We three bhai bahen are blessed to have our parents. They never compared us to anyone. Always guided us in very polite way. Never scolded us. The same parenting we are doing with our kids. I was weak in my studies. Still never compared with my two studious brothers. Still i studied MBA and doing my own business. I think the confidence of a child comes when your parents believe in you.
Responsible parents for future. 1. Fitness routine . 2. Pay medical insurance . 3. Have clear goals in life . In my experience these 3 points are vital for happiness and wellbeing .
Comparing your child to other's is a personal assault on the child. These toxic parents feel it will encourage their child to do better. Shame on them. Thank you guruji 🙏
My parents always compares me with others. The problem with Indian parents is, if the child says something to the parents they get offended very easily. They just don't want to listen to their children.The Parents have an "Always Right" mindset.
Aapki har video dil mai change kar deti hai mujhe kai content creators se itni kick nahi milti lekin Apka content is straight forward Har kisi ko hajam nahi hoga you are like Osho
Thanks for the video sir. I actually shed a tear when I watched this video because I can relate to every point mentioned. Growing up in a typical Indian family, I was constantly compared to my cousins, friends and anyone whom my parents considered to be "better" than me. I studied very hard and went to a decent university in Singapore and earned a degree in engineering. Despite my credentials, till today my parents always undermine my knowledge and achievements. When I lost my job during Covid, they constantly belittled me by calling me a failure and useless. The final straw was when my parents started comparing me to a relative of mine (who happens to be a gangster) and is making money today. Despite knowing that he is into illegal businesses, my parents look up to him just because he has a lot of money. They even told me off saying that I should have just left school like him. I have never been so disrespected in my life. The most painful thing in life is when your own parents humiliate you, just because you did not live up to their expectations.
Exactly i told my mother one day that' what a careless visionless irresponsible mother she was. She stopped poking me then. Now I think what took me so long to show her , her very reality
1000% true! But it is useless to share these type of videos with them. They only want videos where they are praised.... our generation has pure Narc parents (except a few)! Its high time to talk of such issues and make everyone around aware... breaking this cycle is necessary... now its best to compare these so called biological older ones with other good parents! Thank you for bringing clarity again!
ऐसेही पेरेंट्स को बच्चे बुढ़ापे में पूछते नही हैं, फिर वो इस बात का भी रोना रोते हैं की हमारे बच्चे तो हमको पूछते ही नही। और लोग भी बोलते हैं की "ऐसे बच्चो को पाप लगेगा, ऐसे बच्चे होने से अच्छा हैं की बच्चे ही ना हो।" काश ऐसे लोग बच्चे पैदा ही ना करें और पैदा ना करके उनपर एहसान कर दे🙏🏻
I feel blessed in this matter, my parents are critical when they need to be but not too harsh. Probably because I am an only child, I think that's a privilege
मैं अपना सामान और PC पैक कर रहा था घर से जाने के लिए फिर आपकी वीडियो का नोटिफिकेशन देखा और अब में पूरा वीडियो देख कर आपकी बात खुद के हालात से रिलेट कर पा रहा हूं अब मैं कन्फर्म हूं की मेरा डिजिशन सही है अब करके दिखाना है ❤ थैंक्स फॉर योर गाइडेंस 😊
Sir yaar aap kamal ho... 100% match. kahan se itne pain points ko late ho... I have lost interest in my relatives due to my mother's constant complaints from last many years
Mere parents being a 19yo myself typical ones se to boht kam krte h i feel extremely blessed. Ye chhoti baat lgti h but long term ye baate confidence itna high level pe impact krti h socha nhi ja skta please sbhi se nivedan h ki bolne se pehle sensitivity (good way ) me rkhiye .
Sir secular samuday yahi chaahta hai ki aap marriage na kare aur ve 5_6 paida kare. Aage kya hoga aap jaante hi ho. Ve chaahe star ho ya aam secular sabka agenda set hai bas hamara agenda hi kuchh nahi hai.
The same guy who has committed love jihad , domestic violence and then left his wife on streets. Then found another. If men are listening to such people , then they need to recheck their idols.
Ngl mere parents dono mai se koi nhi hai sahi ko sahi aur galat ko galat bolte hai kabhi kisi rishtedar ne 10th 12th ka result nhi pucha they respect my privacy and I respect them
My parents have not compared us to anyone, nor have they openly praised us. They do, however, sometimes tell good things about us to others (maybe to increase their pride), but they hardly praise us directly. Which category is this sir? 😀
It depends on the impact they had on you. Comparing with others generally decreases a child's confidence. However, being neutral can also be beneficial, especially considering how many parents blame kids and leave a negative impact on them.
I belong to 95% Category sadly ... Although there are a lot incidents that i can share but one that really broke my heart was once when my Mother told one of Her Chamchi that i visit her as i was only interested in Money and Property. I came to know from a common link and told my mother that i know what was discussed. But to my surprise My Mother didn't even called her Chamchi and cleared it out ... I live in Delhi and she lives in Punjab ... From that day , something inside me died and i decided to stop visiting her regularly like before and even if there is an Emergency, i make out ways not to go as she doesn't need anyone although she lives all alone there as My Father passed away in Sep 2022 ... She is too much money minded and thinks that if i visit her i will ask for money or share in property ... ❤❤❤
Let her think or say whatever she wants to. Even if something inside u died, u must must visit her and stay with her as much as possible. These things won't matter once she is gone. Just don't be affected by her immaturity or just her age and loneliness. You are too old to now bother yourself with these petty things. And also u r old enough now to take care of her and let go of any hurtful things she may be saying even unknowingly
Yes sir, mera bhi same yahi haal hai. Mujhe bhi society wale bohot troll krte hain and mere parents ko influence kr dete hain fir ye meri baat nhi maante. I'm also suffering from this. 😢
I Always check your videos for updates! Our government has no idea how people are suffering these days. I think disabled people don't get the help they deserve. Thank you Mr Basant Maheshwari, imagine you invested $500 and earned $2,500.
What about those naughty kids who everyone knows about anyway in family n building etc? 😂. It’s difficult to advocate the devil . My relative aunt use to lie so much about her sons n daughter in laws protecting them that it was a cringe as everyone knew the truth about them. But it was sweet of her I agree. Woh bhi ek dukh hai parents ka.
I don't know how you find all the real issues and highlight in your video,I am also within that 95%,now my parents have been changed,beacuse of that I never utilised my full potential,hamesha lagta tha mai bekar hu
Guruji, ek request or hai.... I know ki aap upper middle class ke liye videos banate hai but kaffi saare issues lower class me bhi common hote hai... Jaise ye wala issue. Am belongs to lower class. Mere parents english nahi samanjh sakte, Agar me ye video uhne dikau bhi, to bhi kuch-kuch english words includes hone se aapki baat ka pura matlab nahi samajh payenge. Like kuch kuch ple padega unke but saara ni... So request is, jo videos lower class parents ke liye hai waha english words use na karya kro jisse bilkul illiterate person bhi full samanjh jaye🙃
My parents neither compare with us with anyone nor openly praise in front of others as nazar is real 🤣 but my mil/fil always compares her sons, baki dils ka rona to automatically roti hi rehti h, ye nhi kiya vo nhi kiya ultimately kabhi khush nhi rehte😅😅
Mere parents toh dono ka mixup haan, Wo kabhi meri burai karte haan kabhi meri tarif karte haan And {[(I RESPECT MY PARENTS ❤)]} Ye aadmi keval pagal bana raha haan youth ko, aur baccho ko bhadka raha haan unke parents se ladai karne ke liye
Some people told me not to send my child to hostel for graduation.The distance is too much .They think, I am trying to escape house work in morning.I have told he elders that solar power ke wajah se they are using better electricity.Aur I told that they want to make money out of kids.Isiliye Ghar par rakha hain.
Kindly make a video on topic: “If girls should claim their share in property from their parents or brothers after their marriage?” And if girls should stay for years at their parents home for one reason or other after marriage?
My father don't compare me with others but also don't praise me infront others. When I do mistakes my father never overreact only say agli baar s dhan rakhna samajh m naa aye t pehle puch k chizo ko clear krr lena.
Bhai mne to kehta hnu ki baccho ke ware mne baat hi nai karna cahiye… Na hi positive aur na negative… Jyada positive baat karenge to ristedar bhi jalne lagte hne…
My parents are constantly compare me with other girls of my age. I m working right now and live away from them but still they want to impose their decision their choice on me fr Marraige, and don't want to accept my relationship with my bf. They have given me a clear cut choice to choose between my father and my bf...... Whenever i visit home, Always do emotional drama infront of me so that I leave my bf..... I don't know what to do
Guruji, kya nikkammo ki sachchai sabko batana kyu galat hai, vo to vaise bhi kuch nahi karte aur na hi karne ki icchha rakhte hai to why we hide their habits.
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If your parents compares you start comparing them with other parents
I did, it really works😅
Same 😂😂😂 I was always a debater the day I did it in class 8 they stopped
Same bhai ....maine bhi try kiya tha ...😂😂it works
I will never compare my daughter's with anyone else, this was a very useful video 😊
I did the same too
And after few years your children😂
We three bhai bahen are blessed to have our parents. They never compared us to anyone. Always guided us in very polite way. Never scolded us. The same parenting we are doing with our kids. I was weak in my studies. Still never compared with my two studious brothers. Still i studied MBA and doing my own business. I think the confidence of a child comes when your parents believe in you.
7:55 which clg sir
Responsible parents for future.
1. Fitness routine .
2. Pay medical insurance .
3. Have clear goals in life .
In my experience these 3 points are vital for happiness and wellbeing .
Comparing your child to other's is a personal assault on the child. These toxic parents feel it will encourage their child to do better. Shame on them. Thank you guruji 🙏
My parents always compares me with others.
The problem with Indian parents is, if the child says something to the parents they get offended very easily. They just don't want to listen to their children.The Parents have an "Always Right" mindset.
You have spoken my heart out. My mother always compared me, she always tells me that as I couldn't get a government job, I am a failure.
Brilliant, once again. Talking about things that no one speak of in the public sphere. He's absolutely on point about this.❤
I m really blessed to have such parents who have never complained about me to others❤they always supported me and stand beside me...
Lesson of the day:- we are nothing but just an Amazon delivery😂😂 btw great video sir🙌🙌
Aapki har video dil mai change kar deti hai mujhe kai content creators se itni kick nahi milti lekin Apka content is straight forward Har kisi ko hajam nahi hoga you are like Osho
Thanks for the video sir. I actually shed a tear when I watched this video because I can relate to every point mentioned. Growing up in a typical Indian family, I was constantly compared to my cousins, friends and anyone whom my parents considered to be "better" than me. I studied very hard and went to a decent university in Singapore and earned a degree in engineering. Despite my credentials, till today my parents always undermine my knowledge and achievements. When I lost my job during Covid, they constantly belittled me by calling me a failure and useless. The final straw was when my parents started comparing me to a relative of mine (who happens to be a gangster) and is making money today. Despite knowing that he is into illegal businesses, my parents look up to him just because he has a lot of money. They even told me off saying that I should have just left school like him. I have never been so disrespected in my life. The most painful thing in life is when your own parents humiliate you, just because you did not live up to their expectations.
Exactly i told my mother one day that' what a careless visionless irresponsible mother she was.
She stopped poking me then.
Now I think what took me so long to show her , her very reality
1000% true! But it is useless to share these type of videos with them. They only want videos where they are praised.... our generation has pure Narc parents (except a few)!
Its high time to talk of such issues and make everyone around aware... breaking this cycle is necessary... now its best to compare these so called biological older ones with other good parents!
Thank you for bringing clarity again!
Wonderful topic to discuss on. Thank you for speaking on it so frankly. This is the true reality and realisation is always bitter at first.
I almost cried when he said usme bachche ki galti nahi thi ji 😢
ऐसेही पेरेंट्स को बच्चे बुढ़ापे में पूछते नही हैं, फिर वो इस बात का भी रोना रोते हैं की हमारे बच्चे तो हमको पूछते ही नही। और लोग भी बोलते हैं की "ऐसे बच्चो को पाप लगेगा, ऐसे बच्चे होने से अच्छा हैं की बच्चे ही ना हो।" काश ऐसे लोग बच्चे पैदा ही ना करें और पैदा ना करके उनपर एहसान कर दे🙏🏻
Bachchon ko actually dard feel hota hai, parents ko dard failane me..... very, very deep words 🙏🙏🙏.....
I feel blessed in this matter, my parents are critical when they need to be but not too harsh. Probably because I am an only child, I think that's a privilege
मैं अपना सामान और PC पैक कर रहा था घर से जाने के लिए फिर आपकी वीडियो का नोटिफिकेशन देखा और अब में पूरा वीडियो देख कर आपकी बात खुद के हालात से रिलेट कर पा रहा हूं अब मैं कन्फर्म हूं की मेरा डिजिशन सही है
अब करके दिखाना है ❤ थैंक्स फॉर योर गाइडेंस 😊
My parents were very realistic.They will tell the truth to us.They will never tell in front of others .
Indeed i I am blessed my parents never compared me to any one and always made me feel enough of who I was as a person❤
Sir yaar aap kamal ho... 100% match. kahan se itne pain points ko late ho... I have lost interest in my relatives due to my mother's constant complaints from last many years
better to reach out to relatives directly and present your point of view. NEVER let anyone do misbranding for you
@@fwefhwe4232
Kis kis ko jawaab doge aap
Possible nahi
Parents se dur ho jaao
Aur log kya sochte hain is par dhyan mat do bas
Guruji.. enjoyed this video ❤
I am mother of 16 year old, I will definitely prove to be a better understanding mother now on..
Thanks 🙏🙏🙏🙏
This is the most generous video you have made which should be listen by all paternts & to be paternts also.
Mere parents being a 19yo myself typical ones se to boht kam krte h i feel extremely blessed.
Ye chhoti baat lgti h but long term ye baate confidence itna high level pe impact krti h socha nhi ja skta please sbhi se nivedan h ki bolne se pehle sensitivity (good way ) me rkhiye .
Eye opener for parents!! Too good
बढ़िया कंटेंट के लिए धन्यवाद। आंखें खोल दीं आपने।👍
Nawazuddin Siddiqui recently said there's no need to marry. You might want to address it since he has a lot of influence on young males.
I don't think he can influence anyone. Only you seem to be influenced 😂
Sir secular samuday yahi chaahta hai ki aap marriage na kare aur ve 5_6 paida kare. Aage kya hoga aap jaante hi ho.
Ve chaahe star ho ya aam secular sabka agenda set hai bas hamara agenda hi kuchh nahi hai.
@@chaturvediclassesagraसही बात कही आपने हो सकता है आप के अनुसार तो आगे बहोत बुरा हाल होगा
The same guy who has committed love jihad , domestic violence and then left his wife on streets. Then found another.
If men are listening to such people , then they need to recheck their idols.
Nawaz khud shadishuda hai.
Ngl mere parents dono mai se koi nhi hai sahi ko sahi aur galat ko galat bolte hai kabhi kisi rishtedar ne 10th 12th ka result nhi pucha they respect my privacy and I respect them
My mom never ever said bad about me and my sister, everyone is jealous of our family...
Just tell absolute truth
Really good video Guruji! Eye opener for parents as well as for kids. 🙏
We need more people like you sir
Amazing content Gajab ka knowledge dete hai sir aap big fan
My parents are not like comparing us with anyone so cool.. Not said us anything for marks etc.
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My parents have not compared us to anyone, nor have they openly praised us. They do, however, sometimes tell good things about us to others (maybe to increase their pride), but they hardly praise us directly. Which category is this sir? 😀
these are the bestest parents, teaching you to fight this competitive world, and they don’t praise because kahin aap hawa mein na uddo
It depends on the impact they had on you. Comparing with others generally decreases a child's confidence. However, being neutral can also be beneficial, especially considering how many parents blame kids and leave a negative impact on them.
So true
Sir numerology ki baaki videos bhi complete kar dijiye
It's a humble request 🙏🙏🙏
It will be a great help 😊
@@ShubhamSci-jn7ld he won't, he has already told it before.
You are sach me great, thanks
Exactly yahi ho raha hai
I totally agree with you.. nice
I belong to 95% Category sadly ... Although there are a lot incidents that i can share but one that really broke my heart was once when my Mother told one of Her Chamchi that i visit her as i was only interested in Money and Property. I came to know from a common link and told my mother that i know what was discussed. But to my surprise My Mother didn't even called her Chamchi and cleared it out ... I live in Delhi and she lives in Punjab ... From that day , something inside me died and i decided to stop visiting her regularly like before and even if there is an Emergency, i make out ways not to go as she doesn't need anyone although she lives all alone there as My Father passed away in Sep 2022 ... She is too much money minded and thinks that if i visit her i will ask for money or share in property ... ❤❤❤
mummy ki property tumhari hi to hui (esp ladke ho to).
Tum nahi haq jataoge to aas paas bahut hain to uss property ko chahte hain.
@@fwefhwe4232 Hmmm ... Agreed but she is more influenced by such people only ... Still trying my best to stay calm ...
Let her think or say whatever she wants to. Even if something inside u died, u must must visit her and stay with her as much as possible. These things won't matter once she is gone. Just don't be affected by her immaturity or just her age and loneliness. You are too old to now bother yourself with these petty things. And also u r old enough now to take care of her and let go of any hurtful things she may be saying even unknowingly
@@babyboy9255 Hmmm ... Thanks ...
Yes sir, mera bhi same yahi haal hai. Mujhe bhi society wale bohot troll krte hain and mere parents ko influence kr dete hain fir ye meri baat nhi maante. I'm also suffering from this. 😢
Thank u so much😢
Love you sir for this
Agreed sir, your solution is actually helpful
Exactly
I Always check your videos for updates! Our government has no idea how people are suffering these days. I think disabled people don't get the help they deserve. Thank you Mr Basant Maheshwari, imagine you invested $500 and earned $2,500.
she's mostly on Telegrams, with the user name.
Basant410 👈💯
@Basant410
This is it👆👆
Very well said guruji
8:28 , best logic against reservation
So right
third category of parents: who don't speak abt kids at all. They are supposed to be best ......
What about those naughty kids who everyone knows about anyway in family n building etc? 😂. It’s difficult to advocate the devil . My relative aunt use to lie so much about her sons n daughter in laws protecting them that it was a cringe as everyone knew the truth about them. But it was sweet of her I agree. Woh bhi ek dukh hai parents ka.
You r right
Completely true
I’ll surely invest in your channel membership bcoz it’s extremely beneficial
GuruJi, You are back on Your Strength Areas! 😊
Real truth told in this video
Guruji True SatyaSang ..😅
Thanks Sir 🙏
I don't know how you find all the real issues and highlight in your video,I am also within that 95%,now my parents have been changed,beacuse of that I never utilised my full potential,hamesha lagta tha mai bekar hu
True ! True ! True
Till date, even after my marriage, motherhood my mother always curse me
Addiction for misery........Comparison is thief of joy
Very nice 🎉🎉
Jindagi barbad krke rakh di h Indian parents ne
Correct
What to do if one parent is category 1 and other of category 2
Guruji 🙏
Bache bolna bhi chahe to bhi Darr k mare nhi bol pate parents ko. Ghar m ashanti na ho isliye bhi bache chup reh jate h
Guruji, ek request or hai.... I know ki aap upper middle class ke liye videos banate hai but kaffi saare issues lower class me bhi common hote hai... Jaise ye wala issue.
Am belongs to lower class. Mere parents english nahi samanjh sakte, Agar me ye video uhne dikau bhi, to bhi kuch-kuch english words includes hone se aapki baat ka pura matlab nahi samajh payenge. Like kuch kuch ple padega unke but saara ni... So request is, jo videos lower class parents ke liye hai waha english words use na karya kro jisse bilkul illiterate person bhi full samanjh jaye🙃
My parents neither compare with us with anyone nor openly praise in front of others as nazar is real 🤣 but my mil/fil always compares her sons, baki dils ka rona to automatically roti hi rehti h, ye nhi kiya vo nhi kiya ultimately kabhi khush nhi rehte😅😅
Guruji, job profile kaise analyse karein iske upar ek video banaiyee...
Sir make a video on this topic: books that should we read regarding finances or financial freedom etc
Mere ghar me... Nando ki bahut tareef hoti hai..Wo dur rehti hain.... Bahu bete sath rehte hain... Unki burayi hoti hai...
Mere parents toh dono ka mixup haan,
Wo kabhi meri burai karte haan kabhi meri tarif karte haan
And {[(I RESPECT MY PARENTS ❤)]}
Ye aadmi keval pagal bana raha haan youth ko, aur baccho ko bhadka raha haan unke parents se ladai karne ke liye
If we feel our kid is best, why will we compare with others. But whatever you pointed I agree for previous generations
Jaise foreign mein minimum wage hai india mein kya honi chahiye
😂😂mja aa gya
Clarity for Parents karke ek channel banaiye aur uspe daliye.
Some people told me not to send my child to hostel for graduation.The distance is too much .They think, I am trying to escape house work in morning.I have told he elders that solar power ke wajah se they are using better electricity.Aur I told that they want to make money out of kids.Isiliye Ghar par rakha hain.
Kindly make a video on topic: “If girls should claim their share in property from their parents or brothers after their marriage?” And if girls should stay for years at their parents home for one reason or other after marriage?
My father don't compare me with others but also don't praise me infront others. When I do mistakes my father never overreact only say agli baar s dhan rakhna samajh m naa aye t pehle puch k chizo ko clear krr lena.
Same bro
My parents have same mentality❤
Bhai mne to kehta hnu ki baccho ke ware mne baat hi nai karna cahiye…
Na hi positive aur na negative…
Jyada positive baat karenge to ristedar bhi jalne lagte hne…
Sanskar hai sanskar.. Ki hum kuch bolte nhi...
Sir mai apke 99% point se agree krta hu but fir b kuch point se disagy b krta hu
Its a very common habit in punjabi families... This demotivates the child.
I don’t think today’s parents compare .. it used to be before 90 born kids.
Mere parents na hi ninda krte hai na zyada tareef. They dont comment much on us with others. And just moderately
They dont allow to work
Good videooo❤❤❤
I am blessed
My mom is 1 st type and my dad is quite type 2
🙏👌👍
My parents are constantly compare me with other girls of my age. I m working right now and live away from them but still they want to impose their decision their choice on me fr Marraige, and don't want to accept my relationship with my bf.
They have given me a clear cut choice to choose between my father and my bf......
Whenever i visit home, Always do emotional drama infront of me so that I leave my bf.....
I don't know what to do
Marry your bf
Aisa bhi hota hai ki ek parent 95% mein hai aur doosri 5% mein, tab bachon pe kya impact padta hai?
50% ऐसे ही माता-पिता होते हैं
sir is there any video on only child families?
Bacho ke liye to Shravan Kumar aur Ganeshji jaise ideals hain, par parents ke liye koi nhi. 😢
Guruji, kya nikkammo ki sachchai sabko batana kyu galat hai, vo to vaise bhi kuch nahi karte aur na hi karne ki icchha rakhte hai to why we hide their habits.
Agar unke tukde par naa rahein, khud ka kama kar life enjoy karein, aur phir bhi woh hamesha disappointed rahein phir kya kiya jaaye????