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Give Men This Type of Pain & They'll Get Addicted to You
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To make people like you is not about saying funny jokes or about being entertaining. It's more about getting people to engage their emotions towards you. Trying to get a guy to like your using rationality will do nothing hence you should appeal to their emotions.
So why should inflict pain to make a guy love you? Because it appeals to their emotions, pain is a bigger motivation than a reward. And the fastest way to appeal to emotions is through pain and pleasure.
The type of pain I am talking about is to weaken them by creating internal division, making them doubt themselves, divide the ranks and their values by making them chase between the emotional values and rational values.
So what should you do? You can inflict pain by giving him criticism through this you can divide their attention because they would be thinking about what is inside your head. Also, you can act mad and if a guy likes you he will try to make it up to you. Another thing is you can get into an argument that can potentially be offensive. You can also create envy or jealousy by talking about other guys in your life. This will put the guy in a sexually competitive state. And the riskiest one is by leaving them or breaking up with them and I guarantee you they will always come back. Lastly is being inconsistent, canceling dates ahead of time, or do not always respond fast because whatever you can't predict you respect.
After inflicting pain you have to come back with pleasure. Don't just use words, make a bold move. Compliment them, make them feel assured or even surprise them.
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I once dated a guy who told me I was predictable. His coworkers had crushes on me. Imagine his surprise when I started dating one and friended the other. He didn't predict that!!!! Bahahaha!!!😆
Ahhh.... Good times!😆
Gold 😂
🤣🤣🤣
Love it😁
Love this! 🤣👊🏼 Very well done 👍🏼
Lololol
Inflicting pain then give pleasure afterwards....Pain: Being not available sometimes, cancellin dates, speaking about other men(no cheating), etc. Pleasure: invitation to dinner, invitation to vacations, etc... Thanks Alex this approach is base on psychology... But I wonder if this will work on a balanced person who has had a healthy childhood! I think it works more on traumatized guys!
Your advice works on dysfunctional and traumatised humans but not healthy functional people.... healthy, functional& balanced people don't play games and use effective communication as adults
He doesn't call himself the "toxic" dating coach for no reason!!!
Most people are sick hahahahah it will work
True Meem Aly in broken people this can become trauma bond
yes for sure
“Whatever you cannot predict, you respect.” Thank you, Father Alex.
So Everybody have to Respect Aquarians cause they are UNPREDICTABLE😂😂😂👌
Geminis too🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
Hmmm not for me. Unpredictability makes feel annoyed, then I leave annoying things alone.
Ladies stop 🛑 being nice to these dudes ❗️ he’s telling the truth ‼️
Yep……they always come back. If they go silent, I let them have the silence.
Boys only want love if it's torture. Don't say I didn't say I didn't warn ya. -Taylor Swift
Ohmygawd now ik what taylor meant
But women don't want the torture,😭😭
Yeah I get it and in the worst cases it includes destroying your own body and childbirth 🙄
Taylor is a narcissist
For real
“You could actually learn a lot from what people do to you.” - Father Alex 2022
Exactly because how the hell did I get emotionally attached to someone I didn’t even liked🤔
If you just behave naturally and be a bit more independent -- less needy I don't see this as toxic. It's healthy. Have your own life outside the relationship. This applies to everything. Balance!
Yep. ‘Idgaf’ attitude
Men looove pain it is absolutely insane
Toxic guys do not the nice ones
They crave it!!!
.....but it's true! They love a challenge!
They sadists
women do. u love being played.
Humans are strange
I do this shit naturally and the more I focus on me and ignore them the more they text 😂 I never have "valid excuses" tho, I just act like nothing happened
Girl, that's such a mood 😂😂💀
@@wilted_rose510 its not a game though, just how I live. If they wanna know they can ask lol
@@mysticempath5601 Exactly...but they don't care what you've got going on. They only want to talk/text about themselves...hence why they don't even care to ask. People are so stupid sometimes, life can be simple but most people love being complicated for No reason🤨
✨ Whatever you can not predict, you respect ✨so f*cking true
All the men I hurt are obsessed with me . 🖤💃🏽.
Hell I have one obsessed from 2016 from an old job
This lmao!!
So true!! All the men I have loved and been super nice to have all treated me like aholes.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
My mom always said, "Men love a mean b!#@$".....sad to say, "it's true!"
It's true! Every time I was the nice girl, they would act like cocky a(*holes. Then I show that shocking side, basically saying f you and bye. Next thing I know they're crawling back and chasing my a** down. I became more assertive and walking away is powerful.
‘Walkin away is effing powerful!’ Wat more incredible is having an attitude of ‘idgaf’ the entire time. Sometimes u’re nice but majority of the time, you jst don’t give a --
My boyfriend cheated on me i found out & i cheated back but he can't forget mine,he cries anytime he remembers i took revenge
🤣🤣🤣 it's the crying for me
LMAO you’re in his brain forever love love love it
Yes because that's how all healthy relationships start.
I pray your child is spared from being raised by you.
😅😅
Lol he cries
I call out my baby daddy all the time on his shit behavior. We broke up a decade ago, but he's still in love and fantasizes that we will get back together. It won't happen.
Yeap most men don't like to be called out especially by a woman. Lame and toxic as*** 🙄
😂😂 even my ex was behind me for ten years after breakup donno if he is still thinking of me
I do all this naturally. I just thought I had mental issues 🤣😭🤣😭
You do 🤣🤣🤣
Me too lol
Lol. I do sometimes…guys be calling me bipolar.
Me too 🤣🤣
Me too😂
Since I had my heart broken in pieces by a man I am going to be a bitch, not totally but I will never give my heart as spontaneously as I did before.
I second you hun😂
It is hard to come back from that but I love that I'm in control now
He said, "you can't just keep inflicting pain, your not a terminator..."
My toxic ass, "yes I am! " 🤣🤣🤣
It's the thrill of the hunt for men. Keeps them on their toes
You have changed my life I used overthink over care n always thought letting them win to silence conflicts
"Whatever you can't predict you respect...
I’ve broken up with all my ex’s & blocked them … they’ve either stalked me … called me from random numbers or kept harassing me on social media
So basically if you want to be kept or keep someone, you have to play games🤔.Personally am not built for all this🤦♀️
They naturally play games with us 💁🏽♀️
@@Pinkduccidollnot good men. Honestly good men don’t play games, they may make genuine mistakes but if you’re straight forward & he can trust you, they do NOT play games. You cannot build a life long relationship with games, it’s too tiring and painful.
The peace of mind you get from just being yourself minus all this drama is pure bliss!!!
This is genius! I’m going to watch again with pen and paper 😂. I’d been doing a lot of these things with guys just because I didn’t like them, but then couldn’t understand why I couldn’t get rid of them 😂🤣
I like asking guys questions about simple stuff like music when I first meet them. they think the reason I ask them the questions is because that's what I like so they tend to "agree" to it then I say oh, I actually don't like that and watch them trip over their words lmaooo.
Basically just be disagreeable
Plz don’t teach women to pay for anything-it’s wrong. A woman is not supposed to pay for anything-a man is a giver & a woman a receiver
Amen 😂
You mean to say you are a leech? Oh, yes. I got it. Humans incapable of caring for themselves.
Cute haaha
Then what's the point of your feminazi movement.Where you scream we want equality on the top of your fucking lungs.If you want equality it should apply to everything not only to fill your self fulfilling double standards.
Is this 1930
Dude… does this guy have an education in psychology or something? He’s too intelligent for YT 🤯🤯🤯 I ain’t heard no other content creator speak like how he speaks
I know right.
He could be born with it? You dont need any graduations/educations to know these things
He was child prodigy that preached the gospel to adults.
He is impressive indeed!
He studied psychology and was a social worker
Temporary “no contact” messes them up too😆
My no contact has gone on 3 months so far. Oops. Oh well.
So true 😂 am doing in it now 🤣🤣🤣
😂🤣😂🤣
I always broke up with them first, and never came back crawling 😂
Invest in those who earned and value you period!!!
The only rewards I'm good at is sex and physical affection, because I never want to be vulnerable, show feelings and lose pride. More videos on how to give warmth/good emotional rewards?
That’s me usually too!
Acknowledging his plans for you two. Dates, and acts of kindness, supports, gifts, compliments. Reward his efforts, when he keeps his word.appreciate after he pleases you.thank you, being happy, smiles, affection. Sex as a reward ummmm nahh for me unless engaged. Respect always.
On Time Video!!! I'm a Recovering " NICE Girl " and I will look into your course at a later date for Sure!!! Gotta work some things out first...I really Appreciate what you're doing!!!
I like that “recovering nice girl” lol 😂
Watch Chloe_ , Lisa Hart, Karine Arloude and Love Dorsey (I’d start with Love Dorsey first). She may be harsh when it comes to approach but she helps you with getting back to yourself first before dating , then go to Chloe , etc.
Manipulation - this is what narcissists do...
I broke up with a guy and he moved on within weeks, started living with the new gal almost immediately. Didn't try to get back or anything.
He wasn't for you anyway
Same here..he was with someone else anyway!
You were a placeholder.
Obviously all these kind of dudes can't be serious about anyone to begin with 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🙄
He did that because he was trying to get over you and imagined the idea of you with her. Its a rebound relationship, he will always be thinking of you! If nothing bad happened before you guys broke up that was insanely damaging.
I think I'm happier knowing he's in pain lol... He'll have to soothe himself 😛
Period 💅 well said, sis
The cat mouse game gets tiring after awhile and old. A balanced individual… a healthy one will move on
Men need to be challenged, cat and mouse will be natural if have own life. Little resistance, delay gratification unavailable at times. Its not hard adds spice.
Yea . I’ve blocked many men for this and they always come back looking stupid like a deer in headlights. I’m a grown ass woman and I don’t have time for these low vibrational childish ass games
@@ladyofspaexactly
I used to do this unconsciously all the time in my twenties.. just coming from a place of distrust and resentment and bitterness. LOL. I didn't think it through but the root belief that men suck just guided me the rest of the way. But then again, I attracted guys who suck.. so.. there is that. Maybe the men that go for this also hold the belief that they as men -- suck. At some point men have to just decide they are worthy of the real deal, trusting, sweet, considerate, consistent and sure, non-doubting true love. Its a journey I guess.. but I am so glad I don't act this way anymore. My insides are waaaaaay happier.
Or like when a short guy tries to diss me, i hurt their ego and say “too bad, youre the first short guy i ever liked”
this works? this can be something like ,,too bad, you re the first notmytype guy, I was attracted to"? XD
Nah. Thats not what I meant. They may not forgive you for that
Awesomeness 🆒
Lol maybe not that. Say something like “your temperament is short like you. Calm down, little fella.” Something like that maybe ? 🤷🏽♀️ I don’t care to hurt male egos depending on the type of man
Careful men pay back with long game. Consequences might work better then disrespect, depends on guy.
Hey alex ! Next topic about attracting new dudes ? Specially over social media
YESSSS!!!!!!!!
I agree
Attracting new dudes is easy. Its hard to keep them
Yeah!
Ooo this! And how to keep them.
Currently trying to regain control of myself and emotions as he almost succeeded at the game he was playing on me. I thank God ❤️ now he will pay for whatever he has done to me. It's a shame he's toxic and is responding to these kind of manipulations though.
Wait so you are investing your beauty intelligence energy, time into what you just described. Uhhhhh? He still wins.
I can’t wait to try this course. On pay day. 😩😂😂❤️
wow,it is so interesting that i have done such things you mention in my last 20 years of my youth,now I'm 37, and it still works ;)
Give me pain and I'll send you to kick rocks. I love myself far too much to put up with shit. I'll tell her to kick rocks like I have with even the closest people in my life. Hell no , a reward is a lot more motivated than pain. The avoidance of unnecessary pain specially is a great motivation but not the pain life is too short to be dwelling in pain.
I don't understand these guys telling all these women to give these men pain...love love love. Love without expectation and love yourself is all you need. There is no need to play games with men in this world. If they want you, they will naturally flow with you in their own time, if you don't want to wait for them, then move on. People are not all the same.
You might be healthier, use of this is for more hard headed males. Pain is consquence of disrespect neglect or pain inflicted.....not just because. I agree with you rewards are more effective, and if pain was part of my relationships I would be OUT.
The purpose of relationship is to be loving consistently otherwise what's the point, but I do understand Male psyche, and they require a challenge, and its give when required.
Trust me I don’t agree with this video. If I man does this to me I run for the hills and remove myself without a trace. I cannot
This works on toxic men… 😂
They always come back papi 😂☢️
Facts 😈
I did all this in the beginning. Sh!t I was on point!
Ladies listen, this is so true.
Is all fun and jokes until they start doing it back to us, and we don't like that!! LOL
Can you make a video talking about how to make dismissive avoidants chase? I mean, how to trigger the needy part of a dismissive avoidant.
U can try on me 🤣 i have dismissive avoidant
Why?
Yaaassss
Way way way too much work for the rest of your life. You will really doing the chasing.
The best way is by being cold and distant to them.
You're facial expressions always make my day 😜
Unless, “it’s for revenge 🤫 🎤 ”😂
This is the best I’ve ever seen your hair Alex!! Lol
I did all of this and he cut me off😂😂😂😂😂
😭😭😭😭😭
You were too obvious with it
*Learn to be quiet enough to hear the genuine in yourself, so that you can hear it in others.*
I like how this applies to relationships too, thanks for targeting a wide audience Alex 🥰
When I was Neurotic back in time I would get hooked on someone who'd do this...right know, after working on myself these things " hot and cold" repel me, I lose interest 🤔
Men don’t like needy woman remember that ladies , stop chasing and see if he’ll put in work
It's been 90 days no contact...
Oh well. Lol
I don’t want these type of attachments/soul ties. Don’t have time to play games like that.
Lol, i noticed that facial jump when I was being interviewed. I got the job.
I think the supreme example of how to get a man to adore you by inflicting pain must be Estella's treatment of Pip in Dickens's "Great Expectations." That's where I learned it, anyhow! Estella is my role model, though not when she marries the wrong man!
You're forgetting the social status disparity between the two individuals in Great Expectations. Pip has Estella on a pedestal, he feels unworthy of her love to a large extent. If he was of equal status and felt worthy of her time and attention I wonder whether her tactics would have had the same effect. She's also dysfunctional in that she's learned through her aunt that true love can't be trusted / doesn't exist. She creates an environment for herself whereby she doesn't recognise love when it arrives, instead pushes it away by hurting them before they hurt her. None of that is a healthy or secure way of relating.
Such a good read; one of my favorite novels!
@@NotUrAverage786 it’s wiser to marry for $$ and status though, that never changed. Women have just been programmed through Disney and other media to seek love
Yes !
You’re a gem Alex
How can you play a girl with a toxic dating coach father Alex let's go 😂😂
Tyrone the personal trainer busting in the video was hilarious! 🤣
Intermittent reinforcement always works 💖
My brother I hope you discuss that intimate relations is as much spit as physical! People seem to forge that I know you have known this forever! So thanks bro
Be careful when you play pain games with a dude unless you know his ENTIRE background.. For some of us, pain comes as a light to the eyes.
Come back tomorrow I like your videos everyday you make me laugh
I lovvvve this toxic shit🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Is it OK to cheat on my husband the same way he cheated on me???
Fuck yes
Do it
Sure
I love us 😎
Yes! The only way he will appreciate you, coming from a married woman.
Throw this type of shit out into the world and see what comes back on you!
Its the way he started the video😂😂😂😂
This is my venus in scorpio alone 😂
The introduction lol *Byee* 🤭
That is pretty funny 🤣. So if you are with a guy and obviously his phone is on “do not disturb” (pretty obvious- not 1 notification comes through in 2 hours). On one hand it’s kind of sneaky. On the other he is giving you his undivided attention…. Trying to decide how I feel about this. Lol. I’m being a dork and over thinking….
Look for consistency. It will tell you if it's an act or he's really into you and listening!
Eh I have my phone on do not disturb 24/7 but that’s because otherwise I’d be on my phone all the time. I don’t think it’s that deep plus if he had his phone on and it was going off that would be rude
I have my notifications off for all social media, if it’s important they can text me or call..nothing sneaky going on.
Loving the stashhh!!!! 😍😍😁💓
Do it all bros out there , the reverse psychology technique
Love you Father Alex. Thanks for this info. 😏
9:26 some guys are not willing to compete so if you really like them you could lose them by that
They’ll now put you in a position to show how interested you are in them so you can’t use it on any guy
You look like someone from a movie 🤗🤗your so beautiful with your hair 😘🤗
He looks like that little boy from the encanto movie but in a grown up version lmao
Betta call up Tyrone🎶🎵🤣
Ahhh, Alex I've missed you. Hope all is well.
I just broke it off with a guy last night because he got me all worked up sexually and then wouldn’t do anything about it. We’ve been dating for 3 months and haven’t done anything and this is how it went down.
My guy friend gets soo jealous but he doesn’t make a move wtf
i never heard of any of this how aweful why would ANYONE be with a toxic person?? ive been married 25 yrs happily i would NEVER do anything bad to my husband a person that i love...this is sick stay away from any woman who is mental there are plenty of us sane, normal hard working loving women out here.
I was searching for a sane comment and I found yours. But there are far too many women in the comments who say they have been doing this to men and they seem to love it. This just reinforces my views about women in general that they like to be mean and hurtful to men.
Wow I really love your comment. Good stuff
Why are you watching this video
Why are the both of these people watching this video? And the happily married one…are you happily married or are you both happily married? It has to be something that brought you too this channel
This guy is teaching scary game playing methods that will harm Humanity
Muah ha ha ha ha 😈😈
He really is
In the beginning I was gonna say the worst time to have a heart attack is while your having sex 😂
But if you die, you die happy 😂
Omg I noticed I do this subconsciously 😬😂
Your brilliant thank you 🙏 for educating
Alex showing off your Tyrone muscles. Lol
The guy im dating most definitely will retaliate
So true!
My crush blue ticked/left me on read and woow he was on my mind 24/7.
lol i do this naturally!!!
Lost my mind when Tyrone showed up talking crap
Alex I love your bouncy curls ! Great content 👍🏽
I do this naturally but I’m healing bc I’m considered toxic but yea it works and long term only been single 6 forced months of my life 2 long terms in the second now
He's teaching possibly normal people how to use toxic relationship game playing methods to purposely screw with the confidence and the psyche of another human. This is really gross. Relationship coaches like this are the reason that romance has become a Battlefield
Maybe dome coaches are destructive.. but the battle field been out there long before . Should you take any one persons advice 100% Hell no, but aspects... Folk have to educate themselves Alex is one of millions of messages. I suggest take a little and throw the rest away, as you grow you will know what works for you.
Your comments are sane and healthy. But the many other comments here just reinforces my views about women. Some are too toxic and say they have been doing all this since beginning. They like playing silly hurtful games so much. I have listened to other men's dating channels. They sometimes come across as hating women but almost none of them tell to hurt egos or inflict pain on the women. Too sad women have become like this.
Yea I agree Laura. Usually if a situation becomes unhealthy I just remove myself. I’m not a slave to my ego with something to prove like most people
No, its already like that.. men have been like this for thousands of years.. while women were so super tolerant and self-abnegating and submissive. Its the inevitable table turning. I mean.. its really not worth dating someone who is only interested if you abuse them.. like.. what a loser.. and you literally will just hate yourself more in the end. I can't blame women for acting like this, but they are going to destroy themselves.
This shit is halarious!😂 I laughed all the way through!