Hi everyone! This is my first time commenting here. Just wanted to say a few things about my journey and show some love to Jae for his awesome and wonderful videos and advice. I have tried to quit drinking a month and a half ago after a severe blackout. Started going to AA meetings for the first time, but it wasn’t my cup of tea. I went sober for 2 weeks and dealt with the withdrawals after binge drinking for close to almost 5 years. I never went to bars or hung out with drinkers. I am a solo drinker. I would hide the alcohol from my wife, drink on my breaks, and it started getting to the point to where I was drinking over 10 units a day. I started no longer feeling happy after drinking and would have to drink more and more. Long story short, I ended up driving my self to a hotel after my wife kicked me out the house and intended on getting a hotel, but ended up passing out in my running car in the parking lot of the hotel and didn’t finish my six pack of beer. My phone alarm woke me up and I felt like crap. Even the birds were annoying me. I went to my doctor and cried my eyes out to him for help. Luckily he came up with a plan and put me on Antabuse and found me a good therapist to go to. I’m on this journey to sobriety for myself now and I thought I would be doing this alone. I don’t have a sponsor, because I can’t seem to find one in this small town in Texas. My first day of sobriety I came across this channel and fell in love with this channel and Jae’s wise words, advice, and tips. I love this No Judgement Community as well. I’m prepared for a tough and long journey to sobriety this time around. I feel alone sometimes, but this channel and community I know more is here to see me through this. Thank you Jae for being awesome and honest. I can’t wait to finally catch up to Future me! Let’s go!
Jeff, this is a wonderful and self reflective comment that shows that you are practicing perspective, patience and persistence. These are all key ingredients to a successful sobriety journey! Sobriety takes daily maintenance and IT GET'S EASIER!!
@@GettingSoberAgain Thank you for the reply and thanks again for everything you do. There needs to be more people like you in this world. ❤️ I’ll be emailing you more of my story, because there’s much more to be said. Lol. I also became a full fledged member yesterday. Let’s get it! 💪🏻
I am similar. It’s not worth it the good feelings from alcohol only last momentarily. Then you need more. It’s just no good for anyone. Keep going. It gets better with time 😊
After quiting alcohol or drugs your body stop making his own dopamine what leads to unhappiness and depression it can take months and even years to come back but it will for sure 🙂 Took me a big 6 months to start feeling better again.Stick to sobriety eat good,exercise and be patient,your body and brain will thank you soon or later you won't regret it💪💪💪
I’m currently feeling frustrated but this video is a good reminder that it’s really just been a couple tough days. I have to let go of the idea that sobriety will make everyday a great day.
This is really good food for thought Jae. These are some of my own random thoughts: Those of us with addiction issues are addicted to instant gratification either by chasing after the immediate feel-good factor or sheer escapism from consequences, which means we're not really known for our stick-to-it-iveness - it's like, "Give me joy, give me oblivion or give me death - now!!!"😱 Learning to stick around, to be present for the whole due process of our plans and decisions and their consequences is anxiety-inducing - so we short-circuit the process that allows us to stay with the discomfort & mature, learn & grow spiritually & emotionally by engaging with the process & the mess that is just life for most folks (well, the ones that show up for it!). It's quite a steep learning curve when we stop our addiction and it involves a lot of intense feels!😱😱😱Here endeth the sermon - look forward to hearing what other folks have to say. Love to you & Sam.🥰👍
Well said! You're very right. Now when crap happens and I get the urge to numb out I tell myself, "This is just life. It's normal. Crap happens. Deal with it."
Addicts have different brains than non addicts. Part of this is the problem of low dopamine tone. That’s why addicts take drugs partly because they don’t have enough dopamine. Well, when the addict comes off drugs, after withdrawals, they are still going to have low dopamine tone so, there’s no happiness anywhere sorry to say. Just coping as best you can, getting exercise and eating right, trying to build a strong support system.
Thank you for this comment, I was really asking myself 'Why don't I feel the motivation to do the most simple tasks?' and I feel like a lazy person for not being able to do everything all day that I used to do (before I got so addicted I couldn't do anything anymore). I also feel like doing the things that used to give me joy are not actually that fun or interesting anymore like partying, going to festivals, writing/singing music. I just don't feel happiness doing any of these. And I realized that's how I felt BEFORE I got addicted. So now I was writing down... when did I ever know how to make myself happy? Never. I always searched for outside sources such as relationships, work, family, friends and substances to give myself that little relief of unhappiness, but it was never sustainable.
@@steffyranger I agree, coming off of drink I have become the negative individual that I naturally was before. Nothing in life is stimulating it’s weird. Like I have a naturally dark outlook on life, have from a child. The only thing that lightened me was drink and ‘coke’ for a bit. Sobriety equals sacrifice. It’s certainly not anything to be excited about
Sobriety does make me happy -- it's the effects coming of alcohol & reality is -- can feel the pain mentally & physically -- Good thing is we have many chances in Life - Our Well Being etc ... Love & Peace you all ...
@@gwillis01 Awwww Thanks Gwin - I Love your dog looks similar to mine She's a pittycross .... Our animals are sensitive & can feel us when we are in need ...
I watched or participated in restaurant arguments for years. (I'm a sommelier.) Don't touch alcohol. Not one drop. Remorse is simply a necessary part of the healing process.
Fun fact: Sommelier is just a fancy word for official wine snob. Restaurants make more money from alcohol than food. Therefore, they hire wine snobs to encourage people to buy expensive bottles of wine.
25 days in now and the Honeymoon phase is definitely over! I’m experiencing feeling run down and extremely depressed! Gonna start going to the gym as I’m hoping my cortisol levels are too high also going to see my doctor.
Excellent video as always and as always straight to the point. There is no magic fix to happiness, but no longer having booze as a part of your life definitely helps. Life is full of ups and downs, enjoy the 'ups' and deal with the 'downs' When I was young and feeling down my grandfather always used to say 'The graveyards of full of people who would swop places with you if they could'............wise words.
What a valuable thoughts and opinions again Jay !!! Happiness comes in flashes while we live. Sobriety makes me content, less irritable, it brings me pace a clarity.
Wow you never fail to deliver what a powerful message after 19 days yesterday was such a hard one. I told myself to keep going because I can remember how awful alcohol will make me feel. I've come this far and life's already getting better day by day happiness will come through hard work and patience. Not everyday is perfect but drinking a poison will only make a day worse.
I love your channel 💖 the way you speak is almost poetic like spoken word and it really resonates with me. I'm on day 4 now..getting sober...again... At 42
I REALLY appreciate you making that reference. I take careful consideration with every word that I use in my limited vocabulary to try and make the most impact that I can. I'm a very visual person and I love to paint visual imagery to help people rewire their minds and explain things in very understandable ways so that there is little lost in translation 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Being tipsy/drunk don't mean you avoid your problems, just makes your problems more easier to figure them out and fix them. Maybe that's cause I've always been a functional drinker.
I love how real you were in this video; none of these false promises and unrealistic expectations... the pain is among us, we either face it or let it take us back to the depths.
Happy is a decision you make every day. It is always a conscious decision to not get too distracted by the ups and downs of life. Just keep moving forward doing stuff we need to do.
We also need to realize that the majority of addicts are addicts to numb themselves from past trauma. When you get sober, the trauma is still there and needs to be acknowledged and worked through. Once you can accomplish that, sobriety is much easier. The peace and freedom come when the trauma and fear are dealt with.
I’m close to three weeks sober (maybe) I honestly can’t remember my exact date. I felt good at first but I’m feeling gloomy. It’s not even because I’m craving alcohol so much but I feel like I’m just craving something and I’m not sure what it is. I feel bored and I’m running out of things to clean and organize in my house 😩
You need a challenge in your life! What other self improvements would you like to work on that you can observe noticeable improvements in? I love to exercise, learn, take care of plants, create, learn how to do my own house and car repairs, the list goes on and on!
'Don't know about life after death But life after cider is real It's a trip on It's own To be out of that zone And return to the land of the Me' N. Dialogue 2022
Everything you said is just on point Jae. i needed to hear those words that make a lot of sense for me , im glad to say i becoming regularsar of your podcast --Please keep doing what you doing you’re not only helping me with your videos but you also helping another souls!
On day 6 of my sobriety journey. I'm still in the early stages, but every day that I commit to this and complete the day alcohol free is another ounce of confidence I gain back. That alone makes me happy and gives me the assurance that down the road when the honeymoon phase ends, I'll have the ability to figure out how to keep moving forward. Thanks, Jae, for another great video!
Appreciate coming across this video today. I've been sober for 158 days now and I thought i was really confident in my journey. I've been around alcohol and friends and parties without wanting to drink but last night I went out with a few friends and for some reason felt extremely triggered by the idea of being out. I was in the club and around drinking and my friends kept asking if I was okay because I wasn't as loud and active as I would be when I used to drink. Today I felt an enormous amount of anxiety and thought to myself am I missing out? Am I going to be boring for the rest of my life? What do I do now when I want to take the edge off? I was overwhelmed emotionally and came on here to find anything that would make me feel like this is normal and a part of the process. I needed to know I wasn't alone. I appreciate you mentioning that we have to stop putting our happiness in the hands of other people or things. Alcohol doesn't make me happy and not having it doesn't make me unhappy. I just have to do more work in understanding how I make me happy. That's the real goal. Thank you.
Great clip Jae. I am feeling free to achieve my potential, not because I'm sober, but because I can do the hard work now that alcohol is not in my life. #Sundaymorningwithaclearhead
I can definitely tell you did a lot of self discovery once you decided to become sober. It's not about your blood contents, it's your mindset and once you can grow positively again you simply don't need or want it. When I had longer sober streaks in the past I had plenty to focus on but that celebration drink might turn into a 6-pack or a bottle or a habit and there it goes. Thanks for hanging in there, for yourself and sharing your wisdom with us who are going through similar challenges
It's my pleasure. thanks for taking the time to leave a great comment! we could use a lot more from you in the future. there will always be people in the comment section looking for other words of wisdom :)
I really needed to hear this today! Day 42 AF and I have been participating in a pity party for one since Day 36! I’m moving on! Thx for sharing this. Hang in there everyone!😊
lol transformation comes with unfamiliar and untested territory. You're doing fine. Just try not to pout as you feel displaced while the universe is building the new stage of your life
I just wanna say thank you as a listener and subscriber for these videos because they help me get back on the wagon and realize it’s OK to relapse and on top of that I will never forget what you said which is my favorite thing in the world which is ”did you earn your sleep today?”
I love your videos Jae! 40 days sober, the weekends are a bit boring now but Im putting time on other things instead of getting drunk or having hangovers, last hangovers were awful with constant panic attacks because of alcohol now I feel alot better, I want to see what I can achieve without drinking within a year, keep your channel up, great content!
You are putting in the work and you DESERVE the rewards. Some things certainly won't be the same sober, but they weren't supposed to be. You are a different person now than when you started. Remember: you can do anything sober except 3 things... 1. Drink alcohol 2. Get drunk 3. Get a DUI
So true! I had this moment at the one year mark. Why am I doing this? I need an answer. After some thought, I realized my life is better with out drugs. Further it will keep getting better if I keep working on me. Love the content!!
2 years ago one of my new year's resolutions was to look for the silver lining in all situations. I don't always get it right, but PRACTICING what we are not yet good at is the way to get better at anything we set our minds to!
Lmao 😂 “sobriety” cant make me happy. As a matter of fact “no thing” can “make” me happy. 😮 I will NEVER again think that anything “outside” of me will make me feel happy or complete. I chose to change myself from the inside👉🏻out. (When I got sober 3 years ago.) I’ll give you an example. If a flower is dying and its petals are wilting. I have to take care of the roots or it will eventually die. Similarly when i chose to get sober i made a decision to go inward & look at my unresolved emotions/resentments/expectations/fears/anxiety. Thats when I realized “I” was the one responsible for my happiness. I decided to take responsibility for my life rather than “blaming” others or situations for my state of mind 🙏🏼 I am the creator of my reality. No-thing has the power to make me happy. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Ok byeee
Looking forward to your self improvement videos! Currently reading Stage II Recovery - Life after addiction which is really helping zeroing in on character defects/bad habits and making positive changes.
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104 days sober, and this video was perfect. I like the new company analysis. I am the startup company and I will achieve success with work and effort. Thank you
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I’m freshly 23, I got clean on August 1st 2022 and have managed to stay clean. My life has greatly improved but I lost my identity and social life. Everyone else my age goes to clubs, goes out and I almost feel alienated. Don’t get me wrong I know the benefits and I’m living better than I used to live but I still struggle with self love and confidence.
Thanks man. Pushing forward on a lazy day where the obivous thing to do a few month ago was go down the bar and hooch all day. Been a tough day. Thanks for the reality check.
My personal policy is that if I feel this way that I'm sure that there's others that also feel this way. connection is important along the road of helping to motivate and inspire others, and I'm glad that this video hit the mark. stop by and say hello anytime!
@@GettingSoberAgain I don't completely see how that thought process would help, but everyone's different. I made it through yesterday and am pushing forward. Thanks for the note. And always thanks for the vids.
…. Yes that moment you realize you don’t need alcohol to party, to eat, to sleep … it’s HUGE !!!! Thanks to your words and my strong will I just hosted 2 holiday parties in my house and have no need to drink !!! Day 107 alcohol free 🤩
Easy to stay sober now that i have found favor with the Lord. But my problem is, when doubt seeps in. I go spiraling down deep depression states and i throw everything out the window. But Christmas is coming now and i really need to stop getting drunk at family events. I want them to see me not defined by my penchant for alcohol. But it was just all a cover for my lack of will to live that i had back then before i came in to faith
This one is from a year ago. It popped up I really needed it. I'm here now. I'm around 6 months sober. That itself is a miracle so I should be happy with just that.
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Does your brain start producing dopamine naturally again after you stop drinking, and if so, how long does it take? Been 4 months without a sip due to some health issues, but I don’t feel any different (basically feel very blah). I really don’t want to start medication if all I need is some patience. Thanks for your videos.
I’m taking a lot for granted. You really know how to cut me deep, Jae… 😅 Gah, alcohol is such a cunning devil in a tight red dress. For me, it’s #2: escape. I’ve been practicing sobriety for over a year now, taking detours every 3-10 days. I really like what I see when i take that break. I let accomplishment and just “feeling good” derail me though, wanting to “make it better” because I think I deserve it. But it’s an old habit hijacking the latest me. When I hit day 5 or day 10, that fool in me is so convincing, saying “come on, you deserve this!” I’m going to keep trying tho. My vision of a better me is so GD beautiful
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If the prize was millions of dollars, and the game was "be brutally honest about yourself".... What would ya say the top 5 reasons are that make taking a break from alcohol such a "battle"?
Having trouble picturing what a good life is without alcohol. My brain is telling me it’s the same mundane work, workout, achieve goals. But when the time comes to settle down my brain and thoughts I don’t have the tool I’ve used so now I work my ass off then sit down and have work in my mind also. Need help understanding the “why”
I’m almost 7 months sober, the first three months were great, I felt great, energized and motivated. Now I just feel dead inside, I feel depressed, sad, unmotivated to do anything, I stopped going to the gym, eating healthy, I even stopped wanting to have sex. My libido is at 0. I don’t want to use/drink anymore but I pretty much don’t feel like doing anything, not even the things that are good for me, is as if I were dead inside :( is this temporary?
it varies by person. It depends on how long you drank in terms of years. It will come eventually, if you don't worry about it too much. Sleep is all about being relaxed and calm.
I made it 3 weeks about and couldn’t take it anymore so I used now I’m beating myself up and hate myself cuz I have to restart its really really bugging me …
You'll be fine 😎 it's not like it's a comedown after a hard weekend of binging. It's more like the feeling of the first week of college. You know there is more to learn, it's going to be a journey, and you've got work to do!
This is difficult to write. Ive been sober 7 months. And Im completely miserable. I dont want to drink or use again. That life leads to harm for others, myself and will ultimately kill me. But, sobriety is for me utter purgatory. Its death via the slow route. Im struggling. Almost all of my leisure time activities contained use of drugs and alcohol. There is a massive void in my life, and quite frankly I cant seem to fill it. Well there you go Ant p sober and god dam miserable
Sobriety alone doesn't fix what's broken about you, it simply takes the bull out of the china shop. You may actually benefit from AA to find other people like you face to face. You can do online meetings with our friends at SoberTownPodcasts.com and we always have links to online therapy in our videos. It's up to you to get to the root of your own issues. If it costs a little money to go to therapy, or to switch therapists, so be it. You may actually need anti-depressants. But moreover, you might just need a challenge. There's only 3 things you can't do sober: Drink Get Drunk Get a DUI
Thanks man you always reply. Yes at A A have a good sponsor and did the main share on this topic. Being a retired teacher, I carried out a lot of research. This is a lot more common than I thought it would be. I also think that many people are not honest enough to admit how they feel as others around them think that as they are now sober there life is better. I have no desire or intention to go back to using. But have had some real dark days here Thanks again Ant p
quit and go back several times now. Longest over a year. It’s always the same, on either side. Life is boring either way. It’s boring so you consume to make things more interesting. Then consumption gets boring so you quit again. Then you realize how boring everything truly is, so you go back to the consumption. Nothing can change the vicious cycle. Once you hit your mid 30’s, you realize how boring life is. You will fully stop caring about everything and anything. If playing the guitar once made you happy, now you have to force yourself to want to do this. But if you drink and smack the bag, playing guitar can be very fun again! But then you will take it too far and mentally want to quit again. Then life is boring again, and you have no desire to play the guitar anymore. Wake up, workout, work, eat, sleep, repeat, die.
Step 1: Repeat "Everything is temporary" Step 2: Believe Step 3: Prepare Step 4: Practice Step 5: Be patient Step 6: Practice Step 7: Love yourself STEP 8: BE PATIENT
I was sober for almost 4 years got covid 4times and gallbladder removed and then I got colitis so i relapsed ive stopped and started back several dozen times can't get past more than a month but I might only drink one day of a month so im getting better but its been really hard to get just here
It's disheartening hearing all those stories about people being happy sober meanwhile I am so deeply unhappy. Sobriety was great when life was great, now that life sucks for me all I can think about is the bottle. I am trying hard to work on my problems the healthy way but it's so hard. I wish that I wanted to get better. 😢
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Hi everyone! This is my first time commenting here. Just wanted to say a few things about my journey and show some love to Jae for his awesome and wonderful videos and advice. I have tried to quit drinking a month and a half ago after a severe blackout. Started going to AA meetings for the first time, but it wasn’t my cup of tea. I went sober for 2 weeks and dealt with the withdrawals after binge drinking for close to almost 5 years. I never went to bars or hung out with drinkers. I am a solo drinker. I would hide the alcohol from my wife, drink on my breaks, and it started getting to the point to where I was drinking over 10 units a day. I started no longer feeling happy after drinking and would have to drink more and more. Long story short, I ended up driving my self to a hotel after my wife kicked me out the house and intended on getting a hotel, but ended up passing out in my running car in the parking lot of the hotel and didn’t finish my six pack of beer. My phone alarm woke me up and I felt like crap. Even the birds were annoying me. I went to my doctor and cried my eyes out to him for help. Luckily he came up with a plan and put me on Antabuse and found me a good therapist to go to. I’m on this journey to sobriety for myself now and I thought I would be doing this alone. I don’t have a sponsor, because I can’t seem to find one in this small town in Texas. My first day of sobriety I came across this channel and fell in love with this channel and Jae’s wise words, advice, and tips. I love this No Judgement Community as well. I’m prepared for a tough and long journey to sobriety this time around. I feel alone sometimes, but this channel and community I know more is here to see me through this. Thank you Jae for being awesome and honest. I can’t wait to finally catch up to Future me! Let’s go!
Jeff, this is a wonderful and self reflective comment that shows that you are practicing perspective, patience and persistence. These are all key ingredients to a successful sobriety journey!
Sobriety takes daily maintenance and IT GET'S EASIER!!
@@GettingSoberAgain Thank you for the reply and thanks again for everything you do. There needs to be more people like you in this world. ❤️ I’ll be emailing you more of my story, because there’s much more to be said. Lol. I also became a full fledged member yesterday. Let’s get it! 💪🏻
I am similar. It’s not worth it the good feelings from alcohol only last momentarily. Then you need more. It’s just no good for anyone. Keep going. It gets better with time 😊
And Jae is excellent ❤
After quiting alcohol or drugs your body stop making his own dopamine what leads to unhappiness and depression it can take months and even years to come back but it will for sure 🙂 Took me a big 6 months to start feeling better again.Stick to sobriety eat good,exercise and be patient,your body and brain will thank you soon or later you won't regret it💪💪💪
Solid advice!
Nice, ive been sober 5 weeks and wondering why I still not getting any of those feel good moments
I’m currently feeling frustrated but this video is a good reminder that it’s really just been a couple tough days. I have to let go of the idea that sobriety will make everyday a great day.
Good thinking! 🤓
I'm now 8.5 months sober now, your words of encouragement have really helped me immensely!! Thank you so much and please keep the video's coming!
Congratulations on your long sobriety streak Christian Davis Keep up the good work
Me too!!! And my last name is Davis as well❤
@@gwillis01 I appreciate you! Always a work in progress..
@@Iianaslife__ Congratulations!! The sober life is totally worth it, can be rough sometimes but so worth it! What a great last name huh! Lol
@@christiandavis4492 it’s better sober than the constant feeling of knowing drinking gets us noo😮
I really needed this message. My biggest take-away was, "no, I didn't come this far to only get this far." On we go!
I LIKE THAT LINE! Thanks Tammy 🥰🥰🥰
This is Soooooo important, thank you!! I love the "10 yrs + 2 mos" to get to 2 mos sober!!! Thank you for this putting this into words!
This is really good food for thought Jae. These are some of my own random thoughts: Those of us with addiction issues are addicted to instant gratification either by chasing after the immediate feel-good factor or sheer escapism from consequences, which means we're not really known for our stick-to-it-iveness - it's like, "Give me joy, give me oblivion or give me death - now!!!"😱 Learning to stick around, to be present for the whole due process of our plans and decisions and their consequences is anxiety-inducing - so we short-circuit the process that allows us to stay with the discomfort & mature, learn & grow spiritually & emotionally by engaging with the process & the mess that is just life for most folks (well, the ones that show up for it!). It's quite a steep learning curve when we stop our addiction and it involves a lot of intense feels!😱😱😱Here endeth the sermon - look forward to hearing what other folks have to say. Love to you & Sam.🥰👍
If we think it, others do to. I'm glad you enjoyed this one :)
I completely relate to everything you just said. Pretty much described me word for word.
Well said! You're very right. Now when crap happens and I get the urge to numb out I tell myself, "This is just life. It's normal. Crap happens. Deal with it."
@@BeckyValkyrie👍 Yesss!👍 I say to myself, "This is your (second) chance to become an adult - *don't blow it!* 🥰
Addicts have different brains than non addicts. Part of this is the problem of low dopamine tone. That’s why addicts take drugs partly because they don’t have enough dopamine. Well, when the addict comes off drugs, after withdrawals, they are still going to have low dopamine tone so, there’s no happiness anywhere sorry to say. Just coping as best you can, getting exercise and eating right, trying to build a strong support system.
Amen to that. I consider proper diet and exercise as important as sleep and hydration.
Thank you for this comment, I was really asking myself 'Why don't I feel the motivation to do the most simple tasks?' and I feel like a lazy person for not being able to do everything all day that I used to do (before I got so addicted I couldn't do anything anymore). I also feel like doing the things that used to give me joy are not actually that fun or interesting anymore like partying, going to festivals, writing/singing music. I just don't feel happiness doing any of these. And I realized that's how I felt BEFORE I got addicted. So now I was writing down... when did I ever know how to make myself happy? Never. I always searched for outside sources such as relationships, work, family, friends and substances to give myself that little relief of unhappiness, but it was never sustainable.
@@linnyxmaria SAME!!!!. Sometimes nothing at all seems to help. Everything is boring to me sober including people. Life sucks 😢
@@steffyranger I agree, coming off of drink I have become the negative individual that I naturally was before. Nothing in life is stimulating it’s weird. Like I have a naturally dark outlook on life, have from a child. The only thing that lightened me was drink and ‘coke’ for a bit. Sobriety equals sacrifice. It’s certainly not anything to be excited about
Sobriety does make me happy -- it's the effects coming of alcohol & reality is -- can feel the pain mentally & physically -- Good thing is we have many chances in Life - Our Well Being etc ... Love & Peace you all ...
Keep striving to improve yourself Hazel Daniels
@@gwillis01 Awwww Thanks Gwin - I Love your dog looks similar to mine She's a pittycross .... Our animals are sensitive & can feel us when we are in need ...
Well said Hazel 🙏🏼
I watched or participated in restaurant arguments for years. (I'm a sommelier.) Don't touch alcohol. Not one drop. Remorse is simply a necessary part of the healing process.
I like that line, I'll have to remember it 😎
@@GettingSoberAgain ... You're doing great work, nonjudgmental and informative. Keep going. I grew up in a violent place. Alcohol made it far worse.
Fun fact: Sommelier is just a fancy word for official wine snob. Restaurants make more money from alcohol than food. Therefore, they hire wine snobs to encourage people to buy expensive bottles of wine.
@@gwillis01 ... Exactly!
25 days in now and the Honeymoon phase is definitely over! I’m experiencing feeling run down and extremely depressed! Gonna start going to the gym as I’m hoping my cortisol levels are too high also going to see my doctor.
Sobriety + exercise = 💯
Excellent video as always and as always straight to the point.
There is no magic fix to happiness, but no longer having booze as a part of your life definitely helps.
Life is full of ups and downs, enjoy the 'ups' and deal with the 'downs'
When I was young and feeling down my grandfather always used to say 'The graveyards of full of people who would swop places with you if they could'............wise words.
Woah Dave! Nice comment. You might have to write us some content someday 😀
Life is so good and I’m gonna enjoy it.. thanx brother 👍
It should make you happier than a hangover, or a drunk fight, or losing a job. An attitude’ of gratitude !
Because life is about suffering , At least your not running away from it anymore !
What a valuable thoughts and opinions again Jay !!! Happiness comes in flashes while we live. Sobriety makes me content, less irritable, it brings me pace a clarity.
🙏🏼 YAAAAAAS 🙏🏼
Wow you never fail to deliver what a powerful message after 19 days yesterday was such a hard one. I told myself to keep going because I can remember how awful alcohol will make me feel. I've come this far and life's already getting better day by day happiness will come through hard work and patience. Not everyday is perfect but drinking a poison will only make a day worse.
You're on the right track! The objective is to get to the point where it's "smooth(er) sailing"
Congratulations on 19 days of sobriety Chris Weeks!! Hooray!! You are so close to the prize of 30 days of sobriety!! Keep the momentum going
I love your channel 💖 the way you speak is almost poetic like spoken word and it really resonates with me. I'm on day 4 now..getting sober...again... At 42
I REALLY appreciate you making that reference. I take careful consideration with every word that I use in my limited vocabulary to try and make the most impact that I can.
I'm a very visual person and I love to paint visual imagery to help people rewire their minds and explain things in very understandable ways so that there is little lost in translation 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Sobriety is hard because you start facing your real problems instead of avoiding them. True happiness comes from growth and responsibilty.
Misconception. You don't need to be sober to face you real problems. Maybe some people do.
Being tipsy/drunk don't mean you avoid your problems, just makes your problems more easier to figure them out and fix them. Maybe that's cause I've always been a functional drinker.
@@bdailey8065 exactly
I love how real you were in this video; none of these false promises and unrealistic expectations... the pain is among us, we either face it or let it take us back to the depths.
Gotta keep it real!
Happy is a decision you make every day. It is always a conscious decision to not get too distracted by the ups and downs of life. Just keep moving forward doing stuff we need to do.
Amen to that!
Delayed gratification, NOT instant gratification is ultimately more rewarding 😊
Really helpful video with such genuine care toughness put into it. Well done and thanks Jae
Hey Shane! Thanks for spending some time with us 🙏🏼
How's life treating ya?
Hello Shane N. I am glad you found our lovely community. Keep striving to improve yourself
We also need to realize that the majority of addicts are addicts to numb themselves from past trauma. When you get sober, the trauma is still there and needs to be acknowledged and worked through. Once you can accomplish that, sobriety is much easier. The peace and freedom come when the trauma and fear are dealt with.
@@beatrixbrennan1545 Amen to that
I’m close to three weeks sober (maybe) I honestly can’t remember my exact date. I felt good at first but I’m feeling gloomy. It’s not even because I’m craving alcohol so much but I feel like I’m just craving something and I’m not sure what it is. I feel bored and I’m running out of things to clean and organize in my house 😩
You need a challenge in your life! What other self improvements would you like to work on that you can observe noticeable improvements in?
I love to exercise, learn, take care of plants, create, learn how to do my own house and car repairs, the list goes on and on!
@@GettingSoberAgain thanks so much for the inspirational ideas. I definitely need a challenge 🤔
Great message Jae!
Thank you jae! You hit the mark once again. This is something thats been on my mind
You reading my mind...again?! 😀
@M B your welcome i hope that helped. I'm doing well.
'Don't know about life after death
But life after cider is real
It's a trip on It's own
To be out of that zone
And return to the land of the Me'
N. Dialogue
2022
A Limer-hic!
I like your poem Nat Dialogue
@@gwillis01 thank you... many years of prior research went into it
@nat Fantastic! I would like to see more of your words in the comments more often =)
Everything you said is just on point Jae. i needed to hear those words that make a lot of sense for me , im glad to say i becoming regularsar of your podcast --Please keep doing what you doing you’re not only helping me with your videos but you also helping another souls!
I appreciate the love. Stay tuned for the new content we are adding in November :)
Thanks for another great video Jae. You have no idea how helpful these videos and the encouraging yet realistic points are. Much love
I have a hunch 😀 it comes from the ❤️ and probably 🙏🏼
Hello Dave--O Houdini I am glad that you found our lovely community. Keep striving to improve yourself
Right I'm back on track after falling off the wagon AGAIN thankyou so so much for your vids dude they really help God bless you man 🙏😇
I think god heard your prayers. I am feeling the blessings =)
That was a great episode
I appreciate the love 🫂
Absolutely 💯 😊
On day 6 of my sobriety journey. I'm still in the early stages, but every day that I commit to this and complete the day alcohol free is another ounce of confidence I gain back. That alone makes me happy and gives me the assurance that down the road when the honeymoon phase ends, I'll have the ability to figure out how to keep moving forward. Thanks, Jae, for another great video!
Thank you so much for this video. I’m 6 months sober after 15 years of consistent drinking and really needed this message.
Happy to help Meg! Don't be a stranger
Thank you Jae! This is a great episode.
Thank you for your encouragement. We all need a little wind in our sails =)
Great video thanks for the motivation, 8.5 years sober from everything. Videos like yours help keep me on the straight path
Appreciate coming across this video today. I've been sober for 158 days now and I thought i was really confident in my journey. I've been around alcohol and friends and parties without wanting to drink but last night I went out with a few friends and for some reason felt extremely triggered by the idea of being out. I was in the club and around drinking and my friends kept asking if I was okay because I wasn't as loud and active as I would be when I used to drink. Today I felt an enormous amount of anxiety and thought to myself am I missing out? Am I going to be boring for the rest of my life? What do I do now when I want to take the edge off? I was overwhelmed emotionally and came on here to find anything that would make me feel like this is normal and a part of the process. I needed to know I wasn't alone. I appreciate you mentioning that we have to stop putting our happiness in the hands of other people or things. Alcohol doesn't make me happy and not having it doesn't make me unhappy. I just have to do more work in understanding how I make me happy. That's the real goal. Thank you.
👏👏👏 158 days closer to where you deserve to be!
Great clip Jae. I am feeling free to achieve my potential, not because I'm sober, but because I can do the hard work now that alcohol is not in my life.
#Sundaymorningwithaclearhead
Monday's will still be mondays, but now we can power thru them together =)
Thanks Jae. Much appreciated. 🙂
Hi Bob. How ya doin?
@@GettingSoberAgain Going well Jae. Keeping myself very busy with family. Thanks again and have an awesome Thursday 😀
I can definitely tell you did a lot of self discovery once you decided to become sober. It's not about your blood contents, it's your mindset and once you can grow positively again you simply don't need or want it. When I had longer sober streaks in the past I had plenty to focus on but that celebration drink might turn into a 6-pack or a bottle or a habit and there it goes. Thanks for hanging in there, for yourself and sharing your wisdom with us who are going through similar challenges
It's my pleasure. thanks for taking the time to leave a great comment! we could use a lot more from you in the future. there will always be people in the comment section looking for other words of wisdom :)
New subscriber. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I’m sober for almost 2 years
Welcome! Feel free to share your knowledge and wisdom with the community anytime! Happy 2 years my friend!⏳
I really needed to hear this today! Day 42 AF and I have been participating in a pity party for one since Day 36! I’m moving on! Thx for sharing this. Hang in there everyone!😊
lol transformation comes with unfamiliar and untested territory. You're doing fine. Just try not to pout as you feel displaced while the universe is building the new stage of your life
Thx so much! Do you still offer live monthly chat?
I just wanna say thank you as a listener and subscriber for these videos because they help me get back on the wagon and realize it’s OK to relapse and on top of that I will never forget what you said which is my favorite thing in the world which is ”did you earn your sleep today?”
awww heck yeah! I just said that to someone yesterday 😁
I love your videos Jae! 40 days sober, the weekends are a bit boring now but Im putting time on other things instead of getting drunk or having hangovers, last hangovers were awful with constant panic attacks because of alcohol now I feel alot better, I want to see what I can achieve without drinking within a year, keep your channel up, great content!
You are putting in the work and you DESERVE the rewards. Some things certainly won't be the same sober, but they weren't supposed to be. You are a different person now than when you started.
Remember: you can do anything sober except 3 things...
1. Drink alcohol
2. Get drunk
3. Get a DUI
So true! I had this moment at the one year mark. Why am I doing this? I need an answer. After some thought, I realized my life is better with out drugs. Further it will keep getting better if I keep working on me. Love the content!!
Onward and upward!!! Thanks for being here with us 😀
Thank you for this video; it help me gain mental clarity and see the bright side on living with a soberity life.
2 years ago one of my new year's resolutions was to look for the silver lining in all situations. I don't always get it right, but PRACTICING what we are not yet good at is the way to get better at anything we set our minds to!
Lmao 😂 “sobriety” cant make me happy. As a matter of fact “no thing” can “make” me happy. 😮
I will NEVER again think that anything “outside” of me will make me feel happy or complete.
I chose to change myself from the inside👉🏻out. (When I got sober 3 years ago.)
I’ll give you an example. If a flower is dying and its petals are wilting. I have to take care of the roots or it will eventually die.
Similarly when i chose to get sober i made a decision to go inward & look at my unresolved emotions/resentments/expectations/fears/anxiety.
Thats when I realized “I” was the one responsible for my happiness. I decided to take responsibility for my life rather than “blaming” others or situations for my state of mind 🙏🏼
I am the creator of my reality.
No-thing has the power to make me happy. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Ok byeee
Couldn't have said it better myself...except for all the words in the episode 🤣
👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💯💯
Excellent enlightening video Jae 👏 I needed this!
My pleasure 🥰
Looking forward to your self improvement videos! Currently reading Stage II Recovery - Life after addiction which is really helping zeroing in on character defects/bad habits and making positive changes.
We host "Self Improvement Sunday" here on UA-cam! Check them out and come join us live at 7pm Eastern
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104 days sober, and this video was perfect. I like the new company analysis. I am the startup company and I will achieve success with work and effort. Thank you
Start it up my friend!!! And keep commenting so we can continue to INVEST in one another 🫡💹
Great advice for those newly sober and long timers
🙏🙏🙏
Is it just a live on Sundays or do we need to be a member/how do I do that?
The livestream were a series that we did but have come to an end. Members have access to all of the recordings which have tons of material that you can't get in the episodes 🙏🏼
I know this was a year ago but it is still an important video
Absolutely. And Led Zeppelin is still pretty dog gone great too all these years later.
I sincerely appreciate these videos. I’m on day 140
Truthful Things Hurt
Truth
This is it, sobriety ís the first step for me, worries about futures, DONT BELOEVE IT, let is ride
let us ride 😉
I’m freshly 23, I got clean on August 1st 2022 and have managed to stay clean. My life has greatly improved but I lost my identity and social life. Everyone else my age goes to clubs, goes out and I almost feel alienated. Don’t get me wrong I know the benefits and I’m living better than I used to live but I still struggle with self love and confidence.
It definitely makes me happy ❤️
I love your quotes. It would be cool if you did a video where you compiled them all.
Keep us updated!
Thanks man. Pushing forward on a lazy day where the obivous thing to do a few month ago was go down the bar and hooch all day. Been a tough day. Thanks for the reality check.
My personal policy is that if I feel this way that I'm sure that there's others that also feel this way. connection is important along the road of helping to motivate and inspire others, and I'm glad that this video hit the mark. stop by and say hello anytime!
@@GettingSoberAgain I don't completely see how that thought process would help, but everyone's different. I made it through yesterday and am pushing forward. Thanks for the note. And always thanks for the vids.
@@guyjperson it's a commentary on he human condition. We all feel lazy and we all need to push through. Make sense? ♥️
…. Yes that moment you realize you don’t need alcohol to party, to eat, to sleep … it’s HUGE !!!!
Thanks to your words and my strong will I just hosted 2 holiday parties in my house and have no need to drink !!! Day 107 alcohol free 🤩
Happy day 110 today =)
Easy to stay sober now that i have found favor with the Lord.
But my problem is, when doubt seeps in. I go spiraling down deep depression states and i throw everything out the window.
But Christmas is coming now and i really need to stop getting drunk at family events.
I want them to see me not defined by my penchant for alcohol.
But it was just all a cover for my lack of will to live that i had back then before i came in to faith
This one is from a year ago. It popped up I really needed it. I'm here now. I'm around 6 months sober. That itself is a miracle so I should be happy with just that.
The beauty of our videos is that they are meant to be enjoyed whenever you get to them!
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@@GettingSoberAgain Thank you!
@@visam28 My pleasure! Have you treated yourself to something nice for your HUGE 6 month milestone???
@@GettingSoberAgain No I actually haven't thought of it!
Amazing video, amazing 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍 thanks for sharing! 3 months sober here right now
YOOOO Thats amazing!!!! Tell everyone how you feel!
What are some of the benefits you've noticed?
Does your brain start producing dopamine naturally again after you stop drinking, and if so, how long does it take? Been 4 months without a sip due to some health issues, but I don’t feel any different (basically feel very blah). I really don’t want to start medication if all I need is some patience.
Thanks for your videos.
Needed this. Thanks
I’m taking a lot for granted. You really know how to cut me deep, Jae… 😅
Gah, alcohol is such a cunning devil in a tight red dress. For me, it’s #2: escape.
I’ve been practicing sobriety for over a year now, taking detours every 3-10 days. I really like what I see when i take that break. I let accomplishment and just “feeling good” derail me though, wanting to “make it better” because I think I deserve it. But it’s an old habit hijacking the latest me. When I hit day 5 or day 10, that fool in me is so convincing, saying “come on, you deserve this!”
I’m going to keep trying tho. My vision of a better me is so GD beautiful
Those red dresses 💃
Check out our latest video, I talk about what I'm grateful for this year!
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Why do we put seasoning on food? Then relate that to alcohol
Because customers would send it back?
thanks.i needed to hear this today
All this time later, and the video finally found you 🥹
Here's the playlist to our most recent episodes!
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My last drink was a pony bottle corona in Clearwater FL.2 years ago.
In this video at 1:50 - write that part down.
I was JUST told that it’s NOT my job making me unhappy, “it’s something internal.”
Thank you for your video. It's really helped xx
Is this the first one of our videos you've seen??
We have plenty more! please stay in touch, we love hearing from people in our community 🥰
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@@GettingSoberAgain it is. Will def watch more. Thank you 😊
Sober 2 summers ago.
I did like the Winston Churchill quote
A famous drunk 🤣
I have been sober almost 5 years and my anxiety has never been this high it's becoming unbearable!! Does anyone have any suggestions??
What are the 5 main causes of your anxiety?
hello Jae
I have been trying to get sober and it's a freaking battle.
If the prize was millions of dollars, and the game was "be brutally honest about yourself".... What would ya say the top 5 reasons are that make taking a break from alcohol such a "battle"?
Oh dang that's a great question for me to think about sorry for bothering this channel
Perfect!
I'm actually 5 months sober but the world seems shittier than when I was drinking it felt so much better when I was drinking why is that.
You tell me
Thank you!
Excellent
Having trouble picturing what a good life is without alcohol. My brain is telling me it’s the same mundane work, workout, achieve goals. But when the time comes to settle down my brain and thoughts I don’t have the tool I’ve used so now I work my ass off then sit down and have work in my mind also. Need help understanding the “why”
People say the same thing about heroin, meth, cocaine and pills. Need more reasons?
Amazing! ❤
🥰🥰🥰
I’m almost 7 months sober, the first three months were great, I felt great, energized and motivated. Now I just feel dead inside, I feel depressed, sad, unmotivated to do anything, I stopped going to the gym, eating healthy, I even stopped wanting to have sex. My libido is at 0. I don’t want to use/drink anymore but I pretty much don’t feel like doing anything, not even the things that are good for me, is as if I were dead inside :( is this temporary?
When does good sleep kick in?
it varies by person. It depends on how long you drank in terms of years. It will come eventually, if you don't worry about it too much.
Sleep is all about being relaxed and calm.
Take 🎬 999 for me 😢.
You succeeded in finding that 998 ways didn't work.
A familiar story indeed...
We look forward to hearing your success story 💪🏼
Congratulations on being sober curious. Keep striving to improve yourself BoneThugsNL.
Been sober for almost 4 years and it has been hell
y
Show gratitude and give up the attitude dude that's a hard msg.
Hard like "Difficult", or hard like "Hell yeah bro"?
Hard like hell ya bro
@@BestTowel420 Great lines in a video dude...HELL YEAH!
Very good comparison to "a company" ....😊
I'm starting to look forward to your comments you know 😉
I made it 3 weeks about and couldn’t take it anymore so I used now I’m beating myself up and hate myself cuz I have to restart its really really bugging me …
Bro just do what feels right to u, dont worry what everyone else thinks
I'm 1 month sober and I confess: I'm very afraid of the honeymoon phase to be over.
You'll be fine 😎 it's not like it's a comedown after a hard weekend of binging.
It's more like the feeling of the first week of college. You know there is more to learn, it's going to be a journey, and you've got work to do!
I got clean Nov 28 22 I've been miserable, lately feeling why bother
This is difficult to write.
Ive been sober 7 months.
And Im completely miserable.
I dont want to drink or use again.
That life leads to harm for others, myself and will ultimately kill me.
But, sobriety is for me utter purgatory.
Its death via the slow route.
Im struggling.
Almost all of my leisure time activities contained use of drugs and alcohol.
There is a massive void in my life, and quite frankly I cant seem to fill it.
Well there you go
Ant p sober and god dam miserable
Sobriety alone doesn't fix what's broken about you, it simply takes the bull out of the china shop. You may actually benefit from AA to find other people like you face to face. You can do online meetings with our friends at SoberTownPodcasts.com
and we always have links to online therapy in our videos.
It's up to you to get to the root of your own issues. If it costs a little money to go to therapy, or to switch therapists, so be it. You may actually need anti-depressants. But moreover, you might just need a challenge.
There's only 3 things you can't do sober:
Drink
Get Drunk
Get a DUI
Thanks man you always reply.
Yes at A A have a good sponsor and did the main share on this topic.
Being a retired teacher, I carried out a lot of research.
This is a lot more common than I thought it would be.
I also think that many people are not honest enough to admit how they feel as others around them think that as they are now sober there life is better.
I have no desire or intention to go back to using.
But have had some real dark days here
Thanks again
Ant p
quit and go back several times now. Longest over a year. It’s always the same, on either side. Life is boring either way. It’s boring so you consume to make things more interesting. Then consumption gets boring so you quit again. Then you realize how boring everything truly is, so you go back to the consumption. Nothing can change the vicious cycle. Once you hit your mid 30’s, you realize how boring life is. You will fully stop caring about everything and anything. If playing the guitar once made you happy, now you have to force yourself to want to do this. But if you drink and smack the bag, playing guitar can be very fun again! But then you will take it too far and mentally want to quit again. Then life is boring again, and you have no desire to play the guitar anymore. Wake up, workout, work, eat, sleep, repeat, die.
Sol 473. You have to look for happiness
You said it! In the "H" section at your local library =)
I am a …….. at the moment
Step 1: Repeat "Everything is temporary"
Step 2: Believe
Step 3: Prepare
Step 4: Practice
Step 5: Be patient
Step 6: Practice
Step 7: Love yourself
STEP 8: BE PATIENT
I feel happy when i drink
I hate this rn day 5
Well, what's the point of getting sober if you're just going to act like a victim?
I was sober for almost 4 years got covid 4times and gallbladder removed and then I got colitis so i relapsed ive stopped and started back several dozen times can't get past more than a month but I might only drink one day of a month so im getting better but its been really hard to get just here
❤
It's disheartening hearing all those stories about people being happy sober meanwhile I am so deeply unhappy. Sobriety was great when life was great, now that life sucks for me all I can think about is the bottle. I am trying hard to work on my problems the healthy way but it's so hard. I wish that I wanted to get better. 😢
@@pollynlyubenova8365 🫶