Narcissism and Cults: Echoes of Ego

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  • Опубліковано 27 гру 2024

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  • @nilaja-itsmylife
    @nilaja-itsmylife 5 місяців тому +19

    Yes!!! When I left the cult I was in I almost lost myself in that way as well.
    It felt like death. 💯💯💯

  • @beverlystover3987
    @beverlystover3987 5 місяців тому +13

    The patterns are predictable! I cannot un see them now. Ate from the tree of good and evil. Wish I did not have to know these things but am so grateful I do now know.

  • @ejtappan1802
    @ejtappan1802 5 місяців тому +12

    I was in a religious cult for 19 years. Joined when I was young, and eager, and naive. So many, many good points being brought out here!!

  • @autisticautumn7379
    @autisticautumn7379 5 місяців тому +13

    Amazing conversation ! I agree with what Mark says once you have the realisation of what you are dealing with it is very destabilising, your sense of self your beliefs, everything has been compromised , trying to find your way back is absolutely exhausting .Thank you Both❤

  • @beverlystover3987
    @beverlystover3987 5 місяців тому +11

    Man what a great conversation! Thanks so much you guys!

  • @ladulcemusica
    @ladulcemusica 5 місяців тому +19

    IS THAT MARK? From the nexium documentary? He looks like a totally different person! Clear, healthy, so happy for you Mark you look great! Wishing you all the best in continued healing.

    • @Amazology
      @Amazology 5 місяців тому +1

      OMG that nexium bloke raniery or whatever was such a total fekkhead - unbelievable but so predictable with the moral Everesting up front.
      People can be so so so gullible when they think they're doing "the right thing"

  • @psychicconsultant453
    @psychicconsultant453 5 місяців тому +10

    Mark is such an interesting guy, great interview Daren

  • @graemesutton2919
    @graemesutton2919 5 місяців тому +6

    Love this! I was drawn into a minor cult by someone who started off as my mental health therapist. To cut a long story, the mental health therapist by his own omission was BPD but post-analysis a clinical psychologist pointed out to me the therapist was actually NPD. I ended up reporting the therapist to the Health Complaints Commissioner. The therapist got disciplinary action and then allowed to continue on with his behaviour.
    Unfortunately I am Australian, as was the therapist, and the cult was US based so I am limited in what I can do in tackling the problem with them. I am pretty sure most of the 'Senior Facilitators' would be found to be Cluster B if diagnosed.
    It's taken almost 5 years to get to the point where I am thinking it's not really my problem to protect others from falling into their allure.
    Also like ' A toxic relationship is when you are afraid to say what you need to' or whatever it was exactly

    • @PortraitoftheArtistasanOldDog8
      @PortraitoftheArtistasanOldDog8 4 місяці тому +1

      G'day! You might like Prof Sam Vaknin UA-cam amazing insights in "MD:most dangerous narcissists" & cult EPs....

  • @camdogtaek
    @camdogtaek 5 місяців тому +13

    Lovely discussion gents thank you. Looking forward to that film on Narcissism.

  • @Suzn-v4l
    @Suzn-v4l 5 місяців тому +3

    Wow! This is such a fantastic and very informative video.

  • @MD-vb1hq
    @MD-vb1hq 5 місяців тому +3

    I had a therapy session dedicated to discussing my reactions to watching "Holy Hell" as I was going NC with my family of origin. The pattern spotting thing is key in breaking free.

  • @ewadrozdowska2660
    @ewadrozdowska2660 5 місяців тому +3

    Great video

  • @beverlystover3987
    @beverlystover3987 5 місяців тому +5

    Such a crass statement but it’s just such a vivid illustration of domination. Wow.

  • @alba7251
    @alba7251 4 місяці тому +2

    Great chat! Glad to see Mark's doing so well.

  • @nilaja-itsmylife
    @nilaja-itsmylife 5 місяців тому +28

    I was raised by narcissists.
    Joined a cult for 10 years.
    Married a narcissist.
    Divorcing a narcissist. 😅

    • @nilaja-itsmylife
      @nilaja-itsmylife 5 місяців тому +3

      @@skelly0000 sending you lots of love and courage ❤️🙏🏽 You deserve to be free

    • @yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753
      @yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753 4 місяці тому +3

      Join the crowd! And be comforted and healed!

  • @maryrebekah6218
    @maryrebekah6218 3 місяці тому +1

    Mark Vicente, he’s a good man, and thorough.
    But really, Marks perspective is so valuable. Can’t wait to see what’s ahead for him and his projects.

  • @Bonniedelaney6901
    @Bonniedelaney6901 5 місяців тому +8

    Don’t be afraid to be the villain
    Yes there is no shame.

    • @conantheseptuagenarian3824
      @conantheseptuagenarian3824 5 місяців тому +2

      gotta be careful with that. 'do not commit the crime for which you now serve the sentence.'

    • @Bonniedelaney6901
      @Bonniedelaney6901 5 місяців тому +4

      The context was how a narcissist will attempt to shame / smear the victim and Darren helps his clients face that fear- powerful

    • @HomeFromFarAway
      @HomeFromFarAway 4 місяці тому +2

      ​@@conantheseptuagenarian3824yes. perhaps the better phrasing would be "don't be afraid to get framed as the villain"

  • @darrynreid4500
    @darrynreid4500 5 місяців тому +3

    Great interview. I really liked the acknowledgement in the discussion about the need these people have for collusion. I saw this in relation to my early life as a need for a monomorphic unified group identity around them and their beliefs about themselves, so this might be why some families effectively function as little cults.
    Yes, that was Popper: it's also a theme that both Poverty Of Historicism and the Open Society and It's Enemies two volumes carry.

  • @AspergersSyndromeDaily
    @AspergersSyndromeDaily 5 місяців тому +2

    Marks lighting is phenomenal

  • @PortraitoftheArtistasanOldDog8
    @PortraitoftheArtistasanOldDog8 4 місяці тому +2

    My sister one of the CoG/TFI stalwart limpets...well done for listening to your wife's escape avenues....& She for facilitating an exit strategy... disappointed to hear the (inc incorrectly ie communal NPD ) work of Vaknin being used uncredited Flying monkeys etc

  • @yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753
    @yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753 4 місяці тому +3

    OK, DARREN! I want to talk to You about your various comments regarding aging. #1, You are more handsome than any man I have known in the last 13 years! You have a truly lovely Irish accent I can't get enough of and an easy, quirky sense of humor, and from what I can see and hear, You're a humble, kind and caring man. I was already thinking about writing this comment to you before I heard you mention, right off the bat, how you haven't aged a day. Here's my 2 cents: Update your photo that comes up on your Channel, because you are ❤ MORE handsome now than you were in the present photo you're using.😍 The silver only compliments your beautiful skin. Do it! You shine!😉

  • @selah5792
    @selah5792 4 місяці тому +3

    Kamala needs to watch this - never attack the leader but educate the Believers.

  • @davidvalyear8408
    @davidvalyear8408 5 місяців тому +9

    They want your sociological pass word😊

  • @brendaseals7739
    @brendaseals7739 5 місяців тому +5

    Wow

  • @Amazology
    @Amazology 5 місяців тому +2

    "Mapping the Hole" is what the Scientologists call Auditing. Politicians moght call it digging the dirt.

  • @jackrice2770
    @jackrice2770 5 місяців тому +7

    Or sometimes these types are candidates for public office....

  • @rubberbiscuit99
    @rubberbiscuit99 5 місяців тому +7

    Isn't it in human nature to overlay our empathy onto other people?

  • @prettypurple7175
    @prettypurple7175 5 місяців тому +4

    OMG////

  • @beverlystover3987
    @beverlystover3987 5 місяців тому +4

    When they are out of screams the fox comes running. Omg.

  • @shannonbee
    @shannonbee 5 місяців тому +3

    I left home early i know a lot of people and we havnt met one yet whos exes siblings wernt one all types and they all know each other never mind ones you cant see..scary! And all the pedoes! I pray for everyone suffering these people still.🙏✝️🕊️

  • @prettypurple7175
    @prettypurple7175 5 місяців тому +2

    EXTERIOR////WOLF WEARING SHEEP SKIN////

  • @HomeFromFarAway
    @HomeFromFarAway 4 місяці тому +1

    there are physical brain differences between psycopathy and narcissism. It's really important to remember none of this is a monolith

  • @melusine6436
    @melusine6436 5 місяців тому +2

    it is difficult for me to understand how anybody could fall for this kind of deception. I'm not judging, simply I do not get it. what is it that makes anyone believe these people? I've met gurus and leaders, I search for answers in my life, but what brings people to give up their better judgement? this interview doesn't really answer this question.

    • @HomeFromFarAway
      @HomeFromFarAway 4 місяці тому +2

      most of us were raised in fundamentally unhealthy families, or we had some kind of trauma that makes dissociating or magical thinking an easy button for toxic systems to short circuit. a single trauma, or even moderate religion can prime a person to switch off rational thinking

  • @conantheseptuagenarian3824
    @conantheseptuagenarian3824 5 місяців тому +4

    pretty sure, at this point, that Grannon is a narcissist. still makes some good content though.

    • @LisaSmith-yb2uz
      @LisaSmith-yb2uz 5 місяців тому +2

      I’ve wondered that myself, as well… but, he’s likely just somewhat bitter about the paranoia that ensues us all when we’ve been conditioned or ‘entrained’ by such people or organizations over time. Understandably so, it (brainwashing/trauma bonding, etc) can happen to literally anyone. 😙

    • @PortraitoftheArtistasanOldDog8
      @PortraitoftheArtistasanOldDog8 4 місяці тому

      He rips it all off Prof Sam Vaknin uncredited...Horse's ass handling such complex info though see Vaknin for the Horse's mouth!

    • @conantheseptuagenarian3824
      @conantheseptuagenarian3824 4 місяці тому +2

      @@PortraitoftheArtistasanOldDog8 vaknin is the superior analyst but his psychopathy leads to nihilism. richard sometimes arrives at better conclusions because he has human intuition and common sense that sam simply doesn't have.

    • @PortraitoftheArtistasanOldDog8
      @PortraitoftheArtistasanOldDog8 4 місяці тому

      @@conantheseptuagenarian3824 I found Vaknin's "Hack your mind to heal your heart" & yes typically contrarily named "Message to youth: life sucks!" very heartening...

    • @HomeFromFarAway
      @HomeFromFarAway 4 місяці тому

      narcissism is a spectrum, not a species. everyone has shades of it but it only becomes pathological in some people, usually because of compounded traumas and deficits in the self. HealNPD is a super useful channel for actually understanding it beyond the idiotic DSM5

  • @justhavinfun9492
    @justhavinfun9492 5 місяців тому +4

    I think this is an interesting conversation. What I find confounding is that Mark thinks Biden supporters are cult-like, but he makes no mention of trump and his supporters. 🤔 Many cult experts speak about the "cult of trump". I'm not aware of any scholars or experts who think Biden is a cult-like leader. How puzzling. Perhaps the traits Mark has that allowed him to put on blinders and fall into a cult trap are still there?

    • @hiddenhand6973
      @hiddenhand6973 5 місяців тому

      Biden and his borderline Marxist army

    • @HomeFromFarAway
      @HomeFromFarAway 4 місяці тому

      I have to believe the reference was simply to Bidin being too old and everyone being in denial about it until he backed Harris. the evidence was there but wr all needed to believe in something because the alternayive was so orange

    • @Breasail
      @Breasail 4 місяці тому

      I don’t think Mark has blinders at all. Media bias and so called “cult experts” are all part of the smear campaign against Trump supporters. It’s easier to devalue the concerns of Trump supporters by dismissing them as ignorant, racist rednecks than to admit that Biden and his administration have some serious issues. I’m not American or a Trump supporter by the way.

    • @TheThiaminBlog
      @TheThiaminBlog 3 місяці тому

      That’s because Trump is outside of what would be the cult on the right. You may have noticed that he is as hated by the conservative political establishment as he is by the Democrats. And he has teamed up with another person who is outside of the cult: RFK Jr.. It is the hope of Trump supporters that an administration fashioned from outsiders will take down the cult structures that have developed on both sides. And then we rebuild-together.
      My family for generations has been largely Democrat, and today’s Democrat party has been completely taken over. It bears no resemblance to what it was 60 years ago.

  • @gracejoy5339
    @gracejoy5339 5 місяців тому +7

    This is the same as Communism.

    • @HomeFromFarAway
      @HomeFromFarAway 4 місяці тому +2

      no. this is the same as every rigidly held ideology. every. single. one

    • @gracejoy5339
      @gracejoy5339 4 місяці тому

      @@HomeFromFarAway"Ideology." Yes. I think of Communism as the "Religion" of Narcissists, as in, originally created by a Narcissist, where he is God. "Cult" is specifically mentioned in "The Bolshevik Revolution Reveals Six Phases From Freedom To Communist Misery." The 2nd is "Manufacturing Propaganda." It specifies "gender ideology," too. "Political correctness is the sort of agitprop that can grow a cult mindset in the population." From "thefederalist"