This is so interesting! I feel like being a man in my 30's (I'm 33) being in shape, successful etc. gives me the dating opportunities that women have in their late teens/early 20's. Being in your 30's as a male is the sweet spot. I can date up or down and have options. Even be a bit choosy! Great video Schahrzad
A masculine man with good looks in his prime between 30-40 will very rarely choose a woman over 60. Then she must look extremely good and the man has some problem that makes him think the woman can save him from, roughly. Economics, or similar. A world famous woman over 60 like Madonna for example - even if she doesn't look extremely good - can probably find a handsome much younger man in his prime who wants to take advantage of her celebrity, finances and lifestyle etc. But even there the man's primary attitude to see the relationship as a more temporary relationship that can be put in the memory and on the track record for the future. There is nothing wrong with aiming high. And women are pretty good at doing just that. Watch any podcast show with many young women involved, their self-image is often grandiose. When asked how they rate their own appearance and looks, it is almost only 9s and 10s that they assign to themselves - even though they are not really better than average. This naturally means that they aim high when choosing a partner. And since the average young woman can get sex from highly rated men, she thinks she's on the same page when it comes to relationship attractiveness as well.
There are exceptions to the rule. Attractive older women in shape and good health. I prefer younger men 5 to 7 years younger. . Honestly most people are a 6 or 7. What matters most is the internal. How someone treats you. However large age gap relationships tend to be risky. There can be a misalignment in values, beliefs lifestyle and worldview. We are most compatible with people similar to ourselves. The most successful couples have more similarities than differences. Disposition is a very important factor in relationships. So is gratitude. Victor consciousness. 🌞 Shared core values emotional maturity beliefs a blendable lifestyle and worldview. Romance chemistry and attraction does not create relationship success. Character emotional maturity and relationship skills. The first 10 dates to 3 months is lust and limerance. Trust is paramount. What is attractive is an energetic connection and radiance.
This is what we think as men. That's what I thought as well. I have a very close friend, and after she divorced she was looking for adventures (in her 50s, 60s). In her 60s she made 3 dating profiles - one said she is 40, another 50, and yet another 65 (even older than her actual age). She looks extremely young / amazing for her age, can easily pass as 40.... yet, that profile got zero hits, the 50 10 guys (between ages 20-35) replied to ask her out, and her 65 y ad drew in hundred plus guys (ages 20-40) asking her seriously. She was amazed how attractive older woman are to young guys, in their 20s, 30s. And not the riff-raff, but great guys in superb shape..... She told me that mother nature screwed us over because men have their sexual peak at their 20s, and women start peaking at 45. That's how the hormones work.
Having a fantasy, however improbable, is completely comprehensible. For many, the purchase of a lottery ticket (irrational, given the odds) gives enough hope of a life-changing win that the day-to-day becomes bearable. Thanks for the candid talk.
I just came across your channel and I find your videos so interesting! I’m 53 and am in the beginning of separation and divorce with my husband of 28 years. I can’t even imagine dating right now. I have so much to work through. I love that you are so authentic and know what you want. You’re beautiful!
You seem to be a genuine person so please be careful you are not hurt. Long before I was married I was a young sailor in our Navy and I am now ashamed to say we viewed older ladies as sport. One of our favourite evenings was at the Mecca Ballroom on Commercial Road, Portsmouth. Officially, it was "Over 60's Evening" but our name for it was "Grab a Granny".
About a year ago you made an entire video on a comment I left on one of your videos about this very subject on top of not being a people pleaser.. You were absolutely glowing in your feminine energy.
@@schahrzadmorgan When I saw you in that video as well as our further discussion in the comments I couldn't help but think about a "what if scenario" as silly as it may sound. . All I can say now is I want nothing but the best for you.
I'm in the same boat. I'm a year younger than you and I'm more interested in women who are under 40, and ideally in their late 20s early 30s. It does limit my options, but preferences are what they are and I feel no lack due to it. However, you might want to keep in mind that those men at that age can have any woman they want and you are competing for them. With 19 year olds. Good luck with that.
Im 61 havnt dated since 2010, all i see out there is tatoos, face jewerly along with out of shape bodys, everyone else thats dateable ,im invisiable to them....ive checked out
I'm not a fan of tattoos piercings or anyone alternative. I prefer conservative clean shaven fit well dressed men. We all have a preference. What we will experience with some is what's internal. Their heart soul, disposition and behavior. How they treat someone.
Wow. You're positively glowing with a blazing, powerful feminine aura today. Yes, this is a very important discussion on a very important topic. Very impressive background you have.
You don't have a problem, I love dating older women especially someone as attractive as yourself. I'm 45 now and still enjoy dating women that are up to 20 years older than me, I've dated women in there 60s even in my thirties but I realize as I get closer to my 50s that my options are getting slimmer and I may have to start looking at women that are younger eventually but im not rushing the transition. If I'm ever lucky enough to see you in a store, I'll have to "shoot my shot" , you're very easy on the eyes.
Nice video. I like your direct and honest way to talk about things. It feels authentic. 20:30 I don't think it's about attachement issues. It's hard to say anything about attachement agter few dates. Sometimes man date couple woman and want to go on second or third date just to check out, if she's on pair with other options. It's like seeing some potential after first date and veryfying in further. 20:40 I just don't think that typical man who is easly able to provide for himself and his partner is willing to lower living standards just so someone don't have to work. If man with nice income meet woman with similar income it works other way around: living standard is raised. Or they may both work less and have more free time. I don't feel like it's worth to form long-term cohabitual relationship with woman who is not able to have at least 50% of man's income. Unless it's only for meeting her 1-2 times a week to have some time together. At leas it's my gaze.
I am 44 and I also like men 10 or more years younger than me because they are passionate in bed. I am afraid that even if I say that I want a relationship, all I want is a family (I have been in a long term relationship but never marriage) I may not actually be ready for a relationship! When I was in my 20s and 30s all I could. think about is how to meet the right guy, get married, have a family yet it never happened and I am very glad that now in my 40s I no longer feel that way. .Never in my life (not when I was in my 20s, not when I was 30s, not now in my 40s) I have had a one night stand and I have never had more than one man a year. I think that now when I am 44, soon 45 I just really enjoy life more, enjoy sex much more and I am afraid that if I was in an official relationship I would need to adjust my life a lot. I am sure that everything is possible and you will find a man you are looking for! Much, much Love!
I'm from Japan where younger men/older women arrangements are very common. Many high school boys have stories about a certain teacher or their mother's friends.
@@schahrzadmorgan Well there are cultural differences involved here. In Japan husbands work long hours and then go off with their friends for evening entertainment, leaving their wives home alone. A Japanese man almost never takes his wife on a date. So she is lonely and there are lots of young men around who are virtual sperm fountains to play with. There is a Japanese erotic star named Kyoka Someya in her 50s endlessly romping about with college age boys in her video productions. There are a hundred other performers just like her who are very popular.
Im 42 now, but when I was 30 I used to LOVE women in their 40s and 50s. Im married now to a woman I love very much who is only 6 months younger than me. But I certainly understand why you like younger guys. You do NOT look 62! I thought at the oldest you might be 47 or 50.
I don’t think you have a problem. I think you just haven’t met the person for you. It’s normal to be attracted to handsome men and many of them are younger. I have found that I can be attracted to someone a few years older than me as well as someone my age or younger but I don’t want someone a decade or more older than me.
You should do phone or zoom consults with men. The way you understand attachment avoidant personalities etc is very perceptive. Some men might benefit from your knowledge and experience.
the folks insulting this woman have as many issues, toxicity and self doubts as you think she does, or else you wouldn't care. She's open and honest about what she wants. She can do what she wants. women just want guys with game, and a lot of elderly men lack
You need to find men in their 30s who have kids already and are divorced. Which is hard to find because men (and women) are having children much later in life these days. As a childless man in his forties the only reason I would not consider older women for a relationship is because I still want to have a kid.
Odd observation: so, at this point in your life, your taste (preferred age) in the opposite sex is ... stable like a man's of your age? Just stable, throughout most of your adult life? Interesting.
I'm glad this is a video for entertainment purposes because ma'am.....let me stop right there. I'm just glad this is a joke. And a good one although almost an hour long.
I have a similar issue I mentioned on a previous video. It's those military guys, they have masculine energy, are in great shape and have protective traits that I love. I was married to Marine, he was 6 years older than me. I've been divorced several years and have tried dating non military older guys, but I'm not attracted to them for various reasons. My best friend is older than me and was married to a military guy also. He was a few years younger than her though and passed away. She's in great shape and feels the same way as me, she's not attracted to men her age and older. I have another friend that married a guy that was not attractive and overweight. He's a great father, but I think thats the only reason she's still with him.
Would you (or I) feel differently if the men over 60 were better maintained in terms of physical strength, spiritual energy, being open hearted? They tend to get rigid and shut down or fat or grumpy or flabby and that's the issue
@@schahrzadmorgan It's a statement on love and lust. I went back to listen to what you had to say and I don't think you know what you want. On one hand you want that explosion running thru your body but then you want him more educated than you. You want him fit you don't want him to have average income. You want him young but at the same time you want around your age.you just don't want sex only but he needs to know what he is doing. Sounds to me like you haven't had a man that hit your bottom yet the right way and I don't mean between your legs either. That comes afterwards to seal it. There are not that many guys who have that in themselves in the language you are seeking I will wishing you well in your explorations. Are you looking for love or are you looking for lust
Sorry you are attracted to younger men. It's probably not a good thing for you in the long run. As someone who is older who can touch his tongue to the tip of his nose I might be a more appropriate long term partner for you.
@@kenofken9458 Not quite sure of your reference, however when you couple the endearing tongue length with an extraordinarily long pinky and forefinger it makes for a sparks filled night.
How does a long tongue make you a relationship prospect? The comment alone signals low relationship skills and as far as sexual skills utterly useless as I am bored sexually by a lapdog.
This is so interesting! I feel like being a man in my 30's (I'm 33) being in shape, successful etc. gives me the dating opportunities that women have in their late teens/early 20's. Being in your 30's as a male is the sweet spot. I can date up or down and have options. Even be a bit choosy! Great video Schahrzad
Exactly! Well into your mid 40s guys like you are in the sweet spot!
A masculine man with good looks in his prime between 30-40 will very rarely choose a woman over 60. Then she must look extremely good and the man has some problem that makes him think the woman can save him from, roughly. Economics, or similar.
A world famous woman over 60 like Madonna for example - even if she doesn't look extremely good - can probably find a handsome much younger man in his prime who wants to take advantage of her celebrity, finances and lifestyle etc. But even there the man's primary attitude to see the relationship as a more temporary relationship that can be put in the memory and on the track record for the future.
There is nothing wrong with aiming high. And women are pretty good at doing just that. Watch any podcast show with many young women involved, their self-image is often grandiose. When asked how they rate their own appearance and looks, it is almost only 9s and 10s that they assign to themselves - even though they are not really better than average.
This naturally means that they aim high when choosing a partner. And since the average young woman can get sex from highly rated men, she thinks she's on the same page when it comes to relationship attractiveness as well.
There are exceptions to the rule. Attractive older women in shape and good health. I prefer younger men 5 to 7 years younger. . Honestly most people are a 6 or 7. What matters most is the internal. How someone treats you. However large age gap relationships tend to be risky. There can be a misalignment in values, beliefs lifestyle and worldview. We are most compatible with people similar to ourselves. The most successful couples have more similarities than differences.
Disposition is a very important factor in relationships. So is gratitude. Victor consciousness. 🌞
Shared core values emotional maturity beliefs a blendable lifestyle and worldview.
Romance chemistry and attraction does not create relationship success. Character emotional maturity and relationship skills.
The first 10 dates to 3 months is lust and limerance. Trust is paramount. What is attractive is an energetic connection and radiance.
This is what we think as men. That's what I thought as well. I have a very close friend, and after she divorced she was looking for adventures (in her 50s, 60s). In her 60s she made 3 dating profiles - one said she is 40, another 50, and yet another 65 (even older than her actual age). She looks extremely young / amazing for her age, can easily pass as 40.... yet, that profile got zero hits, the 50 10 guys (between ages 20-35) replied to ask her out, and her 65 y ad drew in hundred plus guys (ages 20-40) asking her seriously. She was amazed how attractive older woman are to young guys, in their 20s, 30s. And not the riff-raff, but great guys in superb shape.....
She told me that mother nature screwed us over because men have their sexual peak at their 20s, and women start peaking at 45. That's how the hormones work.
Having a fantasy, however improbable, is completely comprehensible. For many, the purchase of a lottery ticket (irrational, given the odds) gives enough hope of a life-changing win that the day-to-day becomes bearable. Thanks for the candid talk.
Seems natural … Im only attracted to younger women
100%
I just came across your channel and I find your videos so interesting! I’m 53 and am in the beginning of separation and divorce with my husband of 28 years. I can’t even imagine dating right now. I have so much to work through. I love that you are so authentic and know what you want. You’re beautiful!
Oh thank you. I really want more women to comment on my videos.
I’ll be 65 in a few months. We would have a ball. Happy Holidays
🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤
I am 66 and I think I threw up in my mouth alittle.
If you can do it a lot, there are fetish sites you could sell the footage to!🤣
You explain how you are thinking and feeling very well.
You seem to be a genuine person so please be careful you are not hurt. Long before I was married I was a young sailor in our Navy and I am now ashamed to say we viewed older ladies as sport. One of our favourite evenings was at the Mecca Ballroom on Commercial Road, Portsmouth. Officially, it was "Over 60's Evening" but our name for it was "Grab a Granny".
Omg lol
That is so cool that you have a Bachelor of Science in computer science. Mad respect for you! 🙂
Oh thanks.
About a year ago you made an entire video on a comment I left on one of your videos about this very subject on top of not being a people pleaser.. You were absolutely glowing in your feminine energy.
That's such a nourishing compliment. Thank you.
@@schahrzadmorgan When I saw you in that video as well as our further discussion in the comments I couldn't help but think about a "what if scenario" as silly as it may sound. . All I can say now is I want nothing but the best for you.
Appreciate your honesty. Most women are like this in their 40s plus. That's fine but what do we get in return? It's gotta be one hell of a deal
Only normal, Schahrzad. You go girl!
I'm in the same boat. I'm a year younger than you and I'm more interested in women who are under 40, and ideally in their late 20s early 30s. It does limit my options, but preferences are what they are and I feel no lack due to it.
However, you might want to keep in mind that those men at that age can have any woman they want and you are competing for them. With 19 year olds. Good luck with that.
The issue is how poorly men are ageing. I am expressing I would rather be alone than w some rundown old guy...regardless of money..
Thank you for expressing this fact. Men over 50 don’t often work out or do much to look good.
Thanks!
Im 61 havnt dated since 2010, all i see out there is tatoos, face jewerly along with out of shape bodys, everyone else thats dateable ,im invisiable to them....ive checked out
I'm not a fan of tattoos piercings or anyone alternative. I prefer conservative clean shaven fit well dressed men. We all have a preference. What we will experience with some is what's internal. Their heart soul, disposition and behavior. How they treat someone.
Wow. You're positively glowing with a blazing, powerful feminine aura today.
Yes, this is a very important discussion on a very important topic. Very impressive background you have.
I recently had it with a woman 40 years older and it was wonderful. I'm sorry but I just had to share it 😄
Age gap 🙂
@@schahrzadmorgan Well, yes I'm 24 and she's 63 but it wasnt a big deal for us. We're just a good match
Entertaining video. Your authenticity is refreshing 🙂
You don't have a problem, I love dating older women especially someone as attractive as yourself. I'm 45 now and still enjoy dating women that are up to 20 years older than me, I've dated women in there 60s even in my thirties but I realize as I get closer to my 50s that my options are getting slimmer and I may have to start looking at women that are younger eventually but im not rushing the transition. If I'm ever lucky enough to see you in a store, I'll have to "shoot my shot" , you're very easy on the eyes.
Hey , that sounds great! Let’s go run when you’re in Omaha!
Let's not.
You are attractive and have a lot going for you. Don’t change
Nice video. I like your direct and honest way to talk about things. It feels authentic.
20:30 I don't think it's about attachement issues. It's hard to say anything about attachement agter few dates.
Sometimes man date couple woman and want to go on second or third date just to check out, if she's on pair with other options. It's like seeing some potential after first date and veryfying in further.
20:40 I just don't think that typical man who is easly able to provide for himself and his partner is willing to lower living standards just so someone don't have to work. If man with nice income meet woman with similar income it works other way around: living standard is raised. Or they may both work less and have more free time. I don't feel like it's worth to form long-term cohabitual relationship with woman who is not able to have at least 50% of man's income. Unless it's only for meeting her 1-2 times a week to have some time together. At leas it's my gaze.
I am 44 and I also like men 10 or more years younger than me because they are passionate in bed. I am afraid that even if I say that I want a relationship, all I want is a family (I have been in a long term relationship but never marriage) I may not actually be ready for a relationship! When I was in my 20s and 30s all I could. think about is how to meet the right guy, get married, have a family yet it never happened and I am very glad that now in my 40s I no longer feel that way. .Never in my life (not when I was in my 20s, not when I was 30s, not now in my 40s) I have had a one night stand and I have never had more than one man a year. I think that now when I am 44, soon 45 I just really enjoy life more, enjoy sex much more and I am afraid that if I was in an official relationship I would need to adjust my life a lot. I am sure that everything is possible and you will find a man you are looking for! Much, much Love!
I'm from Japan where younger men/older women arrangements are very common. Many high school boys have stories about a certain teacher or their mother's friends.
That's pedo behavior and gross
@@schahrzadmorgan Well there are cultural differences involved here. In Japan husbands work long hours and then go off with their friends for evening entertainment, leaving their wives home alone. A Japanese man almost never takes his wife on a date.
So she is lonely and there are lots of young men around who are virtual sperm fountains to play with. There is a Japanese erotic star named Kyoka Someya in her 50s endlessly romping about with college age boys in her video productions. There are a hundred other performers just like her who are very popular.
Im 42 now, but when I was 30 I used to LOVE women in their 40s and 50s. Im married now to a woman I love very much who is only 6 months younger than me. But I certainly understand why you like younger guys. You do NOT look 62! I thought at the oldest you might be 47 or 50.
I don’t think you have a problem. I think you just haven’t met the person for you. It’s normal to be attracted to handsome men and many of them are younger. I have found that I can be attracted to someone a few years older than me as well as someone my age or younger but I don’t want someone a decade or more older than me.
Yes I think it has to do w physical and emotional health, which most people lose over the years.
You should do phone or zoom consults with men. The way you understand attachment avoidant personalities etc is very perceptive. Some men might benefit from your knowledge and experience.
Great idea!
the folks insulting this woman have as many issues, toxicity and self doubts as you think she does, or else you wouldn't care. She's open and honest about what she wants. She can do what she wants. women just want guys with game, and a lot of elderly men lack
Thank you. That's some solid straight talk for these whiners.
You need to find men in their 30s who have kids already and are divorced. Which is hard to find because men (and women) are having children much later in life these days. As a childless man in his forties the only reason I would not consider older women for a relationship is because I still want to have a kid.
Nothing wrong with you girl.
Just enjoy your life. I think we put way-way to much in age.
I date younger ladies. 😊
Same I like younger guys. I think I find older men creepy. I got used as a toy by older men. So I see them as sleazy.
That makes sense.
It’s normal.
This is a case for polygamy, a younger man would love to have you as sister wife
Gross
Repulsive
thats cause you never had a real good aged wine
would've loved to met you in my college years,
The college are me or the current age me?
me in my early college years definitely i was starting to mingle ;)@@schahrzadmorgan
Odd observation: so, at this point in your life, your taste (preferred age) in the opposite sex is ... stable like a man's of your age? Just stable, throughout most of your adult life? Interesting.
I'm glad this is a video for entertainment purposes because ma'am.....let me stop right there. I'm just glad this is a joke. And a good one although almost an hour long.
Free entertainment except for the ads 😉
I have a similar issue I mentioned on a previous video. It's those military guys, they have masculine energy, are in great shape and have protective traits that I love. I was married to Marine, he was 6 years older than me. I've been divorced several years and have tried dating non military older guys, but I'm not attracted to them for various reasons. My best friend is older than me and was married to a military guy also. He was a few years younger than her though and passed away. She's in great shape and feels the same way as me, she's not attracted to men her age and older. I have another friend that married a guy that was not attractive and overweight. He's a great father, but I think thats the only reason she's still with him.
Would you (or I) feel differently if the men over 60 were better maintained in terms of physical strength, spiritual energy, being open hearted? They tend to get rigid and shut down or fat or grumpy or flabby and that's the issue
Nothing wrong with liking younger men
Love is not a emotion love is a action
You love indulging in lust and lust is not love either lol it is all emotions.
What's your point?
@@schahrzadmorgan
It's a statement on love and lust.
I went back to listen to what you had to say and I don't think you know what you want.
On one hand you want that explosion running thru your body but then you want him more educated than you.
You want him fit you don't want him to have average income.
You want him young but at the same time you want around your age.you just don't want sex only but he needs to know what he is doing.
Sounds to me like you haven't had a man that hit your bottom yet the right way and I don't mean between your legs either. That comes afterwards to seal it.
There are not that many guys who have that in themselves in the language you are seeking I will wishing you well in your explorations.
Are you looking for love or are you looking for lust
So you don't like clean shaved men
Sorry you are attracted to younger men. It's probably not a good thing for you in the long run. As someone who is older who can touch his tongue to the tip of his nose I might be a more appropriate long term partner for you.
That skill itself doesn't necessarily make you long term partner material.
It does probably make you a good candidate for the Wednesday night shift...
@@kenofken9458 Not quite sure of your reference, however when you couple the endearing tongue length with an extraordinarily long pinky and forefinger it makes for a sparks filled night.
I'm sure, but to be long term partner material, you've got to have something else to trade on for the 99% of time you won't be deploying that skill.
@@kenofken9458 But the post is about her physical attraction to people. Not what makes a good relationship. Context.
How does a long tongue make you a relationship prospect? The comment alone signals low relationship skills and as far as sexual skills utterly useless as I am bored sexually by a lapdog.
I would love to watch you play with it.
I love how sicere you are...
that works out....a lot of younger guys don't measure up financially for the younger women so an easy lay for these boys is a good thing.
Your listening skills are an utter fail. Try again.
Exactly.