imagining what she would end up being. I know there are so many possibilities. But the advice provided in the video - stay curious, be brave - can apply to the fear of uncertainty of my future self too
One of the most thought-provoking, well-presented and well-crafted TED talks out there!
Completely agree!
Nice @AreebIrshadHindi
Exactly!!!
Absolutely
Never look back and wish yourself there, only realise your future self will feel the same way about your now.
My future self will not wish to be here.
*wait...*
I love this so much, on two levels. One, as a speaker and consultant on human connection. Most of my work centers on helping people understand other perspectives. But there's a perspective I never really consider - your own, in the future. And two, as a speaking coach for TED-style presentations. This talk is masterfully crafted and delivered. Perfect example of how to tell stories as a vehicle for an idea, not merely for story's sake.
Correct!
Stoicism talks about this. Essentially instead of religions devil and angel on your shoulders decided what’s “good” and “bad” based on present culture you ground yourself in reality. Instead you place your 10yr self and your 90yr self on your shoulders. What perspectives do they offer?
@@MoonCrab00excellent point 👌🏻
That was a good one. If you have ever come across comments you wrote on youtube, or in a journal, or elsewhere from 10+ years ago, you know exactly what this guy is talking about. I sometimes stumble on such previously written messages, that no longer align with my thinking at all. It's a strange thing, that my digital ghost and I are not the same, or at least we have significant differences psychologically.
Very strange indeed. Also weird to think that my future self will have a different way of thinking than the current me.
It is precisely for this reason that I’m going to actively leave comments on YT videos.. just so that I can come back years later and see how much I’ve changed. Also I like your “digital ghost” phrase, it made me come back to your comment to read it once more.
Very true. I have noticed the same thing with my old comments.
@@KrinchiD hey man, just saw a comment from U like was from 3 years ago saying you couldn’t move on from a relationship that happen a long time ago. How you feeling today? Hope you’re doing ok!
@Carlos C Hi. Thank you for reaching out. I am doing a lot better today. I recently started dating a really kind and understanding gentleman. It's amazing being able to trust again. He lives far away, so things are going nice and slow, and we are taking the time to really get to know each other. It's really nice.
Captivating story: ✅
Compelling problem statement: ✅
Backed by science: ✅
Actionable insights: ✅
"You're going to be a different person sooner than you think. So you might as well be in charge of who you're going to be."
Not often do I find a TED talk that gave me chills and lit a fire inside of me at the same time. Saved this in the hope that my future selves will go back to it from time to time.
Well said!
Captivating story:
Compelling problem statement:
Backed by science:
Actionable insights:
"You are going to be a different person sooner than you think .So you might as well as be in charge of who you are going to be "
Not offend do I find a TED talk gave me chills and lit a fire inside of me at the same time .Saved this in the hope that my future selves will go back to it from time to time
This one genuinely deserves more traction. That last note, even on its own, was particularly worthy of applause. Kudos. 👏
the fact that I am also a 22-year-old electronics engineer who just left her job and now has no idea what the future will look like this talk is like a universe's sign that one is just supposed to move in life with passion and love And one day we will reach a place where we belong.
Whenever I revisited the timestamped entries I wrote years ago in my diary, I would do an air hug to my younger self for making many choices along the way to pave the road to me today. I know my current self will do the same for the future me. I learned to draw at 31, calculus and coding at 39, belly dance at over 40. I know a lady started taking piano lesson after retirement and she played beautifully in her 80s. So definitely the key to the future is in your hands.
He is a gem. Great man.
I gave you a standing ovation from my living room. 🙂 Amazing insightful talk and ideas. Both my current, and future self thank you for sharing your wisdom and perspective with us.
Honestly, one of the best TEDs ever. I'm speechless yet my mind is speeding like crazy.
Agreed! And dito
this this thissssss🎉
This makes you wonder about the massive time and money investment into our education when we don't know if our future selves will still want that career. I went to school to become a web developer, and I did learn useful skills, but I never actually worked as one. I didn't even work in the tech industry at all. Little wonder so many people end up feeling "stuck" and having midlife crises.
Also wise to rethink any change that would be permanent that your future self may indeed regret. Like permanently altering your body in some way.
I enjoyed this presentation and I'll be seriously considering subscribing to his podcast. :)
haha, I killed myself to study music, only to become a web developer !
@@alidmo3262 Ha, one never knows! I would love to study music, myself :)
The concept of disliking our past selves hits home hard. Thank you. I needed to hear this.
Love this ❤❤ the unknown and unknowable
1. Stay Curious
2. Remain humble (humility)
3. Be brave
Thank you Shankar...I love this talk and have listened to it many times and sent it to my family and friends to watch also ❤❤🙏🏾
You are one of the most brilliant people I have ever met. I first met you when I picked up your book "The Hidden Brain" by accident and started to read it. Immediately I loved your style of writing and I deduced that you were incredibly brilliant. Today by accident I watched your Ted Talk and was indeed very ecstatic to see you in person, just like I imagined you would look like. Thank you for being the person you are and sharing with us.
What a message! Spend time crafting what you wanna become.
1. Stay curious by expanding your horizon
2. Practice humility
3. Confront opportunities and be brave in them.
Remarkable coincidence, Hidden Brain is not hidden anymore. Great topic, excellent touch by Shankar Vedantam. Future myself should thank me. Today is our past, let's change it.
almost burst out crying when he said your future self will say "thank you"
This hit me on so many levels.
"We imagine that we represent the end of history. That the future is only going to before of the same"
Wow.
I love Shankar it’s been more then 2 years I have been listening to hidden brain his podcast and it really helped to to understand my self and others!
To the worthwhile person seeing this, your dream is not dead.
Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you.
You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together.
Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤
Love you Shankar! Your work has been so influential in my life!
One of my favourite talks. Just as my previous self could not predict my current self, my current self cannot predict my future self. Obvious yet profound. Begs the question: is there even a "true" self? So many of our belief systems and cultural practices rely upon the assumed existence of fixed and immutable characteristics within a person's makeup. It is odd to imagine a world without this assumption, yet in every other aspect of the natural world we easily accept that change is the only certainty.
The problem is what you want and what you thin you want are totally different and many people get confused. What you want comes from heart and it doesn't change, what you thin you want comes from mind and it changes all the time. Look for what you want not what you think you want and it lasts a life time.
I love this TED so much. Believing myself could be the one I wanna be, cause everyday I am changing 💪
youtube needs more of this. society needs more of this. beautiful.
Be open to changing. Perspectives change as you grow.
Nice to see Shankar on TED, I’m a huge Podcast listener and It’s all because of Hidden Brain, Shankar shape my taste for all the pods I listen to, he delivers thought provoking questions, Hidden Brain is full of good research and amazing guests!
The Italo from Jan. 2024 appreciated this video❤
This was so insightful and well put together. Im so glad I watched this video today. It just popped up randomly on my feed. And thankful for Shankar for putting this together - definitely looking forward to listening to his podcast now. This has really motivated me to continue doing the work that I’m doing. Most days I feel like I’m pushing a boulder uphill mentally. It’s hard doing things on a day to day basis that don’t really align with what your current self wants. But this has helped to reinforce why it’s important to stay consistent, and continue doing the work. On bad days I used to tell myself that my future self will thank me, but I’ve lost sight of that recently. So I’m thanking the universe for this video finding me. Stay grateful and blessed y’all. But most importantly, stay curious, practice humility, and be brave 😊
Shankar Vendantam is elegance personified.
I'm so excited about my future... The problem is... When I try to be as fun as possible, as ecstatic as possible, some people out there do everything they can just to put me down, to down my mood and etc. It hurts, right? But, I'm never gonna listen to people, cause I know that doing what you truly desire and like is the only way to happiness)) Start listening to your gut, it must become your best friend, who would help you in the toughest times!
There was an urgent need for a such idea in me before!
I was afraid of my own ambiguity in the field of interests! Back in a school a dreamed of one thing in college time of another! And that tremendously simple idea of remembering of my future self eliminates that fear and clears up almost everything!
Wow. One of the best TedTalks I've heard! 1. Curiosity, 2. Humility, 3. Courage.
I'm giving you a standing ovation. This was very well done.
Awesome, thanks again for valuable inputs. It really a gift to have you sharing your wisdom & perspectives with us. I'm glad to have actively participated with you in the youth parliament congress (Bangalore) in the 1980s. Best wishes.
Wonderful, so much to learn, even about yourself
I have had become aware of this about 2 years back at an abstract level. It feels relieving to have someone put this in words. ☺️ Now if I want to express anything about how I'm feeling, I can simply show this video to add clarity.
This speech inspires me a lot . When watching most of TED topics, they are almost derived from excellent achievements. But this topic is very different. It could wake up our recognition about matters in life by simple explanation about the aspects of life. Only one thing that will never change is "Change" . So, be positive about your future creation as an architect of your life.
Ted talks are cool because it's someone making a point and then having the platform to explain it WITHOUT being shouted down and disagreed with for likes. I wish more people watched this stuff.
This man made me think that the future self of mine is completely a new person whom I'm going to please while I know I will thank my older self.
He's making me worried about my relationship of my both the selves.
Wow, it's such a gripping speach. I heard lots of others advice, but yours are the most thought-provoking. To expand our horizon we should be curious, convey humility and be brave. Actually, it doesn't sound so difficult, we can change our lifestyle in accordance with you piece of advice. Let's see what happens after 5 years. Thank you!
Mind-blown after watching this TED talk on understanding our future selves. The exploration of how our present choices may not align with what our future selves truly want was eye-opening. The psychological insights shared make me rethink decision-making and long-term goals. Kudos to Shankar for shedding light on this fascinating aspect of human behavior. Can't wait to apply these insights in shaping a more intentional future.
Wow, this TED talk really made me reflect on how our future selves are often a mystery to us. It's fascinating to see how our interests and perspectives can change so drastically over time. The story of John and Stephanie Rinka was truly thought-provoking, highlighting the challenges of predicting our own desires and decisions in life and death situations. The concept of the 'ship of Theseus' and the illusion of continuity were eye-opening. The speaker's advice to stay curious, approach our views with humility, and embrace bravery resonated with me. A powerful and insightful talk that reminds us to actively shape our future selves. Thank you for sharing!
this is the second time i watch this speech. Stay curious, practice humility and be brave. I'm on my way to build my new self. Thanks so much!
As always - his talks are thought provoking and profound . Thanks Shankar for delving into topics like this.🙂
I watch a lot of TED Talks. This is now among my favorites. Thank you.
It is one of the most inspiring video I watched. It tells us how reality is and how we can do better in live, but we aren’t doing it consistently. Thx for the advice
This is a masterpiece! The best TED Talk I have heard so far..I could completely relate to it.
I used nearly constantly preoccupied with how my future self would look back at me. I agree with what is said here. Stay curious, practice humility, and be brave are good goals. However, when this idea became a brainworm for me, it hurt so bad. I am a people-pleaser, and my future self just became another person to please. It's like I was looking up to my future self and constantly criticizing my past self. It helped immensely with my confidence to stop looking down on my past self, and to worry less about the opinion of my future self. I guess how I take this is to do what I can to make sure my future self has a good life, but not worry about what she thinks of me.
Beautiful Wisdom.
Be Curious.
Practice Humility
Be Brave!
I am grateful! ✨
What a beautiful speech in the craft of presenting, bravo Shankar !
this is one of the best TED talks i've seen
The person who we are becoming in 10 or 20 years later is different what we think and not have our same views, perspectives. If you accept the idea tat you're going to be a different person in 30 years' time, you should play an active role crafting the person you are going to become. You should be the curator of your future self. You should be the architect of your future self. Most of us don't actually know that our future self are. You might be in charge of deciding who that person is going to be. You have to stay curious to explore yourself and practice humility and be brave to accept change.
Thank you so much! It gives me a new perspective of what I really want in life and how I portray myself in the future🔥
One of the most alluring and well presented Ted talks. Lots of new perspective just opened to me. I really need time to process these new views!!!!!!
The power of Reflection is something that taught me much in Life.
In other words Hindsight is 20/20.
I think he means perseverance in doing what you are doing.
I can easily relate bravery, curiousity with being open minded to life. This is highly characteristic with japanese society
Great TED Tak Shankar! I love your podcast!
That is JUST AMAZING!! Thank you so much for sharing ❤
I like the moment he was smiling and said "thank you" at the end of the presentation.
Love this presentation. Thank you, Shankar Vedantam.
Wonderfull presentation and great message to pass. Greetings from Italy
One of the best TED Talks I've ever seen! It was amazing! Thank you sp much for these words
Things that we can do for our future self:
1. Stay curious: expand our horizon (try as many things as we can)
2. Practice humility: don't too overconfident but put into mediocrity in our words or promises.
3. Be brave: maybe you don't have the capability to do the thing today, but your future self will.
Thank Mr.Shankar for this speech, I'm really appreciated about this, you made me more confident about my decision : improving everyday like all of your detail in video. I hope one day I don't look back and feel a lot of regrets. Thanks
Amazing talk & amazing thaught.
I always used to think that, the things that I wanted in the past, why don't I want them now.
You have answered that question wonderfully.
I have been eagerly waiting for this TED to get uploaded ever since I read about it on the TED blog. I kept listening to the last 3 minutes over and over.
There are so many TED's that have direct influence over our life and I think this one going to make on that list!
One of THE most enlightening talks ever.
Truly appreciated this powerful and mind-awaken video. it gave me the strength to keep in my journal in self-improving. Thank you
Curious engagement is 🔑 to adapting to change. Thanks for this.
The flaw in this line of deduction is that our future wants are weighed exclusively upon our individual capricious temperaments, not part of a broader collective -- of which the needs and wants of the past, present, and future, tend toward uniformity and resemble something _distinctly human,_ and of which comprises a significant part of the fabric of our futures. This is the perversion of individualism and a clear demonstration of narcissism.
Thanks for the hope. I was thinking whether I should try do something to myself now because there's a chance that I might end up falling for someone like Trump.
Fascinating. I've adopted the "broad collective" perspective some years ago as part of my self-development, and have yet to flesh that out.
So simple, so true. Great talk!
his podcast is truly phenomenal, it has such captivating stories that help teach some of lifes most valuable lessons. It helps listeners acctually be able to grasp what some of these old sayings truly mean.
Great TED Talk, I hope our future selves are proud of us.
A very interesting talk. And a talk that makes one think. I love it. I have long tried to not fix time and space, for those two things are constantly changing. I did not consider that it was also myself that would be a different person in the future - thank you ever so much for opening my mind further.
One of the best TED talks that I have ever listen to!
I do not know if I should smile or shed a tear. Deep.
" I don't have the capacity to do those things today, that doesn't mean I won't have the capacity to those things tomorrow" thank you very much. This is an area where I struggle. I judge myself on my ability now and it's hard to see who and what I will be capable of doing in the future
Oh, man! Great talk. I just begin to listen to podcast. And it's a surprise that the man I listen to most frequently delivered such a wonderful talk!
Every time I have to ask myself what should I do I think what the person I'm trying to become would do. That future of myself that I see, that person I WANT to be, that person I HAVE to become. I know what my future self wants cause I have been thinking like him since I was 12. I knew that he was going to be a combination of people and personality traits. So, I picked out what those would be and started practicing to become that person. My goals haven't changed once since, the only thing that's changed is the roadmap to achieve them. It's easier to know what your future self wants when your future self is standing beside you being the role model you need to become that future self.
Every thing he said about the topic hits so personal
Finally some high quality ted talk to watch. Really enjoyed this one.
So relatable & i felt touched😢❤ Thank you to my old self for not giving up❤❤
Really inspiring and great talk
I think this is one of the best TED Talks ever
Chills when he said thank you while looked into camera
This is apt. Thanks for your presentation.
Thank you! Such a powerful perspective!
as an intp, a person with extreme levels of anxiety, this is of great help. love this ted episode❤
a brilliant talk ,one of the best i have ever listened to .
that was an amazing talk. Be curious, Be brave. Practice Humility
geniius speech, thank you.
Beautifully put. That's the universal law of nature. Human beings are replaceable and so are their perspectives.
This TED was amazing!! Great and really importante discussion! We are always in evolution and moving, learning new thins e for consequently changing our thoughts, this is really makes part of the life!
Actually, I'm crying at the end of it ❤🙏