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I used to worry deeply about what is going on in the people’s head about me, but I realized that you cannot achieve your dreams as long as you live in fear of people's opinions and trying to please everyone is stupidity and delusion,but that way of thinking doesn’t mean that you have to hate people and don’t always listen to their opinions.. but you should accept all people despite their differences and their backgrounds because being successful is something and being kind is something else,That was the most important lesson that i learned in 2019
I prefer that people care about what I think than vice versa, except for those who earn my respect and trust. To the rest, I really couldn't give a damn.
Not caring what other people think is the ultimate freedom, but you have to at least control what you WANT other people to think of you and keep your businesses on the down low. As you are dependent on other people to get where you want to be in life, simply not caring what other people think, saying whatever is on your mind and acting a fool will get you no where. That's just reality.
@@daithiocinnsealach1982 just came up with a better version (by reading yours wrong): "There has been much tragedy in my life; at least half of it happened today."
If only we could consistently treat our lives as the living out of a miracle. For love is always a mirror, love is always honest. Sometimes, on rare occasion, love comes round and says nothing whilst intwined in this preconceived notion of self, And self is projected onto self completely, thoroughly, And solutions are born like plague. Lol
I realised this in 7th grade when my friend got her hair done and was very excited about it when she said "everyone's looking at me" I looked around and not ONE PERSON WAS LOOKING. Life lesson in small things.
I know exactly what you are talking about, got a friend who sincerely believe that everyone is looking at her, because she is so beautiful, but nobody even look at her, and then she feels irritated because why do they look? I see it for what it is, but didn't have the heart to tell her that nobody cares. That is also an overblow of an ego and a narcissist behaviour. Sadly.
So true. It took me 50 years to learn this, and it was very freeing. After reaching 73, I just don't care what others think, because they aren't thinking about me anyway.
@@funkXCIV That's a good question. I think the most important thing is to accept yourself just the way you are, and never try to change to please other people.
Sue Anderson Very true. I think I've learned that finally at age 50. One friend's saying that I finally understood this past year is, "Your opinion of me is none of my business."
Wayne Green From someone who is 50 and learned things the hard way, I'd say: Don't get into debt; start saving early; if you find someone isn't respectful to you, realize they are not your friend, and it's ok to move away from them, don't waste your time and energy trying to change them; you can't change others, only yourself; say yes to new opportunities, don't be afraid, you can always walk away if it is not for you; take care of your health when you are young, exercise daily and eat as best as you can. Accept yourself for who you are, forgive yourself for any "bad" decisions you may have made and move on. Be honest and direct with people or some will take advantage. That's all I can think of for now. Hopefully you can avoid making unnecessary mistakes and spend more of your time living and enjoying your life. You'll still have your own lessons to learn - that can't and shouldn't be avoided.
Exactly i have been wondering this this year alot how many things i wanted to in public or may be career wise i always think of society or people around me. We become so much anxious in the time of social media. We are so much influenced by fake social media influencers. And we only see the good part of them and our miseries then become more serious cause we think we are not good enough.. But actually nobody really cares. Do whatever you want to do. As long as you are not hurting anybody!
We spend our 20's and 30's worrying that people are talking about us, our 40's and 50's wondering why no one is talking about us, and the rest of our lives realizing that no one was talking about us in the first place.
Veronika A. Worry is a choice as is happiness. We decide where we allow our thoughts to travel. Mental stop signs worked for me. Along with a mental 'switch', reminding me to change/reverse the idea plaguing my brain.
Mane on a new plane nigga Because your welfare can depend on your thought processes it is extremely important to not concern yourself with what others are thinking. Since you generally cant guess what they think or change it anyway, it is a waste of your energy.
I mean our problems are ultimately 'Our' problems not there. I realise how little I think about others. And most of the time I am engaged in Me, myself and I theory only. It sounds selfish, but after all self interest is all that matters.
However, if you continue to bottle everything up, over time it can really affect you and others around you. So being open with friends and family would be the best thing to do, not struggle on your own. You can tell them your worries and etc, and they can tell you theirs. It can make people feel better they got something off their chest, and allow them to move on.
What strangers think of you has no affect on your value, potential or capabilities. This video is partially true but entirely misguided. The nihilistic undertone encourages people like the asshole before me to respond as such. Psychological warfare to disconnect us from one another. Stay strong brother the world is run by psychopaths but people are still good natured. 🙏🏼 Be strong and u will attract the light
One of my closest friends proudly announced at a party that his dental braces were finally off. That after spending 10 years embarrassed about his 'terrible teeth' he finally did something about it and spent tens of thousands of dollars on his dental work. In the awkward silence I had to tell him the truth...that *NO ONE HAD EVER NOTICED* hahaha
Yeah, I was walking around after surgery, with a catheter tube coming out of my shorts leg, and carrying the bag in a shopping bag, for about 10 days, and later, I found out no one noticed!
On another note I remember when I was 14 years old and this skater boy at the skate park I was sitting at, he was an older one, he was like 18 or 19. Really cute, freckles with a massive white boy ginger afro. Basically one of the cool kids. He came up like "hey' what's your name", he was talking to me. His name was willie. He wasn't being a creep or anything, he saw i was kind of flirting with a guy who was more my age. When I told him my name, he looked at the guy I was talking to (Jeff, who later on became my boyfriend that year and we had sex to 9 inch nails up above it....lol let's just say he was having a lot of fun with that chorus), and he said right in front of me, horrifyingly "she's cute until she's opens up her mouth! Haaaaah!" Round of applause from all the cute skater boys surrounding including a huge chuckle from my buddy Jeff. To this day I'm still really devastated by that comment. This was before I got braces. I'm still struggling to determine if he meant open up my mouth so he could see my teeth and how crooked my smile is due to my asymmetrical facial features or until I start talking and he could hear my monotonous voice and didn't like it. I don't know. This happened in 1994 and I still stress out about it frequently. the irony is Willie became a hardcore meth junkie and he shoots up and he looks like shit. He is literally missing teeth and he's a shell of a human being. It's really sad. On the other hand, not to toot my own horn, I'm kind of like a swan or whatever. LOL yesterday this guy that I like said I have a butt that's going to keep on getting bigger until I'm an old lady and it made me laugh. my butt is like three times thicker than it was when I was 20 and I'm only 42. 🤣 I just replied well at least working out has been building something outta nothing over all these years!
People don’t care and that’s just the harsh reality we have to accept. I’ll be honest there has been times where idgaf about anyone but myself. If I get a gigantic amount of money, do u share that with other people? No, bc u only care about urself. It’s ok to be a little selfish, not everyone has time to look out for everyone. This is why u gotta be ur own person.
I had severe anxiety for most of my life but once I realized people mostly just care about themselves and aren’t really concerned with what others are doing my anxiety got infinitely better.
That’s very true:) it’s hard to remember sometimes but go through the things you’ve thought about something and see how relevant it stays in your mind when times past and you’ve got your own issues like bills, family, etc. The last thing you or anyone is thinking is about what someone did at say a party 6 or 12 months earlier. Yet the one who did said things are probably busy dwelling over this idea that everyone still has it fresh in their minds or something.
@@hivaladeen4892 i have a memory where i had to give a speech on a big stage infront of my whole school and as soon as i got on stage i got stage freight and started crying infront of the school that was 5 years ago but i still remeber it like yesterday
@@ahha5252 That happens and you’re not alone:) it’s embarrassing to you there and then but so what? Everyone’s got their embarrassing moment equivalent to what you described, and the problem is, people often worry about if the people they see/talk to will think of that as soon as you are brought up, but they’re just like you. Everyone’s too fixated on their own problems. No one will remember that moment now unless brought up, and even if they do, it doesn’t hold anywhere near the same value/embarrassment as you may have thought back 5 years ago. Thank you for sharing
I realized my Anxiety came from my mom not taking accountability and would make me feel self doubt in my perception and ability to make judgements and invalidated my feelings and would do things that were hurtful and disrespectful and disregard my feelings and this generated anxiety. How you can tell if you have anxiety of this type is are you afraid of things you can’t see like a noise in the bushes but then fearless to a scary situation so long as you can see and identify something worthy of being feared by a typical person.
@ It's a quote from the movie "Lost In Translation" edit: This quote also appears in the last part of the song "rock & roll" by EDEN, you should check it out, it's a beautiful song.
This helped me get over my anxiety. I couldn't leave the house without getting a anxiety attack. Someone told me "you'll never be pretty enough, fit enough for everyone. So just live your life, we're all going to die anyway"
So I heard this saying: "In your twenties and thirties, you worry what other people think of you; in your forties and fifties, you stop caring about that; and in your sixties and seventies, you discover that they never thought about you in the first place". Guess this video can help speed that up a bit :-)
i definitely stopped caring as i have gotten older, but to be fair, i have pretty bad depression. I just realized that in the end i'm on my own, and no one will truly be there for me in the end.
@@queencooljewel2433 Im exactly the same. So all I do everyday now is give stray dogs dead legs with my fist and shout obscenities at OAP's crossing the road such as, 'Hurry up grandpa', or 'Old lady you should hurry up'. I know some people might think I'm completely out of my mind loco, but it makes me happy, so I just do it anyway. Screw the haters nah mean.
This truth actually changed my life. I was highly anxious and introverted all the way through to high school "about 17 years old" always worried about what others think. This lead me to never approach anyone for anything. I never joined in on conversations had any girlfriends or even friends. But after realising that no one cared about anything. That I would be just a footnote in a memorie they were bound to forget. That nothing I do in casual day to day life would be remembered or written down. I realised that my issues talking, always thinking I would make a fool of myself, just disappeared and now I can talk freely to anyone anytime with a senserity I don't see often. I've flipped from a hopeless stressed introvert into an extroverted outgoing carefree guy. Honestly I'm happier than I have been my whole life thanks to this change. But I like to pair this with another philosophy. That is, don't attribute to malice what can be explained through ignorance and indifference. Always believe that everyone isn't actively trying to spite you. Give them the benefit of the doubt and because nothing matters just let it go. When you believe that no one cares about you you can realise that no one is targeting you and just accept that when someone does something bad or gets upset with you its not because of you its them dealing with there own issues and you should just let it go
Sir Dante the Dank I’m actually happy for you 💙, and I wish u be a successful person Can I ask u something ; how old are you now? I don’t know this question just came to me !
That last sentence.. I did the wrong thing and kinda changed myself because of the other person feeling annoyed about me... Entered into a relationship.. My originality, I cudnt express because I suppressed it, thinking that I was doing the right thing for the person and changing my views becoming emotional and caring about small things... When problems came up, I was very weak that I person started losing respect on me and that hurt a lot. Now we broke up and I'm recovering from all my shifts in my belief and opinion.. I think I'm very weak..
Its so liberating and freeing I grew up believing people are judging me 24/7, afraid to be perceived I love growing older because as i get older, the less i care and the more authentic i can be!
This is very true. This became evident when I left all social media. I realized that no one really cares, except maybe your mother. But broadly speaking, people you pass by on the street or you work with couldn't care less. It's wise to reciprocate that indifference as its pointed out here on this video.
In my story, I'm the protagonist and everybody else are side characters, but in yours I'm just a side character and the world doesn't revolve about me. This is proof that life is about all, not just me or you.
I'm a highly sympathetic person and as such I care a lot about other people, more so than about myself. So, using myself as an example, as the video advises, is not a good idea in my case. I've been struggling with loneliness, anxiety and depressive episodes ever since high school. I am now 30 and I'm slowly beginning to realize that most people are just so self-centered and so caught up in their own lives that it doesn't even cross their mind to think about me, including those I consider my friends. It's always me who writes first to check on people, always me who tries to organize meet-ups. I once decided to stop trying and see what would happen. For over two weeks the only living person who contacted me was my mother. The conclusion I reached: most humans are selfish and petty, and I shouldn't bother myself looking for their attention. Cynical and ironic, I know.
same omg. I have also come to terms with the fact that people dont care about me at all as compared to how much they care about their own life. People are never gonna put others needs above their owns like i do, that others are never gonna receprocate how i do with them. It's difficult when you can feel how others would be feeling and their sadness and happiness too. Its natural to compromise our own wellbeing for the sake of others when its more painful to see someone suffering than when we are suffering ourselves. It took 20 yrs of my life to learn this. I feel now that it was only me who got hurt in the process of caring too of others and rather should spend time on my own self, and its the only kind of reciprocation that i will ever get. Because at the end of the day i accepted the fact that people dont feel my feelings,the way i feel theirs.
i'm a firm believer that if you worry about what other people think, it's actually because YOU yourself think that way about other people, one way or another. if you let your judgement of other people go, and just care less, and focus on yourself, it'll reveal reality in a different perspective.
I hate it when someone says that "no one cares" or that "other people don't think about you anyway". They do. What's wrong with admitting that we are being judged daily for all kinds of things? It's not about "realising" something about reality, it is, like you said, about changing ourselves and our own perspective.
10 years ago, I use to worry every second when someone stared at me but eventually I let it go and realized no one cares because everyone is worried about their own problems.
A friend of mine said she felt embarrassed remembering some things she said and did in junior high or something. I told her, sweetheart, no one other than yourself remembers those things. Your ex-peers are much more likely to remember something embarrassing they said or did. My friend is going through some stuff mentally at the moment and honestly I think she is making matters way worse for herself by thinking that other people care that much. One of the most liberating realizations in life is when you realize that, actually, nobody cares. We're all way too self-involved to care.
Children should be taught to value themselves more. Not all this do this, do that, do as I say. Children should be taught to love themselves not spend their time thinking that they have to keep on pleasing others. That is how you get mixed up children and adults. Love yourself first the rest comes later.
You will quickly realize that there is actually pretty always someone to please sometimes you want to do that : for example - your partner other times you have clients And your boss who might also operate the same scheme And pleases his boss. So welcome to the reality
Agree 100%. I’ll be 40 this year and I’d say over the last 10 years I’ve also realized that for the most part you’re on your own in life and very few , if any people truly care about you. Sad but true
People care enough when they're trying to bring you down or destroy you.. They pay attention to every single thing about you. Just ask all the people tormented by bullies-
Cut them off, be brutal. Move away if you can. Just run, run far away from them as you can because they won't stop, I know it sounds dramatic but it's the truth. These people get enjoyment on bringing others down. You just have to get them out of your life. Do it as soon as you can before they destroy you. Much love to you. ❤️
That’s make sense, some friends pay attention to what I do and later they talk in a indirect way with bullie actitude, always trying put me down, his texts in groups chats, say what they really think, just pay attention, all it’s just for his ego, I don’t want theses friends.
Satin Perfume In my chat group, a few weeks ago, I started to put in my photos the finger of ok, my emoticons and gifts too, so a friend went on vacation, she put her photos having fun, a friend text in the group “its must put down her finger ”, “she thinks she is up”, our friend never came out in her photos with her finger on ok. So where that thought come from? I confirm what I was thinking, the guy thinks of me and his instincts are to put me down, he made a mistake, what a person writes are his thought, it is difficult to falsify.
It's because it gives them a sense of power for a moment. They Feel surperiour. But that feeling don't last for long. And then they have to repeat the bullying. All you who bully people Out there- you are rotten inside - and you know it.
Please watch “constantly criticizing - giving advice narcissist” on youtube. This sounds like narcissistic tendencies. They criticize and give unsolicited ADVICE all the time (because they are superior). And when you tell them anything they will say “I am saying this for your own good”. HERE IS THE LINK ua-cam.com/video/YuHnyCCbv5M/v-deo.html
I am reminded of a little thing that happened in high school. When I was in elementary school, I used to cry and throw a fit at least every week (I had undiagnosed and unmedicated anxiety disorder at the time.) Throughout middle school and high school, I was shy, suffered from low self-esteem, and believed everyone hated me because of these embarrassing tantrums. It was either in junior or senior year of high school that I asked a girl with whom I went to elementary school if she remembered me crying all the time. She said no. Huh.
Samee. I realized this when I was 16. In school I would constantly worry what others might think of me to the point that everything was centered around to please others and it took alot of energy As in I wanted to feel superior. I had a fake persona. Then at 16 i realized that whatever you do ppl might barely think of you for 1 second which is not worth the effort.
Good to be reminded when visiting family. They’re always critical of my hair, clothes, style/life choices-but their critiques are just are an exaggerated (and unwelcome) sign of care…’Cuz in reality, no one else does.
@mic mccoy dude wtf? The person said that this channel is the only thing that understands us and here you go crying about politics and trying to separate people.. Just watch the video and go Jezus.
This video is partially true but entirely misguided. Divisive and nihilistic propaganda used to stoke the pilot flames of America’s hopelessness and despair, while disconnecting us further from one another. And it ain’t by accident folks. 🧐
Always speak for yourself Sam. Also your comment is so intensely dramatic it could become a new high school musical. These vids are super basic and generic in my view.
ahmed safi We all feel anxious at times. Our society today is now based on fear and material worship, you are not crazy. Stay strong love yourself and others 🙏🏼 U will attract the light. God bless
ahmed safi Have you thought about why you are anxious? I only started experiencing anxiety in the last couple years, and I really think it has to do with feeling a lack of control over our own lives. There are also herbal and nutritional supplements that can help reduce anxious feelings, and promote better sleep which helps your whole self, mind and body. I found ashwaghanda and magnesium helped me quite a bit. Plus also getting regular exercise and eating better. Take care of yourself.
I appreciate this channel most of all for validating the nuance of experience: naming it, underlining it, & therefore bringing some balance back into my tendency to think in extremes.
Going through this now. The video came at the perfect time. And thank you so much for all of your comments! I couldn’t stop liking them, laughing at some, taking screenshots to read them again when I feel low, and feeling relieved that I’m not alone. We’ve all got this ❤️
I do notice things about people and sometimes judge them and I feel like a lot of other people do too. I think a more accurate approach is to stop worrying exactly because someone is still gonna judge you anyway, no matter what you do. There will always be people who just don't like you and it's kind of okay.
Yeah I think it's like, of course people are going to dislike and disagree with me, we have such different upbringings and perspectives. So 80% of people don't judge me, and the rest that do, they haven't walked in my shoes.
Not everyone has had the childhood experience of devoted and loving parents. Some of us start off being disliked, criticised and unacknowledged. It takes a lifetime to heal, if it ever does.
I suffer from main character syndrome and literally think everyone is always thinking about me/judging me/laughing at me/talking about me etc. 100% of my actions and words and thoughts are to please other people so I get compliments and validation. It's holding me back in life because I'm constantly scared of looking stupid or disappointing others or being talked about 😩😩😩
It’s very comforting to me to be aware that people are busy with themselves just like I do with myself but it also makes me so hesitant to reach out to people because I’m aware of this fact. I need to work on balancing these thoughts.
@@yes7855 hi thanks for the reply. I’m doing p good, how bout you? The thought that others are busy with their lives just like myself is what makes me hesitant to reach out to them. But now I know that some people can make time for me so I’ve been trying to push myself to reach out more to other people.
@@desikho Hello! I hope you are doing well! I also ask the same question as you, and I wonder if this is fueled by modern post-covid society of every only caring for their own skin? I am not going to lie; I am playing the game as well like you said.
Thankyou. I have been abused by a narcissistic family for yrs. I am unwell from it and disabled so have to live w/ one. So, I always have someone telling me what a piece of shit I am and how useless I am. This is very heartening. I'm going to copy and paste this link. You have really helped me bc I always think people dislike me.
My boyfriend taught me this around a year ago and man it was exactly what I needed to hear, I don't spend nearly as much time worrying about what other people think anymore! And I'm much happier because of it!
Turned 37 today But just wanted to say this reality gets easier to deal with psychologically as you get older. But you have to accept your reality as is and learn to come to peace with your inner demons that will probably never leave. We are all in this reality together. Let's make the best of it. And strong 💪 fellow viewers.
That's correct. Nothing we do will be remembered 3 years from now just as no one remembers things that other people did 3 years ago. Everything fades away into oblivion.
This is not true even if you don't think people care about you they do people do care even if it's just a stranger you pass every day they may notice you and think doesn't he/she have lovely hair a lovely smile and if you suddenly disappear they think where's that person with the lovely hair, smile and they wonder where you are we all touch each others lives even if we don't realize it! We are all important to others!
It brings me down, constantly, and reminds me of how little I am worth, and how little my life matters, knowing how little anyone cares about me and knowing how invisible I truly am.
I find comfort in realizing how little my life matters. I can do as I damn well please as long as I don't hurt others. No one cares if I die...that is comforting to me. Like being blessed at birth with the superpower of invisibility. Invisible people can do amazing things. I like it.
I feel the same way. I’m pretty anonymous where i’m from, I don’t even have anything to lose. Even though I’m only minding my own business people usually avoid me like the plague, but I don’t care. It’s peaceful.
Well I cried when John Denver died because I wasn’t able to attend any of his concerts . Is I listen to his music more then ever. So we do care and remember those that die . YOU ARE WRONG
People always say this that nobody noticies you but I feel that is completely false because I notice other people all the time. If I am noticing other people and thinking about them then they are probably thinking of me too
Thanks a lot. I've been bullied a lot in my youth and I never thought it really caused anything in my later years but I have started to recognize that it has actually led to a 'below the radar' low self esteem, insecurity and fear of what others might think of me when I do something. It has indeed sparked an incredibly high sense of self-awareness because I had to be careful of every step I took when I was young. Everyone was constantly focusing on me in my childhood, especially the bullies in my class. This has led to me growing up with the feeling that I'm always being watched and it's making my life difficult at times. To add to that, my mother always makes remarks about me, boosting my self-awareness even more. Example: I have a great day, I'm feeling good, totally living in the moment and being a connective human being without too much self-awareness about how I look or come across. The people I run into smile at me, we make good conversations and it all feels supernatural. But then, I drop in at my parents and my mom starts talking about my hair: 'Hmm, your hair looks very greasy from the backside, shouldn't you wash it? You look like a fool.' Now, first of all, my hair doesn't look greasy at all, it's only her not seeing my hair is still a bit damp from the shower I had earlier. But the worst thing is that even though I know it's not true, she has now focused on me and is causing me to fall into some pit where I can only sink lower and lower and when I walk into town I feel increasingly self aware afraid that other people will think my hair looks greasy and I am unable to continue my way through town because it sucks up my energy. I have told her how this makes me feel and what kind of effect it has on me. I cannot completely let it go, it's been a part of me for so long, but I'm working on it. I have ditched friends who made me self aware and I actively throw people out of my life that focus on me specifically when it comes down to small details. But this again is being taken to the extremes for now I am even breaking up friendships with a whole group because a few people commented on my behaviour a few times at moments when I felt super free. For example when I was dancing at a party in a way I want to feel and not caring about how it looks (it looked good though, I'm a good dancer). If people comment on me feeling free and happy, then I do not need them, but I also don't need the people that they hang out with. So it kind of spreads like a cancer and now I'm at the point where I just spend Newyears alone because I'd rather be with myself than be with people who I feel don't care for me feeling good and free. I'm almost 36 now and I hope that this year I learn to connect with others in a healthier way, this video is again a wake up call for me, thanks for all these insights and confirming my thoughts and feelings.
I can relate definitely. I know it might be hard, it's just a suggestion but you could minimise contact with your Mother. Try it for a month and see how you get on. You need to stop putting others before yourself especially if they bring you down, family is no different, in fact I find family to be the worse culprits. You can still love someone from a distance while respecting yourself and your emotional needs. Much love and hugs to you. ❤️🤗
Snork Froken This video is partially true but entirely misguided. Divisive and nihilistic propaganda used to stoke the pilot flames of America’s hopelessness and despair, while disconnecting us further from one another. Unfortunately for us with real empathy and love in our hearts, today’s society is now designed this way. What strangers think of you has no affect on your value or capabilities as a person. 🙏🏼 Be strong and u will attract the light. God bless
Marinus I relate, sorry to hear about your struggles. I come from an emotionally, verbally and physically abusive household and was also bullied during my school years and now that I look back I realize it all started at home because they wanted me to be the compliant child for life while catering to their selfish selves, yet out of the house they tried to appear nice and boasting about how much of a ‘great parent’ they were when it couldn’t be far from the truth. This year I’m challenging myself to step out of the shadow and regain my confidence little by little, and am slowly realizing that people don’t care much. Yet, my perfectionism and trauma make me rebound at times... it’s rough but we will little by little make little triumphs that we should be proud of.
Hi. Sorry. Check out the cluster B personality disorders. Those that u described looks like narcissistic people, including parents. My mom is one. I cut off all the toxic ones as much as I can.
Ren terrible environment? It’s literally how humans have lived for countless millennia. It’s only a VERY recent invention, of how we live today. I’m sure they’d look at you and think you live in a terrible environment where no one cares about you, and you’re alone most of the time. Your environment is always what you make of it.
No, even in small villages they don't care. They are just bored with gloomy views out of their houses, so they are looking for attention and trying to harm you in the most cunning and kind way by saying good morning my dear neighbor
It dawned on me that I never worry about others, because I’m always worrying about myself. And that goes for everyone, including every single one of those around you :)
The only thing people care about is themselves. And that gives us the possibility to live however we want, since others will be too preoccupied about themselves to give a damn about you.
If only that was true. While not caring on a deeper level, many people do care about what you do, because it clashes with how they view the world, basically making how you live your life their problem. They dont care about your well being but they care about what you project.
Thank you, I have to get over my anxiety. It is really comforting to remind myself that no one cares because here I am still fixating on the dumb questions I asked in class when i was 13
I kind of had this same realization a few years back. It really blew my mind and it helps with anxiety. I have a few people arround me that care (husband, children, best friend) other then that - no one cares enogh to be bothered with you, for real, they don’t. It’s amazing once you embrace that.
No one cares or to be more precise no one cares as much as we think they do unless they actually have a vested interest in us. People are way too apathetic and self absorbed these days yo, so do you...as long as you’re not hurting yourself or someone else, just keep doing you!!
The beginning of the video reminded me of a poem I wrote about 2 years ago, thought I’d share :) ~Only when we are born~ Only when we are born are we praised for failure Attempting to stand is a noble feat Speech is an adorable acquisition Shapes are mountains to be conquered bravely In these moments laughter is more than a past time To pass time is merely a question to be answered for later Only when we are born can we fully bathe in the light of the world Only when we are born, are we truly happy
My feeling is that we live in too cold and indifferent a world. We have definitely lost the perception of society as a community, a feeling that had not thoroughly disappeared some decades ago, yet. I think it's more than good minding our own business by avoiding gossip on one side, but I also believe that as a society we should care more authentically for other people's problems on the other side.
That's a deep and noble thought, not many people realise this absence of community and fellow feeling in what is essentially a competitive world where someone's loss is another's gain
This is such a negative, horrible video. I don't believe people don't care. Just look at all the people who donate to others in need even if they don't know them. Or people who help one another for no specific reason. Sad video to put on the internet. Imo
@@jenniferlawrence9473 It's not that people don't care in the sense they are selfish or not kind, this video is talking about the illusion that people are more focused on you than they really are. It's the 'main character' effect that we all have to some degree, where we worry what people think about this or that when we are walking in public when you are just another stranger on the street. They don't care about slight changes in your hair, or if you are making a change in your life because they have their own life to worry about.
Depends completely - on your morality and your compassion and your understanding that we are all connected Smile at the person on the street you don’t know or compliment someone on their lovely dress - keep connected to others - and you WILL care
The beauty in nobody caring, is you don't care about nobody caring. Imagine how many ppl you took for granted in your life, not bc you are bad or wtv but because that is life, my friend, we cannot care about every single person on the planet :)
Exactly! It was waste of time and energy until I realize people only care about themselves. They could judge what I've done but it doesn't last forever. They have their own problems in life so at the end they'll be like eh, whatever. I have more important things in my life to care about. That think really frees me.
I don't know how you were raised, but there were 5 of us kids and my mother had no help. No one was standing over us, coddling our every move, or taking delight in our drool.
@@clarencegreen3071 Thanks. My sister and I used to go to these films about abuse like "Mommie Dearest" and say, "This is abuse? That was Mum on a good day." (LOL. I can laugh about it now.)
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Prozac.
I used to worry deeply about what is going on in the people’s head about me, but I realized that you cannot achieve your dreams as long as you live in fear of people's opinions and trying to please everyone is stupidity and delusion,but that way of thinking doesn’t mean that you have to hate people and don’t always listen to their opinions.. but you should accept all people despite their differences and their backgrounds because being successful is something and being kind is something else,That was the most important lesson that i learned in 2019
I cope by not caring
I prefer that people care about what I think than vice versa, except for those who earn my respect and trust. To the rest, I really couldn't give a damn.
Not caring what other people think is the ultimate freedom, but you have to at least control what you WANT other people to think of you and keep your businesses on the down low. As you are dependent on other people to get where you want to be in life, simply not caring what other people think, saying whatever is on your mind and acting a fool will get you no where. That's just reality.
"We suffer more often in imagination than in reality" - Seneca
Thank you Nietzsche, very cool.
"There has been much tragedy in my life; at least half of it actually happened."-Mark Twain
@@daithiocinnsealach1982 just came up with a better version (by reading yours wrong): "There has been much tragedy in my life; at least half of it happened today."
@Nikki Pettway having an imagination is bitch
Said the richest man in Rome!
"People aren't against you, they are for themself."
Helped me immensely.
If only we could consistently treat our lives as the living out of a miracle.
For love is always a mirror,
love is always honest.
Sometimes, on rare occasion, love comes round and says nothing whilst intwined in this preconceived notion of self,
And self is projected onto self completely, thoroughly,
And solutions are born like plague.
Lol
Not in all cases. You'd have to be a fool to rule out malicious intent.
I've learned this goes for family as well
It nevertheless disturbs me that most people are so indifferent (aka "are for themself").
@@JDWDMC ...a very valid point, sadly.
I realised this in 7th grade when my friend got her hair done and was very excited about it when she said "everyone's looking at me"
I looked around and not ONE PERSON WAS LOOKING. Life lesson in small things.
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I know exactly what you are talking about, got a friend who sincerely believe that everyone is looking at her, because she is so beautiful, but nobody even look at her, and then she feels irritated because why do they look? I see it for what it is, but didn't have the heart to tell her that nobody cares. That is also an overblow of an ego and a narcissist behaviour. Sadly.
So true. It took me 50 years to learn this, and it was very freeing. After reaching 73, I just don't care what others think, because they aren't thinking about me anyway.
Are you really 73? What other advice you have for people in their 20's?
@@funkXCIV That's a good question. I think the most important thing is to accept yourself just the way you are, and never try to change to please other people.
@@Cocobird5 Thanks for the answer, I think that's really good advice. All the best to you from Romania!
Sue Anderson Very true. I think I've learned that finally at age 50. One friend's saying that I finally understood this past year is, "Your opinion of me is none of my business."
Wayne Green From someone who is 50 and learned things the hard way, I'd say: Don't get into debt; start saving early; if you find someone isn't respectful to you, realize they are not your friend, and it's ok to move away from them, don't waste your time and energy trying to change them; you can't change others, only yourself; say yes to new opportunities, don't be afraid, you can always walk away if it is not for you; take care of your health when you are young, exercise daily and eat as best as you can. Accept yourself for who you are, forgive yourself for any "bad" decisions you may have made and move on. Be honest and direct with people or some will take advantage. That's all I can think of for now. Hopefully you can avoid making unnecessary mistakes and spend more of your time living and enjoying your life. You'll still have your own lessons to learn - that can't and shouldn't be avoided.
"It never ceases to amaze me: We all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own."
Marcus Aurelius
Exactly i have been wondering this this year alot how many things i wanted to in public or may be career wise i always think of society or people around me. We become so much anxious in the time of social media. We are so much influenced by fake social media influencers. And we only see the good part of them and our miseries then become more serious cause we think we are not good enough.. But actually nobody really cares. Do whatever you want to do.
As long as you are not hurting anybody!
-hello-
@@woodsarecreepy3491 hi
ohhh!!!!
It's ego.
It really kicks in when you got no one to talk to at work, no one waiting at home and no one available on the weekends.
Right there with yaa....
Same here
its lit
how are you this fine day sir?
im here if u want to talk about it😊
“The trick is to care about everyone, While not caring what they think”.
҉ A. Jen ҉ all truths are but half truths, all paradoxes may be reconciled.
Well said
Sam. PDI “a mind is like a parachute, it does not work if it is not open”. -Frank Zappa
How??
Rhea Shree patience.
My top 3 assumptions when the doorbell rings:
1. Murderer
2. Police telling me everyone is dead
3. That book I ordered about positive thinking
XD
why soserious 😆😁
I'll replace 3 with "my packages from ebay" :v
Nice one 😂
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We spend our 20's and 30's worrying that people are talking about us, our 40's and 50's wondering why no one is talking about us, and the rest of our lives realizing that no one was talking about us in the first place.
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Terrorizing.
Care about the welfare of others, but don't worry about what they think of you. It can help you feel a genuine sense of happiness.
Precisely. Be a living example of positivity and love, it's contagious.
Now how not to worry?
maybe thats how politicians do it, but if a care about someone i care about what they think. as my welfare is often determined by what/how i think
Veronika A. Worry is a choice as is happiness. We decide where we allow our thoughts to travel. Mental stop signs worked for me. Along with a mental 'switch', reminding me to change/reverse the idea plaguing my brain.
Mane on a new plane nigga Because your welfare can depend on your thought processes it is extremely important to not concern yourself with what others are thinking. Since you generally cant guess what they think or change it anyway, it is a waste of your energy.
"Don't tell your problems to people. Eighty percent don't care, and twenty percent are glad you have them."
-Lou Holtz
I mean our problems are ultimately 'Our' problems not there. I realise how little I think about others. And most of the time I am engaged in Me,
myself and I theory only. It sounds selfish, but after all self interest is all that matters.
However, if you continue to bottle everything up, over time it can really affect you and others around you. So being open with friends and family would be the best thing to do, not struggle on your own. You can tell them your worries and etc, and they can tell you theirs. It can make people feel better they got something off their chest, and allow them to move on.
Yep. I've learned that the hard way
You’re wrong, you just have to find the right person to tell your problems
this^^
I learned through years of experience that when you care about others you end up becoming their doormat. Most are not even worth it.
This is why it’s so important to live a life YOU find fulfilling because no one cares or notices.
I seem to have this problem where people DO notice when I do what I want, and tell me I shouldn't.
Amber DreamWeaver that’s when you learn the power of “MEH” and do what you want anyways!
It’s called “survival.” You don’t do what you want because you’re afraid you might die.
Wisdom right here!
@fynes leigh It's a fairly descriptive word, not really sure what'd be so pretentious about making use of it.
"Don't Worry, No one Cares"
*Me:* _* worries *_
What strangers think of you has no affect on your value, potential or capabilities. This video is partially true but entirely misguided. The nihilistic undertone encourages people like the asshole before me to respond as such. Psychological warfare to disconnect us from one another. Stay strong brother the world is run by psychopaths but people are still good natured. 🙏🏼 Be strong and u will attract the light
PSESSIONS people like you are rare✨
Wish you all the best in life.💕
don't worry. worries about not being able to do it
"Stop worrying. No one cares."
Me: why do you care?
me: *worries*
One of my closest friends proudly announced at a party that his dental braces were finally off. That after spending 10 years embarrassed about his 'terrible teeth' he finally did something about it and spent tens of thousands of dollars on his dental work. In the awkward silence I had to tell him the truth...that *NO ONE HAD EVER NOTICED* hahaha
You are a shitty friend
Yeah, I was walking around after surgery, with a catheter tube coming out of my shorts leg, and carrying the bag in a shopping bag, for about 10 days, and later, I found out no one noticed!
@@tonyprost5575 Well, that just means your shopping bag worked brilliantly and that you're a genius (and that's what goes unnoticed.)
On another note I remember when I was 14 years old and this skater boy at the skate park I was sitting at, he was an older one, he was like 18 or 19. Really cute, freckles with a massive white boy ginger afro. Basically one of the cool kids. He came up like "hey' what's your name", he was talking to me. His name was willie. He wasn't being a creep or anything, he saw i was kind of flirting with a guy who was more my age. When I told him my name, he looked at the guy I was talking to (Jeff, who later on became my boyfriend that year and we had sex to 9 inch nails up above it....lol let's just say he was having a lot of fun with that chorus), and he said right in front of me, horrifyingly "she's cute until she's opens up her mouth! Haaaaah!" Round of applause from all the cute skater boys surrounding including a huge chuckle from my buddy Jeff. To this day I'm still really devastated by that comment. This was before I got braces. I'm still struggling to determine if he meant open up my mouth so he could see my teeth and how crooked my smile is due to my asymmetrical facial features or until I start talking and he could hear my monotonous voice and didn't like it. I don't know. This happened in 1994 and I still stress out about it frequently. the irony is Willie became a hardcore meth junkie and he shoots up and he looks like shit. He is literally missing teeth and he's a shell of a human being. It's really sad. On the other hand, not to toot my own horn, I'm kind of like a swan or whatever. LOL yesterday this guy that I like said I have a butt that's going to keep on getting bigger until I'm an old lady and it made me laugh. my butt is like three times thicker than it was when I was 20 and I'm only 42. 🤣 I just replied well at least working out has been building something outta nothing over all these years!
@@Pugetwitch you sound fun I love you ❤
It wasn't strangers who taught me that no one cares about me. It was my closest friends and family who taught me that. That's the freaky part!
Sorry to read that. Look for better friends... Yet, you often get back what you give... Do you care about others?
Based
Yes that's why I searched this
People don’t care and that’s just the harsh reality we have to accept. I’ll be honest there has been times where idgaf about anyone but myself. If I get a gigantic amount of money, do u share that with other people? No, bc u only care about urself. It’s ok to be a little selfish, not everyone has time to look out for everyone. This is why u gotta be ur own person.
same bud
I had severe anxiety for most of my life but once I realized people mostly just care about themselves and aren’t really concerned with what others are doing my anxiety got infinitely better.
That’s very true:) it’s hard to remember sometimes but go through the things you’ve thought about something and see how relevant it stays in your mind when times past and you’ve got your own issues like bills, family, etc. The last thing you or anyone is thinking is about what someone did at say a party 6 or 12 months earlier. Yet the one who did said things are probably busy dwelling over this idea that everyone still has it fresh in their minds or something.
@@hivaladeen4892 i have a memory where i had to give a speech on a big stage infront of my whole school and as soon as i got on stage i got stage freight and started crying infront of the school that was 5 years ago but i still remeber it like yesterday
@@ahha5252 That happens and you’re not alone:) it’s embarrassing to you there and then but so what? Everyone’s got their embarrassing moment equivalent to what you described, and the problem is, people often worry about if the people they see/talk to will think of that as soon as you are brought up, but they’re just like you. Everyone’s too fixated on their own problems. No one will remember that moment now unless brought up, and even if they do, it doesn’t hold anywhere near the same value/embarrassment as you may have thought back 5 years ago. Thank you for sharing
Sadly, there are many other kinds of anxiety besides social anxiety - but at least in your case this was helpful for you.
I realized my Anxiety came from my mom not taking accountability and would make me feel self doubt in my perception and ability to make judgements and invalidated my feelings and would do things that were hurtful and disrespectful and disregard my feelings and this generated anxiety. How you can tell if you have anxiety of this type is are you afraid of things you can’t see like a noise in the bushes but then fearless to a scary situation so long as you can see and identify something worthy of being feared by a typical person.
A beautifully written video
Damn you taking notes
Nice to see you here Psych
Waat...psych2go commented😮
no wayyyyy
"The more you know who you are and what you want, the less you let things upset you"
That is a good one! 😊
@ It's a quote from the movie "Lost In Translation"
edit: This quote also appears in the last part of the song "rock & roll" by EDEN, you should check it out, it's a beautiful song.
So true
“You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.”
― David Foster Wallace, Infinite Jest
in a way - those who mind dont matter, those who matter dont mind
This helped me get over my anxiety. I couldn't leave the house without getting a anxiety attack. Someone told me "you'll never be pretty enough, fit enough for everyone. So just live your life, we're all going to die anyway"
So I heard this saying: "In your twenties and thirties, you worry what other people think of you; in your forties and fifties, you stop caring about that; and in your sixties and seventies, you discover that they never thought about you in the first place". Guess this video can help speed that up a bit :-)
Honestly I stopped thinking and caring about this stuff when I was in my early 20's. I'm almost 30 now.
I’m in my teens and I don’t care what people think and just do what makes me happy :)
i definitely stopped caring as i have gotten older, but to be fair, i have pretty bad depression. I just realized that in the end i'm on my own, and no one will truly be there for me in the end.
@@queencooljewel2433 Im exactly the same. So all I do everyday now is give stray dogs dead legs with my fist and shout obscenities at OAP's crossing the road such as, 'Hurry up grandpa', or 'Old lady you should hurry up'. I know some people might think I'm completely out of my mind loco, but it makes me happy, so I just do it anyway. Screw the haters nah mean.
@@sebando 😂
This truth actually changed my life. I was highly anxious and introverted all the way through to high school "about 17 years old" always worried about what others think. This lead me to never approach anyone for anything. I never joined in on conversations had any girlfriends or even friends. But after realising that no one cared about anything. That I would be just a footnote in a memorie they were bound to forget. That nothing I do in casual day to day life would be remembered or written down. I realised that my issues talking, always thinking I would make a fool of myself, just disappeared and now I can talk freely to anyone anytime with a senserity I don't see often. I've flipped from a hopeless stressed introvert into an extroverted outgoing carefree guy. Honestly I'm happier than I have been my whole life thanks to this change.
But I like to pair this with another philosophy. That is, don't attribute to malice what can be explained through ignorance and indifference. Always believe that everyone isn't actively trying to spite you. Give them the benefit of the doubt and because nothing matters just let it go. When you believe that no one cares about you you can realise that no one is targeting you and just accept that when someone does something bad or gets upset with you its not because of you its them dealing with there own issues and you should just let it go
Sir Dante the Dank hmm
Sir Dante the Dank
I’m actually happy for you 💙, and I wish u be a successful person
Can I ask u something ; how old are you now?
I don’t know this question just came to me !
This is an amazing point of view!
That last sentence.. I did the wrong thing and kinda changed myself because of the other person feeling annoyed about me... Entered into a relationship.. My originality, I cudnt express because I suppressed it, thinking that I was doing the right thing for the person and changing my views becoming emotional and caring about small things... When problems came up, I was very weak that I person started losing respect on me and that hurt a lot. Now we broke up and I'm recovering from all my shifts in my belief and opinion.. I think I'm very weak..
@@khadija6755 I'm turning 23 in 2 months
Its so liberating and freeing
I grew up believing people are judging me 24/7, afraid to be perceived
I love growing older because as i get older, the less i care and the more authentic i can be!
"We grow up and we are inducted into a horrific reality" sounds about right haha
prettyyyyyymuch
I thought I was the only one who felt this way!
This video is bullshit and i don't take it personally.
@@thebalticpower2301 You do that 👍
No one cares
*anxiety has left the chat*
*depression has entered*
Lol its like anxiety taps out so depression can tap in.
Depression Is hell
Bluephoria Anxiety was originally a defense mechanism along with stress, to combat life dangers.
Depression is anxiety because anxiety makes it hard to socialize making you sad...so I’d rather just be depressed all the time.
LOL
This is very true. This became evident when I left all social media. I realized that no one really cares, except maybe your mother. But broadly speaking, people you pass by on the street or you work with couldn't care less. It's wise to reciprocate that indifference as its pointed out here on this video.
There’s two type of people:
No one cares :(
No one cares :D
and I’m both
@@NoahDaSlasher ha :) same :(
this is so deep
Millennials vs Gen Z
There's actually a third type :o)
In my story, I'm the protagonist and everybody else are side characters, but in yours I'm just a side character and the world doesn't revolve about me. This is proof that life is about all, not just me or you.
I love this one
hello
Hey at the end of the day, life is just the perspective of one's mind. So enjoy what we have, share the joy of life with others.
"Life is about all, not just me or you."
I like that.
I taught this for myself now im seeing this and its cool how we thought the same thought
I'm a highly sympathetic person and as such I care a lot about other people, more so than about myself. So, using myself as an example, as the video advises, is not a good idea in my case.
I've been struggling with loneliness, anxiety and depressive episodes ever since high school. I am now 30 and I'm slowly beginning to realize that most people are just so self-centered and so caught up in their own lives that it doesn't even cross their mind to think about me, including those I consider my friends.
It's always me who writes first to check on people, always me who tries to organize meet-ups. I once decided to stop trying and see what would happen. For over two weeks the only living person who contacted me was my mother.
The conclusion I reached: most humans are selfish and petty, and I shouldn't bother myself looking for their attention. Cynical and ironic, I know.
same omg. I have also come to terms with the fact that people dont care about me at all as compared to how much they care about their own life. People are never gonna put others needs above their owns like i do, that others are never gonna receprocate how i do with them.
It's difficult when you can feel how others would be feeling and their sadness and happiness too. Its natural to compromise our own wellbeing for the sake of others when its more painful to see someone suffering than when we are suffering ourselves.
It took 20 yrs of my life to learn this. I feel now that it was only me who got hurt in the process of caring too of others and rather should spend time on my own self, and its the only kind of reciprocation that i will ever get. Because at the end of the day i accepted the fact that people dont feel my feelings,the way i feel theirs.
Have you been spying on me?
i'm a firm believer that if you worry about what other people think, it's actually because YOU yourself think that way about other people, one way or another. if you let your judgement of other people go, and just care less, and focus on yourself, it'll reveal reality in a different perspective.
Well said.
Truest comment.
I hate it when someone says that "no one cares" or that "other people don't think about you anyway". They do. What's wrong with admitting that we are being judged daily for all kinds of things? It's not about "realising" something about reality, it is, like you said, about changing ourselves and our own perspective.
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@@itsme0acryingcookie cause that's how your brain works
Me: Did something embarrassing
My notification: Don't worry, no one cares.
Yes absolutely
Me: thinking about talking with my crush about how she hurt my feelings
Notification: Don’t worry, no one cares
Me: Ok I get it
KIM DAHYUN I just remember that everyone does something embarrassing. Learn to laugh at yourself. Make a joke of it and move on. This worked for me.
Did something stupid today. This channel is monitoring my brain.
@@RyanT_1524 don't we do stupid things almost everyday?
The minute you stop caring about what's going on around you, that is when you become just like everyone else.
School of life: No one cares
Me: Cool
Anxiety: *_Or do they?_* 🤔
Same
Lol
enter VSauce
I feel this so deeply.....
Kyle Matthews no I and they don’t care
10 years ago, I use to worry every second when someone stared at me but eventually I let it go and realized no one cares because everyone is worried about their own problems.
A friend of mine said she felt embarrassed remembering some things she said and did in junior high or something. I told her, sweetheart, no one other than yourself remembers those things. Your ex-peers are much more likely to remember something embarrassing they said or did.
My friend is going through some stuff mentally at the moment and honestly I think she is making matters way worse for herself by thinking that other people care that much. One of the most liberating realizations in life is when you realize that, actually, nobody cares. We're all way too self-involved to care.
Children should be taught to value themselves more. Not all this do this, do that, do as I say. Children should be taught to love themselves not spend their time thinking that they have to keep on pleasing others. That is how you get mixed up children and adults. Love yourself first the rest comes later.
Our culture promotes concentrating on weeding out weaknesses rather than promoting strengths. Easy to fix on personal levels.
@Zorba Apollo I certainly lead by example. My child is slapped at every opportunity.
So there is nothing only emptiness and loneliness
Obsessive Self love is the root of narcissism.
You will quickly realize that there is actually pretty always someone to please sometimes you want to do that : for example - your partner other times you have clients And your boss who might also operate the same scheme And pleases his boss.
So welcome to the reality
That is all so true .. I'm 74 years old now and learned it the hard way .. (almost) no one cares.
That is d real learning.
Thank u for sharing wid age
Agree 100%. I’ll be 40 this year and I’d say over the last 10 years I’ve also realized that for the most part you’re on your own in life and very few , if any people truly care about you. Sad but true
Bless you sir
Good point with age comes wisdom
I believe this, to some degree is our fear of being misunderstood and gossiped about.
If it’s not love, it’s always fear
People care enough when they're trying to bring you down or destroy you.. They pay attention to every single thing about you. Just ask all the people tormented by bullies-
Cut them off, be brutal. Move away if you can. Just run, run far away from them as you can because they won't stop, I know it sounds dramatic but it's the truth. These people get enjoyment on bringing others down. You just have to get them out of your life. Do it as soon as you can before they destroy you. Much love to you. ❤️
That’s make sense, some friends pay attention to what I do and later they talk in a indirect way with bullie actitude, always trying put me down, his texts in groups chats, say what they really think, just pay attention, all it’s just for his ego, I don’t want theses friends.
Satin Perfume In my chat group, a few weeks ago, I started to put in my photos the finger of ok, my emoticons and gifts too, so a friend went on vacation, she put her photos having fun, a friend text in the group “its must put down her finger ”, “she thinks she is up”, our friend never came out in her photos with her finger on ok. So where that thought come from? I confirm what I was thinking, the guy thinks of me and his instincts are to put me down, he made a mistake, what a person writes are his thought, it is difficult to falsify.
It's because it gives them a sense of power for a moment. They Feel surperiour. But that feeling don't last for long. And then they have to repeat the bullying.
All you who bully people Out there- you are rotten inside - and you know it.
Please watch “constantly criticizing - giving advice narcissist” on youtube. This sounds like narcissistic tendencies. They criticize and give unsolicited ADVICE all the time (because they are superior). And when you tell them anything they will say “I am saying this for your own good”. HERE IS THE LINK ua-cam.com/video/YuHnyCCbv5M/v-deo.html
I am reminded of a little thing that happened in high school.
When I was in elementary school, I used to cry and throw a fit at least every week (I had undiagnosed and unmedicated anxiety disorder at the time.) Throughout middle school and high school, I was shy, suffered from low self-esteem, and believed everyone hated me because of these embarrassing tantrums. It was either in junior or senior year of high school that I asked a girl with whom I went to elementary school if she remembered me crying all the time. She said no.
Huh.
Let’s go that’s good
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Samee. I realized this when I was 16. In school I would constantly worry what others might think of me to the point that everything was centered around to please others and it took alot of energy As in I wanted to feel superior. I had a fake persona. Then at 16 i realized that whatever you do ppl might barely think of you for 1 second which is not worth the effort.
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Thank you
Good to be reminded when visiting family. They’re always critical of my hair, clothes, style/life choices-but their critiques are just are an exaggerated (and unwelcome) sign of care…’Cuz in reality, no one else does.
This channel is the only thing left that understand us
@mic mccoy dude wtf? The person said that this channel is the only thing that understands us and here you go crying about politics and trying to separate people.. Just watch the video and go Jezus.
This video is partially true but entirely misguided. Divisive and nihilistic propaganda used to stoke the pilot flames of America’s hopelessness and despair, while disconnecting us further from one another. And it ain’t by accident folks. 🧐
@@planetruths What is wrong with you? Nobody give a shit about the USA.
Always speak for yourself Sam. Also your comment is so intensely dramatic it could become a new high school musical.
These vids are super basic and generic in my view.
I recommend the channel Exurb1a
Well, I always wanted invisibility as a super power anyway.
Exactly what I was thinking.
I'd prefer the ability to merge with any matter
Best comment EVER on UA-cam
Lol
Me too.
How did you know I needed this today?! Was having one of those days where it feels like everyone hates me and is judging me!!
I'm having those thoughts right now.
google is always listening hehe
“They gon’ judge me anyway, so, whatever.” - Kid Cudi
Its better to die being called weird crazy than to be completely ignored unknown and forgotten
@@aloneinthisbigcruelworld5197 facts
I smoke dope like kid cudi
as a naturally anxious man, this the best video title ever.
ahmed safi We all feel anxious at times. Our society today is now based on fear and material worship, you are not crazy. Stay strong love yourself and others 🙏🏼 U will attract the light. God bless
PSESSIONS your a good person
thanks a lot for the kind words, God bless you.
ahmed safi Have you thought about why you are anxious? I only started experiencing anxiety in the last couple years, and I really think it has to do with feeling a lack of control over our own lives. There are also herbal and nutritional supplements that can help reduce anxious feelings, and promote better sleep which helps your whole self, mind and body. I found ashwaghanda and magnesium helped me quite a bit. Plus also getting regular exercise and eating better. Take care of yourself.
I didn't even need to watch, the title helps a lot
I appreciate this channel most of all for validating the nuance of experience: naming it, underlining it, & therefore bringing some balance back into my tendency to think in extremes.
The School of Life: Don't Worry, No one Cares
No one: I got you fam
I don't care
@@davebuelvas898 you didn't get the joke
Polyphemus : *happines noises*
no one, here. I got you.
Took me about a second lmao
Old saying: “You wouldn’t worry about what people thought about you if you knew how little they did.”
Going through this now. The video came at the perfect time. And thank you so much for all of your comments! I couldn’t stop liking them, laughing at some, taking screenshots to read them again when I feel low, and feeling relieved that I’m not alone. We’ve all got this ❤️
I do notice things about people and sometimes judge them and I feel like a lot of other people do too. I think a more accurate approach is to stop worrying exactly because someone is still gonna judge you anyway, no matter what you do. There will always be people who just don't like you and it's kind of okay.
exactly
No one cares about your opinion on this video
Yeah I think it's like, of course people are going to dislike and disagree with me, we have such different upbringings and perspectives. So 80% of people don't judge me, and the rest that do, they haven't walked in my shoes.
Not everyone has had the childhood experience of devoted and loving parents. Some of us start off being disliked, criticised and unacknowledged. It takes a lifetime to heal, if it ever does.
I suffer from main character syndrome and literally think everyone is always thinking about me/judging me/laughing at me/talking about me etc. 100% of my actions and words and thoughts are to please other people so I get compliments and validation. It's holding me back in life because I'm constantly scared of looking stupid or disappointing others or being talked about 😩😩😩
@@nhgdd4961 any tips??? 😩
Reminds me of one of my favourite quotes...... “You wouldn’t worry about what other people think of you, if you knew how Little they do....
@BWM Well, I don't know anything about your own experience, but isn't it conceivable they think a lot less about you than you may suspect?
I like, "It's none of your business what other people think."
“I don't know what's worse: to not know what you are and be happy, or to become what you've always wanted to be, and feel alone.”
Sameoldfitup how can you be happy if you don’t know “what you are”?
@@AleMaia If you don't know who you are, contentment is an ongoing illusion; check Zen.
Richard Stuefer yeah, that’s what I’m saying. You can’t be happy (and happiness is a very wide concept anyway) if you don’t know who you are.
I know this one guy who cares about me, he makes me cry inside because I wonder why. He is very kind
It’s very comforting to me to be aware that people are busy with themselves just like I do with myself but it also makes me so hesitant to reach out to people because I’m aware of this fact. I need to work on balancing these thoughts.
Hey it’s been a year… how are you?
As for comment - why does that thought make you hesitant? 🤔
@@yes7855 hi thanks for the reply. I’m doing p good, how bout you?
The thought that others are busy with their lives just like myself is what makes me hesitant to reach out to them. But now I know that some people can make time for me so I’ve been trying to push myself to reach out more to other people.
@@desikho Hello! I hope you are doing well!
I also ask the same question as you, and I wonder if this is fueled by modern post-covid society of every only caring for their own skin? I am not going to lie; I am playing the game as well like you said.
"Don't worry; no one cares."
Walks out in underwear..
Police: "Hey you!"
😂
Walks out with an RPG
Police: "This ain't GTA you moron"
“No one cares” is a half truth .
Me muttering while you're close, "Dude has lost control over his life. Nice facial mask though. :)"
Why are bikini bottoms legal and underwear isn't?
Thankyou. I have been abused by a narcissistic family for yrs. I am unwell from it and disabled so have to live w/ one. So, I always have someone telling me what a piece of shit I am and how useless I am. This is very heartening. I'm going to copy and paste this link. You have really helped me bc I always think people dislike me.
Keep the faith Queen of the Butterflies
My boyfriend taught me this around a year ago and man it was exactly what I needed to hear, I don't spend nearly as much time worrying about what other people think anymore! And I'm much happier because of it!
Turned 37 today
But just wanted to say this reality gets easier to deal with psychologically as you get older. But you have to accept your reality as is and learn to come to peace with your inner demons that will probably never leave. We are all in this reality together. Let's make the best of it. And strong 💪 fellow viewers.
Nicely said hon
That's correct. Nothing we do will be remembered 3 years from now just as no one remembers things that other people did 3 years ago. Everything fades away into oblivion.
Me: *sees the title*
Depression: that's what i've been saying
Yer this
Learn to care about and for yourself and your life.
This is not true even if you don't think people care about you they do people do care even if it's just a stranger you pass every day they may notice you and think doesn't he/she have lovely hair a lovely smile and if you suddenly disappear they think where's that person with the lovely hair, smile and they wonder where you are we all touch each others lives even if we don't realize it! We are all important to others!
Anxiety:NO ITS THE OPPOSITE OF WHAT I WAS SAYING
@@thatlampsouce6136 shit i just realized that :o
Have a good day everyone ☀️
Same to you.
You too😊😊
You too!
💛
Thanks you too!
“I am not who you think I am; I am not who I think I am; I am who I think you think I am.”
~Cooley
Yeah it takes too long to wrap my mind around how simple I am.
It brings me down, constantly, and reminds me of how little I am worth, and how little my life matters, knowing how little anyone cares about me and knowing how invisible I truly am.
I find comfort in realizing how little my life matters. I can do as I damn well please as long as I don't hurt others.
No one cares if I die...that is comforting to me. Like being blessed at birth with the superpower of invisibility. Invisible people can do amazing things. I like it.
Amen.
@Ralvin me too so your not alone anymore
i feel that too, but it makes me immensely sad. I think my reaction is more common.
I feel the same way. I’m pretty anonymous where i’m from, I don’t even have anything to lose. Even though I’m only minding my own business people usually avoid me like the plague, but I don’t care. It’s peaceful.
Well I cried when John Denver died because I wasn’t able to attend any of his concerts . Is I listen to his music more then ever. So we do care and remember those that die . YOU ARE WRONG
People always say this that nobody noticies you but I feel that is completely false because I notice other people all the time. If I am noticing other people and thinking about them then they are probably thinking of me too
Such an important lesson lol. The universe does not revolve around us. Over-empathizing is dangerous.
Over-empathizing?
Thanks a lot. I've been bullied a lot in my youth and I never thought it really caused anything in my later years but I have started to recognize that it has actually led to a 'below the radar' low self esteem, insecurity and fear of what others might think of me when I do something. It has indeed sparked an incredibly high sense of self-awareness because I had to be careful of every step I took when I was young. Everyone was constantly focusing on me in my childhood, especially the bullies in my class. This has led to me growing up with the feeling that I'm always being watched and it's making my life difficult at times. To add to that, my mother always makes remarks about me, boosting my self-awareness even more. Example: I have a great day, I'm feeling good, totally living in the moment and being a connective human being without too much self-awareness about how I look or come across. The people I run into smile at me, we make good conversations and it all feels supernatural. But then, I drop in at my parents and my mom starts talking about my hair: 'Hmm, your hair looks very greasy from the backside, shouldn't you wash it? You look like a fool.'
Now, first of all, my hair doesn't look greasy at all, it's only her not seeing my hair is still a bit damp from the shower I had earlier. But the worst thing is that even though I know it's not true, she has now focused on me and is causing me to fall into some pit where I can only sink lower and lower and when I walk into town I feel increasingly self aware afraid that other people will think my hair looks greasy and I am unable to continue my way through town because it sucks up my energy.
I have told her how this makes me feel and what kind of effect it has on me. I cannot completely let it go, it's been a part of me for so long, but I'm working on it. I have ditched friends who made me self aware and I actively throw people out of my life that focus on me specifically when it comes down to small details. But this again is being taken to the extremes for now I am even breaking up friendships with a whole group because a few people commented on my behaviour a few times at moments when I felt super free. For example when I was dancing at a party in a way I want to feel and not caring about how it looks (it looked good though, I'm a good dancer). If people comment on me feeling free and happy, then I do not need them, but I also don't need the people that they hang out with. So it kind of spreads like a cancer and now I'm at the point where I just spend Newyears alone because I'd rather be with myself than be with people who I feel don't care for me feeling good and free.
I'm almost 36 now and I hope that this year I learn to connect with others in a healthier way, this video is again a wake up call for me, thanks for all these insights and confirming my thoughts and feelings.
I can relate definitely. I know it might be hard, it's just a suggestion but you could minimise contact with your Mother. Try it for a month and see how you get on. You need to stop putting others before yourself especially if they bring you down, family is no different, in fact I find family to be the worse culprits. You can still love someone from a distance while respecting yourself and your emotional needs. Much love and hugs to you. ❤️🤗
Snork Froken This video is partially true but entirely misguided. Divisive and nihilistic propaganda used to stoke the pilot flames of America’s hopelessness and despair, while disconnecting us further from one another. Unfortunately for us with real empathy and love in our hearts, today’s society is now designed this way. What strangers think of you has no affect on your value or capabilities as a person. 🙏🏼 Be strong and u will attract the light. God bless
I can relate completely. Thank you for sharing.
Marinus I relate, sorry to hear about your struggles. I come from an emotionally, verbally and physically abusive household and was also bullied during my school years and now that I look back I realize it all started at home because they wanted me to be the compliant child for life while catering to their selfish selves, yet out of the house they tried to appear nice and boasting about how much of a ‘great parent’ they were when it couldn’t be far from the truth. This year I’m challenging myself to step out of the shadow and regain my confidence little by little, and am slowly realizing that people don’t care much. Yet, my perfectionism and trauma make me rebound at times... it’s rough but we will little by little make little triumphs that we should be proud of.
Hi. Sorry. Check out the cluster B personality disorders. Those that u described looks like narcissistic people, including parents. My mom is one. I cut off all the toxic ones as much as I can.
I suffer from Avoidant Personality Disorder and this video helped me immensely. Thank you.
"In my life, why do I find valuable time from people who don't care if I live or die?"
The Smiths! xD
Oh heaven knows
*give valuable time to people.... ;)
@@chelseapoet3664 doumo
@@jalexseva4190 I'm miserable now...
Unless you live in a village or a small town. There, everybody "cares" about everyone...
Beware!
Ren terrible environment? It’s literally how humans have lived for countless millennia. It’s only a VERY recent invention, of how we live today. I’m sure they’d look at you and think you live in a terrible environment where no one cares about you, and you’re alone most of the time. Your environment is always what you make of it.
everyone KNOWS everything. literally....
True
No, even in small villages they don't care. They are just bored with gloomy views out of their houses, so they are looking for attention and trying to harm you in the most cunning and kind way by saying good morning my dear neighbor
Yes, they love gossips lol...
It dawned on me that I never worry about others, because I’m always worrying about myself. And that goes for everyone, including every single one of those around you :)
Learned to not care when I was 15, and that gives me the peace I needed now
That’s cool you learned that so young! I was about 28 by the time I started to figure it out.
I'm just figuring it out at 18
wow, perfect timing as always. thanks!
That getting concious of your voice when you buy something in crowd is so on point! This vid is relatable on so many levels.
The only thing people care about is themselves. And that gives us the possibility to live however we want, since others will be too preoccupied about themselves to give a damn about you.
Somebody from TSoL pin this!
And that's a good thing.
If only that was true.
While not caring on a deeper level, many people do care about what you do, because it clashes with how they view the world, basically making how you live your life their problem. They dont care about your well being but they care about what you project.
louis Lauzet. Yeah, it depends on worldview to an extent, and how 'loose' or 'tight' your society is.
I rely on that. I have a great life being ever so slightly outrageous, in a kindly fashion.
“You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.” -David Foster Wallace
It feels liberating that no one cares about you. It means you can do your own thing without being judged as long as it does not affect another person.
I love this. So many people need to watch this. A lot of people think that others are always watching and judging them. So they try to act "normal".
Take it or leave it,
I get what I want and needed most from this channel..🇧🇩
Thank you *UA-cam*
So true! The world doesn't care if we succeed or fail. Nobody is going to show us the way through life not even the closest people to us.
This idea hit me not very long ago. I used to be very self-conscious but then I realized that I was to others as others are to me.
Thank you,
I have to get over my anxiety. It is really comforting to remind myself that no one cares because here I am still fixating on the dumb questions I asked in class when i was 13
I kind of had this same realization a few years back. It really blew my mind and it helps with anxiety. I have a few people arround me that care (husband, children, best friend) other then that - no one cares enogh to be bothered with you, for real, they don’t. It’s amazing once you embrace that.
No one cares or to be more precise no one cares as much as we think they do unless they actually have a vested interest in us. People are way too apathetic and self absorbed these days yo, so do you...as long as you’re not hurting yourself or someone else, just keep doing you!!
"Don't be afraid, it is all a show." from Alan Watts
The beginning of the video reminded me of a poem I wrote about 2 years ago, thought I’d share :)
~Only when we are born~
Only when we are born are we praised for failure
Attempting to stand is a noble feat
Speech is an adorable acquisition
Shapes are mountains to be conquered bravely
In these moments laughter is more than a past time
To pass time is merely a question to be answered for later
Only when we are born can we fully bathe in the light of the world
Only when we are born, are we truly happy
Very beautiful
This one hit me differently. Hits deep. Beautiful!
This poem touch my heart
That sucks
Nice poem
My feeling is that we live in too cold and indifferent a world. We have definitely lost the perception of society as a community, a feeling that had not thoroughly disappeared some decades ago, yet. I think it's more than good minding our own business by avoiding gossip on one side, but I also believe that as a society we should care more authentically for other people's problems on the other side.
That's a deep and noble thought, not many people realise this absence of community and fellow feeling in what is essentially a competitive world where someone's loss is another's gain
This is such a negative, horrible video. I don't believe people don't care. Just look at all the people who donate to others in need even if they don't know them. Or people who help one another for no specific reason. Sad video to put on the internet. Imo
@@jenniferlawrence9473 it means you shouldn’t care what other people think…not care about people In general lol
@@jenniferlawrence9473 Alien are happier than human.
Alien cares alien.
Human does not cares human.
@@jenniferlawrence9473 It's not that people don't care in the sense they are selfish or not kind, this video is talking about the illusion that people are more focused on you than they really are. It's the 'main character' effect that we all have to some degree, where we worry what people think about this or that when we are walking in public when you are just another stranger on the street. They don't care about slight changes in your hair, or if you are making a change in your life because they have their own life to worry about.
Pride is the thing that holds everyone back, don't worry. Everyone is distracted by their own worries as well.
Depends completely - on your morality and your compassion and your understanding that we are all connected
Smile at the person on the street you don’t know or compliment someone on their lovely dress - keep connected to others - and you WILL care
"Don't Worry, No One Cares" is my personal mantra. I nearly plopped in my pants when I saw the title of this video.
School of Life: "Don't Worry, Nobody cares"
Me: Worries that nobody cares
The beauty in nobody caring, is you don't care about nobody caring. Imagine how many ppl you took for granted in your life, not bc you are bad or wtv but because that is life, my friend, we cannot care about every single person on the planet :)
It's because everyone have their own shits and worries going on in their lives.
Your close ones care.
@@SleazyRoseWalker I thrive on reminding myself that.
I have a brain injury from long Covid and prescription drugs and I’m trying to recover
It is very scary when you are diminished
Exactly! It was waste of time and energy until I realize people only care about themselves. They could judge what I've done but it doesn't last forever. They have their own problems in life so at the end they'll be like eh, whatever. I have more important things in my life to care about.
That think really frees me.
i find myself caring less for other unknown people as i age, i'm 40......
Yeah, and reducing social media helps
I feel I'm blessed because I realized this four years ago at 16.
You're about to leave the sexual age gradually. You'll be even less noticed if possible.
I don't know how you were raised, but there were 5 of us kids and my mother had no help. No one was standing over us, coddling our every move, or taking delight in our drool.
Bonnie, I had a similar experience, which I would relate, but . . . no one cares!
Incidentally, I like your last sentence. You write very well.
@@clarencegreen3071 Thanks. My sister and I used to go to these films about abuse like "Mommie Dearest" and say, "This is abuse? That was Mum on a good day." (LOL. I can laugh about it now.)