How to meet new people and places to make friends
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- Опубліковано 7 чер 2024
- Moved to a new city? As an adult, introvert, ambivert, or anyone in between, it can be hard to make new friends and meet new people.
In this video, I talk about how to meet new people and where to meet new people. The possibilities of meeting a really great friend, best friend, or even soulmate are huge! I've met awesome people in all the places that I've lived, and I want to share the tips I've used over the years so that you can meet some awesome people too!
In this video:
0:00 Intro
1:18 How to meet people standing in line
2:01 How to meet people at events
2:58 How to meet people at parties
3:40 How to meet people at events that have a meal involved
4:46 How to meet people anywhere
5:14 Where to meet people
5:24 Where to meet people with similar interests as you
7:06 Where to meet people with similar book interests as you
8:29 Where to meet people in your city
9:26 Where to meet people in a learning setting
10:29 Where to meet people who enjoy trivia
11:15 Where to meet people who love to dance
12:23 Where to meet people who loved being active
13:29 Where to meet people who love serving the community
14:06 Where to meet people who love running and hiking
14:40 How to meet all your neighbors at once
15:30 How to meet new people online
16:29 Share the ways you've made friends!
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Just being english
Great link! I want to read more of the article for later, but sadly, it hasn't worked for me since 6AM est.
Big hugs
Smart phone are normally owned by stupid people
I have really got inspiration from you ua-cam.com/video/9U-NrECVmg4/v-deo.html
1. Walk your dog - people talk to people walking a dog. People aren't nervous about saying something about a dog's appearance.
2. Go to the gym - I've made friends on the neighboring elliptical and in a yoga class.
3. Go on organized hikes - I was invited to the first one by a friend made while on the elliptical next to her.
4. Go someplace where you're the different one - I made friends of all ages, taking Korean language classes at a local Korean Catholic church. I ended up going to a wedding in Seoul.
How do u talk to people in gym? I mean usually they keep on their headphones and give a strange look if interrupted in between their sets.
As an introvert who moved to a new city during a pandemic and forgot how to socialize 😵💫 this was helpful. Thank you!
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You have way bigger problems if you forgot how to socialize IMO
Same!
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I think the main key is you have to be willing to actually meet people. It is one thing to go and do these things, but you must be committed to actually calling the people and hanging out a second time
Maintaining new relationships really is the hardest part.
Friends require time, attention and money to do things. As you get older, you lose friends because your time gets eaten by work and then your family. Also your personality gets narrowed down when you're older, you are a little more picky with who you let into your life. The struggle in new friendship and dating is not meeting people, its meeting and maintaining relationships with quality people. You do find those ass kissers who like to know everyone and pretend they're everyone's friend but they're shallow and tend to gossip. The easiest way to make friends is actually in academic courses or like gym classes.
I agree with everything you said except the last statement. I'm guessing for you that academic courses and gym classes have a lot of relevance. You make friends in activities that are relevant to you both.
@@deanlol yeah, the less time you have the less time you can invest in friends. You can have classmates, coworkers, good neighbors, and people with similar interests. But really just a few friends who will stick with you no matter what
same thinking here and I agree with that, I've also been unfriending a lot in my social media, I do have a close circle of friends where I can really consider them as part of my life but with others they are just friends by just term, I usually use the word acquaintance
Jn, see the thing with me is the opposite. I'm 18 and have few people in my life because I'm just so careful I guess. But I wanna open up more and meet new people. And I believe that with that, I'll form some good and lasting friendships.
1. Look for long lines
2. Go towards people
3. Go early and leave late
4. Graze
5. Bring the right wing person
10 places to meet new people
1. Highly specialized events
2. Book clubs
3. City tour
4. Language class
5. Trivia night
6. Dance class
7. Specific fitness class or gym
8.Volunteer work
9. Hiking or run club
10. Block parties
Bonus: offer public advice or help
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If I didn’t see the video, I would’ve read number five differently. What, bring a fascist along with you? Lol
I’ve done literally every one of those and still can’t meet ppl.
11. Sign up for penpals online, through a language exchange site, or sign up for a language meetup, like a tertulia for students studying Spanish.
@@RatedRLoquender wow why
So reassuring to hear it's normal to lose friends at 25. I lost all my friends last year as I turned 25 and I really needed to hear that.
I'm (almost) 25!! Too :)
It kinda makes sense that the friendships of our youth start to fall disappear. Most of my old friends are still partying like teenagers getting drunk/high all of the time, I'm no longer interested in that lifestyle so I had to expand my friend group to include people that share my current interests.
When I was in university, I realized 90% of my college peers and friends would move to other cities upon graduation. It's just that the town we were in didn't offer amazing job opportunities at the time. But I liked it in there and was actually hoping to make a life for myself there. So, one day I thought to myself "I should definitely start looking for like-minded people outside of university so that when my friends leave, I have someone to hang out with." And this is how I signed up for salsa classes. I had always been a huge fan of dancing; the only trouble is, I liked to dance at home. Alone. So, this was a huge step for me given that I'm an introvert. Best decision ever! To this day, I still thank myself for being this bold. I can't believe it even crossed my mind. 😆 I vividly remember that flush of excitement that struck me at the end of that first class. I'd had so much fun that I wanted to explore different styles of salsa, and then I also got into bachata which turned out to be my biggest passion. Dancing taught me a host of lessons that I will never forget. It helped me be more persistent and socially active; not to mention I managed to build physical and mental skills.
By the end of the year, I had already made the acquaintance of more than 70 people outside of university. (And my goal had been to know a person or two, that's all, and then who knows...) I'm not saying I made friends with everyone but that wasn't my objective anyway. Over time, I swapped out dance clubs, so my social network expanded significantly. In the meantime, I also changed jobs, which brought more opportunities to meet new people.
However, a couple of years ago, I moved to a different city where I didn’t know a single soul. Based on my previous experience, I was super confident I was going to meet new people. All I had to do was join a dance club. (My backup plan was to enroll in a language course but that didn’t pan out.) The problem is, none of the clubs I went to appealed to me. See, when I was starting out, I was a beginner with no expectations or requirements. I was happy with whatever was offered to me because there was nothing to compare. However, 9 years later, I was no longer a beginner. I knew exactly what I wanted to get from those classes. I was looking for certain traits in the instructors and I just couldn't find that thing anywhere. Instead of having fun, I was annoyed and displeased with their lack of professionalism and questionable teaching skills. My money was better spent somewhere else. It was overly disappointing and heart-breaking because not only did I not make new friends but I also didn’t get to dance with other people anymore. I couldn’t practice the lead and follow roles, which is the fundamental thing about social dance. All I could do (on my own) was footwork and spinning techniques.
The funny thing is, I once went to have my hair done and the hairdresser turned out to be a hobby dancer. We ended up attending a couple of salsa parties together. But other than that, I still haven’t found a club that meets my criteria. And then the pandemic hit. Everything was all over the place, I forgot how to socialize, and I’m still trying to figure out how to lower my expectations so that I can join a course or something. It’s more than challenging to meet new people when you hit 30. You have a job and other responsibilities to take care of. Most of your friends are married now; no one has time to hang out. And you also are picky AF. I hope to be able to fight my inner demons some day.
I met my boyfriend in an old cafe that is supposedly haunted. Knowing this, I turned around and let the guy behind me in line know. There was an instant connection. I told him he has kindness in his eyes and he told me that he was very drawn to me for some reason. We were together for the next four years until he passed from leukemia. I highly recommend the long lines advice.
Omg 🥺
Sory for your loss.
This is all excellent advice. This has been on my mind lately. I will put these into practice!
These are all good ideas! Somewhere strange I have met people for the music lovers: not just going to concerts, but going to the VIP of your favorite band/musician. You will meet so many people you have a lot in common with just for having the same favorite artist.
Thank you so much for this information. This is gold to me. I have asperger's syndrome and I get anxiety when approaching people, but I wouldn't mind giving an honest compliment to someone that might be in front, behind or next to me.
I'm so looking forward to trying all of this.
Vanessa, just found you doing an interview with Lewis Howes and Tom Bilyeu, I’m hooked , you make it all seem very straight forward. I’m 57 and find my self with no friends, changing career due to health issues and trying to find the real me. Quite daunting but with your help will be a lot easier now. Thank you
I am someone who was very introverted and shy when I was younger. I forced myself to be sociable. I'm usually the guy who throws his arm around someone. I love people and being around them. Great video Vanessa.
I love this! Thank you for creating this content! My mahjong group chose Ikea to play one day because there are round tables there with lots of space. A woman approached our table to say that she played, too. I was the extrovert in my group so I took her phone number--and I continued to follow up with her. We've been friends for over five years now!
Love these Vanessa!! So many I had not thought of:) Thank you for all you give to the world, your energy is contagious❤
Lets be friends 😊
Awesome video! I'm sort of an extrovert so it's more often that I don't know ways to meet new people rather than the approaching and starting a conversation part. This was helpful! One I might add is at the mall or at a bar, but maybe those are too obvious. Anyway, I hope you have an amazing day whoever's reading this, and that we can all make loads of new friends.
Excellent points! I’m a very outgoing and social person who thought I knew it all! You showed me new spots I had never thought of!!! Thank you! I love the Ghost Tour idea! BTW, my personal BEST advice from a 56 year old man who’s lead a blessed life - Instead of looking for people who have similar interests, which is like searching for a needle in a haystack sometimes, SIMPLY GO where they are. Use your imagination of your BEST LIFE and PARTNER; What are you doing? Where are you at? NOW, go there!!! Because your future partner is already there!
This! 🙌 Thanks for your advice :)
I appreciate you taking the time to make this video. I have marked this as a favorite video.
The language class was a real gem 💎… definitely adding that to my routine.
FANTASTIC ADVICE - thank you! will give to students in my etiquette classes - even great idea for me since I am new to Virginia.
Oh wow, hopefully this will helps your students. I’ve always wanted to join an etiquette class 😊
I like her when she is speaking with so passion
Hello Vanessa, have not heard from you a quite a while. A relative question on my mind, yes, how to meet new people in a fairly new city of Sydney.
Think I am an ambivert and enjoy being alone as a creative, so have to make a conscious effort to get out of my own way, or comfort zone in order to meet like-minded people. Thank you, for the kind advice and grounded wisdom. Love your advice about the queues/lines. So true, remember, waiting in a queue at a nightclub for the toilet, clearly a shared human need and goal, means people's guard comes down and they are potentially more open for converse in chit chat.
By the way, Vanessa, love the radiating positivity you generate through the internet. Contributing towards a conscious web 3.0.
Love and light, peace and prosperity from Sydney, Australia.
Best clip on this topic I’ve seen so far. 🙏 thanks
Thanks for this video. I have lost close friends over the years due to shyness and ultimately isolating. Wish me luck in finding and cultivating my community.
You've got this!
Thank you, Vanessa for an excellent video. You always give the best advice.
I’m new but this is definitely great advice. I love how she breaks everything down 😊
Wow! This is excellent tips! Thank you Vanessa!
This is a goldmine that I’ve been looking for all my life
Best, speicific concrete and easy sounding adivce that I have heard in a long time. Pick what sounds fun..... and go for it! Thanks Vanessa!
Thank you Vanessa!
These resonate with me:
-book club
-language class
-dance class
-specialized fitness class like cross fit, Pilates, swimming
-walking/hiking, running group
-block party
-offering advice
Amazing!! I'm excited for you to give these a try =)
Such a great recommendation. I will definitely try specialized city tour in my own city, I am sure I will discover new spots and make new friends.
A lot of great ideas for meeting people. Thank you. I know you said we lose friends at the beginning (based on a study), but didn't say why. I wish to keep life-long friends. Also, there are now online chats/meetings. Not sure if we can rely on those for a true connection
I miss book clubs !!! I went to a good one before covid hit. Great place to meet new people !! Edited to add: ...I went to a latin music festival( highly specialized event) and before the festival , they had a dance class. I would agree that would be an awesome place to meet people. The instructor had people switching partners all through the lesson..it looked like so much fun... I have thought about starting a hiking club through meetup !! It would benefit a person in at least three ways: getting outside, getting exercise and meeting people.
I love this. Thanks for the tips, Vanessa! I'm planning to move out of my parent's house after graduation but I'm getting scared of meeting new people (or making any friends at all). I'm hoping all will be well 🤞
Amazing info! Thank you 🙏🏼
My tip: Offer to tutor or teach classes 1 on 1 or in a small group (in academics, sports or hobbies), such as on Craigslist. OR: take up a 1 on 1 lesson or a group lesson.
Lines, multiple buffet stops, niche in own city tour and suggestions from host were my favorites. Maybe a language class will make sense in the future for me too.
I like the comments about dance classes. I could definitely talk more with people there
The best of luck to you on making new friends 😊
You are awesome Vanessa! This is a great video! Thank you for posting. :)
I tried what you suggested at work today… going to where the people are.So I sat In the break room instead of eating at my desk. It worked! I got nervous and talked a lot. Tomorrow I will do a better job of asking people about themselves..Thank You
I'm so glad to hear this! Thank you for sharing. :) Keep up the great work!
I love your energy and advice Vanessa! I followed your Mindvalley class and I'm so happy for all you post here on youtube so I can continue to learn. I would like to add one : I don't have a dog to walk but apparently that is also a super effective way of meeting people. ;-)
Yes, definitely! When I had a dog, I knew all the neighbours!
Yes indeed... when I had my dog while walking her on the street or in the park I've met a lot of new people... not really making real friends, not really finding that special someone that could become a significant other... but definitely a lot of new people...
Pandemis started and I couldn't greet people as I usually do before. Watching this video helps me a lot to gain my confidence to be comfortable around people again.
Another study I heard of (can’t remember the study) showed that marriage is a big contributor to why people lose friends. Which I would say people start getting married around age 25. Could marriage be a driving factor of why people lose friends?
I would agree. When people get married and start having families, their attention turns inward to the household.
As someone married for 14 years with 3 kids (I’m 43), I WHOLEHEARTEDLY agree with this. I love my family and regret none of it, but social life is zero. You have no time to focus on anything other than your kids and work, especially if family members refuse to help you look after the kids. Slap a pandemic in the midst of this and boom! No friends.
When you focus on family or personal goals you lose the time and the desire to hang out with people. And sometimes when you turned them down often enough because you have different priorities, they stop coming around. Then by the time you realized it, the time has passed, and you feel awkward reaching out to them out of the blue. I've been on both ends.
Only simps lose friends after getting married..
Captivate is one of my core go to books since I understand too that not finding, building, and maintaining relationships did not serve me, not at all. Thank you so much for that book. This video was amazing too, thank you! I’m looking forward to reading your new one! Congrats! 🎉
Long Lines Is An Excellent Way & It Really Works Well. Never Thought About Other's (( Will Try )) Excellent From Start To Finish.
These are all good ideas! Thanks for this great video!
Always love to hear you Vanessa 💓
u are truly a great mentor 😍
Great tips! thanks for awesome knowledge
I learned something. Thank you for the video. I'm going to practice some of your strategies.
I really do love going to a gathering early and leaving late. 😁
Meet new people was a DANGEROUS advice to me, because two of them in 2 months, turned out to be criminals.
You might meet great people, but you might also meet crap people, let alone serial killers.
So my question is how to FILTER people?
You can’t unless you read minds. So either take risks and live an exciting but possibly dangerous life or play it safe, stick to what you know and live a safe but boring life
@@Ready4Whatever You can by experience you mean. But yes, I love this life and I am willing to take risks daily.
@@aleksdeveloper698 you can usually tell who's a scumbag just by the way they carry themselves. At least in my experience
@@Ready4Whatever live a safe and boring life since I was a teenager this stops this year
@@louie8425 good luck my g
These are INCREDIBLE tips!
Thank you so much God bless you
Thank you for this eye opening video.
Thank youuuu vanessa im trying to put myself out there after a long time
Lol I use the grazing! Between the stress of my awkwardness in social settings and using food to comfort my anxiety it is a master recipe to pack on a few pounds but I can always find a way to talk to people about food
Thank you so much for this video ❤
Wow!! This video is so underrated. And living in a Latin American country, with a different culture, I can say that all of this works
ahhhh... the meeting people at the gym is hard!! Everyone has headphones on & their music is hard core blasting...
I'm going to give this a shot. I'm 52 and actually haven't had friends since I was in my early 20's. Never really cared actually. I'm about to retire and move to another country and for my wife's sake, I want to get better at this and actually make friend with people. She's actually good at it.
"What I am is good enough if I would only be it openly." -Carl Rogers
Talking to random strangers is probably not the hard part. It's the next step in getting to the point of exchanging numbers and gauging that they actually want to hang out with you and vice versa. What do you say to somebody you'll talk to but have no intention to hang with nicely if you have to see them again in the social setting?
A good way might be to ask if they have an IG account and if they will be sharing pics from the event or something like that. Then you have the DMs to communicate. Or give them your name card if you have one, because usually then they give you theirs back. Scribbling down numbers is a little too intimate for a first encounter.
About your last question, I have a highly charismatic friend who people always want to be around and try to make sure they are with her at social settings. She keeps busy serving or helping to set up or clean up. She loves to help, so those who want to help too hang out with her, but when it’s over it’s over. When they ask her to go out outside of that, she thanks them for thinking of her and says no without saying no. If they are persistent, she just says she can’t and thanks them sweetly again.
Yep... especially in the US culture people are usually nice and smiling at a first time encounter and chit chat... but when it's about to move to the next step everyone gets scared and they politely refuse...
I basically grew up in a gym since I was 7-8 y/o, practicing organized sports, to this day as an adult, my favorite being the "wet areas" - swimming pool,, sauna, steam room, and hot tub whirlpool jacuzzi - and indeed I've met a lot of new people, yet never a significant other... oddly how that works, no one is willing to move to the next step beyond the simple chit chat and pleasantries...
Sadly that's the world we live in today...a simple and sincere "I like you!" won't do it anymore...
@@gabeghiby6935 Undoubtedly, your statement is valid and I could not agree more. The best advice I can give is not to feel anxious and overwhelmed, and always be yourself. This makes it so much easier to connect. If they become unintended in you, their loss. 🙂
@@cheekymonkeygirl3378 I also fully agree with your statement...
yes, indeed, what's the point in being with someone, if you can't be yourself in the presence of that someone... and why stay with someone, if you have to play some kind of a role, not being yourself, just to please the other person... it won't last...
since I fully agree with that as well, I am always myself, or if I feel I can't do it, I just walk away,...
last but not least, indeed, know your value, and if they don't open to connecting, to move to the next phase, it's their loss...
but sadly, that's also the main reason for failed relationships and marriages, either because people are so afraid to try the next step, or because of shallow and meaningless encounters...
it seems to me, people don't know how to communicate at a deeper level... I mean it's OK to exchange pleasantries in a small chit-chat, but it's not OK anymore (if single and available) to exchange numbers and try to see if there is some real chemistry there...
how odd is that?? media and their buggy man spoiled the simple natural communication between people...we all wonder in our heads "what if he's a creep??" or "what if she's a psycho??"... better run...
Thank you for the advise.
I love this video, even though some of the things would be a bit harder to do in my country. I am a strage mix between introversion and extraversion, but when it comes to meeting new people, I am a 100% introvert. A friend recently sent me a joke saying "How introverts make friends: 10% they don`t. 90% An extrovert found them, liked them and adopted them." I could totally relate to the joke! 😄🙈
Btw. I have been going to courses, language classes and stuff my whole life, but I think I should definitely go more to hikings, excursions, stuff like that.
P.S. Covid-time doesn`t really help much with going to places... 🤨
Your situation was same with me 😄
In my country it's just hard to do that tips, infact people now usually use online regulation for anything, even at the cinema, so how to get into the long line.. it's hard to find a long line 😂
And as an introvert..your friends joke was really hit on me too hahaha
I'm not choosing friends, but they take me and adopt me because all of my friend is extrovert 😄
You, miss, have changed the course of my life 😄
thank you for all the tips vanessa
I was a late bloomer and actually had the most deep friendships when I was from about 26-36. Since that time, friendships have slowly been getting distant as friends get married, have kids, move away, etc. Now at 47, I almost feel like I'm starting over. Revisiting old friendships that fell by the wayside, making a few new friendships here and there, but overall just feeling more distant from people. These tips are great, I used to actually do some of them. It's time to reincorporate them. Thank you!
So glad you're going to reincorporate these tips into your life ❤
Very good achievable advice!
Super great post
Came across you randomly
Love you!
This video is a crack up! Thanks Vanessa!
Vanessa, this is great advice!
So glad it resonated!
Great video. Now I feel like I need to know what to say when I get to these places 😂 I have such a hard time with initiating conversations and small talk. Seems like the specialty type events may work well for me since there’s already a connection
Your videos are great and useful, the only anoying thing is the mic. Thanks for sharing such valuable information :)
Amazing presentation and such an important thing
It's tough meeting women friends that have their crap together. I end up being a "psychologist" for them and because they are so focused on their issues they literally don't care about me. I don't have a ton of issues so I tend to stay quiet and just listen. I am a pushover and get taken advantage of repeatedly.
I am in the exact same situation 😊I meet people all the time and after awhile they only want the friendship to be focused on them. I still refuse to give up. Eventually I think I will find a real, genuine friend best of luck to you my friend 😊
@@MsTwiththeTea1980 love the positive perseverance 💪! Best of luck to you as well. 🙏
@@TheLk35mm thank you so much 😊
I love this video!! Would you be able to do one like this but meeting people during Covid or when u can’t actually go many places?
Hi vannesa, nice tips to talk too...☺️☺️
Finally watched this video!!! Thank you
Thank you for watching =)
This was super helpful! I feel like I ‘lost’ some friendships in the past 2 years partly due to the pandemic and now I want to put myself out there more again.
As an introvert one thing that has helped me in the past is the staying late at events tip. I always find it much easier to meet people that way because it’s less overwhelming, people seem to be more open to chat, and if you’re an introvert you also have a better excuse to leave if it gets too much haha 😅
Hi Katherine I'm from India 🇮🇳
U wanna be my friend ? I just randomly msg cz I hv no frnds and feels lonely
Omg me2
Am so sorry dear friend please can we be friends
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for this! Perfect timing as we come out of mask mandates and go into Spring. Many of us have been isolated and have lost friends who have move away. Time to meet new friends!
The best of luck to you my friend 😊
Very good advice, Thanks
You're so welcome!
Your video is FANTASTIC!
9:38 I learned to speak Spanish through Rosetta Stone and with the help of my customers at work. The customers at work were so so so super sweet when it came to helping me learn the language. Its like i was invited to a whole new world and culture, so cool. Literally the coolest thing that Ive ever done is learn to speak Spanish.
You have no idea how much it helps me 😭😭😭
I'm soo glad this was helpful ❤
These are some damn good ideas. Subscribed :)
In addition to fitness and books, there are lots of other clubs that really facilitate meeting people, like astronomy, quilting, chess/checkers, etc. etc. I would also add to the hike/run club, specifically, biking clubs. It's true that you can't talk while biking, but inevitably you will need to take breaks to drink water and maybe enjoy the view, and there's your opportunity! Basically, just think of a significant interest or hobby of yours, and even if it's not traditionally thought of as being a group activity, look it up, and there is probably a club for it. And, if you absolutely _cannot_ find a club for your favourite hobby, you might just want to consider _starting_ one yourself!
Of course, if you attend church, there may be group activities through your church that you don't know about, too, like picnics or hikes. If you are not well-connected at your church, it's a good idea to ask one of the officers (e.g. deacon) what activities there are that will help you connect, especially if it's a large church. As a bonus, you might find that some people at your church can help you meet new people outside of the church (such as inviting you to dinner where they also have their own neighbours over, etc.).
My main problem now is that I live in the country. Basically, if I don't want to spend a lot on gas, the only way to meet new people is to deliberately try meeting the neighbours, of which there are not many. They are too far away to just wave and say "good morning!" while taking out the trash, so it's not very introvert-friendly. On the upside, there is a township picnic every year, and one of these years, we'll be able to go. But we have managed to meet a few of our neighbours, and while we need to be more proactive in fostering these relationships, it is surprisingly easy to connect with people when you make the effort. For instance, one couple is into gardening. So are we! That is the subject matter of most of our conversations. Another neighbour we met simply because we needed to borrow a utility knife. Not only did she lend us hers, but we got an open invitation to come over and use her little cellar whenever a potentially tornadic storm comes through because we live in a mobile home. We have made use of this multiple times and if you want an opportunity to chat with someone, try being stuck with them in a cellar for an hour. It works.
Best advice I could ever give, though, is simply to find some way to do something kind for another, especially in a context where it isn't expected of you. Our neighbour who lent us her knife, we thanked for this favour by giving her some produce from our garden. She thanked us in turn by giving us some flowers from her garden to grow. 😀 Because even if you connect with a new person, it won't become a friendship if you don't find a way to deepen your bond!
I absolutely love the volunteer one, by the way.
Thank you for sharing those!
These wre really cool and interesting. Can't wait to try some
Loved this!
Awesome suggestions!
I’m in a new place (Florida) thanks for the video!
Thank you!
You're welcome!💕
It's cool listening to you.
I'm so glad! Thanks for taking the time to watch. :)
Greatness! Awsome! I have some new ideas! Thanks✨💫🥇❤️🔥
Thanks for sharing this amazing video ❤
Of course! Thank you for watching ❤
I would recommend Toastmasters. Good learning environment with positive people.
Going on a cruise is a good way to meet people from all over. I went on a cruise and I’m introverted and I tried to avoid people but some will introduce themselves without you asking lol. I had so much FUN and met so many interesting people
I have been thinking about going to one! Did you go alone?
@@monicamendoza314 I went with my family. It's best to go with someone your first time around. But if you don't mind going solo, just be mindful of your surroundings. Be safe.
Thank you very much ❤
You're welcome 😊
Great tips!
Great video and suggestions 👍🏾
I agree 😊can’t wait to try some of these
It's nothing wrong with a vampire fiction book club... I've ran a community of vampire lore and roleplay in SL - Second Life - since 2006 to this day...we have hundreds of active members enjoying the RP and learning the lore about this theme...
That being said, sadly in real life just meeting new people and striking out a simple pleasant conversation, especially in the US, is easy enough and your tips will definitely help... what's sad is that no one is willing to move to the next step beyond the simple chit chat and pleasantries and maybe exchange numbers... it's fine to chat then and there...but not outside that setting, whatever the setting is...
But I enjoyed your video nonetheless...
Nice information
I have no problem starting conversations but have trouble with anything after that (converting to an actual friendship) - any advice?
Same