What To Do If Your Friends Are Always Dragging You Down | Rich Roll
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- Опубліковано 22 лип 2024
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Chris and Rich Roll discuss what to do if your friends are holding you back. What are Lower Companions according to Rich Roll? How does Rich Roll describe the process of addiction? Why is the trope 'You are the 5 people you spend the most time with' often overlooked according to Rich Roll?
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Hello you legends. Watch the full episode with Rich here - ua-cam.com/video/0Sf7lyVKOq4/v-deo.htmlsi=7DiViRVkOsk62H9A
Sometimes, it's probably just better to keep your head down, work on yourself, and become the high-quality person that you'd want to be friends with
Being the person you want to be friends with I'd a great to look at it.
What Rich said at the end is so spot on. SO many people talk about things they have no real experience of, or regurgitate things they heard and try to pass it off as their own. It honestly makes it difficult to make friends because I just dont believe many people at all.
Minute 4:40 what Chris is talking about is neglect. Neglectful friends / relationships are hard because the abuse is invisible. You are not seen. There is nothing wrong... as much as there is simply nothing there. Neglect in any relationship is probably the most confusing form of psychological torture. The other person seems fine with you because they do not even, truly, see you. But you feel miserable and alone.
Would you consider a lack of effort neglect? On sided friendships so to speak!
I've had several long term friendships come to an end and many more not be what they use to be. I'm 48 and thankful for everyperson that has let me share in their life.
summed it up well, remember the good times you shared, realise some things dont last forever, things and people change, and hopefully your personal/relationships changes have been for the better overall in your life.
You can always confront them with love & reason. If they are decent they will see where you are coming from, and respect your attitude to life. If not they will walk away themselves. What I often do is join social events but stay much shorter than most of my peers, either leaving very early or coming too late, to get the dose of social interaction without neglecting my projects : )
Excellent description on how addiction develops over time. It may be accelerated or slower in each individual, but it's always fun in the beginning, always. And we put ourselves through hell trying to recapture that beginning as we fall into addiction and all of the consequences that go with it.
Great subject! I find it harder as I age to find like minded people At work I find I’m more quite and just listen to others speak .. it is quite boring to listen to them .. I’m a hairstylist so do find those clients who share a vibe with and keeps me going⭐️✌🏻
it seems to be harder & harder these days to find ones tribe and even more so in this economic environment, after the plandemic scare, and anger everywhere...its not fun out here these days and so heartbreaking
Solomon said he found "one man in a thousand" - in Ecclesiastes - it is that hard
I have friends that are good guys but don't have ambition if i'm honest. Maybe, its just the way I feel but I don't know what to do about it. Like i'm kind of sick of the status quo. Its that complacency theory that Chris was talking about people that live a life their ok with and have basic needs met but are hurting themselves in the process. I just want to be around people that'll push me out of my comfort zone.
@@user-in9zb5lo8zExcellent advice!
If all your doing is chasing “progress” then that is a negative in of itself, if all your doing is chasing extra money thinking your someone better the the people you know you are making a big mistake. Chris talks bs on a podcast thinking he’s superior to the average guy - delusional
For the last few days it's maybe the third time I'm listening to this episode
you guys are doing gods work, thank you for you
Short answer, leave them behind. Friends don't drag you down...
Try being a middle aged indigenous woman in the middle of the Pacific...love this podcast...a breath of fresh air💖🙏💯
Good talk very relatable
love the handheld camera. gives a certain present vibe
As young men we really should not normalise drinking and taking drugs every weekend as the normal.
What else should we have done and what should they be doing now on the weekend?
@@alelectric2767 personally, I found out when I stopped the drinking, drugs and smoking and started working out and eating healthy that most of the depression and anxiety helped me.. I personally have hunting to fall back on. But if you find a community of people who are not unto destroying themselves it will have a positive outcome on your life
If you have to ask that question then you need to get yourself some personal goals and aspirations.
It depends on what you're doing. A friend not supporting you making your own trades business or lifestyle shift is one thing. A friend not supporting you when your ambition is hijacked into joining an MLM scam where if you make money you are scummy, or not supporting you taking ridiculous risks is different.
A lot of people get on this positivity, self improvement, 5 closest people, level up, reject 9-5 shit and go down the wrong path and sell out friendship for dreams of success. There are two sides to it
0:00: ! Lower companions, also known as addiction, start out as a positive experience but eventually lead to negative consequences.
3:48: 💔 The nightclub scene is portrayed as full of energy and romance, but also a place of loneliness for some individuals.
6:48: ! It is important to be selective about the people you spend time with and seek out high-minded individuals who can provide guidance and inspiration, especially in the absence of internet resources like podcasts and shows.
10:14: 🌟 The speaker admires their friends who do extraordinary things and handle difficult situations with courage and bravery.
13:10: ! The importance of being genuine and authentic in building relationships.
Recap by Tammy AI
Very well said, Rich Roll
Nice sponsor.
An alternative to coffee sounds great. 👍
It would be interesting to hear from people who use drugs that aren’t addicts, and are able to balance drug use with life. I don’t believe most people who use become addicts. That goes for anything.
“Who don’t make you show up as your better self” Trying to understand this concept, maybe it’s the wording. Right now I’m thinking why do I have to be responsible for someone showing up as their better self? So I’ll keep watching
Tru wisdom ❤
If yer friend’s are dragging you down stop talking to them. Done and done!
I tried moving my friends up the ladder when we were in our 20s but they just kept blowing goods jobs or over spending on nonsense. Then in my 30s I just ghosted them one day and never looked back.
Don't need 16 minutes to answer this, get new friends.
or just do stuff alone
Over the years I've been very fortunate enough to not have close friends and if I did it was only temporary. Like we never went out we never went to the movies together whenever it wants to go eat at a place together if it was always co-workers for friendships during work. So am I lucky and fortunate to have this happen because the last thing I want is to have a group of friends where we're cursed were the friends are constantly like bragging on each other or saying rude things to each other like as if they're trying to degrade you in an email like sense but then they'll say that they like you type of scenario you know so I just try to avoid that crap. Now recently I have been in contact with an old high-school buddy that I rarely spoke with very high school he has a girlfriend so but you know I'm reluctant to continue the the conversations but you know I'm going to do what I can to at least meet up with him every once in awhile to go out to eat to see if this is a person that I really want to hang out with.
"If you want to attract a certain caliber of person into your life, then you have to live your life in accordance with the kinds of values that would be attractive to that person."
-- Rich Motherfucking Roll
It’s hard to find people that don’t want to be losers.
I am yearning for a strong wholesome woman who will start a podcast that is similar to this, modern wisdom. I have yet to find a female mentor that concentrates on improvement of self rather than....improvement through forcing others to change. Any recommendations?
I decided during Covid, anyone who makes me feel bad for choices I make, are not my friend. Freeing myself from that negativity simplified my life.
What if they make you feel bad for your poor choices?
@@Ben-js7kj real friends don’t do that. It’s fine to express your opinion politely but when it goes beyond that it becomes toxic. Your opinion on my choices is just that, an opinion.
@@walkinlight3380your thought process sounds toxic, makes you feel bad? So your feelings trump everything and everyone? Good luck with that
@@James_36 wishing you well sir.
If your choices are bad, then they are good friends for making you feel bad about them.
I'm definitely just going to die alone
We really just gotta say fuck them at one point and focus on yourself. Build a great life around likeminded individuals.
I would have been better off ditching the low class people instead of dragging them along and allowing them to use me. I let people use me in my 20s because A I was not aware or I was lonely. In hindsight I would have gained self-esteem from saying fuck you leave rather than finding out later they were not my friends.
And the rickroll?
This guy probably ran here
I think the proliferation of advice on UA-cam must be more confusing for young men.
On Chris' alone there are dozens of contradictory opinions.
I'm glad I grew up without UA-cam as well