Men ONLY Fall In Love When They Feel This

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  • @madamemedusa1751
    @madamemedusa1751 Рік тому +117

    Many people here will hate on me but according to my experience , treat them like dirt and they stick like mud .

  • @user-py7pl1cg3w
    @user-py7pl1cg3w Місяць тому +6

    That's when he committed to me and I saw his vulnerability

  • @TheAttractionTriggers
    @TheAttractionTriggers 6 місяців тому +12

    *Love is a two-way street constantly under construction.*

  • @lynnmcdonald3401
    @lynnmcdonald3401 Рік тому +85

    Vulnerability is key. Without vulnerability there is no proper expression of emotions to the woman and therefore the woman will feel insecure….. if a man is not feeling secure he will not get vulnerable - so it is like an insecure man will repel a woman as she starts to feel insecure because he has not shared his feelings which means being vulnerable. Vulnerability is therefore a strength rather than a weakness. Great video thanks!

    • @katinahoffman5548
      @katinahoffman5548 8 місяців тому +3

      That’s where I’m at. So confusing and frustrating.

  • @danilaroche1156
    @danilaroche1156 11 місяців тому +56

    Relationship coach, Greta Beresaite asserts that men fall in love with uncertainty. That's one of the reasons they enjoy sports. She says men like a certain amount of stress and risk. I did a video with her a while back on UA-cam about my recent book, A Season Called Lonely: Managing it; finding its gifts.

  • @leilacarvalho409
    @leilacarvalho409 Рік тому +72

    Guys love to be trauma bonded like they mama did to them when they was little helloooo.

    • @tissanyx1167
      @tissanyx1167 3 місяці тому

      😂😂😂😂😅😅 Oh God😭

    • @Youcandoitto
      @Youcandoitto Місяць тому

      Damn! This is the sad truth

  • @whyjustwhy2168
    @whyjustwhy2168 Рік тому +46

    If they don't like u that much it won't work. And i mean even after sleeping together so many times. You can tell if a guy likes you fr

  • @Nopenottoday2480
    @Nopenottoday2480 Рік тому +42

    Once you heald , and you love your self, it's a life changing turnover,you don't need ...it comes to you❤

  • @mariakhalbedashvili821
    @mariakhalbedashvili821 11 місяців тому +41

    You have no idea how much you are helping me to overcome hard time by letting us know how our psychology works sensitively during falling in love with someone. Makes me feel like I’m not the only one and its just human nature, hormones and psychology. Makes me help to heal.

  • @saushakogo
    @saushakogo Рік тому +51

    Narcissistic people have the same fears

  • @ornellachloe
    @ornellachloe Рік тому +380

    I bet it's pain and fear of losing you

  • @citygirl713
    @citygirl713 Рік тому +37

    This reminds me of the video I saw with Manifest with Persis talking about detachment and how if we have a healthy self concept then things like someone leaving or not texting doesn’t effect you whatsoever because you still know your worth etc.

  • @Cannonejones
    @Cannonejones Рік тому +31

    The death information and the reality of losing a person, is a reality I fully came into when I lost my first husband who was the love of my life. Now I love harder and deeper and recognize LOVE -just as you describe it -Possibility of LOSS - right away. It is completely different outlook on life. The intensity I feel & show is NOT for the average man. ❤

  • @kamiliakami4816
    @kamiliakami4816 Рік тому +23

    Am addicted to your videos, agreable speech, authenticity and humor
    Its amazing Alex
    Thanks
    From Paris

  • @centrerandom5640
    @centrerandom5640 Рік тому +19

    I've been single 7 yrs now ❤❤❤ always pull away 😂

  • @transformyourlifewithGOD
    @transformyourlifewithGOD 11 місяців тому +15

    Pain is a psychological threat of attachment. True love doesn’t feel pain

  • @Cvill502
    @Cvill502 8 місяців тому +4

    God allows ppl to collide for a reason, for however long it takes to create that memory. And its true , love is a limbo of pain and pleasure combined.

  • @papersparrow
    @papersparrow Рік тому +21

    Oh my! Your writing is profound! It really hit me deep inside, because it rings so very true. This is by far your best video that I have seen 😮

    • @MissBluebirddays
      @MissBluebirddays 10 місяців тому

      Thats Robert Greene, he didn't write it 😂

    • @papersparrow
      @papersparrow 10 місяців тому

      @@MissBluebirddays I know it's mostly Robert Greene's content, but I'm pretty sure part of it isn't 🤔
      Correct me if I'm wrong. The part that struck me was about death

  • @kaitlynchavarria5267
    @kaitlynchavarria5267 Рік тому +18

    Maybe for men they need a pain whatever but for me if a man shows me any pain it pushes and I’ll never talk to u again 🤣😩🤷🏻‍♀️
    If your text to short, cut off
    If your being a serial liker on Insta, cut off

    • @kendrajones9708
      @kendrajones9708 5 місяців тому +1

      Lol, if your text too short 😂😂😂
      …But it seems like that’s all they know how to do is send a short text.

  • @moonstar1126
    @moonstar1126 5 місяців тому +2

    The Bank girl was using your tactics against the Guru himself 😂❤

  • @Iamsimplyfree
    @Iamsimplyfree Рік тому +23

    I loved that vulnerability poem.

  • @mahmed3451
    @mahmed3451 Рік тому +23

    You are my therapy, I loveeeee you

  • @oyungerelchuluunbaatar2756
    @oyungerelchuluunbaatar2756 5 місяців тому +1

    Shattering reality by pain, very good point

  • @angelwings6193
    @angelwings6193 7 місяців тому

    when you finish a chapter, it allows a new chapter to open up big hugs n Merry Christmas, Feliz Navidad,prospero anio nuevo !

  • @figs0775
    @figs0775 Рік тому +9

    Wow! Excellent videos - I enjoy them all and love how you tie in the audio books !! Amazing

  • @m-yi5yl
    @m-yi5yl Місяць тому

    Men I love you on Jesus. You have confirmed so many things that I had prayed for... Gob Bless! I am gonna to invest on your course till December!

  • @rosannapark3295
    @rosannapark3295 Рік тому +49

    That's attachment Father Alex. Not love. Love is stable. It's knowing. You might have been very misguided by your own feelings because you were emotionally vulnerable at the time and you were inlove with the feeling she gave you

    • @MindfulAttraction
      @MindfulAttraction Рік тому +8

      perhaps. Pls elaborate more if you could

    • @Marivi247
      @Marivi247 Рік тому

      @@MindfulAttractionDear father Alex, I agree with her because I read the book ‚attached‘ written by two psychologists and they mention that when we are for example in this dynamic of the anxious+avoidant couple, what we often perceive as intense love and passion is in fact an activated attachment system, meaning your instincts feel your relationship is threatened, which is a danger (and was even more in history), and therefore it comes up with so called protest behaviors like jealousy, or distancing yourself, or feeling passion to be more willing to get extremely close, all depending on the situation and the attachment styles of the people involved. They also said people who don’t have secure attachment or who often were in insecurely (anxious or avoidant) attached relationships often believe that the feeling of an activated attachment system is love, and so when they meet a secure person, they often feel like ‚there is no spark, no chemistry‘, not because they are not attractive but because they don’t activate your attachment system. In a secure relationship, we feel we can rely on them to be there for us, so we don’t feel these intense emergency feelings (or very rarely if we screwed up a bit). It’s nothing wrong with the feeling that a love can last forever (or until death…), that feeling can help people to be more secure and to build the relationship further because if you always feel scared to lose the other one, it’s hard to buy a house together for example. Activated attachment systems take up quite some energy and mental capacity so if that is ‚love‘, it’s not healthy in the long term. Secure attachment helps us focus on other things like sports and hobbies and self development because we don’t have to spend time thinking if they are distant or not. Can recommend this book, by the way love your growth especially in psychology and relationship dynamics as well as kindness ❤❤❤

    • @Marivi247
      @Marivi247 Рік тому +6

      Ps These days I believe love is more about caring about the other persons feelings and wellbeing mixed with some sexual and romantic feelings. More about building and investing than this intense feeling of passion

    • @elenap2215
      @elenap2215 Рік тому +3

      Love is unconditional.

    • @Tnc874
      @Tnc874 Рік тому +18

      Rosann you are a woman. He is a man speaking from the male perspective. This is our issue as women. We.think men are women, but they arent!!! Id listen to father Alex

  • @confidence7048
    @confidence7048 Рік тому +6

    That jump 😂😂😂😂

  • @private8302ee
    @private8302ee 8 місяців тому

    Uno i know its ur video even when i just see a pic without scrolling to see who uploads loving these

  • @ZoulAndii
    @ZoulAndii Рік тому +7

    Your videos are very helpful💯

  • @melliemcbride6183
    @melliemcbride6183 4 місяці тому

    Pain and love dark and light up and down as within so without….you can’t have one without the other as is life

  • @nicolereneecarpediem
    @nicolereneecarpediem Рік тому +7

    A whirlPOOL of anxiety :P
    Laughing so hard.

  • @user-py7pl1cg3w
    @user-py7pl1cg3w Місяць тому

    Ur right .. my ex changed when I pulled away and he thought I was talking to someone else

  • @josephinefurman3905
    @josephinefurman3905 10 місяців тому +1

    NEEDED THIS THANK YOU 🙏🏽

  • @morrisonfye
    @morrisonfye Рік тому +14

    Literally my ex has all of these signs but he’s still a cheater, so what does that mean?

    • @fembot521
      @fembot521 Рік тому +21

      It means that dating gurus don’t really know what they’re talking about! Lol

    • @danidiaz2377
      @danidiaz2377 Рік тому +29

      It means he’s insecure and looking for validation in how many women he can get and that he’s a waste of time.

    • @yourhealingjourney9824
      @yourhealingjourney9824 Рік тому +7

      It means he needs more validation from as many people as he needs

    • @Marivi247
      @Marivi247 Рік тому +6

      it might mean he is attached to you but is immature and selfish, or impulsive, or all of it, and therefore puts his needs for external validation before your feelings and relationship. Might not be a horrible person but maybe not ready to be a non cheating partner yet.

    • @Marivi247
      @Marivi247 Рік тому +3

      also might mean he doesn’t have enough respect for you or basically women or other people in general which again makes it hard to be his partner

  • @sue6307
    @sue6307 11 місяців тому +1

    I feel this so much for a certain guy. I know he doesn't love me but for 4 years I have been in love 😮‍💨

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 11 місяців тому +5

      You must find another passion or hobby and be open to the idea of an available man who will adore you.

    • @pinacolada1393
      @pinacolada1393 11 місяців тому +2

      I learned it could also be Limerence

    • @user-dc7iw3fu4e
      @user-dc7iw3fu4e Місяць тому

      You're not in love you're in delusion. Love flows both ways. It's not love if it's not mutual

  • @yourhealingjourney9824
    @yourhealingjourney9824 Рік тому +3

    Closing the channel again 😂

  • @lynnmcdonald3401
    @lynnmcdonald3401 Рік тому +1

    Tyrone is in the building 🤣

  • @Your_favourite_main_character
    @Your_favourite_main_character Місяць тому

    Even the greatest guys want a challenge. They are getting turned off with a woman that is not a challenge

  • @oliviagriffin8918
    @oliviagriffin8918 Рік тому +3

    How are your eyes feeling Father Alex?🙌🏾✨🎉💙

  • @sonyacurti
    @sonyacurti 9 місяців тому

    Love your style and videos ❤
    You crack me up!

  • @judithstevens4323
    @judithstevens4323 Рік тому +2

    THIS IS TRUE....💯💯

  • @Bella-mj4ry
    @Bella-mj4ry Рік тому +5

    is there a possibility for shorts or summaries.... or anything under 30 or 20 min. and cutting all the obvi stuff maybe, please?

    • @ra9552
      @ra9552 10 місяців тому +1

      this channel isnt for you then....

    • @DomiKldo
      @DomiKldo 7 місяців тому

      i too think 30 min is way too long, could be 15-20max.

  • @SanaKhan-md8co
    @SanaKhan-md8co Рік тому +5

    Is it a poetry I love it ❤

  • @ashleyhernandez4035
    @ashleyhernandez4035 Рік тому +2

    Lol Tyron 😂

  • @steph6109
    @steph6109 Рік тому +11

    Youre describining love as a low complexity trauma bond.
    ...thats not love, at least not for women.
    Eitherway. Thank you for your strength in being able to share that vulnerable time in your life so we can learn

  • @FourLeafClover888
    @FourLeafClover888 Рік тому +4

    Can you make videos en español? Por favor mi cariño

  • @aseretrivera1919
    @aseretrivera1919 Рік тому

    Dude, one flower? That's textbook playa

  • @marissahumblytherealistone8950

    Say MY Name RIGHTTT Tyrone 😝
    ...Lol

  • @rachelinthelionsden
    @rachelinthelionsden 11 місяців тому +1

    How do we know this isn’t limerence tho..

  • @bella3096
    @bella3096 Рік тому

    Love you Alex. ❤

  • @basshunter9018
    @basshunter9018 Рік тому

    what if we initate romantism/?? you def think it's the guy who always has to make the gesture?

  • @melaniastroe9072
    @melaniastroe9072 Рік тому +1

    What book is he reading of to?

  • @onaraider2007
    @onaraider2007 Рік тому +2

    Which audio book r u listening to ?

  • @leaperm3433
    @leaperm3433 10 місяців тому +3

    I think I caused too much pain now he doesn’t want me.

    • @nataliebtw4740
      @nataliebtw4740 10 місяців тому

      how so

    • @leaperm3433
      @leaperm3433 10 місяців тому +1

      @@nataliebtw4740 he said I’m abusive

    • @leaperm3433
      @leaperm3433 10 місяців тому

      @@nataliebtw4740 & he couldn’t make me happy.

    • @beac8238
      @beac8238 7 місяців тому

      this isn’t love. this is attachment. play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

  • @beeeasi12
    @beeeasi12 11 місяців тому +1

    That’s not love

  • @mjj5642
    @mjj5642 Рік тому +1

    Wheres Tyrone 🤨😩

  • @centrerandom5640
    @centrerandom5640 Рік тому +2

    Alex u look good 👍

  • @kimking3909
    @kimking3909 Рік тому

    So how do we get our ex back? What if he has begun a relationship?

  • @agitsjean7612
    @agitsjean7612 Рік тому +1

    👏🏻👏🏻

  • @jaleahs3214
    @jaleahs3214 11 місяців тому

    Yoooooo wtf 05:57 ?!?? wym

  • @shums77
    @shums77 Рік тому

    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @bianca-rq5wy
    @bianca-rq5wy 5 місяців тому

    Then don't start ti give lessons ti others if are in that state , sorry for you ! God is the only truth love and he is in every persson !
    Love is only at the soul level not at the underware level or joky mind level and is for building a real life !

  • @magnacrisne
    @magnacrisne Рік тому

  • @sarahbanana1554
    @sarahbanana1554 Рік тому

    Lol 😂😂😂 20:11

  • @eyehunee
    @eyehunee Рік тому +3

    Alexxxxxx🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤

  • @bianca-rq5wy
    @bianca-rq5wy 11 місяців тому +5

    Sorry but you are imature ....
    Untill you will not know what real love it is and Untill you will not love a woman in God for all your life then you will remain just a little Boy !

    • @barbarellla1553
      @barbarellla1553 5 місяців тому

      And you are mature, with this god-shit...

  • @BecomingaQueen
    @BecomingaQueen 8 місяців тому +2

    Loving your savage advise! 👑❤️