This is great. I have also noticed that you both use humour to hide some of your emotions or deflect and make it light hearted. Maybe it’s easier to say things jokingly also. Obviously it’s something inbuilt since childhood. And I know as I’m the same but know when to let the guard down also. I would like to see the warmth heartedness come in without the humour. Now that’s powerful speaking from experience. To let the clown mask evaporate even if only for a moment in time and to really feel it with all your heart. The love etc. just to sit in that and be in the moment.
I, too, have often heard people mask their uneasiness with humour. This is possibly another understandable, learned coping mechanism, about which Gabor often talks, because our society teaches us to bury and hide our ‘softer’ feelings. We are all learning to be vulnerable and open ourselves to our own sadness, frustrations, anger, etc. Thank you to both Matés!
Curious body language from Gabor when Daniel speaks sitting crossed legged , also self soothing . Im wondering how much they like each other and if this is the real issue - Daniel seems competitive for alpha position in the family as demonstrated clearly at the end when they are talking over each other .
Well, yeah, but as he's said himself, that doesn't always show in his dealings with his family. Like with all of us humans, it's really easy to think and say things. It's also easy to practice those things with low-stakes people but much harder in close relationships. Especially if there has been conflict.
46:14 I'm grateful Daniel stepped in on the over-modulation, just distortion and clipping here. Could you have a sound check and a practice or at least a one-two, mic check, test test at the beginning to get audibility for live shows together? Build it in to the shtick?
Note to Daniel: Taking a moment to say that recently finding your voice, in the lectures with your father on UA-cam, is guiding Me to the next level of my healing & Self-awareness (as both 44 year-old adult child and parent of a precocious 10 year old). I’ve been delving deep in my own healing for years, found Gabor’s offerings long ago, and have been empowered greatly through it. And now your voice arrived on my path, and deeper empowerment along with it. Your unique ability to work through your own pain so eloquently & vulnerably, before our hungry eyes, was what my mind was ready for at this moment. An answered prayer and no coincidence that your POWERFUL voice only JUST found me this week. It was time. I am ready. So thank You for being YOU. For sharing the fiercely Loving Heart You are revealing & developing as You heal the layers. Those sacred wounds deserve all the TLC they desire and have gone without for so long. May that come to You in all the ways You long for, at the perfect time, too. And thank You also for helping your father heal beside You, as we need the Light of You both to burn as warmly and brightly as possible, for as long as possible. I know that his Love for You, and your act of Self-Love to reclaim your own power is guiding him to deeper revelation, Soul renewal, and connection to what he lost long ago. I assure You, children teach us, better than anyone, how to heal ourselves in order to connect to them the way our Soul yearns to. You are doing that just by living authentically. I’m proud of You for diving so deeply because it is so so so hard. You choose this path. You are fiercely courageous, Daniel. Thank You, thank You, thank You. Please know You are never alone and are fully appreciated by so many whom You will never know. Although I will likely never get to speak directly to You, may these sincere words reach your Heart directly...please know just how deeply appreciated (Loved) You are for your essence. You emanate a passion and brilliance for Truth and are respected as a luminary to people like Me (who also admire your flaws, humanity, and fragility as an asset). You help us see ourselves more clearly and find compassion where we are looking. Your Life is your own, but I feel so honored to have been touched by your openness to share your journey. AND...there’s nothing more You owe anyone! Please just BE YOU and follow what You know is right and good for yourSelf and we will all be blessed by it. Ha! As I write these words I realize I’m speaking to my own inner child too. Isn’t that alwayz the way?! :) I’ll leave You with this- Your pain was never in vain. It’s revealed a depth and desire and wisdom that is expanding awareness and the entire Universe. WE. SEE. AND. HEAR. YOU! We admire and support You. We are cheering for You and urging You on. Please remember, even in your darkest moments, You are enough and You are important, just as You are. May You be well. May You be happy. May You experience Soul-deep Peace. May You come to understand the full magnitude of your blessed Light. With great Love & respect, Santalena ❤️🦋 Hutchinson, KS USA
I found that the immediate father and son response to Rae's question or comment made me feel sad and shut down and I wonder if Rae feels like this and whether father and son are unaware they may at times exert power to dominate Rae and 'win' or maintain power in the family dynamic.
At what minute mark was this? Speaking from experience, i feel like my "knowledge" and "wisdom" can sometimes make people feel like they have nothing to teach me. Which i feel is a form of not listening.
Wow - I’m so grateful to both Gabor and Daniel for sharing their wisdom and vulnerability with us. It is such a transformational and healing experience to just listen to them and relate to exactly what they share. It feels like a communal healing ❤️🩹 experience we are going through together. ❤❤❤❤🙏🏾
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Love this
Why didn't Rae join you in the end? Will she next time? I think the mother's viewpoint could add a lot to the discussions.
I fully agree. This patriarchal viewpoint is all well and good but I'd also love to see mother and daughter/wife and sister involved.
Apsolutely!
Be so great to bond with my adult daughter. A bit more.
This is great. I have also noticed that you both use humour to hide some of your emotions or deflect and make it light hearted. Maybe it’s easier to say things jokingly also. Obviously it’s something inbuilt since childhood. And I know as I’m the same but know when to let the guard down also.
I would like to see the warmth heartedness come in without the humour. Now that’s powerful speaking from experience. To let the clown mask evaporate even if only for a moment in time and to really feel it with all your heart. The love etc. just to sit in that and be in the moment.
Good obersvation. Today i did something similiar and now i gotta wonder if ending sonething with humor is not always the best closer.
I, too, have often heard people mask their uneasiness with humour. This is possibly another understandable, learned coping mechanism, about which Gabor often talks, because our society teaches us to bury and hide our ‘softer’ feelings. We are all learning to be vulnerable and open ourselves to our own sadness, frustrations, anger, etc.
Thank you to both Matés!
Curious body language from Gabor when Daniel speaks sitting crossed legged , also self soothing . Im wondering how much they like each other and if this is the real issue - Daniel seems competitive for alpha position in the family as demonstrated clearly at the end when they are talking over each other .
This is a reality sitcom 😂
Whenever Dr. Gabor Mate speaks his voice is one of tremendous compassion and that adds to what he says.
Totally!!!! Totally!!!!!! His voice is the most compassionate I have ever listen!!!!!!
Amen❤️🙏
Well, yeah, but as he's said himself, that doesn't always show in his dealings with his family. Like with all of us humans, it's really easy to think and say things. It's also easy to practice those things with low-stakes people but much harder in close relationships. Especially if there has been conflict.
Yes - he has this soothing energy that just emanates from him when he speaks. It’s so healing. ❤️🩹
46:14 I'm grateful Daniel stepped in on the over-modulation, just distortion and clipping here. Could you have a sound check and a practice or at least a one-two, mic check, test test at the beginning to get audibility for live shows together? Build it in to the shtick?
Note to Daniel:
Taking a moment to say that recently finding your voice, in the lectures with your father on UA-cam, is guiding Me to the next level of my healing & Self-awareness (as both 44 year-old adult child and parent of a precocious 10 year old).
I’ve been delving deep in my own healing for years, found Gabor’s offerings long ago, and have been empowered greatly through it. And now your voice arrived on my path, and deeper empowerment along with it. Your unique ability to work through your own pain so eloquently & vulnerably, before our hungry eyes, was what my mind was ready for at this moment. An answered prayer and no coincidence that your POWERFUL voice only JUST found me this week. It was time. I am ready.
So thank You for being YOU. For sharing the fiercely Loving Heart You are revealing & developing as You heal the layers. Those sacred wounds deserve all the TLC they desire and have gone without for so long. May that come to You in all the ways You long for, at the perfect time, too.
And thank You also for helping your father heal beside You, as we need the Light of You both to burn as warmly and brightly as possible, for as long as possible. I know that his Love for You, and your act of Self-Love to reclaim your own power is guiding him to deeper revelation, Soul renewal, and connection to what he lost long ago. I assure You, children teach us, better than anyone, how to heal ourselves in order to connect to them the way our Soul yearns to. You are doing that just by living authentically. I’m proud of You for diving so deeply because it is so so so hard. You choose this path. You are fiercely courageous, Daniel.
Thank You, thank You, thank You.
Please know You are never alone and are fully appreciated by so many whom You will never know. Although I will likely never get to speak directly to You, may these sincere words reach your Heart directly...please know just how deeply appreciated (Loved) You are for your essence. You emanate a passion and brilliance for Truth and are respected as a luminary to people like Me (who also admire your flaws, humanity, and fragility as an asset). You help us see ourselves more clearly and find compassion where we are looking.
Your Life is your own, but I feel so honored to have been touched by your openness to share your journey. AND...there’s nothing more You owe anyone! Please just BE YOU and follow what You know is right and good for yourSelf and we will all be blessed by it. Ha! As I write these words I realize I’m speaking to my own inner child too. Isn’t that alwayz the way?! :)
I’ll leave You with this-
Your pain was never in vain. It’s revealed a depth and desire and wisdom that is expanding awareness and the entire Universe.
WE. SEE. AND. HEAR. YOU!
We admire and support You.
We are cheering for You and urging You on. Please remember, even in your darkest moments, You are enough and You are important, just as You are.
May You be well.
May You be happy.
May You experience Soul-deep Peace.
May You come to understand the full magnitude of your blessed Light.
With great Love & respect,
Santalena ❤️🦋
Hutchinson, KS USA
I found that the immediate father and son response to Rae's question or comment made me feel sad and shut down and I wonder if Rae feels like this and whether father and son are unaware they may at times exert power to dominate Rae and 'win' or maintain power in the family dynamic.
At what minute mark was this? Speaking from experience, i feel like my "knowledge" and "wisdom" can sometimes make people feel like they have nothing to teach me. Which i feel is a form of not listening.
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I see some of that, not sure what to make of it, or how serious it is. It could also be nothing.
No I don't think so. I feel they piled up on her. Dismissed her too. She finally agreed. Got along to get along.😢
Gabor you are amazing ❤️
Thanks for sharing. Keep up the good work.
Wow! Dr. Gabor! You really got how hard it is to "get" us the way we as parents wish we were gotten, hurts😢
Wow - I’m so grateful to both Gabor and Daniel for sharing their wisdom and vulnerability with us. It is such a transformational and healing experience to just listen to them and relate to exactly what they share. It feels like a communal healing ❤️🩹 experience we are going through together. ❤❤❤❤🙏🏾