Jax Teller wow this hit me hard, i always come back to nothing matters in the end. you know, the stress of name brands,even like how we hate being embarrassed one day there will be one last time you feel each emotion.
Like the second you have read this comment, boom! It's gone.. oh that's gone too, and there it's gone again. Remember when you weren't done reading this comment yet? Yep, good times..
Yes, but no. Always thinking like that might put you in a state where you constantly fear of missing out (FOMO) if you don't do ALL the stuff, meet ALL the people and attend ALL the parties. I've been there for a while until I learned how to just do less of the stuff I don't really need/want/like to do. Which btw. really helps staying sane in this pandemic.
i hate whenever youre doing something with friends and you realize that one day youll never have fun like this again and when you get home youll be bored and sad.
thats me now :(. the year after highschool, when everyone was still connected, best year of my life. Every weekend id connect with people. now i sleep and lay in my depression :)
I was at a birthday of one of my friends(before the pandemic) and from 3pm to 4am we smoked weed, drank, went out to do stupid shit at the park and when I was falling asleep I just thought how good I had it now and tommorow I will have to deal with school and routines and from then I kinda don't wanna waste my time anymore I know imma get old and forgotten so I will have my fun until I can
You'll be too busy doing other things that make you happy if you choose to find them rather than spending all your time wishing you had old things that made you happy back.
I have a lot of nostalgia for the 80s, and 90s, and especially strong nostalgia for the late 80s and early 90s. I had some of the best times of my life in t shirt those days, but I also suffered a lot of heartache, was very insecure, lacked insight, had never heard of Mindfulness. I lived with depression, anxiety and an undiagnosed personality disorder in my youth that I received bo treatment for until I went away to college, and sought out that help on my own, because my parents didn't really believe in therapy, the sort of mental illness I lived with. My folks seemed to just think that I needed to pull myself up from my proverbial bootstraps, and that I wasn't trying hard enough, or that l would do better next time. I wouldn't mind getting in a time machine, but only if I get to be a young person with my fifty year old knowledge, and wisdom that I have now from life experience, and years of therapy.
This is called survivorship bias. We only look at the winners, the victories, the good times, the good feelings, and all the best memories from the past. We completely ignore all the losers, the losses, the stress, the pain, the failures, and all the bad memories from the past. This is why we always say things like "Songs were so good back in the day" or "They don't make movies like that anymore" or "childhood was the best time of my life", we completely forget the fact that even back in the day, there were shitty songs, shitty movies, and shitty times of our lives. Our brain is never happy with what it has in the present, it always hopes and dreams of a perfect future, while nostalgically remembering only the best times of the past. Your brain is always trying to trick you into feeling good so you get the little dopamine kick, which is the pleasure chemical of the brain. Stop living in the past and future, they don't exist, the only thing that exists is the present, enjoy the present, savor it, and be grateful for what you have, and try to be kind to others.
When I was a kid, I remember asking an old bed-ridden gentleman in a nursing home, “does dying hurt?” “No, living hurts more than dying. When you’re my age, you’ll understand why.”
Jack da Fox he was so gentle and kind. It was weird how I suddenly remembered him after watching this. Made me think about how nostalgia can actually be more painful than pleasant, in essence. Whoever made this video, thank you for allowing me to actually get what that old man was trying to tell me without saying much.
Aaron thank you for your service man, especially with the packaging you guys literally keep the everything going, along with the long hours. You’re the epitome of online shopping, and I hope you can catch a break during these tough times.
“As soon as you’re born you start dying, so you might as well have a good time” I know it’s never going to get better than it was before, but you have no choice in the matter
@@gunnasintern I’ve never understood people who say that schooldays are the best days of your life. Since leaving school, life has generally got so much better. There have been some desperately miserable times, of course, but in the round, being 30 was acres better than being 12.
JE Hoyes i agree. i’m still young as i’m only turning 22 this year and 30 is still a young age as well, being out of school these past 4 years was a lot better than being in it. sure i recovered from 2-3 year depressive relapse last year, but it was still worth it as i have more/better life experience and don’t have to worry about being involved in the education system. getting older year by year is amazing, has definitely helped me embrace and enjoy life once again
That's the opposite of the moral as that was the mindset that caused Sarah to suffer throughout her life. The moral is to appreciate your life at every stage. You will constantly receive new joys and struggles as quickly as you lose old joys and struggles. You'd never choose to be a kid with no independence or income if you could be a working adult with those things, and you would never choose to be a working adult under constant pressure and with no free time if you could be retired with a ton of free time to spend with your grandkids, but you'd never choose to be a decrepit and directionless retiree if you could choose to welcome death with no regrets where you, again, have an equal level of joys and struggles. Every part is good and every part is bad, but it's a little better if you look forward to new joys and the passage of current struggles rather than backward to old joys and the ignorance of current struggles.
You will get nostalgia and longing for old times all throughout life, I used to miss memories from 10 years ago, then realised i miss times from 4-5 years ago, and its got to the point where I even miss how things were a few months ago, I realised it's part of life and mainly due to your mind blocking out the bad memories of that time, creating the illusion that the present is dull and not as exciting. You feel like you took the past for granted, but in a years time, you'll realise that you took now for granted. It really is true when people say live in the moment, otherwise you will waste your life chasing the past.
@@ActiveEC-dn5wr if you want to keep making memories, keep doing new things and listen to new music, if you keep trying to re create the past it will only de-satisfy you more as you realise it's just not the same
I feel like most people don't cherish the good moments enough this is why alot of people reminisce on the past. Humans are such self-destructive creatures we ruin perfect things that we need and never truly appreciate the simple things that impact us or the small acts of kindness that made us feel like there is hope in humanity. We need to cherish every good moment and learn from the bad ones and teach the generation after us how to do better and be better this is evolution. This is necessary.
But honestly, ARE you all unable to feel that?? Come one, you must have had at least moments in your life, where you stopped and thought", "Wow, this is incredible!". Could be just sitting on a on a bench, acknowledging the school you're at, the people you're surrounded with (even if they do look down on you), walking hand in hand with your first boyfriend etc. pp., your first real paycheck, being at a concert, when some song, or a movie scene, a buliding, or a piece of art suddenly hits you, or the plain bad, we do not have to feel good all the time - Robbie Williams said it all, really, just feel!
If you are 35 or younger and watching this, celebrate your youth, for the years will start to move quickly very soon. I still can't believe I'm already 50.
@@cupcakee22 I'm 19 and I feel the same way you feel. I probably should take my own advice here when I say that we are still young and have so much life ahead of us, I would not worry about how things could have been or will be as we cannot go back in time to change certain things.. although I would love to turn back time and do so. What we can change is our outcomes in the future, the years ahead. That's all that will matter 20+ years from now. :)
i am 22, and I have romanticized since I was 14. Every year, I regret every single decision that I have made in the past. Hoping to go back to the past and undo what I have done. But watching this video made me think how foolish it is to keep missing the past that will never come and not taking my preset for granted. I will keep coming back to this video whenever I miss my past.
*10,000 years went by. Sarah was 10,084 years old.* She reminisced about the good old days eating jello and playing bingo at the retirement home, as she watched the naive young humanoid species never realizing how good they have it.
@@vova8042 agreed. i belly chuckled then accidently ran downstairs and slipped, making me spiral into my laboratory with highly toxic chemicals, and that led me to accidentally kicking a glass bottle with hydroflouric acid which flew into my mouth, help im dyinge
At 89 years old, Sarah realised she didn't exist, and everything she thought had happened to her wasn't real, just imagined by a content creator. She wondered why she wasted her fictional life ruminating on the past, never able to appreciate being in the fictional moment.
This is assuming ancient humans didn't wish there was a place they could go to pick out whatever they wanted to eat at any time effortlessly and bring it home to cook.
I caught myself doing this a lot lately, and then I stumbled on a phrase that I really love that helps me to appreciate the present moment and not get so stuck in the past that I end up ignoring the present. It goes something like this: "Today is always the greatest day, because you are the wisest you have ever been, and the youngest you will ever be again".
Just wanted to share my little secret, I'm afraid of the pandemic ending and getting back to life, I love the break and the fact that it's just letting me relax, even though im still a student and i dont have that much stress, I feel way better just being by myself, with my own thoughts, Wi-Fi, and no "Good" or "Bad" people to worry about, no waking up at 6am, no crazy daily routines that get me nowhere, and even though there might not be the school friends, the gym, or the other fun times, just being, being by myself and doing nothing much and knowing that thats okay, is so, freeing
I wish i could feel this way too... with the extra time .. Ppl are expecting me to do extra work... Im too tired to gather any energy to do it ... So im havin a weird time panicking and numbin my brain to continue on... But its whatever ig ...this is just me venting a bit btw
i don’t really like it, I’m stuck in a house with my parents that don’t love me, (mentally abusive/manipulative). and not having much to do or worry about or not having school or something to distract myself has caused a lot of depressive thoughts to come, my mental health has been rapidly declining because i can’t see my friends who help with my mental health. it’s gotten me to be able to isolate myself, which is a horrible thing for someone with depression.
Maybe think of rural living? Of course it has its problems like ie. keeping animals or harvesting (and having a knowledge of such) and not that much of an income, but definitely takes out the problem of meeting to many people and being busy with "business stuff".
Yeah!! I have a lot more time to focus on myself(: I dont have a ton of work (my school only assigns a small project or two every week) so I'm trying to study another language and have also been keeping myself busy with drawing, gaming, indoor workouts, singing, and just chilling with my family at home, even texting online/school friends every now and then. It rarely gets boring for me.. just the thought of having to "get back to life" makes me feel uneasy end even frustrated because everything was so overwhelming. But again, I wish this pandemic could calm down and we couldve already gained control of it.. there would be so much more to do too..
Trust me, life gets a lot easier as you age, people always say that life was better when they were younger because they dont actually remember what it was like to be your age. People just like to complain about the shit theyre going through in the present because thats all they really know, you only remember good things because there is no reason to remember bad things.
@ that last guy....NO, f that!! That is terrible advice. Just because it got worse for you dude doesn’t mean we’re all doomed. To you 18 year olds who want to “start living life” guess what? you already are. Seize the day and make it your personal responsibility to live an extraordinary life, if that’s what you want (whatever that means for you) There is no right or wrong way to exist, just possibilities and your willingness or unwillingness to do something about it. Breathe y’all, it’ll be okay!!
Give yourself the opportunity to be. Be spontanious, be brave, be yourself. Make mistakes. Make successes. Sometimes you can only see in retrospective which one was which. Life is not easy and will never be, but that doesn't mean that you always have to take it the hard way. Give yourself the chance to live, learn, hate and love. Sometimes things seem minor in the present but can change who you are in the future. One additional advice I would like to give you is: Don't chicken out if you see an opportunity in something and don't hold on to things where you don't. Take actions you can be proud of. The things you do define who you are. And the things you don't do are mostly the things you will regret in the future. I'm not much older than you (21), but I feel like my life is over already. I'm trying to learn how to be naiv and childish again to gain back what I lost: Enyoing to be and living for the moment. Don't be afraid of growing up, be arfaid of losing yourself in the process.
Alternatively, you guys can just write, in a journal and revisit it. I've been doing so, since mid 2014. at age 20. It really does keep perspective, my reflex thinking about 2014, was that it was fun and i had alot less pressure etc. But if i revisit a journal entry, it shows how i went through shit, and had issues in certain parts of my life. There is no "better" because your subjective perception changes, so I could say 1 year is better than the other, but seeing it from a different perspective changes all that... for the most part.
@@Dmoskians what im doing is i write down my thoughts every beginning of the month. So in 1 year you have 12 journal entries. Through this you can really see the changes you are going through, its sick.
“No-one has ever properly understood me, I have never fully understood anyone; and no-one understands anyone else.” Goethe as he laid on his death bed.
"to be understood is to be leveled down, And to be grasped is but to reach one’s fullness And like a ripe fruit to fall and be consumed." -Kahlil Gibran
The only good thing about having had a shitty childhood is that I never once have desired to relive those years. I am just grateful of being healthy both phisically and mentally right now and I try as much as I can to live fully the present.
@@everythingthatswithinflows1655 Thanks for the kind words. If I can just say one thing in reply of what you said, it would be that in the little time that I've been on this planet (I'm 26 right now) I've understood two things: 1. Never judge a book by its cover (I used to show happiness on the outside while being miserable on the inside, and I was pretty good at it) 2. Happiness is not something that you have to wait for something to happen, to experience it. It is mostly a choice; and you can decide to find happiness in the little things even when everithing that's happening to you tells you that you should be miserable. And for when you just feel like shit and nothing can change that, remember that every emotional state is temporary and it will pass and that our brain is not programmed to make us feel happy all the time, otherwise we would have been extinct long ago. ok those were more than 2 things sorry ahahah
Have you ever believed that maybe you had a bad childhood because you were and are still lying to yourself and only see the negative things but not the positive ones like Sarah did?
@@Kowzyh The fact that I say that my childhood was bad is due to different traumas and situations that made me depressed for a long period of time. Sure if I had to relive those moments with the experience that I have right now my all prospective on what is happening would be different. But I was a child and I didn't know better. In this way you're right, I was only seeing the bad, cause the bad was overwhelming for my age. And I can't erase my memories or make my past self change his prospective. I worked to accept my past and moved on.
She thought back to how exciting it was to be in the face of the unknown everything in her life now was mostly figured out and now she longed to be back when nothing was figured out and everything was still possible ... That's beautiful
That’s because things turned out fine, for her case. She was lucky so what she had was the confidence that things will turn out fine again if she get thrown back into the unknown. Unfortunately that’s not necessarily true for many people.
I'm also 12 and for a 12 year old my life is honestly shit. I don't know if my mom even knows she's verbally abusing me, getting bullied at a young age (6), hating myself for as long as I remember, having depression at a young age to the point I dont know who I am without it, parents divorce, my dad not being emotionally present in my life, grades, how I look, how I act, how I talk, having abandonment issues, being sleep deprived for 5 months straight, cutting problems, worrying about the future to much, college, a job, a family, etc. I don't even want to imagine what the follow years would be in my life.
I've been romanticizing the past since i was 7. I'm now 13, almost 14. my cousin, who is *6* has told me that she also does. I can't stop doing it. I wish I was younger, and would imagine how I would be. Then it hit me one day, I realized that I would be thinking the same exact thing. Either in the future, or past. I am still the same person, but....different. I have more experience compared to my 7 year old self. it's too bad that we never know what we have till its gone, forever. I know that I didn't cherish and appreciate the things in my past, but I am trying my best now. Give yourself time, it isn't easy to just do something like that.
my advise to u is have fun always tell your mom you love her and dont let the small things get you down im almost 40 and not a day goes by i dont miss my mom and stay close with any siblings and friends whoare there for the long haul as not many are to be honest and when u do eventually procreate and experience the unconditional love give them all u can i get so depressed when i think about how fast timw keeps going by i wish i could pause life just to catch my breath
This reminds me of an excerpt from by Schopenhauer’s essays: “The scenes of our life are like pictures in rough mosaic, which have no effect at close quarters, but must be looked at from a distance in order to discern their beauty. So that to obtain something we have desired is to find out that it is worthless; we are always living in expectation of better things, while, at the same time, we often repent and long for things that belong to the past. We accept the present as something that is only temporary, and regard it only as a means to accomplish our aim. So that most people will find if they look back when their life is at an end, that they have lived their lifelong ad interim, and they will be surprised to find that something they allowed to pass by unnoticed and unenjoyed was just their life-that is to say, it was the very thing in the expectation of which they lived.”
I personally enjoy longing for the old days and the feeling of nostalgia and bliss that comes with it. I don’t look back at my past self and scoff at how easy life was and wish I was there, I guess it is more like reminiscing. Living in the present is important but sometimes it is so calming for me to just reminisce
Whenever I start thinking about how I miss the past, I have to remind myself about the bad things happening at the time too. It's not that things are great now or were better before- things are usually a struggle all the time. I guess i just have to learn how to appreciate and celebrate getting through the struggles as they come.
It's crazy how obvious this theme of life is, and despite being told that we should appreciate the moment, and we know that to be a deep truth, we always forget to do that after a while; being caught up in the midst of life.
Search the message behind it brother. ..it’s something between; -Don’t wait to be a damn dying-old-man to appreciate your present-and -just f* it and quit, life doesn’t get better anyway-.
This is honestly the most pure comment section I’ve ever read. I’ve learned so much and now have a new outlook on life. We spend so much time looking at the past that we forget how much we have in the present. The only time I will ever reflect on my past throughly is when I’m laying on my death bed. If I still can remember my past of course.
In 10 minutes I turn 22. I just finished college a few weeks ago, and I'm riding out the pandemic in my childhood home with my family. Hopefully I'll be able to go back to Chicago to start my job in June. I hope I don't get laid off. I hope I'm safe. I really enjoyed this video. I wish I could capture the essence of life into a bottle and drink it all at once. I wish I could simultaneously hold the perspectives from all times of my life unfiltered by shifting memories. I wish that I could enjoy life's beauty forever. But even experiencing life for a moment is a gift I never earned and could never repay. Perhaps I should just be at peace with today, take a deep breath, and relish in the rose colored moments, just as this video describes. I'm fortunate to have had the life I've had so far, despite the many inner struggles I've faced. I hope I continue to know how fortunate I am for my life tomorrow, whatever tomorrow brings.
The truth of the matter is, we are ALWAYS in the best of times, and worst of times. Things have never been better, and they have never been worse, simultaneously. That's how I've come to see the present, anyway.
@@souranis That's not true. It takes intellect, creativity, study, and consistent contemplation to be a philosopher. It's a difficult discipline. There are many people who can't be philosophers even if they wanted to because it's not an easy thing that requires talent, interest, and practice. Unless of course you mean a person is a philosopher so long as they ruminates upon their ideas, what they read, and also watches UA-cam videos on philosophy, but doesn't contribute anything to the discipline of philosophy like Nietzsche or Sarte, nor has a degree in philosophy, then sure, any 3 year old who thinks about, 'why is the sky blue?' is a philosopher. Many people don't have the personality, intellect, or discipline to think rigorously which excludes many from philosophy. Since, anyone means every person, then someone with down syndrome could be a philosopher? Because that's a case your statement allows. And don't say I'm being nitpicky, anal, too technical, or I should know what you meant, unless of course you're not a philosopher and thus don't care, because again, most people aren't philosophers and don't understand what philosophy is. Socrates spent more hours thinking and debating than most people spend at their jobs. Nietzsche had a doctorate degree at the age 24, David Hume was in university by the age of 12 or 14, most people couldn't read the entire work of A Treatise of Human Nature, nor understand it without help or tutoring, let alone write something comparable to it without a lot study and practice. I'm not sure what you think being a philosopher is, but it's not something all people can be even if they really want to or just put their minds to it.
This actually brought a tear to my eye. What an incredibly enlightening experience it is to watch your videos. I'm ever so grateful to be alive in a time where I can simply turn on my laptop and be captivated by such incredible wisdom.
I'm 15 and I'm really scared of growing up and dieing one day... I always cry and get overwhelmed when I think about it. Yesterday I lost a friend group that I loved and I really wanted to stay with them longer. They loved me and I loved them; I still love them tho even we aren't together. Right now I see it as the worst thing ever and it makes me really sad. Plus my mental health is getting worser as the days go by. At this moment I can't see that many positive things about life, but I'm sure that one day I'll look back at this moment and see only the good things. To everyone who's reading this, listen to this video and make good memories while you still can. Y'all and I can make this, we will survive this pandemic, we will live beautiful lifes and look back at these moments and see how good they were in a way. If your mental health is bad, I know you'll make it, it will all get better, I believe in you. Stay strong and have fun
This is EXACTLY the problem. Sometimes I wish I was some other animal that couldn’t conceptualize my future and didn’t exist with the gnawing dread that things just get worse.
The last time that I felt the true aspects of living was summer ‘16. Young, still in high school. All the friends, all the laughter, all the crazy things we did, driving into the sunset insulting each other’s poorly conditioned cars. Sadly those days will never come back.
I’m 16. I took LSD a few months ago. Scariest moment of my life, but the one biggest thing it taught me is that life is short. Everything single thing needs to be enjoyed in the moment. If we don’t enjoy what we do In our moment everything we do means so little. All we see is the negative when there is so much positive around us. I look back at younger grades and see how good they have it. But you never know until it’s too late. So enjoy every moment you have with your family. We have it a lot better than we think we do.
nikola 1809 you cant really describe it, you have to experience it, but don’t do it also 😂, it might be a very bad trip for you. My friend quit alcohol, weed, and cigarettes, becoming completely sober right away after he tried LSD. So there’s that, some horrifying trip he went through.
I feel like nobody understands me. I have never had a best friend nor a proper girlfriend. Of course, I have a good amount of friends but none come to mind as a best friend or a number one person I can always rely on. It’s honestly the loneliest thing in the world, having nobody who understands or connects you, compared to having just no friends.
I am in my late 40’s now and it’s one of the most painful life lessons. I think we are souls walking our own chosen paths and we need to learn detachment from putting our worth on others, meaning, we have to find our own worth and strength. We are just passing through. Hang in there kid, living will make you stronger.
When I finally found that one person, I married her. 23 years later the feelings are still the same. This comes with a price, though. I remember just a couple of weeks after we got married, I found a stupid little book called, ´´Taxi cab wisdom.´´ It is one of those books that you flip open to any page and there is some small bit of advice in it. It said this: On Marriage - You are going to bury this person. I am no stranger to death. A very good friend of ours for over 20 years died yesterday. She was in her early 40´s. I had another good long time friend die last week. He was 51. It has been a shitty year but if my wife goes before me, I will be crushed. If I go before her, she will also be absolutely destroyed. Best die together somehow; God willing. My kids will be really fucked up over it (they are all grown) but I would choose that over the former. Sorry kids.
This reminds me of the famous saying " The grass is always greener in somebody else's lake"- Moral of the story: Enjoy and live every moment you can! its short life folks !
Yuvtube Vids yes but in the grand scheme of things it’s quite short. Also time passes quicker the older you get as time is a subjective experience, it’s man made
@@flew6641 I wouldn´t say time is man made, in this 4D reality we live in it´s quite real...but it passes quicker the older you get, because when you are 70, then 1 year is just 1/70 of your whole life... compared to when you are 5 years old, then 1 year is a fifth of your whole life, so it feels much longer.
You are living in the “good times”. The good moments, the bad, you’ll look back fondly where ever you find yourself. Even if it was a year ago, 2 years, 5 years etc. Enjoy your little moments in your little part of the world, you make it that little bit brighter.
I love how the message here isn't necessarily framed as "if we don't change our perception of the present and the past our whole lives will feel wasted", as so often happens with these /carpe diem/ type of videos, but rather, something more like "we have a tendency to view the past through rose tinted glasses and maybe that's okay, but we could still try and use that knowledge to tweak our perception a little so we can better enjoy the present." In the end, imho, nostalgia is somewhat inherent to the human condition. Love it!
I've been going through the same feeling for a long time, it was due to a girl, my ex girlfriend, since she left I've been in this endless pit of thoughts that life will never be same without her and this constant feeling of emptiness until last month, I finally gathered the courage not to move on but to work on myself, it just suddenly hit me that it's a good thing that life will never be same without her, I found myself, I've became the man I never was. In the big run, it's a good thing that life always change, it never stays the same, you constantly grow, no matter what the circumstances may be, all you have to do is to keep going ahead, life changes, everything falls in place, you find inner peace once you tackle the feeling that nothing stays the same, no matter what. It always gets better.
I hate myself. I'm only 14, and I still get this feeling all the time, thinking about elementry, and middle school, and how hard it will be in high school, and how easy I had it back then while not even realizing it. I'll think the same thing about this in a decade, and that in another decade, ect. ect.. In the grand scheme of things it's pointless, and all you do by romanticizing your youth, is destroying your future. Thank you for your thought provoking videos, I honestly believe you and your team should be writing books. Your philosophy for life and the universe as a whole is something all people need to consider.
It gets better. Wisdom gained from experience and growing up provides a comfort in mastering life. You will feel more gratitude for your loved ones and what you have, all without trying...but sometimes you have to remind yourself. I wouldn't have believed me at 14, so you'll just have to trust the process. ❤
When i was younger I felt like i was so much older and more mature than everyone else but now that I all my friends are growing up i feel like a child (even though I don't act like one) and like I am a new person who doesn't understand. It seems like just yesterday 2020 began and yet it's april
Mate to me 2019 feels like a lifetime ago and we're only 3 and a bit months into 2020 as you say. But the future seems so near. Crazy how our brain's perceive time.
I didn't know someone could verbalize the feelings I couldn't describe. Sometimes we just forget we are all lost somehow, the others just pretend(better than us) they are not
Wow. This video is so helpful. But even after watching many like it, I still struggle to really appreciate the moment. It’s like I have no choice in the matter. Sometimes I’m happy and sometimes I’m not. It’s all a cycle and nothing ever ends. I’m only 16 now. I really hope that if I keep trying I will get better at seeing the rose in the moment. Those other colours are very strong and intrusive :(
My childhood sucked. I was a loner who was bullied constantly and dealt with immense amounts of social anxiety, and I damn near flunked out of school because of it. There's nothing positive to look back on. I'm in my mid-20s now and I wish I could stay this age forever.
I often think about my childhood. I miss being young, and living life without worries and responsibility, however, there are also things to look forward to in the future. We are inevitably growing, so we should embrace it. Growth is an essential part of life, we must not fantasize about our past, but instead, be excited for our future.
im only 13 and 8th grade has been really difficult for me for reasons like me self-harming and my family moving half way across the country and like that, my depression has been getting a lot worse. This made me realize that although its bad now, i cant be complaining because there are so many things that will happen in high school that will make it even worse. From one problem to the next, this made me realize i have to be grateful for what i have now, even if its not as much as i think it is
Everytime I look at myself I think this exactly same thing "I miss when I was younger, i wish i could go back in that time" but at the same time i know I'm going to regret thinking it, because when i really look into my life I realize I have a good life, but nothing is never enough and so, I know someday I'll regret that I complain so much, but if I stay the way it is I'll never be satisfied It's a weird balance
@@johna5484 Hi. So I just read your reply and I am in a very bad place right now. So I read ur reply and I just got the feeling that I should tell you that who ever you are where ever you are, it's okay. I understand. It's going to be okay
I'm currently 39, and I frequently recall a particular day when I was 24 years old. I was hanging out with a group of friends at one of said friends house they were renting at the time (guys I still talk to but don't really see all that often these days). It was a Sunday afternoon, and we were all just sitting there at the front of the house having a laugh, when suddenly, I had a moment of thought. I remember thinking to myself "Remember this moment. You are going to look back on this with very fond memories." As if I knew how fleeting those good times were. I have always been someone who has dealt with anxiety and an inability to fully live in the moment. So maybe I was just being anxious. But I often recall that day. And in a weird way, it helps me to appreciate where I'm at in my current life, even when there is so much uncertainty.
This reminds me of a song lyrics: "When we were livin' in squalor, wasn't it heaven? Back when we used to get on it four out of seven Now even though that was a time I hated from day one Eventually terrible memories turn into great ones." Tame impala - lost in yesterday So basically even though a certain situation at a certain time seems terrible, over time with the arrise of new problems the old ones fade away and we think back longingly to the old times. It takes a certain degree of self-consiousness to realize the small good things in everyday life and not just long for something else. Great video!
i hate the present, i hate how the world is today, of course there were some bad things in the past, but it’s a fact that i’ve been a happier person, i had many friends, i used to be positive, friendly, happy. now i am neither of those things. i barely go out, i only have one “friend” who is not even a friend, but i have no one else so that’s why i talk to them, my parents used to be livelier, just like me. now some of my family has health problems, some are dead, those who were close to me are not close now at all. i didn’t have to care about my future, my job, if i will make enough money to live or not. many times i’ve been thinking about ending it all. when i was a kid, sui*ide was something that i would never think about. i only cared about how long will i hang out with my friends, how long will it take for dinner to get ready, what am i gonna wear for school tomorrow. many people that i knew very well, probably don’t even know that i am still alive. i hate the present, i don’t want to know what will happen in the future. i am 18.
May the family members who passed rest in peace, they're in a better place now, watching over you as guardian angels, smiling down on you, so always remember to smile back, much love and support and I hope things get better for you soon 🙏🏻💞♥️
I used to feel like this all the time... Growing up was too overwhelming and it seemed like everyone got it all fegured out , except for my pathetic self. I used to day dream about going back to the less stressful days and bask in the bliss of youth But that was unrealistic and far from becoming true, so instead I learned to just breathe , to live it day by day and enjoy the little things...... Because at the end of the day we are all going to die and nothing matters
What ever you say life would never be as good as when i was a child. not responsible, not a care in the world. I recognized this when i was still a child and just wished i wont grow up.
I struggled terribly in school. When I think now about that part of my life, I feel almost nauseated. Maybe a silver lining to that is that I am very glad I'm no longer in that environment. When I was 19, I had an experience...you might call it a near death or out of body experience. For just a few seconds, let's just say I was in another mode of existence, one that made me re-frame all that had come before, and long to return there ever since. And for decades after, I had a very difficult time being happy in the moment, because I desperately wanted to return to what, to me, felt like my real home. So, what was a beautiful and profound experience for me, actually ended up casting a shadow over my life for many years. Now...well, I am not yet old, but I am no longer young. I wouldn't say I've "cracked the code" or anything, but I will say that I am in a better place in life than I have ever been. I feel like I've gotten back something that I had when I was just a young boy, but lost along the way- contentment that doesn't sour into complacency, hope that doesn't metastasize into want. And peace with possibilities. As the years tick inexorably by, you watch one unknown after another become fixed, calcified reality. After high school, you could go in any number of directions, but soon you have to choose only one, and say no to every other thing you might have done instead. You date people, but then you get married. You could move around and live anywhere, but eventually you end up somewhere, and living in one place. I may travel again as a lifestyle some day, but at this point in my journey, I know that some of my grand dreams will never be realized. But I'm okay with that now in a way I hadn't been for most of my life. For most of my life, I thought adventure and discovery were "out there" far beyond the horizon somewhere. But I was ignoring my own proverbial back yard. I missed so much of that elusive possibility in my own life only because...I guess I don't know why. Just like I don't know why I feel equanimity and bliss now. Maybe it's just because I am older now. And I am truly satisfied in life. Anyway thanks.
Just like the comment I've posted. Since I didn't have a memorable past, everything just gets better from here onwards. If it doesn't get better, then we will do our best to make it better :)
Sincerely hope everyone is doing as well as they can during this time. All the best.
Thank you for another astounding video.
Stay inside and safe please. Everyone!!
These videos r chill but real with how things r I like them a lot thx for another good video
Thank you admin, I always looking forward to watch your new videos
I love how lazy people got because of the epidemic, youtube is blowing up right now.
Right on. You as well.
“Romanticizing your youth is sabotaging your growth”
True!! Cant go back to the past so reminiscent on it is a waste of time..
I feel personally attacked 😂
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Jax Teller wow this hit me hard, i always come back to nothing matters in the end. you know, the stress of name brands,even like how we hate being embarrassed one day there will be one last time you feel each emotion.
Stop attacking me
I’m 73 and this is the best time of my life. I learned to appreciate the present.
Thank you Gerald ♥️
you're living a beautiful life man
It seems like, in my mind, I'm everywhere but the present. Thanks for your knowledge.
Cool
That's awesome!
This reminds of me of a pooh quote, something like " We were just having fun, we didn't knew we were making memories".
“Made memories we knew would never fade”- avicii
"We were just having fun, we didn't knew we were making kids"
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@@erm12302 true
What are those a single day here and there. But when you can you must make those memories or it was not life in the literal sense.
Moral of the story: Appreciate every moment you have, cause once it’s gone, it’s never coming back.
duh
Like the second you have read this comment, boom! It's gone.. oh that's gone too, and there it's gone again. Remember when you weren't done reading this comment yet? Yep, good times..
Yes, but no.
Always thinking like that might put you in a state where you constantly fear of missing out (FOMO) if you don't do ALL the stuff, meet ALL the people and attend ALL the parties.
I've been there for a while until I learned how to just do less of the stuff I don't really need/want/like to do. Which btw. really helps staying sane in this pandemic.
@@Knokkelman yes
yeah, but u gotta enjoy life as it comes as well
i hate whenever youre doing something with friends and you realize that one day youll never have fun like this again and when you get home youll be bored and sad.
thats me now :(. the year after highschool, when everyone was still connected, best year of my life. Every weekend id connect with people. now i sleep and lay in my depression :)
I don’t think ur having fun if u are thinking about that
I was at a birthday of one of my friends(before the pandemic) and from 3pm to 4am we smoked weed, drank, went out to do stupid shit at the park and when I was falling asleep I just thought how good I had it now and tommorow I will have to deal with school and routines and from then I kinda don't wanna waste my time anymore I know imma get old and forgotten so I will have my fun until I can
You'll be too busy doing other things that make you happy if you choose to find them rather than spending all your time wishing you had old things that made you happy back.
@@avery.s7681 When it gets better, you better appreciate it, so the same doesnt happen to you what happened in the video.
"Nostalgia is a dirty liar that insists things were better than they seemed."
Fax. The sooner you realize this the better life will be
Indeed
I have a lot of nostalgia for the 80s, and 90s, and especially strong nostalgia for the late 80s and early 90s. I had some of the best times of my life in t shirt those days, but I also suffered a lot of heartache, was very insecure, lacked insight, had never heard of Mindfulness. I lived with depression, anxiety and an undiagnosed personality disorder in my youth that I received bo treatment for until I went away to college, and sought out that help on my own, because my parents didn't really believe in therapy, the sort of mental illness I lived with. My folks seemed to just think that I needed to pull myself up from my proverbial bootstraps, and that I wasn't trying hard enough, or that l would do better next time.
I wouldn't mind getting in a time machine, but only if I get to be a young person with my fifty year old knowledge, and wisdom that I have now from life experience, and years of therapy.
Lol I love what you said
Because of the current situation. You stuck in a time machine called old memories.
"Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced. "---Soren Kierkegaard
Lets go Danmark
Whatever I've experienced so far sucks...
Life is not meant to be understood
Life is meant to be lived
- dont know who said that
Hindus and Buddhists have been saying this for thousands of years
kinda ironic her last name looks like kindergarten
This is called survivorship bias.
We only look at the winners, the victories, the good times, the good feelings, and all the best memories from the past.
We completely ignore all the losers, the losses, the stress, the pain, the failures, and all the bad memories from the past.
This is why we always say things like "Songs were so good back in the day" or "They don't make movies like that anymore" or "childhood was the best time of my life",
we completely forget the fact that even back in the day, there were shitty songs, shitty movies, and shitty times of our lives.
Our brain is never happy with what it has in the present, it always hopes and dreams of a perfect future, while nostalgically remembering only the best times of the past.
Your brain is always trying to trick you into feeling good so you get the little dopamine kick, which is the pleasure chemical of the brain.
Stop living in the past and future, they don't exist, the only thing that exists is the present, enjoy the present, savor it, and be grateful for what you have, and try to be kind to others.
Sunny shah thank you
#salute💪
AMEN AMEN AMEN 💓 HALLELUJAH 💓
Now that I’ve read this I thought about it an yeah that’s what happens with me never thought of that thank you
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"Nostalgia is a file that removes the rough edges from the good old days."
Very well put!
Yea
So true
Pursuit of Wonder: "A young girl named Sarah-"
Me: *breaks down in tears immediately*
Drama queen.
haha very funny
@@hoosfoosfull simp
hahaha, love this comment :D
That's pathetic
When I was a kid, I remember asking an old bed-ridden gentleman in a nursing home, “does dying hurt?”
“No, living hurts more than dying. When you’re my age, you’ll understand why.”
Gianni Claud sounds like a nice guy
Jack da Fox he was so gentle and kind. It was weird how I suddenly remembered him after watching this. Made me think about how nostalgia can actually be more painful than pleasant, in essence.
Whoever made this video, thank you for allowing me to actually get what that old man was trying to tell me without saying much.
That makes me feel emotions I cant explain
I mean he hasn’t died yet
Elizabeth Pavelka go away
Its almost scary how relatable this is. The older we get, the more nostalgia we have. Its both beautiful and awful.
It kinda creates a good and needful balance
“anybody miss quarantine yet?”
- me, after an exhausting day of work, to my colleagues, 2021
Yeah, I think that sentiment will become common place, right after, "man, I can't believe I'm saying it, but it feels good to be back at work."
hahahaa i thought about this
Wow I never thought about it like that😂
Aaron thank you for your service man, especially with the packaging you guys literally keep the everything going, along with the long hours. You’re the epitome of online shopping, and I hope you can catch a break during these tough times.
I'm at the 20 somethings stage, and this hit so hard.
Me too bro
Same here man. I'm 25 and even experience this feeling from time to time.
13 here
20 something people never know how easy they have it
It's very difficult to appreciate something when you don't know what it's like not to have it. Youth is a prime example.
“As soon as you’re born you start dying, so you might as well have a good time”
I know it’s never going to get better than it was before, but you have no choice in the matter
This really is profound
A lot of the times, it does get better than how it was before.
@@gunnasintern I’ve never understood people who say that schooldays are the best days of your life. Since leaving school, life has generally got so much better. There have been some desperately miserable times, of course, but in the round, being 30 was acres better than being 12.
JE Hoyes i agree. i’m still young as i’m only turning 22 this year and 30 is still a young age as well, being out of school these past 4 years was a lot better than being in it. sure i recovered from 2-3 year depressive relapse last year, but it was still worth it as i have more/better life experience and don’t have to worry about being involved in the education system. getting older year by year is amazing, has definitely helped me embrace and enjoy life once again
“When we were born we were all diagnosed with the same disease: death” - Yes theory
Moral of the Story: *”You don’t realize how good you have it until you don’t have it anymore”*
Only miss the sun when it starts to snow..
Rebecca. Only know you love her when you let her go...
That's the opposite of the moral as that was the mindset that caused Sarah to suffer throughout her life. The moral is to appreciate your life at every stage. You will constantly receive new joys and struggles as quickly as you lose old joys and struggles. You'd never choose to be a kid with no independence or income if you could be a working adult with those things, and you would never choose to be a working adult under constant pressure and with no free time if you could be retired with a ton of free time to spend with your grandkids, but you'd never choose to be a decrepit and directionless retiree if you could choose to welcome death with no regrets where you, again, have an equal level of joys and struggles. Every part is good and every part is bad, but it's a little better if you look forward to new joys and the passage of current struggles rather than backward to old joys and the ignorance of current struggles.
Kristoffer Sparegodt and you let her go.
thankyou, *n word with a rocket launcher*
You will get nostalgia and longing for old times all throughout life, I used to miss memories from 10 years ago, then realised i miss times from 4-5 years ago, and its got to the point where I even miss how things were a few months ago, I realised it's part of life and mainly due to your mind blocking out the bad memories of that time, creating the illusion that the present is dull and not as exciting. You feel like you took the past for granted, but in a years time, you'll realise that you took now for granted. It really is true when people say live in the moment, otherwise you will waste your life chasing the past.
Mmm
Exactly.
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Idk why I do this
I completely understand this fact for 100%
Still I get bothered by my past and sit here thinking about why I keep on bouncing back.
@@ActiveEC-dn5wr if you want to keep making memories, keep doing new things and listen to new music, if you keep trying to re create the past it will only de-satisfy you more as you realise it's just not the same
"I wish there was a way to know you were in the good old days before you’ve actually left them.” - Andy Bernard
Colby Johnson Nard Dogg*
I feel like most people don't cherish the good moments enough this is why alot of people reminisce on the past. Humans are such self-destructive creatures we ruin perfect things that we need and never truly appreciate the simple things that impact us or the small acts of kindness that made us feel like there is hope in humanity. We need to cherish every good moment and learn from the bad ones and teach the generation after us how to do better and be better this is evolution. This is necessary.
I cried when I saw the last episode . That line was so good and I can feel like he really meant that line.
I was waiting to see this comment lol
But honestly, ARE you all unable to feel that?? Come one, you must have had at least moments in your life, where you stopped and thought", "Wow, this is incredible!". Could be just sitting on a on a bench, acknowledging the school you're at, the people you're surrounded with (even if they do look down on you), walking hand in hand with your first boyfriend etc. pp., your first real paycheck, being at a concert, when some song, or a movie scene, a buliding, or a piece of art suddenly hits you, or the plain bad, we do not have to feel good all the time - Robbie Williams said it all, really, just feel!
If you are 35 or younger and watching this, celebrate your youth, for the years will start to move quickly very soon. I still can't believe I'm already 50.
Lmao guys are balding at 25yo. It's game over man
Oh thanks, but I'm 21 and already missing out on life, worrying about how things could have been and also feeling old.
@@cupcakee22 I'm 19 and I feel the same way you feel. I probably should take my own advice here when I say that we are still young and have so much life ahead of us, I would not worry about how things could have been or will be as we cannot go back in time to change certain things.. although I would love to turn back time and do so. What we can change is our outcomes in the future, the years ahead. That's all that will matter 20+ years from now. :)
@@OutlawInsanity I am 13 , I am enjoying life .
And you have 50 more to go!! Go, and go enjoy some things you never got to.
i am 22, and I have romanticized since I was 14. Every year, I regret every single decision that I have made in the past. Hoping to go back to the past and undo what I have done. But watching this video made me think how foolish it is to keep missing the past that will never come and not taking my preset for granted. I will keep coming back to this video whenever I miss my past.
just a reminder for you to keep coming back
Same story here...
I hear that! Same here!
I'm now 39 and it's becoming boring. I need a new mode
Bish you are 22!!! Go out and have fun!
Finally someone who doesn't look good times of past but looks at bad times of past.
Glad to know I'm not alone.
*10,000 years went by. Sarah was 10,084 years old.*
She reminisced about the good old days eating jello and playing bingo at the retirement home, as she watched the naive young humanoid species never realizing how good they have it.
"kids these days don't know how it's like to be stuck in one planet for your whole life. You gen double Zs can't appreciate anything."
Funny comment. Thanks Ray. I laughed.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@vova8042 agreed. i belly chuckled then accidently ran downstairs and slipped, making me spiral into my laboratory with highly toxic chemicals, and that led me to accidentally kicking a glass bottle with hydroflouric acid which flew into my mouth, help im dyinge
My cat is biting me halp
10:50 "As if she were in a movie, or a story or something"
Boy, wait until she finds out
The nostalgia,
At 89 years old, Sarah realised she didn't exist, and everything she thought had happened to her wasn't real, just imagined by a content creator. She wondered why she wasted her fictional life ruminating on the past, never able to appreciate being in the fictional moment.
who gonna tell her
This made me cry. It taught me as well. Thank you.
"What a wonderful life I've had! I only wish I'd realized it sooner."
The lesson here is that humans evolved to be continuously dissatisfied with their current state of life. It is sad but true.
'Devolved'
@@bird3938 stfu
@@bird3938 lol, same
@@bird3938 i think you missed the point of the video
This is assuming ancient humans didn't wish there was a place they could go to pick out whatever they wanted to eat at any time effortlessly and bring it home to cook.
I caught myself doing this a lot lately, and then I stumbled on a phrase that I really love that helps me to appreciate the present moment and not get so stuck in the past that I end up ignoring the present. It goes something like this: "Today is always the greatest day, because you are the wisest you have ever been, and the youngest you will ever be again".
Great quote! Thank you for sharing. :)
_A young girl named Nicole, is getting ready for another existencial crisis that is threatening to attack her._
You got this Nicole!
she certainly is 😅😂
same
Watching this being called sarah is truly amazing
Ya'll are killin it with these comments.
Just wanted to share my little secret, I'm afraid of the pandemic ending and getting back to life, I love the break and the fact that it's just letting me relax, even though im still a student and i dont have that much stress, I feel way better just being by myself, with my own thoughts, Wi-Fi, and no "Good" or "Bad" people to worry about, no waking up at 6am, no crazy daily routines that get me nowhere, and even though there might not be the school friends, the gym, or the other fun times, just being, being by myself and doing nothing much and knowing that thats okay, is so, freeing
gets tiring after awhile tho trust me
I wish i could feel this way too... with the extra time .. Ppl are expecting me to do extra work... Im too tired to gather any energy to do it ... So im havin a weird time panicking and numbin my brain to continue on... But its whatever ig ...this is just me venting a bit btw
i don’t really like it, I’m stuck in a house with my parents that don’t love me, (mentally abusive/manipulative). and not having much to do or worry about or not having school or something to distract myself has caused a lot of depressive thoughts to come, my mental health has been rapidly declining because i can’t see my friends who help with my mental health. it’s gotten me to be able to isolate myself, which is a horrible thing for someone with depression.
Maybe think of rural living? Of course it has its problems like ie. keeping animals or harvesting (and having a knowledge of such) and not that much of an income, but definitely takes out the problem of meeting to many people and being busy with "business stuff".
Yeah!! I have a lot more time to focus on myself(: I dont have a ton of work (my school only assigns a small project or two every week) so I'm trying to study another language and have also been keeping myself busy with drawing, gaming, indoor workouts, singing, and just chilling with my family at home, even texting online/school friends every now and then. It rarely gets boring for me.. just the thought of having to "get back to life" makes me feel uneasy end even frustrated because everything was so overwhelming. But again, I wish this pandemic could calm down and we couldve already gained control of it.. there would be so much more to do too..
Sarah: Gets mad at boyfriend for drinking.
Also Sarah: Gets unreasonably hammered by herself and has an existential crisis.
Dead Below Zer0 It was also because her boyfriend was an ass when he drank. Besides, her views on drinking probably changed as she aged.
That's me unfortunately
Moral of the story, Sarah gets wine drunk
**and was an asshole when he did
I want to cry. I already romanticize the past and worry about the future, and I’m only 15. Remind me to come back to this in a few years.
I did the same at your age, I'm 21 now and I romanticise the time when I was 15.
“I am only alive right now”
Trust me, life gets a lot easier as you age, people always say that life was better when they were younger because they dont actually remember what it was like to be your age. People just like to complain about the shit theyre going through in the present because thats all they really know, you only remember good things because there is no reason to remember bad things.
Omg exactly :(
Lol I’m 17 and I want to be 15 again. When I was 15 I wanted to be 12
Im 18 and the thought of growing up scares the shit out of me, ik i have it so good right now but don't know what to do during this time.
im 18 too and im scared of growing up too ive been scared for such a long time i dont want to live like this anymore and want to enjoy my life now
Grow a pair dude it’s just gonna get worse
@ that last guy....NO, f that!! That is terrible advice. Just because it got worse for you dude doesn’t mean we’re all doomed. To you 18 year olds who want to “start living life” guess what? you already are. Seize the day and make it your personal responsibility to live an extraordinary life, if that’s what you want (whatever that means for you) There is no right or wrong way to exist, just possibilities and your willingness or unwillingness to do something about it. Breathe y’all, it’ll be okay!!
Give yourself the opportunity to be. Be spontanious, be brave, be yourself. Make mistakes. Make successes. Sometimes you can only see in retrospective which one was which. Life is not easy and will never be, but that doesn't mean that you always have to take it the hard way. Give yourself the chance to live, learn, hate and love. Sometimes things seem minor in the present but can change who you are in the future.
One additional advice I would like to give you is: Don't chicken out if you see an opportunity in something and don't hold on to things where you don't. Take actions you can be proud of. The things you do define who you are. And the things you don't do are mostly the things you will regret in the future.
I'm not much older than you (21), but I feel like my life is over already. I'm trying to learn how to be naiv and childish again to gain back what I lost: Enyoing to be and living for the moment. Don't be afraid of growing up, be arfaid of losing yourself in the process.
I feel the same way and I'm 28 my friend
4 years in the future, I'll visit this video again.
Ciao
Tried this is another video and 50 others joined. 4 years later i cant find the comment anymore. Rip
Hello my future 21year old self
I hope you're doing good.
If youre not. You will in the future :)
Alternatively, you guys can just write, in a journal and revisit it. I've been doing so, since mid 2014. at age 20. It really does keep perspective, my reflex thinking about 2014, was that it was fun and i had alot less pressure etc.
But if i revisit a journal entry, it shows how i went through shit, and had issues in certain parts of my life. There is no "better" because your subjective perception changes, so I could say 1 year is better than the other, but seeing it from a different perspective changes all that... for the most part.
@@Dmoskians what im doing is i write down my thoughts every beginning of the month. So in 1 year you have 12 journal entries. Through this you can really see the changes you are going through, its sick.
"I wish there was a way to know you're in 'the good old days' before you've actually left them." -Andy Bernard, The Office
There is.....
Right now might just be part of your good days ,no telling how much worse it will get. Live for the now .
@@patriciacarr5019 💯 that's why I said "there is" 🤗 the good times are right now.
The trick is realizing that each day is the good ol' days..
I was about to comment that but you did it for me
“No-one has ever properly understood me, I have never fully understood anyone; and no-one understands anyone else.” Goethe as he laid on his death bed.
"to be understood is to be leveled down,
And to be grasped is but to reach one’s fullness
And like a ripe fruit to fall and be consumed."
-Kahlil Gibran
“The past is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why we call it the present.” - Master Oogway
i have that written in my 5th grade notebook somewhere
Finally some good fucking food
he was a real one
Ramon Doromal When a movie character has better philosophies than you
Ramon Doromal one of my all time favorite quotes
The only good thing about having had a shitty childhood is that I never once have desired to relive those years. I am just grateful of being healthy both phisically and mentally right now and I try as much as I can to live fully the present.
Whatever happens happens for the good
@@everythingthatswithinflows1655 Thanks for the kind words. If I can just say one thing in reply of what you said, it would be that in the little time that I've been on this planet (I'm 26 right now) I've understood two things: 1. Never judge a book by its cover (I used to show happiness on the outside while being miserable on the inside, and I was pretty good at it) 2. Happiness is not something that you have to wait for something to happen, to experience it. It is mostly a choice; and you can decide to find happiness in the little things even when everithing that's happening to you tells you that you should be miserable. And for when you just feel like shit and nothing can change that, remember that every emotional state is temporary and it will pass and that our brain is not programmed to make us feel happy all the time, otherwise we would have been extinct long ago. ok those were more than 2 things sorry ahahah
Have you ever believed that maybe you had a bad childhood because you were and are still lying to yourself and only see the negative things but not the positive ones like Sarah did?
@@Kowzyh The fact that I say that my childhood was bad is due to different traumas and situations that made me depressed for a long period of time.
Sure if I had to relive those moments with the experience that I have right now my all prospective on what is happening would be different. But I was a child and I didn't know better.
In this way you're right, I was only seeing the bad, cause the bad was overwhelming for my age. And I can't erase my memories or make my past self change his prospective. I worked to accept my past and moved on.
Nicola Zoboli I’m the same but all fucked up
She thought back to how exciting it was to be in the face of the unknown
everything in her life now was mostly figured out
and now she longed to be back when nothing was figured out and everything was still possible ...
That's beautiful
That’s because things turned out fine, for her case. She was lucky so what she had was the confidence that things will turn out fine again if she get thrown back into the unknown. Unfortunately that’s not necessarily true for many people.
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“In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on.”
― Robert Frost
Each stage of her life she didn't enjoy so sad just kept waiting on better things and life passed by and didn't realize how good each stage was....,
Man, you are everywhere..
The show must go on.
Honestly, this video just makes me terrified of getting older.
That's what the life is about, you give up control and live things as they come your way, accept while being a spectator.
Dude same cause dementia runs in the family, and boy is that shit scary
Wow, you missed the entire point of this video 😊 All there ever is, is now...
@@goldrushpro Yeah. My life fucking sucks. How is that supposed to make me happy?
@@stevenson68478 I like to take an active role in my life.
This is scaring me, I am 12 and I don't wanna sabotage my youth and I don't want to waste my life doing my job
Dont overthink! Just enjoy your time w friends
You should be enjoying life at your age 😂 don’t watch vids like this
@@ATX-js1to im 27, should i worry? XD
I'm also 12 and for a 12 year old my life is honestly shit. I don't know if my mom even knows she's verbally abusing me, getting bullied at a young age (6), hating myself for as long as I remember, having depression at a young age to the point I dont know who I am without it, parents divorce, my dad not being emotionally present in my life, grades, how I look, how I act, how I talk, having abandonment issues, being sleep deprived for 5 months straight, cutting problems, worrying about the future to much, college, a job, a family, etc. I don't even want to imagine what the follow years would be in my life.
@@vyn6649 hey if you need I'm here for you ): a couple years or so ago I was 12 too and I was a tough time. I'm here if you need comfort or advice
i know it’s just a story, but if you’re a stressed out anxious person new york is the last thing you need
I clicked immediately. Scared, and without knowing what will be about.
BUT you truly knew you wont be disappointed.
r/pursuitofwonder
@@arian7565 Indeed. What amazing content in this channel. This is what the Internet was made for.
I always feel that way before clicking on pursuitofwonder's videos
Scared? Jeez
I've been romanticizing the past since i was 7. I'm now 13, almost 14. my cousin, who is *6* has told me that she also does. I can't stop doing it. I wish I was younger, and would imagine how I would be. Then it hit me one day, I realized that I would be thinking the same exact thing. Either in the future, or past. I am still the same person, but....different. I have more experience compared to my 7 year old self. it's too bad that we never know what we have till its gone, forever. I know that I didn't cherish and appreciate the things in my past, but I am trying my best now. Give yourself time, it isn't easy to just do something like that.
my advise to u is have fun always tell your mom you love her and dont let the small things get you down im almost 40 and not a day goes by i dont miss my mom and stay close with any siblings and friends whoare there for the long haul as not many are to be honest and when u do eventually procreate and experience the unconditional love give them all u can i get so depressed when i think about how fast timw keeps going by i wish i could pause life just to catch my breath
@@hollynn2001 Ok, THAT is some SERIOUSLY good advice. To anyone of any age. Thank you.
Bruh i wish i was 14
@@andreasvestergaard5982 Just take the video's advice, and then flip it around.
@@llamathenerd1672 elaborate im confused:)
This reminds me of an excerpt from by Schopenhauer’s essays:
“The scenes of our life are like pictures in rough mosaic, which have no effect at close quarters, but must be looked at from a distance in order to discern their beauty. So that to obtain something we have desired is to find out that it is worthless; we are always living in expectation of better things, while, at the same time, we often repent and long for things that belong to the past. We accept the present as something that is only temporary, and regard it only as a means to accomplish our aim. So that most people will find if they look back when their life is at an end, that they have lived their lifelong ad interim, and they will be surprised to find that something they allowed to pass by unnoticed and unenjoyed was just their life-that is to say, it was the very thing in the expectation of which they lived.”
Oh my god this quote
"I'm 14 and this is deep"
Nah just playin
I personally enjoy longing for the old days and the feeling of nostalgia and bliss that comes with it. I don’t look back at my past self and scoff at how easy life was and wish I was there, I guess it is more like reminiscing. Living in the present is important but sometimes it is so calming for me to just reminisce
melancholy is a beautiful thing :)
Whenever I start thinking about how I miss the past, I have to remind myself about the bad things happening at the time too. It's not that things are great now or were better before- things are usually a struggle all the time. I guess i just have to learn how to appreciate and celebrate getting through the struggles as they come.
It's crazy how obvious this theme of life is, and despite being told that we should appreciate the moment, and we know that to be a deep truth, we always forget to do that after a while; being caught up in the midst of life.
I came here looking for answers I only got more despair.
Answers to what?
@@33_sorin what's the point? (Of life on earth)
I hear ya... I just watch this movie get worse and worse.
Search the message behind it brother.
..it’s something between;
-Don’t wait to be a damn dying-old-man to appreciate your present-and -just f* it and quit, life doesn’t get better anyway-.
I came here to find people who are in the same despair as me.
My grandparents both died last year... I loved them more than anyone else and it's so hard for me to accept their deaths...
i wish i could tell u it gets better easier maybe never better
You'll see them again soon :)
Same, my grandparents basically raised me... The death of my grandpa left a hole that nothing can replace and it's been 6 years.
one of mine died in 2018 only 4 days after meh 11th birthday. was so fucking hard to accept teh death
Hehehe I’m your 69th like
This is honestly the most pure comment section I’ve ever read. I’ve learned so much and now have a new outlook on life. We spend so much time looking at the past that we forget how much we have in the present. The only time I will ever reflect on my past throughly is when I’m laying on my death bed. If I still can remember my past of course.
In 10 minutes I turn 22. I just finished college a few weeks ago, and I'm riding out the pandemic in my childhood home with my family. Hopefully I'll be able to go back to Chicago to start my job in June. I hope I don't get laid off. I hope I'm safe.
I really enjoyed this video. I wish I could capture the essence of life into a bottle and drink it all at once. I wish I could simultaneously hold the perspectives from all times of my life unfiltered by shifting memories. I wish that I could enjoy life's beauty forever. But even experiencing life for a moment is a gift I never earned and could never repay. Perhaps I should just be at peace with today, take a deep breath, and relish in the rose colored moments, just as this video describes. I'm fortunate to have had the life I've had so far, despite the many inner struggles I've faced. I hope I continue to know how fortunate I am for my life tomorrow, whatever tomorrow brings.
This is a nice comment
When a generic quote gets more likes then this is when I realize that UA-cam’s comment system is a joke.
The truth of the matter is, we are ALWAYS in the best of times, and worst of times. Things have never been better, and they have never been worse, simultaneously. That's how I've come to see the present, anyway.
"Moods paint over the experience of reality. " This hit hard.
Ok I wasn’t ready to be personally attacked like this when I clicked on the video
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"You never know how precious a moment is until you remember it at worst times of your life"
-me
"I love how everyone in the comments is a psychologist or philosopher." -Nobody.
As soon as you ask how, you're a philosopher. When you ask why, it's psychology. With an open mind, we're friends.
My god you're a genius! I believe you have enlightened us all to a new genre of "peaples!"
Behold the "Psycholosopher!"
I’m about to finish my major in psychology with my minor in philosophy, I think I’m your worst nightmare
@@gen-x-zeke8446 well said sir.
@@souranis That's not true. It takes intellect, creativity, study, and consistent contemplation to be a philosopher. It's a difficult discipline. There are many people who can't be philosophers even if they wanted to because it's not an easy thing that requires talent, interest, and practice. Unless of course you mean a person is a philosopher so long as they ruminates upon their ideas, what they read, and also watches UA-cam videos on philosophy, but doesn't contribute anything to the discipline of philosophy like Nietzsche or Sarte, nor has a degree in philosophy, then sure, any 3 year old who thinks about, 'why is the sky blue?' is a philosopher.
Many people don't have the personality, intellect, or discipline to think rigorously which excludes many from philosophy. Since, anyone means every person, then someone with down syndrome could be a philosopher? Because that's a case your statement allows. And don't say I'm being nitpicky, anal, too technical, or I should know what you meant, unless of course you're not a philosopher and thus don't care, because again, most people aren't philosophers and don't understand what philosophy is. Socrates spent more hours thinking and debating than most people spend at their jobs. Nietzsche had a doctorate degree at the age 24, David Hume was in university by the age of 12 or 14, most people couldn't read the entire work of A Treatise of Human Nature, nor understand it without help or tutoring, let alone write something comparable to it without a lot study and practice. I'm not sure what you think being a philosopher is, but it's not something all people can be even if they really want to or just put their minds to it.
This actually brought a tear to my eye. What an incredibly enlightening experience it is to watch your videos. I'm ever so grateful to be alive in a time where I can simply turn on my laptop and be captivated by such incredible wisdom.
Danny Right 😂❗️✨
@Jhon Krasnovskiy You okay buddy? :(
@Jhon Krasnovskiy I feel sorry for you
Jhon Krasnovskiy can you point us in the right direction for better videos?
I'm 15 and I'm really scared of growing up and dieing one day... I always cry and get overwhelmed when I think about it. Yesterday I lost a friend group that I loved and I really wanted to stay with them longer. They loved me and I loved them; I still love them tho even we aren't together. Right now I see it as the worst thing ever and it makes me really sad. Plus my mental health is getting worser as the days go by. At this moment I can't see that many positive things about life, but I'm sure that one day I'll look back at this moment and see only the good things.
To everyone who's reading this, listen to this video and make good memories while you still can. Y'all and I can make this, we will survive this pandemic, we will live beautiful lifes and look back at these moments and see how good they were in a way.
If your mental health is bad, I know you'll make it, it will all get better, I believe in you.
Stay strong and have fun
Moral of the story: It gets worse.
Luca Silencer lmfao
I dunno,but when I read this comment I suddenly laughed,maybe because this just suddenly popped out of all this serious/great qoutes and philosophies.
This is EXACTLY the problem. Sometimes I wish I was some other animal that couldn’t conceptualize my future and didn’t exist with the gnawing dread that things just get worse.
@@AxeKick80 Reminds me of the John Denver song, "Sweet Surrender."
Damn this video nearly made me cry because i never had them goodtimes
Its kind of funny, how we were given everything when we were younger just to realize how difficult things actually get when we are adults.
The last time that I felt the true aspects of living was summer ‘16. Young, still in high school. All the friends, all the laughter, all the crazy things we did, driving into the sunset insulting each other’s poorly conditioned cars. Sadly those days will never come back.
Still u don't get it
@@samuelabraham8636 Proper spelling counts. Get that
I’m 16. I took LSD a few months ago. Scariest moment of my life, but the one biggest thing it taught me is that life is short. Everything single thing needs to be enjoyed in the moment. If we don’t enjoy what we do In our moment everything we do means so little. All we see is the negative when there is so much positive around us. I look back at younger grades and see how good they have it. But you never know until it’s too late. So enjoy every moment you have with your family. We have it a lot better than we think we do.
How did taking LSD teach you that life is short?
nikola 1809 you cant really describe it, you have to experience it, but don’t do it also 😂, it might be a very bad trip for you. My friend quit alcohol, weed, and cigarettes, becoming completely sober right away after he tried LSD. So there’s that, some horrifying trip he went through.
Sarit Hiranyaphinant sounds like he had a very enlightening trip even if it was challenging
Woah I wanna try it too but then I'm scared
@@SONALI_V I was too, it's actually not scary at all really you just get a new way to see life for a few hours.
this video makes me so anxious because it feels like it resembles my life and thoughts so much. and that's so scary
It resembles a lot of us.
It's built in our brain to feel this.
name one horrible memory from 2016, can you?
My nan died recently. She exemplified the idea of "see life for no less or more than it is". She died happy. She lived happy.
I feel like nobody understands me. I have never had a best friend nor a proper girlfriend. Of course, I have a good amount of friends but none come to mind as a best friend or a number one person I can always rely on.
It’s honestly the loneliest thing in the world, having nobody who understands or connects you, compared to having just no friends.
I am in my late 40’s now and it’s one of the most painful life lessons. I think we are souls walking our own chosen paths and we need to learn detachment from putting our worth on others, meaning, we have to find our own worth and strength. We are just passing through. Hang in there kid, living will make you stronger.
Bunny A, bro don’t post this serious shit with that acc tho
Ify
@@civilizedgangster8024 they are talking about their life experiences and how lonely they are, and you make fun of a name?
When I finally found that one person, I married her. 23 years later the feelings are still the same. This comes with a price, though. I remember just a couple of weeks after we got married, I found a stupid little book called, ´´Taxi cab wisdom.´´ It is one of those books that you flip open to any page and there is some small bit of advice in it.
It said this: On Marriage - You are going to bury this person.
I am no stranger to death. A very good friend of ours for over 20 years died yesterday. She was in her early 40´s. I had another good long time friend die last week. He was 51. It has been a shitty year but if my wife goes before me, I will be crushed. If I go before her, she will also be absolutely destroyed. Best die together somehow; God willing. My kids will be really fucked up over it (they are all grown) but I would choose that over the former.
Sorry kids.
It’s impossible for me to watch one of these videos and not think “dang”
Every time I need guidance I come here. And cry. And then I have a different perspective on life.
This reminds me of the famous saying " The grass is always greener in somebody else's lake"- Moral of the story: Enjoy and live every moment you can! its short life folks !
Yuki:technically life is the longest thing you experience So
Yuvtube Vids yes but in the grand scheme of things it’s quite short. Also time passes quicker the older you get as time is a subjective experience, it’s man made
Primoral only if your have fun time will pass by fast but if your not enjoying your time it can be really fast
@@flew6641 I wouldn´t say time is man made, in this 4D reality we live in it´s quite real...but it passes quicker the older you get, because when you are 70, then 1 year is just 1/70 of your whole life... compared to when you are 5 years old, then 1 year is a fifth of your whole life, so it feels much longer.
The moral of the story is: Move to somebody else's lake.
Enjoy your life
Man after watching ur videos , I end up thinking about my life for hours.
Yep, me too.😬
Life’s pointless. Do drugs.
I just turned 30 and I’m so glad I have this video to look back on. I’ll treasure it forever.
Ayyy... this is the quarantine content I need right here.
"Live in the moment"
Stoic philosophy.
Wish I could actually apply that thought process
You are living in the “good times”. The good moments, the bad, you’ll look back fondly where ever you find yourself. Even if it was a year ago, 2 years, 5 years etc. Enjoy your little moments in your little part of the world, you make it that little bit brighter.
No im not. I have always hated my life and there are no good moments. I doubt ill live long enough to think about it anyways
I love how the message here isn't necessarily framed as "if we don't change our perception of the present and the past our whole lives will feel wasted", as so often happens with these /carpe diem/ type of videos, but rather, something more like "we have a tendency to view the past through rose tinted glasses and maybe that's okay, but we could still try and use that knowledge to tweak our perception a little so we can better enjoy the present." In the end, imho, nostalgia is somewhat inherent to the human condition. Love it!
I've been going through the same feeling for a long time, it was due to a girl, my ex girlfriend, since she left I've been in this endless pit of thoughts that life will never be same without her and this constant feeling of emptiness until last month, I finally gathered the courage not to move on but to work on myself, it just suddenly hit me that it's a good thing that life will never be same without her, I found myself, I've became the man I never was. In the big run, it's a good thing that life always change, it never stays the same, you constantly grow, no matter what the circumstances may be, all you have to do is to keep going ahead, life changes, everything falls in place, you find inner peace once you tackle the feeling that nothing stays the same, no matter what. It always gets better.
Good for you, bud ;)
Rubal Tomar 💔 I needed this
Congrats, brother!
@@isacar5487 Thanks mate.
@@jackcomet222 Got you homie
I hate myself. I'm only 14, and I still get this feeling all the time, thinking about elementry, and middle school, and how hard it will be in high school, and how easy I had it back then while not even realizing it. I'll think the same thing about this in a decade, and that in another decade, ect. ect.. In the grand scheme of things it's pointless, and all you do by romanticizing your youth, is destroying your future.
Thank you for your thought provoking videos, I honestly believe you and your team should be writing books. Your philosophy for life and the universe as a whole is something all people need to consider.
You gonna grow into an even more beautiful person 🌟
It gets better. Wisdom gained from experience and growing up provides a comfort in mastering life. You will feel more gratitude for your loved ones and what you have, all without trying...but sometimes you have to remind yourself. I wouldn't have believed me at 14, so you'll just have to trust the process. ❤
These kinda videos really sobers me up and gives me chills
When i was younger I felt like i was so much older and more mature than everyone else but now that I all my friends are growing up i feel like a child (even though I don't act like one) and like I am a new person who doesn't understand. It seems like just yesterday 2020 began and yet it's april
Yeah I feel like a child too seeing people my age have it their way already, as I deal with this adorable baby, and stay a shut in. This must end.
Mate to me 2019 feels like a lifetime ago and we're only 3 and a bit months into 2020 as you say. But the future seems so near. Crazy how our brain's perceive time.
Good, first steps at removing ego
this is exactly how i feel too!
I didn't know someone could verbalize the feelings I couldn't describe. Sometimes we just forget we are all lost somehow, the others just pretend(better than us) they are not
Wow. This video is so helpful. But even after watching many like it, I still struggle to really appreciate the moment. It’s like I have no choice in the matter.
Sometimes I’m happy and sometimes I’m not. It’s all a cycle and nothing ever ends. I’m only 16 now. I really hope that if I keep trying I will get better at seeing the rose in the moment. Those other colours are very strong and intrusive :(
If there's an oscar for youtube videos. You my friend surely would have won. You make me feel so good and sorted. Thanks for existing pal.
”When we look at someone with rose-coloured glasses, we don’t see the red flags” - Bojack Horseman
i don't think that really relates here either
@@morgue1484 right
Someone, something, sometime, it is the same principle. We create in our mind what we want to see.
That was totally in different context, And does not relate here...
My childhood sucked. I was a loner who was bullied constantly and dealt with immense amounts of social anxiety, and I damn near flunked out of school because of it. There's nothing positive to look back on. I'm in my mid-20s now and I wish I could stay this age forever.
I often think about my childhood. I miss being young, and living life without worries and responsibility, however, there are also things to look forward to in the future. We are inevitably growing, so we should embrace it. Growth is an essential part of life, we must not fantasize about our past, but instead, be excited for our future.
Rather than just being excited about the future, we should also savour every moment in the present.
im only 13 and 8th grade has been really difficult for me for reasons like me self-harming and my family moving half way across the country and like that, my depression has been getting a lot worse. This made me realize that although its bad now, i cant be complaining because there are so many things that will happen in high school that will make it even worse. From one problem to the next, this made me realize i have to be grateful for what i have now, even if its not as much as i think it is
Everytime I look at myself I think this exactly same thing "I miss when I was younger, i wish i could go back in that time" but at the same time i know I'm going to regret thinking it, because when i really look into my life I realize I have a good life, but nothing is never enough and so, I know someday I'll regret that I complain so much, but if I stay the way it is I'll never be satisfied
It's a weird balance
Is it me or that I am afraid that "now" is fleeting. Soon everything will end and then life will be sad.
Have you ever listened to Alan Watts? I think he has a few decent opinions about that.
life is, has been and will be beautiful.
Life is suffering and meaning is the antidote. Jordan Peterson is a gem
Life is suffering. The end. There is nothing more except to realize that.
@@johna5484 Hi. So I just read your reply and I am in a very bad place right now. So I read ur reply and I just got the feeling that I should tell you that who ever you are where ever you are, it's okay. I understand. It's going to be okay
I'm currently 39, and I frequently recall a particular day when I was 24 years old. I was hanging out with a group of friends at one of said friends house they were renting at the time (guys I still talk to but don't really see all that often these days). It was a Sunday afternoon, and we were all just sitting there at the front of the house having a laugh, when suddenly, I had a moment of thought. I remember thinking to myself "Remember this moment. You are going to look back on this with very fond memories." As if I knew how fleeting those good times were.
I have always been someone who has dealt with anxiety and an inability to fully live in the moment. So maybe I was just being anxious. But I often recall that day. And in a weird way, it helps me to appreciate where I'm at in my current life, even when there is so much uncertainty.
"Life is a hopeless downward spiral that only ends when we die"
I’m hoping to witness cataclysm in my lifetime or the next 10-20 years from now so that gives me a reason to live.
This new comment section layout makes me long for the good days of the old comment section
And 10 years into the future we’ll think...man that comment section sucked, didn’t it? 🤣🤣🤣
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Thank you Sarah for shining a light on being present.
I'm not crying, you're crying.
Moral of the story: You can never trust your future self to see how you truly experienced the past without all the nostalgia.
This reminds me of a song lyrics:
"When we were livin' in squalor, wasn't it heaven?
Back when we used to get on it four out of seven
Now even though that was a time I hated from day one
Eventually terrible memories turn into great ones."
Tame impala - lost in yesterday
So basically even though a certain situation at a certain time seems terrible, over time with the arrise of new problems the old ones fade away and we think back longingly to the old times. It takes a certain degree of self-consiousness to realize the small good things in everyday life and not just long for something else.
Great video!
i hate the present, i hate how the world is today, of course there were some bad things in the past, but it’s a fact that i’ve been a happier person, i had many friends, i used to be positive, friendly, happy. now i am neither of those things. i barely go out, i only have one “friend” who is not even a friend, but i have no one else so that’s why i talk to them, my parents used to be livelier, just like me. now some of my family has health problems, some are dead, those who were close to me are not close now at all. i didn’t have to care about my future, my job, if i will make enough money to live or not. many times i’ve been thinking about ending it all. when i was a kid, sui*ide was something that i would never think about. i only cared about how long will i hang out with my friends, how long will it take for dinner to get ready, what am i gonna wear for school tomorrow. many people that i knew very well, probably don’t even know that i am still alive. i hate the present, i don’t want to know what will happen in the future. i am 18.
May the family members who passed rest in peace, they're in a better place now, watching over you as guardian angels, smiling down on you, so always remember to smile back, much love and support and I hope things get better for you soon 🙏🏻💞♥️
@@Sophie-gn8jw thank you 🤍
"I wish there was a way to know you're in the good old days before you've actually left them" - Andrew Bernard
>Leave the city
>Buy land
>Build a small house
>grow a garden and have animals
>Live simple
You forgot the money...
The dream, but yeah, money
I need money
@@heekyungkim8147 pretty sure theres a log cabin building tutorial somewhere on youtube
I prefer living in the city
I'm 24 right now and listening to her story is like a mirror to how I feel about my life and the past
I used to feel like this all the time... Growing up was too overwhelming and it seemed like everyone got it all fegured out , except for my pathetic self.
I used to day dream about going back to the less stressful days and bask in the bliss of youth
But that was unrealistic and far from becoming true, so instead I learned to just breathe , to live it day by day and enjoy the little things...... Because at the end of the day we are all going to die and nothing matters
The present matters. You are here now, and this matters.
"And felt aimless and incapable of finding success"
Hit right in the feels
What ever you say life would never be as good as when i was a child. not responsible, not a care in the world. I recognized this when i was still a child and just wished i wont grow up.
I struggled terribly in school. When I think now about that part of my life, I feel almost nauseated. Maybe a silver lining to that is that I am very glad I'm no longer in that environment.
When I was 19, I had an experience...you might call it a near death or out of body experience. For just a few seconds, let's just say I was in another mode of existence, one that made me re-frame all that had come before, and long to return there ever since. And for decades after, I had a very difficult time being happy in the moment, because I desperately wanted to return to what, to me, felt like my real home. So, what was a beautiful and profound experience for me, actually ended up casting a shadow over my life for many years.
Now...well, I am not yet old, but I am no longer young. I wouldn't say I've "cracked the code" or anything, but I will say that I am in a better place in life than I have ever been. I feel like I've gotten back something that I had when I was just a young boy, but lost along the way- contentment that doesn't sour into complacency, hope that doesn't metastasize into want. And peace with possibilities. As the years tick inexorably by, you watch one unknown after another become fixed, calcified reality. After high school, you could go in any number of directions, but soon you have to choose only one, and say no to every other thing you might have done instead. You date people, but then you get married. You could move around and live anywhere, but eventually you end up somewhere, and living in one place.
I may travel again as a lifestyle some day, but at this point in my journey, I know that some of my grand dreams will never be realized. But I'm okay with that now in a way I hadn't been for most of my life. For most of my life, I thought adventure and discovery were "out there" far beyond the horizon somewhere. But I was ignoring my own proverbial back yard. I missed so much of that elusive possibility in my own life only because...I guess I don't know why. Just like I don't know why I feel equanimity and bliss now. Maybe it's just because I am older now. And I am truly satisfied in life. Anyway thanks.
Just like the comment I've posted. Since I didn't have a memorable past, everything just gets better from here onwards. If it doesn't get better, then we will do our best to make it better :)