What Is Narcissism? - Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Relationships
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- Опубліковано 27 сер 2024
- www.whatiscodep... - Hear this interview to understand more about narcissism, what causes narcissism, and how to deal with narcissists in business and personal relationships? By Darlene Lancer, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Santa Monica, California, and author of "Dealing with a Narcissist: 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with Difficult People."
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Yes narcissists are codependent they rely on others to reduce their self loathing and they externalize their problems ( scapegoat). Always someone elses fault whatever happened to them.
I see abandonment anxiety increase in the narcissist if one partner needs to leave on a business trip. I'm speaking as a clinician. I find they have oedipal / electra issues. Very similar ego function deficits as borderline. But each person must be assessed.
I like the interview but the difference in volume between the 2 voices is irritating
Divorced one extremely hard but had a judge that I think could see right through him TG
My partner is a narcissistic person, i am a very norturing one, and all that they say is true, the feelings of not pleasing him is very deep, cant leave cant stay. I love him and i myself dont even know why I love him so much even tho he is so mean to me and sweet to others.
Your feelings are quite common, and most partners (as I write on my website blog, www.whatiscodependency.com/blog) are torn between staying and leaving and find it hard to do either. Take steps to empower yourself with therapy and CoDA meetings and do the steps in my ebook, to change the dynamics in the relationship. See also my blogs on Medium medium.com/narcissism-and-abusive-relationships and Psychology Today: www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships
One family the mother was a vulnerable and the father a grandiose; all siblings became vulnerable narcissists show no involvement with their vulnerability. The narcissist hides from intimacy. The narcissists anger is fear. I wonder what Darlene thinks of treatment of the narcissist.
17% of patients have NPD, but treatment requires real skill and takes time and commitment. whatiscodependency.com/therapy-for-npd-and-narcissists/
I really enjoyed this interview, I am going through a spiritual growth so much of the insights I can resonate with, thanks for posting.
I have so enjoyed listening to this. I am currently involved in friendship with someone who's mask is slipping & the put downs have started & I need advice on how to leave this friendship discreetly , setting boundaries. & damage limitation as I know how she revenges
There are several blogs, articles, and more interviews on narcissism on my website, www.whatiscodependency.com and an ebook on "Dealing with a Narcissist" bit.ly/1OqJT9H
Wow!! Best authority I've listened to so far on the Narcissist/Co-dependent dynamic. The only one that acknowledges that the Co-dependent is not necessarily the "good guy" and also has narcissistic qualities. That has been my experience. Thanks for the unbiased information!
Thank you Stephanie. There truly are some malignant, even sociopathic, narcissists, but there are also those capable of love, remorse, and insight. Most bloggers only write about the former. Also overlooked are is the codependency of the narcissist. See "The Problem of Narcissists" on my website. bit.ly/2k2GXH9
Agree. I see some co-narcissism in some codependents/codependency ("I know what you need better than you do" / "I have what you need" / "you need me" /trying to "fix" mom or dad through partner), but obviously not all. I like what Pastor Tim Fletcher says about it here too in his Codependency and Complex Trauma series: ua-cam.com/video/yesXC_ibRKE/v-deo.htmlsi=SBxUpAvMHGY9Uykt
As I listened to this .. almost bearing the end .. there a miracle in one marriage but I’m been so traumatized bec of his indifference and no sense of apology and rejection, abandonment . He’s just sooo detached .. I just don’t see anymore change .. I want to leave .. is it ok to do so ?
It's rare to get an apology from a narcissist, and when you do, it doesn't mean they'll change their behavior. If you do the exercises, take the steps outlined, and use the scripts in "Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist," you'll know whether your narcissist is capable of change. You don't need permission to leave! amzn.to/3M8DjoM
Thank you very much for the interview👍i enjoyed a lot
Glad you enjoyed it!
Yeah...I knew it took years of study...well...I've been studying my husband for 22 yrs and PLEASE HELP!!!!
Find much more on narcissism and recovery on my website, www.whatiscodependency.com. Attend Coda.org meetings. Get counseling. I also offer phone coaching.
Get OUT, only way to go honestly it's soo freeing
I didn't find the conversation to be focused enough to continue listening after about the 10-minute mark. It was too Meandering and not focused and basically stated old Concepts. I was looking for a fresh approaches fresh angles of narcissism didn't get it here
+Andre Noble Thank you for your feedback. Please see the peer-reviewed article and blogs on narcissism on my website, www.whatiscodependency.com. Much more detail about relating to a narcissist is in my ebook.
+Andre Noble Andre you may like this other video better: ua-cam.com/video/HCPnZ51dO6A/v-deo.html
Yeah you definitely have to put your problems out of your work arena: it was way too too personal on the part of the radio programmer. The sound was awful (we could hardly hear Ms Lancer and only the radio girl-yak who seems to do all the talking and almost does not let the other place one). It really sounded like a therapy session with technical problems, and little professionalism. And the sound was so bad that i cannot say i got much out of the neurotic babbling. Next time please go to a therapy session and let another journalist do the job, truly!!
+Darlene Lancer ..narcissism has really been a problem in my life..first I married a narcissist and the marriage ended horrible with 2 kids involved. .next my sister became involved with a religious cult that made her into a sadistic psycho in which she thought she was holyer than GOD himself. .and the worst part is you can't tell a person that they are a narcissist because they don't take responsibility for they're actions. .the only outcome was to stop talking to them in order to keep my peace of mind..SO what is it that you think you can do to help...?
Unless a narcissist wants and stays in treatment, don't expect him or her to change; however, there those dealing with narcissists can be helped to raise their self-esteem, set boundaries, and learn to deal with them in constructive and helpful ways, as described in my ebook, "Dealing with a Narcissist." If you email me, I can send you a checklist of narcissistic behaviors. Go to www.whatiscodependency.com.
Narcissus: A young man who pined away in love with his own image in a pool of water and was transformed into the flower that bears his name.
This is from Greek mythology. Could your version be Roman? I'm not correcting, this is something I'm interested in.
You're right. In my book, I explain that it was a Greek myth in origin and written up by Ovid, the Roman poet, and that's the more popular version. Here are the difference between the Roman and Greek versions. www.historicmysteries.com/narcissus-myth-version-poets/
Listening i did not feel so secure in your acceptance of the concept of narcissistic abuse, particularly as the interviewer related concepts related to love-bombing and managing down. Is this something you see as an occurrence in narcissistic relationships, that is the abusive aspects?
+Born of Love Narcissitic abuse definitely occurs; however, most narcissists are not of the extreme malignant type you may be thinking of and get a lot of attention on the Internet. It's important to know that narcissism exists like all disorders on a continuum, from sub-clinical to mild to extreme approaching sociopathy, marked by pernicious hostility and abuse without remorse.
+Darlene Lancer Thank you for your response and I do support the concept of the continuum of this disorder. I do think it is important that you clarify that when addressing the issue as it seemed as if the interviewer was addressing the concept (at times) from an abusive standpoint but your answers didn't necessarily correspond with the urgency of safety that should be exhibited when dealing with this type. Thank you again for your response and of course your work in this area.
+Born of Love Good point. Can't always get everything in on an interview. If you email me, I'll send you the Checklist of Narcissistic Behaviors from my e-workbook. I also posted a new blog on narcissism at www.whatiscodependency.com/blog
See this recent blog on narcissistic abuse: www.whatiscodependency.com/what-is-narcissistic-abuse
Maybe Darlene's dream was in jungian terms her shadow.
holding on to hope my soon to ex religious sociopathic man used the Bible to brainwash me to always hope, corinthians says love always hopes but he never changed I was changing but not for the better, it's aweful. I lost my religious friends because I left him.i still love him I still secretly hope and wish it could work with a good therapist.
So tired of these unprofessional interviews, where the non-expert talks more than the expert.
Why bother to have the expert on the show?
Left at 16:55 with 53:45 left.
Check out more at Clyp: clyp.it/user/fim53c31 and on my website, www.whatiscodependency.com...lots of blogs on narcissism and what to do about it.
By the way, Narcissus engaged sexually and romantically with both sexes, not only women....
Yes, of course, and the number of female narcissists are on the rise, discussed in my ebook, "Dealing with a Narcissist." Also of course in the LGBT population.
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