Regarding abuse and/or victim blaming, I would like to add Richard Siken's response to one of his readers. "My suffering isn't beautiful. - But your survival is." The pain you were caused is not something you have to be grateful for, still living despite it is what you should be proud of.
Im going through a rough patch with my parents and have been feeling SOOOO reactive. I found this video from "how to detach and be untriggered" and in both you hit the nail on the head. Thanks for giving helpful step by steps and showing the video about radical responsibility. You helped ground me!
I quite literally found this video the SAME WAY and for the same issues with my mom/her husband and a close friend I'm feeling confusion around. I hope things are getting better for you cause it's ROUGH!❤
I was abused as a child and one thing I have never done is become a victim. I'm a survivor and it has made me a person who is compassionate, and strong. If I can get through that I will get through anything. I've had so much trauma over and over and I look at it as a way to learn. I don't blame anyone I thank God for having them in my life even for a short time. I get EXACTLY WHAT you are saying. I'm 51 years old now and I'm seeing things more and more clearer. Taking responsibility for things makes you feel good. Even things that aren't your faulty but you try to change things that happen that are not good that Haber happened NEAR you but not to you makes you feel like you're helping someone become happy. Not sure if that makes sense but I hope it does. Thank you for talking about this. If only everyone lived by this, we would have a better world.
Girl, I absolutely love your content your knowledge and wisdom and your sense of humor is just chefs kiss. I’m a 44-year-old woman that is in recovery 10+ years and I am just now starting to unpack and work on my trauma and so your videos are right on time. And they are divinely designed. I pray that you have abundant blessings and divine protection. Thank you so much for what you do boo. XOXO.
I was abused by a friend for years, and i think that radical responsibility in this subject has helped me heal. I can see in what lead me to end in the power of my abuser and how to avoid it. I learn to see signs, when to communicate when something hurt me, set boundaries, and choose better relantionships moving foward. And also spot when people around are or can fall into a toxic relationship with someone. As you said "being pro active instead of reactive". I have found control over it thanks to that
After i finished highschool (not knowing if u graduated yet) i found myself in a slum my attitude and emoyion was disgusting maybe bcs i start feeling anxious and victimising myself. Genuinely this channel has helped me thunj abt myself more
You’ll have 100k in no time my god ur good, I remember seeing u at 200 HUNDRED subs only a couple months back and now seeing ur videos pop up on my recommended and you having 26K????? Incredible, u deserve all ur accolades :))
this is the second video of yours im watching, and even though i was finding ways to mentally victimise myself throughout this video i ultimately agree with you. It's not about taking the blame, or taking the fall for mistakes or accidents, its about finding ways to move forward and do the best with the situation. I find myself wallowing in self pity more than I'd like to admit and I want to stop doing that. I am going to go and watch more of your videos now lol. Thank you so much for ur insight xx
this came at such a good time-just entered my 20s, and I'm figuring out how to navigate very new situations where I have less perceived control. Knowing that I can create my own sense of control, independent of the external outcomes, is so rewarding. Thank you
As someone who experienced abuse for 2 years in a toxic relationship, pulling myself out of a victim mindset and working towards radical acceptance and forgiveness of the situation has been life changing. And that would’ve sounded insane to me even 6 months ago. No, I am not responsible for what my abusive partner did. I am, however, responsible for my behaviors following the abuse. I realized I was spiraling into very dark places because I was letting myself be defined by the trauma I endured, rather than choosing to learn and grow from the experience. And when I realized that, it felt really silly. Why would I let my entire future be defined by 1 terrible person? As someone who’s been in a very tough spot and is just now on the road to true recovery, I really appreciated your takes in this video and thought they were spot on :)
WOWW!! by 2:30 into it and I'm shocked I never made this connection before! Great topic for a book hint hint 😉 ...now, I just need to figure out how to get motivated to take action. I'm feeling lazy after watching this
Currently binge watching all of your videos! Sending so much love; your ability to articulate exactly what you think is so empowering. You are a natural educator. Kudos for making some very hard truths about accountability and critical reflection so accessible to those who may not be used to hearing it!!!
I was Agatha and I really regret it. I would normally be the inquisitive type but had suffered severe burnout trying to save the account and my manager didn’t even acknowledge that I had missed mother's day to save the account. I was devastated but now I know I shouldn't have look to them for validation. I should have taken personal responsibility. The account renewed in the end but I was out... I will never be reactive again!
Waiting for taylor to take radical responsibility in her relationships instead of whining like a crybaby all the time. ETA : You have great content though
Idk why you feel so triggered by that, but her relationships and how she goes about them is none of your business. Try being so in love that you too end up getting to the stage of being a crybaby and whining about what went wrong..or not. Let's not spread hate.
I liked the idea of what you were trying to convey with not having victims not take responsibility for things out of their reach, but it felt so far out to take Taylor as a example for this and trying to connect it with someone who was abused. It just felt so out of reach and more like a pro Taylor video than anything else
Regarding abuse and/or victim blaming, I would like to add Richard Siken's response to one of his readers.
"My suffering isn't beautiful.
- But your survival is."
The pain you were caused is not something you have to be grateful for, still living despite it is what you should be proud of.
I love that! Thank you for sharing 🫶🏻
Im going through a rough patch with my parents and have been feeling SOOOO reactive. I found this video from "how to detach and be untriggered" and in both you hit the nail on the head. Thanks for giving helpful step by steps and showing the video about radical responsibility. You helped ground me!
I quite literally found this video the SAME WAY and for the same issues with my mom/her husband and a close friend I'm feeling confusion around. I hope things are getting better for you cause it's ROUGH!❤
I was abused as a child and one thing I have never done is become a victim. I'm a survivor and it has made me a person who is compassionate, and strong. If I can get through that I will get through anything. I've had so much trauma over and over and I look at it as a way to learn. I don't blame anyone I thank God for having them in my life even for a short time. I get EXACTLY WHAT you are saying. I'm 51 years old now and I'm seeing things more and more clearer. Taking responsibility for things makes you feel good. Even things that aren't your faulty but you try to change things that happen that are not good that Haber happened NEAR you but not to you makes you feel like you're helping someone become happy. Not sure if that makes sense but I hope it does. Thank you for talking about this. If only everyone lived by this, we would have a better world.
Girl, I absolutely love your content your knowledge and wisdom and your sense of humor is just chefs kiss. I’m a 44-year-old woman that is in recovery 10+ years and I am just now starting to unpack and work on my trauma and so your videos are right on time. And they are divinely designed. I pray that you have abundant blessings and divine protection. Thank you so much for what you do boo. XOXO.
That’s so kind of you to say, thank you!!
I was abused by a friend for years, and i think that radical responsibility in this subject has helped me heal. I can see in what lead me to end in the power of my abuser and how to avoid it. I learn to see signs, when to communicate when something hurt me, set boundaries, and choose better relantionships moving foward. And also spot when people around are or can fall into a toxic relationship with someone. As you said "being pro active instead of reactive". I have found control over it thanks to that
I’m struggling to forgive myself for moments in my life where I could’ve done things differently and stood up for myself or leave when I should’ve
After i finished highschool (not knowing if u graduated yet) i found myself in a slum my attitude and emoyion was disgusting maybe bcs i start feeling anxious and victimising myself. Genuinely this channel has helped me thunj abt myself more
You’ll have 100k in no time my god ur good, I remember seeing u at 200 HUNDRED subs only a couple months back and now seeing ur videos pop up on my recommended and you having 26K????? Incredible, u deserve all ur accolades :))
this is the second video of yours im watching, and even though i was finding ways to mentally victimise myself throughout this video i ultimately agree with you. It's not about taking the blame, or taking the fall for mistakes or accidents, its about finding ways to move forward and do the best with the situation. I find myself wallowing in self pity more than I'd like to admit and I want to stop doing that. I am going to go and watch more of your videos now lol. Thank you so much for ur insight xx
this came at such a good time-just entered my 20s, and I'm figuring out how to navigate very new situations where I have less perceived control. Knowing that I can create my own sense of control, independent of the external outcomes, is so rewarding. Thank you
As someone who experienced abuse for 2 years in a toxic relationship, pulling myself out of a victim mindset and working towards radical acceptance and forgiveness of the situation has been life changing. And that would’ve sounded insane to me even 6 months ago. No, I am not responsible for what my abusive partner did. I am, however, responsible for my behaviors following the abuse. I realized I was spiraling into very dark places because I was letting myself be defined by the trauma I endured, rather than choosing to learn and grow from the experience. And when I realized that, it felt really silly. Why would I let my entire future be defined by 1 terrible person? As someone who’s been in a very tough spot and is just now on the road to true recovery, I really appreciated your takes in this video and thought they were spot on :)
Your energy and the work you put into these videos is amazing. Truly inspiring content, love it
WOWW!! by 2:30 into it and I'm shocked I never made this connection before! Great topic for a book hint hint 😉 ...now, I just need to figure out how to get motivated to take action. I'm feeling lazy after watching this
I think she might be writing one actually! Also I have a video on motivation for you to check out ♥️ thanks for watching and engaging!!
i love your videos - they have helped me so much! keep it up girl
That means the world to me! Thank you!
Love your videos, binge watching them now :) Thank you!
lolll same!! and will watch again when having dips!
Commenting to support you!! Love your channel ❤
Great content. Keep it coming. I love your insight
Thank you so much! I appreciate it ♥️
this was a great video!
You make great videos. watched 3 and subbed!
Really great vid!!!
Thank you for watching!
this is a good channel. Thanks for the insight!
wow needed this, thank you
Love this gahdamn. 👏🏼♥️
Currently binge watching all of your videos!
Sending so much love; your ability to articulate exactly what you think is so empowering. You are a natural educator. Kudos for making some very hard truths about accountability and critical reflection so accessible to those who may not be used to hearing it!!!
I was Agatha and I really regret it. I would normally be the inquisitive type but had suffered severe burnout trying to save the account and my manager didn’t even acknowledge that I had missed mother's day to save the account. I was devastated but now I know I shouldn't have look to them for validation. I should have taken personal responsibility. The account renewed in the end but I was out...
I will never be reactive again!
I was an Agatha too! Learning from our mistakes.
How would you say this applies to ppl who were in situations where they didn’t know how to speak up for themselves?
Waiting for taylor to take radical responsibility in her relationships instead of whining like a crybaby all the time.
ETA : You have great content though
Idk why you feel so triggered by that, but her relationships and how she goes about them is none of your business. Try being so in love that you too end up getting to the stage of being a crybaby and whining about what went wrong..or not. Let's not spread hate.
I liked the idea of what you were trying to convey with not having victims not take responsibility for things out of their reach, but it felt so far out to take Taylor as a example for this and trying to connect it with someone who was abused. It just felt so out of reach and more like a pro Taylor video than anything else
im a lady
I watched about 5 of your videos today while walking! opens up my mind more while walking enjoying your content keep doing what your doing ! 💓💓💓💓🫂🫂
you are inspiring me and really helping me take steps into following my dreams, thank you for being a light 🕊️🤍