Why So Many Marriages Break Up... (And The Solution) | Derek Prince
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- Опубліковано 16 чер 2020
- Why do so many marriages break up? And what is the solution? Derek Prince shares God's take on this, and his advice on how to save your marriage from divorce.
The break up of a marriage is one of the most sad and grieving things one might experience. We have to enter marriage through the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross. 'Not I but Christ lives in me'. The man and the woman look back on that sacrifice and each lays down his/her life and expresses his/her life through the mate.
This is the third clip, part of Derek Prince's full sermon 'Husbands'. Full video: • Husbands & Wives | Der...
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Great Word! It is better to give than it is to receive.. Marriage Xx #RIP #DerekPrince
The word is "it is more blessed to give than to receive".....that is a major difference!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Our church leaders have taught us that marriage is not 50/50. You must give 100% to your partner. If each partner does that then you will have a wonderful marriage : )
How can anyone thumbs down this man of a God. What a beautiful man. I know his mansion in Heaven is spectacular an shining bright with his love an faith in our Lord Jesus
9 Demons! 🤦🏻♂️
Haters are gonna hate regardless. It's every video. Even if you made a video with someone saying peace and love to all and eat your fruits and vegetables there will be haters just for attention. Don't bother commenting on down votes in any video. Its waste of your fingers.
@@tw1nnrealist505
Stop calling demons those who are sick of hearing those preachers turn marriage into something spiritual only and wilfully take SEX out of the equation.
Marriage IS also what will I get since we both marry for keeping us away from carnal temptations. So , a woman gets married in order to get sex from her husband and a man gets married in order to take sex from his wife.
"What will I give" only does not work and CANNOT work .
Marriage has its laws . The law of marriage is sex just like the law of celibacy is abstinence.
You enter the covenant of marriage in order to GET something , which is sex in order to keep yourself safe . Just like you go to a restaurant in order to eat ! If you cannot eat in the restaurant , what's the point of staying in that place ? You go elsewhere .
Amen!!! That statement needs to be repeated "it is more *blessed* to give than to receive!!!!" THIS IS THE TRUTH!!! When your mind focuses on how much you can give....then you are in position for God to use you to the fullest!!! If you are more concerned with what you can get, your mind is full of ego and pride. And we all know God hates pride!!!
Absolutely! And this attitude also improves the relationship between husband & wife enormously.
Derek Prince Ministries Nederland Amen!
Ignorance leads to unequally yoked relationships
sooooo true!
So if not equally yoked than what
@@kristid642 “ let the dead bury the dead “
@@skellingtonmeteoryballoon okay so what do you mean?
God bless you all that have tasted death and returned. God bless you all that are just hanging on by a thread. God bless you all that have gotten so used to pain that life without it seems odd. God bless you all that have gotten so close to ending your life but chose the pain of living instead. God bless you all that willingly give. God bless you all that smile back at strangers. God bless you all that will take time out of your lives to enrich somebody else's. God bless you ALL!
🌸That was awesome!
@Jeremiah Kirby God bless you too Jeremiah and may He fill your heart with His peace and be your guide and protector always.
You're awesome Jeremiah Kirby. God bless you for being you. Thank you for your comment; I for one really needed that!
I am crying....this was so needed. God bless you Jeremiah Kirby.
Amen, you will know them by their FRUITS! Good WORD as usual!
O LORD help me...🙏
An outstanding, faithful God's servant. The uniqueness of brother Derek Prince is just as what he said: "I have proven what I am teaching, it works." Simple statement, but it is bearing the life commitment, with God's grace! What a treasure to have you!
I love that. So so true. First date I went out on with my hubby, I said to him I would pay half.
I didn't get married for the sake of having a husband, I got married for love. As a matter of fact, I was earning more than him.
When we got married, I got rid of my bank account and had my salary paid into his account. I did it because I was tired of being a mother and father to my family. I wanted to feel like I was being taken care of for once.
I was a mother and father since my teenage years. I just cared for my family so much. My parents weren't negligent, they were divorced. I was protective over my family and I adored both of them. See divorce causes financial problems. It destroys families over all. Both sides of the family get hurt, not just the family unit. In all of that I was satisfied.
During a lot of my high school days I lived alone. I did what I did to honour my parents.
@ Duaghter of Zion
" I got married for love"
Unscriptural sorry to say. We get married for SEX. because marriage is the only place where we can have sex without sinning.
To avoid fornication , let every man have his wife (...). 1 Co 7:4
We get married because of our sexual urges. That's what the BIBLE says.
The law of marriage which is sex (what can I GET from marriage ) has been intentionally put on the back burner by plenty of fallacious teachings and as a consequence , SATAN wins.
Christian marriage today is a joke.
I’m glad I saw this! Moved by God’s Grace! ❤️
Beautiful message! Glory be to God. Amen 🙌🏽🔥♥️
Yes! Thank you!
Wonderful message. This is the kind of message that needs to be placed on news channels.... hopefully dolks will learn something. Love this message 😊
"If you do what your sinful old selves want you to do, you will die in sin. But if, through the power of the Holy Spirit, you destroy those actions to which the body can be led, you will have life. All those who are led by the Holy Spirit are sons of God." Romans 8:13-14
AMEN.
AMEN.
AMEN.
God is not putting alot of people together so basically it will fall apart. Even if both are born again believers. Of this I can testify personally. And even if he does put them together they circumvent his process thinking it's ok to do what they think is best
Thank you lord.
Myself and partner were about to apply for marriage licence and c19 pulled all notices so we cannot. 10 years we been together. I came to Lord 2 years ago. I pray they reopen so I can make our relationship right in the lords eyes Amen.
Glad to hear this from Papa Derek Prince..Glory to God!
CHRIST IN ME, THE HOPE OF GLORY!!!💓👑🎺🔥🛡️✨🌈🥁📜⛲🕊️✝️
AMEN! Ik ben ervan overtuigd dat je ook alleen op deze manier Gods TROUW (echt) kunt leren kennen.
Wat ik ook vaak erg bemoedigend vond (in de tijd dat het onoverkomelijk leek) was een pastor die zei 'hoe moet je anders genade leren?!'
Wederzijds geleerd door de meest bizarre omstandigheden en nu is ons huwelijk beter dan ooit.
Yeshua kan ALLES!
I needed to hear this. Praise the Lord for for His word.
What a blessing to hear this word. Bless the Lord ..
Wow. This video is so clear as if it was filmed today. Excellent copy.
It needs to be balance and trust.
Give more than receive - I look into it as competitive environment. 🌿
Derek prince was a good man.
Amen. Amen. Amen.
Thank you , for the Covenant of giving. In Lord and my Master Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Thank you.
God's words are true and powerful. It teaches us, corrects us and strengthens us through this mysterious journey called Life. Thank you Pastor Derek for this Sermon.
Beautiful...
Good teaching 😄
Amen Hallelujah I receive it in Jesus name for Odell and I 🙌🙌🎺🎺JUBILANT JUBILEE GLORY HALLELUJAH Thank you Prophet ❤🙏
I have been so guilty of not being a godly husband and father please take my life to live to the spirit and die to my flesh in Jesus name I pray amen 🙏💗
How do blended marriages that caused some division- jealousy between husband and son. Than my son passed away and separated for a year my daughter and I. I prayed for help and sought Jesus help. My sons father died so I played mom and Dad for years and got married in 2009 son passed 2012 split up 2013 bc he thought teaching our daughter not to grieve was a good thing. Got back together in 2014 and believed things would change. But if praying together is not feasible not bc of me idk.
It’s probably better to stay single though. It can be great until you open yourself to temptation with a non Christian person thinking you can change them
Amen
Amen💗
Amen and 🙏 Amen
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Good luck with that. Keeping covenant.
It is by the spirit we are transformed in to the image and likeness of God. 2 cor 3:18.
So if a couple understands that, the husband surrenders to the working of holy spirit and becomes agape love, as does his wife. And know both live the life of their design.
@ Tonino
Agape love is SEXLESS love !!!!! Marriage is for sex. Not for love !!!
To avoid fornication , let every man have his wife(...) 1 Co 7:4
1 Co 7:5 is about duty sex.
Are you going to fulfill your sexual urges with agape love ??
Stop spiritualising marriage that way. It is pathway to divorce .
Believers are all supposed to LOVE each other fervently. What does this have to do with the specificity of marriage ?
I would love to meet you DP so many questions atm your thoughts on the placebo effect would be one of my first questions.
He sadly went home to the Lord years ago but his message lives on
You can meet Him..in the Spirit
Everything that is good in the Lords eyes has been bastardized by evil to look silly, pointless, something only a crazy person would consider doing. Evil has been doing it since day one, you think man would have learned by now. It saddens me that only a handful will make it to heaven. That is one of the results that come with free will. The Lord will not force you to follow or love him.
Gods handful
I agree. It's sad
@@ruthreul3147 "Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. On that day many will say to me, 'Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?' And then will I declare to them, 'I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.'
Matthew 7:21-23
Revelation 7:9 NIV
[9] After this I looked, and there before me was a great multitude that no one could count, from every nation, tribe, people and language, standing before the throne and before the Lamb. They were wearing white robes and were holding palm branches in their hands.
@@robinoliver3744 that's the verse i thought of when I read the original comment..
Multitudes of people
Stay in your lane and I stay in mine and we are all going to end up happy
Someone help please...
My husband and I've been married together for 10 years. We've one son and that's the only time we had a physical relationship. I kept asking why he wasn't interested in physical intimacy and he kept giving lame excuses. Finally on the beginning of the 10th year of our wedding I entered into an intense prayer in tongues. On that day he was caught by the police (as they said he tried molest a boy of 17 years inside a running bus). I've no idea how far that's true. But I'm so devastated. I'm standing by him in all these trials as I don't want to be a victim but victor for myself.
No matter how many apologies would be made by him in the future, I cant and I will never be able to be the wife anymore. Is divorce and remarriage is an option? Or is it right?
You can divorce him, but Biblically it would be wrong to remarry someone else. You can stay single and pray for him. Or you can remain married but separate from him and not file for divorce and pray intensely that he repents and gets right with God. It sounds like you need an intercessory prayer team all around you, praying intensely for your husband. God can do the impossible!
AMEN JESUS! Covenant, not convenience, for the purpose of GOD - through much prayer! 🙏🏽🙌🏽
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🤜🤛👑
Help me be sacrificial LORD to my wife,
Theres clearly a difference between those who walk with the Lord in their marriages and those who dont lol
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if marriage is no more a shield against carnal temptations through the duty of sex ( 1 Co 7:5) , there is absolutely no point in getting married anymore.
God ordained marriage! marriage is more than just a sexual relationship. You are suppose to work together in an effort to further the ministry of God. You are both working together to serve the Lord. The Bible states where two or three are gathered in my Name , I will be in the midst. The Bible also states that one can chase a thousand. Two can chase 10,000. So two is better than one when doing Kingdom work!
@@cuprunnethover2509
Who cares what you have to say or what I think ? You know better than the Lord who says through Paul :
To avoid fornication , let every man have his wife etc.. ? 1 Co 7:4/5
God did not ordain marriage. He ALLOWS marriage for all those who cannot control their sexual urges . And there are many of us in that situation.
You think that Adam would have needed Eve if God had not made him sexual ?
It's more than just sex but sex is the core of marriage since the marriage bed must bne undefiled.
How will it be undefiled if there is no sex ??
All the garbage that is preached today just let Satan win.
Two is better than one. So why don't men come together ? Why would a man need a woman ?
Since two is better than one , a brother could live with another brother and share the same shelter and the same table and pray together like MONKS.
Good luck with that.
He was clear that when 2 christians come together in marriage. Not 2 people of the world.
Why are so many marriages breaking up...because Pastors don't believe in the permanence of marriage and don't teach the permanence of marriage! Vows are nothing more than suggestions in today's form of Christianity!
No perfect husband and No perfect wife,but in their Covenant they have a Perfect Saviour, Jesus Christ 🙏
Someone help please...
My husband and I've been married together for 10 years. We've one son and that's the only time we had a physical relationship. I kept asking why he wasn't interested in physical intimacy and he kept giving lame excuses. Finally on the beginning of the 10th year of our wedding I entered into an intense prayer in tongues. On that day he was caught by the police (as they said he tried molest a boy of 17 years inside a running bus). I've no idea how far that's true. But I'm so devastated. I'm standing by him in all these trials as I don't want to be a victim but victor for myself.
No matter how many apologies would be made by him in the future, I cant and I will never be able to be the wife anymore. Is divorce and remarriage is an option? Or is it right?
They break up because of demons!
Sin
@@Broken-Walls both
this sounds convoluted.....where do you come up, with this....it seems that you want to distinguish the difference between the marriage, of believers and not believers.....a marriage, is a marriage....
i don't want to be miserable! why even get married then? i did have to change my agenda from what can i get to what can i give now. God had to change my perspective back on the right track! selfishness will definitely ruin a perfectly otherwise good marriage! man....... i am going to have to give up my fries😫😳🤭☺!!! Jesus, that's asking a lot🤣🤣🤣🤣!!!
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. However, the wife, in the above scriptures, is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews (that Jesus was speaking to) were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39.
Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel.
The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7.
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death.
The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. Christ's death on the cross caused the Jews to become dead to the law of Moses, so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the ordinances of law of Moses as justification, over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the ordinances of the law is no longer possible, for Israel, and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15.
Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife.
Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned, by an unbelieving spouse, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way some translations word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not enslaved" which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, which is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 shows the Apostle Paul giving those who are abandoned permission to remarry, do not understand the command that Christ gives is to an abandoned husband, in 1 Corinthians 7:11, and that he "must not divorce" his wife, and his wife is commanded to "remain unmarried or else be reconciled" to her husband. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh, due to one's unbelief, puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, and himself, by implying that Paul has issued an opposing command to verses 10-14 in verse 15.
Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16.
The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions.
The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24.
Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans, and likewise Luke to evangelize the Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
Thank you
Why so much marriages break up ? Well , 75% of divorces are filed by women , you know the everlasting victim who can never do wrong ...
To end that , it's easy : you strip women of that infamous right to break the marriage covenant and you teach them their duties again.
I wonder how many of those couples actually went through marriage counseling? I wonder how many of those women chose their mates versus having God to select their spouse. Most marriages that I know that were arranged by God are still growing and going strong! I would venture to say that many people going into marriage have no idea what they doing or getting into! I would love to do research to actually find out the root cause(s). blessings to you!
@@cuprunnethover2509
The root cause is the wife's complete rebellion PRAISED in most churches today.
Whatever the wife says or does or think , the husband is told to adapt to it and "understand" it.
It is wicked to the bones. Unbelievable.
The man is NOT the head of his wife anymore. She is ruling over him .
Biblical Patrairchy is not taught anymore.
It has been so for decades.
Don't be surprised that now we are reaping what we have sown.
You do'nt fool the Lord .