Really pleased to see Kernberg and other psychoanalysts doing short, condensed web presentations. Anyone trying to understand child development must appreciate how splitting works, and that it is a regular phase in childhood development that is superseded as the child becomes capable of tolerating mixed feelings towards their loved ones. As is clear, that acceptance of ambivalence doesn't always happen by any means, and we *all* retain a capacity for regressing back to these relatively primitive and simplistic ways of relating to ourselves and others. *All Of Us.* Kernberg's writings, such as Object Relations Theory and Clinical Psychoanalysis, can be dry, but the case vignettes are always good and you're provided with a way of thinking about different personality organizations that you just can't find in writings outside of psychoanalysis.
I highly recommend the book "The Whole Brain Child" - it's theoretically a parenting book, but it helped me with my own struggles more than any adult psychology book ever could.
I think this is what happened to me, traumatic past made me splitting, with many difference personalities, some of them formed as personality, that comes from defense mechanism alone.... Splittings, dissociation, and severe nightmares around my trauma, yet im still depressed, oversleep and daydreaming to escape my reality....
I would say try Neville Goddard every time I have a nightmare now I’ll wake up and try to revise it. Sometimes my nightmares are just silly people from my past or celebrity is not being nice to me like I had a dream that I was just like sitting on a bed with a bunch of people and then Tristan Tate was like eww get away from me or something and It made me really sad to be honest.Don’t ask me why I just don’t like hot boys being mean to me 😪
I really love how it seems like he said "a hippie world in which a hippie self relates to a hippie other" - it both reminded me of an ex-girlfriend through whom I discovered about NPD the hard way, and her own hippie past. Which all, come to think of it, makes me think about the whole hippie movement as a narcissistic reaction/defense against an unhappy/borderline disintegrated/fragmented world.
Probably no wonder it's german because WWII/post-WWII made a lot of BPD children. Post-War era children suffered a lot from their traumatized parents hence leading to a strong hippie/narcisstic movement
is it more like your "emotional brain" only has two very far apart poles of emotions and you are missing all the "grey" areas in between so it seems like 2 planets separated by space?
@@lorenzrosenthal119 That hasn't been my experience, but what you are describing seems to match some other peoples' experience I've talked to. I think you're on the right track for figuring yourself out!
@@erich1394 Thank you, very interesting! I'm not only figuring myself out but my bpd ex. Just because this experience was one of the most fascinating, painful ones I had in my entire life until now.
When I was a child I spent a couple of days every summer at my grandfathers house. My mother and my grandfather had quite a rocky start and they did not talk to each other for twenty years until they reconnected during the 1970s and 1980s. As a child I had no idea about this relationship history, I can only remember positive experiences, but the past years I have been discussing my issues with my mother and tried to understand the dysfunctionality in our family system over generations. What I wonder, in connection to Kernbergs reasoning, is how dysfunctional families use of strategies to "protect" the children from the truths in the dysfunctional family distorts the integration? There was nothing to complain about as a child but the narrative during my childhood was not really true.
It's interesting that people with highly individual personal histories, who do not share the specifics of that "predominance of bad experiences," nevertheless develop identifiable patterns of defensive mechanisms they share with many others.
And ironic the mental health system fails time n time again.... only to have those that survived ... labelled as the negative aspect.... the system badly needs to change.
I have struggled to understand narcissism for months, but Dr. Kernberg has summed it up nicely. Maybe a bit simplified, per him, but borderline personality structure with an added defense mechanism.
I thought I just experienced a break through in my consciousness... As if I just arrived in the world of plurality. It wasn’t until today that I really understood what it means to have an anchor, or direction for that matter. It was so vague... I did experience the inability to integrate but I thought it was because the load of my polarity wasn’t big/high enough. I thought that my ego identity finally understood it sense of power... Or is that just false hope of a borderliner? Its as if I have so many choices but I never saw or chose them... I stayed powerless... and its as if I did things but without anchor, without meaning, just an ego doing things... No goals. Nothing. Just instant shit. What is this? No coherence, no harmony. Nothing. Just battles. No choices. Nothing. The fact that I see this means I’m not stuck right?
A so called "normal " person will always be able to empathize with a BPD. We share the "fantasy" world with them. But the normal person recognizes difference between reality. A BPD lives the fantasy world as reality. Sam Vaknin helped me gain this insight
If your words express futility? and the Absurdity of soo much in Life,(?) in the post, post ... Post Truth - - -> 'Error of Trumb,' WE feel it. 💔 😭 🇺🇸 Like Trumb•olina, - the Narco-Nazi-Path's "Highway To HELL" is equal to, - and just as Death-driven* - as the RNC, the GQP and *TRAITOROUS* (R), 🇺🇸 Congress•"MEN;" who set a course *Heading* to run* Our $hip of $tate straight the HeLL o.n.t.o. the ROCK$/ REEF$, *At: "F-u-L-L- $peed, Ahead"!!* 💔🔱⌛🇺🇸💥💔😭🪂 And their 'Rt.W.A.uthoritarian' UMBRELLA, w/ their* Lowliest of the "1/ Third Percentile" of: Anarchists, INCELS, *Haters;* KKK + "W. Nationalists," and Domestic Terrorists!!!! + Other uneducables and sub-literates. And,* their *brain-damaged* FaKe, 'Christo-fascist' cohorts (per medical, SCAN Imaging)! Please, dump my old azz someplace, ANY Place $afer, Healthier AND a whole Lot more $ane & Educated than, Here!! 🇨🇦?? < 🇧🇿?🇮🇸?🇮🇪 🇳🇿🙏>
@@antonyjossewhat's this fantasy world you're referring to? I see a lot of "normal people" being religious, which for me is living in a fantasy world. Do they all have personality disorders?
I'm a lifelong sexual masochist, 58 years old, and in 2013 I went to went to the Payne Whitney Center at Weil Cornell-New York Presbyterian seeking treatment. I had an intake interview but they declined to treat me. They said it was because they didn't accept my insurance, a Medicaid HMO. So what does that say about this field of human enterprise?
I'd have to agree after the subliminal* + Conc. Attacks of "undue influence," mind control, Brainwashing ... and NLP+?? and or Hypnosis?, And, Attempts of Trumbian "Cult" Conversion,;* + 1 Year+ ++ long of Verbal++ . . . *ABU$E•s* Assaults, TriX and Technique Other Linguistical, "Ninja"* weapons. For these very Low*-end Nazi-PinKo, Narcopathic FLEAS, I'll NeeD a Lot More than just EMDR! I'm ready 4 a *SLEEP* Lab*💤 and 'RTT,' per Ph. ~ Next. After, their SEEK, Disable OR Destroy Mission!
What happens when the outside world is just as bad as you think it is? When you have healed and you have integrated yourselves? And you stop focussing on the negative, but then you find out that the world is narcissistic and filled with evil people doing evil things, it’s not paranoia anymore because it’s actually happening to everybody right now?
@@anitanash7777 there are 12.5 percent of the population who act as ‘canaries in the coal mines’ for the other 87.5 percent due to the trauma they went thru..what is the ‘spectrum’?
Dr Kernberg speaks the best English by a German, superb.more staff should learn positive attitude towards patients. Tah promor´tes healing through relaxation, safety.
Wow! After a relationship with a BP, the same problem arose in me: I cannot integrate all these intense feelings I had during the relationship. It is like an inner enigma, a riddle I need to solve in order to progress. It questions ALL my relationships to any human in my entire life. How can such strong emotions exist and we walked through paradise and hell together, split up so many times and got back together and now there is no relationship anymore although we want each other? It is unsolvable for me.
Is is possible after time spent with a person with npd, a non-narcissist suffers a split of a similar kind, albeit a temporary one, as he tries to process the discard? Would this especially be so, if this discard had been traumatic? It just felt to me like I was made to feel how the pwNPD had once felt (or continues to feel underneath the grandiose compensation... humiliated, rejected, unloved, excluded etc...) that absolute feeling of desolation that a child can experience upon feeling unloved. I could imagine the narcissist I knew once felt that hurt to such a degree that she formed the narcissistic organisation / defense. My experience was that it felt like a severe cognitive dissonance had taken root, where confusion reigned and whereby I could not integrate the two feelings of love and hate, or understand at an emotional level how the person I loved could also be the intentional cause of my hurt. Kind of like a good object / bad object split schema on a fractal pathological occurence, occuring horizontally (inter-psychically), from narcissist to me, and vertically (intra-psychically), from my past to my present? Is this just another way of saying she bumped me from the depressive position to the paranoid-schizoid position, on a temporary basis. My reasoning would then be that she was stuck in that position for so long, that her personality was built on this disordered foundation, whereas the non-narc may experience a temporary confusion, dissonance, hurt, but that healthy personality organisation and mature defense mechanisms kick in, to allow for grief, understanding, acceptance and synthesis of good and bad objects, thus giving rise to healing.
*INTELLECTUAL INTREPIDITY* *WISDOM* is the *ABILITY* to *RECOGNIZE THE TRUTH* *KNOWLEDGE* is the *STUDY* of the *MECHANICS OF THE TRUTH* *UNDERSTANDING* is *KNOWING WHEN* to *USE THE TRUTH*
I have a huge identity crisis or diffiusion all the time. To this point that i sometimes feel i'm not existing anymore. I cant find a mirror to see myself in. A person usually needs to mirror me so that i can feel a sense of self. But i live very isolated and no one is there to be a mirror for me. So than i loose all sense of identity and this is really scary. And than i dissociate. I cant find myself anymore. And i cant find my identity anymore. Super scary and weird feeling. I really dont know what to do about that.
Thank you for this; what a description of your internal state. Sounds like the 'emptiness' people sometimes describe, but maybe even deeper. Thank you for being here. Wishing you the best from afar. -P
@@BorderlinerNotes but the 'emptiness people'? I know what you meant but 'emptiness people' is not who they are. We try so hard to distance us from our ilness. Bpd is not our identity. And emptiness is not our identity. 🙏
@@seidenschnabelfederflugel5441 Hi again, oh no, that's not what I meant. I meant the 'emptiness' which people sometimes describe. I would never call someone an 'emptiness person.' I personally think every person is a beautiful world, no matter if they're currently feeling empty or lonely or meaningless or rageful inside, or whether they have a diagnosis or not. -P
Another problem is that not all those people like psychology, you know, to learn trough this lens. So, unfortunately this disorders will keep existing for some, unless we focus on the parenting and education, area that desperately need improvement.
Can one be integrated in some respect, or as a hindered quality that has stayed just a potential? Can someone unintegrated work oneself up to being integer in specific situations?
Do you not ever identify yourself as BPD that will make it way worse you need to identify yourself as like your ideal version the most loved girl you’ve always had the most supportive parents everything in your life is perfect .
Imo more about coming to terms with the nature of society, others and self - a mix of good bad, positive negative, pleasure pain, joy sorrow ... The ALL of the experience of being a human with other humans
Thank you to this channel for this very clear explanation! I can’t believe it took me years to find this🙄 Does this mean that I can further research « identity diffusion » for more info? eg; at what age of child development does this usually occur?
I think the concept is good, just explained really badly. Like the buzz words are not helping. It sounds like he's describing a complicated system which while it might be, doesn't really provide something for people to use and build off of. Basically people generalize experiences into all good or all bad to make things more manageable when the "bad" becomes too much to process. This includes themselves so rather than having an identity, they see themselves in the context of all good or all bad.
He read lots of books. Then made some generalized statements. Stop puting these psychologists on a pedestal. Did you all know, that Freud, had been debunked already?
I work with borderline patients and also grew up with a borderline sister. Kernberg paved the way for a more compassionate and nuanced understanding of borderline psychology. Freud has not been “debunked.” Some of his ideas have been discarded or reconceptualized. But Freud was ahead of his time in an era where little was understood about brain functionality. In fact, many psychodynamic ideas which originated in Freudianism and neo-Freudianism have been validated scientifically.
Really pleased to see Kernberg and other psychoanalysts doing short, condensed web presentations. Anyone trying to understand child development must appreciate how splitting works, and that it is a regular phase in childhood development that is superseded as the child becomes capable of tolerating mixed feelings towards their loved ones. As is clear, that acceptance of ambivalence doesn't always happen by any means, and we *all* retain a capacity for regressing back to these relatively primitive and simplistic ways of relating to ourselves and others. *All Of Us.* Kernberg's writings, such as Object Relations Theory and Clinical Psychoanalysis, can be dry, but the case vignettes are always good and you're provided with a way of thinking about different personality organizations that you just can't find in writings outside of psychoanalysis.
I highly recommend the book "The Whole Brain Child" - it's theoretically a parenting book, but it helped me with my own struggles more than any adult psychology book ever could.
I think this is what happened to me, traumatic past made me splitting, with many difference personalities, some of them formed as personality, that comes from defense mechanism alone....
Splittings, dissociation, and severe nightmares around my trauma, yet im still depressed, oversleep and daydreaming to escape my reality....
I would say try Neville Goddard every time I have a nightmare now I’ll wake up and try to revise it. Sometimes my nightmares are just silly people from my past or celebrity is not being nice to me like I had a dream that I was just like sitting on a bed with a bunch of people and then Tristan Tate was like eww get away from me or something and
It made me really sad to be honest.Don’t ask me why I just don’t like hot boys being mean to me 😪
I really love how it seems like he said "a hippie world in which a hippie self relates to a hippie other" - it both reminded me of an ex-girlfriend through whom I discovered about NPD the hard way, and her own hippie past. Which all, come to think of it, makes me think about the whole hippie movement as a narcissistic reaction/defense against an unhappy/borderline disintegrated/fragmented world.
German accent?
You cracked me up because I remember when we made this we chuckled at the same pronunciation. -P
Probably no wonder it's german because WWII/post-WWII made a lot of BPD children. Post-War era children suffered a lot from their traumatized parents hence leading to a strong hippie/narcisstic movement
I am tremendously glad for the opportunity to hear Dr. Otto's summaries like this.
I'm finally at the point where I'm cognitively integrating but it's frustrating how far my emotional brain is lagging behind.
is it more like your "emotional brain" only has two very far apart poles of emotions and you are missing all the "grey" areas in between so it seems like 2 planets separated by space?
@@lorenzrosenthal119 That hasn't been my experience, but what you are describing seems to match some other peoples' experience I've talked to. I think you're on the right track for figuring yourself out!
@@erich1394 Thank you, very interesting! I'm not only figuring myself out but my bpd ex. Just because this experience was one of the most fascinating, painful ones I had in my entire life until now.
@@lorenzrosenthal119 that's the spirit! good luck
@@erich1394 Thank you! To you too, brother!
This is an amazing statement. Thank you for making this available. It is very powerful
When I was a child I spent a couple of days every summer at my grandfathers house. My mother and my grandfather had quite a rocky start and they did not talk to each other for twenty years until they reconnected during the 1970s and 1980s. As a child I had no idea about this relationship history, I can only remember positive experiences, but the past years I have been discussing my issues with my mother and tried to understand the dysfunctionality in our family system over generations. What I wonder, in connection to Kernbergs reasoning, is how dysfunctional families use of strategies to "protect" the children from the truths in the dysfunctional family distorts the integration? There was nothing to complain about as a child but the narrative during my childhood was not really true.
Informative + great production quality
It's interesting that people with highly individual personal histories, who do not share the specifics of that "predominance of bad experiences," nevertheless develop identifiable patterns of defensive mechanisms they share with many others.
And ironic the mental health system fails time n time again.... only to have those that survived ... labelled as the negative aspect.... the system badly needs to change.
I love this channel; the material here is legit.
Project all bad things, projective identification, primitive denial. Magical thinking.
I have struggled to understand narcissism for months, but Dr. Kernberg has summed it up nicely. Maybe a bit simplified, per him, but borderline personality structure with an added defense mechanism.
Richard Grannon has a lot of good videos on narcissism.
@@managerialelitetoaster3456 Please don't mention that name in a thread of an Otto Kernberg video.
@@educocult Why not?
@@pineappleflow2876 It's like putting Lionel Messi next to Jack Grealish
@@educocult i think Richard Grannon has some good ideas
I thought I just experienced a break through in my consciousness... As if I just arrived in the world of plurality. It wasn’t until today that I really understood what it means to have an anchor, or direction for that matter. It was so vague... I did experience the inability to integrate but I thought it was because the load of my polarity wasn’t big/high enough. I thought that my ego identity finally understood it sense of power... Or is that just false hope of a borderliner?
Its as if I have so many choices but I never saw or chose them... I stayed powerless... and its as if I did things but without anchor, without meaning, just an ego doing things... No goals. Nothing. Just instant shit. What is this? No coherence, no harmony. Nothing. Just battles. No choices. Nothing. The fact that I see this means I’m not stuck right?
A so called "normal " person will always be able to empathize with a BPD. We share the "fantasy" world with them. But the normal person recognizes difference between reality. A BPD lives the fantasy world as reality. Sam Vaknin helped me gain this insight
If your words express futility? and the Absurdity of soo much in Life,(?) in the post, post ... Post Truth - - -> 'Error of Trumb,' WE feel it.
💔 😭 🇺🇸
Like Trumb•olina, - the Narco-Nazi-Path's "Highway To HELL" is equal to, - and just as
Death-driven* - as the RNC, the GQP and *TRAITOROUS* (R), 🇺🇸 Congress•"MEN;" who set a course *Heading* to run* Our $hip of $tate straight the HeLL o.n.t.o. the ROCK$/ REEF$, *At: "F-u-L-L- $peed, Ahead"!!*
💔🔱⌛🇺🇸💥💔😭🪂
And their 'Rt.W.A.uthoritarian' UMBRELLA, w/ their* Lowliest of the "1/ Third Percentile" of: Anarchists, INCELS, *Haters;* KKK + "W. Nationalists," and Domestic Terrorists!!!! + Other uneducables and sub-literates.
And,* their *brain-damaged* FaKe, 'Christo-fascist' cohorts (per medical, SCAN Imaging)!
Please, dump my old azz someplace, ANY Place $afer, Healthier AND a whole Lot more $ane & Educated than, Here!!
🇨🇦?? < 🇧🇿?🇮🇸?🇮🇪 🇳🇿🙏>
@@antonyjossewhat's this fantasy world you're referring to? I see a lot of "normal people" being religious, which for me is living in a fantasy world. Do they all have personality disorders?
@wrigren216I believe this. I also believe excessive competitiveness and individualism in the west is a cause for narcissism being predominant.
Brilliant, thorough, clear, helpful
LEGEND
I'm a lifelong sexual masochist, 58 years old, and in 2013 I went to went to the Payne Whitney Center at Weil Cornell-New York Presbyterian seeking treatment. I had an intake interview but they declined to treat me. They said it was because they didn't accept my insurance, a Medicaid HMO. So what does that say about this field of human enterprise?
This is me . . . and this is hard. #survivor
Conditioning creates this.
One hundred percent agreed.
I'd have to agree after the subliminal* + Conc. Attacks of "undue influence," mind control, Brainwashing ... and NLP+?? and or Hypnosis?,
And, Attempts of Trumbian "Cult" Conversion,;* + 1 Year+ ++ long of Verbal++ . . . *ABU$E•s* Assaults, TriX and Technique Other Linguistical, "Ninja"* weapons.
For these very Low*-end Nazi-PinKo, Narcopathic FLEAS, I'll NeeD a Lot More than just EMDR!
I'm ready 4 a *SLEEP* Lab*💤 and 'RTT,' per Ph. ~ Next.
After, their SEEK, Disable OR Destroy Mission!
great material ! thank you
What happens when the outside world is just as bad as you think it is? When you have healed and you have integrated yourselves? And you stop focussing on the negative, but then you find out that the world is narcissistic and filled with evil people doing evil things, it’s not paranoia anymore because it’s actually happening to everybody right now?
Thank you for articulating same observations & dilemma I find myself in 😞…May God give us strength & courage to get through each day🙏🕊️
💪❤️
@@anitanash7777 there are 12.5 percent of the population who act as ‘canaries in the coal mines’ for the other 87.5 percent due to the trauma they went thru..what is the ‘spectrum’?
True words yet believe you will find someone who believes in you❤.Still have a positive mind for yourself❤.
I thought he was saying "hippy" instead of "happy" initially, lol.
Same :D
+1
Me 2.. hippy parents are .. a “thing” though..
So did the automatic captions :D
😂
So much to bare So much Pain...
Dr Kernberg speaks the best English by a German, superb.more staff should learn positive attitude towards patients. Tah promor´tes healing through relaxation, safety.
Wow!
After a relationship with a BP, the same problem arose in me: I cannot integrate all these intense feelings I had during the relationship. It is like an inner enigma, a riddle I need to solve in order to progress. It questions ALL my relationships to any human in my entire life. How can such strong emotions exist and we walked through paradise and hell together, split up so many times and got back together and now there is no relationship anymore although we want each other?
It is unsolvable for me.
Genius! Explains it so well. I so wish my untreated ex Understood what she does to her partners.
Splitting, projektion and cognitive dissonance all working overtime in the NPD:s mind.
Is is possible after time spent with a person with npd, a non-narcissist suffers a split of a similar kind, albeit a temporary one, as he tries to process the discard? Would this especially be so, if this discard had been traumatic? It just felt to me like I was made to feel how the pwNPD had once felt (or continues to feel underneath the grandiose compensation... humiliated, rejected, unloved, excluded etc...) that absolute feeling of desolation that a child can experience upon feeling unloved. I could imagine the narcissist I knew once felt that hurt to such a degree that she formed the narcissistic organisation / defense. My experience was that it felt like a severe cognitive dissonance had taken root, where confusion reigned and whereby I could not integrate the two feelings of love and hate, or understand at an emotional level how the person I loved could also be the intentional cause of my hurt. Kind of like a good object / bad object split schema on a fractal pathological occurence, occuring horizontally (inter-psychically), from narcissist to me, and vertically (intra-psychically), from my past to my present? Is this just another way of saying she bumped me from the depressive position to the paranoid-schizoid position, on a temporary basis. My reasoning would then be that she was stuck in that position for so long, that her personality was built on this disordered foundation, whereas the non-narc may experience a temporary confusion, dissonance, hurt, but that healthy personality organisation and mature defense mechanisms kick in, to allow for grief, understanding, acceptance and synthesis of good and bad objects, thus giving rise to healing.
*INTELLECTUAL INTREPIDITY*
*WISDOM* is the *ABILITY* to *RECOGNIZE THE TRUTH*
*KNOWLEDGE* is the *STUDY* of the *MECHANICS OF THE TRUTH*
*UNDERSTANDING* is *KNOWING WHEN* to *USE THE TRUTH*
Mixed is rational but I retain hope for purity in the form of sustainable joy
I have a huge identity crisis or diffiusion all the time. To this point that i sometimes feel i'm not existing anymore. I cant find a mirror to see myself in. A person usually needs to mirror me so that i can feel a sense of self. But i live very isolated and no one is there to be a mirror for me. So than i loose all sense of identity and this is really scary. And than i dissociate. I cant find myself anymore. And i cant find my identity anymore. Super scary and weird feeling. I really dont know what to do about that.
Thank you for this; what a description of your internal state. Sounds like the 'emptiness' people sometimes describe, but maybe even deeper. Thank you for being here. Wishing you the best from afar. -P
@@BorderlinerNotes thankyou 🙏
@@BorderlinerNotes but the 'emptiness people'? I know what you meant but 'emptiness people' is not who they are. We try so hard to distance us from our ilness. Bpd is not our identity. And emptiness is not our identity. 🙏
@@seidenschnabelfederflugel5441 Hi again, oh no, that's not what I meant. I meant the 'emptiness' which people sometimes describe. I would never call someone an 'emptiness person.' I personally think every person is a beautiful world, no matter if they're currently feeling empty or lonely or meaningless or rageful inside, or whether they have a diagnosis or not. -P
@@BorderlinerNotes ah okay. I think i read that wrong. 😅
Another problem is that not all those people like psychology, you know, to learn trough this lens. So, unfortunately this disorders will keep existing for some, unless we focus on the parenting and education, area that desperately need improvement.
This man is an angle
Can one be integrated in some respect, or as a hindered quality that has stayed just a potential? Can someone unintegrated work oneself up to being integer in specific situations?
כמה זמן יש אפשרות גישה לקורס? מהרגע שאני קונה..
Black and white. More grey...
I didn't behave this way until I was betrayed.
Do you not ever identify yourself as BPD that will make it way worse you need to identify yourself as like your ideal version the most loved girl you’ve always had the most supportive parents everything in your life is perfect .
So tired of big pharma thwarting good treatment for pd's
I’m so confused
Show me one psychologist without an omniscient god complex.
So how the f@#$& do you heal from this????
Integrated? Referring to being a socially acceptable personality or being ...
Imo more about coming to terms with the nature of society, others and self - a mix of good bad, positive negative, pleasure pain, joy sorrow ... The ALL of the experience of being a human with other humans
Thank you to this channel for this very clear explanation! I can’t believe it took me years to find this🙄 Does this mean that I can further research « identity diffusion » for more info? eg; at what age of child development does this usually occur?
*PETER PAN AND DISNEY PRINCESS*
🔴🔴🔴🔴🔴🔴🔴🔴
why is he leaning 45 degrees to the left? windy in the studio?
😂
Lool
Good question.
I think he was worried about a fart
He’s old...you’ll get there. It hurts to sit on a hard chair when you’re old...your back hurts. Wait and see.
I think the concept is good, just explained really badly. Like the buzz words are not helping. It sounds like he's describing a complicated system which while it might be, doesn't really provide something for people to use and build off of.
Basically people generalize experiences into all good or all bad to make things more manageable when the "bad" becomes too much to process. This includes themselves so rather than having an identity, they see themselves in the context of all good or all bad.
Brain damage
this doctor's accent and turn of phrase is so triggering for someone with bdp
Clear as mud. 😑
I don’t think I’m smart enough to understand these videos
Avoid borderlines🚩🚩🚩
Nah. Just set boundaries and learn to maintain your own internal state.
@@muradtalukdar4401 Or live a happy and relaxed life without them
@@muradtalukdar4401 a borderliner is like 'a boy that cried -wolf!'
man tf did we do
@@muradtalukdar4401 Nah. that's only the second best option. The first best is no contact.
He read lots of books. Then made some generalized statements. Stop puting these psychologists on a pedestal. Did you all know, that Freud, had been debunked already?
I work with borderline patients and also grew up with a borderline sister. Kernberg paved the way for a more compassionate and nuanced understanding of borderline psychology. Freud has not been “debunked.” Some of his ideas have been discarded or reconceptualized. But Freud was ahead of his time in an era where little was understood about brain functionality. In fact, many psychodynamic ideas which originated in Freudianism and neo-Freudianism have been validated scientifically.