People Don't Care About Your Problems | @Cyrus Ausar
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- Опубліковано 16 лют 2021
- People Don't Care About Your Problems
One of the hardest lessons I had to learn was... people don’t really care about ME or MY PROBLEMS! Sometimes we meet great people who are exceptions to this, but generally, people don’t care about us! This is precisely why it is so crucial to develop our self-love!
What’s going on UA-cam?! My name is Cyrus, and I'm a speaker, author, and depression and suicide prevention expert. I’ve dedicated my life to developing content and products that help others overcome depression and prevent suicide! I’ve created videos, programs, books, workbooks, and audiobooks because we learn differently. My mission is for these resources to boost YOUR self-awareness and help YOU win YOUR war with mental health!
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People only care about you if you can benefit them.
Yes, agree, noticed this a lot with ppl. They want to have all ears 👂 listening to their problems but when you have input in all of a sudden it’s I don’t care about the particular situation. Yes, it’s all about what you can benefit and it’s selfishness too.
100%!
Nobody can argue about that.
Even yourself
Telling people about your problems is a good way for them to stop communicating with you. Many people will consider you weak and they will want to stop talking to you.
true talk 💯
Best comment so far.
My friend is using me to dump all of his shit on but as soon as I open up about my problems he looks away in the distance like almost saying "stop winging, I don't care" . I realise he is using me so I might have to stop being friends with him.
@@adrianmargean3402 or ask to borrow money. Even a little. Even if u have loaned them a lot in the past. Ghosted😂
My mate asked me to link up I told him I have an ACL Knee injury and I won’t be able to link up but he didn’t even care or say I will come and visit you.
Animals are more caring than humans & that's a fact!!
and babies!
I don’t expect a random person to care about my problems. Hell people close to you don’t even care 😅.
Facts... I'm lonely.
@@OwlCapone8630 what if im upset or depressed u cant just get over it like that. I bearly get advice of my feeling some just throw it back in my face like its nothing my own family do this to me and i tell them im not on your level like that or your time and they still dont care its hard to get help and family members i cant ask for help from them some are messy as shit i can be crying about something and i get told to get over it you not paying no bills or nothing and im like whats paying bills got to so with anything! i mean the way i have to get handle like that is crazy and advice on my situation ?
This mindset is a delusion.
I care about people.
200% true! When my husband died they cared for about a week. Family included.
So sorry for your loss. God sees and cares and I pray u are comforted and feel loved. ❤
But if you got money then everyone is your friend
This is why I’ve learned to keep my feelings to myself. People will ask, “how are you doing?” and now I just say, “I’m okay” because I realized that people don’t really care.
Years ago, I was in a deep depressive state, so I wrote a letter to a friend telling her everything, everything I was going through, everything I was feeling. If I tried verbally expressing it, it was too difficult, emotionally. If I tried talking, I’d break down and start to cry, so I wrote it all down instead.
Well, long story short, it didn’t do anything. It was as if I’d written nothing. I was throwing out a life line, looking for help. I got basically no response to what I’d written. That’s when I stopped sharing.
Now I don’t tell those around me anything. People on the internet know more about my problems that those who are actually in my life.
I feel you
I don't even say that. If I sense that am not comfortable with talking with the person, I just get up and walk off or I ignore them by suddenly acting like I am rummaging through my purse for something like my phone or for a kleenex to wipe my face etc.. I avoid them all together.. I send them the clear message that I don't want to talk to them and to leave me alone
You know it!! 👍
People are shitty…..you know the funny thing If you checked out, they would be the first saying ..I wish they said something, or reached out..as soon as yer gone, then they start caring….
@@pallavisreetambraparni6995daaang. same here. i prefer to walk out/away from the spot/place where i can't be around with them. it's an act.
It’s not even that people are worrying about their own worries . People just don’t care at all about eachother . They could have 0 worries they still not care .
Yes but then most of the population use twitter and care about everyone else's problems and then watch tv shows to tune into others issues as entertainment, which is weakening unless your learning or watching good films or theatre, but if it's for dopamine drama hits of useless information then that's just an addiction, We Perpetuate This Type Of Lifestyle In Culture, But Can't Help One Another? But Instead We Can Only Use There Looking For Help As Way To Attack Them To See Them Below Us As So Called Weak, Which Is Backwards & Based On The Mindset Of Finding Others Problems As Entertainment & A Joke. Which Makes you see less of who they are in potential & see them from your own limited perspective of creating a narrative based on what they did once and only seeing them that way, due to your own lack of mental awareness.
Helping others sometimes is helpful for us to get over areselfs, or who we think we are in mind, but be grounded and with someone else without judging them or the situcation in hindsight because anything we can learn from it and hopefully be enlightened to are own ignorance & rigidity in the process to become wiser and to form more meaning & virtue for are own lifes which is not a compensation attuide for trying to seem strong, but is strong from going through a process of being weakened by lack of emotional education and then building my foundation to have a independent mindset that is thought through but not overly logically or analytical but with a sense of deep flow.
This is a sad truth.This is why people are forced to go to strangers - therapists - because their "loved ones" have no interest in listening to their problems or helping them out. Even paid mental health therapists can get annoyed with their clients. Some of us do have a few people we can talk to and be real with but our culture demands "Fake it till you Make it", "Pull yourself up by your bootstraps". If someone asks how you are, you answer "Great, couldn't be better!" Even if you're feeling the exact opposite. Even if you are having significant medical, mental health, money, housing, you_name_it problems. Just lie and smile. "Act As If" you're on top of the world. It is unfortunate we have to be fake but this is how people succeed, as western culture defines "success".
My therapist thought that my issues, most of which are deep seeded childhood trauma, will be solved within a couple of months of therapy. When she realised that it wasn't happening, she told me she has to stop seeing me and she gave some bullshit reason that she has to go away for a while.
Yep
Your dang right
Absolutely true. Sad 😥
If you are a believer, I believe in Jesus, I recommend prayer. It is called lamenting. You can take time out of each day to vent to God, and thank God for all of the blessings you have in your life, example "Thank you Lord for the breath in my lungs, the food in my refrigerator, ect" then talk about all the things that hurt you and your concerns. This is the proper way to get it all out, without dumping it on others since most don't want to hear. Then give yourself hope with reading the Bible, there are many easy to read translations. I recommend this and you will feel much better. We cannot depend on people to fulfill this need, but God cares about your problems and will help you by giving you peace and understanding. Hope you would consider this!:)
As a very generous giver who is always there for others I can attest this is true, many people have broke my heart
But that makes it not true, you care, I also care, and other people too, we shouldn't give in to that shit.
I'm experiencing this right now. I'm a person who's usually there for people when in their low states, now that the tables have turned, I'm all alone, nobody cares. It's just me, God, my mum and brother.
May God help us all
U have ur Mom and brother. Blessed.
That's why suicide is a rational conclusion to thw worst of life. Trying hasnt been workinf and with no one to care ans no reason to care about myself might as well end it
yo brother, are you okay?
Truth. Generally speaking most don't care. People are so stressed already on their own. I go to God.
True brother. When I was a kid I was always taught it is good to share your problems with people. But as a grow older I just came to realize this is not the always the case.
True it enlightens, but some people stuck in their own prison mind nothing but endless suffering not knowing what is going on and in confusion which adds the intensity of pain
Never the case.
Sometimes it is good. But if you do it all the time, then that will become a problem.
This is a world where your OWN FAMILY is not gonna care about you once you’re 18. They might say all this and that just to keep yourself in control and just to maintain their social status. It’s really a cold world always gotta keep yo hoodie on
Yesssss 100% agree
Honestly, I’ve decided to just be with the only person who does care, and that’s God. No one on this earth gives a shit. But I’m just gonna find happiness here on earth, and I’m just gonna love myself, and let go of others.
at least it's better than your own Family keeping you as a prisoner in their house or anywhere. and even when some adults are grown. they still have Families who still don't want them going anywhere on their own. and legal Gaurdianship makes things Worse.
@@fairymairah that was my case, well I’m 23 now somehow managing to pay for rent but hey I’ve been living alone for a while now everyday smoking 10g of weed best life I can ask for. My parents literally wasted not just their own money but 3 years from my life since they provoked me into doing engineering but all I wanna do is a simple job like a bus driver that I am right now, providing me enough for my rent, food clothes insurance and ofc weed
I hear ya brother. It’s like my family was faking it until mum died and now shes gone no one has to pretend to care anymore coz she was the only one anyone cared about because she done everything possible under the sun for us.
I smoke basically that or more and honestly it’s a good relief but not the right answer. I’m trying to get off it but it’s hard but I know with Gods help I can do it and ultimately feel better in the end and not rely so heavily on it. I am 41 now and been smoking hard everyday for longer than I haven’t but I’m no loser and weed doesn’t mean you are. I have a wife, a daughter, a home, a boat, 4 cars, own my own business that wife also works for and I donate to charity and homeless as much as possible but I know I can be better without weed and I never need it until my late teens. Saying that I’m about to rip a bong after I type this 😂😕. All the best brother in life and love and good luck and Gob bless 🙏🏽
The People I surround myself with do care about my problems and I care about their problems. That’s because I prioritise those kind of relationships above everything. Sometimes though you have to lead by example and reach out to help.
Absolutely true. How many people do you talk to are actually interested in you? Not many eh? Most just talk about themselves. Don't rely on others as they'll ultimately let you down.
True. As soon as I open my mouth to my friend about my depression, my friend gives me the 1000 yard stare. The fucked up part is that he's always dumping all of his emotional bullshit on me and I listen to him. But as soon as he has to reciprocate, he could not give a shit.
I'm always there for my siblings when they vent regardless if I agree with them or not I want them to feel heard and understood but this is not reciprocated.
A true person does care ..one that has compassion does ...selfish people don't care is what is real about them ....word selfish carless people ... Narcissistic people ,jealous self centered . But most people don't care about anything period .
I 100% wholeheartedly agree. There comes a point in your life where you have to acknowledge and accept that nobody cares, and nobody is here to save you and the best thing you can do once you realize that is be there for yourself and love yourself. You have to accept that you’re good enough and life is 100% what you make it and then have gratitude for the few people that do come in your life that do care cherish them but even if they don’t come or stay very often you have to be content and not expect an apology from anybody for all the horrible crap they’ve done to you, because 99% of the time they don’t know any better and they don’t care
I've learned this the hard way repeatedly. And it's not uncommon for the people who should care to not care either. Life isn't fair because it's no fairytale.
always put the Lord first in your life, and the second part is to care about yourself, point blank, no mo talk 😁😁
Thank you for this video. I have been dealing with things and crying on people shoulders. Not even needing them for anything major. Just a shoulder to cry on, They tried to use it against me. I was so depressed, but now, I go to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ cause He is truly my rock. He ain’t gone turn His back on me. Praise His name.
I care about humanity a little too much it’s easy for them to hurt me so I have to be very careful
Ain't no joke it's the members of your own household don't care the most strangers care the most. Im just giving it to God and moving on
As I get older, I see this more and more.
People call me when they need money, a favor or need something. But nobody call me to just talk.
They will talk to me though if they NEED a ear to listen to their problems. But not to ask how I’m doing.
I am trying my best to listen to my kids. I want them to talk to me freely without the fear of me snapping on them.
Because in today worlds, likes on social media means you are liked or loved by strangers. If you don’t get likes, no one loves you.
Social interaction is almost over. That’s why I am rarely on Social Media and more outdoors.
Everything u said is true. I learned it the hard way. Bottom line is u can not trust anyone! Not even parents or spouse! Always wise to keep matters to yourself and talk to God and ask for his guidance.
You should seek therapy instead and not religion for your problems
It's a brutal truth
Not all people, many people out there truly care!
At the end of the day, you are your own intimate friend. May be except your mom and dad, no one really have a skin in the game of your life, on the other hand you should accept th fact that “No one really gonna care about you”, and it makes you free of other people expectations and opinions, and helps you to develop self reliant.
this needs more views damn!
Overtime! I get that a lot on my videos. Thank you very much.
What does care equal? Honesty, truth? Affection, care? Time spent to listen? Physical charity? What do you need to receive or understand from someone? What is the price? Comfort is the ultimate result. Can you help? People don’t remember what you say to them.. they remember how you make them feel.
Coming from a legitimate empath who just had a heart-to-heart with someone online, until a 3rd party replied with "this is so cringe seriously 100% of people do not care"....yeah just sign me up for assisted suicide already if I'm signing off for a future of people who seriously do not gaf even about strangers....I get what you're saying and I don't disagree, but that doesn't make it right nor healthy to be projecting "idgaf" energy to people who may not have anything at all. (not saying you're doing this.)
Hope you're doing good now. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there, fake people have no shame putting themselves out there.
I don't usually comment on any websites whatsoever... But I can't believe you don't have higher number all across the board. You speak the truth. So far everything you say feels true. I wish for your success and to succeed. Please keep it up!!!!
It's a real shame that you aren't collecting more subscribes... Shocked to see some videos 3 years old and criminally under like/shared. ETC.
I'm gonna start spreading the word
True no one cares about your problems or your needs on you should care because you are te only one who loves your self.Rule #2 do not tell anyone your problems except your self
Pretty Straight-forward. Be careful who you confide in. Major betrayals are down the road..
This is the harsh truth i needed right now.
From my experience people not only care but also many are happy coz you have your problems.
This was the raw truth! Understanding it will solve so many of our problems.
I agree with you. I had a very traumatic childhood. My parents were constantly fighting and it resulted in me feeling very unloved and quite needy because my parents were too busy killing each other instead of nurturing their children.
When I grew into an adult, I made some bad mistakes like a lot of people do. I realized that I needed to take care of myself and also to keep my problems to myself. Chronic complaining drives people away because you're realeasing negative energy and in return you're getting a negative result.
People who have serious issues need to go to therapy to heal, set boundaries and learn to respect other people's boundaries and to rewire their negative thought process.
In life, every child that grows into an adult ends up one of two ways. The child either progresses forward into a mentally healthy adult or the child's mental health development remains stunted which results in the child devloping a personality disorder. To combat this, mental health therapy is so important in the healing of childhood trauma. I went to therapy and got better. I don’t talk about my problems to anyone anymore because as you correctly stated in this video...PEOPLE DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS.
God bless
I never tell my problems i always fight i come out stronger. Only to my mentor this person give my direction. Not to my family
So true brother and I realised this massively about a year after my mother died. I’ve actually been told by friends and loved ones that I care too much like it’s a problem I have or something. It actually breaks my heart to be honest as you think they feel the same way but kinda know they don’t but when your told by nearly everyone close to you that you care too much you start to realise it’s a cold world and no wonder it’s getting worse by the day. Peace and love to all reading this and may God bless you ❤🙏🏽
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my 22 year old nephew in 2022 and haven’t been the same since. I feel like people just expect us to get over it. If people are not going to be understanding then we need to focus on ourselves and our wellbeing because grieving the loss of a loved one is the hardest thing and last thing we need is people who don’t make us feel cared about. I’m keeping boundaries and focusing on my self care and the people that are actually there for me. Life is too short to waste on people that never show up for us!
Most people are out to get other. Unfortunately, that's just how most human brains are wired. You would think that things have changed after the pandemic because so many lives were lost. But unfortunately, that's not the case. Unfortunately, very little has changed since then.
People really need ta grow up... I mean jeez...... gimme a thumbs up if ya care like me...❤❤❤☮️
Sometimes people just pay lipservice and pretend to be your "friend" when you really need them. I always find that I am giving a listening ear and try to help others as much as I can. I "genuinely" care but when it comes to my own problems and my need to express them, I find that people change the subject when I start telling them what I'm going through. It's so sad and very discouraging....
This soothes me somehow because i have been desperate for a long time now i know i need to take care of myself
Speak it, brother. We need to face that reality and make our own lives priority. We are usually all we got and ain't nobody coming.
It happened to me yesterday at the checkout. When I was working as a cashier when a man came up to me making no sense and cause the scene until another customer tells him hurry up because he wants to pay his groceries. Then the first man start acting crazy and cursing yelling I am disabled, you guys shouldn’t treat me like that. We didn’t say nothing just enjoy the “show”, but in my mind I’m thinking what’s that got to do with me with your problems. I’d care with respect!
They only care about something only as it relates to themselves? Have you ever noticed that?
Your preaching the gospel brother👍
I work at a mom & pop company in Pennsylvania, They want to know everyone's problems, But do not help !! And their stinking wealthy.
I've realized one thing about gossip places, They will send you straight to Hell.
Thank you for your advice, we have decided to leave Pennsylvania for good.
The Hell I've gone through where I've worked since 2008, I could write a Book.
Would it even be worth it??
Probably not.
I can totally relate to this. My co-worker supervisor always said hi to me as soon as he saw me as if he willing to socialize with me. When I told him about my social anxiety he stopped initiating.
I know for a fact NOBODY CARES ABOUT ME AND NEVER HAVE. THEY ONLY CARED ABOUT WHAT I HAVE DONE FOR OR DO FOR THEM.
I agree 💯💯💯😢
Real talk
What most people do care about however is telling everyone about your problems.
Thank you Sir. I needed this. I've long held the belief the majority of humans are psychotic, making it hard for those with empathy to fit.
If they care about my problems. Why do I have to care about their problems? Reciprocated feeling
Exactly. If people don’t care about you why waste your time on them.
You are absolutely correct my friend. For me, it was easy to understand this concept but hard to accept. You want people to care about you and think that you're something special to them but in reality, you're really not. I worked a job where I was very close with some of my co-workers and after I left that job, never heard from them again. That's just the reality of life. If you can accept it though, then you can realize that you don't have to spend your life making others happy. Just be nice to him and make your own life easier.
Good point. Many friends are only acquaintances. They’ll grow up, move away and have their own kids. Outside your best friend or girlfriend no one thinks you’re special.
I hate hearing this but at the same time, I need to. I’m the one who EVERYONE calls when they need someone to listen or when they need a favor and I ALWAYS do it because i care. Because I take on others struggles as my own & don’t want them to feel like that so I do it! So SOME people care!!! I feel their pain!! I cry for them & there’s no way I can’t do what I can to make those I care about feel better about themselves. But now recently, I’ve been feeling a little down & so quickly realized, I do t even want to reach out for support because they ALL depend on me! So how would it be if I need someone?!
A harsh reality. People don’t really care…
you have nooooo idea how much this helped. This was like a green light on what I need to do now. Thank you
I've been thinking harshly for the entire past year, it's just nice to hear someone being completely honest without being rude about it.
I learned so much with this situation I'm going through
You gotta take care of yourself to the point where you have the capacity to help others.
Fucking exactly and I don't care about them.
Its life and people try to survive.
I am caught up in my own life and I try to deal with my own problems yo.
I am a misanthrope because people are the worst. I've met shitty people. So I be alone and I go on alone.
I just got to care about myself.
Thank you! I have been feeling guilty for teh past two days for canceling plans on a friend who is in town visiting. I literally have been feeling guilty unable to sleep - when in fact he probably does not care at all!.. It's really freeing to know that no one cares...
This is the sad reality. But talking about your problems with people isn't always bad. But if you do it with everyone, then we have an issue.
This is straight up truth!💯
Thank you for saying it straight up and keeping it real. Efficient and straight to the point. Made me shiver when you were telling it, but I’m glad you said it.
Thank you for this. This is a jagged pill to swallow, but I needed to hear this.
I really needed to hear that! Now I feel sorry for my friend that listens to all my issues!
I talk my problems to parents, they say life is tough you need to work to live to survive, it's like that, I told my friends same they said same, stop complaining, life is tough. My question is Does life has to be tough like this??
I think that advice honestly means that they don’t care enough about the issues you tell them about.
Imagine if someone is being bullied and instead of showing them that they should fight back or something or helping to defend them, their friends told them life is tough.
Imagine telling someone suicidal, life is tough, rather than getting them therapy.
I’m not sure if life has to be tough. I think if we know how to manage situations and have a healthy perspective on stuff life is easier.
Nah man, Thank you for being brutally honest about it. I've been doing customer service for years, And my biggest issue is the people, whether it be their half assed kindess/common courtesy, Or that they are only nice to people they know, And not just everyone as a whole. For me though, I need to remember, I don't have to care, But I also don't need to be rude either. Cheers man.
We are on our own journey and we have to put number 1 first.
Sooooo, true! 100% right. I’m so glad you are explaining in a way right to the point.
I warn people around my age that people are not gonna be able to play M rated video games again because of the age facial recognition technology that’s coming out which is bullshit and I literally warned people and one of them called me a liar and I literally said I was being honest and they didn’t listen so I just said fine have fun not being able to play games for the rest of your life. Until the age of 17 or 18 at least
So true facts man ,these days people just want talk smack once I am up tell Them
I'm learning and I learned the hard way .but you told the absolute truth..God bless and thank you
the worst is when i realized my own parents who i depended on my whole life and trusted my whole life, dont care.
Sad but true.
I meannn😅
Pastors counsel with people also. They get run nuts.
I think you are correct.
Tough lesson.
Thank you for spreading knowledge, I had to learn this a long time ago, but I keep momentarily forgetting. No-one cares!
I appreciate this message brother! True message
Solid dude, solid. I’ve been caught up in this “someone will save me”crap throughout my life. It hasnt been constant but reared its head enough. It took me to get to almost 60 years old, where parents and relatives are dead and friends and lovers are gone, to FULLY rely on myself.
Dont be like me. Barrel through life handling your own shit.
Good job. People have to face reality because their parents, lovers and friends will be long dead or retired. No one can stay as a kid forever and have fun forever. If that was the case then there would be no old people. They will have to rely on their own decisions.
You’re right man, hella insightful
Great video and if people understood this they will make it a priority to reach their full potential
Thank You For Telling The Truth,
💯 that say 20 percent don’t care and the 80 happy you have those problems
The most real thing I've ever heard!!!
Appreciate the honesty man.
Absalutly true, bro
Most people are happy you have problems!
I Believe what you're saying must be true. but it's hard to Believe.
@@fairymairah it is. We live in an insane world
Powerful words
Amen.
This helped me so much frfr thanks..
facts since the start to the end FACTS.
This is the Truth
ok bro FINALLY I FOUND RELATABLE SHIT that IS true. like bruh im tired of some kind people saying that people do care about me and this and that but the truth is they really DON’T. so tysm for speaking the REAL truth. im gonna need to help myself but the truth is im too lazy to do
2:56 a key point for me to hear, thank you for making this a year ago 😅
Thumbs up👍
based and true