"Find a way to join different groups of people that already exist in hobbies or interests that you already have"... Unfortunately unless you live in a city, that doesn't work. There are no groups of people that do anything in smaller towns aside from hunters that do group hunts, alcoholics that get drunk at the pub habitually, or families doing family activities 😭 I googled things to do in the town I live and what came up was berry picking, a café, and a cardboard box "boat" race 😂
Agreed. I moved from a big city and the groups and hobbies in my area are things that I have zero interest in… I think her advise is very basic. If it was that easy, then there would be no need for this post Not everyone is a basic yoga chick
Love that! It’s definitely not something you should over think, but I do think intentionally meeting people that turn into friends as an adult can be challenging
I'm at uni now and I don't know anyone. It's been almost a week already and seeing everyone around me already being friends with each other just makes me depressed.
I'm introverted and I know quite a few other introverts. One of the challenges I am constantly faced with is kind of being in between in age. Living in a retirement community and I'm too young for it, yet I'm too old to be hanging out with people in their 30s and 40s. I just want to connect and have great conversation. I keep trying, but I do find that many people are either too busy with their kids and family or job and just don't want to be bothered. And that apathy of people wanting to have friends yet not going out of their house to create that space - is something that many of us are struggling with.
I don’t go out really besides work and I really don’t feel like I vibe well with any of my coworkers. I relocated 2 years ago and just don’t know where to start
i been living a alone lonely depressed life from last 5 yrs i dont have anyone to talk from last these yrs my school friends we lost contact a while ago i struggled a lot stayed at home never out but this year i decided to give up on this habit beat my fears try new things new hobbies & some friends to spend lil time with 🎀wish me luck i will find the best people soon
Great video! I’m guilty of wanting high quality friendships but I don’t go out to make any friends! I get scared of awkward silences bc I’m very quiet! I need to follow your tip and have some questions ready! Lol
I agree, I hate awkward silences. I know coming “prepared” with questions might feel weird or like you’re interviewing them but I feel like it gives me a little security blanket to avoid those lulls and awkward silences!
My closest friends are introverts!! I am an ambivert and it took me a while to understand a real introvert, but I learned to value a lot their friendship as it is so sincere, deep, genuine...
Great practical advice, I love how you mentioned to agree to participate when people invite you out! It’s important to show up for people and show ourselves friendly if we’d like to have friends! God bless y’all! ❤️🙏✝️
Completely agree. Last 3 people I thought I had a good thing with. One after a week wanted bail money. Another after a week of very good fun conversation somehow found where I live a threatened to slit her wrists (on my front porch) with a utility knife unless I gave her a place to stay and alot of money. Had to call the police ( she was having a breakdown) the next we talked almost 4 hours everyday. He was very turbulent. Knew him for 2 years. Kept saying I love you, I hate you, lose my #, why don't you talk to me any more, when we get married, he was all over the road so I said goodbye.
Great tips, I’m definitely an introvert but I’m in a stage in my life where my children are grown and I have a lot of time on my hands and stared feeling lonely. I love the Facebook group idea. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and ideas with us 💕💕
A friend is someone that is willing to spend time with you without being paid. And you are willing to spend time with them without being paid. Keyword WILLING. Situational friendships (where people have no option but to spend time with you) is not a true friendship. However situational friendships may lead to true friendships (as willing to spend time with someone usually means that you like how a person acts)
Well done. I found myself alone at 31 in a big capital, it is definately cool to be able to survive on your own, but you gotta have some quality friends! Hope to use some of those tips.
Love these tips! I'm bad with convo luls but questions fill the space! Also going to a networking event this week which is great practice for being outgoing!
Hi, very useful video yes is so hard to make some friends they say having friends is important too because your friends can help you and support you they are always with you in good and bad situations they are like your second family thank you so much for this one I enjoyed it so much have a nice day.
As a young adult who graduated recently, I discovered how my friendships were superficial !! searching up this topic and taking notes on how to actually interact with others made me feel some how lonely, but I'm grateful for the tips you're putting out here, thanks !
I’m so glad you found them helpful!! Friendships post-graduation are so hard. I learned a handful of mine from college were superficial as well and it wasn’t for me. It takes time to start over with building friendships but it’s worth it when you find a really solid group! 💗
Alot of the suggestions that you have assume that everyone lives in bigger cities. Towns with populations under 10,000 do not have all of these social options available. I have to travel 60 miles to buy a pair of shoes that don't come from Wal-Mart for example. Yoga is a foreign word. Tractors and four wheelers are common forms of transportation.
It’s definitely a 2 way street. You need to find people that are also interested in getting to know you too. You have to continue to ask them to hang out over time, it just takes time. I’ve been in my new city for just over a year and I feel I finally have one, maybe 2 good friends.
Here's what no one will tell you: There is no such thing as real "friends". People are only drawn to people who can provide something for them, if you don't have anything useful to provide for other people then people will never speak to you. If you think friendship or even love is a real thing, its because you were likely raised by idealistic/codependant parents that have convinced themselves that these things are real to cope with the fact that they'll never be loved. I wasted 15 years of my life with rose colored glasses thinking that people actually cared about me only to find out that my value to others was entirely superficial. Dont bother trying to make friends unless you are prepared to be discarded as soon as you have no value to them anymore.
Yea i tried the advice in this video and I got rejected , ghosted, and even bullied so id say that the whole idea of being happy and making friends/relationships is unobtainable for me at this point. Not to mention my town is dead when it comes to social interaction and people tend to have closed friendships that dont allow wiggle room or new faces:/ for example you want to play dnd and you search for local events or groups in the area for mtg or dnd and you get zero results not only that if you seek people and the conversation is going great and they ask you what you do for fun you better say stay home and do nothing because if they notice that you’re a genuine person they act like you’re trying compete for social dominance or something idk every time I’ve been myself I’ve always ended up alone. I’m certain that someone who will read this and say “boo hoo nobody likes sadness and depression “ if you are reading and think that that toxic mindset is contributing to the self ending of lives of those who are alone
This makes me want to get out and go meet some new people. I need to expand my network in las vegas to meet new people and push myself out of my comfort zone
You know, sometimes it is very hard for people to make friends. It can be confusing and frightening for people with autism like me. And that can also mean the autistic people hardly interact with their friends.
Bonne vidéo ! Personnellement, je conseille le livre "AISANCE SOCIALE", de Nathan Stone. Le gars est psychologue et tout, il est hyper compétent. Le livre est très complet pour tout ce qui est des relations sociales, en l'amitié, au boulot, l'anxiété sociale, etc. C'est très riche, y a tout !
I live in Portland and I really hate culture here, everyone is so flakey and only want to go out for drinks. For years I’ve put so much energy in the relationships that weren’t reciprocating at all. I always was one to reach out, to make plans, to invite people for dinner or to offer them something. Then I felt drained of energy and when I stopped reaching out first, I realized I didn’t have real friendships here, I realized that all the effort to connect was always coming from me and when I stopped doing it, I just didn’t have any friends anymore because people wouldn’t reach out and plan. I hate how everyone is always talking about needing community and yet not willing to put any effort in to it.
@@amele820 if you have to make a huge effort. Something's wrong. I lost the best friend to death Dec 2023. We met at the library and became each other's best friend for 20 years. We were like family to each other. I can't go out and try to make that happen again. Have adapted to being alone.
Group workouts are such a great idea! I made some great friends at the gym going to the same classes over and over 🥰 love the vid! Love that you moved here. Love that we’re closer😘😘 feel like I’ve known you my whole life💕
I've just come out of a 15 year abusive relationship where I was completely controlled. I'm 49 male and now in a strange city where I don't know anyone and has lots of problems even being able to communicate. I have NO friends NONE, NOT ONE.. Joined a make a friend website that no one uses.. I'm sorry but All these tips are useless to most people.. How to make friends.... Go out and make friends! and then hang out. Wow great advise!
Hi Jess 🙂 I think that if I wanted to make a friend on a Las Vegas hike, I would need some notice as I live in the UK 😂😂. I know what you mean really 👍. You don't seem quiet and introverted. You're very confident in front of the camera. You make very good points. I should ask you how you're doing today?
Then those are not your friends I had a girl like that in my life I had to learn the hard way that she wasn’t a real “friend” not only that she used me and wasn’t there for me thru my hard times but she gossiped about me to everyone and used me to make herself look better
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"Find a way to join different groups of people that already exist in hobbies or interests that you already have"... Unfortunately unless you live in a city, that doesn't work. There are no groups of people that do anything in smaller towns aside from hunters that do group hunts, alcoholics that get drunk at the pub habitually, or families doing family activities 😭
I googled things to do in the town I live and what came up was berry picking, a café, and a cardboard box "boat" race 😂
Agreed. I moved from a big city and the groups and hobbies in my area are things that I have zero interest in… I think her advise is very basic. If it was that easy, then there would be no need for this post
Not everyone is a basic yoga chick
Funny!!
I’ve been in recovery for more than 10 years and I’m having great difficulty meeting new people since most in my area frequent bars.
@@spookreap same boat :( I met my friends at the supermarket 🤣
Yeah. And it always ends up with eating and drinking alcohol.
That was a period in my life I was too focused on making friends then I just forgot about that and making friends started to be piece of cake❤️
Love that! It’s definitely not something you should over think, but I do think intentionally meeting people that turn into friends as an adult can be challenging
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As an adult I know how hard it is to make new friends .😊
This young lady here is underestimating the problem. She's simplistic
Hammer and nail....😢@@vester7457
I'm at uni now and I don't know anyone. It's been almost a week already and seeing everyone around me already being friends with each other just makes me depressed.
I'm introverted and I know quite a few other introverts. One of the challenges I am constantly faced with is kind of being in between in age. Living in a retirement community and I'm too young for it, yet I'm too old to be hanging out with people in their 30s and 40s. I just want to connect and have great conversation. I keep trying, but I do find that many people are either too busy with their kids and family or job and just don't want to be bothered. And that apathy of people wanting to have friends yet not going out of their house to create that space - is something that many of us are struggling with.
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I would not ask someone to invite me to a party. If they didn't already invite me there is a reason even if its because of a space limitation.
I don’t go out really besides work and I really don’t feel like I vibe well with any of my coworkers. I relocated 2 years ago and just don’t know where to start
i been living a alone lonely depressed life from last 5 yrs i dont have anyone to talk from last these yrs my school friends we lost contact a while ago i struggled a lot stayed at home never out but this year i decided to give up on this habit beat my fears try new things new hobbies & some friends to spend lil time with 🎀wish me luck i will find the best people soon
I wish you luck 😊
All the best!! Don't worry, just go out there and have fun >:33 U ARE AMAZING!
Wishing you luck❤❤
So what happened?
Great video! I’m guilty of wanting high quality friendships but I don’t go out to make any friends! I get scared of awkward silences bc I’m very quiet! I need to follow your tip and have some questions ready! Lol
I agree, I hate awkward silences. I know coming “prepared” with questions might feel weird or like you’re interviewing them but I feel like it gives me a little security blanket to avoid those lulls and awkward silences!
My closest friends are introverts!! I am an ambivert and it took me a while to understand a real introvert, but I learned to value a lot their friendship as it is so sincere, deep, genuine...
Great practical advice, I love how you mentioned to agree to participate when people invite you out! It’s important to show up for people and show ourselves friendly if we’d like to have friends! God bless y’all! ❤️🙏✝️
Thank you!
You said that you will be 30yrs but you looks 18yrs old anyway those 7tips are touchable and get it thank you so match>3😍
Thank you 🥹 I’m 31 now! Crazy!
@jessssalemme I can't believed but I'm also 20yrs you're not older that match😬
I think it’s easy to make friends… hard to keep them. For me, at least.
True! I also think it’s easier to make new friends rather than true, deep, genuine connections. That’s where I’ve struggled a bit!
Completely agree. Last 3 people I thought I had a good thing with. One after a week wanted bail money. Another after a week of very good fun conversation somehow found where I live a threatened to slit her wrists (on my front porch) with a utility knife unless I gave her a place to stay and alot of money. Had to call the police ( she was having a breakdown) the next we talked almost 4 hours everyday. He was very turbulent. Knew him for 2 years. Kept saying I love you, I hate you, lose my #, why don't you talk to me any more, when we get married, he was all over the road so I said goodbye.
Great tips, I’m definitely an introvert but I’m in a stage in my life where my children are grown and I have a lot of time on my hands and stared feeling lonely. I love the Facebook group idea. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and ideas with us 💕💕
A friend is someone that is willing to spend time with you without being paid. And you are willing to spend time with them without being paid.
Keyword WILLING.
Situational friendships (where people have no option but to spend time with you) is not a true friendship. However situational friendships may lead to true friendships (as willing to spend time with someone usually means that you like how a person acts)
Well done. I found myself alone at 31 in a big capital, it is definately cool to be able to survive on your own, but you gotta have some quality friends! Hope to use some of those tips.
Love these tips! I'm bad with convo luls but questions fill the space! Also going to a networking event this week which is great practice for being outgoing!
That is good practice! I also feel like at events where you truly know nobody, it’s almost easier to be extra outgoing and do more
@@jessssalemme you say that, but it's built within me to be afraid of strangers apparently lol
@@mkreed89 haha. Just remember you probably won’t ever meet most of the people ever again!
these are all such great tips! definitely will be using these when I move to a new state in a few months
Oh good I’m so glad you found them helpful! Best of luck on your move!
Great job!! I’m older however I think they were many great suggestions no matter the age!💞💞
I’m glad you found it valuable! 💗
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I would rather be dead than be forced to move to Las Vegas to make friends. Best wishes on your path. Thx for reaching out to others.😊
Hi, very useful video yes is so hard to make some friends they say having friends is important too because your friends can help you and support you they are always with you in good and bad situations they are like your second family thank you so much for this one I enjoyed it so much have a nice day.
Friends are so important! Glad you found it useful!
As a young adult who graduated recently, I discovered how my friendships were superficial !! searching up this topic and taking notes on how to actually interact with others made me feel some how lonely, but I'm grateful for the tips you're putting out here, thanks !
I’m so glad you found them helpful!! Friendships post-graduation are so hard. I learned a handful of mine from college were superficial as well and it wasn’t for me. It takes time to start over with building friendships but it’s worth it when you find a really solid group! 💗
Alot of the suggestions that you have assume that everyone lives in bigger cities. Towns with populations under 10,000 do not have all of these social options available. I have to travel 60 miles to buy a pair of shoes that don't come from Wal-Mart for example. Yoga is a foreign word. Tractors and four wheelers are common forms of transportation.
As an introvert, I will never ask people to invite me on to hang out with them.
Meeting them is great and just out of curiosity as an introvert how do you keep the friendships going? 😢
It’s definitely a 2 way street. You need to find people that are also interested in getting to know you too. You have to continue to ask them to hang out over time, it just takes time. I’ve been in my new city for just over a year and I feel I finally have one, maybe 2 good friends.
Here's what no one will tell you: There is no such thing as real "friends". People are only drawn to people who can provide something for them, if you don't have anything useful to provide for other people then people will never speak to you. If you think friendship or even love is a real thing, its because you were likely raised by idealistic/codependant parents that have convinced themselves that these things are real to cope with the fact that they'll never be loved. I wasted 15 years of my life with rose colored glasses thinking that people actually cared about me only to find out that my value to others was entirely superficial. Dont bother trying to make friends unless you are prepared to be discarded as soon as you have no value to them anymore.
Its been extremely hard asking anybody out i just need to move already and make new friends... bc I've tried all these things and nothing sticks
Can I ask where you live? I do think sometimes location can play a factor
@jessssalemme I live in Maryland. Funny enough google says it's the friendliest state 😄
😅 well I think it just takes consistency and putting yourself out there. You got this 💕
Friends are expensive! Be careful who you mix with!
Yea i tried the advice in this video and I got rejected , ghosted, and even bullied so id say that the whole idea of being happy and making friends/relationships is unobtainable for me at this point. Not to mention my town is dead when it comes to social interaction and people tend to have closed friendships that dont allow wiggle room or new faces:/ for example you want to play dnd and you search for local events or groups in the area for mtg or dnd and you get zero results not only that if you seek people and the conversation is going great and they ask you what you do for fun you better say stay home and do nothing because if they notice that you’re a genuine person they act like you’re trying compete for social dominance or something idk every time I’ve been myself I’ve always ended up alone. I’m certain that someone who will read this and say “boo hoo nobody likes sadness and depression “ if you are reading and think that that toxic mindset is contributing to the self ending of lives of those who are alone
making friends for me is a little hard but definitely gonna take some good advice
I think everyone finds making friends challenging but hopefully these tips help! 💕
@@jessssalemme thanks girl
We must belong to a school environment,office or sports.Gets tougher as we age.Thanks very helpful
This makes me want to get out and go meet some new people. I need to expand my network in las vegas to meet new people and push myself out of my comfort zone
Yeah I think it’s always great to practice expanding your circle and meeting new people 💕
I think you missed a tip. Saturdays…basketball for the boys…hahh
Those are some great tips at the end of the video 😎
Haha the best ones 😉
lol love your hubby - does he have any friends that wanna hang out ? lol jk. thanks for this! great tips!
😂😂 he does have some single friends!
You know, sometimes it is very hard for people to make friends. It can be confusing and frightening for people with autism like me. And that can also mean the autistic people hardly interact with their friends.
yeah very true! That is why I made this video!
Good tips
Thank you!
Forget friendship. Tell me how to make a jawline
I am tired of her talking...
I'm not gonna finish the video.
Man, just insane!😮😮😮
Hi jess you are amazing Supporter and I'm proud of you and I enjoy watching your vlogs because you are amazing Supporter
Thanks! ☺️
@Jess Salemme your welcome sending you hugs ❤️ 🤗
I love your top in this video!
Aw thank you!
So helpful! Ur amazing❤
Thank you!
Very Very helpful video Jess I really needed this video you are my inspiration and I wish you reach 1K Subscribers very very soon!💫😊❤️
Thank you! Glad you found it useful! ☺️
Awesome video
Thanks!
I want you be friends
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Its easy to make wishy washy friends
I don’t do female friends I’m focused on career
She's tooooo much!
People will be running away from her..
More vudeoa please
Bonne vidéo ! Personnellement, je conseille le livre "AISANCE SOCIALE", de Nathan Stone. Le gars est psychologue et tout, il est hyper compétent. Le livre est très complet pour tout ce qui est des relations sociales, en l'amitié, au boulot, l'anxiété sociale, etc. C'est très riche, y a tout !
great recommendation, I plan to check that out! Thanks!
@@jessssalemme De rien ! 🙂
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You r a girl . Much easier to mae friends
Not necessarily.
Source: Am girl, have always struggled to make friends
I live in Portland and I really hate culture here, everyone is so flakey and only want to go out for drinks. For years I’ve put so much energy in the relationships that weren’t reciprocating at all. I always was one to reach out, to make plans, to invite people for dinner or to offer them something. Then I felt drained of energy and when I stopped reaching out first, I realized I didn’t have real friendships here, I realized that all the effort to connect was always coming from me and when I stopped doing it, I just didn’t have any friends anymore because people wouldn’t reach out and plan. I hate how everyone is always talking about needing community and yet not willing to put any effort in to it.
Ok than just come to India you will be amazed and you can be my friend
@@amele820 if you have to make a huge effort. Something's wrong. I lost the best friend to death Dec 2023. We met at the library and became each other's best friend for 20 years. We were like family to each other. I can't go out and try to make that happen again. Have adapted to being alone.
Can I be your friends
Great tips, but why are you always talking about meeting girls? I'm a guy and I want a guy friend.
I’m really have trouble finding friend in new country 😢what to do?
Say in Telugu
thanks, good video
My friends moved away from me and it broke my heart. How do I tell them that?
You just come visit themmmmm 💕💕💕
Also thank you for your first ever comment on one of my videos lol
@@jessssalemme uh first EVER youtube comment. And only for the best Jess I know
@@mikeyroh awwww 🥰
Group workouts are such a great idea! I made some great friends at the gym going to the same classes over and over 🥰 love the vid! Love that you moved here. Love that we’re closer😘😘 feel like I’ve known you my whole life💕
Love that I have you as a bestie now! 💕
@@jessssalemme lol I love how your go to was fantasy junkies 😂
😂😂😂
I've just come out of a 15 year abusive relationship where I was completely controlled. I'm 49 male and now in a strange city where I don't know anyone and has lots of problems even being able to communicate. I have NO friends NONE, NOT ONE.. Joined a make a friend website that no one uses.. I'm sorry but All these tips are useless to most people.. How to make friends.... Go out and make friends! and then hang out. Wow great advise!
Love this video and would love part 2 if you have more to share!
Thank you! I’ll definitely think about a part 2!
Yes, please!
I said this to myself! I moved to a new city & am hoping to find community ❤
You got this!
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Very well done - relatable and good advice
Glad you found it helpful! 💕
Hi Jess 🙂
I think that if I wanted to make a friend on a Las Vegas hike, I would need some notice as I live in the UK 😂😂. I know what you mean really 👍.
You don't seem quiet and introverted. You're very confident in front of the camera.
You make very good points. I should ask you how you're doing today?
Thank you! & I’m doing well, hope you are having a good day as well ☺️
Thank you❤
what if theyre not friendly or talk behind your back?
I definitely wouldn’t continue to pursue friendships like that!
Then those are not your friends I had a girl like that in my life I had to learn the hard way that she wasn’t a real “friend” not only that she used me and wasn’t there for me thru my hard times but she gossiped about me to everyone and used me to make herself look better