For me its the loneliness of being single on the weekends that will lead me to drinking, because then i can go out and socialise / flirt with women in the nighlife as it helps menlose my shyness. but i would really love to be able to do that without the alcohol. Easier said than done
Practice bro! I'm the same way. Feels like I can talk to and charm pretty much anyone whenever I'm intoxicated but I'm such a different person when I'm sober. I've noticed that just taking the chance and looking at these interactions (when sober) as practice, without any attachment or expectations, helps to make you more inclined to keep going out there and talking to people. Good luck on your journey brother!
Same lol but I wouldn't go out I'd rather chill at home. Although when I did go out with friends I would always need to be drinking. It's my second day sober today
What if the reason one drinks to excess has nothing to do with factors that can be changed via self reflection, lifestyle changes, therapy and loving support? What if alcohol is medication to dull the pain of living in a corrupt, stupid and decaying society and species? Things way beyond our circle of influence? The feeling of not being able to change these things (and being reminded of it constantly by people who care a lot less about it) can be incredibly destructive to an individual, but alcohol may at least provide some blessed relief from it for a few hours. How do these people 'sort their underlying problems out' a few months into sobriety? By abandoning their ethics and surrendering to the prevailing tide of stupidity, dishonesty, and corruption?
That is an excellent question my friend. I feel exactly the same. I walk around in amazement that people just don't seem to notice or care. I'm 70 years old. And I just can't take it all in.. The degradation, filth, corruption, stupidity and ugliness of our culture, our country, that has occurred over the last 20/30 years is mind blowing. I am astonished all the time by how no one even mentions it. It is absolutely that horror of it all that makes me want to obliterate myself in a stupor for a few hours a day. But I realised that drinking or taking drugs doesn't help me at all. it makes it worse when I come down again into the reality. So I white knuckle myself through every day. And I don't find solace in animals or nature, I like them but I know what I'm deeply missing: A coherent, high trust, skilful, truthful community/country of human beings. I despair :(
Day 50 dry, 52 years old, 35+ year alcoholic. Being sober has sent me much deeper into my life-long existential crisis. I don't feel happier but the main benefits are (a) physical and mental health (improved but certainly not great) (b) money and (c) a lack of _Chaos_ and destruction. My life is still a mess but the life of an alcoholic is super messy and draining for all around. I have long since reached and surpassed a nihilistic level of existential dread. The World is filled with evil people and morons. Alas, we are in charge of only ourselves, and even then, only to a limited degree. We can't change the things around us, we can only change the way we look at and react to them. Good luck to everybody, one and all :) Peace.
I'm 63 and almost 10 months sober. I've quit many times but not for this long. I used alcohol to get over my shyness and social anxiety throughout my life and now that I'm past the honeymoon period of sobriety, feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, and depression are constant. I'm blessed with abundance, exercise regularly, have a great family, business and outlets such as music but can't seem to shake it. Hearing Simon's video today gives me some hope. Seems I had permissive parenting. Don't remember being held accountable for much and was able to come home when I felt like it. Most of what Simon said was spot on and I answered yes to most of the 30 questions. Thank you Simon for opening up some new possibilities for me.
I think its pretty common for people to need antidepressants for a while after getting sober. Basically, we messed up our brain chemistry and it takes a while to get it back to normal.
The true version of myself; annoyed by everything and everyone. I'm a good person, I'm just not nice. I don't see the point in anything and it antagonizes the fussy, angry child in me. I'm not comfortable in my mind, my body nor this world. I'm damn near a hermit. I miss alcohol but I won't return to it because it crippled my spirituality.
Hi Mandy. I'm seven month sober. I'm a retired teacher. My drinking was getting out of control. The harm I was causing my family and myself was becoming increasingly worse. I drank to get p...d and for no other reason. Here's the weird thing. I'm not missing the drink. I've no craving for it. I am a recovering alcoholic. My life had become completely unmanageable. I understand that continuing down that path would ultimately lead to an early death, with lots of pain and angst before that. But, sobriety is very difficult for me. Almost everything I did in my leisure time was drink related. A huge void has been left. One I cannot seem to fill. Sobriety for me is purgatory. Death the slow way. Hope you stay sober God bless. Ant p uk
Wow this is such an eye opener. I am definitely the one with the "needy" parents and I always put them before me Therefore i end up putting everyone before me and I neglect my own feelings causing me to want to drink so I dont have to feel them. Now on , im putting me first and if someone cant handle it, they can leave. Thank you for making this video! It was so relatable! I am month sober off alcohol and having a hard time dealing with my emotions (irritable, impatient, stressed, overwhelmed) so i am learning what causes this and what I can do to prevent me from drinking because ive gotten into trouble when i drank and I don't want to go down that spiral again. I subscribed!
I've been sober 24 days and I'm really sad. When I'm not drinking, life feels like it's nothing but work and work and work....whether it's at home or at my job. It's work to be WITH people, it's work to try and have fun and then PRETEND I'm having fun, It's work getting things accomplished (YAY!!!) but then look around and all I see is more work and more boredom and a life not worth living. 18 of those questions were true for me.
I'm 40 days sober today and I feel your pain. For me alcohol was the only way I could really talk to people without overanalyzing whether or not I said something too far or not far enough. I'm a recluse and an introvert so alcohol was my doorway to be social. Now I feel obligated to be social but I'm grumpier than a frog out of water! I find myself pacing in my house for a long time and just yelling at myself (and God or who I thought was God). It took everything in my power to not kill myself last night and opted to just crawl in bed and nearly cry myself to sleep...at least I would have went to sleep if I COULD SLEEP. I wound up feeling as if bugs were crawling on me at random, pains in my feet and neck and stomach, being overly hot and removing the blankets only to get cold in 5 min, hearing random sounds that make me pay close attention to them and wait to see if the sound repeats. If you have friends or family, you may need to express to them how incredibly hard things are for you if you can. Im not sure what I'm gonna do.
@@AmbrociousXP Oh honey, we have to hang IN THERE! I hope it doesn't get worse for me but I wouldn't be surprised if it does. I feel your anxiety about social situations. When I'm out and sober, all I want to do is GET HOME and ...UN-PEOPLE! Like, just disinfect the discomfort OFF of myself! Thank you for not killing yourself. I wouldn't have received your response and I'd have felt more alone. I appreciate you and I hope we both can find some relief. Everyone keeps PROMISING that it will get better and I'm COUNTING on that!!!!!🫂 hugs.
Can't express how happy I am that you have a youtube account and I can watch all these videos. You've helped me more than anything so far in my AF journey Simon! But also, I was about 95% yes on all the questions. Especially #2.. feeling hallow all the time. Not sure when that feeling will go away, but I can't wait for it!
I'm glad the videos are helping you. Check out my website joinbesober.com. I have more resources there, as well as a community, and information about my programme and workshops that I offer.
I can go for around 3 months of sobriety and i feel happy, then suddenly i reach that plato and im back on a bottle of vodka a day and i hate myself. Im laid in my bed with 7 empty bottles around me. It's not emotional for me its the empty feeling of not being able to accept i can never drink again. It feels like losing my best friend
It's crazy how we can stay sober for months, then immediately go back full throttle. I'm at that mental exhaustion point of breaking sobriety and your comment just helped me see my tomorrow if I drink today. Hope you're doing well and on another sober attempt.
I used to hang out every friday with old high school buddies. I'm 62 now. Those fridays have slowed down for all us because i was the one that always rallied the troops . I'm going on my 10th month. Stopped cold turkey. i drank everyday for probably 35yrs. Still trying to manage the anxiety and a feeling of loss.
Well as the world burns, if you don't have concerns you are not paying attention. Loss of family, friends and pets. Not to mention loss of self employment and/or potential employment due to the economy. Plenty to be down about, but alcohol doesn't change any of it and only compromises our own faculties.
Thank you for your comment. Yes, it's been an extremely difficult 12 months, but as you say, whilst alcohol can feel like a comforter to escape the everyday stress and pain, it really will make things worse. I hope you are well!
Thanks for your video, Simon. Four months alcohol free and trying to stay the course, though I have mental relapses at times, such as looking at the beer store while driving and dreaming of drinking and feeling both relieved and guilty when I wake up. For me, there's a deep feeling of being a fraud despite my efforts to live authentically. When I was in counseling, I was told by my counselor that she thought I was the scapegoat of the family. Maybe this is why even now, at 45, I question the validity of my own thoughts and opinions. Being alcohol free has helped bring some clarity and better perspective to my outlook. Keep up the great work, everyone. Not to sound cliche, but it's one day, one hour, one minute at a time.
This reminds me of my father we had a mad relationship when i was growing up i ran away all the time 1 when i was 14 i ran to london from Belfast i ran away 10 times for days and weeks my mum then died at 17. I hit me more whem i was older i binged drank me and my father never put it fully back together he did no drink he was a fitness addictic i trained all the time but still had my issues at 39 he killed him self i pulled him out of a room which he put oil in a smoldered him self to death with the fumes, it hit me like a tone of bricks after i pulled him out a few months later the emotional roller coaster i was on nearly broke me, im 4 months sober now and traning hard and trying not to be distanced with my 5 daughters who i love deeply, i love life and will never give up on it.
Im nearly 4 months sober, but i feel like i dont want it, but if i do, I'll feel worse than i do if i dont feel god that day, i run do weights bjj and have 5 daughters my life is busy, but i just thnk the longer u go the more i want to stop.
I enjoyed the first few drinks socially but it was to kill the anxiety after that it would normally turn into a nightmare as I’d need to keep drinking to stop the anxiety which could turn into a blackout night waking up the next day wrecked .
Hi David, yes, I can really resonate with this as well. I use to get anxious before a social event and I would over compensate with drinking then spend the whole next day feeling anxious and worried. How are you doing now?
@@besober hi Simon , I’m off alcohol a year since last December but I haven’t been doing much socialising because of the lockdown so a bit stuck in my new sober self faced with all the things I drunk to escape from !!
Totally yes Unfair and hard And karma is also BS I helped everytime, Never say bad things about ppl,so all for my friends… 15 yrs mother died Brother into drugs Get out, have a job found my man We Worked our Ass off 23 yrs work, but happy with each other And…. He got cancer, we fight againT for 1 year, spend all money from years of 60 hrs workweeks to help First it looks like he can make it Then Hospital, died after 14 month I am alone after 23 yrs My father died COVID comes 1000,- less income Costs for Living+50% The stepfather of my Partner died also on cancer 1 yr after So- only Problems since 2020, but work my Ass of to shut my mind off Helps- but ‚march 2023, they +30 for food So you can exist from that money I got Sick every 2 month, start to drink every day Sept i lost my hope and binge Till Nov Got an infection, got in Hospital and my shape is so bad they want me to stay, liver, blood- horror 🙈 So i start to get sober 3,5 weeks ago to get my Health and power back So ..if you Look at other ppl- they are mean, some are sick and do really bad things, on Kids, Animals… other ppl So is that fair- sometimes they have a better life, langer , healthy, than good ppl So if anyone say: pray.. it helps.. God.. Omg shut up If there would be anything.. Then the world would be a better Place, and more fair
BRO, FACTS. IM trying im trying, been one month sober but i fell a lot worse. In the pass I went 3 months sober and it was really depressing also, Im starting to wonder if in reality i need to accept that i need alcohol.
I never looked at society as a whole from that perspective. You've taught me more about compassion for others and an alternative perspective on why people do what they do. Kudos bro.
So sorry to read the above. I can relate to this and the feeling that wine is the only comfort and the anxiety of what will happen if I remove this from my life. Please do head over to my private Facebook support page. It's completely free of charge and there to offer additional support - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
I wonder how many of these people stay sober i kinda new i might go back i lived in sober living for 3 years i can't say I wasn't happy there but people relapsed every week i had a good house manager i didn't date the whole time I was in rehab most had bad drug problems and some were horrible drinkers i had to take depression and anxiety medication when I got out of rehab it doesn't even seem like It works sometimes i feel probably most of them i had a bad childhood after I turned 13 went to live with my mother it seems like she bought home every asshole and drug addict i had to fight them sometimes probably why I can't trust anyone anymore
I started drinking to give myself confidence but also I have suffered a PTSD type feeling for most of my life, never really new why I was feeling like this but knew it was there. I saw a sharman a while back, she saw this in me straight away and it was from a past life and coming into this life. You may or may not believe this but she was 100% accurate without even knowing me. I'm about 95% of those too.
YEah the loneliness and boredom kill me every time. Ive always met so many people through bars and without it, I feel disconnected, and lost. I feel like damned if i do, damned if I dont.................=(
For me it's "just" weed but I feel absolutely exactly the same...no other stoner believes me that the first 2 weeks are actually kinda easy after 4 weeks i felt really amazing for one week and then out of the nowhere, nightmares no energy, no happiness, no enjoyable emotions at all, even if I am in paradise actually (thailand koh tao) it's soo fu*** up....was already going through this for around 4 times always around 3 months and never have gotten over being healthy and okay again....sometimes i want to end this shit simply and fast...🤯😭 But actually all i want is to be a happy sober person with normal ups and downs
Me too. I've heard post acute withdrawal symptoms can last up to a year and a half feeling like that. Honestly I've never made it past 4 months. You aren't alone I'm in hell with you. High five?? Lol
Yeah everyday since I had my last session has been horrible, everyday! Only have odd moments of calm. 3 months it will be by Christmas Eve. I've been doing exercise everyday, taking L theanine capsules, trying to eat good but I think the L theanines help the most at the moment.
I was depressed before drinking. Stopped drinking. Still depressed.
For me its the loneliness of being single on the weekends that will lead me to drinking, because then i can go out and socialise / flirt with women in the nighlife as it helps menlose my shyness. but i would really love to be able to do that without the alcohol. Easier said than done
Me too
Practice bro! I'm the same way. Feels like I can talk to and charm pretty much anyone whenever I'm intoxicated but I'm such a different person when I'm sober. I've noticed that just taking the chance and looking at these interactions (when sober) as practice, without any attachment or expectations, helps to make you more inclined to keep going out there and talking to people. Good luck on your journey brother!
Same lol but I wouldn't go out I'd rather chill at home. Although when I did go out with friends I would always need to be drinking. It's my second day sober today
What if the reason one drinks to excess has nothing to do with factors that can be changed via self reflection, lifestyle changes, therapy and loving support? What if alcohol is medication to dull the pain of living in a corrupt, stupid and decaying society and species? Things way beyond our circle of influence? The feeling of not being able to change these things (and being reminded of it constantly by people who care a lot less about it) can be incredibly destructive to an individual, but alcohol may at least provide some blessed relief from it for a few hours. How do these people 'sort their underlying problems out' a few months into sobriety? By abandoning their ethics and surrendering to the prevailing tide of stupidity, dishonesty, and corruption?
Yup
That is an excellent question my friend. I feel exactly the same. I walk around in amazement that people just don't seem to notice or care. I'm 70 years old. And I just can't take it all in.. The degradation, filth, corruption, stupidity and ugliness of our culture, our country, that has occurred over the last 20/30 years is mind blowing. I am astonished all the time by how no one even mentions it. It is absolutely that horror of it all that makes me want to obliterate myself in a stupor for a few hours a day. But I realised that drinking or taking drugs doesn't help me at all. it makes it worse when I come down again into the reality. So I white knuckle myself through every day. And I don't find solace in animals or nature, I like them but I know what I'm deeply missing: A coherent, high trust, skilful, truthful community/country of human beings. I despair :(
Wow, this is pretty deep and interesting. At times, I too feel this way about society.
Nailed it 🙌
Day 50 dry, 52 years old, 35+ year alcoholic. Being sober has sent me much deeper into my life-long existential crisis. I don't feel happier but the main benefits are (a) physical and mental health (improved but certainly not great) (b) money and (c) a lack of _Chaos_ and destruction. My life is still a mess but the life of an alcoholic is super messy and draining for all around.
I have long since reached and surpassed a nihilistic level of existential dread. The World is filled with evil people and morons. Alas, we are in charge of only ourselves, and even then, only to a limited degree. We can't change the things around us, we can only change the way we look at and react to them.
Good luck to everybody, one and all :) Peace.
I'm 63 and almost 10 months sober. I've quit many times but not for this long. I used alcohol to get over my shyness and social anxiety throughout my life and now that I'm past the honeymoon period of sobriety, feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, and depression are constant. I'm blessed with abundance, exercise regularly, have a great family, business and outlets such as music but can't seem to shake it. Hearing Simon's video today gives me some hope. Seems I had permissive parenting. Don't remember being held accountable for much and was able to come home when I felt like it. Most of what Simon said was spot on and I answered yes to most of the 30 questions. Thank you Simon for opening up some new possibilities for me.
Yup...question number 2 was probably my biggest one. This weird feeling of having a void inside me.
I'm glad you found the video enlightening. You might find new book helpful. How to Quit Alcohol in 50 Days.
i Know it well !! i'm on my 10th month. i told my biddy who's been sober for 25yrs , i feel like i lost something. He said - you did !!
I've not had anything to drink for eight months, and I'm feel like shit.
Same here 🙈
I think its pretty common for people to need antidepressants for a while after getting sober. Basically, we messed up our brain chemistry and it takes a while to get it back to normal.
The true version of myself; annoyed by everything and everyone. I'm a good person, I'm just not nice. I don't see the point in anything and it antagonizes the fussy, angry child in me. I'm not comfortable in my mind, my body nor this world. I'm damn near a hermit. I miss alcohol but I won't return to it because it crippled my spirituality.
Hi Mandy.
I'm seven month sober.
I'm a retired teacher.
My drinking was getting out of control.
The harm I was causing my family and myself was becoming increasingly worse.
I drank to get p...d and for no other reason.
Here's the weird thing.
I'm not missing the drink.
I've no craving for it.
I am a recovering alcoholic.
My life had become completely unmanageable.
I understand that continuing down that path would ultimately lead to an early death, with lots of pain and angst before that.
But, sobriety is very difficult for me.
Almost everything I did in my leisure time was drink related.
A huge void has been left.
One I cannot seem to fill.
Sobriety for me is purgatory.
Death the slow way.
Hope you stay sober
God bless.
Ant p uk
Wow this is such an eye opener. I am definitely the one with the "needy" parents and I always put them before me
Therefore i end up putting everyone before me and I neglect my own feelings causing me to want to drink so I dont have to feel them. Now on , im putting me first and if someone cant handle it, they can leave.
Thank you for making this video! It was so relatable! I am month sober off alcohol and having a hard time dealing with my emotions (irritable, impatient, stressed, overwhelmed) so i am learning what causes this and what I can do to prevent me from drinking because ive gotten into trouble when i drank and I don't want to go down that spiral again. I subscribed!
I've been sober 24 days and I'm really sad. When I'm not drinking, life feels like it's nothing but work and work and work....whether it's at home or at my job. It's work to be WITH people, it's work to try and have fun and then PRETEND I'm having fun, It's work getting things accomplished (YAY!!!) but then look around and all I see is more work and more boredom and a life not worth living. 18 of those questions were true for me.
I'm 40 days sober today and I feel your pain. For me alcohol was the only way I could really talk to people without overanalyzing whether or not I said something too far or not far enough. I'm a recluse and an introvert so alcohol was my doorway to be social. Now I feel obligated to be social but I'm grumpier than a frog out of water! I find myself pacing in my house for a long time and just yelling at myself (and God or who I thought was God). It took everything in my power to not kill myself last night and opted to just crawl in bed and nearly cry myself to sleep...at least I would have went to sleep if I COULD SLEEP. I wound up feeling as if bugs were crawling on me at random, pains in my feet and neck and stomach, being overly hot and removing the blankets only to get cold in 5 min, hearing random sounds that make me pay close attention to them and wait to see if the sound repeats.
If you have friends or family, you may need to express to them how incredibly hard things are for you if you can. Im not sure what I'm gonna do.
@@AmbrociousXP Oh honey, we have to hang IN THERE! I hope it doesn't get worse for me but I wouldn't be surprised if it does. I feel your anxiety about social situations. When I'm out and sober, all I want to do is GET HOME and ...UN-PEOPLE! Like, just disinfect the discomfort OFF of myself! Thank you for not killing yourself. I wouldn't have received your response and I'd have felt more alone. I appreciate you and I hope we both can find some relief. Everyone keeps PROMISING that it will get better and I'm COUNTING on that!!!!!🫂 hugs.
Get some good food in you , and the gym works wonders too 😊
I just busted after 4 months what do I do?!
Can't express how happy I am that you have a youtube account and I can watch all these videos. You've helped me more than anything so far in my AF journey Simon! But also, I was about 95% yes on all the questions. Especially #2.. feeling hallow all the time. Not sure when that feeling will go away, but I can't wait for it!
I'm glad the videos are helping you. Check out my website joinbesober.com. I have more resources there, as well as a community, and information about my programme and workshops that I offer.
Very insightful ....gold.
I can go for around 3 months of sobriety and i feel happy, then suddenly i reach that plato and im back on a bottle of vodka a day and i hate myself. Im laid in my bed with 7 empty bottles around me. It's not emotional for me its the empty feeling of not being able to accept i can never drink again. It feels like losing my best friend
It's crazy how we can stay sober for months, then immediately go back full throttle. I'm at that mental exhaustion point of breaking sobriety and your comment just helped me see my tomorrow if I drink today. Hope you're doing well and on another sober attempt.
Anyone here over 50?
I used to hang out every friday with old high school buddies. I'm 62 now. Those fridays have slowed down for all us because i was the one that always rallied the troops . I'm going on my 10th month. Stopped cold turkey. i drank everyday for probably 35yrs. Still trying to manage the anxiety and a feeling of loss.
Well done! 10 months is impressive, I'm trying to get there too.
Well as the world burns, if you don't have concerns you are not paying attention. Loss of family, friends and pets. Not to mention loss of self employment and/or potential employment due to the economy. Plenty to be down about, but alcohol doesn't change any of it and only compromises our own faculties.
Thank you for your comment. Yes, it's been an extremely difficult 12 months, but as you say, whilst alcohol can feel like a comforter to escape the everyday stress and pain, it really will make things worse. I hope you are well!
@@besober thanx, same to you and appreciate your work.
you are a clever man , fantastic, I am on the right path now
Thanks for your video, Simon. Four months alcohol free and trying to stay the course, though I have mental relapses at times, such as looking at the beer store while driving and dreaming of drinking and feeling both relieved and guilty when I wake up.
For me, there's a deep feeling of being a fraud despite my efforts to live authentically. When I was in counseling, I was told by my counselor that she thought I was the scapegoat of the family. Maybe this is why even now, at 45, I question the validity of my own thoughts and opinions. Being alcohol free has helped bring some clarity and better perspective to my outlook.
Keep up the great work, everyone. Not to sound cliche, but it's one day, one hour, one minute at a time.
This reminds me of my father we had a mad relationship when i was growing up i ran away all the time 1 when i was 14 i ran to london from Belfast i ran away 10 times for days and weeks my mum then died at 17. I hit me more whem i was older i binged drank me and my father never put it fully back together he did no drink he was a fitness addictic i trained all the time but still had my issues at 39 he killed him self i pulled him out of a room which he put oil in a smoldered him self to death with the fumes, it hit me like a tone of bricks after i pulled him out a few months later the emotional roller coaster i was on nearly broke me, im 4 months sober now and traning hard and trying not to be distanced with my 5 daughters who i love deeply, i love life and will never give up on it.
My God, what a story. Thank you for the courage to speak out here. I hope you are doing well now.
@@carolwolf9614 thanks but life really is a roller coaster stay strong
Im nearly 4 months sober, but i feel like i dont want it, but if i do, I'll feel worse than i do if i dont feel god that day, i run do weights bjj and have 5 daughters my life is busy, but i just thnk the longer u go the more i want to stop.
I enjoyed the first few drinks socially but it was to kill the anxiety after that it would normally turn into a nightmare as I’d need to keep drinking to stop the anxiety which could turn into a blackout night waking up the next day wrecked .
Hi David, yes, I can really resonate with this as well. I use to get anxious before a social event and I would over compensate with drinking then spend the whole next day feeling anxious and worried. How are you doing now?
@@besober hi Simon , I’m off alcohol a year since last December but I haven’t been doing much socialising because of the lockdown so a bit stuck in my new sober self faced with all the things I drunk to escape from !!
I’ve learned to accept that life is generally shitty and therefore the alcohol is necessary.
FUCKING TY!
OMG
i go cry now
I agree...
😂
Totally yes
Unfair and hard
And karma is also BS
I helped everytime, Never say bad things about ppl,so all for my friends…
15 yrs mother died
Brother into drugs
Get out, have a job found my man
We Worked our Ass off
23 yrs work, but happy with each other
And….
He got cancer, we fight againT for 1 year, spend all money from years of 60 hrs workweeks to help
First it looks like he can make it
Then Hospital, died after 14 month
I am alone after 23 yrs
My father died
COVID comes
1000,- less income
Costs for Living+50%
The stepfather of my Partner died also on cancer 1 yr after
So- only Problems since 2020, but work my Ass of to shut my mind off
Helps- but ‚march 2023, they +30 for food
So you can exist from that money
I got Sick every 2 month, start to drink every day
Sept i lost my hope and binge Till Nov
Got an infection, got in Hospital and my shape is so bad they want me to stay, liver, blood- horror 🙈
So i start to get sober 3,5 weeks ago
to get my Health and power back
So ..if you Look at other ppl- they are mean, some are sick and do really bad things, on Kids, Animals… other ppl
So is that fair- sometimes they have a better life, langer , healthy, than good ppl
So if anyone say: pray.. it helps..
God..
Omg shut up
If there would be anything..
Then the world would be a better Place, and more fair
BRO, FACTS. IM trying im trying, been one month sober but i fell a lot worse. In the pass I went 3 months sober and it was really depressing also, Im starting to wonder if in reality i need to accept that i need alcohol.
I never looked at society as a whole from that perspective. You've taught me more about compassion for others and an alternative perspective on why people do what they do. Kudos bro.
You are such a great gift with this knowldge you explained my childhood somhow😢
Lovely view! Is this your home?
I'm in a terrible situation and completely cornered. Alcohol (wine) is my only pleasure. Take that off, and it's complete torture.
So sorry to read the above. I can relate to this and the feeling that wine is the only comfort and the anxiety of what will happen if I remove this from my life. Please do head over to my private Facebook support page. It's completely free of charge and there to offer additional support - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
Really glad i found your channel thanks man
Did you ever finish the book ?
Answered 17 as yes.
Thank you for your very helpful video.😊
I wonder how many of these people stay sober i kinda new i might go back i lived in sober living for 3 years i can't say I wasn't happy there but people relapsed every week i had a good house manager i didn't date the whole time I was in rehab most had bad drug problems and some were horrible drinkers i had to take depression and anxiety medication when I got out of rehab it doesn't even seem like It works sometimes i feel probably most of them i had a bad childhood after I turned 13 went to live with my mother it seems like she bought home every asshole and drug addict i had to fight them sometimes probably why I can't trust anyone anymore
All the questions applied to me...thanks
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I like the inner child, i ask my self sometimes what would the younger version of myself say? Would he think I’m cool?
I started drinking to give myself confidence but also I have suffered a PTSD type feeling for most of my life, never really new why I was feeling like this but knew it was there. I saw a sharman a while back, she saw this in me straight away and it was from a past life and coming into this life. You may or may not believe this but she was 100% accurate without even knowing me. I'm about 95% of those too.
Same I had a lot of PTSD to work through when I got sober and like you, surprisingly had a powerful healing from a shaman… 😳❤️
Jesus I got all 30 symptoms . .. 11 months sober .. lost my Job and my apartment. Trying to learn to be myself again
I've felt more pain in the 28 months of sobriety, but it's because I'm actually feeling.
Thankyou Simon 🙂
Hi Lesley, thanks for watching - Simon
YEah the loneliness and boredom kill me every time. Ive always met so many people through bars and without it, I feel disconnected, and lost. I feel like damned if i do, damned if I dont.................=(
Been like a month or two since I have drank or smoked weed and I am really depressed, Anxiety is bad too
5 or 6 of your list resonated with me, or applied to my life.
I think they all applied to me at one time or another! Simon.
Yes. They all apply to me
Alcohol did actually work as a solution for my emotional issues for a while, I cant really blame myself
I seen myself in every question 😢
Alcohol can be worst enemy!!!
and withdrawals are pure Hell on earth!!!!!!!
For me it's "just" weed but I feel absolutely exactly the same...no other stoner believes me that the first 2 weeks are actually kinda easy after 4 weeks i felt really amazing for one week and then out of the nowhere, nightmares no energy, no happiness, no enjoyable emotions at all, even if I am in paradise actually (thailand koh tao) it's soo fu*** up....was already going through this for around 4 times always around 3 months and never have gotten over being healthy and okay again....sometimes i want to end this shit simply and fast...🤯😭 But actually all i want is to be a happy sober person with normal ups and downs
Hi bro. How are you feeling now? I'm in the same situation 😔
Me too. I've heard post acute withdrawal symptoms can last up to a year and a half feeling like that. Honestly I've never made it past 4 months. You aren't alone I'm in hell with you. High five?? Lol
I wish i had never started doing cocaine. It caused untold damage in my life and to my mind.
Brilliant.
Thanks - Simon
12 of thise questions were true for me
🙏🏻thank you
He's right.
People need The Lord
This resonates
It also takes months and months for the brain to heal itself
Yeah everyday since I had my last session has been horrible, everyday! Only have odd moments of calm. 3 months it will be by Christmas Eve.
I've been doing exercise everyday, taking L theanine capsules, trying to eat good but I think the L theanines help the most at the moment.
Me too, same thing here
Some stay sober 3 yrs- and Tell me they feel shitty all days
After 3 yrs ? Omg
Gotta quit porn too shit is terrible
13 yes to the questions
all but 2
All most all
25 at least apply to me
Hi Clare - try and see that as a gift of discovery - let it lead you down a path to getting to the root is what is going on at a deeper level.
all of them
All 30 questions were true except one. Unbelievable.
26-27 were true.
Lol, exactly the same for me
Most of them, after 3.5 years.
28 😮 sigh
Sigh. So much to say.
All 30
And the struggling parent situation
No lpnger in the shadows 😊
29
31
Don't know where you attracted those sex bots from !
But your viewers may have to tread carefully.
Most channels have the same problem sadly
Probably 28
29❤
90% of these
Giving up is wise despite all the negative comments.. have a goal that helps .. you can enjoy life .. booze wrecks your mind and body !
This is adhd symtoms 🥹