Why some good looking guys don't get the girl they want

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  • @amazondigitalnomad875
    @amazondigitalnomad875 4 роки тому +543

    So basically, a handsome guy is like a video game with great graphics but uninspiring gameplay

  • @rpgamer05x84
    @rpgamer05x84 4 роки тому +313

    1.-Feel Entitled because you are hot
    2.-Dont having game
    3.-Caring too much what others think about you
    4.-Dont take any risks

    • @katrin6388
      @katrin6388 4 роки тому +16

      the first one is the worst. its like the guy who thinks he doesnt neet to put any effort into it, girls will do all the work.

    • @Hayden-bs3oz
      @Hayden-bs3oz 4 роки тому +4

      Bingo. Shit personality and over or under inflated confidence too.

    • @katrin6388
      @katrin6388 4 роки тому +2

      @@Hayden-bs3oz it feels like fake confidence to me. sometimes i end up leveling up to their fake confidence and mirror it...and then im like, wtf is happening why am i being so douch-y

    • @hemisuperzee1287
      @hemisuperzee1287 4 роки тому +3

      @@katrin6388 There are stupid guys out their with fake confidence.....other guys notice this in just guy talk (in sales). Its like they bought their confidence online and injected it, cause its sure not them. Its funny as hell.

    • @hemisuperzee1287
      @hemisuperzee1287 4 роки тому +12

      @@katrin6388 Many people who were "made for each other" were just being themselves, minimal effort but just natural flow. What about the hot girl who answers every question with a few simple words and adds nothing to the conversation even though she was previously staring at me? It goes both ways ladies.

  • @franklavilla3385
    @franklavilla3385 4 роки тому +100

    I was one of the best looking guys in high school but the average looking guys got more action than me!!!

    • @sour3000
      @sour3000 4 роки тому +13

      Fr same!! 😂😂😂

  • @handsomeX
    @handsomeX 5 років тому +178

    I've hooked up a ton in my life, but ive been rejected a lot more. Its all a numbers game.

    • @TheSingleGuy
      @TheSingleGuy  5 років тому +31

      Yessir it is

    • @kekupchurch6236
      @kekupchurch6236 5 років тому +38

      It's a numbers game for above average looking men. For average looking men, the game is rigged.

    • @tercial
      @tercial 4 роки тому +14

      @@kekupchurch6236 average men get more women I've seen it

    • @rockhaze
      @rockhaze 3 роки тому +5

      @@kekupchurch6236 I've seen ugly guys with beautiful women. I think the psychology and presentation is probably far more valuable than looks or money. Only time your looks will kill you is if you are a disgusting slob who doesn't have good hygiene or doesn't take care of himself.

    • @oaiaferoce
      @oaiaferoce 2 роки тому

      @@kekupchurch6236 Not true! An attractive/rich/smart guy that gets with 1 in 3 women he says hi to, has less women than an average/poor/simple guy that only gets 1 in 30 women. The secret? It's not the "game", everyone who had extensive experience with women already has "game". The secret lies in the fact that the attractive guy has meaningful connections with women that love him and is thus less desperate and always sexually satisfied. Being in such a state (knowing you already have women who would do almost everything for you, knowing that sex from 3-4 women is a phone call away) is making you less eager to go and talk to a new woman. And even when you go, she can see you don't really want her or need her. Many men are "confident" with women, but for most of average dudes, "confidence" is really a sort of desperation. And even if people say women smell desperation a mile away... believe me: they can't smell all the kinds there are. And some kinds of desperation, get you laid big time, if you try enough.

  • @thecatrooms
    @thecatrooms 4 роки тому +21

    You're totally right man.. I've tried so many times to have a "mysterious" aura and it never works cuz I'm really just scared af to talk to people

  • @caveman354
    @caveman354 2 роки тому +12

    Being better looking + putting yourself out there = attraction

  • @bermei5187
    @bermei5187 4 роки тому +18

    The whole bit about not ruining the perception others have of you. I been needing to hear that for a long time. I'm a 34 year old virgin who's never even been kissed, yet you'd never assume that if you saw me. I'm deathly afraid to make mistakes because I want to keep that cool perception yet here I am 34 and have never known love.

  • @vatroslavmorbidovic4105
    @vatroslavmorbidovic4105 5 років тому +51

    Yeaa, this kinda my situation. I am a decent looking guy, tall , try to stay in shape and women who aproach me are not my type. It is frustrating...

    • @yunobog2554
      @yunobog2554 5 років тому

      What is tall?

    • @vatroslavmorbidovic4105
      @vatroslavmorbidovic4105 5 років тому

      @@yunobog2554 1.8m or more.

    • @yunobog2554
      @yunobog2554 5 років тому +1

      @@vatroslavmorbidovic4105 Okay. In 188cm but I wouldn't consider 180cm tall. Probably 186cm is a bit tall. And 190cm is tall. And 196cm is big, and 200cm+ is huge

    • @thisguy976
      @thisguy976 4 роки тому +2

      @@yunobog2554 the general rule is 183cm is considered tall or above average. I'm 190 cm so im pretty tall for example.

    • @meneliksolomon7984
      @meneliksolomon7984 3 роки тому +1

      even of you re good looking you need to build your confidence through experience, if you knw what i mean

  • @NathanOstMusic
    @NathanOstMusic 5 років тому +48

    Yup. Entitlement is repulsive to women. Confident indifference is the key

    • @Shin8bi
      @Shin8bi 4 роки тому +10

      That's why they are the most entitled ones..

    • @italianboy1316
      @italianboy1316 3 роки тому +1

      This applies to us men as well. Where majority of us men are repulsed by entitled women.

    • @heathjoints9845
      @heathjoints9845 2 роки тому

      They just want to see ugly chicks pair off no matter what.

  • @markgrant3629
    @markgrant3629 5 років тому +168

    It’’s true that attractive dudes tend to rely too much on looks with women instead of learning game. Looks can be the key into the door but that shit gets locked up quick if you don’t know how to make them feel.

    • @YellowPaint100
      @YellowPaint100 5 років тому +40

      That's because their moms & grandma's & all the girls around them talk about looks mainly. So the majority of the guys feedback is about . . . looks. He has to figure out game & other stuff to make things happen. If he fails to do that then he's also criticized & ridiculed for not knowing. Instead of informing him or giving constructive criticism, he's berated. But thank God for channels like this & ppl like him that can help a fella out!

    • @Bazonkaz
      @Bazonkaz 4 роки тому +5

      Damn this was so simple but so true

    • @hemisuperzee1287
      @hemisuperzee1287 4 роки тому +1

      @@YellowPaint100 this is true

    • @hemisuperzee1287
      @hemisuperzee1287 4 роки тому

      Speaking of "game" we've all know an average looking guy with no game, yet has a hot girl. Howd that happen?

    • @tercial
      @tercial 4 роки тому +5

      Sometimes attractive guys with personality actually still struggle for example I'm attractive with personality but still struggle lol I think I'm intimidating some of these women

  • @alehnduvas
    @alehnduvas 5 років тому +84

    Story of my life. I tend to act aloof and demand that girls prefer me without me doing anything. Usually they think I don't like them and choose an easier guy...

    • @samuelanderson9416
      @samuelanderson9416 5 років тому +19

      Alessandro Miletti that playing it too cool thing fucks me over too

    • @alehnduvas
      @alehnduvas 5 років тому +10

      @@samuelanderson9416 I think it's a little narcissistic trait. I am trying to correct it. Pick up literature, in a certain sense, encourages this trait, but I have found that people who are more generous and kind do very well, if they are attractive too...

    • @stundown
      @stundown 4 роки тому +10

      DUDE THATS MY STORY OF 23 YEARS I ALWAYS PLAY IT COOL AND REGRET WHEN THEY STOP SHOWING ATTENTION

    • @crocoboyer292
      @crocoboyer292 4 роки тому +10

      Yeah..me too.she showing all positive signs..even asking my number from her cousin..i really like her,but i play it cool..about 2 weeks later..she go for another man..
      Whatever.learn from mistakes

    • @TherealSIRenity
      @TherealSIRenity 3 роки тому +5

      I’m too intimidating apparently

  • @Ostnizdasht206
    @Ostnizdasht206 Рік тому +9

    4:41 Oof this is so true.. I thought my looks would carry me to success back in school until I got into the "adult" world and realized how wrong I was. I was very insecure but good looking growing up and I used my looks as sort of a security blanket to hide my lack of confidence and fear of socializing.

    • @dreamsss.s
      @dreamsss.s Рік тому +1

      6:21 That's the actual matter with me...I don't wanna lose mu standards.

  • @antonygonzalez1672
    @antonygonzalez1672 5 років тому +105

    I feel attacked but thank you

    • @TheSingleGuy
      @TheSingleGuy  5 років тому +113

      I protecc
      I attacc
      but most of all
      I got yo bacc

    • @RealOGMudbone
      @RealOGMudbone 3 роки тому +1

      @@TheSingleGuy you sexy beast

  • @tamasposta6178
    @tamasposta6178 4 роки тому +122

    I am actually a relatively good looking guy. Last week I talked to one girl friend and said that there are a lot of women who reject me. She looked amazed and told me that she can't imagine that any girl would reject me because I look like the ideal guy for a woman.
    I think one thing that is really frustrating for us is that our family, friends expect us to be good with women by default because of good looks. And by not meeting their expectations they are disappointed and confused about you and it also puts extra pressure on you. My family constantly asks me why I don't have a girlfriend and it's frustrating because they wouldn't understand even if I started to explain.
    So we just need to forget about the idea that it is a great advantage, shed our ego and start to get better at communication and gaming.

    • @derstapelmann6422
      @derstapelmann6422 4 роки тому +3

      @Aadem Rose I have a similar situation. My parents were shocked that I approach girls outside, who I haven't seen before. In my parents eyes I should have met my "wife" years ago when I still went with them, when they visited their friends. Maybe these friends of my parents have a daughter I find attractive (conversly the same) and the "neverending love story" starts... What has this to do with reality? Absolutely nothing... :D

    • @derstapelmann6422
      @derstapelmann6422 4 роки тому +3

      @Aadem Rose Austria - the little country in the alps. ;) No, my parents just don't want to put up with the fact that I do it that way. I can remember that my grandma said at least 15 years ago that the girls will start stalking me soon (because of my look). But I can tell you why I had appropriate troubles in school. Because I was shy. Today I say "no wonder that you got teased by the cool classmates" when I look back. :D

    • @derstapelmann6422
      @derstapelmann6422 4 роки тому

      @Aadem Rose Your airport story is funny. Do you remember how you felt right before this happened? Have you been nervous or were you feeling good and strong? I guess it was the last one because the girl has realized that as she saw you and wanted to sit next to you. Oh my god the typical situation that she doesn't want to stand in a "bad light" in front of her parents because she is flirting with men on the airport (although you didn't have any conversation)... I would say it is important that you give a woman the feeling that she is NOT a b**** when she goes to bed with you quickly. In my eyes women in Austria are fighting with this cliche more than in other countries. There are only a few confident women who are independent from this dogma. Yeah that's true and of course these girls new that they actually could have every man here in the airplane. :D

    • @justhe_vids9895
      @justhe_vids9895 2 роки тому +3

      every chick says that lol, they are about comfort, not solutions

    • @johnmarks714
      @johnmarks714 2 роки тому +1

      Hard relate

  • @elgoog-the-third
    @elgoog-the-third 5 років тому +40

    "If a girl is pursuing you, a lot of times she's below your mate value" - hey, that explains why no girl ever pursues me or comes up to me! My mate value is 0, can't go negative here!
    But yes, since the internet confirmed that I'm good looking, I'm the living example that looks are completely useless.

    • @TheSingleGuy
      @TheSingleGuy  5 років тому +4

      Don't be too hard on yourself man, I'm sure if you got out there more you would find women are pursuing you

    • @elgoog-the-third
      @elgoog-the-third 5 років тому +4

      @@TheSingleGuy I go out every weekend, and have social hobbies. Can't put myself out there much more than I already do. The last months, I had usually two free evenings in the entire week where I was at home.

    • @chrisjfox8715
      @chrisjfox8715 4 роки тому +1

      Increase your mate value.

  • @allo_es_me_sam
    @allo_es_me_sam 4 роки тому +4

    Wow, this guy is so spot on. I’ve had this same feeling and it really learns to humble you once you learn to suppress it.

  • @dylanwatson1127
    @dylanwatson1127 10 місяців тому +3

    As a really good looking guy, this actually hits home. I realise how entitled I’ve been when it comes to women, I’ve always expected them to approach me and I often get disappointed when they don’t. I don’t ever attempt to approach or even flirt, seems I’ve got a lot to learn.

    • @soccerguy5581
      @soccerguy5581 5 місяців тому

      Dude i have the exact same problem. After high school i started using the approach of let them come to you, i had so many girls stare at me excitedly but nothing happener because despite their looks... they didnt approach me. So i stayed single... because i just lookee back at them with a casual smile... and did nothing. Never saw them again either cuz these are short moments that u either capitalize on or unfortunately dont.

  • @jfresh396
    @jfresh396 4 роки тому +48

    Coming from a handsome guy: First you make the money, then when you get the Money then you get the power, when you get the power then you get the women💯💯

    • @godkingceaser7594
      @godkingceaser7594 4 роки тому +3

      Money over girls 💵💵 any day they will always be a lot of women

    • @Ant-speakingfacts
      @Ant-speakingfacts 4 роки тому +2

      Scarface lol

    • @massimiliano_mogetta_bartolini
      @massimiliano_mogetta_bartolini 4 роки тому

      Hey Tony give me back the yeyo 😛

    • @TherealSIRenity
      @TherealSIRenity 3 роки тому +2

      That’s how it’s supposed to be but there’s guys who don’t have shit and still get easily

    • @jfresh396
      @jfresh396 9 місяців тому

      ​@@TherealSIRenityyea, they can get it for a short period of time! But then when she realize you have nothing you're getting thrown to the 🗑️.

  • @michaelmota4602
    @michaelmota4602 4 роки тому +87

    There was this hot girl in highschool who told me, in regards to me, "I have never dated a guy who was more good looking than me". This girl was really blunt and always said whatever came to her mind. Never dated her though, because I was dumb and waited too long to make a move even with all her extremely obvious signs

    • @bladelazoe
      @bladelazoe 4 роки тому +17

      Many of us have been there my dude, in HS I was completely oblivious to 'sexual language' in regard to flirting, game. Even the most obvious sign went over my head too many times. When it came to social skills and game, I understood maybe less than 5% of what was going on.

  • @lac2275
    @lac2275 5 років тому +14

    This video is pure facts!

  • @karamzidan9860
    @karamzidan9860 5 років тому +13

    OMG dude this video describes me perfectly , with the entitelment and not going out and improving social skills ! or think that world give you what you want on a golden plate because of the looks , thanks brother i needed this :D

  • @KneelBeforeZod310
    @KneelBeforeZod310 5 років тому +120

    I was swiping right on tinder while listening to this. I got a bbw date tonight lol

  • @maverickbprp3123
    @maverickbprp3123 2 роки тому +3

    Agree 💯. As a AM who is in his 40's approached by 20's + (7-10 SMV - women of all races come at me) up to this day I can say what O.P. is saying is true.
    However, as a chubby/fat kid who grew into looks (told by most women on average 8-10 depending on the woman) I had to develop who I was as a child and learn how to a conversationalist, which eventually helped as my looks caught up.
    Contrary to that my best friend who was 6'3" light skin black model since we were 7 always got the ladies and had the smooth conversation styles (he's a listener) while I am a talker.
    But the one thing over time I've learned is women are 'emotional' creatures and while good looks make it easier to 'get in the door' the rest is personality, people skills and emotional I.Q., the more you can make her 'feel' attracted to you the more she will be. Women quickly get over the looks (not that they don't date based on looks) but if they can't emotionally connect then even if they have sex with you it won't be more than that as they only date STR/LTR with men that make them feel certain emotions (depends on the woman).
    I am tired of the games so stepped out of the market to focus on self-actualization but if you want women - listen, pick up non-verbal cues as what she is reacting positively to and drive conversations that direction (they love story telling - you take them on a journey mentally/emotionally when you talk about yourself and your interests they are very visual that way). Most of the words you say are lost to them it's the emotions conveyed by what/how you say it that gets them.
    Just my 2 cents from a older dawg. Cheers! Great vid btw.

  • @R2023-NV
    @R2023-NV 5 років тому +17

    Awesome video. Everything is on point. I have been with a lot of women and noticed that 80% were women who made it EXTREMELY easy for me and every point you made on this video is true. I did used to feel the fear of rejection, the feeling that I should be getting the girl instead of the other weird guys. I even at some point had the stupid idea that if a girl wanted to get with me she would initiate lol) But I’ve learned I need to keep working on myself. My game with women, was practically non existent. thanks for your videos.

    • @TheSingleGuy
      @TheSingleGuy  5 років тому +1

      Yeah its definitely a humbling experience

  • @chrisnails7506
    @chrisnails7506 4 роки тому +12

    You should switch it up and talk about how good looking men have challenges with other men outside of just women. I noticed that the more fit and better looking I became, the more guys I knew didn’t want to go hang out and shoot some pool or even play a simple game of basketball. These have to be traits of other issues that being a over average looking man has to deal with as well

  • @donnyramay2635
    @donnyramay2635 5 місяців тому +1

    Women are attracted to three things in a man. 1. Confidence or Charisma 2. How you make her feel or emotionally compelling 3. Status or being a big fish in a little pond or contextual alpha guy.

  • @williamhuertas2235
    @williamhuertas2235 2 роки тому +1

    Bro exactly, always the ones I don't want approach, but yes looks aren't everything, it's the vibe that you give off , slowly learning

  • @ziggy450
    @ziggy450 5 років тому +42

    Damn Lloyd. Tryin my life like that. This video describes me perfectly 😭

    • @TheSingleGuy
      @TheSingleGuy  5 років тому +4

      Haha. Hey man it resonated with me too.

  • @patehfoon1984
    @patehfoon1984 4 роки тому +28

    The thing is, girls don’t go for looks first. They go for confidence and a sense of security with a guy. Looks are just a bonus to them

    • @raygengamer8440
      @raygengamer8440 3 роки тому

      I seem to attract with witty sarcasm not sure but when I want to be away from everyone is when people seem to like being around me. Like when I’m super honest and don’t care. And I believe I’m good looking and I carry myself with confidence. People can sense that. It’s just I’m so shy. And now I tell everyone that. So they know who I am. Because being vulnerable is sexy. It’s very sexy

    • @wakeup6778
      @wakeup6778 3 роки тому +3

      that really depence. Every girl is different

    • @william_SMMA
      @william_SMMA 3 роки тому +5

      That's a lie though

  • @shonkysidewayssam6134
    @shonkysidewayssam6134 5 років тому +79

    Haha, you basically just described my situation. I gotta quit the booze/pot and get back out there :)

    • @TheSingleGuy
      @TheSingleGuy  5 років тому +10

      Awesome man glad it helped!

    • @tallman6932
      @tallman6932 5 років тому +2

      But you're ugly dude

    • @thomasgallegos2832
      @thomasgallegos2832 5 років тому +1

      Have her smoke too. Aphrodisiac. Alcohol is a downer for sex

    • @cptfreeman8966
      @cptfreeman8966 5 років тому +7

      Same man. The weed ESPECIALLY. I feel like when you over indulge in it, it stagnates you and forces you into a routine. For a long time I convinced myself my weed smoking wasn't a problem because I got up and went to class and work everyday

    • @tobii894
      @tobii894 4 роки тому

      Tall Man where is your picture and who hurt that little boy are my questions at that point

  • @jbarkerhill92
    @jbarkerhill92 4 роки тому +8

    Confidence and energy are equally important to looks. Romance is social so you have to have decent to good social skills.
    I’ve found nofap and sobriety help my confidence quite a bit. Not wasting away my life force on weed and porn

    • @raygengamer8440
      @raygengamer8440 3 роки тому

      Is that I feel better around women when I hold my load?

  • @damariuswingfield2144
    @damariuswingfield2144 5 років тому +29

    It's called social skills and it applies to women too.

    • @ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan
      @ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan 3 роки тому

      I have amazing social skills but with special groups , maybe not adapt to your groups . Because all experiences with your groups were bad

    • @damariuswingfield2144
      @damariuswingfield2144 3 роки тому

      @@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan Stop being a victim and rise up from your circumstances.

    • @ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan
      @ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan 3 роки тому

      @@damariuswingfield2144 Nope I am not , just have to be aware of my social circles

    • @damariuswingfield2144
      @damariuswingfield2144 3 роки тому

      @@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan Kinda of the same thing given the context lol. you'll be fine man.

  • @sosa3252
    @sosa3252 3 роки тому +10

    I know I'm a handsome guy and I also use to think I was better looking when I was younger, but I definitely have trouble meeting women, I've had plenty of hook-ups in my life but it's never really with the girl I actually want, with an exception of a couple women. Also when I was younger women weren't an issue now in my mid 20's it's getting rough.

  • @paulbulten5278
    @paulbulten5278 4 роки тому +6

    I can relate. People tell me I’m pretty good looking, but I’m just too insecure en afraid to improve my game.

  • @King-ru9ve
    @King-ru9ve 5 років тому +24

    It’s not about game bro! You’re hot she thinks you’re a player..no number. They make false assumptions of you before your even open your mouth. She could been like he’s cute but no before you even speak.Be yourself, who cares stop trying to prove yourself. Let her go to the other guys. Stop making everything about her.

    • @fireonhair
      @fireonhair 3 роки тому

      exactlyyyyyyyyy

    • @raygengamer8440
      @raygengamer8440 3 роки тому

      Yep so true. One day there all over you the next they talk to someone else. As men we have not care no not act really not care. And never text more than once. If she ain’t replied refrain please... like there is this cute girl at work who said I got so fit. I told her cause I’m nuts! And she gave me her number. I texted a few times saying it’s me. The worst thing to ever happen to you. Which she replied but after that???? No point I’ll text her again tomorrow to see if she is still down. And if not she gets zero reaction. Other than “ oh well”

  • @Warrior97489
    @Warrior97489 3 роки тому +5

    In my experience, I have realized that looks might help give you an edge but money is the most important factor.

    • @heathjoints9845
      @heathjoints9845 2 роки тому +1

      Finally someone with some sense in this comment tread.

  • @playlistiphone8743
    @playlistiphone8743 5 років тому +5

    everything he's saying here is the damn truth.
    Too many guys think that women think like them and it's not so.

  • @MadaraUchiha-ly8wr
    @MadaraUchiha-ly8wr 4 роки тому +3

    That story about the Asian guy, is UNBELIEVABLE!!!😱

    • @wildstar999
      @wildstar999 3 роки тому +1

      Yep. Seriously disappointing and racist.

  • @armandoweckmann5699
    @armandoweckmann5699 3 роки тому +7

    All my friends that were players growing up all are broke paying alimony and child support...🤦

  • @bakesabundant2028
    @bakesabundant2028 3 роки тому +9

    This is very true. I am actually a good looking guy. Tall dark hair great fitness body. The problem was that overtime I did honestly, try to get by with my looks instead of really working on my game and getting out there more and talking to women. Being completely transperent and honest, I did have that entitlment because of my good looks, and yes I do agree with the part about how its the girls we aren't interested in that approach us more, and the ones we are attracted to we very much slack on talking to and working our game. I am working on getting out there more socially. Thanks for this insight!

    • @william_SMMA
      @william_SMMA 3 роки тому

      Spot on lol
      Girls date up
      Guys date down and on their level
      A girl will almost never show big flirting signs to a guy who's not more attractive than her

  • @BestKayneUwU
    @BestKayneUwU 4 роки тому +23

    They know a good looking guy will get a lot of attention from females and they’re probably scared he will leave her for a better looking girl

  • @chadsrus4857
    @chadsrus4857 2 роки тому +2

    Geez this guy knows what he’s doing

  • @antonioangelocento9855
    @antonioangelocento9855 2 роки тому +3

    Looks are subjective ,,, and because you think you're good looking ,doesn't mean that the girl thinks you're good looking ,,,, A girl has to think your good looking and be attracted to you

  • @lasfinezt
    @lasfinezt 5 років тому +30

    Yea I’ve had to deal with this my entire life. Even when I was younger and had way less game I would go out and women would come up to me a lot just to tell me how good looking I am. Still happens a lot to this day. At work, we have a new girl that’s hot asf but shes engaged and she told other coworkers that she thought I was really cute and the best out of all the guys we have. I’ve been trying to stay humble but it’s very hard when you get so much validation. I’m not even in my best shape either, still good though but damn I still can improve. I used to think ALL women are supposed to want to sleep with me. As I got older (28 now) the harsh reality of life showed me that it did not matter how handsome I am. I still get rejected and flakes on, girls not responding. Sometimes I’ll see them choose guys that are not as good looking and it confuses me. That example about the Asian guy on the bus really hit home for me. It irks me that type of shit happens a lot. Being a good looking guy with a bad to mediocre personality is like an ugly girl with great personality. Game is truly everything to sum it up.

    • @TheSingleGuy
      @TheSingleGuy  5 років тому +8

      Exactly man. Keep at it and don't judge yourself too harshly. This stuff happens to the best of guys out there

    • @kisigma1102
      @kisigma1102 5 років тому

      Some good looking men bring the insecurity out good looking women keep it moving

    • @yasserbostan7156
      @yasserbostan7156 Рік тому

      Sure buddy. Then you woke up.

  • @jasonl5925
    @jasonl5925 5 років тому +8

    Thanks bro, that helps a lot. I was also beat by some 5’2 asian guy who isn’t even close to me. And for months I literally couldn’t figure it out.

  • @JLxavyo
    @JLxavyo 4 роки тому +30

    Damn I’m at a point where I don’t know how to describe my own looks like people say I look good but I don’t feel like it.

    • @jaytee.2471
      @jaytee.2471 4 роки тому +2

      Apocalypse Beatzz I feel u🤕

    • @chris_sndw
      @chris_sndw 4 роки тому +5

      I'm probably ugly. But I don't care how I look like. It's not important. I just want to look presentable. Means good clothes, good haircut etc...
      I mean if you just came inside a super model would still self doubt yourself and worry about how good or bad you are looking. You wouldn't give a shit about it. You would maybe even find it hilarious that there are "tough" men out there asking themselves this question.

    • @raygengamer8440
      @raygengamer8440 3 роки тому +1

      Me too. Especially since becoming fit. I get called handsome all the time now it’s kinda surreal. Also it’s a bit upsetting . I don’t even have to do much now for a female to notice me. Like take off my hoody. I feel like how a woman I guess would. Getting compliments left and right by people you don’t know. It’s nice but at the same time what am I to you just some status fuck or a notch on your belt? I mean again 9 months ago no attention. And now they won’t leave me alone. And most of them are very dull

    • @raygengamer8440
      @raygengamer8440 3 роки тому

      @@chris_sndw shit you have hair? Your a stud

    • @kenchino0161
      @kenchino0161 3 роки тому

      I’m in the same boat 🚣‍♂️... the chick was eyeing me like she wanted me for days and after i gave her my number ? She never texted me and when she sees me? She does say hello but I don’t see vibe i got at first. I won’t stress it..

  • @hamzamjidila3153
    @hamzamjidila3153 5 років тому +32

    lol you talking about me, i get numbers easy but i can’t keep the conversation going don’t know what to say 😏, but now i started learning from your channel !!

    • @TheSingleGuy
      @TheSingleGuy  5 років тому +2

      Perfect! Did you take a look at my Better Conversations playlist?

    • @hamzamjidila3153
      @hamzamjidila3153 5 років тому +1

      TheSingleGuy not yet, i just saw it now, i’ll definitely check it out!

  • @sohaibahmed226
    @sohaibahmed226 4 роки тому +5

    Honestly it’s not to much about about looks. I get complimented on looks but it really means nothing. You gotta have personality, sense of humours,work ethic, something in common with the girl, etc.

  • @fozlurrahman7052
    @fozlurrahman7052 5 років тому +10

    Shed my entitlement - quote of the day.

  • @davecore9305
    @davecore9305 4 роки тому +51

    I don't care how good your game is, if you're trying to get a highly attractive women to stay with you, it's almost impossible. Maybe in our great grandparents generation, but now with social media there are too many options out there and as soon as she gets bored or there is a little problem in the relationship, she is gone on to the next dude. Most relationships with highly attractive women are temporary.

    • @wakeup6778
      @wakeup6778 3 роки тому +12

      Thats true. It really doesnt matter anymore. We are living somehow in an end time

    • @luckygirl1561
      @luckygirl1561 3 роки тому +10

      Dude that is a weak mentality, if you look outside towards other women and never make your woman feel like she won you over. You can keep her interested only in you but that may require you not telling a woman you love that you love her.

    • @william_SMMA
      @william_SMMA 3 роки тому +3

      Weak mentality bruh
      If she looks up to you. Or you've built an attachment and you're still improving yourself without getting fat
      She'll stay with you
      Just check Ariana Grande's husband bro
      And she's just the high profile one
      So many girls wholeheartedly love their husbands who are 5s and 6s and the girls are 9s and 10s
      That emotional attachment is King

    • @jamesrick7351
      @jamesrick7351 2 роки тому +1

      this is true and these former hot girls are screwed when they turn 30 cause the guys that have options won't have interest in them

    • @heathjoints9845
      @heathjoints9845 2 роки тому

      @@william_SMMA Another game worshipping crash dummy

  • @jamesbell5226
    @jamesbell5226 4 роки тому +2

    Wow this related to me so much and explains everything what I'm doing wrong, n I'm a good looking guy n have slept with quite a few women but really have trouble in dating , and it makes it alot harder when ur a recovering addict.

  • @CopycatNinja875
    @CopycatNinja875 4 роки тому +6

    The guys who are 5's-7's are actually who are the most successful with women. Being too goodlooking can be detrimental because chicks want a guy who makes them feel desirable and comfortable which is why many handsome men struggle to get sex and dates. Generally speaking most women don't want a guy who looks better than them and it usually unattractive homely women and older females that have the courage to hook up and deal with you. Being handsome gets you a lot of stares and compliments but it rarely leads to dates and sex. Even if they make it easier for you to talk to them, chicks love to play a lot of games and hold you to higher expectations than average and ugly guys. Good looks only gets you attention and compliments, but game, sex appeal, and having a good body are the main ingredients that lead to sex and dates.

    • @JohnPierre-lz6vb
      @JohnPierre-lz6vb 3 роки тому +1

      That is a fact but i don't agree with the ugly ones. You have very beautiful women who will flirt with you too but it's rare.

    • @heathjoints9845
      @heathjoints9845 2 роки тому

      Most women you come across are mediocre to decent and deep down they know it.

  • @lucasstames5940
    @lucasstames5940 5 років тому +4

    Good shit. I see you rock climb and are around a lot of women.

  • @user-rd5nc1nb9f
    @user-rd5nc1nb9f 2 роки тому

    holy fucks shit pancake this video resonates with me so much. it feels like it just gave me the key to being a normal human beings. blessings on you and your bloodline brother

  • @raygengamer8440
    @raygengamer8440 3 роки тому +2

    Because looks ain’t everything it’s only a free ice breaker. An initiation. A temptation..... but if your a boring stone no one will stuck around

  • @rik-keymusic160
    @rik-keymusic160 4 роки тому +16

    Actually, being handsome is really a benefit brothers! You’re instinct separates the weak from the chaff! Thats a GOOD thing brothers!! If you know your above average you will have options with women who are on the same level as you! Doesn’t mean its going to be easier, nope it actually even more difficult at a certain level! What i found out is that if you deal with woman that are good looking but very insecure you beter raise your damn standards and look for someone who gives you the respect you deserve! Don’t wast your time askin questions to girls who don’t show any interest in you... there has to be a balance in attraction! If she plays hard to get thats fine for a wile but there is a point you should move on!

  • @Bhiladpy-up9uy
    @Bhiladpy-up9uy 4 роки тому

    Honestly this could be true, because it’s all about a good character. Like it’s really true, confidence.

  • @isiahmartin7108
    @isiahmartin7108 5 років тому +10

    I need this mans confidence for real

    • @TheSingleGuy
      @TheSingleGuy  5 років тому +6

      It can be developed with practice

  • @cvolrath8960
    @cvolrath8960 5 років тому +2

    This guy is a genius!!! It sucks being good looking.

    • @rizvieqt
      @rizvieqt Рік тому

      yeah because they know they have so much potential but everything goes to waste due to lack of action

  • @williammatheu686
    @williammatheu686 5 місяців тому

    Hey buddy! It's incredible how your channel took off. I remember watching some of your videos when you were starting and you had like 1000 views or less on each one. I guess they took off after the whole pandemic thing. Guys were desperate in seeking dating advice while they were being confined and that's how many other dating advice channels took off as well I guess.
    It's like, before, I didnt even know who Stephiscold was until this guy Raymond from the Living Abundance channel started taking clips from him and promoting the dude! But it is interesting to see that normal, natural guys have had more success on youtube than Pickup artists that had been in the game for longer and supposedly knew all the tricks.
    Now regular guys like you who were never part of the community have hundnreds of thousands of subscribers, even more than recognized PU coaches like Arash Dibazar. It's incredible! Anyway, cheers buddy

  • @Ejub.m
    @Ejub.m 3 роки тому +6

    Story of my life....but the girls i am not interested in go crazy after me. Because i naturally dont care about them and thats why they want me

    • @alvinsluis805
      @alvinsluis805 3 роки тому +1

      Same here i just sent them dick pics so they back off

    • @heathjoints9845
      @heathjoints9845 2 роки тому

      If I don’t want the bitch….don’t care how over the moon she is for me.

  • @xDarkryder97
    @xDarkryder97 4 роки тому +1

    You changed my mind with this video

  • @haywire5211
    @haywire5211 3 роки тому +1

    Nofap and stoicism helped me with my personal development i don't care what others think

  • @miyamotomushashi3468
    @miyamotomushashi3468 5 років тому +24

    Because handsome boy are too choosy🥳

    • @TheSingleGuy
      @TheSingleGuy  5 років тому +27

      and some are also huge pussies lol

  • @throughthestorm3852
    @throughthestorm3852 4 роки тому +5

    Bro you read me like a book. Where was UA-cam 20 yrs ago.

  • @RnBCutz
    @RnBCutz 5 років тому +16

    Sometimes women get intimidated by goodlooking guys and give them auto rejections lol. Its happened to me a few times but its cool. I have a decent level of game too. I can sense a female's level of insecurity just from talking to her. An insecure women is a major turn off for me.

  • @1loudzl1
    @1loudzl1 4 роки тому +7

    when you’re good looking girls don’t really wanna be with you ... sometimes they just wanna fw u and leave:/

    • @buincqv67
      @buincqv67 4 роки тому +4

      Just fuck and pluck . Plain and simple lifestyle it’s the norm handsome men are meant to treat woman that way and they are ok with it

    • @raygengamer8440
      @raygengamer8440 3 роки тому

      Try being white in a Vietnamese casino. Asians really do like white boys. I’ve never been called handsome so many times in a 3 month span. But it’s up to me to remain chill calm. And still I must be. Just be me.

  • @noahbayless6134
    @noahbayless6134 3 роки тому

    It relieves my stresses and worries

  • @albertoscotton4221
    @albertoscotton4221 4 роки тому

    You are FUCKING GENIOUS BRO!!! You have solved my doubts because everyone tells me I am good looking but I can't get the girl I want. Now I understand why!!

  • @bobbrett5404
    @bobbrett5404 5 років тому +26

    A friend of mine linked me this vid. Personally I’ve always thought they i had everything a girl should want (sports, decent looks etc) and i would get frustrated when a girl would deny me. Obv i would find out why and it never had to do with looks. After watching this i realized i am legit the dude u describe in ur video. the person who seems to have it all. I haven’t gone for too many girls but it’s in part the fact that i can’t find someone i like. Ur vid is helpful and i was wondering if u could talk abt ur dating experiences in highschool vs college and what u wish u could’ve done differently. Thanks!

    • @TheSingleGuy
      @TheSingleGuy  5 років тому +1

      Good idea for a video I'll get on that man

  • @superjay14
    @superjay14 5 років тому +8

    Jesus! The more I watch these videos there more I realise, I aint shit! lolololol

    • @4reinday
      @4reinday 4 роки тому

      superjay14 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @Normy2323
    @Normy2323 5 років тому +26

    Good looking guys forget to be an arsehole. That’s usually the problem.

    • @TheSingleGuy
      @TheSingleGuy  5 років тому +16

      haha being an asshole can help you in some circumstances but I would recommend being nice over a dick in 90%+ of cases

    • @thomasgallegos2832
      @thomasgallegos2832 5 років тому +7

      No just be yourself. Don't act.

    • @waytides
      @waytides 2 роки тому +2

      Being an asshole as a good looking guy is harder cause it can come off as arrogance or entitlement. It's a catch-22. What do you think?

    • @YoLoBrOtHeR
      @YoLoBrOtHeR 2 роки тому

      @@waytides yeah, 100% percent, which do you think gets more of an emotional response from women, a guy they didn’t find aesthetically pleasing at first glance being an asshole after hooking up or the dude they were thinking about messing around with off looks alone being an asshole. It almost like women react to things people do that they think they have no right doing more.

  • @Gustave28
    @Gustave28 4 роки тому +3

    I like your confidence bro ....Hopefully I can be like you one day 🙌😇🙌

  • @peterrfowler16
    @peterrfowler16 4 роки тому +2

    Just came across your channel now . You're making some fantastic material by the way .

  • @tenderhooligan7580
    @tenderhooligan7580 5 років тому +9

    Another great video and La Coste t-shirt

  • @mostafamostafa-j3p
    @mostafamostafa-j3p 4 роки тому +5

    I'll tell you some secrets that no man knows
    First of all sorry for my bad English.
    What happened in the bus between you and the girl and the asian boy is because the girl feels attracted to you
    And when the girls see attractive man they act like they don't attracted because they hate when man knows that he is attractive,
    Girls love the good looking man who doesn't know that he is a good looking.
    The point is when girls be around a good looking man they act and they try to make him feel like he is not good looking

  • @josezamora1639
    @josezamora1639 3 роки тому +2

    It’s the unnecessary attention that doesn’t allow me to be myself most of the time

  • @juggernuts1000
    @juggernuts1000 3 роки тому +2

    you just described my life. Also, it is very important to remember that each girl has her own taste. i mean, a guy can think he is good looking, and other man can tell him that, but girls can think he looks too feminine or what ever. i know many girls that prefer guys that look like some caveman, they think they are muhc hotter than the typical hot guy stereotype from the movies. girls have their fetishes. one good looking girl told me she likes guys with a big nose and it just makes her hot, like, when it comes to looks you never know whats up.

  • @cayvzcult
    @cayvzcult 5 років тому +6

    I’m a pretty good looking dude and get hardly any matches on Tinder. Maybe 4-6 a week. Been in three weeks and haven’t landed one meet up. Demoralizing. Fuck it I’m going out on Friday night.. alone cuz I have no friends because I’ve been in a translation phase in life and all my old friends are gone. Lol challenging times ahead

  • @jordanearl3313
    @jordanearl3313 3 роки тому

    bro you’re so goated

  • @MrFosterBaby
    @MrFosterBaby 5 років тому +8

    Ya Lloyd I agree you are about a 7.5 out of 100

    • @Nate360Dogg
      @Nate360Dogg 5 років тому +3

      Eric Hensdill yea if he waxed those eyebrows he’d easily be a 7.49

    • @TheSingleGuy
      @TheSingleGuy  5 років тому +15

      Shut up I'm pretty!

    • @ryanturner9979
      @ryanturner9979 4 роки тому +2

      @@TheSingleGuy pretty ugly😂😂

  • @salvadorramirez4114
    @salvadorramirez4114 Рік тому +1

    The hardest thing for me is how people use me like bait and I really just want to be alone, but get dumped on by EVERYONE for not chasing women. I'm not gay. I am picky, but just want to be single and not sleep around. I use to be a model and get called a 10 very often by men and women
    I've also noticed women get fussy and even disrespectful if you stair too much and don't make a move.

  • @massimiliano_mogetta_bartolini
    @massimiliano_mogetta_bartolini 3 роки тому +1

    Love his passion and vibe

  • @stronglikebulll398
    @stronglikebulll398 4 роки тому +1

    Ill be honest...
    Ive been told im pretty attractive....amd im not really happy with the girls ive been dating...
    So this definitely gave me some good info

  • @user-df2uu3qp3y
    @user-df2uu3qp3y Рік тому +2

    *ugly and poor= nothing.*
    *good looks and poor = one night stand*
    *ugly and rich= multiple one night stands and sugar daddies*
    *good looking and rich = the ocean is yours.*

  • @ItsRaitisLV
    @ItsRaitisLV 4 роки тому +1

    Bro your eyebrows should have their own youtube channel

  • @jadex9733
    @jadex9733 5 років тому +7

    I’m an extreamly good looking girl (srs) and your face is very handsome

    • @TheSingleGuy
      @TheSingleGuy  5 років тому +2

      why thank you. Whats srs?

    • @jadex9733
      @jadex9733 5 років тому +1

      TheSingleGuy it means seriously 😂 idk how people called you ugly. You have coloured eyes/exotic looks what’s your ethnicity?

  • @estebanfranco2012
    @estebanfranco2012 3 роки тому +4

    Honestly i stop giving fucks bout how to talk to them i just be myself and act like there are nothing. And it works

  • @beaby666
    @beaby666 4 роки тому +3

    Damn everything you said really happens to me
    Anyway thanks for the advise 👌

  • @DrDrillinator
    @DrDrillinator 5 років тому +5

    Dude, I needed this video, thanks. I feel like you described my situation here pretty well, I feel like I'm pretty good looking (hard to say if I really am but I do easily get Tinder matches, sometimes compliments irl and stuff like that so I don't think it's just my perception), however I have no game, I feel like I'm generally pretty boring and have no self confidence in my personality. I have this thought in my head that my looks should be able to carry me better but obviously they don't just as you say in the video. Maybe I'm not even as good looking as I perceive myself but it doesn't really matter.
    I've just started watching some of your videos and they do really seem pretty good and helpful. Your advice generally seems some of the best I've come across in this area. I've read some blogs and watched some videos from other "pick up artists" and some of the shit they say just makes me absolutely roll my eyes, which is not a feeling I've come across from watching about 10 of your videos so far.
    Not sure how much your advice is really going to end up changing my life, obviously going out and actually doing something is the important part but it's always also the hardest part making a change in your life. Thanks for the videos either way.

    • @TheSingleGuy
      @TheSingleGuy  5 років тому +2

      No problem man, yeah my goal for this channel was always to be someone who helped guys out but not make them weirder and more antisocial which I feel a lot of pick up guys do.
      With consistent action, my and a lot of other guys' advice will surely change your life. Having a mentor/coach also helps

  • @stevencarson7434
    @stevencarson7434 5 років тому +3

    as an extremely cute guy, i totally understand what u r talking about. by the way, i am asian.

  • @Jdog305Cubanito
    @Jdog305Cubanito 4 роки тому

    My dawg spilling the gems 💎 YESSIR‼️

  • @johnmarks714
    @johnmarks714 2 роки тому

    Hey thanks for the video. Hard relate. I get sick and tired of guys claiming that good looking guys have it easy, that chicks dont reject them. Hell, they even say that when attractive guys approach women, its never considered creepy. I hate that stupid meme too. Pure goddamn hogwash.
    I was very good looking at 21. Ppl assumed I had a woman. In reality I was lonely, depressed, socially awkward, unable to detect signs of interest and shy. There were women who I creeped out by accident. Id gotten rejected on approach.

  • @a28taste
    @a28taste 4 роки тому

    Right on man. Right on

  • @nmazer
    @nmazer 4 роки тому

    Right in the feels.

  • @KrisMcCauley
    @KrisMcCauley 5 років тому +3

    A Santa Barbara 8 😂

  • @argad3
    @argad3 3 роки тому +3

    Personally i consider just to focus in your own development, make something that you are passionate about, in my personal experience i dont have game with girls and i consider myself a really attractive guy, but i found a lot of frustration and sadness, trying to be the alpha guy that flirts and seduces women, now im just working in improving my looks but most important, improving my skills yo have a better job and in a future, having my own business, also im working on my passion just to be a DJ, if a girl likes that Will be cool but if not fuck It, maybe in a future i Will start flirting and improving that part, but know It Will bring me frustration

    • @acasiusmukandara9506
      @acasiusmukandara9506 2 роки тому

      Finally! someone with the same point of view as mine. I find girls frustrating, I ignore most of them, my goals are a priority.

  • @chrisguzman5701
    @chrisguzman5701 4 роки тому

    Good feedback! Thank you:)

  • @RealOGMudbone
    @RealOGMudbone 3 роки тому

    I think I love this man. Lol he’s helped me greatly!

  • @GulliversFlo
    @GulliversFlo 5 років тому +2

    Solid mate