You mean years . From what I hear from women they usually start doing everything themselves to get use to being a single mother. They stop asking for help and requiring attention from the man. This can take years.
Wallahi this attention and drama thing is so accurate. I had them with one of my female family members, she would literally pick a fight on any thing. I discovered the ignoring solution by myself, but i wish I did earlier. Mahdi thanks bro ✌️. Wallahi almost every video of your's i come out from i recall examples from my life and be like " haaaa that's why she was doing/saying that shi". Understanding female psychology makes your life much more easier. I hope your massage reaches the clouds.
She married him while he was already married ( then mum of the kids left) so she had no place sabotaging the time of another woman. It always backfires! Now she’s and EX for a reason
6:51 I am not you so i can't say what happened but i'll offer some more insight into why your first wife did this. I understand peoples motivations through their emotions and my intuition so i think i can add something of value to this: Your first wife, while agreeing to the marriage, felt like she might lose you if she didn't share you since you wanted a second wife. But she absolutely did not like the idea of you being with another woman. For some reason she didn't communicate that with you or maybe she did. She would be fine while she was with you but the moment you left her head would be filled with images of you with the other woman and that would cause her emotional anguish. She wanted you to feel the same level of pain she was feeling and offloaded that to you by acting in that manner. It was her unconscious way of punishing you for it and also take away your ability to be with the second wife and take your attention away from her. She also wanted you to be thinking of her while with the other woman. It was her way of exerting control in a situation where she felt she didn't have any control. Women do not pick fights for no reason. They do not have a need for drama. Well, if you have the sort of wife who is chronically understimulated aka bored then yes. But that is *very rare* and would imply mental deficiency. Most and I mean a huge majority women are not like that. You interpret it that way because you do not understand her motivations. Some women don't even understand themselves why they do certain things. Its called unconscious behaviour. Women are emotional beings. Once you understand the instincts, the emotions and the vunerable state that women find themselves in, you'll funny realise their motivations for acting in certain ways. It may seem bizarre and irrational, but it all makes perfect sense once you realise it.
Everyone is an emotional being. However being able to understand women is not about understanding complex female emotions. It's simply an understanding of basic evolution and biology.
@@loverofhumanity you're wrong. There is nothing complex about this. Its quite simple. All it requires is understanding the needs of women and basic empathy.
Watching these videos as a woman helps me understand how we tend to think. When I see these kind of things I become conscious of certain behaviours and work to change them! Thank you Madhi
@@grafics3818 An example that comes to mind is the story about his wives asking Umm salama RA to talk to him when it’s her night about Aisha RA, so she kept mentioning it whenever it’s her night until the 3rd time , then he said “don’t hurt me through Aisha…” point being he ignored it for 2 rotations . In Bukhari , 3775. It’s actually an interesting story in that hadeeth and is relevant to polygyny.
7:33 Akhi, I would say that "emotional deficiency" is actually a sickness of the heart. A wife is supposed to be calmness for her husband, not to cause him distress.
My husband is the women in this situation. He picks fights and name calls for attention. He also doesn’t protect or provide. What’s the point of him? He also thinks he can handle two wives but again doesn’t fit the minimum requirements.
Yeah, it's a human behavior not gender specific. Men and women both can be like that. But brother Mehdi's audience are primarily men so the story is made from a man's perspective. In general tho, you can reverse the genders. Only difference I believe is solving the issue for a woman can be easier if it's her husband being like that. A man can change and turn upside down if his wife gave him love, respect, and sexual intimacy. If she doesn't, then he won't want her or listen to her and might pick fights and make arguments with her.
@@coolerthetyrant7923 it’s written in both the Quran and Sunnah. Mehdi did a video around it too. Simply put in my original post, he’s not the provider, not even for himself. He expects woman to do it for him, while he takes the title. He will figure it out one day but I’m not waiting.
When my wife would start an argument, before I used to think it was my fault I did something. I started to figure out the more you feed into her ego and even her attention the worse it becomes. Ignoring is best. I wish we had Mahdi Tidjani and this content years before man.
@@lipsme1673 read his other hateful spam comments about women under every video. It's clear that he has no attraction to women and is about to come out as a queer.
This was my ex towards the end of the relationship. I wouldn’t know wtf to do anymore. It was “oh I love u” to the next in a few days, “oh idk if love u”. I would care for him and everything. All this as I tried studying for an exam and taking care of my sick mom. Thankfully he’s an ex now.
Is he really telling us a story about how his wife was jealous over him spending quality time with another woman knowing he will be intimate with her, whilst shes all alone at home AND its somewhat her fault? Give me a break. Women are created fragile and emotional, and it is perfectly fine reacting that way. Dont marry more women if the first one isnt okay with that. Problem solved.
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
She was in fact the second wife (the first had left). So she had no place to creating problems for the new wife. When you try and sabotage someone’s time, it always backfires! These games don’t work in the long run, she’s long gone now and divorced yet again!
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
No the one depressed is not Abdullah. Do you even know what u just said. U said the most depressed person on earth is slave of Allah. Just think about it !
Andrew Tate also said this similar issue and solution in brutally direct way in a video long ago I watched, but you're explaining it in very smooth way. Different vibes, similar message, you got your frame set up and this seems to be the best version of yourself in presenting. He also offered 2nd suggestion after ignoring, that's to create your own healthy drama instead of letting her create it to feed her and keep her from doing the bs.
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
سلام عليكم.. As a women been married for 35 years.. I honestly don't recognise this 🙄.. Marriage isn't a Joke .. Its disturbing and pretty much unislamic basically.. My man has limits if course. Masculinity
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
What is valid reason? Is there a list somewhere?. I could say that my husband spends little time with me and I am lonely in this marriage. It’s the husbands responsibility to meet a wifes emotional needs and if he is not then that’s a valid reason. Who can say it’s not?. Or are only physical abuse and financial neglect the only valid reasons?
@@sarahosman9030 of course sis, neglecting your rights is a valid reason, so is abuse and infidelity. What's not valid however is feeling bored and not willing to work it out with the husband and you want to jump straight to divorce
@@sweettea1193 I have never seen a woman divorce due to boredom, especially the the price woman pay in most societies for being a divorcee. They get stigmatised, struggle to remarry and struggle as single mothers. If they do then they are insane
Great story brother. This happens to many of us over the course of our lives as men. I would not say that the silent treatment is a blanket solution, but it can work with some sisters. Others, going silent can actually exacerbate the problem/reaction. But if brothers can identify this pattern of behavior (and their role in it), they can begin think about how to approach it differently. And to your point, to allow yourself to be dragged into her emotional dungeon will never be the solution. Asalamuwaliekum and may Allah swt bless you for working to support men.
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
even in the course of a relationship a woman will generally begin to want more and as she matures she will likely not really be okay with the ignoring thing and as you said it will probably just make the relationship worse. Honestly, I just think sometimes unless you two are on the same page most relationships are doomed to end or fizzle out eventually. There's no trick to keeping a marriage forever. You either found someone who is perfect for you and you guys are both committed to making it work or you don't. Hell, even being a handsome celebrity athlete (tom brady) didn't make a difference.
In this story bushra needs to engage her mind in something productive and Abdullah needs to spend his money on her mental health rather than wasting it on her like a broken car. Comparing a woman's broken mind with a broken car sounds ignorant.
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
@@thetruth27786 my husband gives me monthly money regardless of how much I earn myself. Some things are just basic logic and based on courtesy. Children belong to the husband. Mothers Keeping kids after a divorce is a burden on women.
When a person doesn't want you. Believe them... I am a female and on my wedding night my husband told me he didn't want me as he hadn't chosen me. I did everything he asked me but he told me evertime I don't want you by the 29 the year he left me.
@Gicybb Jcybh his mom was the one telling him to treat me like that. My parents apologised and sold me a small house at a cheap price so I had a roof over my head . Anyways I bought the house and my ex went behind my back and sold it from me... I did recover it ...
@@poastri-_-8570 I am greatful to my parents who sold the property for me. They bought it and sold it to me. I am greatful. But my ex sold it from me. And I had to pay again to recover it back...
Same here bro , since i got married 3 years ago my wife admitted twice literally 2 times that she was wrong about something... Only took responsibility twice ... I had covid and had to resign been jobless for 8months and being batter daily was diagnosed with anxiety and depression... Had the best ramadan ever went to iftikaaf at the mosq and spent time with hafisas and alims and went in the path of allah and noticed how much i neglected it( quraan and putting allah first ) because of always trying to please her n being in a state of feeling confused and blamed ... Subhanallah came home on eid yesterday and wished my wife well after eid salah in the morning, she barely smiled back n pretend to be busy n brushed me off after kissing her forehead ,she felt more distant after me being away so long from kids in the masjid ... And after one thing that i never done ( making a bottle for the baby ) while my father spoke , after the enitre day of eid i got told that my ramadan was a waste and i did it for people? ... My iman amd heart was in the right place for once i a long time? Advised her to bring kids to laylatul khadir program and id tske care of them while she with the ladies ... She told me focus on your deen and dnt lecture me? ... Said im focused on the masjid n nt the kids ... Bt everything i do for the kids mst be done her way even though its the same result... Day 2 after eid and im looking up videos on how to give her the talaq thats she been asking for since after the first 2months of being married .... Subhanallah i ended up masterbating may allah have mercy on my ... Out of sheer resentment of her asking me to go sleep back at the masjid n pushed me off the bed said im in her space .... 3am and i ended up masterbating because i cannot hurt myself by asking her intamicy after such a month of sacrifice... Bt now feel like my ibadt is gone because of doing this sin bt dd not watch porn alghumduliah, however i still masterbated mentally and i feel like this is lowest form .... That i went too it keeps playing with my imaan cuz i have sexual needs ... N i cant even dare talk about my rights . Because shel bring up all my wrongs .. she literally with holds sex from me ... Cant believe 3 years later every 2 months i need to masterbate while being a married man , its my naafs and sins ....bt i cant deal with a cold spouse...the more i distance me and focus on my self improvement she saiz im Living all for me ... Bt if im around im too in her face n its all about the kids even after the put to bed .. i ddnt marry my kids i married her . They will always be my kids and ill always see for their needs ...she doesn't want me to take a second wife? Bt she dznt wana even sit down and talk instead read books or movies on fone . Or visit her mom and sister.... Subhanallah at time i even wonder if i shouldv married her younger sister because she always kind to me and my children... Bt feel like that is shytaan telling me this ... Be strong my brothers ill make duah for all us men and the ummah .. make duah for me or give me advise insha'Allah im only 27 n struggling, been speaking and making duah bt her ways ... Are so hurtful
Wow such a good Muslim after all that talk of how good you are you proceed to blame you sin (masterbating) on your wife ‘withholding’ sex? Narcissism 101 ladies……. They will always blame you for not letting them rape you whenever they want for the sake of being their wife. Dude you don’t satisfy your wife emotionally, you don’t have a BOND that isn’t rooted in just Islamic marriage. She doesn’t want you, she is indoctrinated to stay with you, she is clearly unhappy just like you are. I wish you the best in your marriage, connect mentally with your wife and start OVER. There is no wrong or right when the communication is clearly bad between the both of you right now.
My guy u need help if I were u I would divorced her right away there clearly something wrong with u if my wife refuses to listen plus even had issues touching her that it deal is done divorced right away get second wife it not your wife faults based on reading you are the problem wtf wrong either way u she clearly not interested in you move on there thousand girls to marry out there
@@arifahmed9801 you could've replied much better .... I ddnt write all of this for ppl to tell me i need help we all need help thats why we using this space as a space to assist on another.... Thnks for kicking a dogg when its down 👎 .... You saying the right things bt its the way you saying it thats not really motivating
@@mrharoun3214 brother I am sorry but to men most important things is self respect if women clearly not obeying or respecting you honor you I am sorry deal is done here it better to end relationship without any love or affection then suffer rest of your life what is whole purpose of marriage to be intimate in halal way complete half of your deen I am giving u reality check and facts
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
So your wife is going to find the attention she is looking for from another man. And then you notice she become a very nice woman who is okay you are going to see another woman and is okay for whatever as long as everything passes smoothly.
Yes, she will find something or someone else to devote her love and energy to when her husband is giving her silent treatment and shutting off communication instead of talking it through. That or she will basically plan how to leave him with minimal damage. Then he is basically digging his own grave. The worst situation is when a woman is screaming out her needs and the man is shutting off communication instead of calmly working out what she is telling him and addressing it.
The silent treatment won’t work for some women out there. I know some couple the husband did that & got worse and now they don’t even speak no more for weeks. It’s so sad!!
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
Truth. Id take it one step further. Even if you were wrong in a scenario, ignore her tantrums and demands for an apology. Don't be a prik, but don't nmeed to grovel and ''make-up'' for it. Say your piece. her response will be 100 % for you to grovel and apologies. Shell probably throw a tantrum. Cry and maybe threaten divorce. At this point, stop explaining yourself, youve said your piece. Ignore her until she comes to her senses and all she now wants is to make up.
That might not have been your wife's plan. Perhaps she genuinely enjoyed spending time with you, and when you left her mind would wander and focus on negativity and she'd express it to you. This is how a lot of women are. I was curious to see what you'd say in this video, but I find it to be ridiculous. You don't understand the psychology of women but you think you do.
This is exactly what I was thinking. She wasn’t trying to play mind games with his mind, she was actually feeling like he was playing mind games with her mind every time he would spend a good week with her and then just disappear she didn’t understand why they couldn’t have that good time all of the time and he had to leave. She probably felt rejected and she was even telling him that she couldn’t take it any more but he saw it as “negativity”. That’s unfair to her because she was just expressing the desire of missing her husband.
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
What can I say, it’s a double edged sword. Either you let your wife work and she comes home too tired to start drama or you keep her as a housewife where she has nothing better to do than think of ways to start drama when you’re home because she’s bored. I personally like to think of ways to start drama while doing the dishes because it’s so mind numbing that it’s the only thing that keeps me entertained. Then when my husband gives me the silent treatment I’m given even more time to be inside my ultra complex confusing female head to think of even more ways to start drama. You can always marry more, but then you’ll be dealing with even more women that’ll inevitably think of starting drama whilst you’re with the other wife. There’s no winning brothers! Women be cray cray.
I mean you engage in listening to some beneficial educational speeches or of Islamic knowledge but you deliberately think of starting dramas shows a toxic mindset you have
Ladies put it in your marriage as most of our mehrams do that he must give you a monthly income if you not working and in the case of divorce if you have 1 kid so much,2 kids so much,3 kids so much, .....
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
9:50 maybe you don't really like it more because you have to spend more time fixing it, but maybe what's happening is that you're getting more attached to it (subconsciously) b/c you have to constantly fix it/attend to it
Again Mahdi thinking he knows women 😂😂😂. Try his nonsense and she will go quite. You think she’s got the message and things are better while the whole time she is preparing to be alone and getting use to being without him. Seen this play out soo many times.
I suppose you know how women interact with men better than he does because you're what?.....a lesbian who marries women? If you're not having marriages with women then you might know how YOU feel but he's been married to a lot more women than you have. And if you don't like him, why mind business that's not yours? Change the channel
@@nicklausb first of all you fan boys are funny 😆. Also no man no matter how many women he marries will ever know women like other women. I could have had 4 husbands in my life does that mean I know men or does that mean as I’m divorced that many times indicate otherwise. He’s even did himself women are complex creatures and what works on one will not work on another. Also why do you think many men think that their divorce came out of no where?. Where as a woman I can tell you that his wife tried to communicate many times and was shut down or dismissed. She then goes quite and builds a life without him.
In my experience as a man, having grown up with plenty and exclusively women, never should a man follow women's advice (except for elders) on how to deal with women. In rare situations it can be helpful when from a masculine perspective you have exhausted all ideas. Women think they know how they work but once you tell them how they actually work they say "Oh you understand women!..." The people that best understand women are married man (not all of course), and elders.
ابغض الحلال عند الله الطلاق. "The most hated of permissible things to Allah is divorce. الرسول محمد عليه الصلاة والسلام The prophet Muhammad peace be upon him
@@apy_xr2481 so what's your advice? Be with an ungrateful woman? It's disliked by Allah and by us, but sadly sometimes getting rid is the only way. No one is happy getting a divorce, but it's necessary sometimes.
@@apy_xr2481 Where is the source of the hadith ? is it an authentic one ? your argument is invalid especially if you focus on the lives of the sahaba...
@@lhommemystere3938 Sunan Ibn Majah 2018 - It was narrated from 'Abdullah bin 'Umar that: the Messenger of Allah said: "The most hated of permissible things to Allah is divorce. " حَدَّثَنَا كَثِيرُ بْنُ عُبَيْدٍ الْحِمْصِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ خَالِدٍ، عَنْ عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ الْوَلِيدِ الْوَصَّافِيِّ، عَنْ مُحَارِبِ بْنِ دِثَارٍ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ " أَبْغَضُ الْحَلاَلِ إِلَى اللَّهِ الطَّلاَقُ " . Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
Everything I heard in this video in reference to the wives behavior is unacceptable. Both woman expressed zero emotional maturity and instead executed emotional blackmail. Men should never ever play that game with them. It is very unhealthy for both parties. If she expects you to be a mind reader that’s immature. If she expects you to shower her constantly with materialistic things that is also immature. Communication and balance are necessary. If you don’t put a stop to it it will only get worse.
Yes my Friends Husband was in an Arranged Marriage and he hated that Woman so much he did marry my Friend as 2. Wife and Divorced the 1. Oh by the Way the 1. Was Virgin while my Friend is a Revert with an Child 😊
@@susanneal6063 First of all your anecdotal experience doesn’t take anything away from the tradition. I can give you hundreds of thousands of evidence where love marriage fall out so badly. Secondly, arrange marriage has also rules for selection of potential spouse. If you violate those rules then consequences might be similar.
At 4:53 best thing to do in this course of action after she says she doesn’t think you’re meant to be best response to her would be alright what should we do about it. Then she gets it stuck in her mind that she’s doing something wrong.
If she wants divorce let the princess go. But always demand your mahr back. Dont forget it guys. And when the papers are signed. Kick her out of your house. She can go back to her parents.
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
No woman wants their man to go to another woman, having a second wife is emotional abuse (uness you know for a fact she doesn't care, aka doesn't love you)
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
Its called kohl & the prophet pbuh used to wear on occassions. If youre not muslim, and dont know that, shut your mouth and go watch a Christian channel "David"
@@donquixote3292 says the guy who’s name is a Christian novel 😂 at least my name is the anglicized name f Prophet Dawud as. And wearing kohl in the west for men is culturally inappropriate and looks like you are imitating women
@@Bhghih it’s okay brother, even if you want to wear a sundress I won’t have an inclination towards you. I just say it to save you from your own embarrassment here in this culture
ladies break away if you treated badly ...quran (1:159) "if you were harsh they would would surely break away,so consult them THEN take decision" women break away because they not giving us our right to consultation and havr become tyrants (42:38) Allah says the believers mutually consult...they think we their slaves to jusf obey and listen without consultation and we allowed to break away from tyrants in islam
TBH these kind of dramas are done mostly by women who have been living in the west. I live in the east and none kf this flies here. Men here are intolerant to such nuisance and the women dare not do drama.
I am a woman and I completely disagree with you. Our problem was that, whenever I'd try to explain to him that something was going wrong, he would just say "whatever" or try to avoid to argue about it. I'd wait till he comes up with the "right time" to talk about it, that he usually said he would find, which he never did. That was so exhausting all along that it made me feel insecure about our future, and when I'd tell him, he'd be like "ok, good bye"
Yeh , it feels so wrong to ignore, it makes the relationship cold as time pass , it is better to act like u care and listen carefully to what ur partner is saying whoever a woman or man , sometimes they make it seems as if woman is mentally ill or smth
ladies break away if you treated badly ...quran (1:159) "if you were harsh they would would surely break away,so consult them THEN take decision" women break away because they not giving us our right to consultation and havr become tyrants (42:38) Allah says the believers mutually consult...they think we their slaves to jusf obey and listen without consultation and we allowed to break away from tyrants in islam
Never get involved wit these types of women my ex used to be the same always dram drama drama ., you will have a good weekend then randomly drama for no reason., it was like carrying a dead weight while I’m trying to achieve my studies and get money for our wedding. It lead to our breakup and her parents got her marrried off 2 weeks later. 5 years later I saw her at the shopping mall with 2 kids still with the sad face and I just laughed as I thank Allah I dodged the bulllet and work on my goals while my bank account 8x in 4 years. Don’t invest in broken ppl they will hold u back and prevent you reaching your potential.
Ladies put it in your marriage as most of our mehrams do that he must give you a monthly income if you not working and in the case of divorce if you have 1 kid so much,2 kids so much,3 kids so much, .....
Utterly disgraceful advice. Mahdi what you’ve described is stonewalling and considered a form of abuse. To ignore a spouses concerns and refuse to have mature communication, shows how low your emotional intelligence is. I can only imagine how superficial your relationships are, because you are not willing to connect deeply with your spouse by resolving conflicts. Brothers who are seeking advice on improving their marriage, please refer to Dr Rima Mohammed, who is an experienced marriage counsellor and da’ee. He has vast experience working with Muslim couples and will give far healthier advice.
When a woman wants to divorce you, she already mentally divorced you three weeks prior. She also had a backup option ready in those three weeks.
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More then weeks
You mean years . From what I hear from women they usually start doing everything themselves to get use to being a single mother. They stop asking for help and requiring attention from the man. This can take years.
Exactly "wants". Thanks for specifying. That's what is evil about it.
@@sarahosman9030 "From what hear" yep that's exactly the problem with you
Wallahi this attention and drama thing is so accurate. I had them with one of my female family members, she would literally pick a fight on any thing. I discovered the ignoring solution by myself, but i wish I did earlier.
Mahdi thanks bro ✌️. Wallahi almost every video of your's i come out from i recall examples from my life and be like " haaaa that's why she was doing/saying that shi".
Understanding female psychology makes your life much more easier. I hope your massage reaches the clouds.
You comparing a wife to family members. Ignore your wife and she leaves. Your family is stuck with you.
Exactly. Ignore her and she will come back to you crying and begging to give her attention.
My brother 🙏🏼
@Chad Sultan I'm gonna need a source for that
Agreed but i wished he kept it completely halal and respectful
It’s really simple. She didn’t want to share her husband. Why is that so hard to understand?!
She married him while he was already married ( then mum of the kids left) so she had no place sabotaging the time of another woman. It always backfires! Now she’s and EX for a reason
6:51
I am not you so i can't say what happened but i'll offer some more insight into why your first wife did this. I understand peoples motivations through their emotions and my intuition so i think i can add something of value to this:
Your first wife, while agreeing to the marriage, felt like she might lose you if she didn't share you since you wanted a second wife. But she absolutely did not like the idea of you being with another woman. For some reason she didn't communicate that with you or maybe she did. She would be fine while she was with you but the moment you left her head would be filled with images of you with the other woman and that would cause her emotional anguish. She wanted you to feel the same level of pain she was feeling and offloaded that to you by acting in that manner. It was her unconscious way of punishing you for it and also take away your ability to be with the second wife and take your attention away from her. She also wanted you to be thinking of her while with the other woman. It was her way of exerting control in a situation where she felt she didn't have any control.
Women do not pick fights for no reason. They do not have a need for drama. Well, if you have the sort of wife who is chronically understimulated aka bored then yes. But that is *very rare* and would imply mental deficiency. Most and I mean a huge majority women are not like that. You interpret it that way because you do not understand her motivations. Some women don't even understand themselves why they do certain things. Its called unconscious behaviour.
Women are emotional beings. Once you understand the instincts, the emotions and the vunerable state that women find themselves in, you'll funny realise their motivations for acting in certain ways. It may seem bizarre and irrational, but it all makes perfect sense once you realise it.
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Everyone is an emotional being. However being able to understand women is not about understanding complex female emotions. It's simply an understanding of basic evolution and biology.
Is their are books/podcasts you can recommend me about understanding women emotion?
@@Mastermo121 are you married?
@@loverofhumanity you're wrong. There is nothing complex about this. Its quite simple. All it requires is understanding the needs of women and basic empathy.
Watching these videos as a woman helps me understand how we tend to think. When I see these kind of things I become conscious of certain behaviours and work to change them! Thank you Madhi
Thank u for being a smart woman
This is why women shouldn't have access to his content.
@@Nope991 why? To stay feminist who could become atheist at any given chance? Stfu
@@Nope991 shouldn’t?
@@salut4396 Yes
Your solution to the problem is actually in the Sunnah. JazakAllahu kher habiby for the reminder ❤
Can you give us the reference please?
@@grafics3818search on Google the Prophet didn’t speak to his wives for a month, it’s a long hadith
@@grafics3818 An example that comes to mind is the story about his wives asking Umm salama RA to talk to him when it’s her night about Aisha RA, so she kept mentioning it whenever it’s her night until the 3rd time , then he said “don’t hurt me through Aisha…” point being he ignored it for 2 rotations .
In Bukhari , 3775. It’s actually an interesting story in that hadeeth and is relevant to polygyny.
7:33 Akhi, I would say that "emotional deficiency" is actually a sickness of the heart. A wife is supposed to be calmness for her husband, not to cause him distress.
My husband is the women in this situation. He picks fights and name calls for attention. He also doesn’t protect or provide. What’s the point of him? He also thinks he can handle two wives but again doesn’t fit the minimum requirements.
Yeah, it's a human behavior not gender specific.
Men and women both can be like that. But brother Mehdi's audience are primarily men so the story is made from a man's perspective.
In general tho, you can reverse the genders.
Only difference I believe is solving the issue for a woman can be easier if it's her husband being like that.
A man can change and turn upside down if his wife gave him love, respect, and sexual intimacy. If she doesn't, then he won't want her or listen to her and might pick fights and make arguments with her.
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So sad u get simps in your life
What's the minimum requirement
@@coolerthetyrant7923 it’s written in both the Quran and Sunnah. Mehdi did a video around it too. Simply put in my original post, he’s not the provider, not even for himself. He expects woman to do it for him, while he takes the title. He will figure it out one day but I’m not waiting.
The knowledge of the redpill, gender dynamics etc is helping men here thanks to mahdi
Silent treatment is what prophet Mohammad SAW used with his wives at the time when he married Maria AS.
Why is he wearing mascara
@@aatr2030 he is closeted he like men
When my wife would start an argument, before I used to think it was my fault I did something. I started to figure out the more you feed into her ego and even her attention the worse it becomes. Ignoring is best. I wish we had Mahdi Tidjani and this content years before man.
Condolences on your failure as a man.
@@susanna9831why so patronising? We live and we learn.
@@lipsme1673 read his other hateful spam comments about women under every video. It's clear that he has no attraction to women and is about to come out as a queer.
Is that what the prophet was doing??
@@susanna9831 I'm married. Just because I dont pander to your ego doesnt mean I am a queer. Typical delusional weirdo.
This was my ex towards the end of the relationship. I wouldn’t know wtf to do anymore. It was “oh I love u” to the next in a few days, “oh idk if love u”. I would care for him and everything.
All this as I tried studying for an exam and taking care of my sick mom.
Thankfully he’s an ex now.
When men act like this, it’s worse. He wanted your attention like a little child
@@Wilmao475 a man doing this , isn't a man
Is he really telling us a story about how his wife was jealous over him spending quality time with another woman knowing he will be intimate with her, whilst shes all alone at home AND its somewhat her fault? Give me a break. Women are created fragile and emotional, and it is perfectly fine reacting that way. Dont marry more women if the first one isnt okay with that. Problem solved.
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
The account called "WOMEN OF PARADISE" is a liar. It's a devil worker
@@thetruth27786don’t listen to this undercover yahood don’t get a marriage contract with the government my brothers and dont write no shit either
@@Nope991 wut?
She was in fact the second wife (the first had left). So she had no place to creating problems for the new wife. When you try and sabotage someone’s time, it always backfires! These games don’t work in the long run, she’s long gone now and divorced yet again!
The most depressed person on earth right now is whom his name is "Abdullah" 😂😂😂😂 poor Abdullah brother
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
The account called "WOMEN OF PARADISE" is a liar. It's a devil worker.
No the one depressed is not Abdullah. Do you even know what u just said. U said the most depressed person on earth is slave of Allah. Just think about it !
@@mariamhussain5554 He means because Mahdi is almost Famous right now with his Examples of "Average Abdullah"
Andrew Tate also said this similar issue and solution in brutally direct way in a video long ago I watched, but you're explaining it in very smooth way. Different vibes, similar message, you got your frame set up and this seems to be the best version of yourself in presenting.
He also offered 2nd suggestion after ignoring, that's to create your own healthy drama instead of letting her create it to feed her and keep her from doing the bs.
yes Andrew tate is the new musliiim God
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
The account called "WOMEN OF PARADISE" is a liar. It's a devil worker.
سلام عليكم..
As a women been married for 35 years..
I honestly don't recognise this 🙄..
Marriage isn't a Joke ..
Its disturbing and pretty much unislamic basically..
My man has limits if course.
Masculinity
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
The account called "WOMEN OF PARADISE" is a liar. It's a devil worker
A woman requires a valid reason to divorce in Islam... I feel like many sisters don't know this
What is valid reason? Is there a list somewhere?. I could say that my husband spends little time with me and I am lonely in this marriage. It’s the husbands responsibility to meet a wifes emotional needs and if he is not then that’s a valid reason. Who can say it’s not?. Or are only physical abuse and financial neglect the only valid reasons?
@@sarahosman9030 of course sis, neglecting your rights is a valid reason, so is abuse and infidelity. What's not valid however is feeling bored and not willing to work it out with the husband and you want to jump straight to divorce
You’re right on this
@@sweettea1193 I have never seen a woman divorce due to boredom, especially the the price woman pay in most societies for being a divorcee. They get stigmatised, struggle to remarry and struggle as single mothers. If they do then they are insane
So does a man
Great story brother. This happens to many of us over the course of our lives as men. I would not say that the silent treatment is a blanket solution, but it can work with some sisters. Others, going silent can actually exacerbate the problem/reaction. But if brothers can identify this pattern of behavior (and their role in it), they can begin think about how to approach it differently. And to your point, to allow yourself to be dragged into her emotional dungeon will never be the solution. Asalamuwaliekum and may Allah swt bless you for working to support men.
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
The account called "WOMEN OF PARADISE" is a liar. It's a devil worker.
even in the course of a relationship a woman will generally begin to want more and as she matures she will likely not really be okay with the ignoring thing and as you said it will probably just make the relationship worse. Honestly, I just think sometimes unless you two are on the same page most relationships are doomed to end or fizzle out eventually. There's no trick to keeping a marriage forever. You either found someone who is perfect for you and you guys are both committed to making it work or you don't.
Hell, even being a handsome celebrity athlete (tom brady) didn't make a difference.
In this story bushra needs to engage her mind in something productive and Abdullah needs to spend his money on her mental health rather than wasting it on her like a broken car. Comparing a woman's broken mind with a broken car sounds ignorant.
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
The account called "WOMEN OF PARADISE" is a liar. It's a devil worker
@@thetruth27786 my husband gives me monthly money regardless of how much I earn myself. Some things are just basic logic and based on courtesy. Children belong to the husband. Mothers Keeping kids after a divorce is a burden on women.
When a person doesn't want you.
Believe them...
I am a female and on my wedding night my husband told me he didn't want me as he hadn't chosen me.
I did everything he asked me but he told me evertime I don't want you by the 29 the year he left me.
May Allah replace him with something better for you
@Gicybb Jcybh his mom was the one telling him to treat me like that.
My parents apologised and sold me a small house at a cheap price so I had a roof over my head .
Anyways I bought the house and my ex went behind my back and sold it from me...
I did recover it ...
@@ikr2377 they bought you a house say alhamdullilah people don't have a house don't belittle it
@@poastri-_-8570 I am greatful to my parents who sold the property for me.
They bought it and sold it to me.
I am greatful.
But my ex sold it from me.
And I had to pay again to recover it back...
I would have left such a man on the same night.
Same here bro , since i got married 3 years ago my wife admitted twice literally 2 times that she was wrong about something... Only took responsibility twice ... I had covid and had to resign been jobless for 8months and being batter daily was diagnosed with anxiety and depression... Had the best ramadan ever went to iftikaaf at the mosq and spent time with hafisas and alims and went in the path of allah and noticed how much i neglected it( quraan and putting allah first ) because of always trying to please her n being in a state of feeling confused and blamed ... Subhanallah came home on eid yesterday and wished my wife well after eid salah in the morning, she barely smiled back n pretend to be busy n brushed me off after kissing her forehead ,she felt more distant after me being away so long from kids in the masjid ... And after one thing that i never done ( making a bottle for the baby ) while my father spoke , after the enitre day of eid i got told that my ramadan was a waste and i did it for people? ... My iman amd heart was in the right place for once i a long time? Advised her to bring kids to laylatul khadir program and id tske care of them while she with the ladies ... She told me focus on your deen and dnt lecture me? ... Said im focused on the masjid n nt the kids ... Bt everything i do for the kids mst be done her way even though its the same result... Day 2 after eid and im looking up videos on how to give her the talaq thats she been asking for since after the first 2months of being married .... Subhanallah i ended up masterbating may allah have mercy on my ... Out of sheer resentment of her asking me to go sleep back at the masjid n pushed me off the bed said im in her space .... 3am and i ended up masterbating because i cannot hurt myself by asking her intamicy after such a month of sacrifice... Bt now feel like my ibadt is gone because of doing this sin bt dd not watch porn alghumduliah, however i still masterbated mentally and i feel like this is lowest form .... That i went too it keeps playing with my imaan cuz i have sexual needs ... N i cant even dare talk about my rights . Because shel bring up all my wrongs .. she literally with holds sex from me ... Cant believe 3 years later every 2 months i need to masterbate while being a married man , its my naafs and sins ....bt i cant deal with a cold spouse...the more i distance me and focus on my self improvement she saiz im Living all for me ... Bt if im around im too in her face n its all about the kids even after the put to bed .. i ddnt marry my kids i married her . They will always be my kids and ill always see for their needs ...she doesn't want me to take a second wife? Bt she dznt wana even sit down and talk instead read books or movies on fone . Or visit her mom and sister.... Subhanallah at time i even wonder if i shouldv married her younger sister because she always kind to me and my children... Bt feel like that is shytaan telling me this ... Be strong my brothers ill make duah for all us men and the ummah .. make duah for me or give me advise insha'Allah im only 27 n struggling, been speaking and making duah bt her ways ... Are so hurtful
Wow such a good Muslim after all that talk of how good you are you proceed to blame you sin (masterbating) on your wife ‘withholding’ sex?
Narcissism 101 ladies……. They will always blame you for not letting them rape you whenever they want for the sake of being their wife.
Dude you don’t satisfy your wife emotionally, you don’t have a BOND that isn’t rooted in just Islamic marriage. She doesn’t want you, she is indoctrinated to stay with you, she is clearly unhappy just like you are.
I wish you the best in your marriage, connect mentally with your wife and start OVER. There is no wrong or right when the communication is clearly bad between the both of you right now.
Omg i feel bad , hope u are doing good now
My guy u need help if I were u I would divorced her right away there clearly something wrong with u if my wife refuses to listen plus even had issues touching her that it deal is done divorced right away get second wife it not your wife faults based on reading you are the problem wtf wrong either way u she clearly not interested in you move on there thousand girls to marry out there
@@arifahmed9801 you could've replied much better .... I ddnt write all of this for ppl to tell me i need help we all need help thats why we using this space as a space to assist on another.... Thnks for kicking a dogg when its down 👎 .... You saying the right things bt its the way you saying it thats not really motivating
@@mrharoun3214 brother I am sorry but to men most important things is self respect if women clearly not obeying or respecting you honor you I am sorry deal is done here it better to end relationship without any love or affection then suffer rest of your life what is whole purpose of marriage to be intimate in halal way complete half of your deen I am giving u reality check and facts
Just call her bluff and let her go! So easy to leave someone who does not want to stay
So I can tell you why this happens to most guys, your not her first option. Cuz if you are, she will be afraid to lose you.
Again with another banger Mahdi nice work.
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
So your wife is going to find the attention she is looking for from another man. And then you notice she become a very nice woman who is okay you are going to see another woman and is okay for whatever as long as everything passes smoothly.
Yes, she will find something or someone else to devote her love and energy to when her husband is giving her silent treatment and shutting off communication instead of talking it through. That or she will basically plan how to leave him with minimal damage. Then he is basically digging his own grave. The worst situation is when a woman is screaming out her needs and the man is shutting off communication instead of calmly working out what she is telling him and addressing it.
I'm sooooo lucky to have met this guy way before I get married.
The silent treatment won’t work for some women out there. I know some couple the husband did that & got worse and now they don’t even speak no more for weeks. It’s so sad!!
Mahdi, silence treatment doesn't work
Your story telling is amazing
Shukrun habibi Ibraheem
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
The account called "WOMEN OF PARADISE" is a liar. It's a devil worker.
Amazing video but i did not like the usage of the word bitch
Truth. Id take it one step further. Even if you were wrong in a scenario, ignore her tantrums and demands for an apology. Don't be a prik, but don't nmeed to grovel and ''make-up'' for it. Say your piece. her response will be 100 % for you to grovel and apologies. Shell probably throw a tantrum. Cry and maybe threaten divorce. At this point, stop explaining yourself, youve said your piece. Ignore her until she comes to her senses and all she now wants is to make up.
Women love to draw emotions from men postive and negative dosent matter..
That might not have been your wife's plan. Perhaps she genuinely enjoyed spending time with you, and when you left her mind would wander and focus on negativity and she'd express it to you. This is how a lot of women are.
I was curious to see what you'd say in this video, but I find it to be ridiculous. You don't understand the psychology of women but you think you do.
This is exactly what I was thinking. She wasn’t trying to play mind games with his mind, she was actually feeling like he was playing mind games with her mind every time he would spend a good week with her and then just disappear she didn’t understand why they couldn’t have that good time all of the time and he had to leave. She probably felt rejected and she was even telling him that she couldn’t take it any more but he saw it as “negativity”. That’s unfair to her because she was just expressing the desire of missing her husband.
Brothers need to learn when women do this it is already over. Brothers stay on your game and be ready to make another move if you must.
Sheikh Assim actually says the same: "Ignore the complaint, it's like putting coal in their mouth, is it easy? Ofcourse not".
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
The account called "WOMEN OF PARADISE" is a liar. It's a devil worker
Can you link the video
@@madmanjay2458 "How to deal with abusive people" ua-cam.com/video/scUceIDK6Iw/v-deo.html
@@madmanjay2458 Don't know if it's that video. But it's something like that.
What can I say, it’s a double edged sword. Either you let your wife work and she comes home too tired to start drama or you keep her as a housewife where she has nothing better to do than think of ways to start drama when you’re home because she’s bored. I personally like to think of ways to start drama while doing the dishes because it’s so mind numbing that it’s the only thing that keeps me entertained. Then when my husband gives me the silent treatment I’m given even more time to be inside my ultra complex confusing female head to think of even more ways to start drama.
You can always marry more, but then you’ll be dealing with even more women that’ll inevitably think of starting drama whilst you’re with the other wife. There’s no winning brothers! Women be cray cray.
I mean you engage in listening to some beneficial educational speeches or of Islamic knowledge but you deliberately think of starting dramas shows a toxic mindset you have
@@zenkahnz3859 aww bless you, I see sarcasm goes right over your head…you boys really make me laugh😂
@@Falasteen7urra atleast "try" to come up intelligent responses 🙂
If you're stressed out from work, you'll still be irritated about something. You need a boxing bag lol
@@socialmedia2825 now that's a great idea!
baraka Allah fik brother Mahdi, I am always learning more from you. May Allah grant you ease and mercy.
Learn from prophet Muhammad instead this guy reminds me of Andrew Tate…
lol wow i was wondering why random outbursts happen. Can't it be the "time of the month" though?
Brother, let me tell you.
you are a Gem to the Ummah
She sounds like my 2001 Honda CRV 🤣. One thing fixed and another thing breaks.
Ladies put it in your marriage as most of our mehrams do that he must give you a monthly income if you not working and in the case of divorce if you have 1 kid so much,2 kids so much,3 kids so much, .....
The account called "WOMEN OF PARADISE" is a liar. It's a devil worker
I like these types of videos!
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
The account called "WOMEN OF PARADISE" is a liar. It's a devil worker.
9:50 maybe you don't really like it more because you have to spend more time fixing it, but maybe what's happening is that you're getting more attached to it (subconsciously) b/c you have to constantly fix it/attend to it
Getting more and more attached i.e. maybe even become clingy to it
Road to 200K subscribers bro
Again Mahdi thinking he knows women 😂😂😂. Try his nonsense and she will go quite. You think she’s got the message and things are better while the whole time she is preparing to be alone and getting use to being without him. Seen this play out soo many times.
I suppose you know how women interact with men better than he does because you're what?.....a lesbian who marries women?
If you're not having marriages with women then you might know how YOU feel but he's been married to a lot more women than you have.
And if you don't like him, why mind business that's not yours? Change the channel
@@nicklausb first of all you fan boys are funny 😆. Also no man no matter how many women he marries will ever know women like other women. I could have had 4 husbands in my life does that mean I know men or does that mean as I’m divorced that many times indicate otherwise. He’s even did himself women are complex creatures and what works on one will not work on another. Also why do you think many men think that their divorce came out of no where?. Where as a woman I can tell you that his wife tried to communicate many times and was shut down or dismissed. She then goes quite and builds a life without him.
@@sarahosman9030 what's your definition of a fan boy?
Fr Mahdi is setting these guys up for failure
In my experience as a man, having grown up with plenty and exclusively women, never should a man follow women's advice (except for elders) on how to deal with women. In rare situations it can be helpful when from a masculine perspective you have exhausted all ideas. Women think they know how they work but once you tell them how they actually work they say "Oh you understand women!..." The people that best understand women are married man (not all of course), and elders.
If a woman wants a divorce kick her out and get rid of her. No need to deal with all this drama. Love isn't real.
ابغض الحلال عند الله الطلاق.
"The most hated of permissible things to Allah is divorce.
الرسول محمد عليه الصلاة والسلام
The prophet Muhammad peace be upon him
@@apy_xr2481 so what's your advice? Be with an ungrateful woman? It's disliked by Allah and by us, but sadly sometimes getting rid is the only way. No one is happy getting a divorce, but it's necessary sometimes.
@@apy_xr2481 Where is the source of the hadith ? is it an authentic one ? your argument is invalid especially if you focus on the lives of the sahaba...
@@mohammednasser4898 women in general are ungrateful. Some more than others. It's almost impossible to avoid this.
@@lhommemystere3938 Sunan Ibn Majah 2018 - It was narrated from 'Abdullah bin 'Umar that:
the Messenger of Allah said: "The most hated of permissible things to Allah is divorce. "
حَدَّثَنَا كَثِيرُ بْنُ عُبَيْدٍ الْحِمْصِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ خَالِدٍ، عَنْ عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ الْوَلِيدِ الْوَصَّافِيِّ، عَنْ مُحَارِبِ بْنِ دِثَارٍ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ " أَبْغَضُ الْحَلاَلِ إِلَى اللَّهِ الطَّلاَقُ " .
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
Wat if the men wants divorce but not the women 😢
Everything I heard in this video in reference to the wives behavior is unacceptable. Both woman expressed zero emotional maturity and instead executed emotional blackmail. Men should never ever play that game with them. It is very unhealthy for both parties. If she expects you to be a mind reader that’s immature. If she expects you to shower her constantly with materialistic things that is also immature. Communication and balance are necessary. If you don’t put a stop to it it will only get worse.
This is why arranged marriages are better than love marriages.
100℅
Western people will never get it.
Yes my Friends Husband was in an Arranged Marriage and he hated that Woman so much he did marry my Friend as 2. Wife and Divorced the 1.
Oh by the Way the 1. Was Virgin while my Friend is a Revert with an Child 😊
@@susanneal6063 First of all your anecdotal experience doesn’t take anything away from the tradition. I can give you hundreds of thousands of evidence where love marriage fall out so badly.
Secondly, arrange marriage has also rules for selection of potential spouse. If you violate those rules then consequences might be similar.
At 4:53 best thing to do in this course of action after she says she doesn’t think you’re meant to be best response to her would be alright what should we do about it. Then she gets it stuck in her mind that she’s doing something wrong.
Lowkey wanna send this to my relatives lmao
If she wants divorce let the princess go. But always demand your mahr back. Dont forget it guys. And when the papers are signed. Kick her out of your house. She can go back to her parents.
If you divorce her you do not get the maher back
@@sarahosman9030
Mostly its women who divorce men not the other way around. So in most cases the women have to pay it back
@@piraat070 khula are more rare than men giving talaq
Dont get goverment marriage
@@piraat070 why do you all love bringing statistics from western countries into our issues?🤣 in muslim communities men divorse women wayyyy more often
🎯 been there, done that! Let it go bros!
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
The account called "WOMEN OF PARADISE" is a liar. It's a devil worker.
This ignoring solution is my medicine from this day
Loved it ❤
This brother is genius 😂
average abdullah, basic bushra and now simpimamsaab 🤣
🤣🤣 rofl
Great advice
Mahdi do you fear Allah? How many times have people told you UA-cam Adsense money is HARAM.
But you refuse to stop it.
What makes it haram?
@@keifer7813 ua-cam.com/video/O_O0pVu7CeM/v-deo.html
@@keifer7813 Trading haram stuffs
do you know that UA-cam display ads on every video. doesn't matter if you have adsense or not.
@@bhsecurity even then it would still be haram since your profiting off of haram
If your wife wants a divorce, let her do it. You don’t own her.
Expect she doesn’t really. She just wants attention
No woman wants their man to go to another woman, having a second wife is emotional abuse (uness you know for a fact she doesn't care, aka doesn't love you)
No, if it's within marriage, it's permissible aka halal in Islam. We don't care what kuffar (nonbelievers) say.
Nonsense.
wallahi this is life saving advice
As a Muslim woman…
Your not wrong 😂
Spot on
You must marry second wife to always have backup 😁
True I glad Allah allows more then one wife such a major saver
😂😂😂😂
Hijabi Feminists aren't amused
Ladies put in your marriage contract that if you not working he gives you a monthly income , in thr case of divorce of 1 child you will get so much,2 kids so much and 3 kids so much.Allah says he loves those who put things into agreement to safeguard themselves.
The account called "WOMEN OF PARADISE" is a liar. It's a devil worker
idk if I can take advice from a dude who wears eyeliner
Its called kohl & the prophet pbuh used to wear on occassions. If youre not muslim, and dont know that, shut your mouth and go watch a Christian channel "David"
@@donquixote3292 says the guy who’s name is a Christian novel 😂 at least my name is the anglicized name f Prophet Dawud as. And wearing kohl in the west for men is culturally inappropriate and looks like you are imitating women
I have no problem with that. But maybe you have some strange inclinations.. its normal akhi just don't act upon it - its capital punishment in islam
🙏
@@Bhghih it’s okay brother, even if you want to wear a sundress I won’t have an inclination towards you. I just say it to save you from your own embarrassment here in this culture
hahaha! I thought I was the only one noticing how emasculated he is
Isn’t that music in the background.Isn’t it haram.
Yes and yes
He is right, it works
ladies break away if you treated badly ...quran (1:159) "if you were harsh they would would surely break away,so consult them THEN take decision" women break away because they not giving us our right to consultation and havr become tyrants
(42:38) Allah says the believers mutually consult...they think we their slaves to jusf obey and listen without consultation and we allowed to break away from tyrants in islam
The account called "WOMEN OF PARADISE" is a liar. It's a devil worker
You're right
بارك الله فيك و لا فض فوك استاذ
Brother....u speaking facts...at least speaking from my experience. In a world full of boys...so little MEN out there
Story of my life except I just ignore her now and look for a second.
Just divorce her why spending more money on her not worth it
She is probably singling out other guys who are better than you as well.
Hehe she's doing the same
You must be so emotionally content with your marriage now!! what an immature move
I'd be worried if I were you. she prolly fking the neighbor
TBH these kind of dramas are done mostly by women who have been living in the west. I live in the east and none kf this flies here. Men here are intolerant to such nuisance and the women dare not do drama.
Your love doest matter just divorce she live get life
Inshaa'Allah i Marry 2 Or 3Wives.. Pray 4me myBrothers il pray4yall2 myGz🤘🏼👑❄️
I just hope Papi Trapstar is not the name you go by in the community.. otherwise you'll most likely not get the 1
InshaAllah brother. May Allah grant you no less than four.
@@juxtapositionMSLove i appreciate U myG.. May Allah Bless u Wiv happiness & Protection etc aswell🖤❄️💯
Turn up the volume a bit of your background music.
I am a woman and I completely disagree with you. Our problem was that, whenever I'd try to explain to him that something was going wrong, he would just say "whatever" or try to avoid to argue about it. I'd wait till he comes up with the "right time" to talk about it, that he usually said he would find, which he never did. That was so exhausting all along that it made me feel insecure about our future, and when I'd tell him, he'd be like "ok, good bye"
Yeh , it feels so wrong to ignore, it makes the relationship cold as time pass , it is better to act like u care and listen carefully to what ur partner is saying whoever a woman or man , sometimes they make it seems as if woman is mentally ill or smth
Marraige is a disaster
Period
Your content is good 👍
But music is haram.
Also, it's noisy, I can't focus on your words.
It’s not music
Bloody ungrateful bushra
Abdullah is living my life - needed this video
Eyeliner!!
Brilliant advice
Women will consume your energy like a sports car consumes fuel
SIMP Imam sab 😂😊.
Imams, religious scholars, and head of states are the one who are first and more accountable on the day of judgement.
Caught the subliminal at 3:40 again 😉
The HBIC of the simp club.
Seems like she sabotaged your time with your other wife…I hope your other wife is ok
ladies break away if you treated badly ...quran (1:159) "if you were harsh they would would surely break away,so consult them THEN take decision" women break away because they not giving us our right to consultation and havr become tyrants
(42:38) Allah says the believers mutually consult...they think we their slaves to jusf obey and listen without consultation and we allowed to break away from tyrants in islam
The account called "WOMEN OF PARADISE" is a liar. It's a devil worker
@@thetruth27786 the argumentative wife is the issue not the husband
Music is haraam. Is that the background or not?
Eye makeups running down
Is this because video quality or are you using makeup?
yes he is especially on his eyes.
It's called kohl. It's a Muslim thing and it's not for women
@@hxyzazolchak i just googled it. "Is used mostly by women"
And I just don't like you message
What’s the NASHEED ?
Is that eye liner?
Why do you have music in the background? I thought you where cool I thought you where a real MUSLIM!
Why u wearing makeup around ur eyes
صدقتَ
Facts
Dayum
Maskiinkan naaga ku baashasha u maleena
Never get involved wit these types of women my ex used to be the same always dram drama drama ., you will have a good weekend then randomly drama for no reason., it was like carrying a dead weight while I’m trying to achieve my studies and get money for our wedding. It lead to our breakup and her parents got her marrried off 2 weeks later. 5 years later I saw her at the shopping mall with 2 kids still with the sad face and I just laughed as I thank Allah I dodged the bulllet and work on my goals while my bank account 8x in 4 years. Don’t invest in broken ppl they will hold u back and prevent you reaching your potential.
Oh, no! Not simp emam sub!
Lol
Ladies put it in your marriage as most of our mehrams do that he must give you a monthly income if you not working and in the case of divorce if you have 1 kid so much,2 kids so much,3 kids so much, .....
@@thetruth27786 why not just go according to the shariah?
The account called "WOMEN OF PARADISE" is a liar. It's a devil worker
Utterly disgraceful advice. Mahdi what you’ve described is stonewalling and considered a form of abuse.
To ignore a spouses concerns and refuse to have mature communication, shows how low your emotional intelligence is.
I can only imagine how superficial your relationships are, because you are not willing to connect deeply with your spouse by resolving conflicts.
Brothers who are seeking advice on improving their marriage, please refer to Dr Rima Mohammed, who is an experienced marriage counsellor and da’ee. He has vast experience working with Muslim couples and will give far healthier advice.